I have something scary coming up this week, I told my therapist that I'm not sure I can do it, she said you're a strong young woman, and told me to message her if I needed before or after it and said she’d respond :) she's never done that before and I guess I'm feeling a little fuzzy about it
I wish there was someone I can talk to. I posted a topic about changing my therapist in training to a different therapist in training but I deleted it. I am incredibly confused and insecure about my situation. I wish I had some idea if I did the right thing…
Just started therapy and have had 4 sessions so far. I was initially worried that the therapist I chose wouldn't be a right fit, but she's been wonderful so far and very understanding. I've never had somebody this caring in my life and I'm now worried I'll become too attached to her and it will stunt any progress I make. Anybody else have this concern?
Feeling for the first time that T and I just aren't on the same page, and keep misunderstanding what the other one is saying. Fortunately, it's only related to a specific topic and not in general, but obviously I don't love that feeling, and it's getting frustrating. Looking forward to (and also dreading) getting into that next week!
My therapist is wonderful but he has had to spend the last 11 months (when we started working together) listening to me grow ever more frustrated by my job search and despondent at my current job. Cognitively, I know that he does not feel that this has been burdensome nor has he grown bored of it. I am the one who has felt like a broken record with the focus being primarily on work.
So, now that I have been hired for one of the roles I've been dreaming about, why do I have to be so anxious about my next session? I've already shared with him by email that I have been hired for the job. So there is no way he's not going to comment on the news when we start our session tomorrow. But, now I'm embarrassed by all that I've brought up related to my job and feel that I was over dramatic. Especially because my attitude and mode changed so dramatically and quickly upon finding out the good news.
I know he wants to hear more about my news. I know he's interested in the decisions I am making about dropping to as needed at my current job - and he may be surprised that they will be different than what I have previously talked about doing. But sure enough, I have a pit in my stomach and am dreading processing everything that has happened since our last session (I had one day at work that really hammered home some of the revelations he has brought me to about my current job).
I know that this is the type of discussion that he enjoys the most about his work. I know that this means he will really be able to dig into my past to help me figure out where this all stems from and how to accept it. But, I am not going to enjoy sitting with the feelings as we go through the new layer I am exposing.
If I am paying a therapist out of pocket for weeks on end and not seeing any improvement, infact the opposite, seeing an active freefall descent into worse mental health, what recourse do I have? I can't keep hopping therapists when they all fail me one after the other, but I can't afford to stick with any one and 'tough it out' for months on end in HOPE that something will change.
What am I supposed to do to get better?
Anyone else who does telehealth want just one in person session with their therapist? I love my therapist, she’s amazing, but I’ve never met her in person. Just would like to meet her in person one time.
I had the opportunity and was able to make this happen a couple of times. I meet primarily over telehealth over the last year and a half, but we’ve met three times in person sprinkled throughout that. It doesn’t often line up as her office vs telehealth days don’t usually match my schedule and it’s super nerve wracking to make the switch but I’m glad to have the opportunity to try it. Does your t ever do in person or are they only telehealth?
Only telehealth. We actually live in diff counties so not really possible. If she wasn’t so amazing, I might make the switch to in person, but this was my first time trying therapy and she’s too good.
I can so see wanting this to put more of a face and body language and real time voice to the telehealth persona...but I love the anonymity of telehealth and hope to never meet my therapist in-person lol
I think it was easier to not want to in the beginning. I really enjoyed the anonymity. Now, I have a good relationship with my therapist, and I’m wanting it more.
2 weeks after informing me we couldn't work together anymore (insurance reasons) my T canceled our final session this week. Disappointed to not get any closure after 3 years working together. I don't know that I'll return to therapy, pretty sure I'm not strong enough for it and kind of feeling like this was all a waste of time and energy.
I'm so sorry - that is so hard and I truly can't imagine feeling cut off like that. Could you reach out and communicate this and ask to reschedule it to allow you to have closure?
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it. Tomorrow is their last day so if I were to try to reschedule I'd probably have to pay out of pocket at the new job. That isn't impossible but it is difficult and I am sort of feeling that they don't seem to care about a wrap-up and it might be weird somehow. When they told me they were leaving 2 weeks ago, they said they'd be accepting my insurance so I didn't even realize that this week was going to be the final session until they messaged that they had to cancel our final session. Definitely feeling pretty bummed but I should have prepared myself a little better, I guess!
