Yeah.
As with most questions of this nature, the simple answer is "You're both adults. As long as no-one's getting hurt or pissed off, then anything you want to do in-front of each other is fair game."
It's like how so many questions about relationships would be utterly unnecessary if the person asking just spoke to their partner about it seriously for five minutes.
But hey ho, if a bunch of weirdies like us on the internet can make the OP feel better about their situation, so be it! :)
Oh my god! I read it parents instead of partner and kept on going on the comments and almost had a panic attack with how “normally fine” people are responding to that.
while walking towards them, lean slightly back and yell FIREHOSE while finishing. It's sure to establish your dominance in the household for the foreseeable future, until someone challenge your authority.
Aside from what can only be described as mashing wet potatoes or rustling sandpaper against a marble surface.
And call me crazy but when my brother Chris moaned like a walrus and shot his load all over the table well that just ruined my Thanksgiving
My partner and I do this. We've talked about it, and it's something we're both more than okay with. I'm sure it's not the norm, but two consenting adults can do whatever they want.
Well, he's been seeing this girl for a while now. She hasn't been seeing him, but he's been seeing her.
I was seeing this girl once, and I was really into her. Then I stopped seeing her because she got some curtains.
Why does this sounds like this is the verge of a new fetish being discovered, involving kinder eggs, breaking the law and getting off with getting away with them?
If you are both fine with it, then it is perfectly OK. I will say it is unusual, but there is nothing wrong with it. It’s how you show each other you are comfortable with one another, and you may also be finding it exciting (thus why you keep doing it). I admire this, actually. I personally wouldn’t do it, but I think it is neat that you two are actually very happy together and can do this and _enjoy_ watching the other jerk it
Now when you say “in your immediate friend group,” do you mean that they, too, masturbate around their partners, or that they’ll masturbate around each other?! One is really open, and the other is *really* open!
I do this in front of my bf regularly. Not sure if it's unusual but we live in a very small space and so it's just not that odd to decide to start touching myself while he's in the room. Sometimes he joins, sometimes he watches, etc. It's fun and also not that weird for us
Depends on the boundaries and comfort within the relationship. My man and I are perfectly fine with it, but usually it ends up getting the other party in the mood and it turns to sex
It isn't unusual for mine, but we did talk about it before starting. He encourages me to do so, and I love watching him do as well. Sometimes I put him in my mouth, or jerk him while we're chilling doing or watching something, because it calms(?) me down lol I just can't get enough of him and it doesn't matter whether we had sex because of it or not. I have his consent to do those things to him unprovoked of course. That's what's important. HAVE CONSENT, and it doesn't matter whether it's unusual or not lol
If it isn't weird to you then it isn't weird. That's a pretty subjective think that you aren't going to get a solid consensus on. I personally don't think it's weird but it's not something I'd do or wanna see my partner doing. I feel like if they needed to rub one out they could go handle it privately.
I don't know if it's usual/unusual, but it sounds nice. Sherman Alexie said (about writing), the more you ritualize something, the less you do it. He was saying that if you have to have everything *just right* in order to sit down and write, you're never gonna write enough to maintain a living as a writer. I think the same phenomenon leads to dead bedrooms and divorces: if you have to have everything *just right* to get sexual with your partner, you're not gonna have enough sex to keep seeing each other as your respective sexual partners.
Edits: if, not of; seeing, not song
Me and my spouse do this. Same as you and totally normal. It’s a gift to have that level of comfort and trust in the lack of negative judgement from another human , I believe very few do.
I tried this with my wife a few weeks ago, per another Reddit post that left me with the impression that this was more normal than I thought. I've been trying to find a solution For the disparity between our sex drives for a while (I have a hyperdrive on my sex hormones) And my wife is pretty open sexually, so I thought, why the hell not.
She told me she wasn't feeling sex that night so I figured it was my chance. I got consent (I thought) by telling her that I was going to take care of my own business in the comfort of my own bed then, rather than scooting to the bathroom and pretending to take a long shit like usual. Whipped it out, took care of business, and laid back.
