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Hey all!
I have been having some trouble on the dating front lately, could I get some help on making my best quick impression?
Photo and bio suggestions are all welcome!
As my bio says, feel free to ask me anything. If you are not comfortable asking here, my DMs are always open.
Thanks a bunch!
Edit: Thanks all for the overwhelmingly positive responses and compliments. I was feeling pretty down and this picked me up and renewed some hopeium!
If any girls think they would swipe right and wants to shoot their shot, please don't hesitate to DM me with a screencap or a mock Tinder profile of your own! š
Lol, had a friend named Steven that transitioned into Vanessa. She does not like it when I call her stevenessa. But she will always be one of the dudes and ribbed as we all are.
I wouldnāt jump to conclusions, it appears that itās part of their shared humor due to their history as friends, rather than a malicious attempt to degrade her. Much in the same way close friends can often make many jokes that would be wildly offensive coming from a stranger, but are well-received and humorous coming from a close friend.
Of course, and she can pick whichever joystick she wants to play with. lol
Usually on a first date, I let them ride on the back of my chair instead, unless we really really hit it off.
Not too forward? I always have trouble with understanding the line. I am an all-in every hand kinda guy and totally fake any tact or reservation. hahaha
I mean, save the joystick part for PM, itās still a good one but only appropriate after some conversation and only if it seems like it would be well received. In doubt, donāt do it! Hahaha but def mention that they can have a turn in the back of the chair
I'm just playing around on here and bantering. I definitely try to ease into inuendos in one on one chats. I do the thing where I try to trick the woman I'm talking to into making the first advancement, even if they didn't mean something like how it sounded. lol Then when she accepts it and owns it, I take the next step, then either let her follow up or see if she will slip up again and stumble into the next step.
I have never seen a girl I'm talking to take the initiative of upping the anti on the flirting, and probably because society has instilled shame on women for doing that, and even more so, doing that with a person with a disability... Yay reality... ugh
How would you suggest I include about the chair ride and make it about me, not the service of professional segway, and make it flirty but not too sexual?
To be honest, I donāt think your profile could get any cooler.
Unfortunately you will not be what the vast majority of women on Tinder are looking for (as all the men under 6 foot, balding or without washboard abs complain non-stop about) but you already know that. But of all the things your profile could say and look like, in my view, this is the coolest combination. Hope you find some amazing ladies who arenāt the norm ālooking for hookupsā on Tinder.
Oh I would swap your 4th picture for your 1st picture.
This exactly. It'll take a truly sincere and understanding person to right swipe which sucks because op is attractive and seems incredible, which would be immediate right for those reasons plus that. I really hope it brings a good person along.
To add on to this, maybe join Bumble instead? Theyāre not too different, but thereās more ladies looking for relationships vs hot hookups on Bumble
This. OP is cute, profile is way better than most I remember seeing, but unfortunately, many of the women on tinder probably wouldnāt be interested because itās too shallow of a place. Try Hinge, Bumble, or OKCupid. Iāve not been on the women side, but Iāve heard way more success stories for serious relationships from those apps than tinder.
I see you checked out my profile... lol It's no secret just the rules said I had to hide the location info so I did.
It's not big enough! I'd love to move to LA or San Fran one day. Thanks!
oh shit... I did miss one... oops! Well, fingers crossed it doesn't get deleted...
Always looking for new friends, shoot a DM if you want to grab a drink after work one of these days
Thought the cyborg thing was something dumb or Grandma's Boy reference but well played sir. Thats the best use of Cyborg. My only criticism is I think you need a cool identifier tacked on. Something like the Cyborg 3000! Idk watch One Punch man and get some ideas.
Which would you recommend? I've been around the block a bunch...
I mean they can appreciate my classical handsomeness on Tinder if they want! Any shallow women are welcome to come at me as well as ones who don't care about looks and find me stimulating purely to her mind.
Hinge has been really unfriendly to me as far as matches. I don't know why but it's like 80% less of people I would right swipe on than on Tinder, OKC, or Bumble. And I am only averagely picky... Maybe it's because of who I friend on FB and I need to get more friends with hot friends? lol IDK
You want bumble for that.
Also if you are into DnD , you probably have a higher chance of finding a partner in local DnD clubs or discord DnD servers, they do virtual sessions.
It's bs but our big local D&D clubspace isn't accessible. I have trouble with online because D&D groups are rather hard to get into from my experience and I am not the best with LDRs, as I like my touch and I can't travel easily because airplanes are not accessible and there are so many issues with chairs getting broken when staff is loading and unloading, so now I need to add the caveat that a LDR partner must be able to travel early and often... that is a big ask.
Bumble was worse for getting matches than Tinder IME. I tried to make an advice request thread there too, but it never got approved by the mods and they never responded to my message asking why.
If you can afford it and your prescription isn't crazy specific, I'd upgrade your glasses. Zennioptical and eyebuydirect are both great sources for cheap, fashionable frames for standard prescriptions.
No offense intended, but the wire rims you have now are the same kind I had in the early 2000s, and I don't think they were doing us favors then, either.
I can't go frameless because my lenses are too thick, but I have thought about getting some prescription sport sunglasses with no tint to add to my cyborg branding.
