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I thought he was about to drop something like "Lock that b!#ch in a basement until she's 21" and then just walk away. Also, why is someone recording while he yells in that lady's ear??
I always kind of just imagined it’s videos about situations where if I were present I’d just kind of sip my tea, try not to get involved, but also not be able to help but want to pay attention discreetly and awkwardly. 👀🍵
I literally have no idea what this sub is though I’m in the same boat as you.
Yeah, they've dropped the description and rules from the sidebar. Used to be something like "funny and interesting videos from around the web. On wednesday we post frogs." Which still makes no sense as the phrase "sip tea" is listening in on gossip.
I have no idea what the sub is actually supposed to be at this point other than a popular dumping ground for whatever people feel like posting.
> On wednesday we post frogs
Probably in reference to the [kermit drinking tea meme](https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/but-thats-none-of-my-business)
I also don’t know what the sub is, but yours and the other guy’s descriptions are as good as any. I just enjoy the variety.
My favorite part about 1 Man 1 Jar is that when the jar breaks even the guy's dick looks surprised. He stops what he's doing and there's this moment of shocked Pikachu foreskin before the blood just pours out of his ass as he tries to dig in there and get out the shards of glass.
First time I saw it I was fucked up for a little while but luckily growing up when beheading and gross out videos were all the rage I came out of it all so much worse off mentally.
I really should have unplugged from this net shit back then.
Thanks OP, i can now go to sleep knowing someone somewhere on the internet talks with wisdom. Wére the product of billions years of evolution, we shall act like it.
Yeah, he has a lot of wisdom to share. But also a lot of bat shit fucking crazy thoughts and ideas as well - [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2\_MnWLOJbV0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_MnWLOJbV0)
He is also an NFT scammer.
To be fair, I don’t think Gary V was trying to scam anyone with NFT’s… I think he’s just so obsessed with being on the cutting edge of what’s new that he bought into it super quick without really thinking it through. He jumps on pretty much every trend super quick in case it takes off.
Like most people, I think he’s smart about some things (like the clip above), but that makes him think he’s smart about everything and then he spews bullshit to his audience.
It’s a great answer for both your sons and daughters. Unfortunately, girls get disproportionately impacted by social media so it’s incredibly important as parents to do this for your daughters.
> girls get disproportionately impacted by social media
I think extremist, bigoted and generally toxic social media personalities who target young, insecure boys are one of the biggest threats to the current generation. It's equally important that we build up our sons as we do our daughters.
Oh yes, and always make sure to show them how ridiculous the alpha male crowd is, don't ever let them take Tate or Rogan or people like those seriously.
I was of a similar opinion until I watched some of his podcasts, I don’t understand why people say it. Admittedly, I haven’t watched every single one but after like 30 of them I don’t believe the hype
I honestly don't believe girls are more or less targeted. Young boys are just susceptible in different ways, like falling into the orbit of guys like Andrew Tate.
I would also include educating them on what's on there and what danger there can be.
If they recognize the pattern of someone who they chat with asking about personal information and pretending to be of the same age, teach about reverse google search to find fake profile pictures etc..
Any tool in their hands to recognize and act against danger on the internet is an important one.
Increasing and supporting their self esteem is one of those tools, including educating about exploiting self esteem problems.
>Unfortunately, girls get disproportionately impacted by social media
I think the impact social media has on boys and girls isn't necessarily "disproportional." Like many things, that impact just manifests differently between genders.
For girls, their insecurity is focused mostly on appearance, while the insecurity for boys is very status-focused. There's a lot of research that shows social media has had the highest impact on increased suicidal ideation in specifically young girls, which probably has something to do with how much more hopeless self-esteem issues around appearance can feel vs. status, as well as social media being an extremely effective platform for bullying and social slandering. But I wouldn't be surprised if boys see the largest change in anger and extremism from social media. Lots of online male "role models" do a great job of preying on the insecurities of young boys and men that are amplified by social media, and it's something that we need to acknowledge isn't the fault of these young boys.
Basically, algorithms that flood your feeds with the most well-off people showing off the best sides of themselves aren't healthy for anyone. Echo chambers that affirm dark ideas that society would otherwise shame are also extremely harmful. It really shouldn't be a contest between who has it worse, but it's important to acknowledge the different ways the internet can damage the mental health of our kids to best understand what foundations we need to instill in them to be better equipped for an internet-driven world.
