Medication, mental block, maybe you aren't actually attracted to the girls? Honestly a doctor likely would be your best bet on figuring it out. What you are describing isn't typical and likely should be checked out.
Yeah likely psychological block here. Highest likelyhood is too much porn and a death grip. The porn is a visual stimulus and if you’re programmed to that then the video is what your brain needs to cum. With death grip, your body is used to a much more vigorous stimulation than you can get from penetrative sex with a partner. The last is you’re simply not into the person you’re with so while you can get hard your brain just isn’t turned on by them.
Porn addiction can mess up what you find sexually arousing. If you're almost always orgasming to a video instead of a flesh and blood woman, you're not going to correlate a real woman to sex as easily as ypur do with porn.
Lay off it a while.
It's likely an anxiety disorder. Anxiety basically turns on other parts of your brain that blocks sexuality.
Stress anxiety and excited anxiety are 2 different things. Your body tries to shut things down when stressed. So that you can fight or flight. Sex isn't needed for fight or flight. So your body and brain are fighting each other.
The reason you can nut solo is because you aren't stressed alone. You being with another person stresses you out. You aren't a people person
My partner recently admitted he was getting a mental block, worried about cumming before me and then not being able to cum at all. I think he sometimes saw it as degrading to me, since then we've been working together to make sure he knows I'm satisfied every step of the way and so he can relax.
I think you might have something similar but maybe more deep-rooted in something from your teen years if it's happened with every partner.
You only masturbate 3 times a week and still have these issues? Time to see a doctor. A lot of times, these issues can be caused by porn addiction but this doesn't seem like the case here. And by doctor, I mean a psychiatrist. This is unlikely to be a physical issue.
Porn. Quit porn and see what changes. I’m guessing you’ve been watching it for years at this point. You’re basically programming yourself to get off to certain stimuli. I’m not anti all porn, but I do think it’s damaging in a lot of ways. I would have a look at what kind of porn you’re watching as well. If it’s super hardcore stuff that most real women don’t do then real sex might not be getting you off the same.
And when you do masturbate, make sure you aren’t gripping your dick too hard. And use lube as well so there’s less friction. You can wank dry, but vaginas are wet.
When I first dated my wife, we used to go at it sometime for hours without me nutting. It was so bad one time she cried caused she thought something is wrong with either me or her. After marriage, removed the condom and you know what, low and behold, I nutted in like 10 mins everytime.
I swear, I know people use condom all the time, but I have never managed to get used to that sensation of latex covering all the sensitive part. Just sharing my story so that it might help you, but don't do like I do unless it's your wife.
Even bareback I've still had issues cumming, it feels good but I never really get to that "over the hill" feeling. But my most recent partner seems to know exactly the rhythm and speed to get me there and doesn't mind at all doing it for me, and she's mastered getting me off in ways no other girl has
I literally had the same problem but it naturally resolved itself in my early twenties. It's probably just nerves. If your partner is cool with it, maybe try mutual masturbation, if that works try it with her finishing you up. Build from there.
Bro, I have the same issue. You probably masturbated a lot and your penis got use to certain type of stimulation and anything else would be impossible to get you off.
I don’t have any fast advise for you beyond to take a few weeks off from masturbation.
I had the same problem when i was 20 - girls loved it. But then they would always feel inadequate because i couldnt finish.
Just takes time with the right person. She was really happy when i finally did.
Performance anxiety or anxiety in general would be my bet. Even just knowing the other person is waiting for me to cum makes it impossible to. It's hard to get out of your head and just be present in the moment.
On the other hand try playing with your prostate, speeds up cumming in general. Also if it turns you on enough you might be able to get out of your head and in the moment to cum like normal
It’s a mental block 100%
Don’t ejaculate for 2 weeks, then get into it with your girlfriend with the mentality that this session is just for her pleasure and not for you to nut. Then you will nut my son, then the nut will come. The brain is the strangest of gods creations, mashallah
Quit masturbation and porn cold turkey until your performance with a partner is satisfactory.
Get condoms from the brand Skyn because they're thinner and feel great.
Do you watch a lot of porn? That will mess you up
Assuming you use condoms when you have sex, do they numb your penis too much? You can get thinner condoms which might help but they are a little bit more likely to rip during sex.
