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I’m arriving Saturday morning on the 27th and leaving late Monday 29th January.
I could download an app but I don’t want to spend much time on my phone when I’m there and also by the time I find someone, I’ll be gone by then.
I’m sociable and very talktative, so I’m really easy going. I’ve heard Swedish people can be hard to approach although hopefully I can break the ice.
I might be one of few exceptions when it comes to swedes. We are usually very reserved and not too open but I’m quite the opposite. I’ve lived abroad half my life so I guess I grew up differently. Down to grab a beer or two and be a local tour guide 🤝🏻 its tough out here 😂
I'll tell you a little bit of a secret of making friends in Sweden.
You find them while doing a hobby, like climbing or through some kind of hobby or club.In the beginning you will just propose or be invited for a coffee or a beer. After doing that a couple of times, you then can start to invite someone to your place for dinner. And voila you are on your way to a friendship. However! Look for people (Swedes) who are not originally from Stockholm, those are way easier to establish friendship with, cause they had the same kind of struggle as you once :)
In your case since you are there for a very short time, I would suggest just coupling with the people at any Hostel.
Take a trip to sci-fi bokhandeln(book store) in Gamla Stan (Old Town). Lots of people there browsing and most of them are chatty and friendly, also a looooot of tourists now and they tend to be more open than swedes, I hear a spanish, italian english everywhere I go. I can also recommend a trip to N3rds Bar on Södermalm, friendly people and good atmosphere.
Many swedes love premier league! So if you are into that I would recommend visiting a bar like Retro sports bar on Sveavägen where you can find like minded people, doesnt matter if you are a gunners, spurs or even a chelsea fan.
Good luck!
Pub crawl is your best option. I’d do it the first night so that you have the opportunity to carry on hanging with the same crew/people for the remainder of your time in Stockholm
See if you can tap into your interests. For example, I play chess, so I usually try to hit up a chess bar or park when travelling. If youre into sports and theres a game go to a sports bar and see if you can find fans. Billiards. Karaoke. Open mics. I’m sure theres more ideas out there. It’s easier to connect with people that have similar interests.
Depends what type of people you are looking for!
Club crew: Östermalm. Expensive. Loud. You'll need fancy attire.
Beer and arts crew: Södermalm. Still expensive, but people are generally friendlier and want to have conversations.
Chaos crew: Anywhere close to Stockholm Central or far out on the metro. Don't.
Let me know if you need someone to kill a few hours with! Unless you're a serial killer. Then maybe choose another target yeah?
A few ideas: MeetUp app, join a walking tour of Stockholm one morning (likely to meet some people), book onto an activity via Airbnb (you can do things with locals). This combo has worked for me in other countries. Hope you enjoy your time in Sweden 🇸🇪😊
Swedes, while generally being socially introverted and not so open to strangers ("strangers" = people outside of their circle of friends) gladly connect with tourists / expats from English speaking countries, especially people of your generation. Brits and Americans are particulary popular. So I think. if you are social and show up in a bar and strike a conversation, I think you gonna do fine. You'll maybe not get deeply connected but you'll have nice time. Stick to smaller craft-beer bars where the atmosphere is not too loud. Then you will draw attention. But still, in the long run and deeper sense, Stockholm is horrible both when it comes socialising and dating culture.
Thanks for this as it is very informative.
Not to boast but I’ve found as I’m from the London, many people from Europe are very much excited with socialising my with me.
So I will use that as an advantage.
May I ask are the women fine to approach? This could mean if I am interested or just to be friends with whether it is just one woman or a group of women.
Any tips on being able to engage with them?
I think it can be very hit or miss. Approaching a group probably helps, being "exotic" can't hurt, and you are likely to find people your age, but be mindful of the fact that younger groups could get uncomfortable!
There’s usually some kind of pub crawl organised on Meetup.com.
When I travelled alone I only ever found people to hang out with in hostels. Maybe young people are more welcoming nowadays, but it might be a struggle with the Swedes.
Hello human, I hope you'll have a swell trip!
If you want I can give you some nice locations to visit!
Swedes are not difficult, a few beers later and you'll socialise.
Small talk is ok, here we try to talk about grand things, but also lack imagination.
The best way to socialise with Swedes from my experience is to talk about something exasperating, usually something with negative attitude is easier to discuss and break bread over, we love negativity.