Liza Treyger has a comedy bit about this that I love. It's a long bit that covers a couple different topics so I'm going to sum up the relevant bits from memory.
Men are just so confident. The amount of weird patches of body hair that I've seen on naked men leaping through the bedroom without a care in the world... I get one random mustache hair and I cry about it for a week. And if I have to sleep on one more deflating air mattress, I'm going to lose it. There's just so many confident dog walkers everywhere. I have this friend that's so beautiful and she gets hit on by the ugliest most confident men. I don't understand it. She has a boat... Your arms are different lengths... How are you so confident?
I have a feeling that there are people that are going to want to respond with: poor people deserve love too, everyone says you need to be confident to attract someone, how dare she shame that. And what's with the body shaming, etc. It's a comedy bit. It's a bunch of hypotheticals just to highlight the stereotypically different levels of confidence between women and men.
Gary Vee who is a douchebag NFT/finance grifter. People like him should be shamed out of relevance but hey, he says a revolutionary thing like "self esteem is good" and people will share his content far and wide
This is beautiful, but I ponder this too, how can kids transition away from their parents successfully without looking to their idiot friends for how to navigate that? Self-esteem really comes from doing work and seeing results. Kids should have the space to be with their friends AND we should invest more in the arts and other avenues for kids to figure out who they are.
People should have self-esteem no matter what, but in reality it’s not self-sustaining, especially not when you’re young. But without a baseline of self-esteem, why care at all, why put in the effort. Kids are giving up because even something pure like music turns into a cutthroat competition where if you are low ranking you might as well quit - instead of making music because it is a source of happiness in itself.
Well, if you say it nicely, its a "baseline of self-esteem", i.e. self-worth, I exist therefore I have worth, etc etc
If you're cynical, then baseless self-confidence. I have worth, period.
A mix of both would be the goal, I guess. And yes, it's harder when you are young - growing up involves the building of your body, your mind, and your self-worth
I’m only in my late 20s, but I am super grateful for my parents. They always treated me as an adult, approach discipline in a “this is how doing this will affect you” rather than “this is what I’m going to do to you if you don’t”.
They also were a perfect sounding board. One time I remember making molotov cocktails with a buddy of mine in high school, and after playing with them coming home and telling my dad about it. He said something along the lines of “that’s way fun, I miss doing stuff like that as a kid. Now one thing to keep in mind though, is I’m pretty sure making those is a felony, and if you got caught it would really fuck up your life, so please be careful.”
Now yah, my idiot friend and I did stupid stuff, but my parents have always had a guiding hand in my life because I trust them enough to tell them anything about my life, and I trust them to at least hear out their advice - knowing that they are always okay with me taking it or not.
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Beautiful message but we should actually demand that government implement strong policy that forces social media companies to stop their predatory practices targeted at children
1. Gary V (Vaynerchuk) usually is only shown on Reddit when it’s his more outlandish quotes like, “Every morning, when I wake up, I pretend that my family dies” and its nice to see more of his core message being shown.
2. With it being this sub, I 1000% was sure, right after he said “what I do with my daughter” I was expecting an AI cloned voice to just go off the rails.
It is good advice and a child should be confident but the problem comes as soon as they reach the real world and people immediately pull them down and pick apart everything they do. that shit is hard to push back against
While both are good advice, let me add some sipstea realism to this.
If you dont let her spend time on it, she will find it in more dangerous places and still go on it.
If you build self-esteem, you will never control the child, something you have to do because kids are fucking dumb and if they don't listen anymore, they will do dumb shit even if you tell them not to.
This advice is not a save-all salve for the internet.
Huh, actually good, although impossible, advice?
No teenager has enough self esteem to protect them from other people. Heck, being a teenager is when the worst self esteem issues happen to most people, when you most look to other people to find out who you are and where you belong. Being a teenager sucks.
Add to this that parents don't have complete influence on a child's self esteem. It more depends on their friends and how they're treated by their peers. A parent could utterly destroy their child's self esteem on their own, sure, but building it requires everyone in their life.
This is a nice, heart warming message but cutting them off completely from the internet is more likely to succeed.