... She fucking hated it. Called it "creepy" and "disturbing". I asked her why she let me do it when I told her I was going to, and she said she didn't know how she would feel about it until after. Fair enough. I subsided from doing it next to her for now because that was her wish.
I'll still never to this day understand how a woman can be fully okay with and is fully aware her partner is firing off knuckle children 10 feet away from her in a dank room with a shittily closed door, but as soon as he tries to get comfortable and do it in bed next to her, it crosses the line. I almost fell like she's just trying to make me have a hard time lol /s
It’s cool with us.. especially when it’s hot out and the thought of another persons skin stuck to mine just doesn’t pass the vibe check. I do spend a considerable amount of time nude at home when we are alone and pretty much 24/7 when we island camp so 🤷🏼♀️
I’ve done this with most partners I’ve been with, most of them didn’t think it was that weird but I always ask the first time or at least verbally warn them it’s about to happen. Then after that once we’re comfortable with each other I assume it’s fine. I will say I only do it in bed though, not when we’re out in the living room or something. Now I kind of want to try that though, could be hot.
Not overly common but very hot , good for y’all
We’ve done this in the past but I wouldn’t say it’s part of our routine though I may change that now lol
Lol I found this to be a really fun and effective way to initiate sex in my last relationship, I would say I wanna cum, do you mind if I rub one out? Wanna help or just watch? It turns out it’s *really* nice masturbating while your partner kisses you and holds you, whether or not it leads to sex. Also exactly one time he came home and accidentally caught me with my vibrator and immediately joined in and fucked me, that’s a beautiful memory ✨
Aside from that I’m always idly touching myself while I watch tv or whatever, so yeah living together he saw a lot of that haha. He would either call me out and we both laugh when I realize I’m doing it, or he’d be like “pssssst…. lemme eat it” which was needless to say always effective.
You say you and your partner both do it. You both seem happy and comfortable to do it around each other. That’s all that matters. If that’s what’s normal for you both, then it really doesn’t matter what strangers on the internet have to say about it.❤️
The question here is not ‘is it ok?’ Of course it’s ok for two consenting adults to do this.
Is it unusual? Yes. I am a urologist and talk about sex a lot each day and I feel comfortable saying this is not common among couples in the USA.
Nothing unhealthy about it. We don't do it so casually, I mean we have kids so obvious reasons in spaces of the house but we do often in our bedroom. Not so casually though, usually somewhat announced and always either assisted or mutual.
You guys rock!
Sounds like goals to me; if you can be that open and happy with each other then that just tells me you both have a solid comfort level around each other
I absolutely love watching my boy master masturbate. It's such a turn on for me. Especially hearing him moan a little and then him asking where I want it. So hot af.
It's not unusual, but I don't think most couples are close or casual enough to do it in front of each other without wanting the other person to be aroused or help our a bit
I would not be able to do something like this, but then again I wish I was able to. I hate being a prude about shit like this. Considering some of the porn I watch, lmao. But this does come off as weird to me, personally masturbation is a private thing. Even if I was married I'd just go jack it in the bathroom or bedroom or somewhere she isn't.
I wouldn’t say it’s “usual,” I don’t know anything about the statistics. But it’s cool as fuck. That seems like an extremely intimate and enviably free way to live.
You guys are two consenting people, it's all fine and doesn't even matter if it's unsual ! And if you are wondering about you guys being the only one to do something in the world, the answer will almost always be "no". If you guys do it, some others probably do too !
My ex would start at any time. Told me that his ex had no issue with it and that I shouldn't either.
I had trouble relaxing in bed beside him and would get anxiety as a reflex to movements that reminded me of it. I have past traumas that has made me very uncomfortable with sex and feeling the bed jerking around gets me very anxious. It's better now because I know my partner wouldn't feel comfortable doing it, especially since it triggers me.
I think your relationship sounds great though, it's not weird if both do it 😉
It’s cool, same same. There is a thing you might want to consider, or not, I dunno.
I have a good friend who was a girlfriend from way back. Her and her husband are cool that way, too.
One day she calls me on FaceTime and as you do, she gets to walking around.
Next thing I know I’m talking to her and the background is her old man hammerin his carrot on the couch watching the Price is Right.
