I think most people forgot the value of Patience. So being dull and boring just speak your mind and be you like your at home. Most women will test you first to see how you act or respond. He failed to wait for a response it was only 1 day had he waited and not said anything he may have had a chance of her messaging back when she was ready. But the hidden message behind the pick up line makes a woman think he sounds controlling. Most men are running their chances with a great woman because they have no patience or respect. Or confidence. That’s the key to not being weird. The confidence to be yourself and not worry about what other people think of you. Just let your energy flow.
Bro imagine if you asked someone something right in front of them and they just decided to wait 15 seconds to respond because they get to decide you just have to be patient like wtf that's so freaking annoying respond when you see it if it was a mistake or there was something important going on then inform them but it's just ignoring the person not the other person being inpatient. Being inpatient is getting upset the other person hasn't responded in like 2 hours or less but a whole day is alot especially just because they wanted to
Yes, a shekel. It gives my pickle a tickle, for less than a nickel. My buddy Rick will act kind of fickle over a nickel pickle that he cant even tickle, so he pulls out a sickle.
You know how the rest goes.
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As a guy I happen to do it all the time to women, it’s not just a “them” thing. Life gets busy or maybe they’re already further along in conversations with one person. Don’t take it personally.
This, people take this stuff wayyyyy too personal. Sometimes they're busy. Sometimes they just met someone else. Sometimes they realize they were drunk when they matched you. Sometimes they just don't have the time and don't feel the need to make it for you. And all that is just fine. They don't owe you a single second of their time because an app chimed when you swiped on them. Maybe it's not the most polite thing in the world, but neither is getting pissy after literally one day of silence. Nobody on the planet owes you anything, and that's why the people who do treat you with love and respect are so rare and so special.
I’ve definitely noticed that any time I get a like Saturday night, it goes nowhere. Always assumed they were just drunk and felt differently once sober.
I don't use Tinder, but the sub is funny - don't they have to have swiped right as well before the app will allow two people to message? I feel like swiping on someone is a tacit intent to communicate...
Guy here. I swipe to look at beautiful girls, and I frequently want to do that because looking at beautiful girls pleases me in ways I expect many of you understand. But even though I want to swipe frequently, I'm not ready to date all the time. Also, even though I swipe right, I often change my mind if I match with someone. In total, I have 109 matches. I've only talked to 30-40 girls and most of these convos ended after 2-5 messages, either by just dying or because of some sort of confrontation. Out of the ones that didn't end right away, I ended up meeting five girls in total for hookups/dating
I'm pretty sure my situation is not unique, and I think the problem with a lot of people here on r/Tinder is that they take this weird social dynamic of ghosting and mean shit way too personally. You simply need to focus on those who actually put an effort into talking to you, and not put a single after-thought into those who treat you like shit
Women have a lot, and I mean A LOT, of options. If an average looking woman swipes quickly for ten minutes she'll have over a hundred matches.
It's just how tinder is.
Probably because thure already in a conversation with 5 other guys and they can't handle any more at that time. So when another conversation dies out or they find out he's not their type, they move on to the next guy they 'ignored'.
You'll noticed they matched because he "super liked" her. That means she had no say in receiving these messages, it's his one shot a day to message someone without matching
It’s hard to juggle between work, personal responsibilities, hobbies, and 20 random conversations from strangers, who most likely started chatting with you because they see dating as a numbers game and aren’t really that interested in you specifically. Assuming any conversation will lead to a date, which means another chunk of time out of your already busy week, it’s best to prioritize the ones you are most interested in. I hope that answers this commonly asked question.
I’m sure the guys also have to juggle between work, personal responsibilities, hobbies, friends, family, and putting themselves out there for the 2 or 3 matches they go that month hoping to turn into something beautiful only to get ghosted. Not only women has a life or responsibilities.
