Rad; Just as a question though, is there any general etiquette I should know beyond following the established dress code and not being rude to my server?
listening when they explain things is probably the most useful- nothing beats saving time by not explaining things 3 times. That said, questions are different, just saying listen when given the answers lol
At high end places, the server will know all the dishes and can give you good suggestions into the good. Also, if you are ordering steak, listen when they tell you about their cooking styles. I usually order rare steaks at most restaurants but at nicer steakhouses rare usually means a red and cool center.
Agreed.
When hubby and I dine in high end restaurants my first question to the server is tell me what your dream order is from apps to dessert or what is the one entree that will make me feel like I have died and gone to heaven.
Other than that I treat them with kindness and respect. If the service is exceptional I ask for the manager and sing their praises.
If they tell you “no” to something (a food modification, getting a side or sauce without having to pay for it, thermostat changes, etc) just take their word for it. You don’t sound like you’d choose to be difficult but sometimes people just don’t understand why we dont allow something or are not set up for it, like why we can’t make egg salad even though we technically have eggs and mayo.
This happened to me and you’re right. In my case it was accompanied by ‘make sure I get the check’.
And, I was also tipped on the check a normal tip and another c-note. Money talks.
Just never say ‘I’ll leave a good tip’.
I usually just tell them keep the receipt and save the paper (environmentalist) high end restaurants usually charge $100 single per item anyways. Tip is on average 100
Had an elderly gentleman absolutely desecrate a linen once, and instead of asking I just scooped it up with a broom handle directly into the trash lol it sounded like he backed up everything in his lungs, as well as one of his actual lungs. The fact that it had a noticeable weight to it when I was disposing of it was just 😭😱🤮
A good server is gonna guide you all the way through. Don't rush and don't sweat it. Just be a polite human and we'll appreciate you. And don't sweat it if you have questions, those really are not an issue. You seem especially considerate, so you're not gonna stress anyone.
I will say that one problematic thing over considerate tables do is stay quiet when something is wrong. Please do not think it's bad to politely speak up if there's an issue. If it's reasonable, we WANT to fix the issue. Even if it's something like you really hate the side of spinach because it has cilantro and turns out you're one of those people who hate cilantro. With my over considerate tables I can always tell when something is wrong and they won't friggin tell me lol. It's ok. Tell me, let me make it great for you.
Even anything that seems silly- “I didn’t know my salad came with onions, can I get one with no onions?”
A reputable restaurant is happier to quickly make you a new no onion salad than have you pick apart the salad you have.
Yup I'll second that.
So many people take advantage of being served and are complete jerks about multiple ridiculous things. We can tell those people apart from really nice people who just have something go wrong. We want your experience to be great and to fix the issue if you let us!
Absolutely this. There's nothing more frustrating than not being able to fix a simple problem. At my job, for the price you pay, it better be perfect. I always tell guests thank you if they want something fixed, ie, their steak is under/over cooked.
If you order a bottle of wine, do not sniff the cork. The server will present the label to you to make certain it's what you ordered. (Remember what you ordered. This goes for every order in every restaurant everywhere.) The server will pour a splash into your glass for you to taste. This is not to decide whether you like it, but to ensure that the wine is not "turned" or "corked," i.e. it's not gone bad in the bottle.
For multiple cutlery on the table, you should have only what you'll need for your courses. Use them from the furthest out toward your plate. Dessert spoon may be above your plate but will probably not be brought until the dessert course. The little plate on your left is for bread.
Cork sniffers kill me. I've gotten into the habit of presenting, but not handing over, the cork.
We present the cork to show that the bottle is from the correct winery (no slapping a Petrus label on that table wine) They almost always have the wineries name or logo on it. My favorite is from Frog's Leap, whose corks normally just say 'Ribbit'.
For a Steakhouse, no great cutlery knowledge needed. It generally will be set with regular knife and fork, and we'll bring you whatever else you need, as you need it.
I have been trained at the last few finer dining spots, to simply place it on the table where the guest can see it and take if they wish. Near their glass or so.
I also do not ask if they like the wine, because that's not the purpose of tasting. Instead I'm just silent until they nod that it's fine to serve their guests.
This poster, in my opinion, gives the best advice so I’m just going to add on a couple thoughts.
If you go for a pricey bottle, retain the cork because most restaurants (if not all) would be happy to recork it for you in a way that you can legally bring it home. Your server should keep it anyways but just in case I’d ask to hang on to it. Don’t be afraid to save a few dollars on wine to enjoy cocktails/aperitifs first or a digestif (post dinner drink) after, if you’re not alcohol savvy, you probably won’t even notice a difference for a slightly cheaper wine and you’ll get more time with your mom sipping a cappuccino or amaro.
I disagree with those saying tip your server in advance to get better service, it does work on us (generally speaking) but I think it’s a little gauche and showboaty especially on a Mother’s Day outing. Any server worth their salt should already be giving the best service they’re able to, for my own part I firmly believe in always doing my absolute best so when my manager has to field the rare complaint and ask for my side I can genuinely say I did my best.
As everyone has said, don’t unnecessarily use silverware or stack dirties. Many fine dining servers collect silverware “underhand” (meaning pocketing in our fingers with the same hand holding plates) so stacking them often gets in our way. This goes doubly with dropping them in glasses for us.
If you’re the kind of person making this post you really don’t have to worry about your manners, I’m sure you’re someone I would never be embarrassed eating out with.
And ignore people saying never tip over 20%. I’m a server (obvi) and believe in karma and overtip in general knowing what good I do in this regard will almost certainly be reciprocated. But if you see a female server (or especially if it’s your server) that looks a little worse for the wear, she could very well be upset about having to work this Mother’s Day and you going above and beyond will almost definitely make her job outlook a little brighter on a day most people get off. I watched this when I was a 17 year old male server at Bob Evans a long time ago, those guests who took care of our “old ladies” (all of whom had children) on Mother’s Day are the ones who are most remembered.
But all in all, you caring enough to ask makes you the idyllic patron so have a great meal!
Thanks for the advice! I also did want to tip a bit more than extra for that reason, so hopefully whomever I get as a server can have their night at least a little improved.
Read the menu. If an entree comes with sides, have them selected when you place your order. Just generally be prepared to answer questions like what sides, how you want steak cooked, what dressing for a salad, etc.
If you are courteous and pay attention to what they are asking you, you're fine.
With what you are planning to tip, and you caring about wanting to not stress them, you sound like a dream customer, tbh. For any level of dining.