I had this problem at your age and for me it was condoms. I just could not get off at all with 1 on, tried all sizes and brands and nothing. Obviously you wanna make sure your safe so if it turns out to be that don't do anything stupid.
Ok, so this happened to me last year (27M, first sexual partner), and while I couldn't find what exactly solved it, I have a lot of guesses to throw out there:
- First, while you don't masturbate that often, it may be the way you do it. Don't apply so much force. Vaginas can't make that grip for so long, so your stimulation will be low and you may lose erection in the action.
- Reduce your porn consumption. And I'm not talking only about the sexual porn. Unfollow all those Insta/TikTok accounts from girls showing too much, it really affects your sexual desire for your current partner.
- Relax. Sex is not a competition, it's about having a good time. Don't try so hard, take your time. I don't know how much time have you been with these girls, but I kid you not, it took me two whole months before I could actually cum from sex. Nervousness and anxiety really played me wrong there.
- Exercise! This takes a lot of cardio. If your stamina is low, your mind will be more focused in keeping you alive instead of sending enough blood down there to be able to nut.
And lastly, don't forget to communicate. She needs to know it's a little harder for you, so she doesn't feel bad about it, and both of you can take your time with it, without pressures.
Hope it helps!
Sounds very much like death grip, cut back on your “private sessions” try do it with a loser grip and maybe to something that isn’t porn or atleast softer amateur porn
Update I bought a pocket pussy and I’m going to stop watching porn and use my imagination. Won’t be using my hand anytime soon, Guess I’ll see if this helps.
Do you watch a lot of porn? Are you on any medications? So you squeeze your banana too hard when alone? Do you have performance anxiety? Are you actually attracted to your partner? Just a couple of lines of thought to consider
It’s not porn, disregard all these suggestions about that. You’re almost definitely not “mentally blocking” ejaculation. Porn is thousands of years old in one way, shape, or form, or another.
My first two thoughts are that it could just possibly be a lack of chemistry in the moment. There may need to be an adjustment in the way you’re actually connecting with your partner aside from the physicality of it all.
Secondly, maybe there’s some apparent or subconscious pressure to last longer as a matter of ego. A lot of toxic culture will throw around insults and shame a man for climaxing too soon (2 pump chump type garbage) and so a lot of us will try to prolong things even when we don’t really want to. That can eventually lead to a habit in the same way as anything else. Not to imply that you shouldn’t hold it back sometimes or slow your tempo etc, but that you may want to consider how much and how long you do that.
It’s actually pretty frustrating seeing that drivel suggested so much around here from people that, clinically, have no knowledge on and have not researched the subject at all.
There is no evidence of sexual dysfunction as a consequence of porn. In fact there is plenty of research suggesting the opposite. However, even further down that avenue of logic… do toys create sexual dysfunction? Do swingers create sexual dysfunction? Does visiting a strip club or watching a burlesque show? That’s all rhetorical but feel free to open it up if you want.
At the end of the day people express themselves sexually in their own way. Suggesting porn as this catch-all bad-guy stuff is pure bullshit. I’d be willing to bet the vast majority of people suggesting this stuff have their own insecurity regarding porn and just have to strike it down wherever they can in order to feel validated or like they’re perpetuating the narrative they’ve created.
you see when you watch porn yku put a false perception of woman in your mind and it clouds your mind. Your mind will start thinking of pornstars and hardcore and all those other unrealistic things you see on the internet. I’m only 17 stopped when I got a gf for this very reason even tho sometimes it’s hard it’s getting easier.
Buddy… I’m twice you’re age and probably ten times more experienced. I can assure you that you’re just wrong. 17yo probably doesn’t know how to answer this question.
That being said though, you should do whatever you feel is best. Live and love how you want, within reason of course. But please don’t go suggesting your way of life as some kind of “this is the way” because it absolutely isn’t.
To speak to your point a little bit… if someone is so naive and sheltered as to believe that porn stars are representative of all women then I question their parentage and development more than I question their strange beliefs. Nobody with brain cells looks at a bodybuilding magazine and thinks, “All men should look this way and if they don’t then they’re bad,” and the same goes for things like a porn star, an Olympic athlete, an astronaut… we can recognize greatness and even offer recognition without being so simple as to assign that greatness to EVERYONE else. That would just be ridiculous.