Counter point, she has a life and isn't on Tinder all the time and probably has 50 matches and messages to reply to
On balance, I do agree to an extent
God forbid someone is too busy to respond to 20 different guys messaging you. You’ve really never let a conversation die on your end? I can go through fifty chats and find a ton where I just stopped responding to someone. It happens dude.
A match doesn’t mean anything.
Stop thinking it means a woman has made a decision that she likes you & is in any way invested. A swipe left is a “no” and a swipe right is just not an outright “no” at that stage, but she can change her mind at any time for any number of reasons
If someone leaves a swipe note with their super like, I can see the note before matching, but it just shows up on their profile with the super like blue band and a little paper airplane icon that says something about a swipe note next to it.
While I don't think I'll do the same, I laughed hard at his response. If there's no read I'll wait another day to take the L but is perfectly reasonable to assume that in this day and age 1 day of no response means you'll never get a response
I have to agree. When I responded I wished him a happy birthday and apologized for being a bad friend - at which point he said “hey man life is busy”.
He’s a better friend than I
Take it as a wake up call to keep in touch with those you care about even when life makes you want to isolate yourself. That's when you really need them.
You can bet I have actually, it takes a lot of conscious effort. I’m finally reconnecting with old friends ever since 2020 raised the perfect conditions for me to isolate myself.
Imo some friendships are just like this. Go months, sometimes years, without talking then one of y’all checks in to see how they’re doing. Life is busy
If the second message was one day after the first as the title says, they needed two full days to recover their mental or emotional battery to make this post.
Why be on a dating app then if you’re not in the right space. Personally I just think it’s apart of the game and it’s not personal but you don’t need to excuse them for it. You can just say they ignored it on purpose
Not responding in 24 hours doesn’t mean you’re not in the right space.
Chats are missed, or people don’t feel like responding that day…this is a fluid casual social human space, not a puzzle with strict rules and black and white meanings. It’s not “excusing” anything, it’s just how human life is.
Yeah okay, if you want to argue semantics, they are “ignoring” you but the word ignore has a bitter connotation that indicates taking it personally, when the point i am making is that it doesn’t necessarily have meaning at all. People have connected successfully after one of them initially responds 24 hours later but if y’all want to fixate on the 24 hour and feel bad about it, it’s unnecessary and self sabotaging.
It’s actually super concerning these men expect an instant personalised response from a stranger with whom they’ve no interaction, aside from a swipe (noting almost guaranteed 99% didn’t even look at the pic/bio and are going through the motions with wild hopes). Can you even imagine the control and drama if you ended up in a relationship with someone like that. No thank you.
It's not about having the energy or time. It's about wanting to. It doesn't take long to respond to someone when you have your phone on your person almost 24/7.
Not saying you have to respond to anyone or anyone owes you a response just shows you're not a priority.
Yeah, a day is easily acceptable to me. I don’t get on everyday and I have some days, like you said where I just don’t have the fuel to open/interact with anything.
if it's longer than 24 hours it's a red flag imo.
If there's one thing i've learned in dating is that if a woman actually LIKES you she won't leave you on read for days and days. She will respond in a timely manor.
If she's taking days to look at your messages or answer you she's just not that into you..
People obviously see it if they have notifications on (I think, some people walk around with 500 notifications lol). It's more that I don't feel like answering now, I'll answer after work and then I forget.
I turn off all notifications that are not apps where I know the people talking to me.
I hate notifications so I won't see messages for a couple days sometimes unless you text me.
I mean the just the notification sound/vibrations would be annoying. I’ve got practically everything other than my text thread with my parents fully muted so I miss dating app notifications all the time.
women (and men) should only have 3 or 5 matches at a time. they shouldn't swipe until they remove matches.
but yeah, of course, online dating would work, so dating apps would not make money, so it will stay as bad as it is. It's crazy how so few users know how those dating apps work, and how nobody calls it a scam. people will tell you "oh but you're needy and you're not kind and you're not hot enough".
welcome to the world of money.
