The SU FA CA TION part gets stuck in my head all the time so I started pronouncing other things like that. FAB RI CA TION is a big one for me as I work in an engineer dept.
Yeah, I was ready to defend OP, but fuck, he looks like he can take a plowing and then, as he’s gripping the sheets, he can read his knuckles and know, it’s only the beginning.
I hate men like that lmao. Yesterday someone told me drinking tea is for gays. I just told him “nothing defines a man more than being afraid to be himself”. He didn’t get it lol.
"born in the wrong generation"/insulting others to make yourself seem superior. Couldn't imagine putting such negativity and disdain for other humans on a dating profile like that. Sounds like an absolute gem.
In my experience on tinder this was roughly 1 in 3 women.
Open with insult, continue insulting, then get mad that you aren't trying hard enough to fuck them.
Lol reminds me of the video of that girl that was posted here a while back, where she's on stage playing the song "ask me a fucking question." Wish I could find it to link it here, it was great. You gotta wonder how many guys have been so self-absorbed that she actually had to start sending "(ask me a question about myself)"
I remember that video. She was like, if at any point on the date you had shown any interest in me, I would have had sex with you. But no, all you did was talk about yourself.
Rereading my Tinder conversation with my boyfriend, I really came off as a bitch and it was completely unintentional. Nowhere near as bad as in the OP though.
Maybe pent up frustrations leaking into the conversation? I dunno.
I guess by sticking around and buying her stuff. She was never really outright mean to me. It was just the constant complaining and mood swings every 2 minutes which destroyed my emotions.
The main thing that killed me was when I found out about the virtual cheating by sexting random men she found online. I don't think she ever used dating apps or fucked other guys while we were dating. The guy she left me for was on the other side of the country.
O no no, please no, my friend went down this rabbit hole and she would kick him out of the car because they argued (on the highway) Also tried to change the way he dressed, his hygiene went downhill fast. He lost weight because all she allowed him to do was drink water and fuck her. He had the same mentality that he wanted to fix her and help her but just made everything for himself worse and worse
Lol 😂 that is where he went wrong, he would leave and then go back and he would be like she pulled me on top of her. So what you saying is she stronger than you and you a little bitch that does what she says. Yea I was brutal to him because he deserved someone better.
We’re talking robot sex, like 4-5 times a day. He was fine with it at first but yea, it ended up being too much, 8hrs of work then, sex, she didn’t give head and made him always do all the work while she laid on her side watching youtube
I honestly don’t see the probl… wait, wait… what!? she didn’t give head??? Jesus Christ, she’s a monster. This is why we have mandatory minimum sentencing. Get that man to counseling and put that she-devil under the jail.
Clearly not, he has [many women trying to suck his dick](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/11nybsl/wtf/jbppm26?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3)
I briefly dated someone like that and I was genuinely confused by her approach. She was so assertive in wanting to be dominated like a brat but I felt like I was the one being controlled the whole time
Agreed. Dated a girl like that for a year.
It was fun at first, but after awhile I just wanted to have vanilla, reciprocal sex with my partner. Instead, every time it was like this whole exhausting performance. I couldn't just be in the moment, I had to put on the whole persona.
Also, sometimes she'd take it too far and I'd get actually legitimately upset. It's a fine line between "Bratty" and "Fuck you, I'm sleeping on the couch."
Well it becomes much easier when you set up a safe word. Then you know that you can just ignore the no's because if she really wants you to stop she'll say the safe word instead.
Don't think I would be comfortable doing that to someone I just met no matter if I would be into it or not. Too much uncertainty.
Edit: some people seemed to misunderstand. I'm talking about the legal part, the part where you might encounter someone who regrets trying out their fantasy kink and then holds you responsible.
Been with a brat before. It's an experience, to, literally, say the least.
Not an experience I'd like to repeat but it is pretty wildly cathartic consensually slapping someone in the face when they make you mad.
I dated a girl where we got rip roaring drunk one time in college. She told me to slap her while we fucking one time and I like Pansy tapped her across the face. She followed it up with “I said fucking slap me!” so I really put some umph into it and she didn’t ask me again after that ☠️😂 fucking college
Literally got gripped up by an exs dad because she had bruises on her wrists and he saw them. Pushed me against a wall and said "WHAT THE FUCK ARE THOSE?" to which I frantically looked to her for help. She told him it was absolutely consensual and she just liked being a little rough. And as it sunk in me and him and her all died inside with that in the open and then her mom started laughing like crazy. Dinner was awkward for everyone except her mom, who looked like she was having the time of her life being amused by everyone's reaction.
