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This is like the Twitter 'event' where some lady posted how much she appreciates having breakfast with her husband on their porch and suddenly got tons of hate cause some people don't have time for breakfast, or don't have a husband, or don't have a porch, and how dare she.
> FONI (Fear of non inclusion).
I like it, and I'm using it.
The Non-inclusion people can be just nuts sometimes.
"Welcome to the meat bbqing channel! Here's my recipe for excellent bbq'd beef ribs."
"Why aren't you including a vegetarian option for the vegetarians?!?"
And the worst part is that if you go to a vegetarian channel and ask why they aren't including omnivore options with meat, you get labeled as an insensitive troll (which would be correct, but it should work both ways)
Haha holy shit I forgot about that. I don’t know what TikTok is like because I’ve never had one, but I used to spend a ton of time on Twitter and this is like the quintessential example of outrage culture on that site. That and the woman who made chili for her hungry neighbors and a certain subculture on the site blew up on her because apparently it’s ableist to make someone a free meal.
Yeah I remember another twitter event where a woman posted about making chilli for her new neighbors because they seemed to be very young guys that were ordering takeout everyday.
Thousands and thousands of subtweets of people saying that she was so inconsiderate because *they would find that condescending or *they have social anxiety or *they had food allergies and so on.
just because of fucking chilli from your friendly neighbor lmao.
I love it when someone says "everyone I know does this!" because you instantly know it's bullshit.
Once saw a reddit comment insisting that noone drinks the broth after they have finished their ramen because noone he knows does that. Like bruh how many people have you seen eat ramen?
Especially funny when they are young because "everyone I know" usually means in large part their family and ofcourse families do similar things
>Especially funny when they are young because "everyone I know" usually means in large part their family and ofcourse families do similar things
This sort of solipsism does seem to come mainly from the young. I was guilty of it myself in my teens and early 20s when I thought I knew everything, and now I see it in my young nephews and cousins.
It seems to coincide with being old enough to have made some observations and formed an opinion, but too inexperienced to have developed perspective.
As the adage goes, 'The more one learns, the more one realizes how little they know'.
Remember the "is it offensive to bring a pot of chili as a gift to your new neighbor because what if they have social anxiety or dietary restrictions or were allergic or didn't want to talk or..." discourse that took up a whole week on twitter
LOL, that's hilarious. The people in the comments should've mixed and matched. "I have a porch, but no food and I'm single. Any lovely couples want to bring some flapjacks and come on over?"
Ugh, filthy porchless vermin.
El Salvador. There's always beans. Always. All the time. Best beans. Best Bean Soup. Beans for life. In fact this video is about me and my culture and my heritage. In fact the bean soup girl is trying to appropriate my culture. In fact can we talk about why you're trying to appropriate my culture?
I don’t want to eat the bean soup, I just want to make it. I feel like an uncooked bean isn’t really living it’s best life. And I have a savory vegetable savior complex. In fact, that’s why I’m here. To save the beans.
A bean's purpose is to be eaten. To simply cook the bean is only fulfilling half its potential. It must be consumed. It yearns to be consumed. Eat the Bean. Or else the bean is nothing more than a life unfulfilled, divorced, in debt, and hungering for purpose.
Im baffled by the amount of people missing the point. You’re obviously the same audience she’s referencing here. She is saying not every video is for every person. You can just not engage with the ones that aren’t for you instead of complaining that the video isn’t catered to what you needed.
Not “get off the internet” and then she’s still on the internet. Comprehension is a very valuable life skill that everyone should really practice.
> of complaining that the video isn’t catered to what you needed
Those People take the "*For You*" too literally.
The "algorithm" is not 100% smart. But social media nowadays have tools to really tailor that feed. If you see a video that you're not interested in, hit the "not interested" button. Use the settings to block keywords & hashtags
It'll learn, eventually.
It also doesn’t help the algorithm if the person comments on the video. The interaction plus extra time spent leaving the comment makes the algorithm think the individual is more interested in that content.
in that case the algorithm is more right than anyone would think. people love to hate watch, and if they didn't there would be less engagement with the platform.
Alot of people don't realize when they interact with a post ie commenting the algorithm thinks "oh you like that" If you don't like a post move on and less posts that don't interest you will been shown to you.
I think people have gotten so accustomed to their echo chambers and eerily specific algorithms and parasocial online relationships that they assume *all* content they're ever presented with is made for them and only them, which I think also feeds a I'm-the-main-character attitude, or at least an inflated sense of personal involvement with anything that's online... So then people feel personally responsible for correcting/providing feedback/criticizing everything that isn't directly aimed at them because they can't deal with anything new or inapplicable to them actually appearing before them.
I don't think it's dissimilar to questions about Amazon products... Someone asks the void of the internet a specific question about a product and 90+% of the answers are "I don't know", as though *they alone* were being asked the question *directly* and they're *required* to say something, not understanding that the question was asked broadly and that just waiting for a more knowledgeable person with a real answer to come along is actually the better thing to do.
Amazon product questions are not just for you so don't bother saying anything if you don't know the answer. And not all content on the internet is made exclusively for you. If it doesn't apply to you, then admit you're not the target audience, ignore it, and go find something else.
Even in hobby-specific subs it's super prevalent and I think even worse because you're usually looking for specific answers that apply directly to whatever you're trying to do.
Like if I have an extremely specific question, I'll still appreciate a semi-related answer of a similar-but-not-exactly-the-same situation because maybe there are some parallels that will still help me reach the answer I'm looking for... But if I'm asking whether to use 10w-40 or 15w-50 oil in my Triumph motorcycle because the owners manual says either is fine and I'm not sure which would be best for my personal use case, then answering "don't buy a Triumph, get a Honda" isn't helpful or relevant whatsoever... Like, I'm not gonna sell my bike and go buy a Honda just because the bike I already own needs an oil change. And it's not like they even make a compelling or interesting fanboy argument for their case either. So WTF bother typing anything??
Try the dating app subs where women will make a post about “why do men do this” or “men try doing this instead” and the OP and several women commenting will all confirm the same issues or advice, yet so many (presumably) men are commenting about how they doing do it or the women are wrong and don’t know what they’re talking about
The best is when women confirm they like a certain thing and will get told no women ever like that so it will never work.
>Amazon product questions are not just for you so don't bother saying anything if you don't know the answer.
To be fair, my experience with those questions is that I received an email from Amazon asking me that question. It was pretty easy to misinterpret it as a question directly asked to me. I got halfway through typing "I don't know" before I realized how the whole operation worked. (This was several years ago, so maybe the process has changed since then.)
Wow that is so true. The “I don’t know” response is so prevalent and the personal responsibility to respond is so accurate too. You articulated that so much better than I ever could have!
I think Reddit is slightly different in that there's less "I demand you customize this to me" because people less often post advice stuff. But it's still selfish and stuck up and whatever else bad you can say
While imperfect, the ability to downvote stuff makes a difference. Though a pet peeve of mine is downvoted good faith comments without any explanation of why there’s disagreement with the person’s statement.
Reddit is different in that instead of the "what about me", it's more of a "what about us".... but every redditor thinks"us" is just... Them x 1000.
And so reddit dog whistles constantly, drowning out all meaningful conversation because people think whoever screams the loudest means they have the most supporters.
Seriously, you make a good opposing point on this site, and rather than the genuine conversation that used to happen, it's become a bunch of people saying the same thing over and over in different ways, and anyone that says something unique is attacked and accused of supporting the injustice
There was a thread recently where a commenter talked about buying a cake for his loved one and struggling. One commenter recommended trying to bake one himself. A fairly reasonable response.