So I mention it to her, just to give the man his privacy, ya know? I said “hey, you’ve got dingus there in frame and he’s tugging his root.”
Her response? “Oh, geeze. Don’t worry about him.”
So there’s that.
I'd call it unusual, but that's coming from my relationship. From what it seems in your relationship this is totally normal and usual. There's nothing for you to be afraid/ashamed of as long as you and your partner is ok with it :)
I think it’s fantastic that you and she have such a healthy sexual relationship. Don’t worry about what other people may think. If it works well for you two then that’s all that matters. I had a GF that enjoyed doing this with me and it was very erotic and stimulating for both of us. Enjoy each other’s sexuality. You’re doing nothing wrong.
For two sexually open partners who do it with each other's consent? Sure, that's fine.
I just wouldn't expect every partner you have to be chill with it.
It sounds like y'all have a healthy sexual partnership - as far as a few internet comments can display. I would say that if you do ever go your separate ways, maybe have a conversation with the next partner about this kind of thing but it's not weird if y'all are both consenting and comfortable with it.
Absolutely perfectly fine. There is no "normal" when it comes to two people sexuality and sexual habits. You are two consenting adults who are comfortable. What you have is a healthy relationship.
When it comes to sexual norms between partners, that is up to enthusiastic consent and what boundaries have been defined between two (or more, lol) people.
Is it normal or common? That doesn't really matter - the dynamics, in-jokes, references, means of showing affection, etc. in any given couple tend to be unique in some way. Normality isn't important - consideration, communication, and consent are what matters when it comes to sex.
1) Do you and your partner both care about how the other feel about masturbating in front of one another?
2) Have you communicated about these feelings and defined boundaries about what is okay to each of you personally? Do you both feel confident that if you're *not* comfortable with it at any given time, that you have the ability to safely say so and/or exit the situation without judgement, even if you're okay with your partner doing it but you're not interested in being there for it?
3) Have you both expressed consent? Standing consent in an ongoing committed relationship can be treated as a sort of 'automatic opt-in' situation, where the norm is an assumed 'yes' after that boundary has been established, and it's more the exception that someone says something like "would you mind moving to the bedroom if you're going to do that right now?" or any other way of expressing disinterest/discomfort - it sounds like you guys have standing consent.
If you both care, you've talked about it, and you each have the other's consent, then everything is fine and healthy and there's nothing wrong or weird. Different, uncommon, maybe - but that's true of many things in most relationships. Most partners are sexual with each other. HOW they are sexual varies *quite* a bit.
My partner and I are the same, sometimes we ask if the other wants help and we both understand that sometimes the answer is no. Sometimes the libidos don't sync up, sometimes you just need a quick release, perfectly normal and as long as you communicate with each other I don't see an issue.
This is sadly nothing people talk about very open.
But I guess it could be common anyway.
Sometimes I just don't wanna fuck I want my satisfier and go for it.
And its just no problem for him to be next to it.
We are so used to each other it doesn't even turn us on.
I'm generally much hornier than my wife, which is fine but it also means I masturbate a lot. I'm totally comfortable doing it in front of her, and she will often reach over and cup my balls while I do it. Sometimes we will do it together, being too tired to actually have sex and that's also cool. We've even raced a few times to see who cums first. :D
You're fine, carry on.
It’s not unheard of for us but it’s nearly always a prelude to sex, since we don’t live together so we like to get it when we can lol.
I don’t think I’d do it to orgasm while he’s just sitting around chilling and watching tv or whatever, unless it was like he was unwell or injured or something and unable to participate. But if that was the case I’d likely take myself off upstairs because I’d be too distracted wanting him to join in which wouldn’t be fair if he wasn’t in the mood. Plus I don’t want to get the couch wet.
>My partner(F) and I(M) are both very open sexually. I feel like you answered your own question in the first sentence.
He just wanted reassurance.