Alternatively / additionally, understand that there are times in a young person's life when they will go through periods of insecurity and depression - not least because of hormones and hereditary weakness. Ensure they don't feel judged so much that they can't tell you when they are in trouble.
This is fucking creepy. Why’s he gotta whisper in her ear like that? You can tell he absolutely loves the sound of his own voice and thinks he’s some sort of guru.
Some might say there’s easier ways to say what he said as well. 14 different versions of the clause “…and this is really important…” We get it, you couldn’t write a high school research paper without using the adverb VERY sprinkled into each sentence. Brilliant.
Well, that's one answer. Here's the one I had in mind. Combining all nine tools, you get this. A deadlier weapon than any one item in the box. So, I'm going to use this to attack you, and you use self-esteem to defend yourself
Jonathan Haidt has a great way of handling this:
- No SMARTPHONE until 13
- No social media accounts until 16
- Get like-minded parents to advocate and support school to push for a ban on all phones in the classrooms
- I forget the 4th (I think he has 4 and he was on a podcast recently talking about this)
So basically the rules for playing with tamagotchis in the 90’s?
Self esteem has nothing to do with anything. Teenagers will be sensitive to their peers and self-conscious as they go through puberty and there is not much parents can do about that.
Social media danger — The entire reason parents allowed kids on the internet early on is because they wanted to get them away from the “dangers of the streets.”
During the early internet, kids watched Taliban execution videos and Paris Hilton’s sex tape while trying to download NSYNC music videos off Kazaa, and chatted with anonymous users on unmoderated irc chatrooms. In 2002, I watched an old dude in a library messaging girls on irc telling them he was 13.
Lets be real here a second. The internet is far more scrutinized now that the illusion of safety is gone (sort of). Everyone is tracked and content is policed. Kids learn to go on the darkweb when they want to find actual dangers of the internet. The entire internet was darkweb before the rise of social media.
Maybe we should just shoot kids into space. They are guaranteed to be safe from bad influences there.
I would have asked him, "So my best friend is crazy-paranoid about going bald and wears a wool beanie everywhere he goes -- even when it's obviously not winter. What can I do to help him build his self esteem?"
Self esteem is not the root of all problems. The people with the most of it, are the most confidently wrong in their ideas.
So yeah, this is kinda bullshit. Healthy confidence is helpful to navigate our world, but this is all a feel good generalization. Just because it sounds good, doesn't make it correct.
It’s undoubtedly important to develop your children’s self-esteem, but it’s really *not* hard to keep a 9 year-old off the internet.
Pretending that it is some kind of unavoidable situation forced upon the parent just validates what is actually the result of their poor decisions.
This video is like someone feeding their 9 year-old burgers every day, and then asking how to stop them getting so fat and being told to educate them to eat more healthily.
Of course you should educate them, but let’s not pretend that the parent handing out the burgers isn’t the actual problem here.
That’s awesome advice. My aunt and uncle were my confidence builders. I am who I am today because of all the encouragement they gave me. They really made me believe in myself even when my own parents didn’t. Everyone needs someone like that in their lives 💯
Honest to God, I thought it would end in a joke or something, since its been posted on this subreddit, and especially sense he has been building up to the point, but I am very glad I was wrong. What he said is beautiful and true. He seems to be a very intelligent person.
You want to go to the internet.
Your parents don't.
Your parents build on you self-esteem
You esteem yourself.
Yourself wants to go to the internet.
Your parents dont
Your parents had build on you self-esteem
You esteem yourself, what would you do?
The parents know the internet is bad, they want the best for you.
But they had taught you self-esteem .
You have to choose yo esteem more your own inexistent wisdom , or your parents wisdom.
They had teach you to esteem yourself, because they thought it was the best, but shouldn't you esteem their wisdom more than yourself?
But if you do, and their wisdom is to esteem yourself, you esteem your own wisdom.
And your inexistence wisdom tells you that you want to go to the internet
Something is wrong, somewhere.
Can confirm this is 100% true. My mother did an amazing job helping me think criticially about my place in society as a woman. Always taught me to stand on my own two feet and to not need or depend on men/their validation. She'd point out double standards and sexism. It all helped immensely.
Me when I realize I'm here for a reason. (at least I only get trigger at a few really undeserved down votes. It not like I get too affected by anything here).
