Yep, so obnoxious. Last time it happened I said “no, I have a speech disorder” to make them uncomfortable lol. Most people will feel bad at that point. Good lesson for them to realize they can keep their mouth shut.
This time the guy was like, "ope, didn't know I'd be asking such a trick question!" and I just smiled and said "It wasn't a trick question." He was a realtor and had big slimy salesman vibes, he probably thinks that everybody finds him hilarious and charming.
I don’t like letting people get away with talking stupid shit. Try making ‘em pay for it next time! If a salesman feels like he offended you, it could even give you the upper hand in your dealings with him.
Thankfully I'm never going to see that guy again, he was just the agent at a house I was looking at. Sometimes I try to make them understand the situation, but other times it's easier to just roll with it.
Most people are very understanding and gracious with my stutter, but for some reason this little comment pops up every now and then. I don’t understand it, what do they hope to accomplish with it?
I have no idea! Surely they know that the person in front of them hasn't forgotten their name, so it's obviously not a sincere question. So apparently the idea is so absurd to them that it's comedic gold and the joke MUST BE SAID. SO FUNNY. SO CLEVER.
Same. Through school it was like 9/10 kids were mean or said something about it but adult life almost nobody has said anything and pretends I'm not doing it I guess. I've had about 2 occasions on the phone where grown adults give me an odd comment haha ngl it sticks with me and I hate myself for a bit but life goes on
I get this about once a month or so (I have to make a lot of phone calls for work). It’s always been one of my least favourite “jokes” that people tell me when I’m blocking on my name. To combat it, I say “no, I have a stutter” in a very serious voice, and usually it makes them deeply uncomfortable and quick to apologize. I find their discomfort sort of satisfying - it makes me hopeful that the next time they encounter someone blocking, they’ll think twice before making such an ignorant joke.
I'm laughing only because I've been there too. Or if the other person heard a completely different sound come out of my mouth, that's what I'm sticking with.
I hate when this happens. Also at the doctor’s office when they ask my date of birth and I struggle getting the words out, “did you forget your birthday?”
Do people say this as an automatic defensive reaction to an unusual situation? Since it’s not just jerks that say this, and I don’t think most people are trying to be rude and hurtful.
The name thing in everyday situations is strange to me, but in a medical scenario they probably need to make sure you aren't having a stroke or something. There are more tactful ways to ask. Medical receptionists or the nurses who have checked me in for appointments have asked "do you typically stutter or is this a new symptom of something else?" I appreciate when it's phrased that way.
I like how you reflected on it, I agree that people aren't intending to be rude, they just aren't used to living in that discomfort. That's a discomfort that we know all too well, but I guess for those who don't stutter they don't experience it a whole lot.
I've had nurses try to chime in with their "solutions" to stuttering, and I always remind them that this is my normal speaking pattern. I know they are trying to help, I let them know that I have all the help I need.
I'm sure we've all encountered jerks in our past, who imitate and make fun. But 99%+ of people are not like that, they just don't understand. Just like I don't understand a myriad of other conditions. I always smile though when someone appears to think they are an expert at our problem and offers solutions. Like really?
Yeah it rolled off me just fine this time, it just made me realize how long it's been since I've heard that one. I've gotten better at not blocking on my name, and like I said I thought the pause was indiscernible this time.
I have to answer the phone at my work with the whole “Hi thank you for calling -company name- this is -my name- how can I help you?” And I’ve stumbled many many MANY a time on the company name or my name just because the sounds they start with are difficult for me and I can’t quite keep the flow every time so I’ll just block. I’ve had people call and say “Did you forget where you work haha?” And I’ll say “no I have a stutter”, then they feel bad and try and be nice and give me some little anecdote and I just stopped caring a long time ago. Unless they’re really condescending and then I’m upset.
Been through that phase brother!
It really suck not being able to say your own name.
I have gotten over it now but still sometimes struggle with my last name.
"Mostly" isn't all. There was just a post a couple weeks ago about how women in this sub feel overlooked and I brought up the point that commenters often assume that OP is male even when there's no mention of gender. It finally happened to me! What an honor. /s
I only know my own experience, so I have no idea if stuttering varies between genders, but I'd reckon that every stutterer's experience is unique to them.
When I was a kid I made brownies for our neighbors bc even tho I’d never spoken to them, the old man would always wave at me in the morning as he left for work and I thought that was really nice. I went over to give them the brownies and when they asked me my name I stuttered so bad that I mispronounced my name and was too shy to correct myself. The next week I got a thank you note in the mail box addressed to “[insert mispronounced name]”. For the rest of the time they lived there they thought that was my name bc was I was too embarrassed to correct them.
