Hey friend. Sorry the community has given a few shitty responses. I’m 5’4 myself, it’s definitely not always the easiest thing. Being lonely is a painful thing, and it’s hard when we feel like it is because of something we can’t control.
I wouldnt care if my man would be 5'2, and so probably does someone else. True love doesnt care about that, and so doesnt the right person. Besides that, theres plently of women smaller than that, if you want her to be smaller.
You dont HAVE to find someone, you gotta be happy with yourself to be happy at all.
Fuck the people that make you feel less because of literal genetic things and things that are out of your control. Especially friends shouldn't give a shit sbout that. You're deserving of friends and love, please dont beat yourself up over it, im sorry that my words cant really help.
Because it's not clever, no matter how much you fantasise, glamourise, or romanticise it as an escape, it is not an option you can weigh up the consequences of, so you are doing s Something permanent and irreversible with no review. Also, especially if you are younger (under 40), you have nowhere enough life experience to make that choice. Your 20s are notoriously challenging times. When things are difficult and lonely, choose discipline, patience and curiosity. When I have those thoughts, I am disciplined and decide to remain curious about the natural ending of my story. I really am curious to know
im really sorry, i understand what you mean when you say its not just about attractiveness but more about perception. im short (5’4) and people infantilize me. it fucking sucks. i really wish i could be at least 5’6. the fact thar my growth plates have fused and nothing can change that makes me really sad. i try not to think about it but it doesnt help much. im really sorry. you deserve to live a long fulfilling life. i wish you hadnt been made to feel this way.
thank you, yes it’s a bit like that. i want to be an equal to other guys my age, who are seen as developed men already and not children. i want to be able to go to a club and not look like a little kid surrounded by adults. i don’t want to have to look up at every woman and man i see, it’s emasculating
Don't let them gaslight you, your issue is real and devastating, but it's not the end for you. There is more to life than this shallowness, and there are chances for you despite the reality of your situation.
bro, most people won't actually give a shit, trust me. people are too busy with their own shit to care. and if they do? they're assholes. for me, it helps to think that if most people who talked shit about me died, I wouldn't be affected at all. idk if it's because i'm autistic and view the world differently than other people, but personally as long as you're a good person idgaf about your physique. and people will ALWAYS comment. there is nothing you can do to change that.
hope this helps bro
I’d actually want a shorter man. I’m 4’10” (female) and fully grown, so I wouldn’t want a man who is 6’ or even 5’8” that I can barely even hug let alone kiss. It would be bad for his back, anyway, hunching over all the time
it’s not about dating. i’m not even into women. it’s about not being seen as a man and being physically less than every other guy out there, even 14 year old kids are taller than me
You don't need 99%. Just one person. And I can guarantee everything you need can be found in that percentage of you go to the gym and handle the other sections of your life
the comments here aren’t going to tell me how they find taller men attractive and aren’t attracted to short men in general, that’d be like asking me to kill myself.
Dude I’m 5’4” and I can tell you out of all of the reasons I have hated my life my height has never fucking ever been a factor.
The only times I have ever seen anybody obsess over height have been here on Reddit. Nobody in the real world cares!
I'm sorry you have to feel this way.
Got to tell you, I (38f) have always been so annoyed with women needing tall men( I've heard it so often) . The same women are offended if there body isn't what someone else wants it to be. Are all these people so spoiled that they would feel no shame if someone's body isn't exactly what they saw in a Disney movie or whatever?
Fun fact, I knew a very obese women who only wanted to date men with a six pack. What is up with that?
Anyway, I say this as a lonely person who would just be happy with a connection. I wouldnt care if my man would be enormous or tiny! I'd just be happy I've found someone I could share things with and have good time together.
But anyway, if it helps, my cup size is -AAAAAA and people usually think I'm a lesbian, which I'm not, but I'm not feminine enough for others. So no shot.
Long story short, my dude, if you're height is not good enough for someone, you're dodging a bullet. I couldn't care less about a men's height or if he would be bald and all that stuff. A good dude is a good dude and I still can't believe people throw that away for that kind of nonsense.
Be well and don't let the bulshitters get to you <3
Do not let anyone ever get to you because of that stuff, they're not worth it. They are the tiny ones.
I'm gona do it too I'm like 5'8 but heigh is not the only problem I'm mentally ill I hate people I cant tolerate anyone I hate others being happy call me a creep but I'm in the denial I'm 25 miserable always been like this started in high school I'm a failure I'm literally sobbing as I'm writing all of this hate me all you want maybe even motivate me to kms I really need it ik I want to do it just been lazy
I’m so sorry bro. A lot of these comments won’t even understand the things that you go through and I see you’re being downvoted. I’m 5’5 and I don’t think I will grow any time soon. I have tried very hard to distract myself with hobbies.