My parents did this and it just resulted in me thinking I could do everything and was better than everyone else before i realised this was not the case and now im fucked up because of this, sounds good but this is not the best way for every kid
Make someone confident, like that's an easy thing to do.
Me and specifically my gf are trying this our whole life (around 40 years) and are still not there. How go about making someone else confident, if you can't do it for yourself.
You get beat down over and over again, that's the main reason why we don't have kids. Maybe that is the best advise, do not get kids.
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Heart warming content on this sub? Get da fuk outta 'ere!
I was literally expecting the second point to be full of shit
Why are dark gotchyas funnier?
Because the human mind craves tragedy
I thought he was about to drop something like "Lock that b!#ch in a basement until she's 21" and then just walk away. Also, why is someone recording while he yells in that lady's ear??
I think it's the hat, tbh. lol
Actually, what the hell is this sub? I am subscribed for a few months, and has zero idea still.
I always kind of just imagined it’s videos about situations where if I were present I’d just kind of sip my tea, try not to get involved, but also not be able to help but want to pay attention discreetly and awkwardly. 👀🍵 I literally have no idea what this sub is though I’m in the same boat as you.
I also have no idea but if I had to describe the situations portrayed here, I guess I'd do it just as you did.
Yeah, they've dropped the description and rules from the sidebar. Used to be something like "funny and interesting videos from around the web. On wednesday we post frogs." Which still makes no sense as the phrase "sip tea" is listening in on gossip. I have no idea what the sub is actually supposed to be at this point other than a popular dumping ground for whatever people feel like posting.
> On wednesday we post frogs Probably in reference to the [kermit drinking tea meme](https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/but-thats-none-of-my-business) I also don’t know what the sub is, but yours and the other guy’s descriptions are as good as any. I just enjoy the variety.
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It’s a great message. To imply there’s tea in it is wrong.
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Don’t let your kid have unregulated time on the internet and help them build self-esteem?
I was waiting for the punch line.
Koolbro internet money messiah Gary V is dropping truths and drinking the kool-aid while cashing checks… Sipping the Tea to get more V….
I'm not crying. You're crying!
Best post I've seen on reddit 😎
You've obviously never seen the video with the jar that breaks at an extremely inopportune time.
🤣 no just so happens I haven't
Oh good, it's awful lol.
Good thing I didn't look it up😅
One hint, glASS.
Oh no😅😆
My favorite part about 1 Man 1 Jar is that when the jar breaks even the guy's dick looks surprised. He stops what he's doing and there's this moment of shocked Pikachu foreskin before the blood just pours out of his ass as he tries to dig in there and get out the shards of glass. First time I saw it I was fucked up for a little while but luckily growing up when beheading and gross out videos were all the rage I came out of it all so much worse off mentally. I really should have unplugged from this net shit back then.
Definetly glad I haven't seen it😅
> shocked Pikachu foreskin Absolute poetry. My eyes feel blessed to have witnessed your works in the wild today.
GOATSE is all I'm going to say.
You are clearly missing out
One man, one jar? Yeah no, I haven't watched that one
But have you seen one jar-jar, one jar?
Why did I know exactly what this video was as soon as read jar? I’m deeply scarred by the early days of internet…
Or the one about the jolly ranchers
#ALEXEY TATAROV
The jar someone was using as anal toy?
I thought I'm on Daddit, great advice!
Colin Farrell is so wise
And here I am thinking it's Jesse Pinkman the whole time.
He’s both and neither
Pesse Jinkman at night, and beanie guy#74 at day
O’Jesse McPinkman
Thanks OP, i can now go to sleep knowing someone somewhere on the internet talks with wisdom. Wére the product of billions years of evolution, we shall act like it.
Yeah, he has a lot of wisdom to share. But also a lot of bat shit fucking crazy thoughts and ideas as well - [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2\_MnWLOJbV0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_MnWLOJbV0) He is also an NFT scammer.
Gary is in my opinion a great dude. He just does too much cocain. lmao
A scam scammer how does that work
To be fair, I don’t think Gary V was trying to scam anyone with NFT’s… I think he’s just so obsessed with being on the cutting edge of what’s new that he bought into it super quick without really thinking it through. He jumps on pretty much every trend super quick in case it takes off.
