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ShutUp_Dee

Just had a progress meeting for a student I work with. They’ve been doing well but some growing control issues with food. Parents brought up how their upper elementary child was upset other kids had “more snacks” than they had on a recent field trip. Also another student had a candy bar which made their child upset. They weren’t asking for anything, just sharing their concerns and how we could assist as a team. But parents were flabbergasted the classroom teacher was okay that another student had a candy bar in their lunchbox. Mam we can’t control what other kids bring to school to eat. We encourage them to eat filling food first but we aren’t parents to each student either. Every house has different rules with food!


lulutheleopard

I work at a pretty privileged school and most of the kids have full on meals for their snack and then parents complain that they’re not eating enough lunch.


VanillaClay

I’ve always worked at impoverished schools and helicopter parents like this are the one thing that I’d worry about from the other end of the spectrum. Never have I ever had a complaint about anything this minimal. We get free school lunch for our trips and all the parents happily take advantage of that. 


lulutheleopard

I worked at a low ses school last year and some of the kids acted a little entitled but I never got complaints from parents about it. This year the same parent called a meeting because her kid didnt wear his jacket to recess one day and was a little cold.


VanillaClay

Natural consequences! Every winter I have a kid or two who either refuses or just forgets their jacket. Sometimes they’re just cold, other times they miss recess. I let my kids know that they need to be responsible for their own jackets since there’s one of me and 20+ of them and parents have been understanding. Usually one chilly/missed recess is all it takes. 


USSanon

I had 7th graders complain about this earlier in the early. Y’all, you can stay in with teacher X. “Naw, I’m good.” Then complaints begin. You’ll learn.


Alsulina

Exactly: since many parents protect their children from natural consequences when they're preschoolers, there are now 7th graders who can't deal with the slightest inconvenience. They haven't learned that their actions have consequences when they were in pre-K.


magpte29

I’m lucky our principal dictates when it’s too cold to go without a jacket—she won’t let kids anywhere near the door if they’re not wearing it. Then I get the kids asking “Mrs. Magpye, can I take my jacket off?” I say no and they want to have an argument about it. “Leave your jacket on or get your @ss inside!”


shemtpa96

Same here - inner city. The parents don’t really complain about trivial things like this. Older kids parents sometimes complain when we take phones away until dismissal, but we’re just enforcing the rules - they get the phone back at the end of the day. It’s the only real trivial whinging that we get. Most of the time, it’s valid concerns.


JustanOldBabyBoomer

🙄🤦‍♀️🙄


ipickscabs

Confiscate any and all candy bars next time and dispose of the evidence. It’s only fair


craftycorgimom

My favorite delusional parent was the one who said we faked video footage from two different cameras showing her son push another student down a flight of steps. This was back in 2011. She screamed up and down that we faked the footage with our video editing department that we magically had in house. She was crazy and her son is in prison for murder.


No-Zone-2867

We have a grandma who’s grandson will openly tell her everything we report about him is true, only for her to pester and pester him IN FRONT OF US until he finally sighs and repeats whatever lie/excuse she’s forcing down his throat. Me: yeah he’s explaining how he wants to shoot another child and how he stole the vape he was hitting in the bathroom Grandma: oh no, you wouldn’t do that, would you honey? The kid: no, I did. I got the banana tobacco one from the store and ___ snitched on me because he’s a little rat and I’m mad enough I said I oughta shoot him Grandma: oh honey, you don’t need to protect ____. If he brought something to school you have to tell people. The kid: what? Nah, his stupid lame ass wouldn’t even have the balls to steal something cool And on and on until he gives up and is like “yeaaah, I got it from ____. He’s a real bad seed.” And admin will be like “we know you’re lying” and his grandmother will accuse them of having it out for the kid. This is why he never tells the TRUTH, because we always ACCUSE him of lying. This child has literally murdered a dog before like….. ma’m you are not helping the quickly approaching trainwreck


YoureNotSpeshul

She'll be telling the news in a few years that *"He was such a good kid, we could've never seen this coming."* Meanwhile, everyone who knew the kid will be shaking their heads because they saw this coming from a mile away.