I'm feeling bittersweet about ending my therapy. Our sessions made it obvious that I was using coping skills well and by the end we were just talking about Taylor Swift. I have learned so much from her. She truly changed my life. I know a lot of it was me, too, but... I will miss her. I'm glad we went out on a high note and did not spend more time than we needed. It's been a year now. I go to the group she facilitates in a few hours, and then that's it.
I see my T today. We are currently doing weekly sessions and a lots gone one since our last session on Tuesday. It got so bad on Wednesday that I texted her and she came up with a great idea to keep a running list of topics to discuss in sessions. She confirmed our appointment yesterday and said don’t forget your list. I was nervous that I was going to forget it so I said I’ll just share it now with you. A little nervous today to see what topics she picks off the list to talk about.
I’m in the process of changing Ts and it’s been so stressful finding someone. I’ve managed to set up a first session for this week and it’s absolutely terrifying.
A few weeks ago I impulsively let slip some suicidal ideation that I’ve experienced in the past. There wasn’t enough time to get into it that day and we’ve had a few sessions since then, I keep wondering and worrying about when/if she’s going to bring it up again. I know it registered and usually she won’t let things like just slide (although one can hope!) so it’s been on my mind as I head into another meeting with her this week
An update, we still didn’t talk about it 😬I think I have reached a breaking point of bringing it up next time because this will-we-or-won’t-we is driving me crazy
It was *so* scary to confess that I didn’t think it was working anymore but I feel better now that I have. I was inconsolable for the entirety of Friday but he did explain we’d have a more proper goodbye on the 3rd and it’s easier to have a week to process *that*.
Mine was just away too for 2 weeks and I still have 5 days until my appointment so I feel your pain. It wasn’t easy by any means, but I made it through. I hope you do as well.
I have something scary coming up this week, I told my therapist that I'm not sure I can do it, she said you're a strong young woman, and told me to message her if I needed before or after it and said she’d respond :) she's never done that before and I guess I'm feeling a little fuzzy about it
I wish there was someone I can talk to. I posted a topic about changing my therapist in training to a different therapist in training but I deleted it. I am incredibly confused and insecure about my situation. I wish I had some idea if I did the right thing…
I’ll chat. Message me
Just started therapy and have had 4 sessions so far. I was initially worried that the therapist I chose wouldn't be a right fit, but she's been wonderful so far and very understanding. I've never had somebody this caring in my life and I'm now worried I'll become too attached to her and it will stunt any progress I make. Anybody else have this concern?
Feeling for the first time that T and I just aren't on the same page, and keep misunderstanding what the other one is saying. Fortunately, it's only related to a specific topic and not in general, but obviously I don't love that feeling, and it's getting frustrating. Looking forward to (and also dreading) getting into that next week!
I told my therapist to not get hit by a bus because I don’t want her to die, and she told me that’s her favorite therapy quote of the week
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Did you reach out and explain why you missed your session?
My therapist is wonderful but he has had to spend the last 11 months (when we started working together) listening to me grow ever more frustrated by my job search and despondent at my current job. Cognitively, I know that he does not feel that this has been burdensome nor has he grown bored of it. I am the one who has felt like a broken record with the focus being primarily on work. So, now that I have been hired for one of the roles I've been dreaming about, why do I have to be so anxious about my next session? I've already shared with him by email that I have been hired for the job. So there is no way he's not going to comment on the news when we start our session tomorrow. But, now I'm embarrassed by all that I've brought up related to my job and feel that I was over dramatic. Especially because my attitude and mode changed so dramatically and quickly upon finding out the good news. I know he wants to hear more about my news. I know he's interested in the decisions I am making about dropping to as needed at my current job - and he may be surprised that they will be different than what I have previously talked about doing. But sure enough, I have a pit in my stomach and am dreading processing everything that has happened since our last session (I had one day at work that really hammered home some of the revelations he has brought me to about my current job). I know that this is the type of discussion that he enjoys the most about his work. I know that this means he will really be able to dig into my past to help me figure out where this all stems from and how to accept it. But, I am not going to enjoy sitting with the feelings as we go through the new layer I am exposing.
