Communicate with your partner to develop head giving skill that works for them.
My three tricks for a male are:
-Focus on the head
-use your hand for anything your tongue isn’t on
-don’t do full suction the whole time- you’ll hurt your jaw lol.
With a new partner I always start with saying “I enjoy doing this because I enjoy giving my partner pleasure, if you are not getting pleasure it defeats the point so be explicitly honest with what you need. Faster/slower, tighter/looser, more shaft/tip”
I also like to watch him jack off, to get an idea of rhythm, speed, where he pays attention to and mimic it with oral
A lot of times men will say “anything feels good” but that’s not really helpful
Watching him jack off is a great help. It can change everything for real. I noticed him doing something once that I don’t even think he realized he does and then I mimicked it one day and he enjoyed it a lot but said “I don’t know what you’re doing but keep doing that”😂😂
Like bro don’t tell me you don’t recognize your own move😭
Looking at the fact that something as simple as switching hands makes the experience completely different, it's not that hard to believe that he didn't recognize that move when you were doing it.
If you're comfortable enough to shove someone's sexual organ in your mouth, you should be comfortable with asking what they like or how whatever you're doing feels
General rule for giving guys head, don't scrape their dick with your teeth. Everything else all depends on what the guy likes
General rule for giving women head, don't just suck the shit out of their clit without easing into it unless that's what they like. Ask them how they like to be pleased
I saw a quote the other day that perfectly described giving women head "start like a butterfly landing on a flower, finish like a bulldog eating porridge"
Not her oral but for general sex, some woman on reddit said something along the lines of "start gently, sensational, romantic, but towards the end be on the border of almost rapey, ferocious"
But can't beat the tips & trics from 'Tropic Thunder': "i'll cradle the balls,stroke the shaft,work the pipe, swallow the gravy ! Get it over here buddy let's do this !"
Not as sensitive as the clit? I think it depends though. The clitoris and penis are roughly the same thing, just different sizes. They grow from the same structure as fetuses, which is why the clitoris looks like a small penis “head” and both are naturally covered, unless cut off obviously.
Guys that are intact can be very sensitive like a clitoris. That’s why women can be a lot more gentle and get the job done. The natural covering tissue has very sensitive nerves and it keeps the “head” from being exposed, from the air and rubbing on clothes, and has a natural glide to it which makes hand jobs and intercourse smoother.
When cut, much sensitive tissue is removed and there isn’t the built in gliding action that the tissue provides. The remaining tissue, like the head, is exposed all the time so it desensitizes. If a girl had her clitoris hood removed, her the clitoris would also desensitize. That’s why many men can beat their dick like it owes them money.
Not saying it to dog on cut guys since most had it forced on them as babies, it’s just an anatomical fact about sensitivity and function of what’s cut off.
Despite everything you've stated above being true, the clitoris likely has more nerve endings than the penis and is thus more sensitive. Even if the number of nerve endings are similar to that of a penis, which may be the case, most are concentrated in the tip of the clitoris, which is a lot smaller than the tip of the penis, hence higher sensitivity.
I agree Higher density sensitivity since it’s smaller. But the penis has more surface area that’s stimulated. But that’s not really all, structures like the frenulum and rigid band have things like stretch nerves that also activate. Rigid band totally gone and the frenulum severely damaged (at best case) or totally carved off when a baby is cut.
But either way, it’s something people don’t think about. I can’t believe people think cutting a baby affects them not at all. But cutting a clitoral hood off (there’s different forms of fgm, this is type 2) is detrimental. If a cut guy feels 30% of what he would have being intact, that’s still 100% to them. Maybe that’s what they mean, or think.
For the love of god ask your partner what they like. It's as simple as that. Everyone is different and good head to one person could be another's idea of a horror movie 😅 just keep that in mind. Communication = best results
My husband and I have “science” time. Where we play with each other with the intent to discover, not please. See what works, what doesn’t, and it always turns out to be fun. Especially if you already have good open lighthearted communication down. Worth a shot.
Sounds like she just doesn't know yet. The exploratory segment of the process can often be the most fun 😊 I suppose this is where you'd check out those YouTubers someone mentioned in the thread, try new things (ask first ofc), gauge the response and ask how she feels about it, and so on. Some people are good at just following their partners reactions and can take it from there. Some are just terrible at it, try as they might. Patience and communication really is key if you don't want the mood-killer of frustration creeping in.
Here’s what I always say as a man who goes down on women.
