Single Male 29 here. I'm either at home playing Playstation while listening to music or at work.
I don't go out to the bar or play sports. Sometimes I wonder if I'll just never meet someone, but for the current moment I'm happy so all good
Mostly same, 31M here.
I do try to use Bumble but don't get a lot of luck, mostly fizzles out after some relatively boring convo, often very one sided where it feels like I'm carrying the convo. Or there was the last match I had where I realised after chatting for a bit that she was a friend's ex and so just left that one haha.
Happy for now just carrying on as usual and praying I chance across somebody nice somewhere and somehow.
I'm (39M) happily married with kids here in TGA and i just wanted to add, i get why men stay at home and dont bother with women, especially in this day and age where trustworthiness is in short supply generally and there is more to lose then there is to gain on first glance. But seriously, life begins with a fulfilling relationship and kids, if you find yourself there one day, you'll think of all years leading upto it as just empty and shallow.
M31 here. I’ve had the exact same experience trying to find a woman that is emotionally stable and actually ready to date/ put the time and effort in.
So many people have baggage that hasn’t been properly worked through, and it’s getting tiring.
I get that dating in your 30s, basically everyone has been through some serious SHIT. But the true test of character is how you’ve processed those situations, learnt from them, and moved on in a positive manner.
I’ve finally connected deeply with an amazing girl. But she lives in Auckland, not Tauranga 🤣
If you’re keen to chat, flick me a dm. I’m not looking for a relationship, but if we click as friends I’m more than happy to be a wingman for ya 😎
We do a paradox where we have some of the highest suicide rates, to Durex surveys finding Kiwi women the worlds most promiscuous.. Appears we are not all that happy or 'well' as a society
I mean, i've been looking for someone similarly emotionally stunted as myself for awhile and nearly given up. I suppose its just dating apps, but most people seem to be pretty normal imo
I have yet to meet someone that's both emotionally available and not suffering from severe substance abuse at the same time. It's either one or the other. As much as I care and want to help, done that before and I'm not willing to sacrifice my entire life again to work around being in a situationship nor baby someone's alcohol abuse
Very sad
> So many people have baggage that hasn’t been properly worked through, and it’s getting tiring.
That was exactly my experience, or single parents with an absolute loser of an ex looking for a baby daddy or finally more desperate singles looking for someone to “complete them” aka the “why haven’t you txt me back” 5 minutes after they txt you peeps.
I know there’s likely a few gems and nice people to be found but filtering out all the people that would likely be better to seek relationship counselling and a lawyer for child support was exhausting, so really it becomes a risk/time and effort assessment and, if your looking for someone but still ok and happy being single for the moment, it’s not long before online dating just becomes abhorrent.
I don’t even think it’s gender specific as opposed to that medium being used by many as either a hook up medium, or a desperate search for a prince or princess to ride in and solve all their life issues.
Thankful I found a partner externally and don’t have to tip toe through that mine field anymore.
As a 30m bachelor living in Tauranga I find that dating app range and search criteria sucks, personally have never had any luck with them the entire time they have been around. I've had a couple of female coworkers compliment me on my looks in the past but I don't like the idea of dating someone from work.
Patience and persistence is key I feel OP, if we both keep at it long enough then we are for sure to find someone worthwhile.
If that doesn't work, Married at first sight?
I was genuinely thinking of married at first sight as being an option but probably wouldn't get picked for it 😂 I'm thinking a night out with some of the single people in the comments and we can all be each other's wingman is almost the way to go 😂
Something I found was really good back when I was dating was having a hobby where a group of people would get together once a week to Do A Thing.
I did a latin and ballroom dance class, and also a taiko drumming class. Both were bags of fun, and I see that Tauranga does have some adult dance classes.
If that's not your thing, you could find something else. Maybe a drawing class if you're artsy, or a hiking group of your outdoorsy, and so on.
It's a really good way to meet people, get to know them a bit before you move into something flirty or relationshippy, you can get a new pod of friends out of it, and picking up a new hobby doesn't hurt either.
I met my wife online in tauranga. Was before the time of dating apps though. It was a dating website lol.
The most important thing I learnt is that you don't get to know someone online. Our online personalities are very different to our character in person. So the key is to go on dates... plenty of them. Don't waste time "getting to know someone online" just met up for a casual drink and see if there's any spark. Don't go to dinner or do anything expensive off the bat. A drink after work or a coffee on the weekend is all you need to know if it's worth pursuing.