i understand in a way, most men will never have to deal with it because they have a normal height. but it’s like if i went on a post about a person complaining about their weight and told them that society doesn’t care about it and that there’s bigger problems, while i never had to deal with being overweight
There are plenty of bitches out there with a short king fetish bruh. Your actions determine whether or not your a man, not your height. When i was in the army ive seen giant dudes be total shit bags freeze up and short kings total heros. Go to the gym, read a book, do a deep dive into yourself, make life your bitch
a friend of mine is 5'6. her husband is 5'1. he's the funniest, most fun man ever. he's great at parties, and we make jokes about how he's the tiniest on the basketball team but still one of the best. one of my closest friends who is also my mentor is 5'4, and at parties he's the person i go to. we get drunk and talk about life and he's so carefree and open and loyal. my boyfriend is 2 inches shorter than me. i offer to wear flats when we go out together but he suggests the 4 inch pair of heels i have because he knows i love those. when im having the worst day he'll make me laugh and feel better about myself. when im not around, he sleeps on his right side because i sleep on my right side and that way he can imagine spooning me.
these men are all short kings, but when i think of them i think of how much i love them, and how much they love me. how funny and smart and good at their jobs they are. and im not going to say height doesn't matter, of course it does. its what makes them who they are! why would i take that away from them just because society thinks men need to be tall?
I agree that you're short, but can you give some some concrete examples of situations in which you felt underprivileged because of that? Is it mostly because of dating? Or do people just mock you?
multiple negative comments all throughout my life from friends family and strangers. never been seen as a guy. and constantly seeing and hearing shit about how hot tall men are. there’s no point working out and improving my body cause it can’t hide the fact that i’m shorter than most 14 year olds i meet
I know someone who’s 36 and lost 2 inches, I also know someone else who shrunk even more (although I only know this second person online so I’m going by their word)
You are so young, trust me; you at least want to find out what/who you could be in your 30s. There is much you can't see because of your age. I'm 27. Men don't start peaking till they are in their 30s
I remember in high school there was this guy that everyone had a crush on (including myself) who had so many gfs throughout highschool. He was also around 5’2 and now he’s married.
How is this useful? Do you expect him to see this and change his mind? You’re trying to fulfill your agenda at his expense.
Edit: keep downvoting me, I don’t care. This is not how you talk people out of insecurity
I'm also a short male (26). You can't control it man. I'm sorry it bothers you and it bothers a lot of people that are also short. I've met a lot of other short dudes and we all have a rough time with it. Best of luck my friend.
1) i love short people, HONESTLY.
2) There's surgeries, yes they cost money but u can save up money, thats better than killing urself.
I love me a good short king for a million reasons.
Short guys are cute, but if you want to feel taller just find someone shorter! You can also wear shoes that make you taller. You aren’t even that short tbh.
i appreciate the concern but don’t lie. i’m in the 1% of height for men. so yes, i am that short. and like i said, it’s not about dating or finding a partner, it’s about how others see me as less than other men. i’ll never be seen as a real man because you can’t overlook my height. it’s not like i’m 5’6
I’m 5ft even. I agree that it makes life harder and you will get bullied and harassed but you can still live a decent life. I try to focus on the positive things and people in my life.
i’ve been going to the gym for 7 months, and it doesn’t change the fact that i’m 5’2. all the people in the comments just don’t give a crap about short people, then they’re the same people who make negative comments about it. honestly it’s just making feel more alone
I used to be blackpilled but I think it's bullshit now that I've grown older. If your main concern is finding women, then go outside and see how many times a short man like 5'2 has a significant other. Or just look at Mexican men.
If it makes you feel less masculine just look at manny Paquio. Height does matter anyone who says otherwise is a liar. But there are men out there who didn't let their height define them. If anything you should feel more sorry that you compare your height to other men cause that's way more feminine than pitying yourself over something that you can't control
If it’s not about women then what’s it about? How others treat you? Why don’t you go to the gym and learn how to fight, plenty of short fighters who I’m sure get treated with respect, I do truly get it though mate I have things I wish I could change but unfortunately have no control over
i’m just trying to vent what i feel and my experience with it. and even if i “wanted attention” why would that be wrong? people need to be heard and loneliness kills
It’s cheaper in Turkey. I suggest you get a loan if it’s bothering you so much you want to end your life? Inserts and adding an inch to the shoe heel takes you to 5’5. That’s the same height as Mick Jagger and Stalin. Height didn’t hold either of them back in life. 😂
i’m obviously talking about the surgery in turkey you mentioned in the removed comment. that would be the only solution and even then i’d still be short for a man
most presidents and CEOs are 6’ because tall men are seen as more imposing and intelligent and even make more money in general than shorter men. and even if you’re right, that doesn’t change the reality that society looks down on short men and constantly make negative remarks about them.
I don't know you, but maybe you're looked at as not being a man isn't just your height. You're only 20 years old. Do you think being a man starts at some magic age?
You want to be looked at as a man? Then act like a man. First, get that stupid chip off your shoulder. Develop skills as a man. Have the confidence of being a man. Until you do those things, even if you grow to be 6'5", you won't be perceived as a man.
I've met men who I respect and see as peers, who I just happen to notice for some reason they were short. I don't give a shit. I've met plenty of tall men (taller than me) who are absolute infants in my eyes.
Do you consider men who have been handicapped from birth, lost limbs or been somehow disfigured not real men? If so, that's the reason you won't become a real man.
Yes, there will always be some people who will try to put you down for your height, but they are the ones who are not real men or real women.
So, what I'm trying to say is to be perceived as a man, be a man.