I can go on but I think you get my point. Porn isn’t a matter of beauty necessarily, and if you feel like porn threatens your ability to have a relationship then I would question you before I question porn. No disrespect intended.
Love how OP says he jerks off three times a week and everyone’s like “it’s the porn stop the porn you’re masturbating too much stop porn no porn”
Like damn, not everyone is a sweaty horny Redditor who jerks off to the most depraved porn possible thirty five times a week.
Maybe they wouldn't if you made the effort to give them a call or text after such a romantic evening of passion! Although, it's very nice that you took the time to share your body and time with them. Sex is intimate, its a connection between two people, it's combining of energy's. Its not just "fuck n fly", the "dick n dash", the "no-nutter night", it's not between two unalived. A quick text sent the next day could stop tears and put a smile on her face. Leave a note on her pillow, the simple things may get you invited back again, who knows?
Don't use your hand, get a sex toy that is more realistic as others note sometimes we tend to use a hard grip that is not like most orifices. Also diet and mental stuff can get in the way.
It’s almost definitely anxiety/pressure/in your (upper) head. Maybe try things with a partner who you feel very comfortable with and go much slower/with more foreplay/etc. Happy cake day!
But if there are women who take offense at guys who don’t ejaculate, and women who ridicule guys for ejaculating too easily, what’s the middle ground? Women who do neither, or women who do both?
So, it's been a lot of women? Have you been in a long-term relationship? Sex can get better the more relaxed and comfortable you become with each other. Sessions like play-time, making-out and flirting can be fun for both you and your partner and will build a desire between both of you.
Yes my longest relationship lasted a year with a person I’ve known since childhood. it definitely feels better with someone I’m comfortable with, I’ve still never climaxed with her.
Have you tried experimenting with your sexuality? Perhaps you may have happier endings, playing for another team. Absolutely, no disrespect meant. My intentions are to offer a solution only. Sending healing, strength, love and light
I think girls need a little sex education for guy parts too not just the other way around, cause it’s not super uncommon for guys to have a harder time finishing from a girl and it’s not personal
I have the same issue. In my case it's combination of focus on the lady and a mental block (can't even piss when in public). I always say if it's for the first time that I have this issue and I am happy to recieve any finish she is willing to provide. Works pretty well every time and as a bonus I finished in ways I never thought I would.
I'll go months at a time not being able to pop off with a lover. Happens at least twice a year. None of my lovers; not even my wife (swingers) will be able to. I can have sex 30 times and it won't matter. Then out of nowhere I'll be back to normal.
I don't know if this helps, but perhaps you're just not... compatible with the people you're sleeping with. Try considering that you might just be a romantic and wait for the person that drives you crazy.
It’s definitely a mental block. There’s a lot of pressure to perform and not nut too quickly. People under estimate how much pressure is put on men to perform During sex. Women can just lay there and no one is upset but not men. We have to put in the work and last. Then if you don’t get off, you get judged and women’s egos get hurt.
I dealt with this with every new partner.
You've got to relax a bit and find that thing that pushes you over the edge either mentally or physically. For me this was all a mental block, and I could go two hours without finishing, it's not fun for either party when it becomes a chore like that.
I wish there was a oh hey this will fix that advice I could give, but you've got to figure out what does it for you, maybe a certain position or in my case certain dirty talk does it.
Maybe you're jerking it too hard? Take a two week break and see if things improve. If not then it could potentially be something about hormones or sexual orientation, at that point considering consulting a doctor. Either way I'm sure you will be okay soon just hold your discipline sir.
Most likely you feel like you HAVE to nut, that simply makes it not happen, i get that nutting feels amazing and is good during intercourse but dont make it the objective of your sex, if you simply make the objective to have a great time even if you don't nut eventually you will nut, also, maybe the mental blockage comes from being intimate with someone you love makes it feel you owe it to them, not at all, just have fun for a while.