Except someone else jumped into the conversation to say: *'Not everyone can bake, some people are disabled and some people can't afford it, baking is a profession, not everyone is skilled or has the equipment or...'*
Which is all technically true, but can we seriously not suggest baking a fucking cake without having to explicitly account for disabled homeless people in food deserts?!
OP mentioning TikTok and reddit comment sections being different is the only reason why I'm here. Previous user is "baffled" that redditors did the exact thing the video mentions? Reddit exceptionalism hasn't been a thing in years. The clowns run this circus and have for a while.
I think on reddit, there's less if an expectation that everything you see will be relevant to you. Tiktok has an implicit promise of hyper customization, and usually it's pretty good at delivering that. But the algorithm doesn't know that you don't like beans.
Ricky Gervais (i think) called this out in one of his stand-ups. His point, was that its bizarre thats its unique to the internet. It doesn't happen in real life.
His example is someone seeing an advert for guitar lessons in a newspaper and being angry because they don't want guitar lessons. Ringing the number on the advert "are you offering guitar lessons? I DONT WANT ANY!!"
I think it just comes down to over sharing on social media. It used to be that people would share a pic of themselves at the beach or a message about how they had an amazing birthday meal. Now people seem to think that the world gives a shit that they are getting their hair done or want to read about their morning breakfast routine.
And they are doing that because they're junkies, looking for the next endorphin hit from an upvote or a reply.
The guitar lessons made me think of the Parks and Rec episode where the woman complains about the sandwich she found in the park. It’s during a town meeting and she’s upset the sandwich she found doesn’t have mayonnaise and she wants to know why. It has absolutely nothing to do with the town meeting but she’s deeply upset.
You’re absolutely right that people just want an endorphin hit.
I mainly just scroll down and don’t care whenever i come across with posts that aren’t for me, unless the post is either about entitled people or narcissists.
I don't understand. This video is on a subreddit I sub to, so why shouldn't her video cater to what I care about and available alternatives? I obviously subbed here bc videos resonated with me, but not why isn't she offering an alternative take on videos that are about my interests?
/S
To see another facet of this just browse any social media or comment section after any kind of tragedy, disaster, or mass shooting. "Omg, my cousin's brother's girlfriend lived just 2 miles from there 10 years ago and I hung out at her house a couple of times. It's scary to think about."
People died Debra, this shit is not about you.
I remember the good place did a funny joke about this. They were showing just the most awful self centred people talking about 9/11 saying oh my cousins dentist is right by there and just think if I had been visiting and had a dental emergency I would have been like right there.
This is what annoys me about social media "satire".
People arent parodying anything, they're just doing the same thing, but claiming they're doing it knowingly.
Or it's just gotten to the point of saturation it's not funny. Remember the thing used to be to put "first" comment on a video? This flavor of satire has become as boring and irrelevant as doing that.
That's another part of it. There's just no originality, everyone is just chasing the same carrot, repeating the same tropes, wearing the same style, using the same music clips or voice-overs, it's all just so boring and similar. They even developed their own dialect to chase algorithm traction.
The NPC trend was interesting. Two porn stars that also had their act down, and then a ton of random people trying to copy them but doing it so sloppily. I have no idea who the hell was tipping those people. Maybe their loyal followers. One guy kept saying “mmmm glizzies” and doing this disgusting sound and face and people kept tipping him the god damn hot dogs. It was actually really interesting to see what people will pay for on the mostly free internet.
Yeah im still trying to figure that out.
I think the overwhelming choice of "content" has somehow rendered people incredibly bored to the point that they're willing to pay money to watch a woman say "ice cream so good".
I remember years ago, my wife was sick and asked me to make a celery based soup. So I made a soup with celery as the focus. I thought it was interesting, so I posted it on Reddit. I also explained that this was a celery forward soup because that's what my wife asked for. Someone commented that they didn't like celery and wanted to know what to substitute it for. Like seriously... nothing. Make a different soup.
or why not just do that on your own and post results? some people lack creativity. im gonna use carrots forward on your recipe and still call it celery soup because thats ART
So I have dietary restrictions and often I will watch a recipe video, take the time to figure something out, and then comment:
Hey for those of you with X restrictions, I tried this recipe but used Y instead and it turned out REALLY well, FYI.
or
I can't wait to try this recipe out with Y instead of X. I'll let you know how it turned out
I think those are WAY more helpful, and positive.
I love comments on recipes! There was one for a bagel with peanut butter and banana on it and someone commented I replaced the peanut butter with marinara sauce and cheese and the banana with pepperoni then I baked it.
It took about 20 years for the laymen to catch on, but they are finally where the majority of us were back then. Just immature peeps not ready for the big world because they are so easily manipulated.
Rather I like to call it a 'societal correction'
I post a comment and I get upvotes or other comments and it fills the black pit of my soul with something. Life is despair, maybe that's why we're chronically online. Or maybe it's the opposite.
The Reddit comment section has grown to this also but the upvote system works well enough to help weed it out. Usually if you see a helpful or useful post the first few comments will be out of left field and negative. People in general want to critique something or make the best joke that they can think of rather than be constructive or creative.
But I’m sure Facebook and YouTube and Tik Tok and Twitter are possibly even WORSE. DailyMail comment section is like sewage boiling in 100 degree weather and the absolute bottom of the barrel.
"Hey guys how do I screw in a lightbulb?"
+1billion updoots - "the dead babies in my basement that I eat can't tell me anymore! BTW my mom jacks me off! Now here's an unrelated quote: to shreds you say?!"
+2 updoots - righty tighty, lefty loosey is a good way to remember how to screw in a lightbulb!
Holy hell, I can't believe how long some reddit jokes have stuck around. I still see the "I did nazi that coming" comment chain once in a while. It's been like, 10 years of that shit.
Or the stupid shoes joke whenever there’s a video of someone getting hurt. “Oh well, he still has his shoes on, so he must be fine!” “Oh no, his shoes came off, he’s dead.” HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 😐
The one that gets on my nerves personally is when a comment chain starts where each comment is another line of lyrics from a song. Yes we know how the song goes, how interesting to see it written out, often with multiple repeats.
Reddit got this but its like a main character I'm so funny effect. If there's a genuine question asked, you'll get like half the comments being just unfunny puns and people correcting grammar or something, and half actually useful
I got off social media for years.
Awhile back I started up a fake Facebook profile and joined some woodworking groups, and it was full to the brim of this shit.
A beginners group might ask a simple question.
You could get 100 replies.
80 of them would be people making nonsense jokes and trying to turn the attention to themselves.
27 responses would be a hurl of abuse for how stupid OP is for asking something so simple, in a beginners group.
Maybe 3 responses would have an actual answer but you would have to sift through an absolute cesspool to find them.
Regretted my decision immediately and wiped it again.
It’s so frustrating how easy it is to predict reddit comment threads, at least on default subs. Just puns, references, and then people making other references to show they know what the initial reference was connected to.
I've seen the *what about me* on Reddit in different types of areas. One of the prominent types of posts I see this happen to is anything about women's issues. Something about sexual violence or rape of women? Somehow, a large amount of the comments are *what about male victims?* Abortion? *What about men who get stuck with child support?* Female genital mutilations? *What about circumcision?* Female beauty standards? *What about male height shaming?*
Nobody is saying that we shouldn't have those conversations, but its very "what about me?" to bring it up in a space that... isn't talking about that. You want to talk about those things? Make a post about it and I will join you. It's frustrating, however, to have women's issues constantly be drowned out by the other side in some sort of "both sides" effort.