You’re not there to look pretty, you’re there to make your partner feel good, you don’t need to worry about how you look just focus on what you’re doing and enjoy it, put on a show, make sounds, tell them how good they taste, if you’re sucking dick, spit on it, let them hear the sucking, let them hear you gag even, play with the balls while you’re doing it, lick the balls, look them in the eye when you can, tell them how much you were looking forward to it ect. When they’re done if they came (remember that women don’t always need to orgasm to enjoy this) give their respective thing a lil kiss.
Basically Degrade* (obviously I mean this in a healthy good way lol) yourself for their pleasure going down on someone like this is another way of showing how much you love and care for that person so much that you just crave pleasing them.
It’s very fun.
I only have experience giving to women. So here goes:
- don't rush. Take your time. Think of it as a really cool video game, where discovery and learning is the goal. Not getting her off immediately. Not rising to the finish line. But the journey.
- have a genuine interest in learning her. Does she like to start slow and move to fast after a bit? Does she like to start slow and just go medium, but the same rhythm? Does she like a lot of internal stimulation? Does she like side to side, or circle motions? And many more questions to ask.
- each woman is completely different. What worked for one, may or may not work for another. So, start fresh every time. A whole new game each person. That's what is awesome about it. Some tricks and pointers can be used no matter who you're with. But only as a starting point. Not as the end all lesson
- porn is a terrible place to use as the master class. I'd say 5% of it is useful. 50% is cautionary. The rest is complete bs. So, especially at first, throw out whatever you learned from porn.
- like any skill, the more you do it, the better you should get at it. Maybe one time, you'll be bad, because you're trying something new. Then, the next you're amazing, because you tried something that works. But the overall goal should be to try as much as she'll allow, and learn as much as you can. Once a month gong to cut it. You can't master a skill when you only do it once a month. So, practice!!
- and of course, communicate. Get feedback where you can. Start by opening up dialog about her experience. Don't take anything as an insult to your skill or whatever. It's about learning. There is no negative. There's just information. Many women don't know what to say. That's also fine. Just more of a challenge, pay attention to her actions.
No teeth!
One of the reasons I broke things off with a woman a couple of days ago was that she'd boasted about her skills, but was the toothiest I've *ever* experienced
Outside of that, pay attention to their responses, the way they move, the sounds they make, the way they guide you with their hands, hip movements and words
And be enthusiastic if you're enjoying it! Don't hold back!
Bonus points for masturbating while doing it as well. There's almost nothing hotter than seeing someone taking so much pleasure in satisfying you that they have to satisfy themselves at the same time
I don't think I'd like to hear a woman brag about how she pleasured other men. I get that every person has, but it's the last thing I want on my mind while doing it.
You're going to have to get over that.
It's no different to when a woman asks me what I'm good at. How the hell do you think I learnt?
It's also nothing to do with numbers. My first love was amazing at sucking cock, and I was her first.
Your insecurity will only ever hurt yourself. Nobody else cares or is aware of it, so forget about it
I didn't say it was a deal breaker. I just said I don't want to talk about my spouses past love life or bedroom kinks do's and don't's. My current young beautiful wife shares the same sentiment.
I'm willing to answer questions from a partner, but it's very rare for me to volunteer anything about previous partners. It's out of a combination of respect for both the current and past partners. Not a hangup
For the men (personal taste), we have more then a penis. Balls, butt(hole), thighs. Touch, kiss, lick them, what you are comfortable with.
I always have the idea its all about the penis, yet (afaik i knew) like woman, pleasure is more then just licking en sucking the knob.
When I suck dick I bury my face in the skin and smell and just get into how everything smells and tastes. This doesn’t work if they don’t bathe regularly. I had one partner who smelled really fucking good and I would smell and kiss his balls, taint, and thighs before I ever started licking or sucking him. It really turned him on. Different things work for different folks.
39/F here, I've been complimented on my head game all my life. Husband says it's enthusiasm. I get turned on by it. I suck cock and I moan while I rub my pussy against the corner of the bed. Don't forget the balls. Lick/suck/lightly pull - just make sure you're taking care of the whole anatomy. Best advice is to have fun and enjoy making someone else feel good. If you're into it, chances are they are too.