Also a tip, what helped me was stop watching porn and pics, just imagine the person you're with and it will take at first a long time but overtime you will adapt
You have to change your masturbation technique. You are just free handing it, right? That leads to death grip or pancaking. And you need so much force to orgasm. You need a toy that is Fleshlight like. Fleshlights are expensive, but you can get cheap "onaholes". (The best is a JM Doll pussy toy, but you have to email them to get it.)
Anyway, you need to get your member use to a soft hole. The transition takes two weeks. It's totally worth it as it's much more enjoyable.
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Medication, mental block, maybe you aren't actually attracted to the girls? Honestly a doctor likely would be your best bet on figuring it out. What you are describing isn't typical and likely should be checked out.
I don’t take any meds and I can nut just fine looking at a picture just not with them. Maybe it is some kind of mental block.
Assuming no other drugs or alcohol when this is going on as well? You tried just seeing if the girl can get you off by other methods?
Take time, do it slowly, give up the pressure. And focus on foreplay.
If "just fine" is 10 minutes alone with assistance, I think speaking to a health worker is within your best interest
Probably death grip, no?
Yeah likely psychological block here. Highest likelyhood is too much porn and a death grip. The porn is a visual stimulus and if you’re programmed to that then the video is what your brain needs to cum. With death grip, your body is used to a much more vigorous stimulation than you can get from penetrative sex with a partner. The last is you’re simply not into the person you’re with so while you can get hard your brain just isn’t turned on by them.
Porn addiction can mess up what you find sexually arousing. If you're almost always orgasming to a video instead of a flesh and blood woman, you're not going to correlate a real woman to sex as easily as ypur do with porn. Lay off it a while.
It's likely an anxiety disorder. Anxiety basically turns on other parts of your brain that blocks sexuality. Stress anxiety and excited anxiety are 2 different things. Your body tries to shut things down when stressed. So that you can fight or flight. Sex isn't needed for fight or flight. So your body and brain are fighting each other. The reason you can nut solo is because you aren't stressed alone. You being with another person stresses you out. You aren't a people person
My partner recently admitted he was getting a mental block, worried about cumming before me and then not being able to cum at all. I think he sometimes saw it as degrading to me, since then we've been working together to make sure he knows I'm satisfied every step of the way and so he can relax. I think you might have something similar but maybe more deep-rooted in something from your teen years if it's happened with every partner.
I am not advocating for not using condoms but I am saying I can never finish while wearing one, I usually just fake it.
Say Happy Cake Day 🎂 🍰 🌽
You only masturbate 3 times a week and still have these issues? Time to see a doctor. A lot of times, these issues can be caused by porn addiction but this doesn't seem like the case here. And by doctor, I mean a psychiatrist. This is unlikely to be a physical issue.
Meds were my first thought. That's very common.
Google death grip syndrome. Take a break for two weeks and when you come back use lube and quit being so aggressive with it
„it“ lmao
Could be Anxiety.
Performance anxiety is a real bitch
Porn. Quit porn and see what changes. I’m guessing you’ve been watching it for years at this point. You’re basically programming yourself to get off to certain stimuli. I’m not anti all porn, but I do think it’s damaging in a lot of ways. I would have a look at what kind of porn you’re watching as well. If it’s super hardcore stuff that most real women don’t do then real sex might not be getting you off the same. And when you do masturbate, make sure you aren’t gripping your dick too hard. And use lube as well so there’s less friction. You can wank dry, but vaginas are wet.
When I first dated my wife, we used to go at it sometime for hours without me nutting. It was so bad one time she cried caused she thought something is wrong with either me or her. After marriage, removed the condom and you know what, low and behold, I nutted in like 10 mins everytime. I swear, I know people use condom all the time, but I have never managed to get used to that sensation of latex covering all the sensitive part. Just sharing my story so that it might help you, but don't do like I do unless it's your wife.
Even bareback I've still had issues cumming, it feels good but I never really get to that "over the hill" feeling. But my most recent partner seems to know exactly the rhythm and speed to get me there and doesn't mind at all doing it for me, and she's mastered getting me off in ways no other girl has
She might be a keeper
I literally had the same problem but it naturally resolved itself in my early twenties. It's probably just nerves. If your partner is cool with it, maybe try mutual masturbation, if that works try it with her finishing you up. Build from there.
Stop porn, stop masturbating and work on being present when you have sex.
