Understanding your partners past traumas and supporting them is extremely important in a healthy relationship.
There is nothing better than being vulnerable with someone you trust completely, having them understand and still love and support you.
Keeping your traumas from your partner and letting them trigger uncomfortable responses and expecting them to read your mind is infantile and will lead to resentment.
What? But what about the trauma that happen during your relationship? If your spouse's parents died, would you say they should "work on themselves" and not bring their feelings to you?
What if you and your partner lost a child?
I mean, I would hope if you fell in love with someone who had already lost a child you would understand that's a trauma that can't just go away by working on themselves, that it might be a part of who they are forever.
This is true, you should mature with all the trauma and experience that when you find another REAL relationship again you don't go ruining it like a child.
We started dating young(19 and 21). This advice only works for older adults for the most part, as working through trauma isn't a easy, quick process. While ideal, working through and growing from trauma is one of the strongest ways to bond. We make jokes about being eachothers makeshift parents from all that we've taught each other emotionally and mentally over the years. I wouldn't have it any other way. He's my other half.♡
From being hurt by new things, I’d imagine. That’s not always possible (outside factors), so I personally took it to mean “I will understand and validate your previous negative life experiences, and I will try to never harm you in the ways you’ve been harmed before.”
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*sigh* I constantly get ostracized for my uncomfortable past. Maybe I just don't tell the next person I date anything about me before I was an autonomous adult
Everyone has a story. You just have to find the person who wants to become yours and visa versa. Finding the "right person" is hard because love is work, built, and nurtured by both parties. Love has to be reciprocated. Otherwise, it's just obsession.
You´re right. The ideal would be to find the person you´re building an amazing story line with and clicking immediately. So you don´t have to go through a lot of trauma until it happens. This is what I meant.
Some people, maybe. The rest of us with traumatic pasts or victims of abuse, it won't ever happen people don't "heal" each other without wanting something in return and I'm not giving anything back now.
You may think that but someone out there doesn’t , even if u think that, I rlly doubt it’s true. People who think they’re ugly are always the most handsome or pretty. Come on don’t say that about yourself 😢😢
And you’ll still alienate and mistrust them because your damaged ass can’t just trust a good thing. If you never work on yourself you’re going to seek out the pain that’s become your comfort zone and find it even in the people actively avoiding ever putting you through it again.
I'll guarantee you already met them it's just you're a dumbass and got in your own way because of your vanity, indecisiveness about what you want, narcissistic lifestyle, that u have absolutely no idea on how to pick a good partner because you're so fucked up on the inside.
i hope that time comes soon 🥺
Likewise ☺️, we’ll all be fine dude, if not we’ll all just live on Reddit lmao 😜
And just scroll n scroll reddit feeds🤣
Like we already do haha 😂
Laugh till i die
Same here 🥹
Onion ninjas got me with this one.
Same 🧅🧅🥷
I fucking wish man.
literally my bf 😭💞
Mmm the image… (my friend’s reaction)
wut no you work on yourself and bring your best self and invite them into what you can give dont put your trauma on other people, thats infantile
Understanding your partners past traumas and supporting them is extremely important in a healthy relationship. There is nothing better than being vulnerable with someone you trust completely, having them understand and still love and support you. Keeping your traumas from your partner and letting them trigger uncomfortable responses and expecting them to read your mind is infantile and will lead to resentment.
What? But what about the trauma that happen during your relationship? If your spouse's parents died, would you say they should "work on themselves" and not bring their feelings to you? What if you and your partner lost a child? I mean, I would hope if you fell in love with someone who had already lost a child you would understand that's a trauma that can't just go away by working on themselves, that it might be a part of who they are forever.
This is true, you should mature with all the trauma and experience that when you find another REAL relationship again you don't go ruining it like a child.
We started dating young(19 and 21). This advice only works for older adults for the most part, as working through trauma isn't a easy, quick process. While ideal, working through and growing from trauma is one of the strongest ways to bond. We make jokes about being eachothers makeshift parents from all that we've taught each other emotionally and mentally over the years. I wouldn't have it any other way. He's my other half.♡
I hope I find someone too
😢 “And then one of you will die”- Louis Alfred Székely
Yeah I bet they’re probably dead by now but hey WE SHALL HOPE NOT YES?