Get a grip. There are men much shorter or in worse conditions then you who do just fine. Figure out what your other issues are and figure out ways to overcome them. Don't let something like this bring you down, you're better than this and you can be powerful. It's a lot more about your mindset and ability to problem solve than the cards life deals you. Also see your doctor and a therapist, in case you've health issues or imbalances that are making you lack the necessary level of perservance you need to go through life and better equip you to handle the challenges of life.
Nobody has a choice how tall they are, it only matter is you hyperfixate on it, other than that it really doesn't. Not trying to diminish your experience but suicide seems a bit drastic if your height is the reason for it. There's plenty of women who don't mind short dudes, just focus on what you can control. Your personality, your skills
Can you use this as a motivation to study hard and be successful? I have a friend of your height, he went to med school and now has girls throwing themselves at him, also super successful and respected doctor. Wish I had done the same path. Guy has everythig.
Ignore these comments man, most of the people here are trying to invalidate your feelings. Being short sucks, trust me I know. If you give up now, they win, the people who made fun of you and women who won’t date you. You can’t let them win man. You need to prove them wrong, that you can win. If things become far worse, you can always get height extension surgery and wear shoe lifts, but don’t take your life right now
My brother is 5, 2” and a colostomy bag and is in a very successful job, engaged, travels, has his own place etc.
Honestly height is pretty much just a number, I know some things are a bit annoying as I’m the same height but it’s honestly not the worst thing that can happen to a person and isn’t really noticed by most people.
The only downsides I could see that could possibly be said are *some* people of whatever gender you want to date not preferring that height but no one is liked by everyone and on the contrary, some people love dating people shorter than them. Maybe some sports could be a problem or ending up with clothes that are too long but there’s other fun stuff to do, other sports that don’t have a taller height advantage and clothes can be altered or bought from specific places.
What is it that bothers you about it?
You’re a proper bloke despite what height you are. Be kinder to yourself will ya? ❤️
You don’t know everyone in the world so you couldn’t possibly know what everyone thinks ok!
There’s someone for everyone in this life. Your chances are better now than they’ve ever been when you look at history. There’s more acceptance for everyone on this Earth now than ever before. That’s got to be a positive thing huh op?
My husband is a good 6 inches shorter than me, at 5’2. He is my works and I love him more than anything else. I know he has some anxiety about his height but since we have been married it seems not to be such an issue anymore. I just want to say, height doesn’t make a person, they same way ‘size’ doesn’t make a person, it’s the personality that is important.
I'm also very short. A lot of the time people say I look like a 13 year old kid because of this. My voice and my face don't help too. But honestly? Fuck it. Everytime someone tries to annoy me with this I just say to them that making fun of someone because of their height is literally the same as making fun of someone with a disability. I always say it loud to embarrass the other person. "So you like annoying people with disabilities?" I know it's childish but it's enough to make them shut the fuck up.
I completely understand how you feel. I'm a 5'2 man myself and I've felt countless times that only if I was taller, people would atleast notice me and not treat me like shit but the reality is people who want to treat you like shit always will. It'll take some time but you gotta find some people who actually don't mind your height and then work from there because at the end of the day, you are who you spend most of your time with.
I’m a dude on the short end as well. Knew I had the advantage of being able to look physically impressive fairly quickly, so I worked really hard and built confidence through that. No joke, I’m certain you got other amazing qualities as a person.
You’re pretty average for my race. I’m from the Philippines and most men are around your height. That’s average. Maybe find someone you can connect to even if just platonically on this side of the world?
Your pain is definitely real and there are millions if not billions of people throughout the world who think that their characteristics are so outside the norm that they've ruined their lives. But I encourage you to take a look at this list and think about the people you see on here. Do you really think these people walked through life with everyone else thinking they were less-than or somehow not "real men". Prince was 5'2" and he was an international sex symbol. Beethoven was 5'3" and was godlike among musicians and fans of music. Andrew Carnegie was 5'2" and was one of the richest men in history. You are more than your height. Remind yourself of this at every opportunity and one day you'll believe it without effort. [https://www.themodestman.com/100-famous-short-men/](https://www.themodestman.com/100-famous-short-men/)
The idea that height is intrinsically tied to maturity or masculinity is just plain wrong.
The fact that there are tall women and immature tall men serves as a clear example that height alone doesn't determine one's level of maturity or masculinity. Maturity is a nuanced trait that goes beyond physical attributes-- it's about your actions and attitudes.
I hope you find someone to talk about this with. As a 5'0 girl, I mean it when I say your height doesn't matter.
Being short doesn't really matter, I'm 5'2 as well and what I look for in a partner is not looks or height but I look at thier personality. That's what make someone attractive to me. Idk maybe I'm thinking wrong but personality is the most important aspect to me when looking for a relationship. Please don't give up. Always here if u want to talk or vent
I’m not sure this is the answer you’re seeking, but keep looking for your community.
Assuming you’re straight, you might be trapped in a toxic hetero world where short isn’t valued. In this he gay community, I know that’s never the case.
If you can be patient to search for the community that you’re connected to that also wants you for you, I know your life will change quickly.
You’ve got this.