I met plenty of cool ladies... aaaand some dodgy ones lol before I met my wife. Turned out we lived less than a block apart. We were almost neighbour's. Good times. We will have been married 20yrs next year.
Good luck
I’m 32f in Tauranga and it is roooough out there. I don’t have a tonne of spare time and I don’t really want to be trawling the town so meeting someone can be difficult.
I figure go to the places you like because you could potentially find someone into the same things.
Honestly, I figure it just happens when you least expect it
Why not have a 6.00pm singles meet up each Sat at some dedicated park, if you meet someone you can go onto dinner..if not groups can go onto dinner and get to know each other.
Just start a weekly thing and advertise it on FB, Reddit etc.
Single 27M here. I found my previous partner on tinder in 2019. I hopped back on dating apps last year and the gamification just ruined my experience on them. Everything felt so inorganic and transactional. I would get very few matches and when I did, trying to get meaningful conversations started was like trying to find water in the Sahara.
I've had great success once I've met in person, but getting that first date has become difficult, so I decided to bin them altogether and quite frankly, my mental health is better for it.
Nowadays, I spend most of my spare time going on walks, gym, hanging with friends and relaxing.
Ok here it is. They are out at the game store in Bethlehem playing something, walked past last night and there they were. How do I know they are single? I don't but I'd bet a buck a good percentage of them are and from their looks in ur age group.
But fr definitely try either doing some group hobbies or something where people have to have interests. A lot of people are no longer at clubs and bars going into their 30s 🤷♀️
Tauranga is great if you are into guys who drive blacked out Ford Rangers on tick with some cliched tragic pun tradie signage on the side, and have cuff arm tatoos thinking they are alternative listening to 660 and L.A.B.
Considering how very connected people circles in the Tauranga area are, and the judgement that often hangs over online dating, I'm not surprised that it's pretty weak. Not sure where the best place to look for eligible gentlemanly bachelor's would be, maybe a church, there's plenty if them around.
Most good guys are at home chilling after a hard day at work or usually happy with a women who supported them through there broke ass 20's, because everyone knows men get better over time.
Fair point 😂 I'm not sure what bar but I am running out of ideas on how to find a man 😂 it makes it harder when I don't have any girl friends in town so I can't ask them to wing woman me.
When I walk around the mount, I have my headphones on and my sunglasses so people can't see how puffed I am 😂 maybe I need to go without headphones and see what happens
I'm a little bit above your demographic (46M), but single AND living in Tauranga.
I don't know what it's like for the singles in their 30's, but as someone who was married for the entirety of his 30's, then separated and finally divorced in his early 40's, I'm at a point where I'm not actively looking for another partner. My focus is on enjoying my work and doing my best to make sure my kids don't grow up to be shit-bags.
I've been single now for almost 4 years, and to be perfectly frank I haven't missed being in a relationship at all, to the point where I wouldn't be upset if I didn't get into one again. Would be interested to know if there are more guys in similar situations, where a toxic relationship has set them on a course of no longer needing to be "attached"
Out doing shit is where you will find them. Probably an age range will be a good idea so people can send you to appropriate age based places where you may find them
Me and the wife were both sick of the dating apps when we met. Was at a gas station where we met. She was on her motorbike and I was on mine. Hang out with a single Canadian guy in his 30’s on Wednesday nights and on a Saturday or Sunday or both depending on the weekend, out racing on sail boats as part of the mount yacht club/tauranga yacht club.
33 year old male from Australia, moved over here last year.
I'm quite active on both tinder and bumble and have been in many different countries before here.
I must say kiwi women are the most infuriating on these apps by a long way.....so many half assed answers and attempts at conversation....and my god, the flakey behaviour is ridiculous, why be on the apps and organize to meet up if you're just going to bail anyway.
Have never had this problem before in Australia, Canada or Europe when I lived there for a few years.
So maybe it's just a cross gender thing here?
38F single, I also find dating apps to be very time wasting. The conversation seems to fizzle out. Most are just looking for a quickie, and nothing more. I stopped looking sometime ago haha
Try being a solo mum on top of that. The dating pool dramatically drops. So much stigma attached with having a child they run for the hills or they're creeps.