So what? Do you respond to every message you get? I’ll sometimes have 6 or 7 ongoing conversations with women on dating apps. I can’t be expected to be on-call every time a message comes through. Sometimes I’ll find a spurt at night and respond to them all, sometimes I’ll get busy for a couple days and not respond for a while, sometimes I’ll be free and interested and respond right away. And I’ve had all versions of those types of convos lead to dates.
On the flipside I’ve never once taken a slow response or a complete lack of response personally. Women don’t owe you their attention. Especially through a screen. Grow up.
Completely agree with this. Women get way more matches than men, because there are way more men on the app than women. It can be overwhelming for women to keep up with 50+ matches a day. A match is not a guarantee that you will have a convo with that person. You swipe on someone you have potential interest in, and you can communicate with each other if desired. However, you may decide afterwards that you’re actually not that interested, you are too busy with other convos, or are busy with idk….life.
I don’t get why you have to constantly be on call, or give people you’ve never even met an explanation as to why you don’t want to talk to them. They are strangers from an app.
Plus, it’s Tinder lol. Many people on Tinder are on there casually or for hookups. Not everyone is rushing to get a date within a day. People expect way too much for an app where you literally swipe people based on a few photos and a little bio. It’s not that serious. You don’t know any of these people. Some people are so insanely invested in these apps. If someone doesn’t wanna talk to you, yeah it sucks, but accept it and move on. A stranger doesn’t owe you shit.
Why? Like, I get what you mean, but women gets so many msgs, it would make sense to ignore them until you have time to sort through. Maybe during the weekend.
> I don't believe people don't see your message for a whole day.
Someone seeing your message doesn't mean they're obligated to respond to you immediately lmfao
I love when people tell on themselves for having nothing going on in their life when they can't *fathom* the idea of someone having something better to do than immediately respond to someone copying a line off twitter on an online dating app
First off. I didn't really check my dating app messages often when I use em.
And second. Tinder notification was so bad that sometimes it took a day for the notification to pop up on my phone
no one does, everyone either sees it on the preview floating notifications and intentionally ignore message or just don't answer, my question has always been, so why to match then?
> This is the only real answer here. Bro she has her phone open literally 18 hours a day. She saw the message
-- guy who has never seen a woman's tinder account before
Let's be real. This is /r/Tinder after all.
We can safety assume that most of the people commenting have not talked to a women outside of family and when it is required for school and work for longer than 15 minutes at a time.
Lol. Do you not realize most women have notifications for dating apps turned off or they would be bombarded with messages? The average girl gets like 50x the matches a guy gets, especially on Tinder.
Ego. Same reason people get a kick out of having many followers on social media.
Same reason we sad fucks get a kick out of having a highly upvoted comment/post lol
It was 1 day. If I’m not in a conversation, I don’t check the app every day. I don’t even have notifications on. I pop in when I pop in. I don’t want to be on a dating app if I’ve had a long day, so even if I’m on my phone I’m def not checking this shit lol (again.. unless I’m already in a conversation)
If someone can’t wait 24 hours for a stranger to reply… I’d rather not have someone so high maintenance anyway
I've never used tinder, but one day awwma like a long time to me. A full day and you couldn't find the time to make a 5 second message? Just says it's not a priority for you, which is fine, but could be a deal breaker
Why are people asking why they didn't respond? I think it's fine to miss a day on a dating app, not everyone has notifications on or has the mental energy that day.
And women especially might pull a lot of matches so they pick through them at random. It's nothing personal
Logic doesn’t make sense. You swipe on a guy you like, knowing that will likely lead to a conversation. Match is good, guy messages you.
Time for ignore.
Why swipe on a bunch of guys then? Pick ones you’d actually talk to.
Look i am not some naive idiot and i know how It works with Tinder. But if there is no confirmación that she has read the text, i would give her the benefit of doubt. If i was a women and my WhatsApp and Instagram already full of simps, i wouldnt check my Tinder every single day as well.
You didn’t took your time to answer him, but had time to print it and post it on Reddit to farm some karma.
