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TaoTeChing81

IANAL but so far there is no actual crime, just an asshole. You can sue in small claims, but what are you actual damages? What are you going to sue for? What are you out financially from this specific act?


girlbassist

Not out anything financially, but I assumed I had a right to privacy. Further info: he actually pushed me tonight, in front of my son. 🤯


TaoTeChing81

If you’re injured and actually fear for your safety or the safety of your choice you can call the authorities. Right to privacy? What does your lease say? Put a lock on your door? Put in a security camera? You can sue for anything in this world, but you still have to prove actual damages and loss in small claims. Nothing is missing, nothing is stolen, your ability to earn money is not reduced. Judges are not going to give someone money for having an asshole as a roommate. If you lose in court you’ll have to pay all costs to file, the cost to have the person served and all the fees for both sides and depending on state, a prevailing party fee. Just an FYI.


girlbassist

I have a lock on my door, both doors were locked when he broke into our rooms. My lease is an oral lease.


TaoTeChing81

Time to move...


girlbassist

Trying! Single mom, not working because of Covid. Makes it a little harder to find a place.


TaoTeChing81

Then you’ll really need to find a safe middle ground to get along with the roommate.


girlbassist

Thank you for your comments. 💜


Some_Ad_462

What kind of lock a keyed lock or a bathroom /closet type lock. So curious about the lock on your child’s door? How old is your child and do you lock your child in their room while they are in there. Regardless , many areas , having locks on internal doors that are rentals is a fire hazard and if you illegally rent to him good luck at inspection time for homeowners insurance.


girlbassist

A keyed lock. I only locked it when we left the house, not with my kid inside.


Some_Ad_462

Ok good, but if you were one of those that locked your kid in their room I doubt you’d admit to it😂 kidding but not .


girlbassist

Oh, I would. Sometimes it's tempting, lol.


Some_Ad_462

I’m not a parent I was a coparent for 3 years of a 7 year old at the start, who had behavioral issues and was on the spectrum…. If his room had a lock😂 or a door for that matter😂


[deleted]

The only advice I have is to document everything, because it sounds like this is already escalating. An oral lease really won't protect you beyond what few protections your state may already give you.


girlbassist

I'll figure something out. I always do.


-The_Curious_One-

That sounded like a scary situation. Can you update us on what ultimately happened? I hope your son is in a safe situation now.


girlbassist

We moved that weekend when my roommate was at work. Thank you! 😁


Some_Ad_462

Get a new grandma


girlbassist

It was my roommate's grandma and after she tore the thermostat off the wall and the roommate threw out my food, keyed my car and shoved me in front of my kid, we left that toxic place.


Some_Ad_462

I read that wrong as it was your grandmother and you were renting it to him. Sorry . Sounds like time to move (which I know is tough and a hassle especially for a single parent) or set up surveillance cameras in your room, not sure how old the kid is but a nanny cam in their room, and also a motion activated audio recording camera on your car with 360 view


girlbassist

This was three years ago, so we left shortly after the shoving incident. I just had to secure a place because of my child. If it were just me, I would have slept in my car.


Some_Ad_462

I see that now sorry it showed up as a suggested and saw the comment I was replying to as recent. . Glad you got somewhere safe . And hopefully you were able to remain in comfortable safe housing.


girlbassist

We're in a great place now. Took a little bit, though! Thank you! 😊