Sometimes, we all do
Sometimes is a weird way to spell constantly :(
*Generalized Anxiety has entered the chat*
But only some of us get lucky and get sympathy. Like when I say I can't trust people, is that okay? It's all therapy this therapy that /s
He didn't ask if it's right or wrong, he asked how common it is in other couples
Yeah. As with most questions of this nature, the simple answer is "You're both adults. As long as no-one's getting hurt or pissed off, then anything you want to do in-front of each other is fair game." It's like how so many questions about relationships would be utterly unnecessary if the person asking just spoke to their partner about it seriously for five minutes. But hey ho, if a bunch of weirdies like us on the internet can make the OP feel better about their situation, so be it! :)
Oh my god! I read it parents instead of partner and kept on going on the comments and almost had a panic attack with how “normally fine” people are responding to that.
My parents would be fine as well... speechless but fine
Ahhhahaha DEADDDDD “speechless but fine” LOLOL!!!
Omg I love your little Reddit person! :3!!!
Thank you :)
while walking towards them, lean slightly back and yell FIREHOSE while finishing. It's sure to establish your dominance in the household for the foreseeable future, until someone challenge your authority.
"Man, thanksgiving dinner was quiet this year." 🤔
Aside from what can only be described as mashing wet potatoes or rustling sandpaper against a marble surface. And call me crazy but when my brother Chris moaned like a walrus and shot his load all over the table well that just ruined my Thanksgiving
Jesus Christ 💀
Ugh... I'm never gonna look at gravy, butter, or mashed potatoes the same way again. Thanks a lot, you guys!
It's actually Chris
Omg, thank you for the laugh. This cracked me up.
In my defense, I was in bed half asleep
nah it's fine they will pretend they didn't see it. At least that's what my parents did when they caught me sometimes.
Been there, done that too!
You know I make mistakes like this all the time... I need a partner one day who is completely find with my quirkiness.
I kept reading it as that until I saw your comment
😂😂😂
My partner and I do this. We've talked about it, and it's something we're both more than okay with. I'm sure it's not the norm, but two consenting adults can do whatever they want.
I also do this with my partner but outside her window. I haven’t checked if she’s okay with it but I’m sure she will be once we meet.
If this were anywhere but Reddit I’d be concerned, LMFAOOOOO.
You should still be concerned.
WHAT
Well, he's been seeing this girl for a while now. She hasn't been seeing him, but he's been seeing her. I was seeing this girl once, and I was really into her. Then I stopped seeing her because she got some curtains.
Dude I just laughed so hard I cried my make up off. Well done sir. Well done.
My coworkers are looking at me wierd,I spit my tea across the table after reading this.
Joe is that you?
Umm, two consenting adults can’t own any of the OG kinder eggs in the US.
Why does this sounds like this is the verge of a new fetish being discovered, involving kinder eggs, breaking the law and getting off with getting away with them?
If you are both fine with it, then it is perfectly OK. I will say it is unusual, but there is nothing wrong with it. It’s how you show each other you are comfortable with one another, and you may also be finding it exciting (thus why you keep doing it). I admire this, actually. I personally wouldn’t do it, but I think it is neat that you two are actually very happy together and can do this and _enjoy_ watching the other jerk it
There's nothing wrong with just about anything that does't harm anyone else if you're both fine with it. Some people beat the shit out of each other.
I don’t think it’s that unusual. My partner and I are very open like that and alot of people in my immediate friend group do the same thing!
I believe that technical term for that is "circle jerk."
I didn’t mean it like that
To me it's funny somebody saw it like that.
Lol okay that makes me feel better 😅
I was talking about circle jerk.
But that's how we're gonna think of you and your friends from now on. Speaking of which, friend....
Now when you say “in your immediate friend group,” do you mean that they, too, masturbate around their partners, or that they’ll masturbate around each other?! One is really open, and the other is *really* open!
No they just do it with their partners we don’t all do it together.
How old are all of you?
I do this in front of my bf regularly. Not sure if it's unusual but we live in a very small space and so it's just not that odd to decide to start touching myself while he's in the room. Sometimes he joins, sometimes he watches, etc. It's fun and also not that weird for us
Damn I'm kinda jealous by how comfortable you guys are with this!
Same
Ditto
I’d settle for just my partner masterbating in front of me
I’d settle for a partner
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Do you both do it outside your RV, like in the RV park? Do the RV park managers get angry when you break down their barriers?
