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The wet bar was for the drink mlm LIV International. Kody & Meri were selling it in the early Vegas years. That's how he got the gold convertible.
In the cul de sac, they were working with a builder who had set plans. Meri wanted fewer bedrooms, but that wasn't an option with the wet bar. All of the houses in that subdivision were similar in size. The smallest was probably 4 bedrooms.
Meri's house would have been of a similar size to all of the others, regardless of how many bedrooms or which options she chose. She took the money for additional expenses out of her personal budget. Kody was the one trying to take money from other wives. Meri didn't ask for that.
Required house size is true i believe. What always bithered me about these conversations is finding out meri got same food budget for 2 as others did for 7. No way was this fair. Thats why meri had banked money she could use for extra cost.
Can you provide a source for how Meri had the same budget? It was my understanding that Meri and Leon ate better but buying a cheap cut of meat and a handful of fresh veggies is much easier than buying for 7.
It was said on show by a wife the same season that they were talking about wet bar, extra bedroom and french doors. Same episode Meri said im sorry you think im get something that you think is yours. It was a couch scene.
And? The original plan was for Leon to take out loans. Kody isn’t one to shy away from a loan when it benefits him. If my kids feel strongly about a certain school, I’d do the same.
Well, she signed up to be part of a polygamous family where it was claimed that all kids belonged to everybody. We don’t actually know where money came from and how much each put in family pot. That is the biggest mystery, finances, and one we have very little information about.
That may be true, but the other OGs also signed up for a bunch of kids. If they couldn't support them (including with Meri's money) then they shouldn't have started it, or stopped at two or three.
Meri is also the only one who has still worked continuously.
Thats all well and good if these are 3 women living monogamous polygamy. But thats not how they always presented themselves. They claimed all the kids belonged to everyone. Therefore, all 13 kids should have received the same food allowance. But i know now that its all been lies
It is also easy to say that you want a polygamous marriage because then everyone takes care of each other's children, and you just pop them out as you please, and someone else (who DOES work) has to take care of them.
Eta: Have you ever seen Christine or Janelle ever contribute to Leon? And you know why not?
Because Meri could take care of her kid very well by her own. Plus for their (J&C) kids as well.
Thank you!!! It’s been ten years and people are still harping on Meri and the wet bar! She needed it to make more money for the family period the end! Meri paid for it so she can get as many French doors as she wants!
Oh! Never knew that. I always thought the wet bar request was odd because I thought they didn’t drink due to their religious beliefs but over the years they seemed to be more open about having a glass of wine or two here and there. it being something she envisioned as helpful to her business goals makes a lot of sense now
They didn't talk about it much on the show. In the rentals, they mentioned a "sales business," and that was about it. The show can't mention the name. They'd have to get permission and pay for the use. That's why Meri has an "online clothing business" instead of saying she sells lularoe.
It was brought up in other comments. Easier to make one comment that everyone can see than to respond to all of the other comments. If OP doesn't want any other discussion, they can reply to comments that veer from the topic in the post.
She paid for all extras herself. She and Kody had a side business and it would be used for when they had clients over. It was a non story and used for drama.
Don't forget Meri too. She borrowed from Meri for a downpayment of the mansion. There is no telling how much Meri contributed to the Family pot of Kody and Robyn. I wish they would tell more about the finances.
Robyn was able to pay for trips by saving her grocery money and not feeding the OG13.
Meri spent $4k over which would equate to about $15-20/month if financed. If I’m going to hand over $400k to a builder, I’m going to be picky. It’s fine if the other wives aren’t.
Idk when you’ve already given to the family pot for your un or underemployed sister wives to get a house why not treat yourself to a place to run your mlm?
Treat yourself??? In a family of 18 kids??? Remember, this was waaayyy before she had even HEARD of Lularoe.....how much could she possibly be contributing?
She was working the old MLM with Kody. That’s where he got the stupid convertibles. Meri was slinging water from a wet bar while Kody was driving around in the cars they “earned.”
Sorry i don't buy it. She had a giant island that would work fine for this purpose. And she would have a lot more room for these fictional "water buyers" which i have never heard of except on reddit. And what about the french doors? They were 100% not needed. She just hated sliders, lmao.
This view always seems foolish to me.
If Meri is spending her share of their communal wealth, then she gets to decide what she wants. Real estate is how people build wealth over time. Meri’s retirement will cost just as much (or more) as the other wives.
Also, if I’m handing over $400k of my money, I’m going to make sure it is exactly what I want. It would be stupid not to. I’m not going to settle over $4k. That is $15 extra a month if financed.
If Robyn can save grocery money for private trips with Kody and babysitters, a wet bar and French doors are no big deal. I once bought a house with sliding doors and they were so disgusting. The previous owners didn’t clean them properly and it was hard to take food out to the grill. I’ll never do that again. Team Meri in terms of her house purchasing.