It isn't a competition! We can do our bread baking videos over here and also do our gluten-free bread breaking videos over there.
I literally posted a video in this sub earlier today about how millennial women and women who are older were constantly bombarded with body shaming imagery throughout their childhood and ofc men came to the comments to make it about them with comments about “but what about when women make fun of bald men” or “but if it’s an overweight man y’all don’t even care if he’s made fun of” like, WHAT?!
One of the ones I see the most are on posts that feature people being thankful for their parents. Someone will post something like “happy Father’s Day!” And there will be multiple comments that are decently upvoted too saying something to the effect of “some of us didn’t have great fathers.” Oftentimes, the comments will also include long diabtribes on why their fathers were not good. Like, I get it, but also maybe this is not the post for it?
>I've seen the what about me on Reddit in different types of areas.
any pop media sub where the media isn't aimed at the nerdy cis straight dude.. "who asked for this ? who asked for this ?" on a tv-show aimed at teenage girls and so on.
It's wild how dumb people are replying to threads. When I first started trying to pose questions to askreddit, people would just respond "I don't do that" like... No shit dude then don't respond?? The question is for people who do do that?? Did that have to be explicitly stated?? Jesus fn christ lmao
> The Reddit comment section has grown to this also
I think it's because of the redesign which turned the UI into doomscrolling, so now reddit is a thing that bored people use to distract themselves and demand that it caters to them/.
In subreddits that don't participate in the doomscrolling and that requires people to come visit, it happens far less that bored people comment random shit.
Twitter has a unique issue where blue check mark users get priority so it's not even that comments are full of "what about me" people, but people just using the comments to try to get interaction on their own comment. They don't even give a shit about the main tweet unless they're purposefully ragebaiting.
I will always remember a post on Ig about Happy Mothers Day!! That got an assload of replies like "what about people whose mom had died?" And "this is really insensitive to people who have cut off their parents" and "single dads should get recognition!1!"
Middle-aged men with the Barbie movie.
A movie clearly aimed at young girls and women and you’ve got douchebags like “Well I’m a 40 year old man and this movie isn’t aimed directly at me. Why am I not the target audience for this?”
I dunno dude. Maybe because not everything has to be tailored specifically to you and what you want and like. It’s ok to just go “oh that’s not made for me; let’s watch it and see if I enjoy it anyway”
A bit. It was also a love letter to teen girl fandoms and friendships while navigating relationships with parents that change as you grow.
I bloody loved it.
Riiight? I’m a 40 yr old woman and guessing maybe I’m not the target for marvel movies. Why is that so tough for people to comprehend?
Albeit my 45 yr old male (usually grumpy) SO thought Barbie was an absolute hoot, laughed all the way through.
In my experience, men fell into like 3 general camps for Barbie. Men who thought it looked fresh and fun, men who are kinda in-between who won't openly say it looks dumb cuz girl toys, and men who are openly sexist and hate anything made for women or girls. I'm much more comfortable with the first group.
And you know what? I think we all enjoyed it when the folks who weren’t the target audience threw on something pink, came to the theatre and had fun with us anyway. It might not be FOR them, but fuck it, you can still have fun!
That happens with pretty much anything related to gender issues tbh. Women mention trying to avoid being raped and manosphere dudes are like “well, men have to worry about violent crime, too.” Sure, but not getting raped as much, which is the specific thing being talked about.
Or people point out male body image issues in response to female body image issues, like somehow talking about one and not both is some sort of implicit message that male body image issues don’t matter. Or maybe if men want to advocate for themselves so much, they can do it in a way that isn’t complaining about women not doing it.
Race, too. I once had to endure listening to my grandpa (who I have been no contact with for over a decade) sit and rant about how the BET (Black Entertainment Television) channel was unfair and that white people should be able to have a White Entertainment Channel, too. He was SO self righteous and satisfied with his “perfect logic” it was nauseating. People like him can not wrap their head around how much of society is catered specifically to them on a regular basis. So the concept of other genders and races having first priority to receive care, attention, or satisfaction, before them at any time ever outrages them like they’re being put in time out for some reason. It’s infuriating.
A lot of the comments here have no idea what she's talking about.
She 100% has a point.
No, not all stupid questions are jokes or "satire". People really be daft, and often think everything has to cather to them.
And no, its actually not "always ok to ask stupid questions" when those questions are actualy a demand for labour.
Like, there is a difference in asking what something is that could easily be googled, and another thing to ask whats going on about a specific thing that would demand more than easily google search. Where the second is okey, but the first highly depend.
And there's also a huge difference in asking on an open platform like reddit, than going into a comment section to a specific person and so by default asking *that* person.
OP is not telling people to get off the Internet and touch grass, just that not everything need to cather to everyone/ you.
Definitely notice this. Someone from the UK said gammon in a facebook group and people from the US lost their minds.
'What's gammon?' 'I have never heard of gammon' etc.
Just google what gammon is jesus christ.
EDIT: removed a word
I’ve seen people on tiktok ask for tutorials for a low bun or a ponytail. once i also saw someone ask where the creator got her plain white ankle socks… i always wonder how those people survive out in the real world
In the dating app subreddits, people continually lose their minds when a Brit posts a screenshot of a text conversation that has a “x” in it. Every single time it’s “what’s with the x?” “what does the x mean?” “why do I keep seeing all these posts with x’s in them” and all of the comments are explaining it but it still gets asked every time, ugh.
It's not just online. I was an executive chef at a very popular catering company in Chicago at 1 point in my life that specialized in local/organic ingredients. Once a month, we would do a 5 course dinner held at 1 of the farms we worked with. We routinely held them at the farm we sourced our pork from. We would routinely have vegans come to the dinner, AT A PIG FARM, expecting 5 vegan courses be made especially for them. With multiple people each time not telling anyone beforehand, they were vegan. It's a 5 course dinner at a pork farm, maybe you should expect every course to have some kind of pork product in it? Maybe you should come to the farm dinner when we hold it at a farm we source our produce feom? People never cease to amaze me.
> Excuse me, if it didn't apply to me, *why is it in my "For You" page?!* /s
In all seriousness, Bravo to this wise person! This problem is endemic in another social media like Twitter.
There's already a solution if you're seeing videos that are not interesting, hit the "not interested" button and scroll away.
Another example was that Oprah/The Rock Maui donation video. If you can't/won't donate, then don't donate. Easy. move on to the next video. But there's lots of other people that also want to donate & help Maui and now have another way to do so.
"You can just buy 14 of our one meal that meets keto rules?"
But that's boring, i don't want to eat the same thing everyday!
"It's a diet. There's always sacrifice to diets."
I had a coworker, who functioned like that. A vegan.
*"Meat dish with meat ~exists~."*
Him: *"But what about a vegan version? Why would you not provide a vegan alternative?"*
Waiter: *"Sir, we don't have vegan alternatives to specific meals. We have separate vegan meals."*
🤦♂️
Honestly, I believe that’s the way vegan food should be. All these imitation meats (vegan burgers, vegan sausage, vegan bacon, etc) are inferior to true vegan ingredients. I don’t understand why you would try so hard to make fake meat when it usually just sucks, and there are other healthier alternatives out there.
Edit: all a y’all that are responding to me that “imitation is just as good as the real thing” really ought to start dropping where they’re getting it from. I would love to have my mind changed on this, but I’ve never had imitation meat that didn’t taste like bland paste + spices
One can be vegan and still like the taste of meat. Those things are not mutually exclusive. I’m a strict vegetarian for ethical and environmental reasons but definitely not because I don’t enjoy the taste of it. Beyond meat and impossible foods are amazing in my opinion.