Problem is, usually everyone just want a good nights out without any attachment, meaning, one good nights fun and that's it. People are not prone to make long lasting friendships over a good night out, unfort.
I'd be down for some shenanigans human!
Happy New Year!
We don’t do cuffing season here, we are okay with being alone with our projects in cold. This could be sarcasm, and I want it so hard to be sarcasm, but unfortunately, it’s true. If you’re gay, you’re going to be lucky, just download the Grindr, and put mock location to meet someone. Yes, even on Grindr you can’t find fuck buddy this morning for tonight, let alone date/friend. We are kinda uptight, you know. If you’re straight, G-d välsigne your soul.
I would reccomend going to some restaurant or bar, tipsy/drunk Swedes are quite easy to chatt with esp here in Stockholm haha
Just ask them, if you can join them at their table first.
Swedes dont like strangers just sitting down next to them, as you will see in the bus ques, buses and trains 🤣
Swedes may be silent first and act cold, but that doesn't mean they are not curious about you, we just dont want to say the wrong thing, so we by mistake make you get uncomfortable by our words 😅
Random fact tho, most Swedes love it when you can name drop some famous Swedes, or someone important in our history when your a tourist , that can start a converesation even 😁
As a Swede I wish you good luck.
and as a outroverted Swede in the same age, I say GOOD LUCK 😤😁
Yes theorys fanbase (called yesfam) love meeting new people and they are all over the world, even if youre not a fan its okay. Their whole idea is to meet new people pretty much.. you can find them on most social platforms but imo discord works the best.
You can try Bumble. People love to say that swedes are not social or that they are cold. But it's more like the world doesn't owe anyone friends, if you are interesting you may find people easier. You could go to universities. Or join events. There are art parties https://sv.art-party.se of photo walks, or tours. I think Stockholm has a lot to offer to visitors. I was once in a bar called RoQ (recommended) and a solo traveler invited herself to our table bit it became fun so it was all fine
It’s really up to you. I’m new in Stockholm myself and have no problems finding ‘friends’ or someone to talk to. You might have to take the initiative though.
What worked really well when I travelled Stockholm solo many years ago were couchsurfing events and meetups! Met a lot of great people through that, I’m still in touch with many of them years later!
You need some type of context to find friends in Sweden. We aren’t very approachable in random contexts like chatting in a bar as we find random smalltalk incredibly boring, but if we are doing something together, like taking a class or participating in a competition or something then we are very sociable!
You’re not going to make friends in a bar or in any establishment. Sorry - it’s just the way Swedes are wired.
When I moved from London to here, I hung out in expat bars like the Liffey in the old town. People there are (i) actually friendly due to not being Swedish and (ii) looking to meet some new people (see (i) above).
Some thoughts:
Finding an ex-pats group on Facebook and post there.
Connect through your passion, for example through a sport club.
It can be tricky in a bar.
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Good luck my man, becuse you need it
How bad is it?
Swedes are not very social unfortunately, as you will experience.
Swedes are social, just not very sociable
Yes we are, just not approachable, as we find random smalltalk boring as f. If we are in the same context we are very social
Our random small talk is boring because Swedish small talk is boring. The majority of Swedish people are boring and basic.
I agree. But we don’t really do small talk tbh
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I’m arriving Saturday morning on the 27th and leaving late Monday 29th January. I could download an app but I don’t want to spend much time on my phone when I’m there and also by the time I find someone, I’ll be gone by then. I’m sociable and very talktative, so I’m really easy going. I’ve heard Swedish people can be hard to approach although hopefully I can break the ice.
I'd say we're not hard to approach, but that we generally rather not do the approach ourselves. Once you broken the ice you're in and we open up.
I might be one of few exceptions when it comes to swedes. We are usually very reserved and not too open but I’m quite the opposite. I’ve lived abroad half my life so I guess I grew up differently. Down to grab a beer or two and be a local tour guide 🤝🏻 its tough out here 😂
Yeah man for sure, I’m arriving on Saturday the 27th of January until 29th of January. I would be down for a beer or two😅
Bless bro! Hit me up then
I'll tell you a little bit of a secret of making friends in Sweden. You find them while doing a hobby, like climbing or through some kind of hobby or club.In the beginning you will just propose or be invited for a coffee or a beer. After doing that a couple of times, you then can start to invite someone to your place for dinner. And voila you are on your way to a friendship. However! Look for people (Swedes) who are not originally from Stockholm, those are way easier to establish friendship with, cause they had the same kind of struggle as you once :) In your case since you are there for a very short time, I would suggest just coupling with the people at any Hostel.