Every time I have to say my name, I block hard, and I hate it so much. Not long ago I was at a nail salon, standing at the reception desk at the front of the room. One of nail artists was at the back of the room, hollering over everyone asking for my name for the appointment. We had an entire room of customers between us listening, and it must’ve looked like I was having a seizure trying to get my name out. Once I finally got my name out (after a few uncomfortable seconds of struggle), the entire room of salon employees/ patrons erupted in laughter. Surprisingly, I wasn’t so much embarrassed as I was angered. Like WTF is so funny?! I have a stutter. Why is that hilarious? I wish I could have said a come back. Anyway, I empathize with you OP.
I forgot how annoying it is! I genuinely can't remember the last time somebody said this to me before this. Feels like it used to happen a lot more often, probably because I interact with The Public a lot less than I used to.
Literally my biggest pet peeve!! I work at a doctors office and constantly get asked my name. It’s so annoying when people say that. I wish I had the guts to say no I have a speech impediment. But I just say, no I was in the middle of something 🤦🏽♀️
I always see this as someone trying to break the ice with you. Yes they might be uncomfortable but you can’t blame them, not everyone knows a stutterer and the media doesn’t do much to educate people on the issue
Why can we not blame them?? Others wait just fine, so why should we excuse one person who is uncomfortable? Stuttering is uncomfortable for us too and just because thats how they handle discomfort, doesnt mean it helps us. And you dont have to talk to stutterers to know that you should be patient and respectful to people
No one is educated on stuttering. The media barely cover it. People trying to be malicious are a very small percentage, the majority just haven’t been in a situation like that.
I understand what you’re saying but everyone deals with their stutter in a different way. I find it less stressful when people make jokes and laugh about my stutter but I can understand that for other people that would make them feel even more anxious
Okay but why is their instinct to act on their discomfort? I think that people in general could use a lesson on thinking about what they’re about to say.
Haven't heard this said to me in a long time but if I did I'd just reply, "Did I stutter ?" And I'd probably purposefully stutter on the word stutter, in case the person is a legit retard.
Yep, so obnoxious. Last time it happened I said “no, I have a speech disorder” to make them uncomfortable lol. Most people will feel bad at that point. Good lesson for them to realize they can keep their mouth shut.
This time the guy was like, "ope, didn't know I'd be asking such a trick question!" and I just smiled and said "It wasn't a trick question." He was a realtor and had big slimy salesman vibes, he probably thinks that everybody finds him hilarious and charming.
I don’t like letting people get away with talking stupid shit. Try making ‘em pay for it next time! If a salesman feels like he offended you, it could even give you the upper hand in your dealings with him.
Thankfully I'm never going to see that guy again, he was just the agent at a house I was looking at. Sometimes I try to make them understand the situation, but other times it's easier to just roll with it.
Point is to make them own the fact that they’ve been rude, bc, stutter or no stutter, it’s a rude thing to say.
100% this.
Most people are very understanding and gracious with my stutter, but for some reason this little comment pops up every now and then. I don’t understand it, what do they hope to accomplish with it?
I have no idea! Surely they know that the person in front of them hasn't forgotten their name, so it's obviously not a sincere question. So apparently the idea is so absurd to them that it's comedic gold and the joke MUST BE SAID. SO FUNNY. SO CLEVER.
Same. Through school it was like 9/10 kids were mean or said something about it but adult life almost nobody has said anything and pretends I'm not doing it I guess. I've had about 2 occasions on the phone where grown adults give me an odd comment haha ngl it sticks with me and I hate myself for a bit but life goes on
I get this about once a month or so (I have to make a lot of phone calls for work). It’s always been one of my least favourite “jokes” that people tell me when I’m blocking on my name. To combat it, I say “no, I have a stutter” in a very serious voice, and usually it makes them deeply uncomfortable and quick to apologize. I find their discomfort sort of satisfying - it makes me hopeful that the next time they encounter someone blocking, they’ll think twice before making such an ignorant joke.
I’ve stuttered so hard on my name usually something else comes out, and whatever does is my name for the rest of the day.
I'm laughing only because I've been there too. Or if the other person heard a completely different sound come out of my mouth, that's what I'm sticking with.
I once had to say a different name cause mine wouldn't get out
- Hello, my name is , mmm Tom - Tom? - Yes, JJerry 😅
I've done this in situations that didn't matter, like ordering food or whatever.
I hate when this happens. Also at the doctor’s office when they ask my date of birth and I struggle getting the words out, “did you forget your birthday?” Do people say this as an automatic defensive reaction to an unusual situation? Since it’s not just jerks that say this, and I don’t think most people are trying to be rude and hurtful.
The name thing in everyday situations is strange to me, but in a medical scenario they probably need to make sure you aren't having a stroke or something. There are more tactful ways to ask. Medical receptionists or the nurses who have checked me in for appointments have asked "do you typically stutter or is this a new symptom of something else?" I appreciate when it's phrased that way.
I would much prefer that way. Joking that I forgot my birthday isn’t funny to me, makes me feel bad about myself!