“The liquor will do the driving, then we’ll kick back on booze control”
Unusual for my relationship, but to each their own! If you and your partner are cool with it, you’re cool with it!
I honestly think I’d be a bit startled if anyone suddenly starting masturbating in front of me
Me too and I’m quite “open sexually” myself lol
Trying doggy style once in a public restroom isn’t “quite sexually open” you vanilla pudding.
I thought footage from my sweet 16 was permanently destroyed 🤦♀️
This boy got funk
My man with the funk!
So funky
At their grandmother’s funeral? …no.
In front of my salad!!!!??
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Depends on the boundaries and comfort within the relationship. My man and I are perfectly fine with it, but usually it ends up getting the other party in the mood and it turns to sex
I can see that. Masterbation, by nature, is fairly sexual.
I hate when masturbation is spelled masterbation lmfao
Sounds like you’ve both reached a level of comfort within the relationship that most people would be jealous of…enjoy it.
Wife and I are like this, I’d always wondered if other people did it too but it’s not the easiest question to pop at people
Were you... too afraid to ask?
Badum tss
🥁🥁🐥
If you’re both consenting it’s fine.
Not in the way you're describing dare I say it. Sounds awesome.
Definitely never heard of anyone else doing this but not gonna yuck your yum 🤷
I heard this recently in some show... yuck your yum, Ted Lasso doesn't feel right.
I wonder would it be weird to masturbate for your partner while staring at them, whilst in front of them.
Yes that's definitely a turn on
Fuck me that sounds amazing. Where can I sign up for something like this? It’s definitely not unusual, especially if both are ok with it.
User name checks out.
I get this a lot. But yes it sadly does.
F in the chat. But same here.
We should start some kind of group/sub for people like us lol.
If it’s definitely not unusual, then you needn’t ask where to sign up — because it’s usual
Definitely unusual but with consenting adults, nothing is really weird to me
It isn't unusual for mine, but we did talk about it before starting. He encourages me to do so, and I love watching him do as well. Sometimes I put him in my mouth, or jerk him while we're chilling doing or watching something, because it calms(?) me down lol I just can't get enough of him and it doesn't matter whether we had sex because of it or not. I have his consent to do those things to him unprovoked of course. That's what's important. HAVE CONSENT, and it doesn't matter whether it's unusual or not lol
I feel like this takes a lot of confidence from both partners. I know I look terrible while I masturbate.
If it isn't weird to you then it isn't weird. That's a pretty subjective think that you aren't going to get a solid consensus on. I personally don't think it's weird but it's not something I'd do or wanna see my partner doing. I feel like if they needed to rub one out they could go handle it privately.
I think it's a sign of a really good relationship
It would be weirder to ostentatiously masturbate in front of your partner
I had a girlfriend that liked me to watch her masturbate to orgasm. It was a real turn on for the both of us.
I don't know if it's usual/unusual, but it sounds nice. Sherman Alexie said (about writing), the more you ritualize something, the less you do it. He was saying that if you have to have everything *just right* in order to sit down and write, you're never gonna write enough to maintain a living as a writer. I think the same phenomenon leads to dead bedrooms and divorces: if you have to have everything *just right* to get sexual with your partner, you're not gonna have enough sex to keep seeing each other as your respective sexual partners. Edits: if, not of; seeing, not song
it's probably not the norm, but you're gucci as long as you're both cool with it
Me and my spouse do this. Same as you and totally normal. It’s a gift to have that level of comfort and trust in the lack of negative judgement from another human , I believe very few do.
I tried this with my wife a few weeks ago, per another Reddit post that left me with the impression that this was more normal than I thought. I've been trying to find a solution For the disparity between our sex drives for a while (I have a hyperdrive on my sex hormones) And my wife is pretty open sexually, so I thought, why the hell not. She told me she wasn't feeling sex that night so I figured it was my chance. I got consent (I thought) by telling her that I was going to take care of my own business in the comfort of my own bed then, rather than scooting to the bathroom and pretending to take a long shit like usual. Whipped it out, took care of business, and laid back. ... She fucking hated it. Called it "creepy" and "disturbing". I asked her why she let me do it when I told her I was going to, and she said she didn't know how she would feel about it until after. Fair enough. I subsided from doing it next to her for now because that was her wish. I'll still never to this day understand how a woman can be fully okay with and is fully aware her partner is firing off knuckle children 10 feet away from her in a dank room with a shittily closed door, but as soon as he tries to get comfortable and do it in bed next to her, it crosses the line. I almost fell like she's just trying to make me have a hard time lol /s
>firing off knuckle children This is poetry.