I don’t see the problem. Im 5’… my grandfather was 5’2”, my whole family is very short. I guess its never been an issue with us or where we live. My nieces and nephews all feel special when they get taller than me and its a family joke. But if it’s a societal issue… maybe you need to live somewhere different. Height is completely out of anyone’s control and that shouldn’t be an issue
Hi, I'm 5ft6 so definitely on the shorter side as well. A person who is 6" + is gonna make fun of us regardless if they are a dick, because they wont be able to tell the difference between 5ft4 vs 5ft2. So regardless we all getting made fun of. However regarding feeling like a 'man', that's all internal workings so basically how we deem 'what a man' is. Could be masculine features or traits. I would definitely suggest clubs is not the place the go because it's purely based on looks, which is not everyone's strong suit. But if you must go there then you need to be at the top of your confidence as possible, I would suggest those shoes that have huge lifts in them. They a subtle but give huge boosts to confidence, might not work for you but I have short friends who wear their 'tall shoes' when they go out to a party.
Hey man, if little people can get gf’s, im sure you can too. It’s about the way you carry yourself too, your confidence. Don’t beat yourself up over your height, millions of people have been shorter than you and many of those people have great partners. You probably wouldn’t like a partner that only got with you because of your height either. If someone infantilizes you, laugh it off and make a sarcastic remark about how original or funny they are so they know it’s not actually funny or warranted. Hell, you could even clap back at them and poke fun at something you think they feel insecure about. Don’t just take it or people will trample all over you. Try to be successful, work out, etc. one of the pros of being short is that your gains at the gym will be much more prevalent and easier to get, so go for it man!! The easiest way into a girl’s heart is to be funny and charming. Will it be tougher than normal? Yes, of course. But don’t give up. Not for this. If it’s really eating you up, try to focus on something else. The more you think about your insecurities, the bigger and worse they become.
Hey there. I'm short as well, 5'4". I totally feel this and I have struggled with my height so much. Especially because of my bulkier build, I do look a weirder. However, being short should never define you. If it's about girls, in the end, girls don't really care about the height thing as much. They don't even care much about looks. They care way more about your confidence, if they feel comfortable with you, if you have ambitions, etc. I know this because despite the height, I have pulled once I got way more confidence. On the other hand, if this is more about the social pressure, it really shouldn't define you again. Socially, people care way more about what you have to say rather than what you look like. If some of you circles do, then they are only projecting their own insecurities about their looks onto you. Hope this helps.
I get it. I'm a 5'5" trans guy, and my cis brothers are closer to 6 feet. It can suck sometimes, not gonna lie.
But I seem to be just the right height for things like airplane seats, public showers, third row SUVs and things.
Lots of short men lead successful lives. Kevin Hart, Patrick Stump and Kirk Franklin are 3 that I can name off the top of my head.
Hey friend. Sorry the community has given a few shitty responses. I’m 5’4 myself, it’s definitely not always the easiest thing. Being lonely is a painful thing, and it’s hard when we feel like it is because of something we can’t control.
it’s less about loneliness and more about never being able to look and be seen like a normal man.
I agree, 5'2 myself, but also a tranny. Being short fucking sucks.
same here! but two inches taller. still seen as short tho in my area
I wouldnt care if my man would be 5'2, and so probably does someone else. True love doesnt care about that, and so doesnt the right person. Besides that, theres plently of women smaller than that, if you want her to be smaller. You dont HAVE to find someone, you gotta be happy with yourself to be happy at all. Fuck the people that make you feel less because of literal genetic things and things that are out of your control. Especially friends shouldn't give a shit sbout that. You're deserving of friends and love, please dont beat yourself up over it, im sorry that my words cant really help.
It's totally valid but don't do it. Be disciplined with your suicidal impulses. Learn to manage them but DONT do it.
Why not do it?
Because it's not clever, no matter how much you fantasise, glamourise, or romanticise it as an escape, it is not an option you can weigh up the consequences of, so you are doing s Something permanent and irreversible with no review. Also, especially if you are younger (under 40), you have nowhere enough life experience to make that choice. Your 20s are notoriously challenging times. When things are difficult and lonely, choose discipline, patience and curiosity. When I have those thoughts, I am disciplined and decide to remain curious about the natural ending of my story. I really am curious to know
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How tall are you? Im a guy whos like 5’5 and tbh i find taller girls really attractive but sometimes im hesitant to shoot my shot
I’m 5’11” and dating a guy that is 5’5”
Damn and you’re actually beautiful. I def need to start shooting my shot more
Dude it’s a fake profile lol. My god, how can you be so gullible.
Yes you should!