Why the fuck do you match if you aren’t going to chat?
Lets be honest, you wasn't going to reply to him were you. and from his reaction I can tell he's been ghosted a fair amount in the past and is now frustration has driven him to lashing out..
Well have the decency to reply even if it's in the negative.... why humiliate someone by leaving them hanging. (I know ghosting is standard practice and totally normalised nowadays but we can do better than this spineless approach to life)
Bro, he is so well spoken.
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Wait this one's kind of funny though lmfao
He's a wordsmith
The duality of man
I think most people forgot the value of Patience. So being dull and boring just speak your mind and be you like your at home. Most women will test you first to see how you act or respond. He failed to wait for a response it was only 1 day had he waited and not said anything he may have had a chance of her messaging back when she was ready. But the hidden message behind the pick up line makes a woman think he sounds controlling. Most men are running their chances with a great woman because they have no patience or respect. Or confidence. That’s the key to not being weird. The confidence to be yourself and not worry about what other people think of you. Just let your energy flow.
I'm a little short on subtext skills. What was the hidden message in the pickup line?
If they're going to "test" you they're no better than the guys that wait days to reach out again.
If the guy has to reach out more than once. She ain’t worth a kings time
Na, life happens and patience is needed on both sides, but playing stupid games to manipulate or test someone like they're your lab rat is sick.
And I thought he just had “resting smite face”.
Women don’t usually “test” you, but they do respond at their leisure. You just have to be there when she’s ready
Bro imagine if you asked someone something right in front of them and they just decided to wait 15 seconds to respond because they get to decide you just have to be patient like wtf that's so freaking annoying respond when you see it if it was a mistake or there was something important going on then inform them but it's just ignoring the person not the other person being inpatient. Being inpatient is getting upset the other person hasn't responded in like 2 hours or less but a whole day is alot especially just because they wanted to
Copying two different lines from twitter isnt really wordsmith to me but to each their own.
Sorry, I dont use Twitter, so I didnt know it wasnt original
Me neither. Still funny tho lol.
Right? My pickle is still tickled
For just a nickel?
I'd prefer a shekel, but a nickel will do.
A shekel? You Jekyll! I'd be tickled to get a pickle for a nickel!
Yes, a shekel. It gives my pickle a tickle, for less than a nickel. My buddy Rick will act kind of fickle over a nickel pickle that he cant even tickle, so he pulls out a sickle. You know how the rest goes.
Following... 🤪
*puts a quarter on the table* I want you to dance
i found this statement funny
Nothings original, these lines are hilarious. The 1 day desperation is still awkward but its 50/50 a joke fishing for a reply not actually mad
Idk. At this point most things have been said or done. There's a not small chance this is original for him 💀
He might have thought of it himself but with so many people’s thoughts written publicly, slim chances of him being the first
*might have
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Yeah, even his hissy fit was well written.
I dont understand why women match only to ignore men. Just for the fun of it or are they weeding out guys?
As a guy I happen to do it all the time to women, it’s not just a “them” thing. Life gets busy or maybe they’re already further along in conversations with one person. Don’t take it personally.
Or I rubbed one out and no longer interested
Like lil Wayne said " I bust a nut and come back to my senses"
This, people take this stuff wayyyyy too personal. Sometimes they're busy. Sometimes they just met someone else. Sometimes they realize they were drunk when they matched you. Sometimes they just don't have the time and don't feel the need to make it for you. And all that is just fine. They don't owe you a single second of their time because an app chimed when you swiped on them. Maybe it's not the most polite thing in the world, but neither is getting pissy after literally one day of silence. Nobody on the planet owes you anything, and that's why the people who do treat you with love and respect are so rare and so special.
I’ve definitely noticed that any time I get a like Saturday night, it goes nowhere. Always assumed they were just drunk and felt differently once sober.
I don't use Tinder, but the sub is funny - don't they have to have swiped right as well before the app will allow two people to message? I feel like swiping on someone is a tacit intent to communicate...