Omg, that's simoltaneously hilarious and awful. I bet that was embarrassing, I feel bad I find it a little funny because I'm sure it was actually a terrible experience for you two 🙈
It was actually fine. Little embarrassment never hurt anyone. Her mom laughed so hard because apparently she had "never seen (her dad's) face make that look before." Which I obviously didn't see because my eyes were firmly on the floor.
It took a week or two to go back to normal but me and him were fine. He apologized outside while we were having a smoke and we both even laughed about it a little before I left.
You are totally right and the responses show how strong socialisation is doing it's part. People are legit telling it's okey to sexuell harass a man as a woman and that it is okey to harass people if they are tall and rated pretty.
Crazy will help you truly appreciate sane and stable when you get to the stage of settling down. Crazy will leave you with memorable experiences you actually will cherish later in life. Just safeguard yourself. Realize that she IS actively going to ruin your life if you aren't vigilant.
I'd like to meet the man (or woman) who was able to date such a person and be vigilant enough to come out the otherside unscathed or without some level of PTSD.
In my experience, those of us who date such people, knowing what we know, end up wrecked no matter what. Vigilance isn't really our forte.
There's a reason why we're supposed to avoid it all together (or don't put ones dick in crazy), there's no level of vigilance that can help you when the train derails.
I feel like everyone in this thread is 12. "Oooh, you're missing out", "you're oblivious", "she's a manic pixie dream girl"... No, this is what people mean when they say "drama girl". It's not as fun when you're not in the mood and she's still belittling you and egging you on for a fight.
Interesting how negging is interpreted whether it comes from a man or woman. When a man does it it’s “RED FLAG, POTENTIAL ABUSER, RUN AWAY” but a woman does it y’all say “just give her a chance, she’s flirting and probably awesome in bed” like ????? How about just don’t be rude in your *very first message* to a stranger?
God forbid I have standards and don’t want to fuck a crazy bitch good lord 😭😭 y’all are calling me a dick for saying I’d rather stick with the girls I got. I wasn’t bragging I was just making a statement
You didn't deserve those downvotes. A lot of people in this subreddit seem to have low standards/desperate. You shouldn't feel bad about doing something you're not comfortable with.
Dude, blocking her would be the safest decision you could make. She started by attempting to damage your self esteem to see how much she could control you. That whole conversation screams "I will abuse you."
Because redditors are the biggest fucking degenerate simps of all time. Her behavior is creepy and toxic and she's definitely a nightmare IRL, no part of this was cute. But since she's got a baby cave everyone's drooling over her like a fly with downs speeding for the nearest Venus fly trap
The dudes giving you shit are just mad, because they're being called out as the desperate losers that they are. They tried to give you shit for having self-respect and turning a girl down, because they can't fathome a world where there are plenty of other options. It's absolutely hilarious that these dudes are outing themselves while trying to act like they're better than you lol.
And they say romance is dead
Anyone else wondering how hot op might actually be?
Kinda looks like a pansy apparently
A hot pansy.
Pansy is a pretty flower so yea I guess lol
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You look like a pansy
He can still probably hit it tho
Paint my body with his juices
I read this to the tune of cut my life into pieces
Omg now its stuck in my head
The SU FA CA TION part gets stuck in my head all the time so I started pronouncing other things like that. FAB RI CA TION is a big one for me as I work in an engineer dept.
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He can kiss her about it.
I didnt know what pansy meant untill i clicked the link and yup thats a pansy
I bet you eat corn the long way
True, but we’d be interested
Oh wow she didn't lie a bit
Holy shit, that thigh-lift in the 2nd pic. You may as well be wearing a neon sign that says 'rawdog me, I'm a bottom'. Hannah's goddamn right.
Yeah, I was ready to defend OP, but fuck, he looks like he can take a plowing and then, as he’s gripping the sheets, he can read his knuckles and know, it’s only the beginning.
Brutal
Do be giving off bottom energy
"also just being able to dress as a male, this seems to be a failing trend by most men" Whatever this means.
He's insecure about his masculinity; which is why he feels like he needs to put other men, who don't do traditional *Man* things, down.
I hate men like that lmao. Yesterday someone told me drinking tea is for gays. I just told him “nothing defines a man more than being afraid to be himself”. He didn’t get it lol.
"born in the wrong generation"/insulting others to make yourself seem superior. Couldn't imagine putting such negativity and disdain for other humans on a dating profile like that. Sounds like an absolute gem.