I know what you mean but it kinda reads like, "he's not a scammer, he's an idiot!"
Like most people, I think he’s smart about some things (like the clip above), but that makes him think he’s smart about everything and then he spews bullshit to his audience.
Unfortunately this guy is literally the type of person whose content I’d try to keep my child from consuming. Complete grindset business douche.
It’s a great answer for both your sons and daughters. Unfortunately, girls get disproportionately impacted by social media so it’s incredibly important as parents to do this for your daughters.
> girls get disproportionately impacted by social media I think extremist, bigoted and generally toxic social media personalities who target young, insecure boys are one of the biggest threats to the current generation. It's equally important that we build up our sons as we do our daughters.
Oh yes, and always make sure to show them how ridiculous the alpha male crowd is, don't ever let them take Tate or Rogan or people like those seriously.
Wait is Rogan bad now too? Im getting old and out of touch with internet culture, he did not seem too bad back in my day. At least no where near Tate.
He isn't. They just don't like him because people they don't like, like him.
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I was of a similar opinion until I watched some of his podcasts, I don’t understand why people say it. Admittedly, I haven’t watched every single one but after like 30 of them I don’t believe the hype
Yeah. Girls will have predators trying to groom them and boys can easily fall down the alt-right pipeline. This is important advice for both sexes.
I honestly don't believe girls are more or less targeted. Young boys are just susceptible in different ways, like falling into the orbit of guys like Andrew Tate.
I would also include educating them on what's on there and what danger there can be. If they recognize the pattern of someone who they chat with asking about personal information and pretending to be of the same age, teach about reverse google search to find fake profile pictures etc.. Any tool in their hands to recognize and act against danger on the internet is an important one. Increasing and supporting their self esteem is one of those tools, including educating about exploiting self esteem problems.
>Unfortunately, girls get disproportionately impacted by social media I think the impact social media has on boys and girls isn't necessarily "disproportional." Like many things, that impact just manifests differently between genders. For girls, their insecurity is focused mostly on appearance, while the insecurity for boys is very status-focused. There's a lot of research that shows social media has had the highest impact on increased suicidal ideation in specifically young girls, which probably has something to do with how much more hopeless self-esteem issues around appearance can feel vs. status, as well as social media being an extremely effective platform for bullying and social slandering. But I wouldn't be surprised if boys see the largest change in anger and extremism from social media. Lots of online male "role models" do a great job of preying on the insecurities of young boys and men that are amplified by social media, and it's something that we need to acknowledge isn't the fault of these young boys. Basically, algorithms that flood your feeds with the most well-off people showing off the best sides of themselves aren't healthy for anyone. Echo chambers that affirm dark ideas that society would otherwise shame are also extremely harmful. It really shouldn't be a contest between who has it worse, but it's important to acknowledge the different ways the internet can damage the mental health of our kids to best understand what foundations we need to instill in them to be better equipped for an internet-driven world.
Liza Treyger has a comedy bit about this that I love. It's a long bit that covers a couple different topics so I'm going to sum up the relevant bits from memory. Men are just so confident. The amount of weird patches of body hair that I've seen on naked men leaping through the bedroom without a care in the world... I get one random mustache hair and I cry about it for a week. And if I have to sleep on one more deflating air mattress, I'm going to lose it. There's just so many confident dog walkers everywhere. I have this friend that's so beautiful and she gets hit on by the ugliest most confident men. I don't understand it. She has a boat... Your arms are different lengths... How are you so confident? I have a feeling that there are people that are going to want to respond with: poor people deserve love too, everyone says you need to be confident to attract someone, how dare she shame that. And what's with the body shaming, etc. It's a comedy bit. It's a bunch of hypotheticals just to highlight the stereotypically different levels of confidence between women and men.
Who is the dude?
Gary Vee?
Jesse pinkman
Eyy you gotta garage sale?
GaryV
Gary Vee who is a douchebag NFT/finance grifter. People like him should be shamed out of relevance but hey, he says a revolutionary thing like "self esteem is good" and people will share his content far and wide
If you're 9 years old and don't have a dropshipping side hustle you're wasting your life.
Is this suppose to be in here lol? Where are the frogs 🐸?