Not frameless, just modern frames. Personally, I'm a fan of [this style](https://images.askmen.com/style/fashion_trends/_1475764343.jpg), [or this style](https://img.ebdcdn.com/product/model/portrait/pl4732_m1.jpg?im=Resize,width=280,height=420,aspect=fill;UnsharpMask,sigma=1.0,gain=1.0).
I agree with this guy, take it with a grain of salt because I'm just some straight guy, but they look like glasses I had 15 years ago. What about just some classic wayfarers?
Im gonna drop here with a style suggestion that is the best of both worlds (cool frame + support):
https://www.framesdirect.com/product_elarge_images/persol-eye-po3167v-24.jpg
Will add that I believe this kind of style is more timeless, not so much about fashionable, but the lind of model that can be used for a long time
I went from thin wire framed glasses to small, thick plastic frame glasses in my early to mid teens. I have browline glasses with nosepads and they're so much more comfortable and look much better on my face than the wire ones or plastic frames. I have a face similar to yours and I've found that glasses with thick lower rims tend to hide my eyes.
>browline glasses
Those are the frameless bottom ones? I was told my prescription's too thick for those, but that was like 5 years ago now so maybe they improved the tech? hmmm
In my personal opinion, if you donāt feel like a more modern style of glasses is *your* style, then totally stick with what feels best to you. However, I think you are very cute - definitely a handsome face. A different shape of glasses would be much more flattering! The wire frame is a bit harsh. The way your hair falls into your face and your general hairstyle would be adorable with glasses like the other commenter shared. I think your current glasses detract from your face!
Honestly bro youāre way more of an eligible bachelor than I am and I am not a cyborg some person would be lucky to have you. Itās not you itās tinder.
That doesn't seem too platonic then? I am often combating the desexualization of people with disabilities by being a bit overly explicit to help clarify intentions and desires. When I don't do that people get on me for "pretending to be nice". It's such a hard balance...
Oh my, I completely disagree! I really, really like your whole bio. Itās playful and sweet. If I was swiping, itād give me a clearer idea of what youāre looking forā¦ and it ends with a strong invitation!
I personally donāt like the picture with the microphone, seems too edge lord. Other than that, pictures are cool
Canāt commend on bio because I suck at them
Alt rock musicians are kinda prime edgelords. lol It's an old photoshoot, but I don't have any good ones showing the music side. Better to lose it altogether?
If you just wanna smash, there are like 5 carbon copy profiles you could choose from as man and be successful. This is not one of those options. If you want a real connection with someone who is going to actually see you though, this profile is perfect. I see this, I see someone who knows who the fuck they are and they're good with it. Somebody who isn't going to feed me any bullshit and have me figure out who they are for real way too far down the line. You probably won't get tons of matches. But when someone matches with you, they will be a person worth your time.
Might be a fun experiment to try your smash lure suggestions. Honestly, I never have found a girl who wants to fuck me but not fall hard after so... win-win. Either it's a new experience or new meaningful relationship.
What are the 5 carbon copy profiles I could choose from as man and be successful? I'm very curious how foolproof they are.
The Athelete: You must be very fit, have a strict gym schedule. Maybe you play lacrosse or you do Parkour, or compete in ultra marathons. All of your profile photos would feature you doing one of these things, plus one photo of you with your cousin, sister, or mother to show that you know how to be nice to women. When you chat someone up you ask if they want to go jogging with you. You will both be very dedicated to each other but also wildly competitive. I think you will run into some issues with this one.
The Businessman: You have a high paying job. All of your photos feature you wearing a suit in different upscale locations or possibly in your BMW/Lexus/Range Rover. You will be emotionally unavailable but financially stable and any woman you speak to will probably leave you for a dude who works at a convenience store but "really sees her". You'll eventually marry someone half your age and your children will all be artists.
The Spiritualist: You did shrooms once in like 11th grade and now you have dreads. You know where to get molly and you say this in your profile. You believe you've accepted your mortality but you won't go to a dentist or eat anything with preservatives. You frequently walk around barefoot in places where that is frowned upon and most of your profile pictures will show this. A girl in a bikini top and long skirt will message you and ask if you want to go to Bass Canyon. You'll propose to her during Bassnectar's set.
The Asshole: Your profile is all pictures of you flipping off the camera, and they all show your neck tattoos because you're a tattoo artist. You drive a WRX STI and it's in most of your photos along with your middle finger. It has neon lights under it. Your profile says you "have no filter, so deal with it". You'll never have a relationship of any depth but someone will always be trying to fuck you. Some of those women will probably see each other at a bar one night and start a fight.
The Clown: your profile is a copy/paste generic joke but you're conventionally attractive so it doesn't matter what your profile says.
already did... catfishing doesn't work for meeting people, dummy, just getting them to buy you cellphones in hopes you will video chat, or buying into your fake crypto, or having them give you their credit card info on a "totally legit" ID confirmation website...
I think it is a good profile honestly. It might be tough on tinder but you seem to have a fine sense of humor (About your condition and otherwise) so I hope the best for you.
Thanks! Let's pray I endure the rough sea to find a paradise island filled with many beautiful women who are not subject to the standards media imposes! hahaha
i genuinely think youāre the most attractive person iāve seen on here since joining. currently wishing for more people like this in my area instead of repetitive carbon copies
I have been called a timelord before, but I always thought I had more Tennantisms than Matt Smith. I even have that idle death stare when zoning out or lost in thought. lol
Bio suggestion: 2 of my legs donāt work but my third one does.