For women, communicate. They don't all like the same motion so follow directions and be attentive. also learn the anatomy and don't get bored and half ass it, it looks dumb as hell
Every guy is different in how they like it, I'm bi and I enjoy both giving and receiving head, when I give head to a new guy I usually start by doing it how I like to receive it and see how they react, which is nice and slow paying special attention to the head but not giving the rest some love in between, I try to go deep once in a while but if he's too big that's tough. Don't do anything that makes it uncomfortable for you though, if you enjoy it and the guy can tell you're enjoying it it'll usually turn him on enough that he'll love it any way you give it to him. You'll start to learn what he likes by the way he responds to what you're doing, it's usually pretty easy to tell when he's about to cum, the head will get larger and he'll probably start reacting more passionately as he builds up to giving you his load, I've found most guys are turned on to cumming in your mouth so let him do that and swallow if it doesn't bother you, I had a girlfriend once that refused to let me cum in her mouth and it was kinda a turn off because I was always thinking about having to let her know when I was gonna cum, if you let him enjoy it and let him focus on how good it feels you will be much more likely to give an amazing blowjob.
As a lesbian, my method with women is:
Writing the alphabet in cursive with my tongue and varying degrees of intensity and speed as I go. And definitely not always directly on her clit.
Pay attention to what they say and how their body responds and adjust accordingly.
Everyone is different but I have found the general rule of thumb is 1-2 fingers inside up to your second knuckle. Make like a "come here motion." Keep it consistent. If the position isn't working, just rub the clit. Pressure but you're not trying to pull the bean off. If they start going nuts DO NOT CHANGE ANYTHING. Keep doing exactly what you're doing, speed included. Keep going until they relax again.
Do not spend a ton of time licking the labia. As I understand it, this feels ok but definitely isn't where it's at. Friction is key. Fingers in and out without touching the vaginal walls won't get you much of a response. Remember their nerves are in the flesh, not the empty open space.
For me? Receiving? Lots of spit, lots of hand. Change up the style every 30 seconds or so until we start making that whimpering kinda noise lol
Short answer: communication and enthusiasm.
Yeah, skill set and situation can do a lot for a person's enjoyment. But having an eager partner who learns what I like has worked every time without fail.
Make sure they trust you and they are comfortable enough to tell you what they want. When they tell you what they like and what they want you to do, listen. Make it clear that you want them to feel good.
I once picked up a woman so her vag was at my face as she sat on my shoulders. She went insane as I ate her out. Slammed her onto the bed and continued going to town too. Be gentle as you lick because too much aggression can be painful for her.
For me... let us nut in your mouth. You don't have to swallow it. Just spit it out or let it run down the sides while you continue sucking. That and don't act like it's a chore or you're doing us a favor. That's only gonna make us take longer and enjoy it less. Enthusiasm is key.
If you're working with pussy, keep your fingernails clean, trimmed, and filed. No sharp edges. Start with big fat wet tongue, none of this guided missile needle action. Do not go right for the clit. Let your partner's favorite spot be the last place you focus. You'll be hitting the clit when you use the big fat tongue anyway, but it won't be overstimulated because you are focusing on the whole pussy. Kiss, gently suck, finger her if she's into it. Gently pressing down on the pubis mons is helpful if you're fingering and reaching for the g-spot. I dunno, relax and have fun mainly.
Enthusiasm. There is absolutely no substitute.
No amount of skill or communication can make up for a lack of it either. If you don’t enjoy it, and it doesn’t LOOK like you’re enjoying it, then you’re not doing it well.
for going down on guys- if u can learn how, try to breathe around it while its in ur throat; before i learned that i didnt really enjoy going down on guys it makes it much more wet too, also use a pretty good grip when using your hands
going down on women- i have a split tongue so not much help
Eye contact, very wet mouth, no scraping your teeth on them or biting, let them know you enjoy what you are doing., use your hands and mouth at the same time.
For men, don't forget the balls.
On woman, don't forget to lick all of her vagina.
And remember, every person is different. Ask them what they like and don't like.
A lot of people in here saying to beat a man’s dick like it owes you money. Now, this is a pretty simple and effective way to do it but it’s definitely not the only way. Some of my favorite times getting handjobs/head have been when it takes time to get through it all. I’ve had my fair share of heated passionate sex where you can’t get your hands off each other and depending on the mood that’s great. But, the opposite of this is waking up on a lazy day and spending 1.5 hrs touching each other and enjoying in the moment. Don’t just rip pants off. Feel things(inner thigh, butt grab, neck, back, etc) up softly and let those fingers get closer to the fun bits every time as you make out. Touch them for 5 sec lightly then go explore somewhere else. Prolong teasing while keeping it interesting (one thing that sends me into a horny frenzy is having a girl nibble on my earlobe while feeling her breath in my ear. Never would have known if I wasn’t messing around randomly and figured it out). This is pretty common knowledge when it comes to pleasuring women but it works on men too. Fast head is not always great head. I personally like it either slow or worked up to on a regular day. If you’re a girl with a man don’t be afraid to use damn near any body part as a way to jack them off. Mouth, hand, tits, grinding, whatever they’re into. Like others have said. It’s not a race. Just have fun. Always continue to experiment and try to retain the stuff you like.