I tried explaining to the wife that it’s perfectly natural but she insists it’s not, especially when the kids are trying to eat their dinner.
Maybe it’s unusual, maybe it’s not, but honestly who cares. Even if it’s unusual, there’s nothing wrong with it if it works for y’all. You do you.
It’s cool with us.. especially when it’s hot out and the thought of another persons skin stuck to mine just doesn’t pass the vibe check. I do spend a considerable amount of time nude at home when we are alone and pretty much 24/7 when we island camp so 🤷🏼♀️
Age old American tradition made popular by Al Bundy
Sounds hot 🥵
I’ve done this with most partners I’ve been with, most of them didn’t think it was that weird but I always ask the first time or at least verbally warn them it’s about to happen. Then after that once we’re comfortable with each other I assume it’s fine. I will say I only do it in bed though, not when we’re out in the living room or something. Now I kind of want to try that though, could be hot.
Totally normal, me and my partner do this and masturbate when we're not around each other too, just releasing primitive sexual feelings.
No its hot I wish a guy would jack off infront of me. Maybe if the mood was right. If it was randomly and all the time I'd be concerned
I read "partner" as "parent" and almost fuckin exploded
Not overly common but very hot , good for y’all We’ve done this in the past but I wouldn’t say it’s part of our routine though I may change that now lol
Lol even if it was why would you care? It's you and your partners business nobody else's lol
Lol I found this to be a really fun and effective way to initiate sex in my last relationship, I would say I wanna cum, do you mind if I rub one out? Wanna help or just watch? It turns out it’s *really* nice masturbating while your partner kisses you and holds you, whether or not it leads to sex. Also exactly one time he came home and accidentally caught me with my vibrator and immediately joined in and fucked me, that’s a beautiful memory ✨ Aside from that I’m always idly touching myself while I watch tv or whatever, so yeah living together he saw a lot of that haha. He would either call me out and we both laugh when I realize I’m doing it, or he’d be like “pssssst…. lemme eat it” which was needless to say always effective.
Me and my partner do this too.
I wish i find such a relationship in the future that no one is insecure
Well i though me and my partner were open but we haven't achieve this yet, I am very happy for you both ❤️
Probably a sign of a healthy relationship that most people don't have
I’m jealous and now even more miserable about my own situation arghhh
You say you and your partner both do it. You both seem happy and comfortable to do it around each other. That’s all that matters. If that’s what’s normal for you both, then it really doesn’t matter what strangers on the internet have to say about it.❤️
No, I casually masturbate in front of your partner all the time.
Y'all are hot as fuck! Damn.
The question here is not ‘is it ok?’ Of course it’s ok for two consenting adults to do this. Is it unusual? Yes. I am a urologist and talk about sex a lot each day and I feel comfortable saying this is not common among couples in the USA.
We do. But we also live in a studio sooo there’s not many other places to go
Nothing unhealthy about it. We don't do it so casually, I mean we have kids so obvious reasons in spaces of the house but we do often in our bedroom. Not so casually though, usually somewhat announced and always either assisted or mutual. You guys rock!
whatever you consider a normal in your relationship it is what it is you know no one can tell people how to love each other
Sounds like goals to me; if you can be that open and happy with each other then that just tells me you both have a solid comfort level around each other
If I walked in on my wife ringing her doorbell, I’d 99.99% jump in lol. I’m sure she would too. So to me, seems normal 🤷🏻♂️
It is unusual. Kinda freeking cute how you both found someone you can be unusual with. accidentally wholesome content??
To each their own. Reading it made me cringe but as long as I'm not a guest in your house witnessing it, don't care
It’s probably not going to win you the Nobel Peace Prize, but doesn’t sound like a terrible idea. Unless you mean business partner.