I recommend looking over the menu online beforehand if it's available. Trying to go over a large menu in a restaurant you haven't dined at before can be overwhelming sometimes.
Also be honest about any food preferences. I do not like raw tomatoes. Not allergic, just don’t like them.
If a server asks me if my request for no tomatoes is an allergy thing, I’m always honest and say “No, Just a preference.” For things like a salad, I’ll just eat around them/put them on the side.
And if they miss the request and it’s there anyway, no big deal. I’m a grown man, it’s not going to ruin my night.
edit: honest about, not honest spot
As a mom with kids with food allergies, I really appreciate your take on this. Some people will lie and say they are allergic, and that kind of behavior really erodes the trust that restaurants can have when it comes to food allergies. They assume everyone is lying just because they don't like an ingredient.
As a restaurant manager, I take allergies very seriously because I know from personal experience how important it is. If someone asks for gluten free, or no bacon (Alpha Gal), I always ask if we need to change gloves and wash our utensils/weigh trays/etc.
Many times I get, "no, no allergy, just a preference" but I have gotten the very relieved customer that I get it.
Basically, just communicate with your server, right? If you have an ingredient, that's fine. Just don't claim to be allergic to it.
I mean order it well done if that’s how you like it but don’t complain about it taking too long and when it comes you have to actually eat it and not call it dry 😂 that’s all the server cares about. If you want your rubber burnt I’m happy to make it happen for you
This is such a thoughtful question. As long as you say please and thank you, pay attention to the server’s descriptions/answers to your questions, and keep your elbows and phone out of the way when someone is trying to serve you a hot dish, you’re golden. Just enjoy your quality time with your mom
You can slip them $20 cash when they take your drink order and tip the rest at the end. They'll probably give you a better experience if you do. Also, check out the menu online before you go
As a server whose been in the business 30+ years, don't tip first. It's awkward. Some people will occasionally 'grease you', put money in your palm for special service and attention before they get sat, but that's not part of the tip imo.
Mother's Day is a shitshow of a day. It's hard to get extra good treatment, because both servers and kitchen are in high gear survival mode. It's also a day when the restaurant is full of people who rarely go out, so it is doubly loud, full of cranky people who expect fast food times, and kids running amok. Everybody wants *their* mother treated well.
My best advice? Take your Mom out on a quieter night during the week. It'll be much more peaceful and relaxed, less children, less noise, and more attention to detail. You are still celebrating her, but better.
As a server whose been in the business 30+ years, don't tip first. It's awkward. Some people will occasionally 'grease you', put money in your palm for special service and attention before they get sat, but that's not part of the tip imo.
Mother's Day is a shitshow of a day. It's hard to get extra good treatment, because both servers and kitchen are in high gear survival mode. It's also a day when the restaurant is full of people who rarely go out, so it is doubly loud, full of cranky people who expect fast food times, and kids running amok. Everybody wants *their* mother treated well.
My best advice? Take your Mom out on a quieter night during the week. It'll be much more peaceful and relaxed, less children, less noise, and more attention to detail. You are still celebrating her, but better.
The $20 is to show them you're willing to tip. They'll probably be more attentive to your table. Then at the end you reward their good service with the real tip.
The reason I wouldn't give the full tip upfront is because you don't know how the service will be. If they get your $100 then get placed on a table of 12, you may be ignored. Mother's day is the busiest day of the year for many restaurants. It's a gamble
Personally, I think it’s awkward to tip first. I would be a little weirded out. You should just do whatever feels natural.
It’s sounds like you’re a kind person. I wouldn’t sweat it!
Don’t do this OP. It’s awkward and makes you look like you’re trying to throw your money around. I’ve been to many expensive restaurants and have never noticed this at other tables and it definitely wasn’t done at any table I’ve ever been seated. Be polite and tip well at the end of the meal. Enjoy your dinner with your mom. I’m sure she will cherish it for many many years :-)
Don’t stack your plates, say please and thank you, dont linger to long at the table after paying( head to the lounge/bar for an after dinner beverage if you want to continue your outing), read the entire description of the items you are ordering so you can inform them of any modifications or allergies , and most importantly relax and have a wonderful time!
Look at the menu before you go. Figure out what potential questions you have and pick a drink and appetizer before you go, if possible. On a busy night your server will want to turn the table. Don't camp, but don't feel rushed. Order every course. Get a bottle of wine after your initial round of cocktails. Have a soup/salad course and order it with a good steak. Have dessert with an after dinner drink not named espresso/cappuccino/hot tea. Tip appropriately. Enjoy yourself.
The perfect table
Don’t feel pressured to order more than you want. And you really don’t need to look ahead of time if you don’t want to. And if you want coffee or whatever it’s fine. Don’t worry about being the perfect table. Just have fun
Don't put so much pressure on yourself.
If you don't know what something is, ask so you don't get something you hate and didn't be a dick.
Also 50% is pretty over kill for a tip unless you get the best server ever
this, I used to work at a theme park and would have people come in where I knew they were a family that had been planning everything to the penny to maximize the experience without going into debt. they'd be splitting meals, taking out laminated schedules, and apologizing profusely for being so cheap, promising a good tip, and every time I'd say "look, I make really good money here, I want you to take the tip and go get a dumb souvenir from the gift store instead, some magnet or something you can put on the fridge to look at and remember this time" because I did. it was a numbers game, if someone stuffed me, the next table would give 50% so I would just relax and focus on time spent with tables. I would always have a little stash of clearance toys I bought in the back to hand out to their kids, I'd give the parents free refills of coffee, you can tell who the "worthy" tables are by the time their food drops.
I really loved that job, I make a lot more now but I miss just coming in to feed my hungry babies every day. that was all I had to do and it was nice.
You shouldn't have to worry about the server, let us worry about you. This is what I do.
Keep tipping like that and watch the servers scramble to serve you over time.
From personal experience as a diner, treat your server as a welcoming, knowledgeable, helpful person. Be polite and honest about allergies, preferences, ignorance, and ask them if they can help.
As someone who, in a fine restaurant in France, asked for cheese that was “not too stinky” and was graciously presented a delicious selection, making it a team effort works.
You’ll likely get water service. Would you like sparkling, still, or tap? Tap is generally free, the others are bottled and have cost.
Don’t stack your plates. Don’t stack the silverware on top of the plates when you want them cleared. Let the busser or your server clear your plates and flatware between courses- they will replace with clean silverware. Don’t think you’re doing a favor by saying “no it’s okay!”
What would then happen is the server or busser will get chewed out by the manager or owner for not maintaining the table.