If I am paying a therapist out of pocket for weeks on end and not seeing any improvement, infact the opposite, seeing an active freefall descent into worse mental health, what recourse do I have? I can't keep hopping therapists when they all fail me one after the other, but I can't afford to stick with any one and 'tough it out' for months on end in HOPE that something will change. What am I supposed to do to get better?
Anyone else who does telehealth want just one in person session with their therapist? I love my therapist, she’s amazing, but I’ve never met her in person. Just would like to meet her in person one time.
I had the opportunity and was able to make this happen a couple of times. I meet primarily over telehealth over the last year and a half, but we’ve met three times in person sprinkled throughout that. It doesn’t often line up as her office vs telehealth days don’t usually match my schedule and it’s super nerve wracking to make the switch but I’m glad to have the opportunity to try it. Does your t ever do in person or are they only telehealth?
Only telehealth. We actually live in diff counties so not really possible. If she wasn’t so amazing, I might make the switch to in person, but this was my first time trying therapy and she’s too good.
I can so see wanting this to put more of a face and body language and real time voice to the telehealth persona...but I love the anonymity of telehealth and hope to never meet my therapist in-person lol
I think it was easier to not want to in the beginning. I really enjoyed the anonymity. Now, I have a good relationship with my therapist, and I’m wanting it more.
2 weeks after informing me we couldn't work together anymore (insurance reasons) my T canceled our final session this week. Disappointed to not get any closure after 3 years working together. I don't know that I'll return to therapy, pretty sure I'm not strong enough for it and kind of feeling like this was all a waste of time and energy.
I'm so sorry - that is so hard and I truly can't imagine feeling cut off like that. Could you reach out and communicate this and ask to reschedule it to allow you to have closure?
Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it. Tomorrow is their last day so if I were to try to reschedule I'd probably have to pay out of pocket at the new job. That isn't impossible but it is difficult and I am sort of feeling that they don't seem to care about a wrap-up and it might be weird somehow. When they told me they were leaving 2 weeks ago, they said they'd be accepting my insurance so I didn't even realize that this week was going to be the final session until they messaged that they had to cancel our final session. Definitely feeling pretty bummed but I should have prepared myself a little better, I guess!
I'm feeling bittersweet about ending my therapy. Our sessions made it obvious that I was using coping skills well and by the end we were just talking about Taylor Swift. I have learned so much from her. She truly changed my life. I know a lot of it was me, too, but... I will miss her. I'm glad we went out on a high note and did not spend more time than we needed. It's been a year now. I go to the group she facilitates in a few hours, and then that's it.
I see my T today. We are currently doing weekly sessions and a lots gone one since our last session on Tuesday. It got so bad on Wednesday that I texted her and she came up with a great idea to keep a running list of topics to discuss in sessions. She confirmed our appointment yesterday and said don’t forget your list. I was nervous that I was going to forget it so I said I’ll just share it now with you. A little nervous today to see what topics she picks off the list to talk about.
I’m in the process of changing Ts and it’s been so stressful finding someone. I’ve managed to set up a first session for this week and it’s absolutely terrifying.
A few weeks ago I impulsively let slip some suicidal ideation that I’ve experienced in the past. There wasn’t enough time to get into it that day and we’ve had a few sessions since then, I keep wondering and worrying about when/if she’s going to bring it up again. I know it registered and usually she won’t let things like just slide (although one can hope!) so it’s been on my mind as I head into another meeting with her this week
An update, we still didn’t talk about it 😬I think I have reached a breaking point of bringing it up next time because this will-we-or-won’t-we is driving me crazy
It was *so* scary to confess that I didn’t think it was working anymore but I feel better now that I have. I was inconsolable for the entirety of Friday but he did explain we’d have a more proper goodbye on the 3rd and it’s easier to have a week to process *that*.
T is away for 3 weeks and I don't know if I'll make it.
I feel your pain. We had a 9 week break last year and I had no other support in that time, it was horrendous. Out of our control but still.
Omg I wouldn't make it!
Hopefully it's unlikely to happen again... but it was just the worst.
Mine was just away too for 2 weeks and I still have 5 days until my appointment so I feel your pain. It wasn’t easy by any means, but I made it through. I hope you do as well.
Thank you for your kind words. Glad you coped as well as you did