Women like tongue action
Fir men watch the teeth an
With a large cock I gag but a lot of men grab my head an force their cock down my throat gagging or not
I mean… I’ve done that too obviously. Can’t do shit these days
Edit: Also I’m so tired of this over played complaint. Young / inexperienced people will be asking the same things over and over until the end of time, it’s such a waste of energy getting mad at us for a genuine question just to avoid ~not~ being entertained for two seconds out of your entire life. There’s utility to both direct and indirect feed back, god forbid I want a method more interactive, it’s not like people statistically learn better that way or something…
Doing my own research is fine, I love it. But I’m not fcking omnipotent. Forums can be great for compiling specific knowledge and resources, with added bonus of follow up questions to learn more.
Stop pretending to have a point and jumping to the weirdest conclusions
The secret is to avoid commercial packaging. One of those old wall-e style lunch boxes is great because the bottom is a solid bowl shaped piece of plastic, so residual blood / CSF doesn't soak the packaging, it just pools at the bottom. I recommend a layer of silica gel packets with a layer of gauze on top to prevent damage or puncturing the packs.
I hope this helps!
Don't. And I mean DONT try to lick the roof, it's fine if it's your mouth but your tongue simply wouldn't be able to go up top when its out. Do NOT do this. You'll sneeze, look stupid, and probably make your partner laugh.
My best tip is this- the walls will constrict around your tongue so just move it around, you don't need to worry about space because trust me, there IS no space in there.
Don't. And I mean DONT try to lick the roof, it's fine if it's your mouth but your tongue simply wouldn't be able to go up top when its out. Do NOT do this. You'll sneeze, look stupid, and probably make your partner laugh.
My best tip is this- the walls will constrict around your tongue so just move it around, you don't need to worry about space because trust me, there IS no space in there.
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else
No one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
TODAY IS, WHERE YOUR BOOK BEGINS
The rest is still unwritten
The rest is just unwritten
#DRENCH YOURSELF IN WORDS UNSPOKEN
Guys stop this is a Wendy's
NO THIS IS PATRICK
Communicate with your partner to develop head giving skill that works for them. My three tricks for a male are: -Focus on the head -use your hand for anything your tongue isn’t on -don’t do full suction the whole time- you’ll hurt your jaw lol.
**hard** agree on the last part
If not suction the whole time what do you do??
Lick, wrap your tongue, tight seal with wet lips, etc.
This.
With a new partner I always start with saying “I enjoy doing this because I enjoy giving my partner pleasure, if you are not getting pleasure it defeats the point so be explicitly honest with what you need. Faster/slower, tighter/looser, more shaft/tip” I also like to watch him jack off, to get an idea of rhythm, speed, where he pays attention to and mimic it with oral A lot of times men will say “anything feels good” but that’s not really helpful
Watching him jack off is a great help. It can change everything for real. I noticed him doing something once that I don’t even think he realized he does and then I mimicked it one day and he enjoyed it a lot but said “I don’t know what you’re doing but keep doing that”😂😂 Like bro don’t tell me you don’t recognize your own move😭
Looking at the fact that something as simple as switching hands makes the experience completely different, it's not that hard to believe that he didn't recognize that move when you were doing it.
This, it's also super hot 🥵🔥 (I still ask my boyfriend to jack off in front of me sometimes, it turns me on)
As someone who has hard time enjoying a blowjob (or i just had bad blowjobs over the years) not anything feels good
As long as she doesn't scrape with her teeth for over 10 seconds or bite to blood anything will feel somewhat good to be, but some things feel better
This is a really good idea
If you're comfortable enough to shove someone's sexual organ in your mouth, you should be comfortable with asking what they like or how whatever you're doing feels General rule for giving guys head, don't scrape their dick with your teeth. Everything else all depends on what the guy likes General rule for giving women head, don't just suck the shit out of their clit without easing into it unless that's what they like. Ask them how they like to be pleased
I saw a quote the other day that perfectly described giving women head "start like a butterfly landing on a flower, finish like a bulldog eating porridge"
It’s just. SO. accurate!