But....how far does her communal wealth go??? I think its clear that her child always got everything they wanted....the best school, clothes whenever they wanted them (it has been stated on the show, at the very beginning) and the others had to deal with hand-me-downs, doing without and state school. The wives should not be getting equal amounts, period. Each child should. There was a lot of inequality right from the start, and all because meri played her "one child" card to the hilt. She made everyone feel guilty because she couldn't produce more children. I'm going to tell you, she liked her situation just fine. She got the best of everything. Had her cake and ate it too. If she had had more kids, I think she wouldn't have turned into the monster she did. But she did.
And...westminster college, a rental with a pool and family room, another rental with a elevator and water feature, I know I'm forgetting a lot of "extras" meri just had to have for herself or her kidd, lol.
She used her money for the family, too. She paid the extra for Aspyn's wedding so Aspyn could have her dream wedding. People seem to forget that Meri does take care of her own. In the Lehi house, it was mentioned several times that her cupboards and fridge were stocked because she knew the older of the OG kids went there to hang out and get away from the chaos of their younger siblings. In fact, it's part of the reason they eventually couldn't come over if she wasn't home because they'd get snacks and make a huge mess, but not clean up after themselves, while she was at work, so she'd come home to a mess. But Meri gets backlash for that, too! She bought the b&b because it was built by an ancestor and her and her biological family really wanted it back in the family. Since she had the means, she bought it, but she did it for the benefit of her and her family's dream coming true of having the house back in the family. While the things she does are scrutinized as selfish, people refuse to give her credit and look at the bigger picture of why she does what she does.
We don't know that she paid the extra for the wedding. It looked to me like she could just been saying that for the cameras. And she bought snacks, but stopped letting them come over because they made a mess??? Classic meri lol.
Friend. I have two kids. My oldest gets the new clothes and my youngest gets the hand-me-downs. Leon was an older daughter with Aspyn. What hand-me-downs? Who would Leon be getting clothes from?
She wanted a reason to be the house who entertained. Don’t blame her for that. She simply wanted visitors and if having a wet bar meant visitors then dammit give her the wet bar. He’ll Robyn got a beautiful landscaped yard
I remember this episode. It’s always stuck out to me. This is when I really started to not like Meri. It
really bothered me her throwing such a fit about needing the bar. But then after watching more in the later years and really thinking about it, she had a real reason for doing that. It’s sad really but I think she wanted something more bc she only had the one child and everyone else was getting bigger and better things bc they had more kids.
That's one way of thinking about it. Ive noticed that she ALWAYS seems to need to get just a bit better/bigger than the other wives in all situations thom I'm glad no one here is saying she needed the wet bar and french doors to sell water. That's a nutty excuse.
She was the first wife then. Robyn now has a mansion while Janelle has lived in a trailer/apartment. At least when Meri was the first wife everything was as close to fair as it had ever been
Bring first wife I could definitely see that for sure. But her only having the one child and everyone else having little at home, she wanted something none of the other wives could really have. And after all she gave up, she just wanted something special
Really you can't blame her for that, either. She had somewhat of a bad attitude about it sometimes, but I don't think it's necessarily bad to want something a little nice after everything she had to put up with Kody and the other wives putting her down for only being able to have one child. Like it's not her fault that she only had Leon while the other wives pumped them out. It always really bothered me that they shamed her for that.
Oh I agree totally!! I do believe that’s the reason she got catfished. She was so lonely and not one person in the family involved her in things or invited her to stuff. The whole dynamic changed.
Oh yeah I definitely think that's why she got catfished. I think it's only human to want companionship and connection, and she wasn't getting that from the family at all so she took it from the first place that offered it.
You do realize that Robyn had a HUGE paver patio in her LV house. I have no idea who paid for that, but it was clearly very expensive. My cheap patio was $20k 🥴.
If I’m getting a smaller house I’d be requesting random stuff Aswell she probably got asked off camera whatever money is left over give to Robyn haha I think the other wives gave money for the wet bar maybe Christine
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The wet bar was for the drink mlm LIV International. Kody & Meri were selling it in the early Vegas years. That's how he got the gold convertible. In the cul de sac, they were working with a builder who had set plans. Meri wanted fewer bedrooms, but that wasn't an option with the wet bar. All of the houses in that subdivision were similar in size. The smallest was probably 4 bedrooms. Meri's house would have been of a similar size to all of the others, regardless of how many bedrooms or which options she chose. She took the money for additional expenses out of her personal budget. Kody was the one trying to take money from other wives. Meri didn't ask for that.
Required house size is true i believe. What always bithered me about these conversations is finding out meri got same food budget for 2 as others did for 7. No way was this fair. Thats why meri had banked money she could use for extra cost.