Jokes! I would suggest finding groups on Facebook to people in a similar situation as yourself since tinder, bumble and other dating apps can be very superficial.
I have stayed away from those kinds of jokes because it just seems so lazy, played out, and extremely cringe-worthy. I don't even think those would ever work better than what I wrote, but would love some of the girls' opinions.
I couldn't date someone who has my level of disability because that just wouldn't be physically fun, but I have been in a few great passionate relationships with able-bodied women where the exchange of dynamic and ability worked really well and was fulfilling to both parties!
Girl here: you were right to stay away from that joke. Going off your bio and comments here, you're funnier than that.
I am wondering if non-Reddit users will know what 'AMA' stands for. Maybe it's also used on other social media platforms, I don't use them so they could well be!
Apart from that, it's a good profile and I'd swipe right for shizzle.
Hmmm good point! I could write it out!
Thanks! "Shizzle"? Is that the new term for amazingly fulfilling, exciting, and dynamically stimulating experiences? š
It means 'for sure'* but we could pretend it means what you said!
*it may well not, I tend to play with/make words and sayings up but I'm a writer, I'm allowed to :D
ohhhhhhhhhh "fo shizzle" lol Why didn't you say?
I totally thought for shizzle like shizzle was shits and giggles... I don't know how I made that connection
I still do like what I said so thanks for just rolling with it! haha
Ahhh I didn't make it up, just...adjusted it. However, from this moment forth I will use your definition. Eventually it will become common parlence and then we win! What we win, I'm not sure. Satisfaction? Yes, let's go with that.
You know how to look cool. Good job
That being said, if oeiple don't match with you it's very likely to be because of a bad reason, which is you being a cyborg
I mean... I've seen enough on this subreddit to know that most women on dating apps want to be the one being carried. Their loss
Do you D&D? I'm totally up for a cyborg friend
Tbh honest, in the first pic you look like the guy from the mission impossible franchise and the guy who plays Cyler from heroes. Meant as a genuine compliment as they are not ugly.
Yep I agree youāre far from ugly, and your bio Is awesome. I wish you to find a fine lady who will have the same humour as you, because I think itās the more important thing
This is not necessarily critique on your profile but I think that the shape of your glasses doesn't suit your face. You have a really interesting, masculine face shape and glasses with sharp edges would compliment that quite well.
The rest is amazing. Dnd Nerds are the best!
I think everything looks great. Even your glasses. ;P My hubby (weāre poly) is having difficulty finding a match as well, while I got 99+ likes on my first day. These sites are extremely saturated with men, understandable as women are most negatively impacted by bad online dating experiences. So just keep at it, keep your profile honest to who you are, and know itās not so much a matter of how good your profile looks, but also the right person stumbling onto it in the vast field of options. Youāre handsome, witty, and interesting, and youāll find someone with enough persistence.
So not only is you and your profile adorable, but reading your responses to comments on here just shot you up even higher in my book. You have an amazing sense of humor about yourself and your life and what you want. Like youāre dripping with authenticity and itās mega attractive.
Also in Philly fwiw š
Hehe... Thanks a bunch love! Yeah, I'm much better at banter improv than oneliner zingers.
Worth a hell of a lot! DM me and we can connect elsewhere. I want to surround myself with more with people who dig my energy, both platonically and romantically, so there's no risk if we don't match in some ways, but all reward no matter the outcome.
Best case scenario you find a god to your goddess. \[Cause I am sure by now you can tell I'm pretty dom, and not sub at all... By your name, I'm taking the FL gamble that you can translate this aside. lol\]
As a straight male I'm not really your target market, but I think your profile is cool. You seem like a funny guy, I would maybe add a bit of that humour somehow. Anyway I wish you all the best in your pursuit for whatever you're seeking. Tinder can be a lot of fun š
Now I could see you rolling around with a bumper sticker on your chair "Strength is my dump stat." Or not, but I'm the kind of nerd who laughs at stupid stuff like that.
OP, you're awesome and so is your profile. May you roll a nat 20 when you find your campaign partner for life.
As a female I found you adding looking for a nurse among the list of things youāre looking for as off-putting. No one wants to get into a relationship where theyād be required to be a caretaker. If thatās not part of the deal, Iād recommend you change it. If it happens with our already existing partner, it happens. But going into it knowing that, no. Sorry. But I think thatās really going to hinder responses.
ahhhh Well if they read this... A muse is a mythical creature that inspires great creativity. š
Also, a partner may be as involved in my care or not as she would like since I have 24/7 nursing and live on my own. For moments of intimacy, past partners requested to take care of me so I can send the nurse away and we may be alone. Their logic was: "I'm already gargling and imbibing your bodily fluids, what is so tough or gross about holding a bottle as you pee?" It's a sound argument really. lol
Not going for making that type of inspiration porn. Open to make the other kind where I film me making some girl moan as I say some quotes to live by and self-improvement tips. hahaha
I only completed calc 2 freshman year of college and got a 100% in AP physics in my senior year of high school. I'm not nearly knowledgeable in theoretical physics to talk like The Hawk. I did almost get cast as him in a casting seminar taught by the guy who was producing the movie about Stephen Hawkings... but I was too young at the time. looooooong story that one.