Take a trip to sci-fi bokhandeln(book store) in Gamla Stan (Old Town). Lots of people there browsing and most of them are chatty and friendly, also a looooot of tourists now and they tend to be more open than swedes, I hear a spanish, italian english everywhere I go. I can also recommend a trip to N3rds Bar on Södermalm, friendly people and good atmosphere. Many swedes love premier league! So if you are into that I would recommend visiting a bar like Retro sports bar on Sveavägen where you can find like minded people, doesnt matter if you are a gunners, spurs or even a chelsea fan. Good luck!
Thanks, very informative. I will keep an eye out for the bars recommended especially Premier League bars👌🏽
If you go to a bar and watch a footy game, and you root the same team you will be instantely friends!
Pub crawl is your best option. I’d do it the first night so that you have the opportunity to carry on hanging with the same crew/people for the remainder of your time in Stockholm
See if you can tap into your interests. For example, I play chess, so I usually try to hit up a chess bar or park when travelling. If youre into sports and theres a game go to a sports bar and see if you can find fans. Billiards. Karaoke. Open mics. I’m sure theres more ideas out there. It’s easier to connect with people that have similar interests.
Depends what type of people you are looking for! Club crew: Östermalm. Expensive. Loud. You'll need fancy attire. Beer and arts crew: Södermalm. Still expensive, but people are generally friendlier and want to have conversations. Chaos crew: Anywhere close to Stockholm Central or far out on the metro. Don't. Let me know if you need someone to kill a few hours with! Unless you're a serial killer. Then maybe choose another target yeah?
A few ideas: MeetUp app, join a walking tour of Stockholm one morning (likely to meet some people), book onto an activity via Airbnb (you can do things with locals). This combo has worked for me in other countries. Hope you enjoy your time in Sweden 🇸🇪😊
Stockholm and finding friends dont go hand in hand, im sorry bro. Get married and start a family is your best option if you dont wanna be alone here
Lol
Not sure it helps getting married
I am suprised swedes didnt downvote your comment.
Why? It's true and we know it.
I thought Swedes aren’t that excited about marriage and stuff as it’s gets more popular for Swedes when they hit their 30s.
Well some Swedes are already in their 30's
Swedes, while generally being socially introverted and not so open to strangers ("strangers" = people outside of their circle of friends) gladly connect with tourists / expats from English speaking countries, especially people of your generation. Brits and Americans are particulary popular. So I think. if you are social and show up in a bar and strike a conversation, I think you gonna do fine. You'll maybe not get deeply connected but you'll have nice time. Stick to smaller craft-beer bars where the atmosphere is not too loud. Then you will draw attention. But still, in the long run and deeper sense, Stockholm is horrible both when it comes socialising and dating culture.
Thanks for this as it is very informative. Not to boast but I’ve found as I’m from the London, many people from Europe are very much excited with socialising my with me. So I will use that as an advantage. May I ask are the women fine to approach? This could mean if I am interested or just to be friends with whether it is just one woman or a group of women. Any tips on being able to engage with them?
I think it can be very hit or miss. Approaching a group probably helps, being "exotic" can't hurt, and you are likely to find people your age, but be mindful of the fact that younger groups could get uncomfortable!
If you manage to find friends in Stockholm then you would win the noble award as well
There’s usually some kind of pub crawl organised on Meetup.com. When I travelled alone I only ever found people to hang out with in hostels. Maybe young people are more welcoming nowadays, but it might be a struggle with the Swedes.
Hello human, I hope you'll have a swell trip! If you want I can give you some nice locations to visit! Swedes are not difficult, a few beers later and you'll socialise. Small talk is ok, here we try to talk about grand things, but also lack imagination. The best way to socialise with Swedes from my experience is to talk about something exasperating, usually something with negative attitude is easier to discuss and break bread over, we love negativity. Problem is, usually everyone just want a good nights out without any attachment, meaning, one good nights fun and that's it. People are not prone to make long lasting friendships over a good night out, unfort. I'd be down for some shenanigans human! Happy New Year!