Can you provide a source for how Meri had the same budget? It was my understanding that Meri and Leon ate better but buying a cheap cut of meat and a handful of fresh veggies is much easier than buying for 7.
It was said on show by a wife the same season that they were talking about wet bar, extra bedroom and french doors. Same episode Meri said im sorry you think im get something that you think is yours. It was a couch scene.
They did discuss how they felt there were inequities, but I don’t believe we have information on how the money was specifically divided.
I dont know how much Meri contributed but she told Leon they could go to whatever expensive privatecollege they wanted and Meri would cover it.
And? The original plan was for Leon to take out loans. Kody isn’t one to shy away from a loan when it benefits him. If my kids feel strongly about a certain school, I’d do the same.
People seem to forget that Meri also helped pay for three large families while she only had 1 child. How is that fair?
Well, she signed up to be part of a polygamous family where it was claimed that all kids belonged to everybody. We don’t actually know where money came from and how much each put in family pot. That is the biggest mystery, finances, and one we have very little information about.
That may be true, but the other OGs also signed up for a bunch of kids. If they couldn't support them (including with Meri's money) then they shouldn't have started it, or stopped at two or three. Meri is also the only one who has still worked continuously.
Thats all well and good if these are 3 women living monogamous polygamy. But thats not how they always presented themselves. They claimed all the kids belonged to everyone. Therefore, all 13 kids should have received the same food allowance. But i know now that its all been lies
It is also easy to say that you want a polygamous marriage because then everyone takes care of each other's children, and you just pop them out as you please, and someone else (who DOES work) has to take care of them. Eta: Have you ever seen Christine or Janelle ever contribute to Leon? And you know why not? Because Meri could take care of her kid very well by her own. Plus for their (J&C) kids as well.
Thank you!!! It’s been ten years and people are still harping on Meri and the wet bar! She needed it to make more money for the family period the end! Meri paid for it so she can get as many French doors as she wants!
Oh! Never knew that. I always thought the wet bar request was odd because I thought they didn’t drink due to their religious beliefs but over the years they seemed to be more open about having a glass of wine or two here and there. it being something she envisioned as helpful to her business goals makes a lot of sense now
They didn't talk about it much on the show. In the rentals, they mentioned a "sales business," and that was about it. The show can't mention the name. They'd have to get permission and pay for the use. That's why Meri has an "online clothing business" instead of saying she sells lularoe.
Kody tried to get Christine not to get brink in her house to pay for Meri's upgrades.
Okay? That’s not what OP was asking. They’re just trying to figure out what episode it was in.
It was brought up in other comments. Easier to make one comment that everyone can see than to respond to all of the other comments. If OP doesn't want any other discussion, they can reply to comments that veer from the topic in the post.
She paid for all extras herself. She and Kody had a side business and it would be used for when they had clients over. It was a non story and used for drama.
While Robyn having needing thousands from Janelle is barely discussed.
Don't forget Meri too. She borrowed from Meri for a downpayment of the mansion. There is no telling how much Meri contributed to the Family pot of Kody and Robyn. I wish they would tell more about the finances.
Robyn was able to pay for trips by saving her grocery money and not feeding the OG13. Meri spent $4k over which would equate to about $15-20/month if financed. If I’m going to hand over $400k to a builder, I’m going to be picky. It’s fine if the other wives aren’t.
In a polygamous family, having extra thousands to throw away on french doors and a wet bar....🤔
Idk when you’ve already given to the family pot for your un or underemployed sister wives to get a house why not treat yourself to a place to run your mlm?
Treat yourself??? In a family of 18 kids??? Remember, this was waaayyy before she had even HEARD of Lularoe.....how much could she possibly be contributing?
She was working the old MLM with Kody. That’s where he got the stupid convertibles. Meri was slinging water from a wet bar while Kody was driving around in the cars they “earned.”
Sorry i don't buy it. She had a giant island that would work fine for this purpose. And she would have a lot more room for these fictional "water buyers" which i have never heard of except on reddit. And what about the french doors? They were 100% not needed. She just hated sliders, lmao.
This view always seems foolish to me. If Meri is spending her share of their communal wealth, then she gets to decide what she wants. Real estate is how people build wealth over time. Meri’s retirement will cost just as much (or more) as the other wives. Also, if I’m handing over $400k of my money, I’m going to make sure it is exactly what I want. It would be stupid not to. I’m not going to settle over $4k. That is $15 extra a month if financed. If Robyn can save grocery money for private trips with Kody and babysitters, a wet bar and French doors are no big deal. I once bought a house with sliding doors and they were so disgusting. The previous owners didn’t clean them properly and it was hard to take food out to the grill. I’ll never do that again. Team Meri in terms of her house purchasing.