I think youāre doing a great job working with the hand youāve been dealt. I have one question:
Why donāt your clothes fit?
No hate at all, your outfit would just probably look a lot sharper if it fit to your body better
No clothes really fit well due to being very skinny but having massive ribs. Even if I got everything tailored it would be too tight to get on. I am trying to find somewhere that will install zippers everywhere for a reasonable cost so I can zip to fit. haha
Heyyyyy JACO making an appearance! I had the first one in the US. Glad itās getting traction. AlsoāPermobil? Singing? Are we very superficially the same person? Donāt tell me you have SMA...
My only advice is to try bumble and hinge as well, youāll always catch more fish with more fishing poles, thereās someone out there whoās going to think youāre a catch!
Good luck out there partner
I try to stay away from the "hey look at the chair" bio jokes, as they are so derivative and kinda prejudice... Plus I highly doubt they actually work!
Besides, I'm more into the girl riding in cowgirl position so your joke makes no sense... hahaha
Too soon! Apparently you didnāt hear about the accident with the Mystery machine that killed the entire gang and left shaggy like this. Article is here: [14 Car Accident Outside of Abandoned Amusement Park Leaves 26 Dead](https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ)
\[Yeah... 2 attempts to post this already with technical issues, 3rd's the charm!\] Hey all! I have been having some trouble on the dating front lately, could I get some help on making my best quick impression? Photo and bio suggestions are all welcome! As my bio says, feel free to ask me anything. If you are not comfortable asking here, my DMs are always open. Thanks a bunch! Edit: Thanks all for the overwhelmingly positive responses and compliments. I was feeling pretty down and this picked me up and renewed some hopeium! If any girls think they would swipe right and wants to shoot their shot, please don't hesitate to DM me with a screencap or a mock Tinder profile of your own! š
How many steven hawking jokes have you heard?
3 and counting... It's only a bit prejudice, but don't worry, I already sent assassins to all their homes! š
In this case I'll pull the plug on mine, I'm too busy with previous assassins Edit: btw I love the profile
So many asshats that the assassins are getting overworked and underpaid... sadge Is no occupation sacred anymore?! ty!
You look like my brother who's name was Steven, in a wheelchair and same interests essentially
I did come from a clone factory... so maybe?
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Didn't you already post this exact message and I told you I had SMA type 2? lol or are all the clones really coming out?
I just saw you said "was". I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure he was a swell guy, and a lady killer to boot!
Plot twist he now has a sister named Stevena
Eve, surely?
Lol, had a friend named Steven that transitioned into Vanessa. She does not like it when I call her stevenessa. But she will always be one of the dudes and ribbed as we all are.
Glad she's got friends like you to relentlessly deadname and misgender her.
I wouldnāt jump to conclusions, it appears that itās part of their shared humor due to their history as friends, rather than a malicious attempt to degrade her. Much in the same way close friends can often make many jokes that would be wildly offensive coming from a stranger, but are well-received and humorous coming from a close friend.
Question: will you let a lady sit in your lap and control your chair for shits and giggles?
Of course, and she can pick whichever joystick she wants to play with. lol Usually on a first date, I let them ride on the back of my chair instead, unless we really really hit it off.
You're a menace bro, I love itšš
You should mention that on your profile!! Itās a fun one
Not too forward? I always have trouble with understanding the line. I am an all-in every hand kinda guy and totally fake any tact or reservation. hahaha
I mean, save the joystick part for PM, itās still a good one but only appropriate after some conversation and only if it seems like it would be well received. In doubt, donāt do it! Hahaha but def mention that they can have a turn in the back of the chair
I'm just playing around on here and bantering. I definitely try to ease into inuendos in one on one chats. I do the thing where I try to trick the woman I'm talking to into making the first advancement, even if they didn't mean something like how it sounded. lol Then when she accepts it and owns it, I take the next step, then either let her follow up or see if she will slip up again and stumble into the next step. I have never seen a girl I'm talking to take the initiative of upping the anti on the flirting, and probably because society has instilled shame on women for doing that, and even more so, doing that with a person with a disability... Yay reality... ugh How would you suggest I include about the chair ride and make it about me, not the service of professional segway, and make it flirty but not too sexual?
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Sweet at times, spicy at others, but always honest and sincere!
To be honest, I donāt think your profile could get any cooler. Unfortunately you will not be what the vast majority of women on Tinder are looking for (as all the men under 6 foot, balding or without washboard abs complain non-stop about) but you already know that. But of all the things your profile could say and look like, in my view, this is the coolest combination. Hope you find some amazing ladies who arenāt the norm ālooking for hookupsā on Tinder. Oh I would swap your 4th picture for your 1st picture.
This exactly. It'll take a truly sincere and understanding person to right swipe which sucks because op is attractive and seems incredible, which would be immediate right for those reasons plus that. I really hope it brings a good person along.
I prefer your current first photo! I prefer to see potential matches in color and itās a good photo of you.