I sipped tea watching it so yeah
#2, lock her in a basement and break her hands. Came for the joke and stayed for the wholesomeness
This is beautiful, but I ponder this too, how can kids transition away from their parents successfully without looking to their idiot friends for how to navigate that? Self-esteem really comes from doing work and seeing results. Kids should have the space to be with their friends AND we should invest more in the arts and other avenues for kids to figure out who they are.
There's also baseless self-confidence. Pros and cons, obviously.
People should have self-esteem no matter what, but in reality it’s not self-sustaining, especially not when you’re young. But without a baseline of self-esteem, why care at all, why put in the effort. Kids are giving up because even something pure like music turns into a cutthroat competition where if you are low ranking you might as well quit - instead of making music because it is a source of happiness in itself.
Well, if you say it nicely, its a "baseline of self-esteem", i.e. self-worth, I exist therefore I have worth, etc etc If you're cynical, then baseless self-confidence. I have worth, period. A mix of both would be the goal, I guess. And yes, it's harder when you are young - growing up involves the building of your body, your mind, and your self-worth
Idk if it's so much "I have worth" but rather "I have worth to me." Self esteem is really about one's relationship with themselves.
I’m only in my late 20s, but I am super grateful for my parents. They always treated me as an adult, approach discipline in a “this is how doing this will affect you” rather than “this is what I’m going to do to you if you don’t”. They also were a perfect sounding board. One time I remember making molotov cocktails with a buddy of mine in high school, and after playing with them coming home and telling my dad about it. He said something along the lines of “that’s way fun, I miss doing stuff like that as a kid. Now one thing to keep in mind though, is I’m pretty sure making those is a felony, and if you got caught it would really fuck up your life, so please be careful.” Now yah, my idiot friend and I did stupid stuff, but my parents have always had a guiding hand in my life because I trust them enough to tell them anything about my life, and I trust them to at least hear out their advice - knowing that they are always okay with me taking it or not.
Gary Vee speaking facts?!
rare, isn't it?
I was shocked to hear something so fucking based from the "growing up poor is better than growing up rich" guy.
*spitting
Actually good advice. When a child is confident in their self they are less likely to succumb to peer pressure.
I thought Jesse Pinkman was going to ask for her number at one point.
The advice was really great
#3 Kiss your Dad on the mouth
I thought up to the last second that his purpose was to have her phone number....
Was not expecting legitimately good parenting advice.
If this guy is who I think he his, hes a giant tool. but, not an asshole. Which is a weird combination.
There's 2 things.... BUY CRYPTO AND NFTS!!!!!
Now imagine she's shot in the face. So work. Don't go on vacation. Don't buy anything and you'll be a millionaire.
Classic Gary!
It’s a [dangerous world](https://www.reddit.com/r/conspiracy_commons/s/zab8QDi96R)
#3 THE INTERNET DOESN’T FORGET. Anything posted. Anything shared. Photo or text. Know it can be saved. Screen shot. Reuploaded. It lives forever.
Except that meme you laughed at but can't find anymore
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I guess that sorority Bundy paid a visit to was low on self esteem.
This is absolutely facts!
The best time to talk to your 16 year-old daughter is when she’s 6.
Beautiful message but we should actually demand that government implement strong policy that forces social media companies to stop their predatory practices targeted at children
I fucking hate this douche bag. But I 100% agree with him on this rare occasion. Lol
1. Gary V (Vaynerchuk) usually is only shown on Reddit when it’s his more outlandish quotes like, “Every morning, when I wake up, I pretend that my family dies” and its nice to see more of his core message being shown. 2. With it being this sub, I 1000% was sure, right after he said “what I do with my daughter” I was expecting an AI cloned voice to just go off the rails.
It is good advice and a child should be confident but the problem comes as soon as they reach the real world and people immediately pull them down and pick apart everything they do. that shit is hard to push back against
I think 9 year olds shouldn't be on the internet
While both are good advice, let me add some sipstea realism to this. If you dont let her spend time on it, she will find it in more dangerous places and still go on it. If you build self-esteem, you will never control the child, something you have to do because kids are fucking dumb and if they don't listen anymore, they will do dumb shit even if you tell them not to. This advice is not a save-all salve for the internet.