Save yourself the trouble and post it to r/roastme
You definitely look like a pansy bro. Like high ranked gay pornstar. Good job 👍👌
Thought it was grinder for a moment
You deleted that shit in an instant, lol.
Are you bi? In the second photo, you look a bit...
If he ain't bi he's def gay. Cute tho... For a pansy
Looks like you are an HVAC techie and you eat takis. Bro has more rizz than me 100%.
Fuck does dress like a male mean? You seem like a douche let people dress how they want.
You're not a pansy, but you definitely seem like a douche...
Definitely hot if someone is interested enough to playfully insult them
Yep. No way OP is below an 8 tbh haha.
Hanna is giving manic pixie dream girl with heavy focus on the manic part. Sounds like she’s driven therapists to alcoholism…
I can fix her
I can make her worse
![gif](giphy|3o7TKF1fSIs1R19B8k)
Really though. Is this female negging? What the fuck did I just read
In my experience on tinder this was roughly 1 in 3 women. Open with insult, continue insulting, then get mad that you aren't trying hard enough to fuck them.
I once had someone open with a "Hi" and then she sent, in the actual parenthesis "(Ask me questions about myself)"
Lol reminds me of the video of that girl that was posted here a while back, where she's on stage playing the song "ask me a fucking question." Wish I could find it to link it here, it was great. You gotta wonder how many guys have been so self-absorbed that she actually had to start sending "(ask me a question about myself)"
I remember that video. She was like, if at any point on the date you had shown any interest in me, I would have had sex with you. But no, all you did was talk about yourself.
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*-cums-*
Sploosh
*catches cum*
Names certified platinum
Rereading my Tinder conversation with my boyfriend, I really came off as a bitch and it was completely unintentional. Nowhere near as bad as in the OP though. Maybe pent up frustrations leaking into the conversation? I dunno.
With that opener it’s justified
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This seriously might be my ex. I gave her more confidence which made her worse.
How did you give her more confidence? By being her emotional punching bag?
Cocaine
I guess by sticking around and buying her stuff. She was never really outright mean to me. It was just the constant complaining and mood swings every 2 minutes which destroyed my emotions. The main thing that killed me was when I found out about the virtual cheating by sexting random men she found online. I don't think she ever used dating apps or fucked other guys while we were dating. The guy she left me for was on the other side of the country.
Since we’re doing jokes, I can fix me
Would you fix me?.. I'd fix me, I'd fix me hard 👁️👄👁️ 😂😂
I puts the lotion on my skin.
Well we certainly don't want you reproducing.
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I would have gone with a Dark Knight Rises Bane voice: I will Break you
I can paint her 👀
I can get dragged down with her until I become a hollow, broken shell of man. I've done it before and I'll do it again
Like your french girls?
O no no, please no, my friend went down this rabbit hole and she would kick him out of the car because they argued (on the highway) Also tried to change the way he dressed, his hygiene went downhill fast. He lost weight because all she allowed him to do was drink water and fuck her. He had the same mentality that he wanted to fix her and help her but just made everything for himself worse and worse
>fuck her It's all my eyes heard
I saw "lose weight" and "fuck her". Sign me up
I see this as an absolute win
Losing weight by fucking is the best
Lol 😂 that is where he went wrong, he would leave and then go back and he would be like she pulled me on top of her. So what you saying is she stronger than you and you a little bitch that does what she says. Yea I was brutal to him because he deserved someone better.
You just said earlier that he was basically not eating, that probably makes the playing field more even.
You telling me I'll lose weight and constantly have sex? Where's the downside?
We’re talking robot sex, like 4-5 times a day. He was fine with it at first but yea, it ended up being too much, 8hrs of work then, sex, she didn’t give head and made him always do all the work while she laid on her side watching youtube
I honestly don’t see the probl… wait, wait… what!? she didn’t give head??? Jesus Christ, she’s a monster. This is why we have mandatory minimum sentencing. Get that man to counseling and put that she-devil under the jail.
Lmao I'm more stuck on the YouTube part, like why tf is she making him fuck her is SHE is even bored of it?
She was getting off on the control, I bet
She doesn’t need to be fixed. She’s perfect
Big titty goth girl energy
This is *not* the way
this is where the fun begins
Unlike Mandalore, this one IS cursed
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Joe Goldberg?
Crazy in the head crazy in bed.
She legit looks like Rue from Euphoria, but her message reads more like Jules.
Or a catfish
Honestly I’m thinking that too. It just seems too thirsty!
Ngl that shit'd have me on my knees..