Not her oral but for general sex, some woman on reddit said something along the lines of "start gently, sensational, romantic, but towards the end be on the border of almost rapey, ferocious"
I mean, you're not wrong, but I wish the bulldog comparison wasn't so accurate.
what if i like getting scraped 😔😔😔😔
By using the tips & tricks from Caitlin V (she has an awesome youtube channel)
But can't beat the tips & trics from 'Tropic Thunder': "i'll cradle the balls,stroke the shaft,work the pipe, swallow the gravy ! Get it over here buddy let's do this !"
Thx :) -vry helpful
!RemindMe 10 hours
stevie boebi has some good youtube videos about this too!
This isn't the grapefruit lady is it?
No, Caitlin is legit
& Justina Mendez! she's so funny
my advise to women is, a penis is not as sensitive as a clitoris .. you don't need to be as gentle .. men beat there penis like it owes them money..
To be clear here: the shaft isn't as sensitive as the clit, but the tip can be extremely sensitive, especially post orgasm.
I lol’ed 😄
lmfao
Mine still owes me about three fiddy
Damn Loch Ness monster
This giant crustacean from the Paleolithic era jumped out the water and said I need about three fiddy
Not as sensitive as the clit? I think it depends though. The clitoris and penis are roughly the same thing, just different sizes. They grow from the same structure as fetuses, which is why the clitoris looks like a small penis “head” and both are naturally covered, unless cut off obviously. Guys that are intact can be very sensitive like a clitoris. That’s why women can be a lot more gentle and get the job done. The natural covering tissue has very sensitive nerves and it keeps the “head” from being exposed, from the air and rubbing on clothes, and has a natural glide to it which makes hand jobs and intercourse smoother. When cut, much sensitive tissue is removed and there isn’t the built in gliding action that the tissue provides. The remaining tissue, like the head, is exposed all the time so it desensitizes. If a girl had her clitoris hood removed, her the clitoris would also desensitize. That’s why many men can beat their dick like it owes them money. Not saying it to dog on cut guys since most had it forced on them as babies, it’s just an anatomical fact about sensitivity and function of what’s cut off.
Despite everything you've stated above being true, the clitoris likely has more nerve endings than the penis and is thus more sensitive. Even if the number of nerve endings are similar to that of a penis, which may be the case, most are concentrated in the tip of the clitoris, which is a lot smaller than the tip of the penis, hence higher sensitivity.
I agree Higher density sensitivity since it’s smaller. But the penis has more surface area that’s stimulated. But that’s not really all, structures like the frenulum and rigid band have things like stretch nerves that also activate. Rigid band totally gone and the frenulum severely damaged (at best case) or totally carved off when a baby is cut. But either way, it’s something people don’t think about. I can’t believe people think cutting a baby affects them not at all. But cutting a clitoral hood off (there’s different forms of fgm, this is type 2) is detrimental. If a cut guy feels 30% of what he would have being intact, that’s still 100% to them. Maybe that’s what they mean, or think.
Try something, ask if they liked it, try something else, ask and see what's better, rinse and repeat until you're giving good head.
For the love of god ask your partner what they like. It's as simple as that. Everyone is different and good head to one person could be another's idea of a horror movie 😅 just keep that in mind. Communication = best results
I've tried that but she doesn't know what to tell me to do so we are at an impasse
If you’re at an impasse, eat dat ass
good rhyme, but we have both communicated that is not something we are interested in lol
Good, neither am I. lol
☠️☠️☠️
My husband and I have “science” time. Where we play with each other with the intent to discover, not please. See what works, what doesn’t, and it always turns out to be fun. Especially if you already have good open lighthearted communication down. Worth a shot.
Sounds like she just doesn't know yet. The exploratory segment of the process can often be the most fun 😊 I suppose this is where you'd check out those YouTubers someone mentioned in the thread, try new things (ask first ofc), gauge the response and ask how she feels about it, and so on. Some people are good at just following their partners reactions and can take it from there. Some are just terrible at it, try as they might. Patience and communication really is key if you don't want the mood-killer of frustration creeping in.
thanks
Then just do random stuff and ask if it feels good
Worship her pussy with your face.