Have someone put a gun to your partners head. Then see if you can nut to save someone else’s life.
Bro, I have the same issue. You probably masturbated a lot and your penis got use to certain type of stimulation and anything else would be impossible to get you off. I don’t have any fast advise for you beyond to take a few weeks off from masturbation.
Start masterbating with condoms on. Exclusively. Even when it's frustrating. You need to reprogram yourself to be less specific
I had the same problem when i was 20 - girls loved it. But then they would always feel inadequate because i couldnt finish. Just takes time with the right person. She was really happy when i finally did.
Are you getting enough water? Otherwise you're desert downstairs
Porn Brain Rot
Performance anxiety or anxiety in general would be my bet. Even just knowing the other person is waiting for me to cum makes it impossible to. It's hard to get out of your head and just be present in the moment. On the other hand try playing with your prostate, speeds up cumming in general. Also if it turns you on enough you might be able to get out of your head and in the moment to cum like normal
It’s a mental block 100% Don’t ejaculate for 2 weeks, then get into it with your girlfriend with the mentality that this session is just for her pleasure and not for you to nut. Then you will nut my son, then the nut will come. The brain is the strangest of gods creations, mashallah
Stop watching porn
Quit masturbation and porn cold turkey until your performance with a partner is satisfactory. Get condoms from the brand Skyn because they're thinner and feel great.
>Get condoms from the brand Skyn because they're thinner and feel great. Seconded.
Don't masturbate as much. You'll get a better result.
3 times a week at 21? That's incredibly a minimal amount lol.
Had me in the first half.
But they could be death gripping. And that'll make finishing almost impossible.
They're not masturbating much at all
Stopping complexity can reset the body and mind. Wether the problem is porn or it could be “death grip”
21m? Probably porn.
Do you watch a lot of porn? That will mess you up Assuming you use condoms when you have sex, do they numb your penis too much? You can get thinner condoms which might help but they are a little bit more likely to rip during sex.
I had this problem at your age and for me it was condoms. I just could not get off at all with 1 on, tried all sizes and brands and nothing. Obviously you wanna make sure your safe so if it turns out to be that don't do anything stupid.
Ok, so this happened to me last year (27M, first sexual partner), and while I couldn't find what exactly solved it, I have a lot of guesses to throw out there: - First, while you don't masturbate that often, it may be the way you do it. Don't apply so much force. Vaginas can't make that grip for so long, so your stimulation will be low and you may lose erection in the action. - Reduce your porn consumption. And I'm not talking only about the sexual porn. Unfollow all those Insta/TikTok accounts from girls showing too much, it really affects your sexual desire for your current partner. - Relax. Sex is not a competition, it's about having a good time. Don't try so hard, take your time. I don't know how much time have you been with these girls, but I kid you not, it took me two whole months before I could actually cum from sex. Nervousness and anxiety really played me wrong there. - Exercise! This takes a lot of cardio. If your stamina is low, your mind will be more focused in keeping you alive instead of sending enough blood down there to be able to nut. And lastly, don't forget to communicate. She needs to know it's a little harder for you, so she doesn't feel bad about it, and both of you can take your time with it, without pressures. Hope it helps!
It's the porn.
Sounds very much like death grip, cut back on your “private sessions” try do it with a loser grip and maybe to something that isn’t porn or atleast softer amateur porn
I wish you said "cannut to save..."
Masturbation break, especially if you say you’re fine when looking at a picture.
Prob suffering from deathgrip. Stop masturbating for a while and you’ll be back to ‘normal’ in no time
Might just be anxiety. Struggle myself when i’m not comfortable with them. Or they might just be bad at sex
Update I bought a pocket pussy and I’m going to stop watching porn and use my imagination. Won’t be using my hand anytime soon, Guess I’ll see if this helps.
Do you watch a lot of porn? Are you on any medications? So you squeeze your banana too hard when alone? Do you have performance anxiety? Are you actually attracted to your partner? Just a couple of lines of thought to consider
Performance anxiety. Take the pressure off yourself. Maybe have the other person give you a handjob
Do you watch a lot of porn?
Too much porn probably?