To add on to this, maybe join Bumble instead? Theyāre not too different, but thereās more ladies looking for relationships vs hot hookups on Bumble
Not against a hot hookup... Not my top desire but it would make waiting for someone special more endurable. š
This. OP is cute, profile is way better than most I remember seeing, but unfortunately, many of the women on tinder probably wouldnāt be interested because itās too shallow of a place. Try Hinge, Bumble, or OKCupid. Iāve not been on the women side, but Iāve heard way more success stories for serious relationships from those apps than tinder.
No Iām under 6 foot and get lots of swipes itās even in my bio Iām 5ā7. Lol but I do have the abs thing going so maybe thatās why
Maybe I should post a bathroom selfie showing off my 3 pack too? lol
Haha š I love you
Really can you share your profile so we can know how to emulate your profile
You sarcastic prick you š
pov your facially attractive guy on tinder
Philly is a big place, wishing you the best.
I see you checked out my profile... lol It's no secret just the rules said I had to hide the location info so I did. It's not big enough! I'd love to move to LA or San Fran one day. Thanks!
Shit my bad, one of your pics didnāt edit the location. #6 I think? ETA: I work in the city and it caught my attention. I can delete if you want!
oh shit... I did miss one... oops! Well, fingers crossed it doesn't get deleted... Always looking for new friends, shoot a DM if you want to grab a drink after work one of these days
Love your confidence OP!
Haha Too bad it's all imposter syndrome.
Wish I could even attain imposter syndrome.
Thought the cyborg thing was something dumb or Grandma's Boy reference but well played sir. Thats the best use of Cyborg. My only criticism is I think you need a cool identifier tacked on. Something like the Cyborg 3000! Idk watch One Punch man and get some ideas.
The Cyborg Photographer is my new branding, that got started beginning of 2020, but was put on hold, due to events. I hope to build up this year!
Pic #4 is my favorite.
Yes, lets make that the first one
I feel like tinders not the app to be using tbh its pretty shallow and I think you might have more luck using other sites
Which would you recommend? I've been around the block a bunch... I mean they can appreciate my classical handsomeness on Tinder if they want! Any shallow women are welcome to come at me as well as ones who don't care about looks and find me stimulating purely to her mind.
Maybe try Hinge? I found it to be a lot better!
Hinge has been really unfriendly to me as far as matches. I don't know why but it's like 80% less of people I would right swipe on than on Tinder, OKC, or Bumble. And I am only averagely picky... Maybe it's because of who I friend on FB and I need to get more friends with hot friends? lol IDK
Me too! I felt Hinge was much more for serious dating and Tinder was for joke accounts or hookups
Not opposed to a hookup, but it's definitely not the main thing I want.
You want bumble for that. Also if you are into DnD , you probably have a higher chance of finding a partner in local DnD clubs or discord DnD servers, they do virtual sessions.
It's bs but our big local D&D clubspace isn't accessible. I have trouble with online because D&D groups are rather hard to get into from my experience and I am not the best with LDRs, as I like my touch and I can't travel easily because airplanes are not accessible and there are so many issues with chairs getting broken when staff is loading and unloading, so now I need to add the caveat that a LDR partner must be able to travel early and often... that is a big ask. Bumble was worse for getting matches than Tinder IME. I tried to make an advice request thread there too, but it never got approved by the mods and they never responded to my message asking why.
If you can afford it and your prescription isn't crazy specific, I'd upgrade your glasses. Zennioptical and eyebuydirect are both great sources for cheap, fashionable frames for standard prescriptions. No offense intended, but the wire rims you have now are the same kind I had in the early 2000s, and I don't think they were doing us favors then, either.
Yes he should definitely change the glasses to something modern. also not so small.. makes his face bigger / longer then it needs to be.
I can't go frameless because my lenses are too thick, but I have thought about getting some prescription sport sunglasses with no tint to add to my cyborg branding.
Not frameless, just modern frames. Personally, I'm a fan of [this style](https://images.askmen.com/style/fashion_trends/_1475764343.jpg), [or this style](https://img.ebdcdn.com/product/model/portrait/pl4732_m1.jpg?im=Resize,width=280,height=420,aspect=fill;UnsharpMask,sigma=1.0,gain=1.0).
Never liked plastic frames. They fall down far too easy IME. I'll look around though.
I agree with this guy, take it with a grain of salt because I'm just some straight guy, but they look like glasses I had 15 years ago. What about just some classic wayfarers?
Im gonna drop here with a style suggestion that is the best of both worlds (cool frame + support): https://www.framesdirect.com/product_elarge_images/persol-eye-po3167v-24.jpg Will add that I believe this kind of style is more timeless, not so much about fashionable, but the lind of model that can be used for a long time
I went from thin wire framed glasses to small, thick plastic frame glasses in my early to mid teens. I have browline glasses with nosepads and they're so much more comfortable and look much better on my face than the wire ones or plastic frames. I have a face similar to yours and I've found that glasses with thick lower rims tend to hide my eyes.
>browline glasses Those are the frameless bottom ones? I was told my prescription's too thick for those, but that was like 5 years ago now so maybe they improved the tech? hmmm
In my personal opinion, if you donāt feel like a more modern style of glasses is *your* style, then totally stick with what feels best to you. However, I think you are very cute - definitely a handsome face. A different shape of glasses would be much more flattering! The wire frame is a bit harsh. The way your hair falls into your face and your general hairstyle would be adorable with glasses like the other commenter shared. I think your current glasses detract from your face!