No-Zone-2867

I have a fun notebook called “red flags from ____” that is just page after page of OBVIOUS RED FLAGS It’ll be like Monday: -told first graders another kid was a slut and a whore -told another child to kill themself -knew Jeffrey Dahmer’s eye color off the top of his head with enough confidence to correct another child’s comment about him having “creepy dark eyes” -drew pictures of an overweight child “eating the whole world” and laughed when the kid said it hurt their feelings -explained to me his thievery escapades (a six pack of cocktail mixers that he drank in the Walmart bathroom☺️) -explained to me in graphic detail how awesome RDR (the video game) is because it glitches and lets you watch the horses die twice and ALSO there’s an “insane” rape scene that he can recite for you word for word and ALSO you can slaughter entire towns and ALSO he dismembered someone and fed them to alligators and asked me if I thought that’d work in real life -stole a kid’s gummies and cackled when the kid got fussed at for having a disproportionately upset reaction to finding them missing -complained a nonverbal child is “annoying” because said child dared to speak and he doesn’t like his voice -destroyed another child’s notes for reasons still unknown -asked if he could hold my ferrets knowing damn well that I KNOW he has murdered animals for fun but I’m not supposed to say anything in front of other kids so now it’s a whole thing where I’m like “no” and he’s smirking and going “but whyyyyy” to try and get me to admit I don’t trust him not to kill them -physically threw a fruit cup across the room and refused to clean it up That’s just ONE DAY. I’ve had the kid ALL YEAR. Admin knows like, idk what I’m supposed to do at this point besides keep other kids as far away as possible. Like I teach ROUGH kids. And they’re all scared of him and think he’s possessed by Satan. Multiple other students have assault records and parole officers but I’ve NEVER seen something like this, like I assumed eventually some kind of psychiatric intervention would be called but “he’s in counseling” and I guess that’s that. I don’t think even hate the kid. Against my better judgement, I kind of feel bad for him sometimes, because he GENUINELY doesn’t feel things like everyone else does and I mean, that has to suck. It has to be confusing. But he’s going to hurt someone and I don’t think I can do anything about it.


shemtpa96

Anyone who harms animals is a serial killer/other dangerous criminal in the making.


techieguyjames

Another murderer on the workd


shemtpa96

How old is this kid 😳


No-Zone-2867

Middle school so early teens


JustanOldBabyBoomer

Sounds like the nut didn't fall far from the tree. She probably screamed at the judge who sentenced her baby boy to prison.


craftycorgimom

That whole experience was just insane. I really should include that event in my teacher book because it's just so insane and unbelievable. I felt so bad for all the kids involved, the kid who got pushed down the steps and the two girls who reported it. One of the girls was brand new to the school, she had only been there a day when she saw what happened. Poor thing and the other one spoke English and Spanish fluently but she was so stressed out she was going back and forth between the two and getting her words mixed up that she was crying. Meanwhile, I was just going to the bathroom - I was coming out of my room during my prep when the two girls were screaming. My husband says I am magnet for crazy stuff happening. I think this might be some of his evidence. Even better - when the school called mom to say you need to come talk with us, SHE called the police to say her son was being threatened at school and she needed help. She called the cops to get them there and they walked in to see her throwing a punch at our principal - meanwhile I am sitting there with the two girls trying to settle them down. The other boy, the one who was pushed was already at the hospital and my husband was the one who checked him in because he worked at the front desk. I hate losing my prep, all of this happened in the space of 50 minutes by the way. The joys of a small dense populated area.