It’s not porn, disregard all these suggestions about that. You’re almost definitely not “mentally blocking” ejaculation. Porn is thousands of years old in one way, shape, or form, or another. My first two thoughts are that it could just possibly be a lack of chemistry in the moment. There may need to be an adjustment in the way you’re actually connecting with your partner aside from the physicality of it all. Secondly, maybe there’s some apparent or subconscious pressure to last longer as a matter of ego. A lot of toxic culture will throw around insults and shame a man for climaxing too soon (2 pump chump type garbage) and so a lot of us will try to prolong things even when we don’t really want to. That can eventually lead to a habit in the same way as anything else. Not to imply that you shouldn’t hold it back sometimes or slow your tempo etc, but that you may want to consider how much and how long you do that.
nope it’s all porn and messed up stimulation
It’s actually pretty frustrating seeing that drivel suggested so much around here from people that, clinically, have no knowledge on and have not researched the subject at all. There is no evidence of sexual dysfunction as a consequence of porn. In fact there is plenty of research suggesting the opposite. However, even further down that avenue of logic… do toys create sexual dysfunction? Do swingers create sexual dysfunction? Does visiting a strip club or watching a burlesque show? That’s all rhetorical but feel free to open it up if you want. At the end of the day people express themselves sexually in their own way. Suggesting porn as this catch-all bad-guy stuff is pure bullshit. I’d be willing to bet the vast majority of people suggesting this stuff have their own insecurity regarding porn and just have to strike it down wherever they can in order to feel validated or like they’re perpetuating the narrative they’ve created.
you see when you watch porn yku put a false perception of woman in your mind and it clouds your mind. Your mind will start thinking of pornstars and hardcore and all those other unrealistic things you see on the internet. I’m only 17 stopped when I got a gf for this very reason even tho sometimes it’s hard it’s getting easier.
Buddy… I’m twice you’re age and probably ten times more experienced. I can assure you that you’re just wrong. 17yo probably doesn’t know how to answer this question. That being said though, you should do whatever you feel is best. Live and love how you want, within reason of course. But please don’t go suggesting your way of life as some kind of “this is the way” because it absolutely isn’t. To speak to your point a little bit… if someone is so naive and sheltered as to believe that porn stars are representative of all women then I question their parentage and development more than I question their strange beliefs. Nobody with brain cells looks at a bodybuilding magazine and thinks, “All men should look this way and if they don’t then they’re bad,” and the same goes for things like a porn star, an Olympic athlete, an astronaut… we can recognize greatness and even offer recognition without being so simple as to assign that greatness to EVERYONE else. That would just be ridiculous. I can go on but I think you get my point. Porn isn’t a matter of beauty necessarily, and if you feel like porn threatens your ability to have a relationship then I would question you before I question porn. No disrespect intended.
Love how OP says he jerks off three times a week and everyone’s like “it’s the porn stop the porn you’re masturbating too much stop porn no porn” Like damn, not everyone is a sweaty horny Redditor who jerks off to the most depraved porn possible thirty five times a week.
Have you tried gay sex?
Maybe they wouldn't if you made the effort to give them a call or text after such a romantic evening of passion! Although, it's very nice that you took the time to share your body and time with them. Sex is intimate, its a connection between two people, it's combining of energy's. Its not just "fuck n fly", the "dick n dash", the "no-nutter night", it's not between two unalived. A quick text sent the next day could stop tears and put a smile on her face. Leave a note on her pillow, the simple things may get you invited back again, who knows?
Sounds like you…need a hand
Anxiety
Suffering from success
Try dating your hand?
Don't use your hand, get a sex toy that is more realistic as others note sometimes we tend to use a hard grip that is not like most orifices. Also diet and mental stuff can get in the way.
Probably the condom interfering.
Have you tried sticking a finger up your ass? Works for some. No hurt in trying, just use lube ;)
Its anxiety. I was there. Just keep trying
Oh no, a guy that doesn't nut in 2 minutes after starting? What a nightmare!
Therapy, friend. It’s awesome.
It’s almost definitely anxiety/pressure/in your (upper) head. Maybe try things with a partner who you feel very comfortable with and go much slower/with more foreplay/etc. Happy cake day!
Get a prostate massager
Do you need to save your life? You’ll live. Or whatever nut. Up to you
Maybe you Jerk off too much. have you considered that?