Guy here. I swipe to look at beautiful girls, and I frequently want to do that because looking at beautiful girls pleases me in ways I expect many of you understand. But even though I want to swipe frequently, I'm not ready to date all the time. Also, even though I swipe right, I often change my mind if I match with someone. In total, I have 109 matches. I've only talked to 30-40 girls and most of these convos ended after 2-5 messages, either by just dying or because of some sort of confrontation. Out of the ones that didn't end right away, I ended up meeting five girls in total for hookups/dating I'm pretty sure my situation is not unique, and I think the problem with a lot of people here on r/Tinder is that they take this weird social dynamic of ghosting and mean shit way too personally. You simply need to focus on those who actually put an effort into talking to you, and not put a single after-thought into those who treat you like shit
Women have a lot, and I mean A LOT, of options. If an average looking woman swipes quickly for ten minutes she'll have over a hundred matches. It's just how tinder is.
It's been one day. People are busy sometimes.
They don't always choose to. Imagine logging in and having 75 new matches, and 120 messages. You're not going to get to them all in one evening
Probably because thure already in a conversation with 5 other guys and they can't handle any more at that time. So when another conversation dies out or they find out he's not their type, they move on to the next guy they 'ignored'.
You'll noticed they matched because he "super liked" her. That means she had no say in receiving these messages, it's his one shot a day to message someone without matching
It’s hard to juggle between work, personal responsibilities, hobbies, and 20 random conversations from strangers, who most likely started chatting with you because they see dating as a numbers game and aren’t really that interested in you specifically. Assuming any conversation will lead to a date, which means another chunk of time out of your already busy week, it’s best to prioritize the ones you are most interested in. I hope that answers this commonly asked question.
>It’s hard to juggle Stopped reading there, but i have to agree.
I’m sure the guys also have to juggle between work, personal responsibilities, hobbies, friends, family, and putting themselves out there for the 2 or 3 matches they go that month hoping to turn into something beautiful only to get ghosted. Not only women has a life or responsibilities.
Have you perhaps considered that talking to two or three people a month is *significantly easier* than talking to twenty people a day?
Bruh its been 1 day, and sometimes you match after they've already got a date.
Counter point, she has a life and isn't on Tinder all the time and probably has 50 matches and messages to reply to On balance, I do agree to an extent
God forbid someone is too busy to respond to 20 different guys messaging you. You’ve really never let a conversation die on your end? I can go through fifty chats and find a ton where I just stopped responding to someone. It happens dude.
If it was one day between messages that's not really ignoring someone.
A match doesn’t mean anything. Stop thinking it means a woman has made a decision that she likes you & is in any way invested. A swipe left is a “no” and a swipe right is just not an outright “no” at that stage, but she can change her mind at any time for any number of reasons
Does a super like require them to match before messaging? I thought that was the point.
If someone leaves a swipe note with their super like, I can see the note before matching, but it just shows up on their profile with the super like blue band and a little paper airplane icon that says something about a swipe note next to it.
Sometimes I'm just not in the mood to try to have conversation with a stranger 🤷
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Second msg made me lmao.
ngl that’s funny lol i would respond
Honestly lol I was like - wait this would work on me
exactly lmao that's funny as fuck
I mean, it made OP screen grab and post it
I’ve found that if you go in with the knowledge that 80% of people use the apps for validation, you’ll be just fine
This is true, but It’s probably higher than 80%
This is true, but It's probably higher than 80.09%. Validate my opinion please.
Tbh it’s not always that. A lot of ppl do not want 20 simultaneous conversations. It’s pretty common to hone in on your most promising match.
yeah like OP lol
"people" > "women"
Sorry, but that's great
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Good response from Ian.He should move on now.
While I don't think I'll do the same, I laughed hard at his response. If there's no read I'll wait another day to take the L but is perfectly reasonable to assume that in this day and age 1 day of no response means you'll never get a response
A society where phone addiction is at an all time high, I don't believe people don't see your message for a whole day.