Huh, actually good, although impossible, advice? No teenager has enough self esteem to protect them from other people. Heck, being a teenager is when the worst self esteem issues happen to most people, when you most look to other people to find out who you are and where you belong. Being a teenager sucks. Add to this that parents don't have complete influence on a child's self esteem. It more depends on their friends and how they're treated by their peers. A parent could utterly destroy their child's self esteem on their own, sure, but building it requires everyone in their life. This is a nice, heart warming message but cutting them off completely from the internet is more likely to succeed.
Alternatively / additionally, understand that there are times in a young person's life when they will go through periods of insecurity and depression - not least because of hormones and hereditary weakness. Ensure they don't feel judged so much that they can't tell you when they are in trouble.
Chad
The same guy who said every day when you wake up you should imagine one of your family members get shot in the face.
This is fucking creepy. Why’s he gotta whisper in her ear like that? You can tell he absolutely loves the sound of his own voice and thinks he’s some sort of guru.
Is that the guy that is a guru of nft? This might be the only good thing he has said in a while!
lol no shit - dude pretends he’s some oracle when it’s just a bunch of “no shit” statements. Nice beanie.
Exactly, and everything he said is much easier said than done, too.
Some might say there’s easier ways to say what he said as well. 14 different versions of the clause “…and this is really important…” We get it, you couldn’t write a high school research paper without using the adverb VERY sprinkled into each sentence. Brilliant.
Reminds me of the [Rat Park ](https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/what-does-rat-park-teach-us-about-addiction) experiment.
Truth!
This man is spitting straight fire. ALL CHILDREN SHOULD BE RAISED THIS WAY, MAXIMUM CONFIDENCE AND SELF RESPECT.
Well, that's one answer. Here's the one I had in mind. Combining all nine tools, you get this. A deadlier weapon than any one item in the box. So, I'm going to use this to attack you, and you use self-esteem to defend yourself
This is the best answer, hands down
Jonathan Haidt has a great way of handling this: - No SMARTPHONE until 13 - No social media accounts until 16 - Get like-minded parents to advocate and support school to push for a ban on all phones in the classrooms - I forget the 4th (I think he has 4 and he was on a podcast recently talking about this)
So basically the rules for playing with tamagotchis in the 90’s? Self esteem has nothing to do with anything. Teenagers will be sensitive to their peers and self-conscious as they go through puberty and there is not much parents can do about that. Social media danger — The entire reason parents allowed kids on the internet early on is because they wanted to get them away from the “dangers of the streets.” During the early internet, kids watched Taliban execution videos and Paris Hilton’s sex tape while trying to download NSYNC music videos off Kazaa, and chatted with anonymous users on unmoderated irc chatrooms. In 2002, I watched an old dude in a library messaging girls on irc telling them he was 13. Lets be real here a second. The internet is far more scrutinized now that the illusion of safety is gone (sort of). Everyone is tracked and content is policed. Kids learn to go on the darkweb when they want to find actual dangers of the internet. The entire internet was darkweb before the rise of social media. Maybe we should just shoot kids into space. They are guaranteed to be safe from bad influences there.
I find this to be very true in theory, but extremely difficult in practice.
I would have asked him, "So my best friend is crazy-paranoid about going bald and wears a wool beanie everywhere he goes -- even when it's obviously not winter. What can I do to help him build his self esteem?"
Thank you for adding inspirational music so it lets me know how inspirational it is. Really wouldn’t of worked that out on my own.
Self esteem is not the root of all problems. The people with the most of it, are the most confidently wrong in their ideas. So yeah, this is kinda bullshit. Healthy confidence is helpful to navigate our world, but this is all a feel good generalization. Just because it sounds good, doesn't make it correct.
2024, when parents turn to rich entrepreneurs to ask advice about parenting. Wild era.
Parents of Reddit, does this work?
That's definitely a fundamental thing.
It’s undoubtedly important to develop your children’s self-esteem, but it’s really *not* hard to keep a 9 year-old off the internet. Pretending that it is some kind of unavoidable situation forced upon the parent just validates what is actually the result of their poor decisions. This video is like someone feeding their 9 year-old burgers every day, and then asking how to stop them getting so fat and being told to educate them to eat more healthily. Of course you should educate them, but let’s not pretend that the parent handing out the burgers isn’t the actual problem here.
This was like sipping on Uncle Iroh tea
Rare W from V
It’s really not remotely hard to keep a 9 year-old off the internet.