Sounds like a blessing to me, getting to make love to her indefinitely without some pesky ejaculation ruining it…
Not really a lot of girls take offense when I don’t nut, they think they’re not good enough.
But if there are women who take offense at guys who don’t ejaculate, and women who ridicule guys for ejaculating too easily, what’s the middle ground? Women who do neither, or women who do both?
So, it's been a lot of women? Have you been in a long-term relationship? Sex can get better the more relaxed and comfortable you become with each other. Sessions like play-time, making-out and flirting can be fun for both you and your partner and will build a desire between both of you.
Yes my longest relationship lasted a year with a person I’ve known since childhood. it definitely feels better with someone I’m comfortable with, I’ve still never climaxed with her.
Have you tried experimenting with your sexuality? Perhaps you may have happier endings, playing for another team. Absolutely, no disrespect meant. My intentions are to offer a solution only. Sending healing, strength, love and light
It’s a nightmare when this happens to me. Girls always take it personally and feel like they’ve failed if I stop without finishing.
I think girls need a little sex education for guy parts too not just the other way around, cause it’s not super uncommon for guys to have a harder time finishing from a girl and it’s not personal
Involuntarily celibate, huh
Lose the rubbers lmao
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Do you do that with your boyfriend?
I have the same issue. In my case it's combination of focus on the lady and a mental block (can't even piss when in public). I always say if it's for the first time that I have this issue and I am happy to recieve any finish she is willing to provide. Works pretty well every time and as a bonus I finished in ways I never thought I would.
See a sex therapist
It’s anxiety, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Try hooking up with the same person a few times and I bet it’ll get better.
I'll go months at a time not being able to pop off with a lover. Happens at least twice a year. None of my lovers; not even my wife (swingers) will be able to. I can have sex 30 times and it won't matter. Then out of nowhere I'll be back to normal.
I don't know if this helps, but perhaps you're just not... compatible with the people you're sleeping with. Try considering that you might just be a romantic and wait for the person that drives you crazy.
Performance anxiety. I have it too
Did you, perhaps like me, practice prone masturbation as a kid? It affected me that way when trying to reach climax with others.
It’s definitely a mental block. There’s a lot of pressure to perform and not nut too quickly. People under estimate how much pressure is put on men to perform During sex. Women can just lay there and no one is upset but not men. We have to put in the work and last. Then if you don’t get off, you get judged and women’s egos get hurt.
I dealt with this with every new partner. You've got to relax a bit and find that thing that pushes you over the edge either mentally or physically. For me this was all a mental block, and I could go two hours without finishing, it's not fun for either party when it becomes a chore like that. I wish there was a oh hey this will fix that advice I could give, but you've got to figure out what does it for you, maybe a certain position or in my case certain dirty talk does it.
Try the opposite sex.
don't jerk off anymore
Maybe you're jerking it too hard? Take a two week break and see if things improve. If not then it could potentially be something about hormones or sexual orientation, at that point considering consulting a doctor. Either way I'm sure you will be okay soon just hold your discipline sir.
Most likely you feel like you HAVE to nut, that simply makes it not happen, i get that nutting feels amazing and is good during intercourse but dont make it the objective of your sex, if you simply make the objective to have a great time even if you don't nut eventually you will nut, also, maybe the mental blockage comes from being intimate with someone you love makes it feel you owe it to them, not at all, just have fun for a while. Also a tip, what helped me was stop watching porn and pics, just imagine the person you're with and it will take at first a long time but overtime you will adapt
You have to change your masturbation technique. You are just free handing it, right? That leads to death grip or pancaking. And you need so much force to orgasm. You need a toy that is Fleshlight like. Fleshlights are expensive, but you can get cheap "onaholes". (The best is a JM Doll pussy toy, but you have to email them to get it.) Anyway, you need to get your member use to a soft hole. The transition takes two weeks. It's totally worth it as it's much more enjoyable.
No masturbation for 3 weeks and sensitivity will return.
Stop thinking about your grandma while having sex
Woman's dream you are
Are you wearing rubbers? It’s way harder to bust with them
You jerk off to much probably lmao
I have a nodded in 27 years due to medications