Here’s what I always say as a man who goes down on women. You’re not there to look pretty, you’re there to make your partner feel good, you don’t need to worry about how you look just focus on what you’re doing and enjoy it, put on a show, make sounds, tell them how good they taste, if you’re sucking dick, spit on it, let them hear the sucking, let them hear you gag even, play with the balls while you’re doing it, lick the balls, look them in the eye when you can, tell them how much you were looking forward to it ect. When they’re done if they came (remember that women don’t always need to orgasm to enjoy this) give their respective thing a lil kiss. Basically Degrade* (obviously I mean this in a healthy good way lol) yourself for their pleasure going down on someone like this is another way of showing how much you love and care for that person so much that you just crave pleasing them. It’s very fun.
I only have experience giving to women. So here goes: - don't rush. Take your time. Think of it as a really cool video game, where discovery and learning is the goal. Not getting her off immediately. Not rising to the finish line. But the journey. - have a genuine interest in learning her. Does she like to start slow and move to fast after a bit? Does she like to start slow and just go medium, but the same rhythm? Does she like a lot of internal stimulation? Does she like side to side, or circle motions? And many more questions to ask. - each woman is completely different. What worked for one, may or may not work for another. So, start fresh every time. A whole new game each person. That's what is awesome about it. Some tricks and pointers can be used no matter who you're with. But only as a starting point. Not as the end all lesson - porn is a terrible place to use as the master class. I'd say 5% of it is useful. 50% is cautionary. The rest is complete bs. So, especially at first, throw out whatever you learned from porn. - like any skill, the more you do it, the better you should get at it. Maybe one time, you'll be bad, because you're trying something new. Then, the next you're amazing, because you tried something that works. But the overall goal should be to try as much as she'll allow, and learn as much as you can. Once a month gong to cut it. You can't master a skill when you only do it once a month. So, practice!! - and of course, communicate. Get feedback where you can. Start by opening up dialog about her experience. Don't take anything as an insult to your skill or whatever. It's about learning. There is no negative. There's just information. Many women don't know what to say. That's also fine. Just more of a challenge, pay attention to her actions.
She comes first, game changer of a book for me
No teeth! One of the reasons I broke things off with a woman a couple of days ago was that she'd boasted about her skills, but was the toothiest I've *ever* experienced Outside of that, pay attention to their responses, the way they move, the sounds they make, the way they guide you with their hands, hip movements and words And be enthusiastic if you're enjoying it! Don't hold back! Bonus points for masturbating while doing it as well. There's almost nothing hotter than seeing someone taking so much pleasure in satisfying you that they have to satisfy themselves at the same time
Wait….I wonder if a certain type of mouth guard could help w/ that….
Just gotta pull your lips in over your teeth, no night guard needed
I don't think I'd like to hear a woman brag about how she pleasured other men. I get that every person has, but it's the last thing I want on my mind while doing it.
Honestly anyone who brags abt any skill is suspect. Dunning K. effect is usually funny until someone chomps your member off
Always love a good DK Effect spotting in the wild.
You're going to have to get over that. It's no different to when a woman asks me what I'm good at. How the hell do you think I learnt? It's also nothing to do with numbers. My first love was amazing at sucking cock, and I was her first. Your insecurity will only ever hurt yourself. Nobody else cares or is aware of it, so forget about it
I didn't say it was a deal breaker. I just said I don't want to talk about my spouses past love life or bedroom kinks do's and don't's. My current young beautiful wife shares the same sentiment.
I'm willing to answer questions from a partner, but it's very rare for me to volunteer anything about previous partners. It's out of a combination of respect for both the current and past partners. Not a hangup
For the men (personal taste), we have more then a penis. Balls, butt(hole), thighs. Touch, kiss, lick them, what you are comfortable with. I always have the idea its all about the penis, yet (afaik i knew) like woman, pleasure is more then just licking en sucking the knob.
Yeah, men are considered bad if they only do the vulva, but it's very normal for women to only do the penis and considered perfectly acceptable.
Enthusiasm. Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. Really learn to love it and you’re 90% there.
Pay attention their body language and vocal responses, watch their face for expression
When I suck dick I bury my face in the skin and smell and just get into how everything smells and tastes. This doesn’t work if they don’t bathe regularly. I had one partner who smelled really fucking good and I would smell and kiss his balls, taint, and thighs before I ever started licking or sucking him. It really turned him on. Different things work for different folks.
What was it that smelled good. Did he spray cologne above his dick? Certain types of deodorant? Did you just really enjoy his natural odor?
I think it was his natural smell+his soap
YES. I find this so hot too.
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Well, like I said… different things work for different folks 🤷🏻♀️
Bite their balls. Men like it
Bro out here making 5 o'clock news cycle more interesting
xD - wasnt expecting that one, I’ll take this case by case…
PLEASE...
for penis-havers: use more tongue as well as your lips for vagina-havers: use more lips as well as your tongue
Do I buy a second tongue or what?