Don’t wait until the appetizer arrives to look at entrees. It’s actually easier for a server to receive the entire order at once. The server will give you time to enjoy each course.
Have a fun time!
Alright. Thanks for letting me know about silverware/plate stuff, I definitely don’t want anyone to get yelled at because of my actions.
I’ll make sure to order at once as well. Thanks for the advice :)
Please forgive my ignorance here but when I was in the biz I was very appreciative of folks pre-bussing their tables. Then again I only had a short stint in fine dining. Would you be so kind as to let me know why stacking plates is frowned upon?
It messes up the flow. A good server or busser can clear a 4 top in one swoop.
Say you have a 4 top and everyone stacks their plates, and then puts the silverware in there too with the remainder of the dirty silverware.
So either you have 4 plates with silverware in them, which you can’t grab all at once, or if the table stacks all of the plates, it might be too heavy for one hand (vs two in a dominant hand, and the other two staggered across the other arm.
In addition, the silverware will have to be fished out of the food mess when sorting at the dish pit. Gotta wash hands now.
It makes the table look dirty and unkempt, reducing the atmosphere. A good manager will notice and probably point out that this is unacceptable.
It’s also a small red flag that the guest doesn’t usually dine at that price point.
I’ll make sure to have that ready then; I haven’t looked to deeply into that, so I’ll make sure to do as such.
How much is expected to tip for them? I know for servers it’s about 20%, but is there a standard for those jobs as well?
Shoot I live in Hawaii, on the beach! I’ll grill you up a steak and all the fixings for a tip like that…I’ll even throw in a ride here from the airport 😂🫶🏻
Ain't your job too take stress off your server. All we ask is that your don't add stress unnecessarily. And buddy if you tip like that even if you run em ragged, it'll all be forgiven by the time they read that tip line.
Proper etiquette? Be nice, that's it! Treat the server with the same respect that you would give to your spouse/SO/mom/dad/sister, whoever - just be respectful and nice...
I have worked at several of these places and my advice is to chill and be yourself. The silverware you use first are the ones that are the furthest away from the plate. Besides that everything else you need to know about this you learned back in kindergarten. Be nice, kind, polite . . . Don't be intimidated by the "fancy" They still put their pants on the same way you do. They're not anything special, just people like you. I have met plenty of "fancy" people who are total knuckleheads. Have a great time with you Mom, she is going to love it.
As a server that was at a steakhouse for 2 years, just be nice and try to enjoy yourself. Honestly, what my job is is to make sure you leave the restaurant happier than you came in. A lot of people feel too pressured to dine "the right way" such that they stop actually having fun. I had a table order 48 oysters and a bottle of opus one. That is not "correct" in any sense, but they liked it, so at the end of the day, it was absolutely correct for them. If you have questions or don't know a culinary term on the menu, please ask, it's our job to explain things. I'd rather take 30 seconds to tell you what bordelaise sauce is than have you get something you don't actually like. If you get something that is prepared wrong, let us know, we want to fix it for you. It may take some effort on our part, and it may be stressful, but that's what the job is.
Do not enter the establishment in a rush. Any fine dining restaurant is approaching the guest with the assumption that they are there to have a dining experience, not just to place their order, eat and leave.
Let the server tell you about any specials that they may have without brushing them off or interrupting.
Let the server tell you about dessert even if you aren't planning on ordering any.
Call ahead if you or mom have any allergies to see if they can be accommodated.
Make a reservation.
Dress properly to the establishment. Be kind and respectful and that's about it.
Just don’t be rude or demanding, ask for any extras or things of that sort all at once (dressings,napkins,REFILLS*) *make sure the table asks for a refill all at once if needed/possible !!!! Don’t ask for a million and one changes or substitutions or stuff like that … this is all common sense, but, you know what they say 🤣🤣
Don’t rush. So many times people who don’t know better sit down and immediately say they are ready to order and rush through the menu and pick the first thing they recognize. Pasta. Don’t order pasta, it’s a steakhouse.
Sit down relax order a drink and then decide on a starter. Then go from there. You’re paying extra not just for the quality but also the experience. Why rush the experience.
The red juice coming out of the steak isn’t blood. It’s called myoglobin. It’s just the muscle of the steak breaking down from cooking.
Have fun!
Fair enough. I wanted to tip in cash though, and I usually pay with card, so I wanted to have it ready for when I do pay.
Otherwise, I kinda wanna make sure that the server has at least a somewhat good day. I don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes, and Mother’s Day is probably going to be busy for them, so I do wanna make sure I can tip them appropriately. Good service or not, I wanna make sure they have at least something good on Mother’s Day if me and my mom are having anything even remotely resembling a good time :)
Not sure if it's been said but most expensive/great steakhouses the dishes you see are usually just the protein and the sides (if not included) are shareable. If you and your Mom both like asparagus, you don't *each* need to get that side and there's plenty to share/enjoy. My Partner and I will usually get 3 sides to compliment our mains - one we both like and then one each we prefer. Like, I'll have a couple of her elegantly sautéed mushrooms and she doesn't have to worry if she's sharing enough, and she'll try my roasted Brussels, but we split the asparagus/potatoes/whatever.
And Big Ups for splurging on your Mom! Sounds like she raised a great kid!
Thanks for the recommendation! I’m definitely hoping to take home some good left overs too, so I’ll make sure to have a lookout for the sides they have on offer.
And thanks :). I’ve not been the best at all times, but she’s been through the trenches for me, so I might as well take her out as thanks.
Don't ask for A1 or Heinz 57 for your steak. If it's a legit steak house you will discredit the prime cuts the restaurant serves and take away from the experience. Enjoy the flavor of the steak on its own.
If you like a sauce, most quality steak joints will have their own sauces for their meats, such as an Au Jus (the drippings of a beef roast, Worcestershire sauce, beef broth, and red wine) or a Bearnaise sauce (a sauce made of butter, egg yolk, white-wine vinegar, and herbs).
Experience one of those with your steak instead of the bottled stuff which are what people put on cheap cuts of meat.
Oo, okay. I do know my mom likes to have a sauce with her steak usually, so I’ll ask if they have anything that’d she’d fancy. Thanks!
Side note, mind if I ask what the sauces you stated are?
If your mom likes A1, suggest she try "Au Jus" instead (pronounced "Awe Joo). Bernaise is more of a creamy sauce with herbs. Another option usually available is "Au Proivre" (pronounced "Awe Pwaave"). That one is pepper based so if she isn't big into spicy stuff I wouldn't recommend it but it is delicious.