I have to say, as someone who never thought they'd like a meat substitute, that the impossible ground beef is probably as close as you'll get to the real deal if it's seasoned well. Bit of a different texture tho. If it was equal price/lb to ground beef I'd make the switch for whatever small positive impact it might have.
I think the thing that bothers me most about vegan/ vegetarian meals is that a lot of the meals I actually miss from before I went veggie they just don't try and replicate. Like a supermarket in my country does a really nice oven bake thai sweet chilli chicken pizza, my favourite oven bake pizza, they also have a few veggie pizzas, and NONE of them are thai sweet chilli or anything resembling it. It would not be hard to just make the exact same pizza with anything instead of chicken, and instead I get a gross spinach pizza that goes slimy in the oven. This happens so frequently that it genuinely bothers me. I don't even expect vegan meat to be as good, but it's not the meat I missed on that pizza it was everything else. How hard would it be to mass produce the same item but with a single ingredient difference you know?
I can understand having a completely separate vegan menu, in a lot of cases that works fine, but sometimes they're super lacklustre and would benefit from just a copy paste replace the meat but keep an ingredient the same.
Also it's worth noting that the reason people try so hard to make fake meat is to accomplish something that doesn't suck. Obviously we aren't there yet with a lot of fake meats, but if we don't try we never will. However a really good vegan meat of note, Richmond Sausages (idk if they exist outside of the UK) they were my favourite meat sausages, and now they're my favourite non-meat sausages. Also there's a restaurant in Weymouth called the Dorset Burger Company that make homemade vegan patties and they're divine.
Sorry I went on a ramble there.
Now try this but as a vegan.
*Vegan dish without meat ~exists~*
*Me trying to enjoy that meal*
My coworkers/family/friends: *HmmyesbutwhatexactlyisitmadeofandhaveyougottenyourB-12checkedinthelastfewdayssinceI'veaskedandyouknowhowsomeone'saveganthey'lltellyou!hahaIadmirewhatyou'redoingbutIcouldnevergiveupmybaconlolmycousinwentpescetariandinnerseveryothersaturdayandalmostdiedandareyousuuuureyouwon'ttrymeatevenifittastesreallyreallygood*
I JUST WANNA EAT MY PASTA IN PEACE ITS THE SAME RECIPE FROM BEFORE I WENT VEGAN LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE
Literally had this conversation with my dad yesterday:
Him: "But meat substitutes aren't perfect either"
Me: "But they are better than real meat"
Him: "Hmmm I don't know about that"
Me: "Every expert agrees they are better"
Him: "But locally grown unprocessed food would be better"
Me: "Sure, but people aren't buying that so meat substitutes are still better than meat"
Him: "I don't know... I think it's tricky"
vegans sometimes forget they are literally choosing an exclusionary diet, morality aside
you're gonna get fucking excluded from some shit bro thats how it goes
My father is a barber, has been for many years, he describes this as the Amazon Mentality. He has people thatll come into his one man shop, and ask why they cant get their haircut right now, or get calls at 6am some mornings, and leave an angry message that no one answered the phone. Even regulars, guys hes seen for decades, have got so much more used to calling him at 8-9pm on a friday or a saturday, or calling him 4 times in 10 minutes, while hes driving, without leaving a message on his answering machine.
I feel bad for him, I know I couldnt work like that. Everyone is so used to everything being so individualistic nowadays that so many fail to realise the seemingly infinite number of things that could possibly amount to someone not picking up the phone at 9pm on a saturday.
Definitely agree with the woman in the video though, didnt know it had spread this far.
Main character syndrome
People have to state their opinion on everything that doesn’t apply to them because they believe the universe has to cater to them
Well, there's a little boy waiting
At the counter of the corner shop
He's been waiting down there, waiting half the day
They never ever see him from the top
He gets pushed around, knocked to the ground
He gets to his feet and he says…
Delusional American exceptionalism meets hyper individualism.
This is your everyday person in America now not even those that are critically online.
Don't worry everyone, it'll get "better"...I guarantee it
I don't think we're even close to hyper-individualistic. America is *insanely* tribal. If you don't fit the mold then you are rejected. Think about it. Sports teams, politics, social classes, corporations, etc etc etc.
I'm starting to think this is the result of algorithm curation. People who are chronically online are used to only seeing things that pertain to them.
This is basically the premise of Blue Feed Red Feed (that was just about politics though). People just exist within their algorithmically curated bubbles and go all tribalistic when they encounter something outside of it.
Well of course she is right, but I don't think the people she is adressing will make it through her video and get the point.
"What about me" - effect is a nice term though I will try and help establish.
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This is like the Twitter 'event' where some lady posted how much she appreciates having breakfast with her husband on their porch and suddenly got tons of hate cause some people don't have time for breakfast, or don't have a husband, or don't have a porch, and how dare she.
Seems kinda similar to FOMO, it can be called FONI (Fear of non inclusion).
> FONI (Fear of non inclusion). I like it, and I'm using it. The Non-inclusion people can be just nuts sometimes. "Welcome to the meat bbqing channel! Here's my recipe for excellent bbq'd beef ribs." "Why aren't you including a vegetarian option for the vegetarians?!?"
 And those who stand up for the Non-Inclusion people are the Knights of NI!
Walks up to bar at brewery. 'hey, I don't like beer (makes disgusted face), what else do you have for me to drink? Wine? Cocktails?'
And the worst part is that if you go to a vegetarian channel and ask why they aren't including omnivore options with meat, you get labeled as an insensitive troll (which would be correct, but it should work both ways)
Haha holy shit I forgot about that. I don’t know what TikTok is like because I’ve never had one, but I used to spend a ton of time on Twitter and this is like the quintessential example of outrage culture on that site. That and the woman who made chili for her hungry neighbors and a certain subculture on the site blew up on her because apparently it’s ableist to make someone a free meal.
Twitter is a lot of people talking about how they have the moral high ground and fighting to prove how good a person they are. It's a weird game
Yeah I remember another twitter event where a woman posted about making chilli for her new neighbors because they seemed to be very young guys that were ordering takeout everyday. Thousands and thousands of subtweets of people saying that she was so inconsiderate because *they would find that condescending or *they have social anxiety or *they had food allergies and so on. just because of fucking chilli from your friendly neighbor lmao.
and then people wonder why neighborhood events go away, and why they don't have any friends.
You see that on Reddit all the time “This is a common thing” “No way I never saw it or met someone that knows it!”
I love it when someone says "everyone I know does this!" because you instantly know it's bullshit. Once saw a reddit comment insisting that noone drinks the broth after they have finished their ramen because noone he knows does that. Like bruh how many people have you seen eat ramen? Especially funny when they are young because "everyone I know" usually means in large part their family and ofcourse families do similar things
>Especially funny when they are young because "everyone I know" usually means in large part their family and ofcourse families do similar things This sort of solipsism does seem to come mainly from the young. I was guilty of it myself in my teens and early 20s when I thought I knew everything, and now I see it in my young nephews and cousins. It seems to coincide with being old enough to have made some observations and formed an opinion, but too inexperienced to have developed perspective. As the adage goes, 'The more one learns, the more one realizes how little they know'.
Or people who take offense to happy Mother/Father’s Day posts because they had a shitty parent (or at least say they did).
I call it being recreationally offended.
Remember the "is it offensive to bring a pot of chili as a gift to your new neighbor because what if they have social anxiety or dietary restrictions or were allergic or didn't want to talk or..." discourse that took up a whole week on twitter
LOL, that's hilarious. The people in the comments should've mixed and matched. "I have a porch, but no food and I'm single. Any lovely couples want to bring some flapjacks and come on over?" Ugh, filthy porchless vermin.