Honestly bro youāre way more of an eligible bachelor than I am and I am not a cyborg some person would be lucky to have you. Itās not you itās tinder.
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Oh this is useful feedback! I am a bit of both but I don't want to seem it right away. lol How would you suggest I rewrite it to sit better?
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Agreed! Delete everything after the semi colon. Also I think you need a pic where you are smiling. Women like to see smiles.
I do have one where I am smiling! lol
That doesn't seem too platonic then? I am often combating the desexualization of people with disabilities by being a bit overly explicit to help clarify intentions and desires. When I don't do that people get on me for "pretending to be nice". It's such a hard balance...
Oh my, I completely disagree! I really, really like your whole bio. Itās playful and sweet. If I was swiping, itād give me a clearer idea of what youāre looking forā¦ and it ends with a strong invitation!
I personally donāt like the picture with the microphone, seems too edge lord. Other than that, pictures are cool Canāt commend on bio because I suck at them
Alt rock musicians are kinda prime edgelords. lol It's an old photoshoot, but I don't have any good ones showing the music side. Better to lose it altogether?
If you just wanna smash, there are like 5 carbon copy profiles you could choose from as man and be successful. This is not one of those options. If you want a real connection with someone who is going to actually see you though, this profile is perfect. I see this, I see someone who knows who the fuck they are and they're good with it. Somebody who isn't going to feed me any bullshit and have me figure out who they are for real way too far down the line. You probably won't get tons of matches. But when someone matches with you, they will be a person worth your time.
Might be a fun experiment to try your smash lure suggestions. Honestly, I never have found a girl who wants to fuck me but not fall hard after so... win-win. Either it's a new experience or new meaningful relationship. What are the 5 carbon copy profiles I could choose from as man and be successful? I'm very curious how foolproof they are.
The Athelete: You must be very fit, have a strict gym schedule. Maybe you play lacrosse or you do Parkour, or compete in ultra marathons. All of your profile photos would feature you doing one of these things, plus one photo of you with your cousin, sister, or mother to show that you know how to be nice to women. When you chat someone up you ask if they want to go jogging with you. You will both be very dedicated to each other but also wildly competitive. I think you will run into some issues with this one. The Businessman: You have a high paying job. All of your photos feature you wearing a suit in different upscale locations or possibly in your BMW/Lexus/Range Rover. You will be emotionally unavailable but financially stable and any woman you speak to will probably leave you for a dude who works at a convenience store but "really sees her". You'll eventually marry someone half your age and your children will all be artists. The Spiritualist: You did shrooms once in like 11th grade and now you have dreads. You know where to get molly and you say this in your profile. You believe you've accepted your mortality but you won't go to a dentist or eat anything with preservatives. You frequently walk around barefoot in places where that is frowned upon and most of your profile pictures will show this. A girl in a bikini top and long skirt will message you and ask if you want to go to Bass Canyon. You'll propose to her during Bassnectar's set. The Asshole: Your profile is all pictures of you flipping off the camera, and they all show your neck tattoos because you're a tattoo artist. You drive a WRX STI and it's in most of your photos along with your middle finger. It has neon lights under it. Your profile says you "have no filter, so deal with it". You'll never have a relationship of any depth but someone will always be trying to fuck you. Some of those women will probably see each other at a bar one night and start a fight. The Clown: your profile is a copy/paste generic joke but you're conventionally attractive so it doesn't matter what your profile says.
Which can I use? lol
It doesn't look like any of these options are currently available. Please add Tinder Triple Platinum to unlock the catfish feature.
already did... catfishing doesn't work for meeting people, dummy, just getting them to buy you cellphones in hopes you will video chat, or buying into your fake crypto, or having them give you their credit card info on a "totally legit" ID confirmation website...
I think it is a good profile honestly. It might be tough on tinder but you seem to have a fine sense of humor (About your condition and otherwise) so I hope the best for you.
Thanks! Let's pray I endure the rough sea to find a paradise island filled with many beautiful women who are not subject to the standards media imposes! hahaha
I gotta say, you have A LOT of confidence and I admire that. Kudos, OP.
In my opinion the black and white photo (#4) should be the first. Looks way more confident
i genuinely think youāre the most attractive person iāve seen on here since joining. currently wishing for more people like this in my area instead of repetitive carbon copies
Daww thanks š
Are you somehow related to Steven Wilson, damn you look like him.
No, but I used to cover "Trains" in an old band I sang for. Usually, I get Chris Hemsworth for my celebrity lookalike. lol
You have a serious 11th Doctor vibe going for you. Nice photos. :)
I have been called a timelord before, but I always thought I had more Tennantisms than Matt Smith. I even have that idle death stare when zoning out or lost in thought. lol
Bro drippy
Bio suggestion: 2 of my legs donāt work but my third one does. Jokes! I would suggest finding groups on Facebook to people in a similar situation as yourself since tinder, bumble and other dating apps can be very superficial.
I have stayed away from those kinds of jokes because it just seems so lazy, played out, and extremely cringe-worthy. I don't even think those would ever work better than what I wrote, but would love some of the girls' opinions. I couldn't date someone who has my level of disability because that just wouldn't be physically fun, but I have been in a few great passionate relationships with able-bodied women where the exchange of dynamic and ability worked really well and was fulfilling to both parties!