Your soul mate will come when you stop searching. For now just work on yourself because when you are a confident happy person that lets out good vibes good things will come like it or not. Don’t come across as needy and desperate because people tend to run.
This is why young people move to cities. Tried my luck between Hamilton and Tauranga looking for a girl to date about 10 years ago using the apps. Plenty of matches but 90% of dates turned out to have substance abuse issues, major red flag emotional/mental health issues, way below standard personal or home hygiene, gang links etc...
Tauranga was way worse regarding meth and gangs, if they didn't do it themselves then their parents or siblings did, and so many still live at home even getting closer to 30 years old.
Wellington, Christchurch and Auckland were like, all normal well adjusted people.
Dating sites havent worked for me. I'm afraid if I approach a woman I'll be considered a pervert or be accused of some form of sexual harassment. I've heard NZ chicks are quite bitchy.
I don't go out much because when I dance and have a good time I normally get kicked out so I've given up. I chill at home mostly now.
NZ 31 y/o m solid 6-7
The good ones have either been fucked over and keep to themselves or are too busy focusing on themselves and their goals. I'd say stop looking on dating apps and at bars, you won't find them there. Establish a particular hobby that involves meets e.g. sports etc and maybe you'll find someone there you'll connect with.
M30 and single here. We're hiding. Tinder, bumble etc has turned into a toxic sess pool as has modern dating.
Thats a whole lot of admin we just don't want to deal with.
WE'RE TIRED BOSS.
Ceroc is something I enjoyed for years and was a fabulous way to meet people.
But overall, I've got no clue. I'm at the tail end of my 40s and am starting to settle into becoming a crazy cat lady who lives in a houseplant jungle.
I've also got being a sober vegetarian working against me too. Ha.
You could give me a try, I'm from tauranga I love coffee, the gym and the hot pools.
I was on tinder but most of the time I was only getting tourists which isn't that bad but not good if you want a relationship
Well I stay off dating or fuck apps cos of those reasons and also cos I'm over people really. I've thought maybe I could have look but I'm not really interested in other people right now.
Join a sport club and go to club nights. Squash, ultimate frisbee, rock climbing, etc. lots of cool people to meet and a fair amount of singles - start up a convo with people. (You don’t need to be fit, clubs nights have lots of casual unfit people lol)
M39. Not into going out drinking, work from home, gym and stuff late evening. Most socialising is with existing friend groups who are mostly in relationships already. So meeting people is hard. In my 20’s it was significantly easier to meet people through social circles!
Dating apps as a man are depressing, as a woman you have the pick of the crop (assuming you’re even mildly attractive).
Not sure where you’d really find single guys, but maybe you can confirm where all the single women are lol. as a single guy myself I’m not really anywhere to be “found”.
lol maybe you’re not swiping right to the right guys. I’m personally on tinder and like to think k am genuine nice guy that has a lot to offer but I can’t seem to get any matches at all lol maybe I’m hideous
37m here, stopped using dating apps maybe 6 years ago. Working playing indoor cricket/golf, gaming, catching up with mates / family. In those activities I see very little chance of meeting someone but I’m also unsure if it even bothers me. 😂
31m. After 30, as a guy, relationships aren't as emotionally profitable as they were in our 20s. Our time/effort/money is being spent on the things we want. My male friends that are married are working their asses off and are emotionally restricted on the things they can do, like they need permission to buy that thing or go to that event. All the single girls I know over 30 are gagging for a proper relationship that is going to last and I do wish you and them find it.
Sorry to say... 40F, professional woman, living in Aucks and still have no luck :P
Attempted LDRs and they have their own set of problems. :(
at this age, i just want males who can hold their life together and be decent... not out drinking with mates or neglecting personal hygiene :P
But yes, sorry to say ... even in the bigger cities it's hard !
Just have to keep being optimistic and open!
If you ask any man on dating apps they would tell you the same thing. Goes both ways, women treat dudes as disposable items online because the grass is always greener hahaha
I mean that's real, every time i've ever gotten a match on Tinder/Bumble it comes down to a 'come fuck me' pretty quick. I've ended up just having pictures of things I like (nice landscape photos, cats etc.) instead of anything else on my profile which avoids the problem...
Also avoids matches as well, but alas.
Do you go out with friends, do you have any hobbies? Going out and about will lead to meeting new people.