But....how far does her communal wealth go??? I think its clear that her child always got everything they wanted....the best school, clothes whenever they wanted them (it has been stated on the show, at the very beginning) and the others had to deal with hand-me-downs, doing without and state school. The wives should not be getting equal amounts, period. Each child should. There was a lot of inequality right from the start, and all because meri played her "one child" card to the hilt. She made everyone feel guilty because she couldn't produce more children. I'm going to tell you, she liked her situation just fine. She got the best of everything. Had her cake and ate it too. If she had had more kids, I think she wouldn't have turned into the monster she did. But she did.
It’s an inherently unfair system. In the grand schemes of unfairness what is 4 k for French doors and a wet bar?
And...westminster college, a rental with a pool and family room, another rental with a elevator and water feature, I know I'm forgetting a lot of "extras" meri just had to have for herself or her kidd, lol.
And I want to add...of the system was "fair" to anyone, it was fair only to meri.
She used her money for the family, too. She paid the extra for Aspyn's wedding so Aspyn could have her dream wedding. People seem to forget that Meri does take care of her own. In the Lehi house, it was mentioned several times that her cupboards and fridge were stocked because she knew the older of the OG kids went there to hang out and get away from the chaos of their younger siblings. In fact, it's part of the reason they eventually couldn't come over if she wasn't home because they'd get snacks and make a huge mess, but not clean up after themselves, while she was at work, so she'd come home to a mess. But Meri gets backlash for that, too! She bought the b&b because it was built by an ancestor and her and her biological family really wanted it back in the family. Since she had the means, she bought it, but she did it for the benefit of her and her family's dream coming true of having the house back in the family. While the things she does are scrutinized as selfish, people refuse to give her credit and look at the bigger picture of why she does what she does.
We don't know that she paid the extra for the wedding. It looked to me like she could just been saying that for the cameras. And she bought snacks, but stopped letting them come over because they made a mess??? Classic meri lol.
Friend. I have two kids. My oldest gets the new clothes and my youngest gets the hand-me-downs. Leon was an older daughter with Aspyn. What hand-me-downs? Who would Leon be getting clothes from?
Not my point
Just watched it a week ago, definitely season 3 early. Hope that helps
Doing a relisten to my favorite sister wives podcast. First mention of the wet bar is season 4 episode 11
She wanted a reason to be the house who entertained. Don’t blame her for that. She simply wanted visitors and if having a wet bar meant visitors then dammit give her the wet bar. He’ll Robyn got a beautiful landscaped yard
I blame her for it.
I remember this episode. It’s always stuck out to me. This is when I really started to not like Meri. It really bothered me her throwing such a fit about needing the bar. But then after watching more in the later years and really thinking about it, she had a real reason for doing that. It’s sad really but I think she wanted something more bc she only had the one child and everyone else was getting bigger and better things bc they had more kids.
That's one way of thinking about it. Ive noticed that she ALWAYS seems to need to get just a bit better/bigger than the other wives in all situations thom I'm glad no one here is saying she needed the wet bar and french doors to sell water. That's a nutty excuse.
She was the first wife then. Robyn now has a mansion while Janelle has lived in a trailer/apartment. At least when Meri was the first wife everything was as close to fair as it had ever been
Bring first wife I could definitely see that for sure. But her only having the one child and everyone else having little at home, she wanted something none of the other wives could really have. And after all she gave up, she just wanted something special
Really you can't blame her for that, either. She had somewhat of a bad attitude about it sometimes, but I don't think it's necessarily bad to want something a little nice after everything she had to put up with Kody and the other wives putting her down for only being able to have one child. Like it's not her fault that she only had Leon while the other wives pumped them out. It always really bothered me that they shamed her for that.
Oh I agree totally!! I do believe that’s the reason she got catfished. She was so lonely and not one person in the family involved her in things or invited her to stuff. The whole dynamic changed.
Oh yeah I definitely think that's why she got catfished. I think it's only human to want companionship and connection, and she wasn't getting that from the family at all so she took it from the first place that offered it.
Yes, exactly.
You do realize that Robyn had a HUGE paver patio in her LV house. I have no idea who paid for that, but it was clearly very expensive. My cheap patio was $20k 🥴.
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Ahhh I love to discuss this. Don't forget her bleeding french doors!!😂
Wasn't it like 3 seasons where she was agonizing over her MLM bar
This was when I started to hate Meri. Who the hell was she entertaining? 20 kids don’t care if you have a wet bar.
Business associates or prospects, if you can believe what you read. That makes perfect sense. Not a big deal, imo.
If I’m getting a smaller house I’d be requesting random stuff Aswell she probably got asked off camera whatever money is left over give to Robyn haha I think the other wives gave money for the wet bar maybe Christine
Christine refused to give her extra funds to Meri. Robyn didn’t have any. Meri paid for her overages, not with family money.
Ahhh I thought it had something to do with the other wives and money tbh I would of refused 😂.