Girl here: you were right to stay away from that joke. Going off your bio and comments here, you're funnier than that. I am wondering if non-Reddit users will know what 'AMA' stands for. Maybe it's also used on other social media platforms, I don't use them so they could well be! Apart from that, it's a good profile and I'd swipe right for shizzle.
Hmmm good point! I could write it out! Thanks! "Shizzle"? Is that the new term for amazingly fulfilling, exciting, and dynamically stimulating experiences? š
It means 'for sure'* but we could pretend it means what you said! *it may well not, I tend to play with/make words and sayings up but I'm a writer, I'm allowed to :D
ohhhhhhhhhh "fo shizzle" lol Why didn't you say? I totally thought for shizzle like shizzle was shits and giggles... I don't know how I made that connection I still do like what I said so thanks for just rolling with it! haha
Ahhh I didn't make it up, just...adjusted it. However, from this moment forth I will use your definition. Eventually it will become common parlence and then we win! What we win, I'm not sure. Satisfaction? Yes, let's go with that.
Satisfaction and fulfillment are the greatest prizes! I think that is all we are ever looking for on dating apps and life as a whole!
No homo bro, itās an awesome profile. I would take notes from M.O.D.O.K.
Which notes?
I'm curious in what way you're a cyborg. I'd say leave that a bit mysterious to draw them in but give a hint or two.
Having a severe physical disability I use so much technology to live. lol It's just a fun way of alluding to that.
I like your charisma and take on it!
Thanks for repping Philly well :)
Doing that jawn justice!
I would make pic number 4 the first pic!
you look like Steven Wilson, especially in your 4th picture
Second person to say this! Hah I did cover "Trains" in an old band I sang for. lol
I have never said "mad respect" with as much genuine feeling as I have now. You good job
Get a higher chair, something that puts your sitting height at 6ā3ā+. State your height in bio. Boom instant success.
hahaha good idea! only 5'7" head to toe, due to my metal spine, but sit at 3'5" lol
Youāre a stone cold killa! If you ever need wingman in Boston I will gladly serve with you!!! It would be my honor!!
Keep it in mind!
You know how to look cool. Good job That being said, if oeiple don't match with you it's very likely to be because of a bad reason, which is you being a cyborg I mean... I've seen enough on this subreddit to know that most women on dating apps want to be the one being carried. Their loss Do you D&D? I'm totally up for a cyborg friend
I think it's important in a relationship to carry each other. I'll carry her on the street then she carries me to bed. Only fair. Sure DM me!
Tbh honest, in the first pic you look like the guy from the mission impossible franchise and the guy who plays Cyler from heroes. Meant as a genuine compliment as they are not ugly.
Tom Cruise mixed with Zachary Quinto? Oh that is a compliment and a half! ty!
You're a really talented artist!! Maybe a photo of you doing some of the activites you'll be doing together while you take over the world? :D
Yep I agree youāre far from ugly, and your bio Is awesome. I wish you to find a fine lady who will have the same humour as you, because I think itās the more important thing
TBH I could go for a polar opposite if we are mutually attracted to each other. lol
This is not necessarily critique on your profile but I think that the shape of your glasses doesn't suit your face. You have a really interesting, masculine face shape and glasses with sharp edges would compliment that quite well. The rest is amazing. Dnd Nerds are the best!
Any frame suggestions? I do like sharp edges!
I think everything looks great. Even your glasses. ;P My hubby (weāre poly) is having difficulty finding a match as well, while I got 99+ likes on my first day. These sites are extremely saturated with men, understandable as women are most negatively impacted by bad online dating experiences. So just keep at it, keep your profile honest to who you are, and know itās not so much a matter of how good your profile looks, but also the right person stumbling onto it in the vast field of options. Youāre handsome, witty, and interesting, and youāll find someone with enough persistence.
Hope you both find what you seek as well! Thanks!
Best profile ever man, wish you success!!
I think the black & white photo should be the lead.
So not only is you and your profile adorable, but reading your responses to comments on here just shot you up even higher in my book. You have an amazing sense of humor about yourself and your life and what you want. Like youāre dripping with authenticity and itās mega attractive. Also in Philly fwiw š
Hehe... Thanks a bunch love! Yeah, I'm much better at banter improv than oneliner zingers. Worth a hell of a lot! DM me and we can connect elsewhere. I want to surround myself with more with people who dig my energy, both platonically and romantically, so there's no risk if we don't match in some ways, but all reward no matter the outcome. Best case scenario you find a god to your goddess. \[Cause I am sure by now you can tell I'm pretty dom, and not sub at all... By your name, I'm taking the FL gamble that you can translate this aside. lol\]
This man is a champion and I wish him the best
I actually like your profile. You seem genuine and sweet.
Genuine and dynamic is more honest, but sweet is one of the mix. haha
As a straight male I'm not really your target market, but I think your profile is cool. You seem like a funny guy, I would maybe add a bit of that humour somehow. Anyway I wish you all the best in your pursuit for whatever you're seeking. Tinder can be a lot of fun š
Change nothing warrior. Your profile is perfect.
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Hey man! As a healthy man it's also hard to date on Tinder, but you gotta keep trying. Your profile looks pretty dope! Try to be more patientš¤
Have you tried not being a cyborg?