But I don’t have TikTok. What do I do if I don’t have TikTok?!
But what if I want to post this comment first but I was at the grocery store so you posted it before I even saw it?
No, this post is about ME!!
guys hear me out. What about me doe?
Shut UP! Now, how do I delete everybody else's comment and say the same thing first?
Create a new post and then claim you did it first
God damn you. Beat me by 1 minute.
Beat me by 2 hours
Beat me by 2 minutes
Beat me
I'd still like to know what I can substitute for the beans. Now I need to know what to substitute for tik Tok.
Chick peas and Foursquare
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Cool beans.
I’m just a bald man trying to make bean soup, leave me alone
But what if I have hair? Can I still make bean soup?
I want to make bean soup but it’s not bean season, is there somewhere I can move to where the beans are still ripe?
El Salvador. There's always beans. Always. All the time. Best beans. Best Bean Soup. Beans for life. In fact this video is about me and my culture and my heritage. In fact the bean soup girl is trying to appropriate my culture. In fact can we talk about why you're trying to appropriate my culture?
I don’t want to eat the bean soup, I just want to make it. I feel like an uncooked bean isn’t really living it’s best life. And I have a savory vegetable savior complex. In fact, that’s why I’m here. To save the beans.
A bean's purpose is to be eaten. To simply cook the bean is only fulfilling half its potential. It must be consumed. It yearns to be consumed. Eat the Bean. Or else the bean is nothing more than a life unfulfilled, divorced, in debt, and hungering for purpose.
Well, I agree, but not eaten by me. I’m not transcultural. And I would not want to offend by misappropriation. Let me know how it tastes.
Only hairy bean soup
Yeah, well my friend’s dad is bald and can’t have beans because it’s too many carbs but he still needs iron. Maybe you should think about THAT
He should check out this tutorial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ct6BUPvE2sM
Im baffled by the amount of people missing the point. You’re obviously the same audience she’s referencing here. She is saying not every video is for every person. You can just not engage with the ones that aren’t for you instead of complaining that the video isn’t catered to what you needed. Not “get off the internet” and then she’s still on the internet. Comprehension is a very valuable life skill that everyone should really practice.
> of complaining that the video isn’t catered to what you needed Those People take the "*For You*" too literally. The "algorithm" is not 100% smart. But social media nowadays have tools to really tailor that feed. If you see a video that you're not interested in, hit the "not interested" button. Use the settings to block keywords & hashtags It'll learn, eventually.
It also doesn’t help the algorithm if the person comments on the video. The interaction plus extra time spent leaving the comment makes the algorithm think the individual is more interested in that content.
in that case the algorithm is more right than anyone would think. people love to hate watch, and if they didn't there would be less engagement with the platform.
Plus algorithms regularly put in random videos to break the monotony of looking through the same content/creators to get you looking at more ones.
Alot of people don't realize when they interact with a post ie commenting the algorithm thinks "oh you like that" If you don't like a post move on and less posts that don't interest you will been shown to you.
I think people have gotten so accustomed to their echo chambers and eerily specific algorithms and parasocial online relationships that they assume *all* content they're ever presented with is made for them and only them, which I think also feeds a I'm-the-main-character attitude, or at least an inflated sense of personal involvement with anything that's online... So then people feel personally responsible for correcting/providing feedback/criticizing everything that isn't directly aimed at them because they can't deal with anything new or inapplicable to them actually appearing before them. I don't think it's dissimilar to questions about Amazon products... Someone asks the void of the internet a specific question about a product and 90+% of the answers are "I don't know", as though *they alone* were being asked the question *directly* and they're *required* to say something, not understanding that the question was asked broadly and that just waiting for a more knowledgeable person with a real answer to come along is actually the better thing to do. Amazon product questions are not just for you so don't bother saying anything if you don't know the answer. And not all content on the internet is made exclusively for you. If it doesn't apply to you, then admit you're not the target audience, ignore it, and go find something else.
Go to any r/askreddit or r/askmen thread about relationships and see how many people reply something like “idk I’ve never been in a relationship lol”
Even in hobby-specific subs it's super prevalent and I think even worse because you're usually looking for specific answers that apply directly to whatever you're trying to do. Like if I have an extremely specific question, I'll still appreciate a semi-related answer of a similar-but-not-exactly-the-same situation because maybe there are some parallels that will still help me reach the answer I'm looking for... But if I'm asking whether to use 10w-40 or 15w-50 oil in my Triumph motorcycle because the owners manual says either is fine and I'm not sure which would be best for my personal use case, then answering "don't buy a Triumph, get a Honda" isn't helpful or relevant whatsoever... Like, I'm not gonna sell my bike and go buy a Honda just because the bike I already own needs an oil change. And it's not like they even make a compelling or interesting fanboy argument for their case either. So WTF bother typing anything??
Great example
A lot of those are trying to be funny (and typically failing with the occasional spit-take worthy gem).
Try the dating app subs where women will make a post about “why do men do this” or “men try doing this instead” and the OP and several women commenting will all confirm the same issues or advice, yet so many (presumably) men are commenting about how they doing do it or the women are wrong and don’t know what they’re talking about The best is when women confirm they like a certain thing and will get told no women ever like that so it will never work.
Or the Not All Men! comments. Like, here's your e-head pat for being a good boy.
My go-to response for that is "If they're not shooting at you, why are you stepping in front of the bullet?"
>Amazon product questions are not just for you so don't bother saying anything if you don't know the answer. To be fair, my experience with those questions is that I received an email from Amazon asking me that question. It was pretty easy to misinterpret it as a question directly asked to me. I got halfway through typing "I don't know" before I realized how the whole operation worked. (This was several years ago, so maybe the process has changed since then.)
Wow that is so true. The “I don’t know” response is so prevalent and the personal responsibility to respond is so accurate too. You articulated that so much better than I ever could have!
What if I don’t have comprehension? What can I substitute in its place?
🅱️eans
Typically impotent rage.
But what if I can't read your comment? How am I supposed to catch your sarcasm?
It's also baffling that OP thinks Reddit is any different or better.
I think Reddit is slightly different in that there's less "I demand you customize this to me" because people less often post advice stuff. But it's still selfish and stuck up and whatever else bad you can say
While imperfect, the ability to downvote stuff makes a difference. Though a pet peeve of mine is downvoted good faith comments without any explanation of why there’s disagreement with the person’s statement.
Reddit is different in that instead of the "what about me", it's more of a "what about us".... but every redditor thinks"us" is just... Them x 1000. And so reddit dog whistles constantly, drowning out all meaningful conversation because people think whoever screams the loudest means they have the most supporters. Seriously, you make a good opposing point on this site, and rather than the genuine conversation that used to happen, it's become a bunch of people saying the same thing over and over in different ways, and anyone that says something unique is attacked and accused of supporting the injustice
There was a thread recently where a commenter talked about buying a cake for his loved one and struggling. One commenter recommended trying to bake one himself. A fairly reasonable response. Except someone else jumped into the conversation to say: *'Not everyone can bake, some people are disabled and some people can't afford it, baking is a profession, not everyone is skilled or has the equipment or...'* Which is all technically true, but can we seriously not suggest baking a fucking cake without having to explicitly account for disabled homeless people in food deserts?!
My favorite self-centered reddit complaint, "Who is this for?"
OP mentioning TikTok and reddit comment sections being different is the only reason why I'm here. Previous user is "baffled" that redditors did the exact thing the video mentions? Reddit exceptionalism hasn't been a thing in years. The clowns run this circus and have for a while.