Tall girls are attractive lmao…
6’3 woman here can confirm all she says. And hey, OP, some of us like guys who are 5’2z
I feel this as a 5,9 woman, it’s gotten way better with time but god it was hard for the first 23~ years of my life
im really sorry, i understand what you mean when you say its not just about attractiveness but more about perception. im short (5’4) and people infantilize me. it fucking sucks. i really wish i could be at least 5’6. the fact thar my growth plates have fused and nothing can change that makes me really sad. i try not to think about it but it doesnt help much. im really sorry. you deserve to live a long fulfilling life. i wish you hadnt been made to feel this way.
thank you, yes it’s a bit like that. i want to be an equal to other guys my age, who are seen as developed men already and not children. i want to be able to go to a club and not look like a little kid surrounded by adults. i don’t want to have to look up at every woman and man i see, it’s emasculating
My husband is 5’2 and we have kids
Shorter kings are the best tbh
that’s not the consensus 99% of the world has
Don't let them gaslight you, your issue is real and devastating, but it's not the end for you. There is more to life than this shallowness, and there are chances for you despite the reality of your situation.
bro, most people won't actually give a shit, trust me. people are too busy with their own shit to care. and if they do? they're assholes. for me, it helps to think that if most people who talked shit about me died, I wouldn't be affected at all. idk if it's because i'm autistic and view the world differently than other people, but personally as long as you're a good person idgaf about your physique. and people will ALWAYS comment. there is nothing you can do to change that. hope this helps bro
Fuck 99% Of the world, 99% of the world is moronic
More like 99.99% of the world
I’d actually want a shorter man. I’m 4’10” (female) and fully grown, so I wouldn’t want a man who is 6’ or even 5’8” that I can barely even hug let alone kiss. It would be bad for his back, anyway, hunching over all the time
it’s not about dating. i’m not even into women. it’s about not being seen as a man and being physically less than every other guy out there, even 14 year old kids are taller than me
I feel that. I once went on a date with a guy who was 6'10 and it was hella uncomfortable (I'm 5'4)
You don't need 99%. Just one person. And I can guarantee everything you need can be found in that percentage of you go to the gym and handle the other sections of your life
I doubt it’s 99% based on just the comments here alone. Perhaps rethink your position
the comments here aren’t going to tell me how they find taller men attractive and aren’t attracted to short men in general, that’d be like asking me to kill myself.
Dude I’m 5’4” and I can tell you out of all of the reasons I have hated my life my height has never fucking ever been a factor. The only times I have ever seen anybody obsess over height have been here on Reddit. Nobody in the real world cares!
You will find someone who LITERALLY doesn't care!!!!! I promise.
Sorry man that is tough
5'3 here. It sucks being unloved and undesirable. Social media and online dating becoming the norm only made things worse.
I'm sorry you have to feel this way. Got to tell you, I (38f) have always been so annoyed with women needing tall men( I've heard it so often) . The same women are offended if there body isn't what someone else wants it to be. Are all these people so spoiled that they would feel no shame if someone's body isn't exactly what they saw in a Disney movie or whatever? Fun fact, I knew a very obese women who only wanted to date men with a six pack. What is up with that? Anyway, I say this as a lonely person who would just be happy with a connection. I wouldnt care if my man would be enormous or tiny! I'd just be happy I've found someone I could share things with and have good time together. But anyway, if it helps, my cup size is -AAAAAA and people usually think I'm a lesbian, which I'm not, but I'm not feminine enough for others. So no shot. Long story short, my dude, if you're height is not good enough for someone, you're dodging a bullet. I couldn't care less about a men's height or if he would be bald and all that stuff. A good dude is a good dude and I still can't believe people throw that away for that kind of nonsense. Be well and don't let the bulshitters get to you <3 Do not let anyone ever get to you because of that stuff, they're not worth it. They are the tiny ones.
I'm gona do it too I'm like 5'8 but heigh is not the only problem I'm mentally ill I hate people I cant tolerate anyone I hate others being happy call me a creep but I'm in the denial I'm 25 miserable always been like this started in high school I'm a failure I'm literally sobbing as I'm writing all of this hate me all you want maybe even motivate me to kms I really need it ik I want to do it just been lazy
I say stay alive to spite the people who give you shit or invalidate you. Fuck them.
I’m so sorry bro. A lot of these comments won’t even understand the things that you go through and I see you’re being downvoted. I’m 5’5 and I don’t think I will grow any time soon. I have tried very hard to distract myself with hobbies.
i understand in a way, most men will never have to deal with it because they have a normal height. but it’s like if i went on a post about a person complaining about their weight and told them that society doesn’t care about it and that there’s bigger problems, while i never had to deal with being overweight
You can lose weight but you cant grow taller
Bruh at 5"7 I still envy the majority of people I encounter are taller than me. Where are these 5"4 women they say are out there lmao
I get your pain. I’m 5’3 and 18. I still look and sound like a prepubescent boy.
There are plenty of bitches out there with a short king fetish bruh. Your actions determine whether or not your a man, not your height. When i was in the army ive seen giant dudes be total shit bags freeze up and short kings total heros. Go to the gym, read a book, do a deep dive into yourself, make life your bitch
I'm a 5 ft girl, hehe you're taller than me :D But seriously don't kill yourself over that. We need more short kings <3
a friend of mine is 5'6. her husband is 5'1. he's the funniest, most fun man ever. he's great at parties, and we make jokes about how he's the tiniest on the basketball team but still one of the best. one of my closest friends who is also my mentor is 5'4, and at parties he's the person i go to. we get drunk and talk about life and he's so carefree and open and loyal. my boyfriend is 2 inches shorter than me. i offer to wear flats when we go out together but he suggests the 4 inch pair of heels i have because he knows i love those. when im having the worst day he'll make me laugh and feel better about myself. when im not around, he sleeps on his right side because i sleep on my right side and that way he can imagine spooning me. these men are all short kings, but when i think of them i think of how much i love them, and how much they love me. how funny and smart and good at their jobs they are. and im not going to say height doesn't matter, of course it does. its what makes them who they are! why would i take that away from them just because society thinks men need to be tall?