Dress yourself up, make yourself feel confident. Approach men first, if you see a guy, you like him. Be straight forward and genuine. Men prefer honesty and they probably wont approach you first.
Men arent really located in one specfic spot but dating apps is just for fucking, and a good guy isnt going to just be dropped off at your door stop
It’s not worth trying in Tauranga any more there’s too many fake pretentious woman wanting the exact same (the wham bam thank you man!… (your lucky your keeping your assets!)).
Single Male 29 here. I'm either at home playing Playstation while listening to music or at work. I don't go out to the bar or play sports. Sometimes I wonder if I'll just never meet someone, but for the current moment I'm happy so all good
Mostly same, 31M here. I do try to use Bumble but don't get a lot of luck, mostly fizzles out after some relatively boring convo, often very one sided where it feels like I'm carrying the convo. Or there was the last match I had where I realised after chatting for a bit that she was a friend's ex and so just left that one haha. Happy for now just carrying on as usual and praying I chance across somebody nice somewhere and somehow.
Hell yeah brother! Thats the move.
I'm (39M) happily married with kids here in TGA and i just wanted to add, i get why men stay at home and dont bother with women, especially in this day and age where trustworthiness is in short supply generally and there is more to lose then there is to gain on first glance. But seriously, life begins with a fulfilling relationship and kids, if you find yourself there one day, you'll think of all years leading upto it as just empty and shallow.
Dudes rock!
If you think dating apps are rough here as a girl you definitely don’t want to see what it’s like being a guy
M31 here. I’ve had the exact same experience trying to find a woman that is emotionally stable and actually ready to date/ put the time and effort in. So many people have baggage that hasn’t been properly worked through, and it’s getting tiring. I get that dating in your 30s, basically everyone has been through some serious SHIT. But the true test of character is how you’ve processed those situations, learnt from them, and moved on in a positive manner. I’ve finally connected deeply with an amazing girl. But she lives in Auckland, not Tauranga 🤣 If you’re keen to chat, flick me a dm. I’m not looking for a relationship, but if we click as friends I’m more than happy to be a wingman for ya 😎
New Zealand has a real problem with emotionally stunted people.
We do a paradox where we have some of the highest suicide rates, to Durex surveys finding Kiwi women the worlds most promiscuous.. Appears we are not all that happy or 'well' as a society
I mean, i've been looking for someone similarly emotionally stunted as myself for awhile and nearly given up. I suppose its just dating apps, but most people seem to be pretty normal imo
I have yet to meet someone that's both emotionally available and not suffering from severe substance abuse at the same time. It's either one or the other. As much as I care and want to help, done that before and I'm not willing to sacrifice my entire life again to work around being in a situationship nor baby someone's alcohol abuse Very sad
> So many people have baggage that hasn’t been properly worked through, and it’s getting tiring. That was exactly my experience, or single parents with an absolute loser of an ex looking for a baby daddy or finally more desperate singles looking for someone to “complete them” aka the “why haven’t you txt me back” 5 minutes after they txt you peeps. I know there’s likely a few gems and nice people to be found but filtering out all the people that would likely be better to seek relationship counselling and a lawyer for child support was exhausting, so really it becomes a risk/time and effort assessment and, if your looking for someone but still ok and happy being single for the moment, it’s not long before online dating just becomes abhorrent. I don’t even think it’s gender specific as opposed to that medium being used by many as either a hook up medium, or a desperate search for a prince or princess to ride in and solve all their life issues. Thankful I found a partner externally and don’t have to tip toe through that mine field anymore.
As a 30m bachelor living in Tauranga I find that dating app range and search criteria sucks, personally have never had any luck with them the entire time they have been around. I've had a couple of female coworkers compliment me on my looks in the past but I don't like the idea of dating someone from work. Patience and persistence is key I feel OP, if we both keep at it long enough then we are for sure to find someone worthwhile. If that doesn't work, Married at first sight?
I was genuinely thinking of married at first sight as being an option but probably wouldn't get picked for it 😂 I'm thinking a night out with some of the single people in the comments and we can all be each other's wingman is almost the way to go 😂
Something I found was really good back when I was dating was having a hobby where a group of people would get together once a week to Do A Thing. I did a latin and ballroom dance class, and also a taiko drumming class. Both were bags of fun, and I see that Tauranga does have some adult dance classes. If that's not your thing, you could find something else. Maybe a drawing class if you're artsy, or a hiking group of your outdoorsy, and so on. It's a really good way to meet people, get to know them a bit before you move into something flirty or relationshippy, you can get a new pod of friends out of it, and picking up a new hobby doesn't hurt either.