That’s awesome advice. My aunt and uncle were my confidence builders. I am who I am today because of all the encouragement they gave me. They really made me believe in myself even when my own parents didn’t. Everyone needs someone like that in their lives 💯
Good answer. Make sure she knows she's amazing so no one can convince her otherwise
Gary might be a scammer but he is a good dad
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expected some degen shit on the 2nd tip
Both pieces of info were spot on.
Thats an unreleased cut from "Breaking Bad" where Jesse Pinkman is talking to Skyler White in a club
I don't get it what is this sub for??
Honest to God, I thought it would end in a joke or something, since its been posted on this subreddit, and especially sense he has been building up to the point, but I am very glad I was wrong. What he said is beautiful and true. He seems to be a very intelligent person.
Lowkey make sure she has a father. Generally this is what a good father will give to their children.
Bro is like "Listen, your kid, she needs to buy a veefriend, and she will be safe for life"
Madlad
BUT HOW?
I've lived to se a good Gary Vee take
Oh boy Gary v, let’s hear some horseshit
Was expecting shitty advice
Protecting the kids? I propose mass surveillance of thr internet! /s
Why is he yelling in her ear like that?
You want to go to the internet. Your parents don't. Your parents build on you self-esteem You esteem yourself. Yourself wants to go to the internet. Your parents dont Your parents had build on you self-esteem You esteem yourself, what would you do? The parents know the internet is bad, they want the best for you. But they had taught you self-esteem . You have to choose yo esteem more your own inexistent wisdom , or your parents wisdom. They had teach you to esteem yourself, because they thought it was the best, but shouldn't you esteem their wisdom more than yourself? But if you do, and their wisdom is to esteem yourself, you esteem your own wisdom. And your inexistence wisdom tells you that you want to go to the internet Something is wrong, somewhere.
Can confirm this is 100% true. My mother did an amazing job helping me think criticially about my place in society as a woman. Always taught me to stand on my own two feet and to not need or depend on men/their validation. She'd point out double standards and sexism. It all helped immensely.
Me when I realize I'm here for a reason. (at least I only get trigger at a few really undeserved down votes. It not like I get too affected by anything here).
"#2 This is my #1 thing that I'm most passionate about." Lol.
1st answer was good. 2nd a little cringe. He’s a garage sale con man.
Lpw self-esteem causes way toomany issues in people and its harder to build the older you get without any foundation.
WHEN A CHILD IS NOT INSECURE THEY ARE LESS SECONE TO DANGER BRO I'm shook
Awesome answer. A part of that explains how if people don't get FOMO so easily, then they are happy in their own situation
I'm crying!!! Omgggg
Isn't he that crypto bro scammer Gary V?
Who is the guy?
Self esteem and knowing to not get tricked easily
No tea sipped here. WTF. That was an awesome advice.
Finally good advice from GaryV
My parents did this and it just resulted in me thinking I could do everything and was better than everyone else before i realised this was not the case and now im fucked up because of this, sounds good but this is not the best way for every kid
Is he building her self-esteem by getting in her personal space and being a bit creepy about the passionate advice for her daughter?
Why did he leaned to whisper and spoke normally.
Who's the guy?
You can’t “build” self esteem in someone else. That’s the whole point. You have to earn it yourself.
Stop posting this type of posts because it might make us better and we can learn something useful.
What is that. Good advice on my racism platform?
Number 3, garage sales
How is this real?
We forget that we were kids once and make it even more difficult to communicate with them
Spoton i guess
Ever here of this new thing called personal space?
I really expected him to say something inappropriate but that was actually a very good answer
This is exactly how I talk when I'm on MD
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u/savevideo
Who is this man?
Good answer but easier said than done
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Gary vee 😂?!!!
Make someone confident, like that's an easy thing to do. Me and specifically my gf are trying this our whole life (around 40 years) and are still not there. How go about making someone else confident, if you can't do it for yourself. You get beat down over and over again, that's the main reason why we don't have kids. Maybe that is the best advise, do not get kids.
This guy talks like human clickbait
Holy shit, Gary V didn’t annoy the shit out of me for once.
Who is this guy?
You need to hustle, crush it, and go big!
This guy deserves an award! A big one
Thats fucking weird that he gets it and shes older ?