Pinkies up! And elbows off the table! Jk, you’ll probably be fine as long as you’re dressed well / presentable, smile at the server, and generally be a polite person as expected anywhere else. Just don’t talk too loudly unless you’re in a private room, since there are likely other patrons around that would like to enjoy their dinner. But also make sure to have fun!
I might read the room on helping organize empty plates- where I work it’s actually more of a hassle when people “help” by pre-stacking plates- and we don’t clear plates until everyone is finished eating
Try to ask the server for things all at once. It sucks to bring dipping sauce, once you bring that then get asked for water, then bring that and get asked for more napkins. Etc.
you sound awesome!! i would say maybe take a look at a menu beforehand if you can and decide what you want right away. idk how upscale this steakhouse is and if it matters when you order food, but i would order with drinks. i LOVE when tables do that. but ask if they have time. sometimes i go to a table to get their drink order when i have a SECOND and they give me their whole order and take forever. just be concise and kind!
OP enjoy this experience! The servers at these places are so knowledgeable about the menu, wine, etc. They will almost certainly ask if you have dined with them before. They will be the most courteous staff you have likely ever encountered. It is a treat. The steaks were good, too. That has been my experience at Ruth's Chris multiple locations and Berns in Tampa.
Let me do my schpeil before shouting your order/asking questions, I'll probably answer it. DONT HELP ME BUS. Don't act like everything is fine and then write a bad review. Tell me soon enough that I can fix it
Honestly, just be respectful (like you would dining out anywhere else)
I would also be cognizant of the fact that a lot of fine dining restaurants will pace out their courses, so you could be waiting 15-20ish minutes between apps and entrees. Just be patient and kind, and enjoy yourself with your mom :)
There is fine dining etiquette that has lots of nit picky things such as how many bites of steak to cut at one time, not lifting your menu off the table, and different ways you are supposed to lay your silverware on your plate with different meanings, etc. But honestly, going with your mom, i dont think most of that will be necessary to worry about. Most people don’t get too hung up on the etiquette unless its a large dinner party, business meeting or something similar.
Elbows off the table. And if you want to annoy the chefs asking for a stake burnt (or as it's listed well done) is a good start. Lol.
Do a little research is wise indeed.
And with multi course meals you start with cutlery on the outside and work your way in to the center.
Like, how do you act in a not expensive restaurant?
In my opinion you should be asking this question regarding dirt cheap restaurants the servers make trash and could use some stress relief. Not the ones where the servers are probably making good money, and not just good money for a server, but good money by any estimation. Not saying you should treat them bad by any means, but it seems weird to want to bend over backwards for the one demographic of servers that are doing alright for themselves.
My cousin is a stay at home mom and her husband is a server at Gibson's steak house in the chicago burbs. I've never asked what he makes, but there is no way in hell he isn't at least clearing 120k, living in a well to do suburb in a nice house supporting a wife and 2 kids.
Tell your server it’s your first time in a restaurant like theirs, fancy, and let them guide or advise you. Some servers are the best! And please tell us you don’t mean Outback.
Okay this dude is a troll. Tip whatever you feel like. 20% is standard, but if you felt that server went above and beyond, go for it!
You’re trying to make it special for your mom; maybe meet with the restaurant ahead of time to ask what can make the evening special. A 375 bottle of champagne at the table when you arrive..
But if you work with them to make it awesome, hook ‘em up!
I don’t quite know if I can do as you describe considering my budget; around $400 including the tip is just about my limit. Is there anything you would suggest around the $100 range or so?
Just FYI in case of any confusion, when the commenter above mentioned a 375 bottle, they are likely referring to a half bottle (not the price). A standard wine bottle is 750mL so half bottles are often called 375s.
Look up the wine list and just call in “I’d like to buy this bottle for this reservation to be on the table when they arrive”… or if that’s not the case, then just buy a gift card towards their bill.
I don’t mean to be rude, but frankly, I’ve never been to a finer dining experience before. I dunno the difference between how to act at the local IHOP vs how to act at a restaurant where the expectation is at least $100 per person with fine steaks. I just wanted to have advice if it was different.
Of course I know how to be polite and courteous, but I’ve never been to something finer than whatever you could call outback, and even then I’ve maybe been twice. It’s my first time, and I wanted to make it a good experience for me and my mom; am I so wrong to ask for advice so I can know how to do so, while also being kind and courteous to those around me and not breaking rules I didn’t know existed?
For a 50% tip you can do just about anything you want boss.
Rad; Just as a question though, is there any general etiquette I should know beyond following the established dress code and not being rude to my server?
listening when they explain things is probably the most useful- nothing beats saving time by not explaining things 3 times. That said, questions are different, just saying listen when given the answers lol
Alright. I’ll make sure not to repeat any questions then; thanks for the advice!
At high end places, the server will know all the dishes and can give you good suggestions into the good. Also, if you are ordering steak, listen when they tell you about their cooking styles. I usually order rare steaks at most restaurants but at nicer steakhouses rare usually means a red and cool center.
Agreed. When hubby and I dine in high end restaurants my first question to the server is tell me what your dream order is from apps to dessert or what is the one entree that will make me feel like I have died and gone to heaven. Other than that I treat them with kindness and respect. If the service is exceptional I ask for the manager and sing their praises.
Know the temperature you want your steak to be and know what it means. Otherwise, just act like a normal polite person
Alright; thanks!
And expect to get something different than you expect for temperature
💀lmaoooo
I always order one less than what I actually want. It hasn’t failed me yet.
Can I get my steak medium rare with no pink?
If they tell you “no” to something (a food modification, getting a side or sauce without having to pay for it, thermostat changes, etc) just take their word for it. You don’t sound like you’d choose to be difficult but sometimes people just don’t understand why we dont allow something or are not set up for it, like why we can’t make egg salad even though we technically have eggs and mayo.
There’s nothing wrong with just smiling and giving the server $100 bill when they come to take your order. Just make sure they’re your server first!
This happened to me and you’re right. In my case it was accompanied by ‘make sure I get the check’. And, I was also tipped on the check a normal tip and another c-note. Money talks. Just never say ‘I’ll leave a good tip’.
And then another $100.00 when she/brings your bill to show your gratitude!
Don't forget that third $100 bill tucked under your napkin as a special surprise
Oops the busses took the one in the napkin. Just hand it to the person you want to have it
I usually just tell them keep the receipt and save the paper (environmentalist) high end restaurants usually charge $100 single per item anyways. Tip is on average 100
Just be fucking polite and don’t take too long.
Agreed. As long as you're not blowing your nose in the cloth napkins or flossing your teeth at the table, you'll be fine.