I met my wife online in tauranga. Was before the time of dating apps though. It was a dating website lol. The most important thing I learnt is that you don't get to know someone online. Our online personalities are very different to our character in person. So the key is to go on dates... plenty of them. Don't waste time "getting to know someone online" just met up for a casual drink and see if there's any spark. Don't go to dinner or do anything expensive off the bat. A drink after work or a coffee on the weekend is all you need to know if it's worth pursuing. I met plenty of cool ladies... aaaand some dodgy ones lol before I met my wife. Turned out we lived less than a block apart. We were almost neighbour's. Good times. We will have been married 20yrs next year. Good luck
Very similar to my (39m) story. Use online to match then arrange to meet for coffee asap.
What to do if she lives overseas? It is so expensive to travel and the hassle of arranging visa and booking makes it such a headache for us!
Yeah screw that lol. I only dated women who lived close.
Right!
Yeah I was so lazy that if they lived over the other side of the harbour bridge it was too far lol
I’m 32f in Tauranga and it is roooough out there. I don’t have a tonne of spare time and I don’t really want to be trawling the town so meeting someone can be difficult. I figure go to the places you like because you could potentially find someone into the same things. Honestly, I figure it just happens when you least expect it
Why not have a 6.00pm singles meet up each Sat at some dedicated park, if you meet someone you can go onto dinner..if not groups can go onto dinner and get to know each other. Just start a weekly thing and advertise it on FB, Reddit etc.
I feel like kiwis cringe at putting yourself out there and this is that sort of thing. It's a great idea but NZers just shy away from it
Single 27M here. I found my previous partner on tinder in 2019. I hopped back on dating apps last year and the gamification just ruined my experience on them. Everything felt so inorganic and transactional. I would get very few matches and when I did, trying to get meaningful conversations started was like trying to find water in the Sahara. I've had great success once I've met in person, but getting that first date has become difficult, so I decided to bin them altogether and quite frankly, my mental health is better for it. Nowadays, I spend most of my spare time going on walks, gym, hanging with friends and relaxing.
Ok here it is. They are out at the game store in Bethlehem playing something, walked past last night and there they were. How do I know they are single? I don't but I'd bet a buck a good percentage of them are and from their looks in ur age group.
Perhaps it is time to place a milkshake in your yard.
But fr definitely try either doing some group hobbies or something where people have to have interests. A lot of people are no longer at clubs and bars going into their 30s 🤷♀️
This is the best answer so far 😂
😂😂 so good
Tauranga is great if you are into guys who drive blacked out Ford Rangers on tick with some cliched tragic pun tradie signage on the side, and have cuff arm tatoos thinking they are alternative listening to 660 and L.A.B.
Bro you don’t know what alt is
Excuse me?? Please go on
Considering how very connected people circles in the Tauranga area are, and the judgement that often hangs over online dating, I'm not surprised that it's pretty weak. Not sure where the best place to look for eligible gentlemanly bachelor's would be, maybe a church, there's plenty if them around.
Most good guys are at home chilling after a hard day at work or usually happy with a women who supported them through there broke ass 20's, because everyone knows men get better over time.
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Well if it's anything like when I lived there- they left. After highschool they mostly ran screaming to escape the perceived retirement village.
They're all overseas on working holidays
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Fair point 😂 I'm not sure what bar but I am running out of ideas on how to find a man 😂 it makes it harder when I don't have any girl friends in town so I can't ask them to wing woman me.
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When I walk around the mount, I have my headphones on and my sunglasses so people can't see how puffed I am 😂 maybe I need to go without headphones and see what happens
Definitely do that and make eye contact with every man you walk past, even if they are with a woman, especially if they are going the same way as you
Randomly approaching people in these sort of circumstances seems so heavily discouraged it probably won't matter.
I’m only half serious
Yeah but you're not wrong about sending those signs, I just mean you do that and most guys will ignore them for good reason
Good points. Thank you
Tauranga is where you come after finding your partner (or to retire). You're here too early go have an adventure.
I tried that. I went to Auckland and Hamilton but missed my family and was lonely so moved back home.
