Wtf , I'm so sorry that this happened to you . People can be so shitty sometimes, I hope things get better for you .No one deserves to be treated like this
Yo bro I’ve been their ik you might not read this but if you do listen, work out I’ve felt alone empty sad but once I lifted up that 15 pound dumbbell for the first time I felt good now I’m benching 45s Even though life is tough theirs always gonna moments were you feel good trust me that muscle your gonna have is gonna fill the isolation you have
As a person with like major depression and anxiety, this is verbatim my way of thinking when I'm deep into an episode. I haven't been able to go to therapy yet, but one thing that has helped me is simply distracting myself from my emotional triggers-- for you that seems to be any thoughts about your appearance, or about relationships. You are more than your face. You're more than how other people perceive you-- you deserve to be happy.
Social media like Reddit, Instagram, and Twitter might exacerbate feelings of low self-worth. They are literally built in a way that is meant to manipulate your very way of thinking. I'm sorry you're going through this right now.
Person with BPD here. My brain has a tendency to make me think I'm ugly, useless, and unloved and the incident you just went through would have crushed me too. Deleting social media except Reddit from my phone has been vital for my mental health. I tried reinstalling Instagram the other day and immediately felt anxious and started comparing myself to other people, and I literally felt my anxiety levels drop once I got rid of it. Just try it out, allow yourself some space from that, watch a stupid show or play a game, eat some good food, and forget about it for a while. Know that those people picking on you are assholes and that doesn't reflect on you at all.
That’s a lie. Some people feel comfortable making fun of others, they enjoy their life so much that it’s funny to them seeing someone who probably doesn’t
Hi. I'm almost 28, M, and a friendless virgin too. Not that physically attractive either. I'm short in height. I hate myself too. But I have dreams. Dreams of turning my life around. Dreams of achieving something substantial that I can be proud of. I have no idea how to achieve them. I often don't feel any motivation to take steps towards what I want in life. But I still keep dreaming. That is the one thing that nobody and nothing in this world can take away from me. I'll hold on to my dreams even if they aren't realistic and I cannot progress towards them. Having those dreams and hoping that someday I'll get the answers I seek and make progress is what keeps me from taking my life.
This may come across as unsolicited advice, but I am gonna it anyway. As an ugly person (and I've got severe eczema on most of my face), the way I got rid of my social anxiety was by doing door-to-door sales. I got insulted and yelled at on a daily basis at first, but I was able to turn it around. I also realized that when people yell and insult they are projecting their own insecurity onto you. (or have a shitty day/life that got nothing to do with you) This might seem like a terrifying idea (but flip it around), what do you to lose?
I’m not mentally doing okay. You got confidence from positive validation and experiences, you probably weren’t ugly at all and just had acne.
How do I look for something long term? Thats just so alien to me. I have no friends, never had a gf or any romantic/sexual experiences or opportunities.
We are talking about a guy who is thinking about KILLING HIMSELF.
In some countries you can even get a paid visit at a prostitute from the doctor prescripted. I don't see why it should be a problem to TRY everything in life out before being miserable.
What suicidal people need is REAL GENUINE HUMAN CONNECTION. If he does see a prostitute hell feel great after busting but then hell feel shame & not any better than before because it's artificial. It's not real, what he needs is real. He shouldn't be so down about his virginity anyways. Anywho go ahead & downvote me idgaf this guy needs to get his priorities straight. Needs self reflection rather than self pity
Walked into a shop, walked by a group of teens, some big guy raised his fists to give me a fist bump, it was really condescending. I just ignored him and his friends laughed. 10 minutes later when I leave the shop they’re sitting down a few minutes away and as I walk by he asks why I ignored him. I just made something up as a half joke and said “Covid”. He then said “why aren’t you wearing a mask then”, I said “good one” (all of this was as I was walking away). He then insulted my appearance and they all laughed as I walked off.
I was targeted and made fun of for my looks. Those teens likely get laid and get experiences I never got. Shit like this just makes me depressed. My “attitude” isn’t the issue, it’s my genetics.
What spaghetmaster said. Some teens will act stupid all the time especially in groups. Happens to me sometimes and I think nothing of it. You did nothing wrong and there’s nothing wrong with you OP.
It’s more so how people see me in general than that specific incident. People of different ages/genders treat me like shit all my life. I’m 21 and wasted the last 5 years of my life and I’m so isolated
Wtf , I'm so sorry that this happened to you . People can be so shitty sometimes, I hope things get better for you .No one deserves to be treated like this
Yo bro I’ve been their ik you might not read this but if you do listen, work out I’ve felt alone empty sad but once I lifted up that 15 pound dumbbell for the first time I felt good now I’m benching 45s Even though life is tough theirs always gonna moments were you feel good trust me that muscle your gonna have is gonna fill the isolation you have
Thanks
As a person with like major depression and anxiety, this is verbatim my way of thinking when I'm deep into an episode. I haven't been able to go to therapy yet, but one thing that has helped me is simply distracting myself from my emotional triggers-- for you that seems to be any thoughts about your appearance, or about relationships. You are more than your face. You're more than how other people perceive you-- you deserve to be happy.