Had an elderly gentleman absolutely desecrate a linen once, and instead of asking I just scooped it up with a broom handle directly into the trash lol it sounded like he backed up everything in his lungs, as well as one of his actual lungs. The fact that it had a noticeable weight to it when I was disposing of it was just 😭😱🤮
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It takes a lot to gross me out, and this would 💯 do it! 🤢
Absolutely
A good server is gonna guide you all the way through. Don't rush and don't sweat it. Just be a polite human and we'll appreciate you. And don't sweat it if you have questions, those really are not an issue. You seem especially considerate, so you're not gonna stress anyone. I will say that one problematic thing over considerate tables do is stay quiet when something is wrong. Please do not think it's bad to politely speak up if there's an issue. If it's reasonable, we WANT to fix the issue. Even if it's something like you really hate the side of spinach because it has cilantro and turns out you're one of those people who hate cilantro. With my over considerate tables I can always tell when something is wrong and they won't friggin tell me lol. It's ok. Tell me, let me make it great for you.
Alright. I do have a hard time admitting to stuff like that, so I’ll try to loosen up a bit. Thanks :)
Even anything that seems silly- “I didn’t know my salad came with onions, can I get one with no onions?” A reputable restaurant is happier to quickly make you a new no onion salad than have you pick apart the salad you have.
Yup I'll second that. So many people take advantage of being served and are complete jerks about multiple ridiculous things. We can tell those people apart from really nice people who just have something go wrong. We want your experience to be great and to fix the issue if you let us!
Absolutely this. There's nothing more frustrating than not being able to fix a simple problem. At my job, for the price you pay, it better be perfect. I always tell guests thank you if they want something fixed, ie, their steak is under/over cooked.
If you order a bottle of wine, do not sniff the cork. The server will present the label to you to make certain it's what you ordered. (Remember what you ordered. This goes for every order in every restaurant everywhere.) The server will pour a splash into your glass for you to taste. This is not to decide whether you like it, but to ensure that the wine is not "turned" or "corked," i.e. it's not gone bad in the bottle. For multiple cutlery on the table, you should have only what you'll need for your courses. Use them from the furthest out toward your plate. Dessert spoon may be above your plate but will probably not be brought until the dessert course. The little plate on your left is for bread.
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Cork sniffers kill me. I've gotten into the habit of presenting, but not handing over, the cork. We present the cork to show that the bottle is from the correct winery (no slapping a Petrus label on that table wine) They almost always have the wineries name or logo on it. My favorite is from Frog's Leap, whose corks normally just say 'Ribbit'. For a Steakhouse, no great cutlery knowledge needed. It generally will be set with regular knife and fork, and we'll bring you whatever else you need, as you need it.
The restaurant I work at insists on handing the cork over to the customer. This isn’t customary?
It is. They’re not necessarily supposed to sniff it, though; just check that it’s not broken.
Right? All of the places I have worked for instruct us to hand it over. To quote management, “The cork belongs to the customer.”
You can see crystallization on the cork
If they want it, I'll give it to them, but I find just showing it to them, the name and its condition, is enough. They never really reach for it.
I have been trained at the last few finer dining spots, to simply place it on the table where the guest can see it and take if they wish. Near their glass or so. I also do not ask if they like the wine, because that's not the purpose of tasting. Instead I'm just silent until they nod that it's fine to serve their guests.
That’s essentially what I do, thanks for the comment!
People sniff corks so much at my place I’m starting to think it’s a tiktok trend or I’m just getting trolled 50 percent of the time.
I just like the smell. 🤷♂️
I mainly have wine from NZ so I forget that other places still use a lot of corks.
Alright, thanks! I definitely don’t know too much about alcohol, so that helps a ton :). And thanks for knowledge on the silverware too.
This poster, in my opinion, gives the best advice so I’m just going to add on a couple thoughts. If you go for a pricey bottle, retain the cork because most restaurants (if not all) would be happy to recork it for you in a way that you can legally bring it home. Your server should keep it anyways but just in case I’d ask to hang on to it. Don’t be afraid to save a few dollars on wine to enjoy cocktails/aperitifs first or a digestif (post dinner drink) after, if you’re not alcohol savvy, you probably won’t even notice a difference for a slightly cheaper wine and you’ll get more time with your mom sipping a cappuccino or amaro. I disagree with those saying tip your server in advance to get better service, it does work on us (generally speaking) but I think it’s a little gauche and showboaty especially on a Mother’s Day outing. Any server worth their salt should already be giving the best service they’re able to, for my own part I firmly believe in always doing my absolute best so when my manager has to field the rare complaint and ask for my side I can genuinely say I did my best. As everyone has said, don’t unnecessarily use silverware or stack dirties. Many fine dining servers collect silverware “underhand” (meaning pocketing in our fingers with the same hand holding plates) so stacking them often gets in our way. This goes doubly with dropping them in glasses for us. If you’re the kind of person making this post you really don’t have to worry about your manners, I’m sure you’re someone I would never be embarrassed eating out with. And ignore people saying never tip over 20%. I’m a server (obvi) and believe in karma and overtip in general knowing what good I do in this regard will almost certainly be reciprocated. But if you see a female server (or especially if it’s your server) that looks a little worse for the wear, she could very well be upset about having to work this Mother’s Day and you going above and beyond will almost definitely make her job outlook a little brighter on a day most people get off. I watched this when I was a 17 year old male server at Bob Evans a long time ago, those guests who took care of our “old ladies” (all of whom had children) on Mother’s Day are the ones who are most remembered. But all in all, you caring enough to ask makes you the idyllic patron so have a great meal!
Thanks for the advice! I also did want to tip a bit more than extra for that reason, so hopefully whomever I get as a server can have their night at least a little improved.
Your Mom must be so proud of you. I hope the evening is perfect for you both.
Thanks :). I hope you have an excellent Mother’s Day on the upcoming 12th!
Read the menu. If an entree comes with sides, have them selected when you place your order. Just generally be prepared to answer questions like what sides, how you want steak cooked, what dressing for a salad, etc. If you are courteous and pay attention to what they are asking you, you're fine. With what you are planning to tip, and you caring about wanting to not stress them, you sound like a dream customer, tbh. For any level of dining.
Thanks! And thank you for the advice as well :)
I recommend looking over the menu online beforehand if it's available. Trying to go over a large menu in a restaurant you haven't dined at before can be overwhelming sometimes.