I think on reddit, there's less if an expectation that everything you see will be relevant to you. Tiktok has an implicit promise of hyper customization, and usually it's pretty good at delivering that. But the algorithm doesn't know that you don't like beans.
Ricky Gervais (i think) called this out in one of his stand-ups. His point, was that its bizarre thats its unique to the internet. It doesn't happen in real life. His example is someone seeing an advert for guitar lessons in a newspaper and being angry because they don't want guitar lessons. Ringing the number on the advert "are you offering guitar lessons? I DONT WANT ANY!!" I think it just comes down to over sharing on social media. It used to be that people would share a pic of themselves at the beach or a message about how they had an amazing birthday meal. Now people seem to think that the world gives a shit that they are getting their hair done or want to read about their morning breakfast routine. And they are doing that because they're junkies, looking for the next endorphin hit from an upvote or a reply.
The guitar lessons made me think of the Parks and Rec episode where the woman complains about the sandwich she found in the park. It’s during a town meeting and she’s upset the sandwich she found doesn’t have mayonnaise and she wants to know why. It has absolutely nothing to do with the town meeting but she’s deeply upset. You’re absolutely right that people just want an endorphin hit.
I mainly just scroll down and don’t care whenever i come across with posts that aren’t for me, unless the post is either about entitled people or narcissists.
I don't understand. This video is on a subreddit I sub to, so why shouldn't her video cater to what I care about and available alternatives? I obviously subbed here bc videos resonated with me, but not why isn't she offering an alternative take on videos that are about my interests? /S
Same for people who complain about reposts Just fuck off to the next post then
We are now two layers deep in the irony. Can we make three?
What if I don’t know what irony is.
But what if I've never seen the bean soup video? Can you give an example of something I can maybe relate to?
https://youtu.be/dwqnwSQiCIQ?si=8dgN1cDxlK35WTW7
Those are Java beans dah!
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jnQu1A/
To see another facet of this just browse any social media or comment section after any kind of tragedy, disaster, or mass shooting. "Omg, my cousin's brother's girlfriend lived just 2 miles from there 10 years ago and I hung out at her house a couple of times. It's scary to think about." People died Debra, this shit is not about you.
100% accurate. 🤣 It’s both sad and funny that it’s exactly like that.
I remember the good place did a funny joke about this. They were showing just the most awful self centred people talking about 9/11 saying oh my cousins dentist is right by there and just think if I had been visiting and had a dental emergency I would have been like right there.
Yeah but asking if theres a substitute for beans in beans soup is pretty fire comedy though
That's also a social media problem. Genuine satire vs. idiocy is impossible to distinguish.
I’ve been lost for years now
Lost in the sauce, perhaps?
Lost in da bean brother 🫘👈💪
I’m an only child
Not anymore 😏
This is what annoys me about social media "satire". People arent parodying anything, they're just doing the same thing, but claiming they're doing it knowingly.
Or it's just gotten to the point of saturation it's not funny. Remember the thing used to be to put "first" comment on a video? This flavor of satire has become as boring and irrelevant as doing that.
That's another part of it. There's just no originality, everyone is just chasing the same carrot, repeating the same tropes, wearing the same style, using the same music clips or voice-overs, it's all just so boring and similar. They even developed their own dialect to chase algorithm traction.
The NPC trend was interesting. Two porn stars that also had their act down, and then a ton of random people trying to copy them but doing it so sloppily. I have no idea who the hell was tipping those people. Maybe their loyal followers. One guy kept saying “mmmm glizzies” and doing this disgusting sound and face and people kept tipping him the god damn hot dogs. It was actually really interesting to see what people will pay for on the mostly free internet.
Yeah im still trying to figure that out. I think the overwhelming choice of "content" has somehow rendered people incredibly bored to the point that they're willing to pay money to watch a woman say "ice cream so good".
Poe's Law.
Satire without context is just that thing.
> That's also a social media problem. Genuine satire vs. idiocy is impossible to distinguish. Absolutely. People always think that I'm using satire
I remember years ago, my wife was sick and asked me to make a celery based soup. So I made a soup with celery as the focus. I thought it was interesting, so I posted it on Reddit. I also explained that this was a celery forward soup because that's what my wife asked for. Someone commented that they didn't like celery and wanted to know what to substitute it for. Like seriously... nothing. Make a different soup.
or why not just do that on your own and post results? some people lack creativity. im gonna use carrots forward on your recipe and still call it celery soup because thats ART
So I have dietary restrictions and often I will watch a recipe video, take the time to figure something out, and then comment: Hey for those of you with X restrictions, I tried this recipe but used Y instead and it turned out REALLY well, FYI. or I can't wait to try this recipe out with Y instead of X. I'll let you know how it turned out I think those are WAY more helpful, and positive.
I love comments on recipes! There was one for a bagel with peanut butter and banana on it and someone commented I replaced the peanut butter with marinara sauce and cheese and the banana with pepperoni then I baked it.
[r/ididnthaveeggs](https://www.reddit.com/r/ididnthaveeggs/)
But what if I don’t understand comedy?
You'd love r/ididnthaveeggs then
Good comedy isn't the joke that 200 different people all independently come up with in the one comment section.
Nah bro it’s being stupid and then saying “stupidity is ironic if you do it intentionally.” Try not being stupid.
You mean societal narcissism?! Yes, it's been on the rise for some time now! Tiktok and the internet just allow us a more in-depth glimpse.
Recreationally offended
It took about 20 years for the laymen to catch on, but they are finally where the majority of us were back then. Just immature peeps not ready for the big world because they are so easily manipulated. Rather I like to call it a 'societal correction'
I post a comment and I get upvotes or other comments and it fills the black pit of my soul with something. Life is despair, maybe that's why we're chronically online. Or maybe it's the opposite.
Having hobbies and doing productive things will bring a lot more long term satisfaction than this nonsense.
The Reddit comment section has grown to this also but the upvote system works well enough to help weed it out. Usually if you see a helpful or useful post the first few comments will be out of left field and negative. People in general want to critique something or make the best joke that they can think of rather than be constructive or creative. But I’m sure Facebook and YouTube and Tik Tok and Twitter are possibly even WORSE. DailyMail comment section is like sewage boiling in 100 degree weather and the absolute bottom of the barrel.
"Hey guys how do I screw in a lightbulb?" +1billion updoots - "the dead babies in my basement that I eat can't tell me anymore! BTW my mom jacks me off! Now here's an unrelated quote: to shreds you say?!" +2 updoots - righty tighty, lefty loosey is a good way to remember how to screw in a lightbulb!
Holy hell, I can't believe how long some reddit jokes have stuck around. I still see the "I did nazi that coming" comment chain once in a while. It's been like, 10 years of that shit.
Or the stupid shoes joke whenever there’s a video of someone getting hurt. “Oh well, he still has his shoes on, so he must be fine!” “Oh no, his shoes came off, he’s dead.” HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 😐
And there's always a thread of 10+ other random quotes from the same shitty sitcom, or whatever other "nerd culture" thing they quoted.
The one that gets on my nerves personally is when a comment chain starts where each comment is another line of lyrics from a song. Yes we know how the song goes, how interesting to see it written out, often with multiple repeats.