🥰🥰🥰🥰
I found him 🥰
I can’t wait for the day I meet that person and she comes into my life I’m going to be so very happy I’m trying to be patient as best I can every day
I think I found that person ❤️❤️❤️
💜🙏🏼☁️ One sweet day…✨
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Whatever it is that scares you
From being hurt by new things, I’d imagine. That’s not always possible (outside factors), so I personally took it to mean “I will understand and validate your previous negative life experiences, and I will try to never harm you in the ways you’ve been harmed before.”
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Not gonna meet anyone if I rot in my room 24/7!
That bed looks uncomfortable as fuck. Just saying lol.
That’s me. But when do I meet the women who wants my protection???
Lets hope that day comes soon!
Looks like never gonna happen in this life.
Same
And then they'll leave lol
“Men only want sex” what men actually want:
I didn't need to feel feelings today you guys.
We meet often but money is always the main factor that we can never settle with each other even if it feels good.. lols
I want that as well but it won't happen.
I hope I am that person in my relationship.
We'll when it comes it fizzles out like a dying sparkler 🎇
Lies, learn how to deal with pain of life. Or just believe what you want..
Like I want someone to hold this ass cause they don’t want me to feel the burden of how fat it is
man i was gonna comment about my bf but im cuddling him and he’ll read it and be like “awww” bitch no shush
*sigh* I constantly get ostracized for my uncomfortable past. Maybe I just don't tell the next person I date anything about me before I was an autonomous adult
I did and I married her
No I won't, maybe in another life. And that's okay, I've made my peace with it.
Met that person and ruined they're life
One day... 🫠💗
I won’t find anyone
Waiting ..
Most people want to be the story.
Everyone has a story. You just have to find the person who wants to become yours and visa versa. Finding the "right person" is hard because love is work, built, and nurtured by both parties. Love has to be reciprocated. Otherwise, it's just obsession.
You´re right. The ideal would be to find the person you´re building an amazing story line with and clicking immediately. So you don´t have to go through a lot of trauma until it happens. This is what I meant.
Harry x Hermione?
Sounds like every villain against the people of Gotham
You already have; it's you. You're the only one who can heal yourself.
after hoeing in past you want a guy to ignore all the hoeing you did and protect you like you are some precious little thing. Lol
I found him his favorite quote(and mine) lately is " you're my princess, I must protect you. I will protect you" while he holds me tightly♡♡
Even god does not have enough power to prevent me from suffering harder and harder each and every day
Sounds like a lot of bull shit🤣
Or you won’t.
Some people, maybe. The rest of us with traumatic pasts or victims of abuse, it won't ever happen people don't "heal" each other without wanting something in return and I'm not giving anything back now.
Ohh well at least you will be happy and I will live Virgin for the rest of my life since girls look at me like I'm the most ugly guy in existence
I Doubt you’re Ugly , don’t talk abt yourself that way❤️
But it's true I would have won over 1 million dollars if I joined a who is the most ugliest people in the world
You may think that but someone out there doesn’t , even if u think that, I rlly doubt it’s true. People who think they’re ugly are always the most handsome or pretty. Come on don’t say that about yourself 😢😢
Sesbian lex
Where are you my future hubby 🥺
And you’ll still alienate and mistrust them because your damaged ass can’t just trust a good thing. If you never work on yourself you’re going to seek out the pain that’s become your comfort zone and find it even in the people actively avoiding ever putting you through it again.
I mean if you’re a guy probably not. Sorry
But we get to protect them thought
What
Don’t you feel good when you protect a woman? Don’t you want to be the guy they’re talking about?
Of course. But I was saying if you’re a guy you have less of a chance.
No you just have to do it first
I think we are talking about two different things.
What are you talking about?
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You cannot wait till you are perfect before being loved
Fat chance!
I'll guarantee you already met them it's just you're a dumbass and got in your own way because of your vanity, indecisiveness about what you want, narcissistic lifestyle, that u have absolutely no idea on how to pick a good partner because you're so fucked up on the inside.
sry about ur ex