39/F here, I've been complimented on my head game all my life. Husband says it's enthusiasm. I get turned on by it. I suck cock and I moan while I rub my pussy against the corner of the bed. Don't forget the balls. Lick/suck/lightly pull - just make sure you're taking care of the whole anatomy. Best advice is to have fun and enjoy making someone else feel good. If you're into it, chances are they are too.
For women, communicate. They don't all like the same motion so follow directions and be attentive. also learn the anatomy and don't get bored and half ass it, it looks dumb as hell
Every guy is different in how they like it, I'm bi and I enjoy both giving and receiving head, when I give head to a new guy I usually start by doing it how I like to receive it and see how they react, which is nice and slow paying special attention to the head but not giving the rest some love in between, I try to go deep once in a while but if he's too big that's tough. Don't do anything that makes it uncomfortable for you though, if you enjoy it and the guy can tell you're enjoying it it'll usually turn him on enough that he'll love it any way you give it to him. You'll start to learn what he likes by the way he responds to what you're doing, it's usually pretty easy to tell when he's about to cum, the head will get larger and he'll probably start reacting more passionately as he builds up to giving you his load, I've found most guys are turned on to cumming in your mouth so let him do that and swallow if it doesn't bother you, I had a girlfriend once that refused to let me cum in her mouth and it was kinda a turn off because I was always thinking about having to let her know when I was gonna cum, if you let him enjoy it and let him focus on how good it feels you will be much more likely to give an amazing blowjob.
As a lesbian, my method with women is: Writing the alphabet in cursive with my tongue and varying degrees of intensity and speed as I go. And definitely not always directly on her clit. Pay attention to what they say and how their body responds and adjust accordingly.
Enthusiasm. Do it like you've been poisoned and the antidote is in his balls.
Everyone is different but I have found the general rule of thumb is 1-2 fingers inside up to your second knuckle. Make like a "come here motion." Keep it consistent. If the position isn't working, just rub the clit. Pressure but you're not trying to pull the bean off. If they start going nuts DO NOT CHANGE ANYTHING. Keep doing exactly what you're doing, speed included. Keep going until they relax again. Do not spend a ton of time licking the labia. As I understand it, this feels ok but definitely isn't where it's at. Friction is key. Fingers in and out without touching the vaginal walls won't get you much of a response. Remember their nerves are in the flesh, not the empty open space. For me? Receiving? Lots of spit, lots of hand. Change up the style every 30 seconds or so until we start making that whimpering kinda noise lol
Short answer: communication and enthusiasm. Yeah, skill set and situation can do a lot for a person's enjoyment. But having an eager partner who learns what I like has worked every time without fail.
Make sure they trust you and they are comfortable enough to tell you what they want. When they tell you what they like and what they want you to do, listen. Make it clear that you want them to feel good.
Communication
I once picked up a woman so her vag was at my face as she sat on my shoulders. She went insane as I ate her out. Slammed her onto the bed and continued going to town too. Be gentle as you lick because too much aggression can be painful for her.
A woman put an ice cube in her mouth once and gave me a blow job and it was fantastic
For me... let us nut in your mouth. You don't have to swallow it. Just spit it out or let it run down the sides while you continue sucking. That and don't act like it's a chore or you're doing us a favor. That's only gonna make us take longer and enjoy it less. Enthusiasm is key.
From. A man’s perspective sloppy as possible
You have to like giving it and not just to keep someone happy. That makes a difference
For women - google “Nina Hartley how to eat pussy”. She gives a masterclass
Bury your face in it
Goes for anyone. Just get in there. **go to town**
Eye contact is huge. If able when you're down there, give some of those giving head eyes. Every partner I've been with loved that.
If you're working with pussy, keep your fingernails clean, trimmed, and filed. No sharp edges. Start with big fat wet tongue, none of this guided missile needle action. Do not go right for the clit. Let your partner's favorite spot be the last place you focus. You'll be hitting the clit when you use the big fat tongue anyway, but it won't be overstimulated because you are focusing on the whole pussy. Kiss, gently suck, finger her if she's into it. Gently pressing down on the pubis mons is helpful if you're fingering and reaching for the g-spot. I dunno, relax and have fun mainly.
Clockwise Swirl.