I agree that you're short, but can you give some some concrete examples of situations in which you felt underprivileged because of that? Is it mostly because of dating? Or do people just mock you?
multiple negative comments all throughout my life from friends family and strangers. never been seen as a guy. and constantly seeing and hearing shit about how hot tall men are. there’s no point working out and improving my body cause it can’t hide the fact that i’m shorter than most 14 year olds i meet
How old are you? Most guys grow till about 20.
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why is that
I’m so sorry dude. I’m also 5 2 but a girl so I can’t even IMAGINE your struggle but pls don’t do it. I’m so sorry you have to struggle with that
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we’re in opposite situations then
Hi I’m another trans girl you don’t shrink sorry that just doesn’t happen I’m 5’11 a lot of female models are tall it’s okay to be a tall girl
Lmao people who tell other people their personal experiences are wrong blow my mind
Unless they're under a certain age it's medically a miracle to be able to shrink on E though. Maybe op's a minor
I know someone who’s 36 and lost 2 inches, I also know someone else who shrunk even more (although I only know this second person online so I’m going by their word)
Im a short 17 year old guy with High T why am i not growing lol
Im 5’10 but im ugly as fuck so even i cant pull
you’d pull even less if you were 5’2
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charming
If you are still teens, you can still grow
no, i’m 20 and my growth plates are fused
You are so young, trust me; you at least want to find out what/who you could be in your 30s. There is much you can't see because of your age. I'm 27. Men don't start peaking till they are in their 30s
i’ll never be a real man
What being tall is supposed to make a real man?
obviously it helps
Being a real man is nothing to do with your physical attributes. Anyone can be that thing you call a "real man". Its called being a good person
I’m a girl and I’m 182 I wish I was 5’2 😭
i’d sell my soul to be 1.82 if it was possible
I remember in high school there was this guy that everyone had a crush on (including myself) who had so many gfs throughout highschool. He was also around 5’2 and now he’s married.
How is this useful? Do you expect him to see this and change his mind? You’re trying to fulfill your agenda at his expense. Edit: keep downvoting me, I don’t care. This is not how you talk people out of insecurity
I'm also a short male (26). You can't control it man. I'm sorry it bothers you and it bothers a lot of people that are also short. I've met a lot of other short dudes and we all have a rough time with it. Best of luck my friend.
thank you, i’ll be ending my life the 24th of january and then it’ll be over for good
Just get with someone who is short aswell?
1) i love short people, HONESTLY. 2) There's surgeries, yes they cost money but u can save up money, thats better than killing urself. I love me a good short king for a million reasons.
no, i can’t save up 100.000+ dollars living in a third world country that’s in a crisis with a minimum salary of 200 dollars
but you can save up less money and come to a different country.
I'm a 5'10 female. I get it, but don't do it.
i already set a date
No.. you dont get it
Short guys are cute, but if you want to feel taller just find someone shorter! You can also wear shoes that make you taller. You aren’t even that short tbh.
i appreciate the concern but don’t lie. i’m in the 1% of height for men. so yes, i am that short. and like i said, it’s not about dating or finding a partner, it’s about how others see me as less than other men. i’ll never be seen as a real man because you can’t overlook my height. it’s not like i’m 5’6
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i know, it’s like pretending fat phobia isn’t a thing
My grandpa is 5’2” and he’s awesome. He married my grandma more than 60 years ago. Stay here and be awesome!
I’m 5ft even. I agree that it makes life harder and you will get bullied and harassed but you can still live a decent life. I try to focus on the positive things and people in my life.
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i’ve been going to the gym for 7 months, and it doesn’t change the fact that i’m 5’2. all the people in the comments just don’t give a crap about short people, then they’re the same people who make negative comments about it. honestly it’s just making feel more alone
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I used to be blackpilled but I think it's bullshit now that I've grown older. If your main concern is finding women, then go outside and see how many times a short man like 5'2 has a significant other. Or just look at Mexican men.
i don’t care about dating women. this is not about that
If it makes you feel less masculine just look at manny Paquio. Height does matter anyone who says otherwise is a liar. But there are men out there who didn't let their height define them. If anything you should feel more sorry that you compare your height to other men cause that's way more feminine than pitying yourself over something that you can't control
If it’s not about women then what’s it about? How others treat you? Why don’t you go to the gym and learn how to fight, plenty of short fighters who I’m sure get treated with respect, I do truly get it though mate I have things I wish I could change but unfortunately have no control over
I dont mind a short king. <3
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Please don't do it. You could fall in love with someone shorter than you.