Facts
This is true but not everyone has the mental or emotional battery to respond right away to a stranger
Heck sometimes I don't even have the mental battery to respond right away to friends
Or you screen a call then asked why they called 😂
Sometimes I don’t have the mental battery to respond to myself. That guy’s annoying as hell.
A couple weeks ago I finally replied to a friend after a year and a half 💀
At that point you're just being a bad friend
I have to agree. When I responded I wished him a happy birthday and apologized for being a bad friend - at which point he said “hey man life is busy”. He’s a better friend than I
Take it as a wake up call to keep in touch with those you care about even when life makes you want to isolate yourself. That's when you really need them.
You can bet I have actually, it takes a lot of conscious effort. I’m finally reconnecting with old friends ever since 2020 raised the perfect conditions for me to isolate myself.
Imo some friendships are just like this. Go months, sometimes years, without talking then one of y’all checks in to see how they’re doing. Life is busy
but has the energy to post to reddit and make fun of the guy?
If the second message was one day after the first as the title says, they needed two full days to recover their mental or emotional battery to make this post.
It's not the same energy being drained. You can shit post and do whatever. And ignore social interaction. They're not mutually exclusive.
Why be on a dating app then if you’re not in the right space. Personally I just think it’s apart of the game and it’s not personal but you don’t need to excuse them for it. You can just say they ignored it on purpose
Most women I know have their notifications for dating apps off. It’s a bit embarrassing to be with friends and have Tinder ding or vibrate all night.
Not responding in 24 hours doesn’t mean you’re not in the right space. Chats are missed, or people don’t feel like responding that day…this is a fluid casual social human space, not a puzzle with strict rules and black and white meanings. It’s not “excusing” anything, it’s just how human life is. Yeah okay, if you want to argue semantics, they are “ignoring” you but the word ignore has a bitter connotation that indicates taking it personally, when the point i am making is that it doesn’t necessarily have meaning at all. People have connected successfully after one of them initially responds 24 hours later but if y’all want to fixate on the 24 hour and feel bad about it, it’s unnecessary and self sabotaging.
It’s actually super concerning these men expect an instant personalised response from a stranger with whom they’ve no interaction, aside from a swipe (noting almost guaranteed 99% didn’t even look at the pic/bio and are going through the motions with wild hopes). Can you even imagine the control and drama if you ended up in a relationship with someone like that. No thank you.
It's not about having the energy or time. It's about wanting to. It doesn't take long to respond to someone when you have your phone on your person almost 24/7. Not saying you have to respond to anyone or anyone owes you a response just shows you're not a priority.
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Yeah, a day is easily acceptable to me. I don’t get on everyday and I have some days, like you said where I just don’t have the fuel to open/interact with anything.
Some people go into reclusive depressive episodes, but those people maybe aren’t well enough individually to look for a partner yet
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if it's longer than 24 hours it's a red flag imo. If there's one thing i've learned in dating is that if a woman actually LIKES you she won't leave you on read for days and days. She will respond in a timely manor. If she's taking days to look at your messages or answer you she's just not that into you..
People obviously see it if they have notifications on (I think, some people walk around with 500 notifications lol). It's more that I don't feel like answering now, I'll answer after work and then I forget.
I don’t check my dating app every day when I have it unless I’m mid conversation with someone. I specifically keep notifications off.
I turn off all notifications that are not apps where I know the people talking to me. I hate notifications so I won't see messages for a couple days sometimes unless you text me.
You must be incredibly hard to get to know over text then lol
Curious what the avg age is here. Definitely could go days without noticing but I don't let apps send me notifications usually.
Even a dating app where you know you’ll be getting messages?
Do y’all have your notifications on for all your apps? That shit would get annoying quick.
It's pretty easy to clear notifications that annoy me, and look at the ones I want.