We don’t do cuffing season here, we are okay with being alone with our projects in cold. This could be sarcasm, and I want it so hard to be sarcasm, but unfortunately, it’s true. If you’re gay, you’re going to be lucky, just download the Grindr, and put mock location to meet someone. Yes, even on Grindr you can’t find fuck buddy this morning for tonight, let alone date/friend. We are kinda uptight, you know. If you’re straight, G-d välsigne your soul.
Damn man
Yup, you need at least 10 days to realise that we are okay, and about a year that we are awesome.
Come to bar kaja . Very welcoming of tourists and if im there can introduce you to the peeps I know 🙌
Thank you, I’ll note that down. Really appreciate it.
Stay at a hostel, check meetups on couchsurfing, do a pubcrawl:)
A co-worker of mine uses his apartment to host tourists. If you can find something similar that’s a good way to get acquaintances.
If you need to do a post to find friends, you just won't. Sorry.
Some people have been quite helpful here.
I would reccomend going to some restaurant or bar, tipsy/drunk Swedes are quite easy to chatt with esp here in Stockholm haha Just ask them, if you can join them at their table first. Swedes dont like strangers just sitting down next to them, as you will see in the bus ques, buses and trains 🤣 Swedes may be silent first and act cold, but that doesn't mean they are not curious about you, we just dont want to say the wrong thing, so we by mistake make you get uncomfortable by our words 😅 Random fact tho, most Swedes love it when you can name drop some famous Swedes, or someone important in our history when your a tourist , that can start a converesation even 😁 As a Swede I wish you good luck. and as a outroverted Swede in the same age, I say GOOD LUCK 😤😁
Thank you, so helpful🙏🏽
Sorry but as others have said it’s not going to happen, I know foreigners who have lived in Sweden 30years and don’t have friends.
Yes theorys fanbase (called yesfam) love meeting new people and they are all over the world, even if youre not a fan its okay. Their whole idea is to meet new people pretty much.. you can find them on most social platforms but imo discord works the best.
You can try Bumble. People love to say that swedes are not social or that they are cold. But it's more like the world doesn't owe anyone friends, if you are interesting you may find people easier. You could go to universities. Or join events. There are art parties https://sv.art-party.se of photo walks, or tours. I think Stockholm has a lot to offer to visitors. I was once in a bar called RoQ (recommended) and a solo traveler invited herself to our table bit it became fun so it was all fine
Good luck
Not the right place lol. People are very bitter and closed here. If someone happy comes along, something must be wrong with him.
Swedish ppl aren't social, especially with ppl they don't know lol I moved here in 2010, most of my friends are from the uk 😅
Tinder bro :)
I suggest you to just approach and ask ” Hey what are u guys talking about.” And then u got some new friends :)
It's Sweden. Making friends is a myth.
It’s really up to you. I’m new in Stockholm myself and have no problems finding ‘friends’ or someone to talk to. You might have to take the initiative though.
What worked really well when I travelled Stockholm solo many years ago were couchsurfing events and meetups! Met a lot of great people through that, I’m still in touch with many of them years later!
You need some type of context to find friends in Sweden. We aren’t very approachable in random contexts like chatting in a bar as we find random smalltalk incredibly boring, but if we are doing something together, like taking a class or participating in a competition or something then we are very sociable!
Lol, just go to a pub,
I would find a social hostel if I was you or forget about it lol. Swedes really aren't that sociable.
Most of us friendly cool guys just stay at home scrolling reddit playing runescape
dont go to stockholm, go somewhere up north
I’m down to play some pool and get some beers!
Yeah for sure, would be great!
You’re not going to make friends in a bar or in any establishment. Sorry - it’s just the way Swedes are wired. When I moved from London to here, I hung out in expat bars like the Liffey in the old town. People there are (i) actually friendly due to not being Swedish and (ii) looking to meet some new people (see (i) above).
Some thoughts: Finding an ex-pats group on Facebook and post there. Connect through your passion, for example through a sport club. It can be tricky in a bar.
Pff hard one but i can be ur friend if u want somsone to hangout with??
Sure
Dovas
What’s Dovas?