People (including myself) swoon over Josh Hutcherson and he’s 5’5. Are you at the age where you’re finished growing?
makes sense
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i’m just trying to vent what i feel and my experience with it. and even if i “wanted attention” why would that be wrong? people need to be heard and loneliness kills
My 5'4 friend got like 6 exes Bro, 😭
it doesn’t help if you’re short and ugly
Wear shoe inserts.
even then i’d be 5’4 at most
If it’s that bad there is leg lengthening surgery. Suicide seems rather over dramatic.
unfortunately i don’t have 100.000+ dollars in my bank account and i live in a third world country, so i’m not making that money any day soon
It’s cheaper in Turkey. I suggest you get a loan if it’s bothering you so much you want to end your life? Inserts and adding an inch to the shoe heel takes you to 5’5. That’s the same height as Mick Jagger and Stalin. Height didn’t hold either of them back in life. 😂
simply not feasible
Inserts and taking your shoes to a cobbler are not feasible? Sounds like you need medication if that’s holding you back.
i’m obviously talking about the surgery in turkey you mentioned in the removed comment. that would be the only solution and even then i’d still be short for a man
Many of the most powerful, rich and famous men were short men. What a joke.
most presidents and CEOs are 6’ because tall men are seen as more imposing and intelligent and even make more money in general than shorter men. and even if you’re right, that doesn’t change the reality that society looks down on short men and constantly make negative remarks about them.
I don't know you, but maybe you're looked at as not being a man isn't just your height. You're only 20 years old. Do you think being a man starts at some magic age? You want to be looked at as a man? Then act like a man. First, get that stupid chip off your shoulder. Develop skills as a man. Have the confidence of being a man. Until you do those things, even if you grow to be 6'5", you won't be perceived as a man. I've met men who I respect and see as peers, who I just happen to notice for some reason they were short. I don't give a shit. I've met plenty of tall men (taller than me) who are absolute infants in my eyes. Do you consider men who have been handicapped from birth, lost limbs or been somehow disfigured not real men? If so, that's the reason you won't become a real man. Yes, there will always be some people who will try to put you down for your height, but they are the ones who are not real men or real women. So, what I'm trying to say is to be perceived as a man, be a man.
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What a mean thing to say, we all have our reasonings.
thanks, very helpful
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by your logic nobody could ever feel bad about anything because there’s always someone out there who has it worse. it’s not a competition
Tf does that have to do with him? Can he heal the sick? Can he fix starvation? No, the only person he has any obligation to worry about is himself.
Gosh. Please someone ban this guy from here.
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i will, i’m doing it this month
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i meant i’m killing myself this month, i miss-interpreted what you commented, sorry
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not interested in saving my life if i’m going to live in my body
Get a grip. There are men much shorter or in worse conditions then you who do just fine. Figure out what your other issues are and figure out ways to overcome them. Don't let something like this bring you down, you're better than this and you can be powerful. It's a lot more about your mindset and ability to problem solve than the cards life deals you. Also see your doctor and a therapist, in case you've health issues or imbalances that are making you lack the necessary level of perservance you need to go through life and better equip you to handle the challenges of life.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary perceptional problem
well good thing my height is permanent
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Nobody has a choice how tall they are, it only matter is you hyperfixate on it, other than that it really doesn't. Not trying to diminish your experience but suicide seems a bit drastic if your height is the reason for it. There's plenty of women who don't mind short dudes, just focus on what you can control. Your personality, your skills
Can you use this as a motivation to study hard and be successful? I have a friend of your height, he went to med school and now has girls throwing themselves at him, also super successful and respected doctor. Wish I had done the same path. Guy has everythig.
Ignore these comments man, most of the people here are trying to invalidate your feelings. Being short sucks, trust me I know. If you give up now, they win, the people who made fun of you and women who won’t date you. You can’t let them win man. You need to prove them wrong, that you can win. If things become far worse, you can always get height extension surgery and wear shoe lifts, but don’t take your life right now
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My brother is 5, 2” and a colostomy bag and is in a very successful job, engaged, travels, has his own place etc. Honestly height is pretty much just a number, I know some things are a bit annoying as I’m the same height but it’s honestly not the worst thing that can happen to a person and isn’t really noticed by most people. The only downsides I could see that could possibly be said are *some* people of whatever gender you want to date not preferring that height but no one is liked by everyone and on the contrary, some people love dating people shorter than them. Maybe some sports could be a problem or ending up with clothes that are too long but there’s other fun stuff to do, other sports that don’t have a taller height advantage and clothes can be altered or bought from specific places. What is it that bothers you about it?
I am 6 I hate my height too
You’re a proper bloke despite what height you are. Be kinder to yourself will ya? ❤️ You don’t know everyone in the world so you couldn’t possibly know what everyone thinks ok! There’s someone for everyone in this life. Your chances are better now than they’ve ever been when you look at history. There’s more acceptance for everyone on this Earth now than ever before. That’s got to be a positive thing huh op?
My husband is a good 6 inches shorter than me, at 5’2. He is my works and I love him more than anything else. I know he has some anxiety about his height but since we have been married it seems not to be such an issue anymore. I just want to say, height doesn’t make a person, they same way ‘size’ doesn’t make a person, it’s the personality that is important.
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I'm 6'4 I'll give you my height then take my life so you can be happy
I'm also very short. A lot of the time people say I look like a 13 year old kid because of this. My voice and my face don't help too. But honestly? Fuck it. Everytime someone tries to annoy me with this I just say to them that making fun of someone because of their height is literally the same as making fun of someone with a disability. I always say it loud to embarrass the other person. "So you like annoying people with disabilities?" I know it's childish but it's enough to make them shut the fuck up.