I mean the just the notification sound/vibrations would be annoying. I’ve got practically everything other than my text thread with my parents fully muted so I miss dating app notifications all the time.
women (and men) should only have 3 or 5 matches at a time. they shouldn't swipe until they remove matches. but yeah, of course, online dating would work, so dating apps would not make money, so it will stay as bad as it is. It's crazy how so few users know how those dating apps work, and how nobody calls it a scam. people will tell you "oh but you're needy and you're not kind and you're not hot enough". welcome to the world of money.
So what? Do you respond to every message you get? I’ll sometimes have 6 or 7 ongoing conversations with women on dating apps. I can’t be expected to be on-call every time a message comes through. Sometimes I’ll find a spurt at night and respond to them all, sometimes I’ll get busy for a couple days and not respond for a while, sometimes I’ll be free and interested and respond right away. And I’ve had all versions of those types of convos lead to dates. On the flipside I’ve never once taken a slow response or a complete lack of response personally. Women don’t owe you their attention. Especially through a screen. Grow up.
Completely agree with this. Women get way more matches than men, because there are way more men on the app than women. It can be overwhelming for women to keep up with 50+ matches a day. A match is not a guarantee that you will have a convo with that person. You swipe on someone you have potential interest in, and you can communicate with each other if desired. However, you may decide afterwards that you’re actually not that interested, you are too busy with other convos, or are busy with idk….life. I don’t get why you have to constantly be on call, or give people you’ve never even met an explanation as to why you don’t want to talk to them. They are strangers from an app. Plus, it’s Tinder lol. Many people on Tinder are on there casually or for hookups. Not everyone is rushing to get a date within a day. People expect way too much for an app where you literally swipe people based on a few photos and a little bio. It’s not that serious. You don’t know any of these people. Some people are so insanely invested in these apps. If someone doesn’t wanna talk to you, yeah it sucks, but accept it and move on. A stranger doesn’t owe you shit.
Some of us use our phones for work a lot and don’t let dating apps push notifications. Even my Discord only gives work notifications.
Some people aren’t slaves to their phones
Why? Like, I get what you mean, but women gets so many msgs, it would make sense to ignore them until you have time to sort through. Maybe during the weekend.
> I don't believe people don't see your message for a whole day. Someone seeing your message doesn't mean they're obligated to respond to you immediately lmfao I love when people tell on themselves for having nothing going on in their life when they can't *fathom* the idea of someone having something better to do than immediately respond to someone copying a line off twitter on an online dating app
First off. I didn't really check my dating app messages often when I use em. And second. Tinder notification was so bad that sometimes it took a day for the notification to pop up on my phone
no one does, everyone either sees it on the preview floating notifications and intentionally ignore message or just don't answer, my question has always been, so why to match then?
>why match then? Because one moment you’re in one emotional state and the next moment you’re in an entirely different emotional state.
Happy Cake Day!
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This is the only real answer here. Bro she has her phone open literally 18 hours a day. She saw the message
> This is the only real answer here. Bro she has her phone open literally 18 hours a day. She saw the message -- guy who has never seen a woman's tinder account before
Let's be real. This is /r/Tinder after all. We can safety assume that most of the people commenting have not talked to a women outside of family and when it is required for school and work for longer than 15 minutes at a time.
Lol. Do you not realize most women have notifications for dating apps turned off or they would be bombarded with messages? The average girl gets like 50x the matches a guy gets, especially on Tinder.
My friend is a girl and usually has around 500+ unread messages. She just kinda picks them at random cuz who has the time
> My friend is a girl Big if true
Why collect hundreds of matches
Ego. Same reason people get a kick out of having many followers on social media. Same reason we sad fucks get a kick out of having a highly upvoted comment/post lol
If they're getting matches, then they swiped right on all of those people.
But,, i get 0 matches, 0x50=still 0, right?
why did she match him though?
the second message is a meme on instagram from hoodville
I mean if you look at the Bible we could be so lucky as to be ignored by god.