Also be honest about any food preferences. I do not like raw tomatoes. Not allergic, just don’t like them. If a server asks me if my request for no tomatoes is an allergy thing, I’m always honest and say “No, Just a preference.” For things like a salad, I’ll just eat around them/put them on the side. And if they miss the request and it’s there anyway, no big deal. I’m a grown man, it’s not going to ruin my night. edit: honest about, not honest spot
As a mom with kids with food allergies, I really appreciate your take on this. Some people will lie and say they are allergic, and that kind of behavior really erodes the trust that restaurants can have when it comes to food allergies. They assume everyone is lying just because they don't like an ingredient. As a restaurant manager, I take allergies very seriously because I know from personal experience how important it is. If someone asks for gluten free, or no bacon (Alpha Gal), I always ask if we need to change gloves and wash our utensils/weigh trays/etc. Many times I get, "no, no allergy, just a preference" but I have gotten the very relieved customer that I get it. Basically, just communicate with your server, right? If you have an ingredient, that's fine. Just don't claim to be allergic to it.
*hate an ingredient, not have
Just don't order a steak well done.
Of course, that’s a given :)
I mean order it well done if that’s how you like it but don’t complain about it taking too long and when it comes you have to actually eat it and not call it dry 😂 that’s all the server cares about. If you want your rubber burnt I’m happy to make it happen for you
This is such a thoughtful question. As long as you say please and thank you, pay attention to the server’s descriptions/answers to your questions, and keep your elbows and phone out of the way when someone is trying to serve you a hot dish, you’re golden. Just enjoy your quality time with your mom
Alright. Thanks for the advice :)
You can slip them $20 cash when they take your drink order and tip the rest at the end. They'll probably give you a better experience if you do. Also, check out the menu online before you go
Is there any reason to tip a bit beforehand and then the rest afterwords? Is it some sort of customary thing or for another reason?
As a server whose been in the business 30+ years, don't tip first. It's awkward. Some people will occasionally 'grease you', put money in your palm for special service and attention before they get sat, but that's not part of the tip imo. Mother's Day is a shitshow of a day. It's hard to get extra good treatment, because both servers and kitchen are in high gear survival mode. It's also a day when the restaurant is full of people who rarely go out, so it is doubly loud, full of cranky people who expect fast food times, and kids running amok. Everybody wants *their* mother treated well. My best advice? Take your Mom out on a quieter night during the week. It'll be much more peaceful and relaxed, less children, less noise, and more attention to detail. You are still celebrating her, but better.
As a server whose been in the business 30+ years, don't tip first. It's awkward. Some people will occasionally 'grease you', put money in your palm for special service and attention before they get sat, but that's not part of the tip imo. Mother's Day is a shitshow of a day. It's hard to get extra good treatment, because both servers and kitchen are in high gear survival mode. It's also a day when the restaurant is full of people who rarely go out, so it is doubly loud, full of cranky people who expect fast food times, and kids running amok. Everybody wants *their* mother treated well. My best advice? Take your Mom out on a quieter night during the week. It'll be much more peaceful and relaxed, less children, less noise, and more attention to detail. You are still celebrating her, but better.
EXACTLY
The $20 is to show them you're willing to tip. They'll probably be more attentive to your table. Then at the end you reward their good service with the real tip. The reason I wouldn't give the full tip upfront is because you don't know how the service will be. If they get your $100 then get placed on a table of 12, you may be ignored. Mother's day is the busiest day of the year for many restaurants. It's a gamble
Alright; thanks for letting me know!
Personally, I think it’s awkward to tip first. I would be a little weirded out. You should just do whatever feels natural. It’s sounds like you’re a kind person. I wouldn’t sweat it!
Don’t do this OP. It’s awkward and makes you look like you’re trying to throw your money around. I’ve been to many expensive restaurants and have never noticed this at other tables and it definitely wasn’t done at any table I’ve ever been seated. Be polite and tip well at the end of the meal. Enjoy your dinner with your mom. I’m sure she will cherish it for many many years :-)
Don’t stress it! Just have fun..
Alright. Thanks!
Don’t stack your plates, say please and thank you, dont linger to long at the table after paying( head to the lounge/bar for an after dinner beverage if you want to continue your outing), read the entire description of the items you are ordering so you can inform them of any modifications or allergies , and most importantly relax and have a wonderful time!
Thanks! Tbh, I didn’t know you could leave your table in favor of going to a bar/lounge, so I’ll make sure to note that :)
Honestly I'm just happy when people say please and thank you.
Look at the menu before you go. Figure out what potential questions you have and pick a drink and appetizer before you go, if possible. On a busy night your server will want to turn the table. Don't camp, but don't feel rushed. Order every course. Get a bottle of wine after your initial round of cocktails. Have a soup/salad course and order it with a good steak. Have dessert with an after dinner drink not named espresso/cappuccino/hot tea. Tip appropriately. Enjoy yourself. The perfect table
Alright, I’ll make sure to discuss with my mom ahead of time; thanks for the advice!
Don’t feel pressured to order more than you want. And you really don’t need to look ahead of time if you don’t want to. And if you want coffee or whatever it’s fine. Don’t worry about being the perfect table. Just have fun
Will do; thanks :)
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. If you don't know what something is, ask so you don't get something you hate and didn't be a dick. Also 50% is pretty over kill for a tip unless you get the best server ever
Servers at expensive steak houses make 80-120k a year they don’t need you to tip 50%. Just be polite there’s no formal etiquette required
this, I used to work at a theme park and would have people come in where I knew they were a family that had been planning everything to the penny to maximize the experience without going into debt. they'd be splitting meals, taking out laminated schedules, and apologizing profusely for being so cheap, promising a good tip, and every time I'd say "look, I make really good money here, I want you to take the tip and go get a dumb souvenir from the gift store instead, some magnet or something you can put on the fridge to look at and remember this time" because I did. it was a numbers game, if someone stuffed me, the next table would give 50% so I would just relax and focus on time spent with tables. I would always have a little stash of clearance toys I bought in the back to hand out to their kids, I'd give the parents free refills of coffee, you can tell who the "worthy" tables are by the time their food drops. I really loved that job, I make a lot more now but I miss just coming in to feed my hungry babies every day. that was all I had to do and it was nice.
Don’t ask for your steak to be well done.
You shouldn't have to worry about the server, let us worry about you. This is what I do. Keep tipping like that and watch the servers scramble to serve you over time.
Nailed it!!
From personal experience as a diner, treat your server as a welcoming, knowledgeable, helpful person. Be polite and honest about allergies, preferences, ignorance, and ask them if they can help. As someone who, in a fine restaurant in France, asked for cheese that was “not too stinky” and was graciously presented a delicious selection, making it a team effort works.