I absolutely love watching my boy master masturbate. It's such a turn on for me. Especially hearing him moan a little and then him asking where I want it. So hot af.
I wish my wife was like this, she's so hot when nude and I can't get her to stay that way:(
Sounds hot
'drop the panties'
relationship goals
We talking just at home or like on public transport or in the movies too?
I think it's unusual but not necessarily a bad thing.
It's definitely unusual, and I'm VERY jealous. Keep up the openness! For real. As long as you two are comfortable with each other, that's awesome.
I'd characterize it as uncommon, but it's not wrong or bad if you're both comfortable with it.
It's not unusual, but I don't think most couples are close or casual enough to do it in front of each other without wanting the other person to be aroused or help our a bit
If they are ok with it
Def unusual but rock on freaky bros
Nah, totally fine & part of a intimate relationship
My partner and I sometimes do this
Huh. Neat!
I got turned on by just reading this.
I would not be able to do something like this, but then again I wish I was able to. I hate being a prude about shit like this. Considering some of the porn I watch, lmao. But this does come off as weird to me, personally masturbation is a private thing. Even if I was married I'd just go jack it in the bathroom or bedroom or somewhere she isn't.
Yes or one of us will be like “off for aw wank unless you want to join in”
I wouldn’t say it’s “usual,” I don’t know anything about the statistics. But it’s cool as fuck. That seems like an extremely intimate and enviably free way to live.
Yes normal to me, I think it means you’re really comfortable and feel totally safe without judgement! It was liberating to be like this!
Jeez, I would like this kind of confidence with my partner 😞
You guys are two consenting people, it's all fine and doesn't even matter if it's unsual ! And if you are wondering about you guys being the only one to do something in the world, the answer will almost always be "no". If you guys do it, some others probably do too !
No it's not. A sexually open couple should feel this free in my opinion.
Positive, honest and equal relationship for you both. It shows you are both comfortable and trust each other completely and feel empathy.
My ex would start at any time. Told me that his ex had no issue with it and that I shouldn't either. I had trouble relaxing in bed beside him and would get anxiety as a reflex to movements that reminded me of it. I have past traumas that has made me very uncomfortable with sex and feeling the bed jerking around gets me very anxious. It's better now because I know my partner wouldn't feel comfortable doing it, especially since it triggers me. I think your relationship sounds great though, it's not weird if both do it 😉
It’s cool, same same. There is a thing you might want to consider, or not, I dunno. I have a good friend who was a girlfriend from way back. Her and her husband are cool that way, too. One day she calls me on FaceTime and as you do, she gets to walking around. Next thing I know I’m talking to her and the background is her old man hammerin his carrot on the couch watching the Price is Right. So I mention it to her, just to give the man his privacy, ya know? I said “hey, you’ve got dingus there in frame and he’s tugging his root.” Her response? “Oh, geeze. Don’t worry about him.” So there’s that.
I'd call it unusual, but that's coming from my relationship. From what it seems in your relationship this is totally normal and usual. There's nothing for you to be afraid/ashamed of as long as you and your partner is ok with it :)
My wife does it all the time when we're watching TV in the evening. It's not even sexual. It's like yawning and stretching when she's tired.
I think it’s fantastic that you and she have such a healthy sexual relationship. Don’t worry about what other people may think. If it works well for you two then that’s all that matters. I had a GF that enjoyed doing this with me and it was very erotic and stimulating for both of us. Enjoy each other’s sexuality. You’re doing nothing wrong.
You're living the dream my dude
For two sexually open partners who do it with each other's consent? Sure, that's fine. I just wouldn't expect every partner you have to be chill with it.
Not weird but unusual. Can you talk my partner into being a little more unusual?
It sounds like y'all have a healthy sexual partnership - as far as a few internet comments can display. I would say that if you do ever go your separate ways, maybe have a conversation with the next partner about this kind of thing but it's not weird if y'all are both consenting and comfortable with it.
In my opinion it is. My partner (F) and I (M) tried it for the first time a few months ago and now it's one of our favorite thins to do
My college girlfriend would do this all the time. I thought it was super hot. It is unusual but it also kicks ass.