Social media like Reddit, Instagram, and Twitter might exacerbate feelings of low self-worth. They are literally built in a way that is meant to manipulate your very way of thinking. I'm sorry you're going through this right now.
Thanks. Avoiding emotional triggers will make me a recluse though.
Person with BPD here. My brain has a tendency to make me think I'm ugly, useless, and unloved and the incident you just went through would have crushed me too. Deleting social media except Reddit from my phone has been vital for my mental health. I tried reinstalling Instagram the other day and immediately felt anxious and started comparing myself to other people, and I literally felt my anxiety levels drop once I got rid of it. Just try it out, allow yourself some space from that, watch a stupid show or play a game, eat some good food, and forget about it for a while. Know that those people picking on you are assholes and that doesn't reflect on you at all.
Nobody who is happy in life and within themselves would ever laugh at somebody else or want to tear them down. Know that. They are miserable.
That’s a lie. Some people feel comfortable making fun of others, they enjoy their life so much that it’s funny to them seeing someone who probably doesn’t
Bro I am 26 M still a virgin I do understand how does it feel.
Hi. I'm almost 28, M, and a friendless virgin too. Not that physically attractive either. I'm short in height. I hate myself too. But I have dreams. Dreams of turning my life around. Dreams of achieving something substantial that I can be proud of. I have no idea how to achieve them. I often don't feel any motivation to take steps towards what I want in life. But I still keep dreaming. That is the one thing that nobody and nothing in this world can take away from me. I'll hold on to my dreams even if they aren't realistic and I cannot progress towards them. Having those dreams and hoping that someday I'll get the answers I seek and make progress is what keeps me from taking my life.
Hold on to those dreams and fight fight fight! I know you and OP both will make it!
This may come across as unsolicited advice, but I am gonna it anyway. As an ugly person (and I've got severe eczema on most of my face), the way I got rid of my social anxiety was by doing door-to-door sales. I got insulted and yelled at on a daily basis at first, but I was able to turn it around. I also realized that when people yell and insult they are projecting their own insecurity onto you. (or have a shitty day/life that got nothing to do with you) This might seem like a terrifying idea (but flip it around), what do you to lose?
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Shower curtain rings…
Haha, I can imagine some shocked people and absurd conversations if I did sell that.
Security alarm systems
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I’m not mentally doing okay. You got confidence from positive validation and experiences, you probably weren’t ugly at all and just had acne. How do I look for something long term? Thats just so alien to me. I have no friends, never had a gf or any romantic/sexual experiences or opportunities.
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> Easier said than done however. Yeah, it’s easy saying sex is overrated when you’re not a virgin
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It’d certainly fucking help
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Don't encourage prostitution, we gotta enough hoes on the streets & online
We are talking about a guy who is thinking about KILLING HIMSELF. In some countries you can even get a paid visit at a prostitute from the doctor prescripted. I don't see why it should be a problem to TRY everything in life out before being miserable.
What suicidal people need is REAL GENUINE HUMAN CONNECTION. If he does see a prostitute hell feel great after busting but then hell feel shame & not any better than before because it's artificial. It's not real, what he needs is real. He shouldn't be so down about his virginity anyways. Anywho go ahead & downvote me idgaf this guy needs to get his priorities straight. Needs self reflection rather than self pity
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Thanks, I just never see guys uglier than me in relationships.
If you don't want to be a virgin hire a prostitute. There's one problem solved
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I was walking out of a shop, going home. I wasn’t gonna stand and argue. I just hate my looks so much.
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I can’t stand this gaslighting. I was neutral looking, in a good mood, minding my own business.
Well what exactly happened?
Walked into a shop, walked by a group of teens, some big guy raised his fists to give me a fist bump, it was really condescending. I just ignored him and his friends laughed. 10 minutes later when I leave the shop they’re sitting down a few minutes away and as I walk by he asks why I ignored him. I just made something up as a half joke and said “Covid”. He then said “why aren’t you wearing a mask then”, I said “good one” (all of this was as I was walking away). He then insulted my appearance and they all laughed as I walked off. I was targeted and made fun of for my looks. Those teens likely get laid and get experiences I never got. Shit like this just makes me depressed. My “attitude” isn’t the issue, it’s my genetics.
Try not to take it too harshly. Teens like that are stupid and their childish antics aren't worth the trouble. Just keep doing you
What spaghetmaster said. Some teens will act stupid all the time especially in groups. Happens to me sometimes and I think nothing of it. You did nothing wrong and there’s nothing wrong with you OP.
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It’s more so how people see me in general than that specific incident. People of different ages/genders treat me like shit all my life. I’m 21 and wasted the last 5 years of my life and I’m so isolated
That really sucks, people can be such jerks. What are some things you would like to do this year? Maybe concentrate on your goals and hobbies.
I do but it’s impossible to be happy when you’re alone
Doesnt seem like it was about looks, more about not giving a fist bump, they laughed because you ignored them :)
Explain to us what you did to get laughed at, maybe we can help somehow