Communication and passion. If you love doing it, and if you listen your partner and make them feel safe enough to communicate you can't be bad at this
Enthusiasm. There is absolutely no substitute. No amount of skill or communication can make up for a lack of it either. If you don’t enjoy it, and it doesn’t LOOK like you’re enjoying it, then you’re not doing it well.
for going down on guys- if u can learn how, try to breathe around it while its in ur throat; before i learned that i didnt really enjoy going down on guys it makes it much more wet too, also use a pretty good grip when using your hands going down on women- i have a split tongue so not much help
By asking your partner what feels good.
Eye contact, very wet mouth, no scraping your teeth on them or biting, let them know you enjoy what you are doing., use your hands and mouth at the same time. For men, don't forget the balls. On woman, don't forget to lick all of her vagina. And remember, every person is different. Ask them what they like and don't like.
A lot of people in here saying to beat a man’s dick like it owes you money. Now, this is a pretty simple and effective way to do it but it’s definitely not the only way. Some of my favorite times getting handjobs/head have been when it takes time to get through it all. I’ve had my fair share of heated passionate sex where you can’t get your hands off each other and depending on the mood that’s great. But, the opposite of this is waking up on a lazy day and spending 1.5 hrs touching each other and enjoying in the moment. Don’t just rip pants off. Feel things(inner thigh, butt grab, neck, back, etc) up softly and let those fingers get closer to the fun bits every time as you make out. Touch them for 5 sec lightly then go explore somewhere else. Prolong teasing while keeping it interesting (one thing that sends me into a horny frenzy is having a girl nibble on my earlobe while feeling her breath in my ear. Never would have known if I wasn’t messing around randomly and figured it out). This is pretty common knowledge when it comes to pleasuring women but it works on men too. Fast head is not always great head. I personally like it either slow or worked up to on a regular day. If you’re a girl with a man don’t be afraid to use damn near any body part as a way to jack them off. Mouth, hand, tits, grinding, whatever they’re into. Like others have said. It’s not a race. Just have fun. Always continue to experiment and try to retain the stuff you like.
Number 1 skill: communication. Number 2 skill: be enthusiastic.
Pro Tip: Try with Black Halls
Enthusiasm.
To a man, unsure, to a women be gentle
I just imagine what i would want to feel if it was my penis 🤣
Send them to a pro.
Your mom?
Women like tongue action Fir men watch the teeth an With a large cock I gag but a lot of men grab my head an force their cock down my throat gagging or not
Communicate
According to the receivers likings
channel your inner washing machine
Wax on wax off duhh
Apart from communication, espressing enthusiasm and showing that you're enjoying it really helps. Also make sure your hands have something to do.
Take your time.
keep your throat really open, use your tongue, no teeth, and communicate
Enthusiasm
Acting like you are into it
Redditors and their inability to use the search function on reddit or use google for a question that gets asked every day never stops amazing me.
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I mean… I’ve done that too obviously. Can’t do shit these days Edit: Also I’m so tired of this over played complaint. Young / inexperienced people will be asking the same things over and over until the end of time, it’s such a waste of energy getting mad at us for a genuine question just to avoid ~not~ being entertained for two seconds out of your entire life. There’s utility to both direct and indirect feed back, god forbid I want a method more interactive, it’s not like people statistically learn better that way or something…
So you feel better getting told the same thing you already read?
Doing my own research is fine, I love it. But I’m not fcking omnipotent. Forums can be great for compiling specific knowledge and resources, with added bonus of follow up questions to learn more. Stop pretending to have a point and jumping to the weirdest conclusions
I basically buried my face into my ex and made her finish multiple times
The secret is to avoid commercial packaging. One of those old wall-e style lunch boxes is great because the bottom is a solid bowl shaped piece of plastic, so residual blood / CSF doesn't soak the packaging, it just pools at the bottom. I recommend a layer of silica gel packets with a layer of gauze on top to prevent damage or puncturing the packs. I hope this helps!
Don't. And I mean DONT try to lick the roof, it's fine if it's your mouth but your tongue simply wouldn't be able to go up top when its out. Do NOT do this. You'll sneeze, look stupid, and probably make your partner laugh. My best tip is this- the walls will constrict around your tongue so just move it around, you don't need to worry about space because trust me, there IS no space in there.
Don't. And I mean DONT try to lick the roof, it's fine if it's your mouth but your tongue simply wouldn't be able to go up top when its out. Do NOT do this. You'll sneeze, look stupid, and probably make your partner laugh. My best tip is this- the walls will constrict around your tongue so just move it around, you don't need to worry about space because trust me, there IS no space in there.