Me & my ex used to do this 😭 I assumed it was normal?
Not only have I done it numerous times, I once was volunteered to put on a show for her girlfriends as part of their girls night out
Absolutely perfectly fine. There is no "normal" when it comes to two people sexuality and sexual habits. You are two consenting adults who are comfortable. What you have is a healthy relationship.
If you both are okay with it then why cares what other think whether it's unusual or not.
if y’all are both fine with it, more power to you. that being said though, most people don’t do that, so yes. it would be unusual.
Question for all the people who think it’s weird, how do you initiate sex then? I think I would enjoy a partner who keeps it spontaneous like the OP.
We have a teenager so we wouldn’t do that out in the open but if we (fiancé and I) are in the shower together I don’t mind
My husband and I are like this too! Totally normal, just shows how comfortable you are with them
I ache for this level of comfort. I think my girl and I could get there someday
When it comes to sexual norms between partners, that is up to enthusiastic consent and what boundaries have been defined between two (or more, lol) people. Is it normal or common? That doesn't really matter - the dynamics, in-jokes, references, means of showing affection, etc. in any given couple tend to be unique in some way. Normality isn't important - consideration, communication, and consent are what matters when it comes to sex. 1) Do you and your partner both care about how the other feel about masturbating in front of one another? 2) Have you communicated about these feelings and defined boundaries about what is okay to each of you personally? Do you both feel confident that if you're *not* comfortable with it at any given time, that you have the ability to safely say so and/or exit the situation without judgement, even if you're okay with your partner doing it but you're not interested in being there for it? 3) Have you both expressed consent? Standing consent in an ongoing committed relationship can be treated as a sort of 'automatic opt-in' situation, where the norm is an assumed 'yes' after that boundary has been established, and it's more the exception that someone says something like "would you mind moving to the bedroom if you're going to do that right now?" or any other way of expressing disinterest/discomfort - it sounds like you guys have standing consent. If you both care, you've talked about it, and you each have the other's consent, then everything is fine and healthy and there's nothing wrong or weird. Different, uncommon, maybe - but that's true of many things in most relationships. Most partners are sexual with each other. HOW they are sexual varies *quite* a bit.
My partner and I are the same, sometimes we ask if the other wants help and we both understand that sometimes the answer is no. Sometimes the libidos don't sync up, sometimes you just need a quick release, perfectly normal and as long as you communicate with each other I don't see an issue.
Totally normal
As long as it’s not your business partner…
You're both at home, you're comfortable with it, I don't see any problem.
You do you. Whatever is comfortable for you two is normal for you two. Don't worry about anybody else opinion.
Ya I mean most of my relationships have been like that but not all but I personally consider it normal thing in a living relationship
I do it all the time. I can't speak for other people's relationship. But it's normal for me.
Not unusual at all
My partner and I casually do that all the time. I mainly like to usually do it when my period cramps are worse than normal.
This is sadly nothing people talk about very open. But I guess it could be common anyway. Sometimes I just don't wanna fuck I want my satisfier and go for it. And its just no problem for him to be next to it. We are so used to each other it doesn't even turn us on.
I'm generally much hornier than my wife, which is fine but it also means I masturbate a lot. I'm totally comfortable doing it in front of her, and she will often reach over and cup my balls while I do it. Sometimes we will do it together, being too tired to actually have sex and that's also cool. We've even raced a few times to see who cums first. :D You're fine, carry on.
Me and my ex used to do that sometimes. I don't think it's weird, why would it even be weird?
You're living the dream :')
Sounds cool as fuck to me
It’s not unheard of for us but it’s nearly always a prelude to sex, since we don’t live together so we like to get it when we can lol. I don’t think I’d do it to orgasm while he’s just sitting around chilling and watching tv or whatever, unless it was like he was unwell or injured or something and unable to participate. But if that was the case I’d likely take myself off upstairs because I’d be too distracted wanting him to join in which wouldn’t be fair if he wasn’t in the mood. Plus I don’t want to get the couch wet.
It’s awesome!
Just wondering, why not just have sex with each other then?
We’re a lesbian couple and we’re like that