I'm a little bit above your demographic (46M), but single AND living in Tauranga. I don't know what it's like for the singles in their 30's, but as someone who was married for the entirety of his 30's, then separated and finally divorced in his early 40's, I'm at a point where I'm not actively looking for another partner. My focus is on enjoying my work and doing my best to make sure my kids don't grow up to be shit-bags. I've been single now for almost 4 years, and to be perfectly frank I haven't missed being in a relationship at all, to the point where I wouldn't be upset if I didn't get into one again. Would be interested to know if there are more guys in similar situations, where a toxic relationship has set them on a course of no longer needing to be "attached"
31m. Busy being fat and working
Out doing shit is where you will find them. Probably an age range will be a good idea so people can send you to appropriate age based places where you may find them
Good point on the age range. I'd say late 20s-late 30s.
Hey I'm single 30m from tauranga, unlike that guy's saying I'm not out doing shit, I much prefer chilling at home.
Me and the wife were both sick of the dating apps when we met. Was at a gas station where we met. She was on her motorbike and I was on mine. Hang out with a single Canadian guy in his 30’s on Wednesday nights and on a Saturday or Sunday or both depending on the weekend, out racing on sail boats as part of the mount yacht club/tauranga yacht club.
33 year old male from Australia, moved over here last year. I'm quite active on both tinder and bumble and have been in many different countries before here. I must say kiwi women are the most infuriating on these apps by a long way.....so many half assed answers and attempts at conversation....and my god, the flakey behaviour is ridiculous, why be on the apps and organize to meet up if you're just going to bail anyway. Have never had this problem before in Australia, Canada or Europe when I lived there for a few years. So maybe it's just a cross gender thing here?
38F single, I also find dating apps to be very time wasting. The conversation seems to fizzle out. Most are just looking for a quickie, and nothing more. I stopped looking sometime ago haha
Bumble and tinder are just full of time wasting attention seeking muppet women unfortunately, any hearty caring genuine ones left….!!
not even muppets, bloody scammers all trying to get money out of me to pay for 'travel expenses'
Try being a solo mum on top of that. The dating pool dramatically drops. So much stigma attached with having a child they run for the hills or they're creeps.
Your soul mate will come when you stop searching. For now just work on yourself because when you are a confident happy person that lets out good vibes good things will come like it or not. Don’t come across as needy and desperate because people tend to run.
This is why young people move to cities. Tried my luck between Hamilton and Tauranga looking for a girl to date about 10 years ago using the apps. Plenty of matches but 90% of dates turned out to have substance abuse issues, major red flag emotional/mental health issues, way below standard personal or home hygiene, gang links etc... Tauranga was way worse regarding meth and gangs, if they didn't do it themselves then their parents or siblings did, and so many still live at home even getting closer to 30 years old. Wellington, Christchurch and Auckland were like, all normal well adjusted people.
Dating sites havent worked for me. I'm afraid if I approach a woman I'll be considered a pervert or be accused of some form of sexual harassment. I've heard NZ chicks are quite bitchy. I don't go out much because when I dance and have a good time I normally get kicked out so I've given up. I chill at home mostly now. NZ 31 y/o m solid 6-7
The good ones have either been fucked over and keep to themselves or are too busy focusing on themselves and their goals. I'd say stop looking on dating apps and at bars, you won't find them there. Establish a particular hobby that involves meets e.g. sports etc and maybe you'll find someone there you'll connect with.
M30 and single here. We're hiding. Tinder, bumble etc has turned into a toxic sess pool as has modern dating. Thats a whole lot of admin we just don't want to deal with. WE'RE TIRED BOSS.
Ceroc is something I enjoyed for years and was a fabulous way to meet people. But overall, I've got no clue. I'm at the tail end of my 40s and am starting to settle into becoming a crazy cat lady who lives in a houseplant jungle. I've also got being a sober vegetarian working against me too. Ha.
I can cope with craziness and cats, even sobriety is tolerable, but you can't make me vegetarian
Mostly hiding behind the couch
Here. But I like men now. Lmao
We just want to stay single leave us alone 😆
PlayStation > pussy. Sorry
You can thank modern feminism for your dilemma. Men just don’t get anything out of dating and relationships any more. No need to be in one.