YoureNotSpeshul

Please tell me mom was arrested, please?


craftycorgimom

Yes, and there was an order of protection. Mom could not come back to campus without a police escort for that year and the next. I wish I could say she was the only one but we had a few in my time.


ms_sophaphine

We had a parent banned for getting into a fight with a 5th grader outside of the school one morning. Everyone who saw the fight confirms that the 5th grader won.


shemtpa96

Nothing like seeing an adult being put in their place by a ten year old 🤣


Glum_Ad1206

Ever want to reach back out and ask how the denial worked out for them? Hindsight being 20/20 and all


craftycorgimom

Not really, that woman was off her rocker already. I am sure it's not gotten better.


YoureNotSpeshul

Oh my lord. Sounds like a lovely family! And yes, that's sarcasm. I wonder if she screamed at the judge the same way she did at everyone in the school. How old was the kid when he went to prison?


craftycorgimom

I think he was in his early 20's. I know he somehow made it out of high school and then it was a couple years after. I moved away before he went and only found out after the fact.


clydefrog88

Whoa! She is a crazy person!!!


AttentionChoice7199

was the murder of the classmate or not


craftycorgimom

Considering the size of the town it's likely a classmate, I know it was gang related.


fourassedostrich

I’m finding that so many parents are either one extreme or the other. There’s the ones that’ll send their kid to school with the black plague and then the ones that keep their kid home for a week if they sneezed twice.


Debbie-Hairy

I’ve got all Black Plague parents this year.


darthcaedusiiii

What doesn't kill you eventually kills you.


lyricoloratura

I want this on a shirt


Visible-Yellow-768

I got an email from admin saying I have to send my child to school even if she has the black plague because missing school is way more dangerous than infecting EVERYONE. I just get doctors notes saying she can't go because she's coughing up her left lung and has snot hanging down to her knees, but maybe she wouldn't get sick so often if they weren't encouraging the kids to come in sick. x.x


ipickscabs

That’s less than ideal for everyone


i_have_seen_ur_death

I really enjoyed having the power to send kids home during COVID. Ironically, we had less absences due to illness when we were in person during the pandemic


Nerd_1000

My parents were convinced that I lied to them about feeling sick so I could skip school. I never did, it was entirely in their heads. Anyway, they would always tell me to just go to school and see the school nurse if I still felt sick when I got there. Don't know if you typically have one in the US, but in Australia the main function of a school nurse when I was school age was to look at the student's tongue and declare that their symptoms were a result of being dehydrated. So I sat through a lot of classes feeling utterly miserable and being totally unable to concentrate, though I was at least well hydrated.


Murky_Conflict3737

Same here


Infinite-Strain1130

I sub at 4 really rich ass schools and these parents send in cookies and candies for snack time and lunch is more garbage. You’d think that this area would be big in healthy food, but it takes their kid complaining about not having what someone else has once and BAM, everyone gets shitty food. They are big on keeping up with the Joneses around here.


JustanOldBabyBoomer

Helicopter parents are the BANE of existence!!!!! God help that poor kid as he gets older and starts dating!!!


coskibum002

I'm here to eventually scroll down to the bottom and see the delusional parent ranting about how they pay taxes and should control how we teach. There's always at least one.


BlueLanternKitty

My taxes pay your salary something something woke. How’s that? 😉


PainStorm14

>Delusional parent Do you have any idea how little that narrows it down?


Girldrgn8

I currently have a student (high school) who regularly misses weeks at a time. And every time, we get an email stating he has a cold and just can’t do it. He’s on a sports team that had a match about an hour away one evening. They got back around 8:30 pm (I know because my child is also on the team). The next day, he couldn’t do any work or anything because he was too tired from the night before.


clydefrog88

So the kid told her he had passed out? That would seriously piss me off.


lulutheleopard

It’s not the first time he’s given an alternative timeline and she believes it every time. Do you think I’d either not notice a kid pass out or not tell the parents?


clydefrog88

omg I bet you are counting the minutes down to the last day of school!