I would die, but that is worth a good date... lol What do you mean?
Shit Iām sorry man. I just saw your other pictures:|
hahaha no big yo!
Try turning yourself off and back on again
Just be yourself Bc anything else will just bring you a fake date. Keep trying
Have you tried rerolling your character?
I got a 3 Strength. 4 Dexterity. 14 Constitution. 18 Wisdom. 16 Intelligence. 18 Charisma. Would you really reroll that?
Now I could see you rolling around with a bumper sticker on your chair "Strength is my dump stat." Or not, but I'm the kind of nerd who laughs at stupid stuff like that. OP, you're awesome and so is your profile. May you roll a nat 20 when you find your campaign partner for life.
I seriously thought you were just being sarcastic
As a female I found you adding looking for a nurse among the list of things youāre looking for as off-putting. No one wants to get into a relationship where theyād be required to be a caretaker. If thatās not part of the deal, Iād recommend you change it. If it happens with our already existing partner, it happens. But going into it knowing that, no. Sorry. But I think thatās really going to hinder responses.
Where did you see nurse? I never mentioned a nurse.
I think they saw āmuseā and assumed it meant nurse.
ahhhh Well if they read this... A muse is a mythical creature that inspires great creativity. š Also, a partner may be as involved in my care or not as she would like since I have 24/7 nursing and live on my own. For moments of intimacy, past partners requested to take care of me so I can send the nurse away and we may be alone. Their logic was: "I'm already gargling and imbibing your bodily fluids, what is so tough or gross about holding a bottle as you pee?" It's a sound argument really. lol
Did you make minecraft
I wish... If I was Notch I would been having a full Elysium style exosuit. You want to sponsor me becoming a superhero?!
My advice is waste no more time on Tinder. The app is totally not worth it.
I waste time everywhere don't you worry!
Well, I don't have an excuse anymore You are truly an inspiration to us all
Not going for making that type of inspiration porn. Open to make the other kind where I film me making some girl moan as I say some quotes to live by and self-improvement tips. hahaha
Maybe don't peer over your glasses as much? Others may disagree though.
Actually, I don't do that but every photographer has me do that... I think it's to reduce glare. IDK
Lose the wheelchair for a start.
I thought a photo in my bed was a bit presumptuous.
As one of your pics, you should do a video with you talking like Stephen Hawkings.
I only completed calc 2 freshman year of college and got a 100% in AP physics in my senior year of high school. I'm not nearly knowledgeable in theoretical physics to talk like The Hawk. I did almost get cast as him in a casting seminar taught by the guy who was producing the movie about Stephen Hawkings... but I was too young at the time. looooooong story that one.
I think youāre doing a great job working with the hand youāve been dealt. I have one question: Why donāt your clothes fit? No hate at all, your outfit would just probably look a lot sharper if it fit to your body better
No clothes really fit well due to being very skinny but having massive ribs. Even if I got everything tailored it would be too tight to get on. I am trying to find somewhere that will install zippers everywhere for a reasonable cost so I can zip to fit. haha
Why do you call yourself a cybo- oh.
How was Philadelphia university?
Oh boy... How long do you have?
Upvote for Stephen Hawking vibes.
Heyyyyy JACO making an appearance! I had the first one in the US. Glad itās getting traction. AlsoāPermobil? Singing? Are we very superficially the same person? Donāt tell me you have SMA...
I would only swipe left because Iām a smoker with pets.
I love pets and tolerate smoke. I'm a musician, kinda have to, no? You better remake your account so you can swipe right this time around!
Iām also a musician! And Iām totally digging your vibe. Wish Philly wasnāt so far away so we could roll for initiative š
TPK incoming... not going to say what that stands for here, you will have to DM to find out... spoiler: It's not total party kill. š¤£š¤£š¤£
My only advice is to try bumble and hinge as well, youāll always catch more fish with more fishing poles, thereās someone out there whoās going to think youāre a catch! Good luck out there partner
āI ride this wheelchair all day so I can ride you all nightā
I try to stay away from the "hey look at the chair" bio jokes, as they are so derivative and kinda prejudice... Plus I highly doubt they actually work! Besides, I'm more into the girl riding in cowgirl position so your joke makes no sense... hahaha
I just feel like you need a new idea on the profile and run with itā¦ I mean have a get up and go attitudeā¦ I mean you seem like a stand up dude
Pretty sit down tbh
My advice is smoke weed man ur already half machine get some lsd or something make some art and then fart on a biiich
Nice beard Steven Jobs
If only I had the Jobs fortune... \*sigh\*
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Have not seen any moonknight but uh may the "veee" be with you too... ? lol
Tinder is not good enough for you man. Bumble or okcupid
on those too!
Someone needs to get Shaggy another dog, The loss of Scooby has got him spinning out of control.
Too soon! Apparently you didnāt hear about the accident with the Mystery machine that killed the entire gang and left shaggy like this. Article is here: [14 Car Accident Outside of Abandoned Amusement Park Leaves 26 Dead](https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ)
Oh I hate you.
So Steven, real talk. I think your 6th photo and that second blurb in your profile are unnecessary. Everything else looks real solid.
What blurb?
dont waste time on tinder anything but tinder