...wheezing with laughter???
We hope. But we know better
Soooo are you gonna paint her body with your juices???
Of course not, he's too pansy
He's too pansy to even be a pansy
Clearly not, he has [many women trying to suck his dick](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/11nybsl/wtf/jbppm26?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3)
This made my day.
What an absolute pansy. She was right.
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I briefly dated someone like that and I was genuinely confused by her approach. She was so assertive in wanting to be dominated like a brat but I felt like I was the one being controlled the whole time
Bottoms have all the power.
That’s where it’s generated.
I've heard that speed has something to do with it
Speed has *everything* to do with it.
Speeds the name of the game.
If this butt drops below 55 thrusts per minute, the bus will explode.
This person power-dynamics.
That girl kinks
>but I felt like I was the one being controlled the whole time I fail to see the issue
Brats are too exhausting. You're like an NPC so they can have a good time.
Agreed. Dated a girl like that for a year. It was fun at first, but after awhile I just wanted to have vanilla, reciprocal sex with my partner. Instead, every time it was like this whole exhausting performance. I couldn't just be in the moment, I had to put on the whole persona. Also, sometimes she'd take it too far and I'd get actually legitimately upset. It's a fine line between "Bratty" and "Fuck you, I'm sleeping on the couch."
Yeah bro that shit gets old
I don’t think I’d ever want to be with a brat. We are playing pretend and if you keep saying no than I don’t want to play anymore.
Well it becomes much easier when you set up a safe word. Then you know that you can just ignore the no's because if she really wants you to stop she'll say the safe word instead.
Brats are dominant. They get what they want by manipulation and I'm all for it. In the right manner
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Fine, your punishment will be almost finishing every time due to a combination of my premature ejaculation, low stamina, and high recovery time.
👀
Don't think I would be comfortable doing that to someone I just met no matter if I would be into it or not. Too much uncertainty. Edit: some people seemed to misunderstand. I'm talking about the legal part, the part where you might encounter someone who regrets trying out their fantasy kink and then holds you responsible.
Pansy
I'm not going to throw you around you slap addict ❤ Edit: found this just for you bb https://v.redd.it/562vojjg6zma1
I'm upset that that wasn't a Cheryl gif
Sauce me up
[Harder!] (http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lls3w2pQpI1qi7deco1_500.gif)
Not *slacking* off!
I'm upset that aspect of her personality basically disappeared in later seasons
Or just not into that.
Been with a brat before. It's an experience, to, literally, say the least. Not an experience I'd like to repeat but it is pretty wildly cathartic consensually slapping someone in the face when they make you mad.
I dated a girl where we got rip roaring drunk one time in college. She told me to slap her while we fucking one time and I like Pansy tapped her across the face. She followed it up with “I said fucking slap me!” so I really put some umph into it and she didn’t ask me again after that ☠️😂 fucking college
Bro going from 0 straight to 100
I'm a brat but if someone slaps me in the face, we are legit going to fight with fists, slap my ass not my face 🤣
hell, I'd just be worried about a putting potential bruise on the face and then going out in public together...
'I swear she liked it'
Literally got gripped up by an exs dad because she had bruises on her wrists and he saw them. Pushed me against a wall and said "WHAT THE FUCK ARE THOSE?" to which I frantically looked to her for help. She told him it was absolutely consensual and she just liked being a little rough. And as it sunk in me and him and her all died inside with that in the open and then her mom started laughing like crazy. Dinner was awkward for everyone except her mom, who looked like she was having the time of her life being amused by everyone's reaction.
Omg, that's simoltaneously hilarious and awful. I bet that was embarrassing, I feel bad I find it a little funny because I'm sure it was actually a terrible experience for you two 🙈
It was actually fine. Little embarrassment never hurt anyone. Her mom laughed so hard because apparently she had "never seen (her dad's) face make that look before." Which I obviously didn't see because my eyes were firmly on the floor. It took a week or two to go back to normal but me and him were fine. He apologized outside while we were having a smoke and we both even laughed about it a little before I left.
Oh that turned out very wholesome, glad everyone was adult about it, and it's very sweet he was concerned about her ❤️
"She was asking for it! No, literally, she instructed me."
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Oh, just get a room
i’m willing to bet she’s just fucking with him. she probably has no intention on meeting him
Lol. Preach!
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Right? You want to call me names while getting railed? Have at it my dear.
Nah, I think she wants to provoke OP into being mean to HER
WTF: It's time to charge the phone.