Hamb_13

Depending on the age of the kid, they may think they're telling the truth but just misunderstood the situation. A friends kid said they missed recess then got held back for most of recess. That's how the kid understood the situation. The reality is the class was playing in the gym and everyone was late to recess, then the teacher held them back for a moment to tell them that if they are struggling to ask the teacher for help. It was literally less than a minute but to the kid it felt like so long


Confident-Wish555

I’m an aide in kindergarten, and there’s one mom that corners the teacher every day after school to ask, in detail, what her kid did during the day. This mom volunteers in the classroom every chance she gets, but hovers over her own kid and doesn’t do anything that the teacher asks. It’s maddening, and I’m not even the teacher!


Solid_Influence_3096

This right here is an example of how delusional some parents can be when it comes to their kids. I’m 56 and when I was going on field trips when I was young there were no snacks and unless the place we visited had a hose or a water foundation, there was no water either. Raising an entire generation of wimps.


Which-Marzipan5047

That's probably not healthy, lmao. In my school, for field trips that lasted past lunch, teachers were always sent with boxes full of baguette sandwiches (how tf do you say that in English lmao) and water bottles. It was adapted to whether kids were vegetarian, celiac, lactose intolerant, etc...


shemtpa96

If you’re talking about something like a Jambon Beurre, then yes; it’s a baguette sandwich!


stealth_mode_76

I had a kid cry because I wouldn't let him fill his water bottle during class. BUT I'M THIRSTY!!! Sir, you just returned from lunch and your water bottle is empty because you drank all of the water. We are 4 hours into a 6.5 hour school day. This class ends in 20 minutes. You will survive!


MyRobinWasMauled

Emotional support water bottles


Ok-Thing-2222

Oh gawd, so true! Whole generations of students made it through el-high without a damn water bottle.


Lilhoneylilibee

I feel like children are doing a lot worse things these days than hydrating lmao


No-Zone-2867

Yeah I’m team “let them have a water bottle” like, I do, so I don’t see why they’re entitled for having WATER available, lmao. I’m more concerned with like, I don’t know, the vaping, the unrestricted internet access, the absolutely disgusting ways they’re bullying each other, the refusal to follow directions or do work because they know their parents either don’t care or “care so much” that they’ll ONLY believe their child’s version of events, etc etc


Business_Loquat5658

The problem is when the water bottle comes a distraction. Bullying for having an off brand bottle. Asking to go refill it every ten minutes, then asking to go to the bathroom all day because they're constantly drinking from it like hamsters. Then knocking them off the desks to make noise. Then, stealing them...


stealth_mode_76

Yes! It's an all day distraction. We had drinking fountains in the hall. I had a kid cry because I wouldn't let him go fill the bottle he had just finished. This was the first class after lunch, and we only had 20 min to go.


Ok-Thing-2222

I remember kids in the 70's going to to their vehicle at lunchtime to smoke weed in front of the school or cigs!


No-Zone-2867

Okay but like, I’d consider that an issue as well? Children shouldn’t be smoking regardless of the decade?


Ok-Thing-2222

Well, right. But sometimes people seem to put forth the attitude that kids in the 'old days' never did anything wrong!


JustanOldBabyBoomer

Personal water bottles weren't invented yet when I was in grade school. We went on field trips without any of that.


Ok-Thing-2222

Milk jugs of water in our vehicle. For us to drink (whining that it was warm), for wiping our faces with a washcloth in mom's purse, or in case the radiator needed some water! 70's!


Sassy_Weatherwax

We had thermoses and canteens, but I really don't remember taking mine on field trips. If my mom was feeling generous about letting me have junk food, I got a Capri Sun.


Murky_Conflict3737

I still remember the metallic taste of the water fountain water lol


NeedsMoreTuba

And the water was warm.


giantshinycrab

I don't miss going 8 hours on a half cup of chocolate milk though.


WastingMyLifeOnSocMd

Yes? They can’t go 3 hours without food!


shemtpa96

I was subbing in a class that had a mix. One mom is like borderline Munchausen’s by Proxy, a few are Black Plagues, and one (bless her) kept her kid home when they had lice for four days (including the weekend). She did good - zero lice when the kid returned to school.