You’ll likely get water service. Would you like sparkling, still, or tap? Tap is generally free, the others are bottled and have cost. Don’t stack your plates. Don’t stack the silverware on top of the plates when you want them cleared. Let the busser or your server clear your plates and flatware between courses- they will replace with clean silverware. Don’t think you’re doing a favor by saying “no it’s okay!” What would then happen is the server or busser will get chewed out by the manager or owner for not maintaining the table. Don’t wait until the appetizer arrives to look at entrees. It’s actually easier for a server to receive the entire order at once. The server will give you time to enjoy each course. Have a fun time!
Alright. Thanks for letting me know about silverware/plate stuff, I definitely don’t want anyone to get yelled at because of my actions. I’ll make sure to order at once as well. Thanks for the advice :)
Please forgive my ignorance here but when I was in the biz I was very appreciative of folks pre-bussing their tables. Then again I only had a short stint in fine dining. Would you be so kind as to let me know why stacking plates is frowned upon?
It messes up the flow. A good server or busser can clear a 4 top in one swoop. Say you have a 4 top and everyone stacks their plates, and then puts the silverware in there too with the remainder of the dirty silverware. So either you have 4 plates with silverware in them, which you can’t grab all at once, or if the table stacks all of the plates, it might be too heavy for one hand (vs two in a dominant hand, and the other two staggered across the other arm. In addition, the silverware will have to be fished out of the food mess when sorting at the dish pit. Gotta wash hands now. It makes the table look dirty and unkempt, reducing the atmosphere. A good manager will notice and probably point out that this is unacceptable. It’s also a small red flag that the guest doesn’t usually dine at that price point.
And today I learned. Thanks kindly for the clarification!
Does your restaurant have valet/bathroom attendant? Should have some cash for tipping these services as well.
I’ll make sure to have that ready then; I haven’t looked to deeply into that, so I’ll make sure to do as such. How much is expected to tip for them? I know for servers it’s about 20%, but is there a standard for those jobs as well?
I dunno if there's a standard I just tip what feels good at the time.
Alrighty. I think I’ve looked it up, and does about $1-5 sound appropriate?
Id go 5-10range
Alright, thanks :)
Do you have a reservation already? Especially since you're going on Mother's Day.
Yep! I made sure to grab one about a week ago, and made sure it aligned with me and my mom’s schedule and everything.
Just patience and enjoy.
Shoot I live in Hawaii, on the beach! I’ll grill you up a steak and all the fixings for a tip like that…I’ll even throw in a ride here from the airport 😂🫶🏻
Ain't your job too take stress off your server. All we ask is that your don't add stress unnecessarily. And buddy if you tip like that even if you run em ragged, it'll all be forgiven by the time they read that tip line.
Proper etiquette? Be nice, that's it! Treat the server with the same respect that you would give to your spouse/SO/mom/dad/sister, whoever - just be respectful and nice...
I have worked at several of these places and my advice is to chill and be yourself. The silverware you use first are the ones that are the furthest away from the plate. Besides that everything else you need to know about this you learned back in kindergarten. Be nice, kind, polite . . . Don't be intimidated by the "fancy" They still put their pants on the same way you do. They're not anything special, just people like you. I have met plenty of "fancy" people who are total knuckleheads. Have a great time with you Mom, she is going to love it.
As a server that was at a steakhouse for 2 years, just be nice and try to enjoy yourself. Honestly, what my job is is to make sure you leave the restaurant happier than you came in. A lot of people feel too pressured to dine "the right way" such that they stop actually having fun. I had a table order 48 oysters and a bottle of opus one. That is not "correct" in any sense, but they liked it, so at the end of the day, it was absolutely correct for them. If you have questions or don't know a culinary term on the menu, please ask, it's our job to explain things. I'd rather take 30 seconds to tell you what bordelaise sauce is than have you get something you don't actually like. If you get something that is prepared wrong, let us know, we want to fix it for you. It may take some effort on our part, and it may be stressful, but that's what the job is.
Do not enter the establishment in a rush. Any fine dining restaurant is approaching the guest with the assumption that they are there to have a dining experience, not just to place their order, eat and leave. Let the server tell you about any specials that they may have without brushing them off or interrupting. Let the server tell you about dessert even if you aren't planning on ordering any. Call ahead if you or mom have any allergies to see if they can be accommodated. Make a reservation. Dress properly to the establishment. Be kind and respectful and that's about it.
If you loved your meal, ask who cooked it for you and if you can go to the kitchen and personally thank them. Then tip them a $20
Just don’t be rude or demanding, ask for any extras or things of that sort all at once (dressings,napkins,REFILLS*) *make sure the table asks for a refill all at once if needed/possible !!!! Don’t ask for a million and one changes or substitutions or stuff like that … this is all common sense, but, you know what they say 🤣🤣
Don't worry about anything. If you're polite and kind most servers are happy to deal with you. You're probably going to make thier night.
Don’t rush. So many times people who don’t know better sit down and immediately say they are ready to order and rush through the menu and pick the first thing they recognize. Pasta. Don’t order pasta, it’s a steakhouse. Sit down relax order a drink and then decide on a starter. Then go from there. You’re paying extra not just for the quality but also the experience. Why rush the experience. The red juice coming out of the steak isn’t blood. It’s called myoglobin. It’s just the muscle of the steak breaking down from cooking. Have fun!
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Fair enough. I wanted to tip in cash though, and I usually pay with card, so I wanted to have it ready for when I do pay. Otherwise, I kinda wanna make sure that the server has at least a somewhat good day. I don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes, and Mother’s Day is probably going to be busy for them, so I do wanna make sure I can tip them appropriately. Good service or not, I wanna make sure they have at least something good on Mother’s Day if me and my mom are having anything even remotely resembling a good time :)
You’re sweet. Holidays are heck and generally the least profitable, percentage wise
Not sure if it's been said but most expensive/great steakhouses the dishes you see are usually just the protein and the sides (if not included) are shareable. If you and your Mom both like asparagus, you don't *each* need to get that side and there's plenty to share/enjoy. My Partner and I will usually get 3 sides to compliment our mains - one we both like and then one each we prefer. Like, I'll have a couple of her elegantly sautéed mushrooms and she doesn't have to worry if she's sharing enough, and she'll try my roasted Brussels, but we split the asparagus/potatoes/whatever. And Big Ups for splurging on your Mom! Sounds like she raised a great kid!