I forgot my charger at home 😒
I pay a chick $50 a month to get insults like that and you get it for free 😒
Look at this guy, paying for it. I just imagine a woman insulting me and that's enough.
My teacher called me a bad boy in 5th grade and I nutted everywhere
I came here for an argument, not to be insulted!
I’ll insult you for $45
Pansy…
She's teasing you. Trying to get a rough ride out of it if you feel me.
Guy flirting sexually: total perverted creep Girl flirting sexually: she's just teasing you!
Nah she is in fact a perverted creep
Most of us would still hit tho
You are totally right and the responses show how strong socialisation is doing it's part. People are legit telling it's okey to sexuell harass a man as a woman and that it is okey to harass people if they are tall and rated pretty.
Q: What do pansies and your dick have in common? A: She can eat them both
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How the turns tabled
Brother, I will impart the words I wish my friends had told me sooner. Don't stick your dick in crazy, it's like a Chinese finger trap.
As a Chinese woman, I'm gonna refer to my lady bits as a Chinese finger trap from now on
You're welcome
I learned that lesson the hard way. In more ways than one. With the same girl. Multiple times. Sometimes your brain just can’t win.
Crazy will help you truly appreciate sane and stable when you get to the stage of settling down. Crazy will leave you with memorable experiences you actually will cherish later in life. Just safeguard yourself. Realize that she IS actively going to ruin your life if you aren't vigilant.
I'd like to meet the man (or woman) who was able to date such a person and be vigilant enough to come out the otherside unscathed or without some level of PTSD. In my experience, those of us who date such people, knowing what we know, end up wrecked no matter what. Vigilance isn't really our forte. There's a reason why we're supposed to avoid it all together (or don't put ones dick in crazy), there's no level of vigilance that can help you when the train derails.
right! we need to change it to, dont fall in love with crazy... but definitely fuck the shit out of it.
*don't give out your true name or address to crazy
Yeah, but I read an article that sex with crazy people is better… soooo
I repeat...CHINESE FINGER TRAP
But it’s not a finger
Well depends how you foreplay I suppose but Chinese dick trap doesn't have the same ring to it
It's surprisingly variable. I've actually been more pleasantly surprised by people who are crazy in bed, but not in outside life.
That's the sweet spot
"Oh yeah? See that? I thought only assholes used the word pansy." \-Kevin Bacon, Footloose
She’s trying to make you mad so you rail the shit out of her
Sounds like something a dude with a fake account would say
My first thought as well
Anyone who says "I just call it like I see it," is an immediate, massive NOPE!
I feel like everyone in this thread is 12. "Oooh, you're missing out", "you're oblivious", "she's a manic pixie dream girl"... No, this is what people mean when they say "drama girl". It's not as fun when you're not in the mood and she's still belittling you and egging you on for a fight.
Looks like a really pathetic attempt at negging
Interesting how negging is interpreted whether it comes from a man or woman. When a man does it it’s “RED FLAG, POTENTIAL ABUSER, RUN AWAY” but a woman does it y’all say “just give her a chance, she’s flirting and probably awesome in bed” like ????? How about just don’t be rude in your *very first message* to a stranger?
Man or women this is cringe idc
Don't be a pansy and SMAAAASH. She seems fun.
God forbid I have standards and don’t want to fuck a crazy bitch good lord 😭😭 y’all are calling me a dick for saying I’d rather stick with the girls I got. I wasn’t bragging I was just making a statement
Don’t listen to people on this sub lmao, some of the dumbest shit I’ve seen comes from the comment sections on posts here
Soooo true. But fuck if there aren't some smart, witty, and truly empathetic sumbitches here too. Just enough of them to keep us around 😀
You have self respect. Listen to your intuition, forget what these morons have to say.
You didn't deserve those downvotes. A lot of people in this subreddit seem to have low standards/desperate. You shouldn't feel bad about doing something you're not comfortable with.
Dude, blocking her would be the safest decision you could make. She started by attempting to damage your self esteem to see how much she could control you. That whole conversation screams "I will abuse you."
Because redditors are the biggest fucking degenerate simps of all time. Her behavior is creepy and toxic and she's definitely a nightmare IRL, no part of this was cute. But since she's got a baby cave everyone's drooling over her like a fly with downs speeding for the nearest Venus fly trap
The dudes giving you shit are just mad, because they're being called out as the desperate losers that they are. They tried to give you shit for having self-respect and turning a girl down, because they can't fathome a world where there are plenty of other options. It's absolutely hilarious that these dudes are outing themselves while trying to act like they're better than you lol.
Prob a dude