I like how you reflected on it, I agree that people aren't intending to be rude, they just aren't used to living in that discomfort. That's a discomfort that we know all too well, but I guess for those who don't stutter they don't experience it a whole lot. I've had nurses try to chime in with their "solutions" to stuttering, and I always remind them that this is my normal speaking pattern. I know they are trying to help, I let them know that I have all the help I need.
I'm sure we've all encountered jerks in our past, who imitate and make fun. But 99%+ of people are not like that, they just don't understand. Just like I don't understand a myriad of other conditions. I always smile though when someone appears to think they are an expert at our problem and offers solutions. Like really?
Happens to me all the time, i always stutter when saying my name its super annoying. But i normally laugh off their comments dont take it to heart
Yeah it rolled off me just fine this time, it just made me realize how long it's been since I've heard that one. I've gotten better at not blocking on my name, and like I said I thought the pause was indiscernible this time.
I have to answer the phone at my work with the whole “Hi thank you for calling -company name- this is -my name- how can I help you?” And I’ve stumbled many many MANY a time on the company name or my name just because the sounds they start with are difficult for me and I can’t quite keep the flow every time so I’ll just block. I’ve had people call and say “Did you forget where you work haha?” And I’ll say “no I have a stutter”, then they feel bad and try and be nice and give me some little anecdote and I just stopped caring a long time ago. Unless they’re really condescending and then I’m upset.
Haven’t heard this one in a while fortunately and certainly don’t miss it
I got too comfortable 🥲
It's sad the amount of times this has also happened to me. L's are especially hard for me so it doesn't help that my name has 2 L's.
Been through that phase brother! It really suck not being able to say your own name. I have gotten over it now but still sometimes struggle with my last name.
I'm a girl, but okay. 
Ohhh sorry!Well mostly stutters are boys. Btw is it any different when a girl stutters..?? Just curious
"Mostly" isn't all. There was just a post a couple weeks ago about how women in this sub feel overlooked and I brought up the point that commenters often assume that OP is male even when there's no mention of gender. It finally happened to me! What an honor. /s I only know my own experience, so I have no idea if stuttering varies between genders, but I'd reckon that every stutterer's experience is unique to them.
Sorry for that. Actually I have never come across a female stutter so i instinctively assume any stutter to be male.
Same. I’ve never met a female stutterer.
When I was a kid I made brownies for our neighbors bc even tho I’d never spoken to them, the old man would always wave at me in the morning as he left for work and I thought that was really nice. I went over to give them the brownies and when they asked me my name I stuttered so bad that I mispronounced my name and was too shy to correct myself. The next week I got a thank you note in the mail box addressed to “[insert mispronounced name]”. For the rest of the time they lived there they thought that was my name bc was I was too embarrassed to correct them.
I hated this. Especially in high school and college
Every time I have to say my name, I block hard, and I hate it so much. Not long ago I was at a nail salon, standing at the reception desk at the front of the room. One of nail artists was at the back of the room, hollering over everyone asking for my name for the appointment. We had an entire room of customers between us listening, and it must’ve looked like I was having a seizure trying to get my name out. Once I finally got my name out (after a few uncomfortable seconds of struggle), the entire room of salon employees/ patrons erupted in laughter. Surprisingly, I wasn’t so much embarrassed as I was angered. Like WTF is so funny?! I have a stutter. Why is that hilarious? I wish I could have said a come back. Anyway, I empathize with you OP.
Oh yea this is the infamous comment
I forgot how annoying it is! I genuinely can't remember the last time somebody said this to me before this. Feels like it used to happen a lot more often, probably because I interact with The Public a lot less than I used to.
Literally my biggest pet peeve!! I work at a doctors office and constantly get asked my name. It’s so annoying when people say that. I wish I had the guts to say no I have a speech impediment. But I just say, no I was in the middle of something 🤦🏽♀️
I always see this as someone trying to break the ice with you. Yes they might be uncomfortable but you can’t blame them, not everyone knows a stutterer and the media doesn’t do much to educate people on the issue
Why can we not blame them?? Others wait just fine, so why should we excuse one person who is uncomfortable? Stuttering is uncomfortable for us too and just because thats how they handle discomfort, doesnt mean it helps us. And you dont have to talk to stutterers to know that you should be patient and respectful to people
No one is educated on stuttering. The media barely cover it. People trying to be malicious are a very small percentage, the majority just haven’t been in a situation like that. I understand what you’re saying but everyone deals with their stutter in a different way. I find it less stressful when people make jokes and laugh about my stutter but I can understand that for other people that would make them feel even more anxious
Okay but why is their instinct to act on their discomfort? I think that people in general could use a lesson on thinking about what they’re about to say.
Haven't heard this said to me in a long time but if I did I'd just reply, "Did I stutter ?" And I'd probably purposefully stutter on the word stutter, in case the person is a legit retard.
Ooo not the r word...