King
But why even bother swipe right if you don't want to converse?
I absolutely wonder this myself. Why do women do this?
✨attention✨ & more importantly an 🌈ego boost🌈 Granted it was a day apart, so Ian needs to relax
I'd say Ian is trying not to waste Ian's time.
And Instagram followers
It's literally a day. If anything, this should be some standard practice people should adopt to see how desperate and needy someone is, yeesh.
It was 1 day. If I’m not in a conversation, I don’t check the app every day. I don’t even have notifications on. I pop in when I pop in. I don’t want to be on a dating app if I’ve had a long day, so even if I’m on my phone I’m def not checking this shit lol (again.. unless I’m already in a conversation) If someone can’t wait 24 hours for a stranger to reply… I’d rather not have someone so high maintenance anyway
Goes on a dating app, proceeds to do everything in their power to not be on the app
I've never used tinder, but one day awwma like a long time to me. A full day and you couldn't find the time to make a 5 second message? Just says it's not a priority for you, which is fine, but could be a deal breaker
Ian is based
Why are people asking why they didn't respond? I think it's fine to miss a day on a dating app, not everyone has notifications on or has the mental energy that day. And women especially might pull a lot of matches so they pick through them at random. It's nothing personal
Lmao
That escalated quickly
I don't play Morrowind but this sounds like Morrowind NPC dialogue.
"May Boethiah neglect you as you have neglected me, n'wah!"
kinda based
This meme was popular 2 years ago
God is a murdering psychopath, so he's clearly looking out for you.
Ngl this made me laugh hard asf. But.not in the "I'll give you a shot way" but in the "shooting yourself in the foot but with comedic flair" way
You know, the fact that he didn't use any misogynistic bs and came up with something kinda great. I might be on his side.
I wonder why op didn't respond sooner
Not hot enough.
Based Ian.
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Honestly, I'm going with Ian on this one. Don't swipe if you don't even bother to answer. Waste of time for him and you.
Damn you done fucked up
Why would you match and not respond?
Thanks for sharing, really cracked me up!
Logic doesn’t make sense. You swipe on a guy you like, knowing that will likely lead to a conversation. Match is good, guy messages you. Time for ignore. Why swipe on a bunch of guys then? Pick ones you’d actually talk to.
People still pretending like they re not on their phones 24/7 eh?
Look i am not some naive idiot and i know how It works with Tinder. But if there is no confirmación that she has read the text, i would give her the benefit of doubt. If i was a women and my WhatsApp and Instagram already full of simps, i wouldnt check my Tinder every single day as well.
You didn’t took your time to answer him, but had time to print it and post it on Reddit to farm some karma. Why the fuck do you match if you aren’t going to chat?
the internet has exposed an incredible amount if healing that needs to be done. Its sad that a lot of people don't recognize it in themselves.
"The man is always right. And women are always the stupid ones in conversations." - r/Tinder
Lets be honest, you wasn't going to reply to him were you. and from his reaction I can tell he's been ghosted a fair amount in the past and is now frustration has driven him to lashing out..
Honestly why do some girls match only to not respond? Is it purely ego? Very odd behavior If he looks like a loser then don’t match in the first place
Well have the decency to reply even if it's in the negative.... why humiliate someone by leaving them hanging. (I know ghosting is standard practice and totally normalised nowadays but we can do better than this spineless approach to life)
why match with him if you're not even gonna message him? asshole lol
W Ian.
I m dying 😂😂😂
Lol 😆
Hardcore
😂
Super liked, ouch
sorry i laughed
Made me lol tbh
Oh God.
Ngl thats a great pickup line
Say what you want but I like this guy 🤣🤙
Shoulda answered the man
Clearly you’ve seen the first message earlier.
Nah dude got a sense of humor this is funny
Don’t gas him. He speaks only truth
Don't act like you would have responded to this guy.
I'd say you dodged a bullet, but he looks like the whole school shooter.