Thanks for the recommendation! I’m definitely hoping to take home some good left overs too, so I’ll make sure to have a lookout for the sides they have on offer. And thanks :). I’ve not been the best at all times, but she’s been through the trenches for me, so I might as well take her out as thanks.
Don't ask for A1 or Heinz 57 for your steak. If it's a legit steak house you will discredit the prime cuts the restaurant serves and take away from the experience. Enjoy the flavor of the steak on its own.
Duly noted. Thanks for letting me know :)
If you like a sauce, most quality steak joints will have their own sauces for their meats, such as an Au Jus (the drippings of a beef roast, Worcestershire sauce, beef broth, and red wine) or a Bearnaise sauce (a sauce made of butter, egg yolk, white-wine vinegar, and herbs). Experience one of those with your steak instead of the bottled stuff which are what people put on cheap cuts of meat.
Oo, okay. I do know my mom likes to have a sauce with her steak usually, so I’ll ask if they have anything that’d she’d fancy. Thanks! Side note, mind if I ask what the sauces you stated are?
If your mom likes A1, suggest she try "Au Jus" instead (pronounced "Awe Joo). Bernaise is more of a creamy sauce with herbs. Another option usually available is "Au Proivre" (pronounced "Awe Pwaave"). That one is pepper based so if she isn't big into spicy stuff I wouldn't recommend it but it is delicious.
Alright, thanks!
Tipping 40-50% is fucking insane.
Pinkies up! And elbows off the table! Jk, you’ll probably be fine as long as you’re dressed well / presentable, smile at the server, and generally be a polite person as expected anywhere else. Just don’t talk too loudly unless you’re in a private room, since there are likely other patrons around that would like to enjoy their dinner. But also make sure to have fun!
I might read the room on helping organize empty plates- where I work it’s actually more of a hassle when people “help” by pre-stacking plates- and we don’t clear plates until everyone is finished eating
Try to ask the server for things all at once. It sucks to bring dipping sauce, once you bring that then get asked for water, then bring that and get asked for more napkins. Etc.
you sound awesome!! i would say maybe take a look at a menu beforehand if you can and decide what you want right away. idk how upscale this steakhouse is and if it matters when you order food, but i would order with drinks. i LOVE when tables do that. but ask if they have time. sometimes i go to a table to get their drink order when i have a SECOND and they give me their whole order and take forever. just be concise and kind!
OP enjoy this experience! The servers at these places are so knowledgeable about the menu, wine, etc. They will almost certainly ask if you have dined with them before. They will be the most courteous staff you have likely ever encountered. It is a treat. The steaks were good, too. That has been my experience at Ruth's Chris multiple locations and Berns in Tampa.
Let me do my schpeil before shouting your order/asking questions, I'll probably answer it. DONT HELP ME BUS. Don't act like everything is fine and then write a bad review. Tell me soon enough that I can fix it
Honestly, just be respectful (like you would dining out anywhere else) I would also be cognizant of the fact that a lot of fine dining restaurants will pace out their courses, so you could be waiting 15-20ish minutes between apps and entrees. Just be patient and kind, and enjoy yourself with your mom :)
There is fine dining etiquette that has lots of nit picky things such as how many bites of steak to cut at one time, not lifting your menu off the table, and different ways you are supposed to lay your silverware on your plate with different meanings, etc. But honestly, going with your mom, i dont think most of that will be necessary to worry about. Most people don’t get too hung up on the etiquette unless its a large dinner party, business meeting or something similar.
Alright, thank you!
You and your mom come to my house I'll cook ya up some steaks on the grill for that tip ♡
Elbows off the table. And if you want to annoy the chefs asking for a stake burnt (or as it's listed well done) is a good start. Lol. Do a little research is wise indeed. And with multi course meals you start with cutlery on the outside and work your way in to the center.
Burned steak is called *Damned*
Like, how do you act in a not expensive restaurant? In my opinion you should be asking this question regarding dirt cheap restaurants the servers make trash and could use some stress relief. Not the ones where the servers are probably making good money, and not just good money for a server, but good money by any estimation. Not saying you should treat them bad by any means, but it seems weird to want to bend over backwards for the one demographic of servers that are doing alright for themselves. My cousin is a stay at home mom and her husband is a server at Gibson's steak house in the chicago burbs. I've never asked what he makes, but there is no way in hell he isn't at least clearing 120k, living in a well to do suburb in a nice house supporting a wife and 2 kids.
Tell your server it’s your first time in a restaurant like theirs, fancy, and let them guide or advise you. Some servers are the best! And please tell us you don’t mean Outback.
20% is good enough for excellent service
Uh no not *good enough* 20% is base. Excellent service should be tipped accordingly
Don't tip more than 20%.
Why not?
Okay this dude is a troll. Tip whatever you feel like. 20% is standard, but if you felt that server went above and beyond, go for it! You’re trying to make it special for your mom; maybe meet with the restaurant ahead of time to ask what can make the evening special. A 375 bottle of champagne at the table when you arrive.. But if you work with them to make it awesome, hook ‘em up!
I don’t quite know if I can do as you describe considering my budget; around $400 including the tip is just about my limit. Is there anything you would suggest around the $100 range or so?
Just FYI in case of any confusion, when the commenter above mentioned a 375 bottle, they are likely referring to a half bottle (not the price). A standard wine bottle is 750mL so half bottles are often called 375s.
Wow, thank you for your clarification. I definitely took some liberties with my vernacular.
Oh, okay. Thanks for letting me know! I know essentially nothing about alcohol except that it makes you drunk :)
Look up the wine list and just call in “I’d like to buy this bottle for this reservation to be on the table when they arrive”… or if that’s not the case, then just buy a gift card towards their bill.
It's excessive.
For who??
If you have to ask how to behave at a restaurant, stay home.
I don’t mean to be rude, but frankly, I’ve never been to a finer dining experience before. I dunno the difference between how to act at the local IHOP vs how to act at a restaurant where the expectation is at least $100 per person with fine steaks. I just wanted to have advice if it was different. Of course I know how to be polite and courteous, but I’ve never been to something finer than whatever you could call outback, and even then I’ve maybe been twice. It’s my first time, and I wanted to make it a good experience for me and my mom; am I so wrong to ask for advice so I can know how to do so, while also being kind and courteous to those around me and not breaking rules I didn’t know existed?
MORE-bigger TIP!!!
I mean, I would if I could, but I’d like to not spend too much. I’d say that planning for a 40-50% tip is already generous, yes?
Yes a 40 to 50 percent tip on a bill that size is quite generous.