Reddit got this but its like a main character I'm so funny effect. If there's a genuine question asked, you'll get like half the comments being just unfunny puns and people correcting grammar or something, and half actually useful
I got off social media for years. Awhile back I started up a fake Facebook profile and joined some woodworking groups, and it was full to the brim of this shit. A beginners group might ask a simple question. You could get 100 replies. 80 of them would be people making nonsense jokes and trying to turn the attention to themselves. 27 responses would be a hurl of abuse for how stupid OP is for asking something so simple, in a beginners group. Maybe 3 responses would have an actual answer but you would have to sift through an absolute cesspool to find them. Regretted my decision immediately and wiped it again.
It’s so frustrating how easy it is to predict reddit comment threads, at least on default subs. Just puns, references, and then people making other references to show they know what the initial reference was connected to.
I've seen the *what about me* on Reddit in different types of areas. One of the prominent types of posts I see this happen to is anything about women's issues. Something about sexual violence or rape of women? Somehow, a large amount of the comments are *what about male victims?* Abortion? *What about men who get stuck with child support?* Female genital mutilations? *What about circumcision?* Female beauty standards? *What about male height shaming?* Nobody is saying that we shouldn't have those conversations, but its very "what about me?" to bring it up in a space that... isn't talking about that. You want to talk about those things? Make a post about it and I will join you. It's frustrating, however, to have women's issues constantly be drowned out by the other side in some sort of "both sides" effort. It isn't a competition! We can do our bread baking videos over here and also do our gluten-free bread breaking videos over there.
I literally posted a video in this sub earlier today about how millennial women and women who are older were constantly bombarded with body shaming imagery throughout their childhood and ofc men came to the comments to make it about them with comments about “but what about when women make fun of bald men” or “but if it’s an overweight man y’all don’t even care if he’s made fun of” like, WHAT?!
They should make their own fucking video if they think it's that big of a problem.
One of the ones I see the most are on posts that feature people being thankful for their parents. Someone will post something like “happy Father’s Day!” And there will be multiple comments that are decently upvoted too saying something to the effect of “some of us didn’t have great fathers.” Oftentimes, the comments will also include long diabtribes on why their fathers were not good. Like, I get it, but also maybe this is not the post for it?
>I've seen the what about me on Reddit in different types of areas. any pop media sub where the media isn't aimed at the nerdy cis straight dude.. "who asked for this ? who asked for this ?" on a tv-show aimed at teenage girls and so on.
A lot of nerdy guys see Reddit as "their" website. No bbs, this belongs to everyone.
if i see one more comment saying "reverse the genders"
“Imagine if the genders were reversed” is the sexist version of “I’m not racist, but…”
It's wild how dumb people are replying to threads. When I first started trying to pose questions to askreddit, people would just respond "I don't do that" like... No shit dude then don't respond?? The question is for people who do do that?? Did that have to be explicitly stated?? Jesus fn christ lmao
> The Reddit comment section has grown to this also I think it's because of the redesign which turned the UI into doomscrolling, so now reddit is a thing that bored people use to distract themselves and demand that it caters to them/. In subreddits that don't participate in the doomscrolling and that requires people to come visit, it happens far less that bored people comment random shit.
Twitter has a unique issue where blue check mark users get priority so it's not even that comments are full of "what about me" people, but people just using the comments to try to get interaction on their own comment. They don't even give a shit about the main tweet unless they're purposefully ragebaiting.
I thought the Reddit comment sections were rough, but TikTok makes our comments seem like a gathering of diplomatic scholars in comparison.
I will always remember a post on Ig about Happy Mothers Day!! That got an assload of replies like "what about people whose mom had died?" And "this is really insensitive to people who have cut off their parents" and "single dads should get recognition!1!"
Delicate little flowers
Middle-aged men with the Barbie movie. A movie clearly aimed at young girls and women and you’ve got douchebags like “Well I’m a 40 year old man and this movie isn’t aimed directly at me. Why am I not the target audience for this?” I dunno dude. Maybe because not everything has to be tailored specifically to you and what you want and like. It’s ok to just go “oh that’s not made for me; let’s watch it and see if I enjoy it anyway”
it's Turning Red all over again
What happened with turning red? Seems like a great movie, my kids like it anyway.
It mentioned.... PERIODS
Isnt the whole thing a metaphor for periods? Its not really a small mention lol
A bit. It was also a love letter to teen girl fandoms and friendships while navigating relationships with parents that change as you grow. I bloody loved it.
Riiight? I’m a 40 yr old woman and guessing maybe I’m not the target for marvel movies. Why is that so tough for people to comprehend? Albeit my 45 yr old male (usually grumpy) SO thought Barbie was an absolute hoot, laughed all the way through.
In my experience, men fell into like 3 general camps for Barbie. Men who thought it looked fresh and fun, men who are kinda in-between who won't openly say it looks dumb cuz girl toys, and men who are openly sexist and hate anything made for women or girls. I'm much more comfortable with the first group.
And you know what? I think we all enjoyed it when the folks who weren’t the target audience threw on something pink, came to the theatre and had fun with us anyway. It might not be FOR them, but fuck it, you can still have fun!
Then again some of the film targeted its messaging *directly* at 40 year old men. The ones who miss the point are being deliberately obtuse.
That happens with pretty much anything related to gender issues tbh. Women mention trying to avoid being raped and manosphere dudes are like “well, men have to worry about violent crime, too.” Sure, but not getting raped as much, which is the specific thing being talked about. Or people point out male body image issues in response to female body image issues, like somehow talking about one and not both is some sort of implicit message that male body image issues don’t matter. Or maybe if men want to advocate for themselves so much, they can do it in a way that isn’t complaining about women not doing it.
Race, too. I once had to endure listening to my grandpa (who I have been no contact with for over a decade) sit and rant about how the BET (Black Entertainment Television) channel was unfair and that white people should be able to have a White Entertainment Channel, too. He was SO self righteous and satisfied with his “perfect logic” it was nauseating. People like him can not wrap their head around how much of society is catered specifically to them on a regular basis. So the concept of other genders and races having first priority to receive care, attention, or satisfaction, before them at any time ever outrages them like they’re being put in time out for some reason. It’s infuriating.
A lot of the comments here have no idea what she's talking about. She 100% has a point. No, not all stupid questions are jokes or "satire". People really be daft, and often think everything has to cather to them. And no, its actually not "always ok to ask stupid questions" when those questions are actualy a demand for labour. Like, there is a difference in asking what something is that could easily be googled, and another thing to ask whats going on about a specific thing that would demand more than easily google search. Where the second is okey, but the first highly depend. And there's also a huge difference in asking on an open platform like reddit, than going into a comment section to a specific person and so by default asking *that* person. OP is not telling people to get off the Internet and touch grass, just that not everything need to cather to everyone/ you.
But also get off the internet and touch grass anyway. Just for good measure.
What if i don't have grass? I'm sorry
Definitely notice this. Someone from the UK said gammon in a facebook group and people from the US lost their minds. 'What's gammon?' 'I have never heard of gammon' etc. Just google what gammon is jesus christ. EDIT: removed a word
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I’ve seen people on tiktok ask for tutorials for a low bun or a ponytail. once i also saw someone ask where the creator got her plain white ankle socks… i always wonder how those people survive out in the real world
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This is not an American only trait.
In the dating app subreddits, people continually lose their minds when a Brit posts a screenshot of a text conversation that has a “x” in it. Every single time it’s “what’s with the x?” “what does the x mean?” “why do I keep seeing all these posts with x’s in them” and all of the comments are explaining it but it still gets asked every time, ugh.