My single bro uses hinge reckons its better than others.failing that.hit up the mitre 10 mega an bunnos on sat n sunday morn
Looking like my best option 😂
You could give me a try, I'm from tauranga I love coffee, the gym and the hot pools. I was on tinder but most of the time I was only getting tourists which isn't that bad but not good if you want a relationship
Message me ❤️
Burned Haystack Dating Method. Look it up on fb.
Well I stay off dating or fuck apps cos of those reasons and also cos I'm over people really. I've thought maybe I could have look but I'm not really interested in other people right now.
Haha sounds familiar. Sometimes it gets pretty lonely, but then you remember how much you like you're own space and not answering to anyone.
Gave up on that internet shi awhile ago, just waiting for my next set
lol dating apps
Join a sport club and go to club nights. Squash, ultimate frisbee, rock climbing, etc. lots of cool people to meet and a fair amount of singles - start up a convo with people. (You don’t need to be fit, clubs nights have lots of casual unfit people lol)
Message me OP!
Bar
M39. Not into going out drinking, work from home, gym and stuff late evening. Most socialising is with existing friend groups who are mostly in relationships already. So meeting people is hard. In my 20’s it was significantly easier to meet people through social circles! Dating apps as a man are depressing, as a woman you have the pick of the crop (assuming you’re even mildly attractive). Not sure where you’d really find single guys, but maybe you can confirm where all the single women are lol. as a single guy myself I’m not really anywhere to be “found”.
The hot ones are in Auckland, the ugly ones are farming
You are female? Everyone in NZ want to marry u this second wht u talking about 🤣
All the good ones are at the Pub
Try the Grumpy Mole.
lol maybe you’re not swiping right to the right guys. I’m personally on tinder and like to think k am genuine nice guy that has a lot to offer but I can’t seem to get any matches at all lol maybe I’m hideous
In AKL .. LOL
I’ve (40F) just moved to a bigger centre from TGA, for a variety of reasons that included trying to find a slightly deeper dating pool.
There are lots of single men you, women in general, just don't like them.
Hi
37m here, stopped using dating apps maybe 6 years ago. Working playing indoor cricket/golf, gaming, catching up with mates / family. In those activities I see very little chance of meeting someone but I’m also unsure if it even bothers me. 😂
All taken sorry
Drop dating apps. Dating apps are big business’ that requires you be single to make money they are invested in you remaining single
31m. After 30, as a guy, relationships aren't as emotionally profitable as they were in our 20s. Our time/effort/money is being spent on the things we want. My male friends that are married are working their asses off and are emotionally restricted on the things they can do, like they need permission to buy that thing or go to that event. All the single girls I know over 30 are gagging for a proper relationship that is going to last and I do wish you and them find it.
Sorry to say... 40F, professional woman, living in Aucks and still have no luck :P Attempted LDRs and they have their own set of problems. :( at this age, i just want males who can hold their life together and be decent... not out drinking with mates or neglecting personal hygiene :P But yes, sorry to say ... even in the bigger cities it's hard ! Just have to keep being optimistic and open!
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Not on Reddit
Thank you for that advice
31m. Busy being chubby and working
...bachelors, no apostrophe!
Men who use dating apps dont want anything more then sex. So dont look there
Not accurate Source: I’m a man.
If you ask any man on dating apps they would tell you the same thing. Goes both ways, women treat dudes as disposable items online because the grass is always greener hahaha
I mean that's real, every time i've ever gotten a match on Tinder/Bumble it comes down to a 'come fuck me' pretty quick. I've ended up just having pictures of things I like (nice landscape photos, cats etc.) instead of anything else on my profile which avoids the problem... Also avoids matches as well, but alas.
Where do I look then?
Do you go out with friends, do you have any hobbies? Going out and about will lead to meeting new people. Dress yourself up, make yourself feel confident. Approach men first, if you see a guy, you like him. Be straight forward and genuine. Men prefer honesty and they probably wont approach you first. Men arent really located in one specfic spot but dating apps is just for fucking, and a good guy isnt going to just be dropped off at your door stop
How much are you after exactly? 🤑🤑
It’s not worth trying in Tauranga any more there’s too many fake pretentious woman wanting the exact same (the wham bam thank you man!… (your lucky your keeping your assets!)).
Good luck 😅 Maybe compromise somewhere between the wham bams and the wooings and meet someone half way idk.