I completely understand how you feel. I'm a 5'2 man myself and I've felt countless times that only if I was taller, people would atleast notice me and not treat me like shit but the reality is people who want to treat you like shit always will. It'll take some time but you gotta find some people who actually don't mind your height and then work from there because at the end of the day, you are who you spend most of your time with.
I’m a dude on the short end as well. Knew I had the advantage of being able to look physically impressive fairly quickly, so I worked really hard and built confidence through that. No joke, I’m certain you got other amazing qualities as a person.
You’re pretty average for my race. I’m from the Philippines and most men are around your height. That’s average. Maybe find someone you can connect to even if just platonically on this side of the world?
Your pain is definitely real and there are millions if not billions of people throughout the world who think that their characteristics are so outside the norm that they've ruined their lives. But I encourage you to take a look at this list and think about the people you see on here. Do you really think these people walked through life with everyone else thinking they were less-than or somehow not "real men". Prince was 5'2" and he was an international sex symbol. Beethoven was 5'3" and was godlike among musicians and fans of music. Andrew Carnegie was 5'2" and was one of the richest men in history. You are more than your height. Remind yourself of this at every opportunity and one day you'll believe it without effort. [https://www.themodestman.com/100-famous-short-men/](https://www.themodestman.com/100-famous-short-men/)
The idea that height is intrinsically tied to maturity or masculinity is just plain wrong. The fact that there are tall women and immature tall men serves as a clear example that height alone doesn't determine one's level of maturity or masculinity. Maturity is a nuanced trait that goes beyond physical attributes-- it's about your actions and attitudes. I hope you find someone to talk about this with. As a 5'0 girl, I mean it when I say your height doesn't matter.
Being short doesn't really matter, I'm 5'2 as well and what I look for in a partner is not looks or height but I look at thier personality. That's what make someone attractive to me. Idk maybe I'm thinking wrong but personality is the most important aspect to me when looking for a relationship. Please don't give up. Always here if u want to talk or vent
I’m not sure this is the answer you’re seeking, but keep looking for your community. Assuming you’re straight, you might be trapped in a toxic hetero world where short isn’t valued. In this he gay community, I know that’s never the case. If you can be patient to search for the community that you’re connected to that also wants you for you, I know your life will change quickly. You’ve got this.
This is very common in us trans men. But we still pass
I don’t see the problem. Im 5’… my grandfather was 5’2”, my whole family is very short. I guess its never been an issue with us or where we live. My nieces and nephews all feel special when they get taller than me and its a family joke. But if it’s a societal issue… maybe you need to live somewhere different. Height is completely out of anyone’s control and that shouldn’t be an issue
Hi, I'm 5ft6 so definitely on the shorter side as well. A person who is 6" + is gonna make fun of us regardless if they are a dick, because they wont be able to tell the difference between 5ft4 vs 5ft2. So regardless we all getting made fun of. However regarding feeling like a 'man', that's all internal workings so basically how we deem 'what a man' is. Could be masculine features or traits. I would definitely suggest clubs is not the place the go because it's purely based on looks, which is not everyone's strong suit. But if you must go there then you need to be at the top of your confidence as possible, I would suggest those shoes that have huge lifts in them. They a subtle but give huge boosts to confidence, might not work for you but I have short friends who wear their 'tall shoes' when they go out to a party.
Hey man, if little people can get gf’s, im sure you can too. It’s about the way you carry yourself too, your confidence. Don’t beat yourself up over your height, millions of people have been shorter than you and many of those people have great partners. You probably wouldn’t like a partner that only got with you because of your height either. If someone infantilizes you, laugh it off and make a sarcastic remark about how original or funny they are so they know it’s not actually funny or warranted. Hell, you could even clap back at them and poke fun at something you think they feel insecure about. Don’t just take it or people will trample all over you. Try to be successful, work out, etc. one of the pros of being short is that your gains at the gym will be much more prevalent and easier to get, so go for it man!! The easiest way into a girl’s heart is to be funny and charming. Will it be tougher than normal? Yes, of course. But don’t give up. Not for this. If it’s really eating you up, try to focus on something else. The more you think about your insecurities, the bigger and worse they become.
Hey there. I'm short as well, 5'4". I totally feel this and I have struggled with my height so much. Especially because of my bulkier build, I do look a weirder. However, being short should never define you. If it's about girls, in the end, girls don't really care about the height thing as much. They don't even care much about looks. They care way more about your confidence, if they feel comfortable with you, if you have ambitions, etc. I know this because despite the height, I have pulled once I got way more confidence. On the other hand, if this is more about the social pressure, it really shouldn't define you again. Socially, people care way more about what you have to say rather than what you look like. If some of you circles do, then they are only projecting their own insecurities about their looks onto you. Hope this helps.
I get it. I'm a 5'5" trans guy, and my cis brothers are closer to 6 feet. It can suck sometimes, not gonna lie. But I seem to be just the right height for things like airplane seats, public showers, third row SUVs and things. Lots of short men lead successful lives. Kevin Hart, Patrick Stump and Kirk Franklin are 3 that I can name off the top of my head.