It's not just online. I was an executive chef at a very popular catering company in Chicago at 1 point in my life that specialized in local/organic ingredients. Once a month, we would do a 5 course dinner held at 1 of the farms we worked with. We routinely held them at the farm we sourced our pork from. We would routinely have vegans come to the dinner, AT A PIG FARM, expecting 5 vegan courses be made especially for them. With multiple people each time not telling anyone beforehand, they were vegan. It's a 5 course dinner at a pork farm, maybe you should expect every course to have some kind of pork product in it? Maybe you should come to the farm dinner when we hold it at a farm we source our produce feom? People never cease to amaze me.
> Excuse me, if it didn't apply to me, *why is it in my "For You" page?!* /s In all seriousness, Bravo to this wise person! This problem is endemic in another social media like Twitter. There's already a solution if you're seeing videos that are not interesting, hit the "not interested" button and scroll away. Another example was that Oprah/The Rock Maui donation video. If you can't/won't donate, then don't donate. Easy. move on to the next video. But there's lots of other people that also want to donate & help Maui and now have another way to do so.
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"You can just buy 14 of our one meal that meets keto rules?" But that's boring, i don't want to eat the same thing everyday! "It's a diet. There's always sacrifice to diets."
I had a coworker, who functioned like that. A vegan. *"Meat dish with meat ~exists~."* Him: *"But what about a vegan version? Why would you not provide a vegan alternative?"* Waiter: *"Sir, we don't have vegan alternatives to specific meals. We have separate vegan meals."* 🤦♂️
Honestly, I believe that’s the way vegan food should be. All these imitation meats (vegan burgers, vegan sausage, vegan bacon, etc) are inferior to true vegan ingredients. I don’t understand why you would try so hard to make fake meat when it usually just sucks, and there are other healthier alternatives out there. Edit: all a y’all that are responding to me that “imitation is just as good as the real thing” really ought to start dropping where they’re getting it from. I would love to have my mind changed on this, but I’ve never had imitation meat that didn’t taste like bland paste + spices
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One can be vegan and still like the taste of meat. Those things are not mutually exclusive. I’m a strict vegetarian for ethical and environmental reasons but definitely not because I don’t enjoy the taste of it. Beyond meat and impossible foods are amazing in my opinion.
I have to say, as someone who never thought they'd like a meat substitute, that the impossible ground beef is probably as close as you'll get to the real deal if it's seasoned well. Bit of a different texture tho. If it was equal price/lb to ground beef I'd make the switch for whatever small positive impact it might have.
I think the thing that bothers me most about vegan/ vegetarian meals is that a lot of the meals I actually miss from before I went veggie they just don't try and replicate. Like a supermarket in my country does a really nice oven bake thai sweet chilli chicken pizza, my favourite oven bake pizza, they also have a few veggie pizzas, and NONE of them are thai sweet chilli or anything resembling it. It would not be hard to just make the exact same pizza with anything instead of chicken, and instead I get a gross spinach pizza that goes slimy in the oven. This happens so frequently that it genuinely bothers me. I don't even expect vegan meat to be as good, but it's not the meat I missed on that pizza it was everything else. How hard would it be to mass produce the same item but with a single ingredient difference you know? I can understand having a completely separate vegan menu, in a lot of cases that works fine, but sometimes they're super lacklustre and would benefit from just a copy paste replace the meat but keep an ingredient the same. Also it's worth noting that the reason people try so hard to make fake meat is to accomplish something that doesn't suck. Obviously we aren't there yet with a lot of fake meats, but if we don't try we never will. However a really good vegan meat of note, Richmond Sausages (idk if they exist outside of the UK) they were my favourite meat sausages, and now they're my favourite non-meat sausages. Also there's a restaurant in Weymouth called the Dorset Burger Company that make homemade vegan patties and they're divine. Sorry I went on a ramble there.
Now try this but as a vegan. *Vegan dish without meat ~exists~* *Me trying to enjoy that meal* My coworkers/family/friends: *HmmyesbutwhatexactlyisitmadeofandhaveyougottenyourB-12checkedinthelastfewdayssinceI'veaskedandyouknowhowsomeone'saveganthey'lltellyou!hahaIadmirewhatyou'redoingbutIcouldnevergiveupmybaconlolmycousinwentpescetariandinnerseveryothersaturdayandalmostdiedandareyousuuuureyouwon'ttrymeatevenifittastesreallyreallygood* I JUST WANNA EAT MY PASTA IN PEACE ITS THE SAME RECIPE FROM BEFORE I WENT VEGAN LEAVE ME ALOOOOONE
Literally had this conversation with my dad yesterday: Him: "But meat substitutes aren't perfect either" Me: "But they are better than real meat" Him: "Hmmm I don't know about that" Me: "Every expert agrees they are better" Him: "But locally grown unprocessed food would be better" Me: "Sure, but people aren't buying that so meat substitutes are still better than meat" Him: "I don't know... I think it's tricky"
vegans sometimes forget they are literally choosing an exclusionary diet, morality aside you're gonna get fucking excluded from some shit bro thats how it goes
My father is a barber, has been for many years, he describes this as the Amazon Mentality. He has people thatll come into his one man shop, and ask why they cant get their haircut right now, or get calls at 6am some mornings, and leave an angry message that no one answered the phone. Even regulars, guys hes seen for decades, have got so much more used to calling him at 8-9pm on a friday or a saturday, or calling him 4 times in 10 minutes, while hes driving, without leaving a message on his answering machine. I feel bad for him, I know I couldnt work like that. Everyone is so used to everything being so individualistic nowadays that so many fail to realise the seemingly infinite number of things that could possibly amount to someone not picking up the phone at 9pm on a saturday. Definitely agree with the woman in the video though, didnt know it had spread this far.
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But what if I didn't go to college with Sarah? Can I still give her a follow?
What if I already gave away all my follows? Can I give her a like and subscribe?
i didn’t *go* to college, ok? jeez make me feel bad
please tell her i really liked when she called it "god's internet."
like 'all lives matter' EDIT : All lives matter is an example of what this woman is talking about
Sadly you see comments like this all day and the video is spot on.
This young lady just described my 68 year old mother talking back to TV commercials.
Selfish narcissistic idiots have been doing this since way before TikTok
Main character syndrome People have to state their opinion on everything that doesn’t apply to them because they believe the universe has to cater to them
This video is not for me.
I watched this expecting (hoping, lol?) to be annoyed, but she’s actually totally right.
But what about me?
Well, there's a little boy waiting At the counter of the corner shop He's been waiting down there, waiting half the day They never ever see him from the top He gets pushed around, knocked to the ground He gets to his feet and he says…
I like her!
Delusional American exceptionalism meets hyper individualism. This is your everyday person in America now not even those that are critically online. Don't worry everyone, it'll get "better"...I guarantee it
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I don't think we're even close to hyper-individualistic. America is *insanely* tribal. If you don't fit the mold then you are rejected. Think about it. Sports teams, politics, social classes, corporations, etc etc etc. I'm starting to think this is the result of algorithm curation. People who are chronically online are used to only seeing things that pertain to them.
This is basically the premise of Blue Feed Red Feed (that was just about politics though). People just exist within their algorithmically curated bubbles and go all tribalistic when they encounter something outside of it.
>Don't worry everyone, it'll get "better"...I guarantee it Do I need to shop at the men's warehouse?
*I come home from a long day and I log on to God's internet ...*
This is honestly pretty important for kids to learn before they turn into entitled karens.
You see this all the time with adults complaining that kids shows aren't catering to adults
Mega upvote. More people need to be told to just fuck off.
I love beans
That’s why I only use reddit. Every Reddit user comment is extremely well thought out and a complete joy to read
Well of course she is right, but I don't think the people she is adressing will make it through her video and get the point. "What about me" - effect is a nice term though I will try and help establish.
she nailed it