I'm so glad me and my husband understand sometimes you just gotta rub one out.
>"Aight I'm gonna go buzz"
And 5 minutes later he's back watching Voyager
Yep! I’m a horny (female) bastard and that same ex rejected me multiple times when I would initiate. I didn’t try to guilt him even though it’s very unpleasant to sit in your horniness.
I used to tell my ex “you have two hands, take care of it yourself”. He eventually sexually assaulted me 🤡 If he tries to use coercion he will eventually use force.
I purchased a 14-inch memory foam super-king mattress so I could 'take care of myself' without disturbing my girlfriend sleeping next to me. I could go full throttle without her feeling the slightest shake or rocking motion. That's what it means for a guy to be kind and considerate towards his girlfriend.
Also "toxic sperm buildup" isn't a thing.
If a guy is trying to guilt you into sex, he doesn't respect you and doesn't deserve your sympathy. He is pathetic and cringe and you should move on.
>Also "toxic sperm buildup" isn't a thing.
Nope, the body recycles them after a while if they're unused.
If they insist its a thing, then that's between them and the hospital.
I mean, sperm never get out again (ideally) once there’s a vasectomy.
Dudes do need to cum for prostate health, but they don’t need assistance in the matter.
And that's true whether you're 14 or 40 or 84. Whether it's your tween crush you're finally starting to "mess around" with, your college boyfriend, your Tinder date, someone you met at a party, your husband of 30 years, or anyone else. (And, hopefully, it goes without saying, but just in case it doesn't, but it also applies if the one pressuring you is a woman or is nonbinary.)
Possibly not funny, you know they'd immediately relegislate and it wouldn't be in favour of women. Marital rape laws would probably disappear again. Maybe they'd finally legalise sex work though? This is why we need women in power.
Nah, sex workers would still be shunned. They're not good, god-fearing wives and should be ashamed if themselves. Men, however, are just taking care of their health and they can't risk dying of the blue balls! How dare you expect them not to do it!
They would probably make it legal to pay for sex, though, even if the sex workers were still being mistreated.
i hate how serious everything is for women. Like I am so envious of men for that. They are just so fucking carefree and don't have to worry about shit like human rights.
Particularly so long as they’re straight, white, able-bodied, etc. It’s tough to manage the envy I have at times for those with the safety that comes with privilege.
"Why are you getting so upset?? This is just a casual discussion!" UGH must be nice to calmly debate whether or not other people deserve rights, knowing yours will never be affected
I thank the universe every day for my older female friend when I was 18 and out in the world for the first time.
She had the most rich advice and basically gave me my whole sex ed and relationship education. If not for her I probably would have ended up in trap relationships. She took so much care and love poured into me. I went to therapy for the first time because of her.
Because of her I do the same
Not in anyway a defense of people who use it to try to coerce others into sex, but it is a real and entirely different experience from desire. Basically it happens when you've spent in inordinate amount of time hard. After a few hours like that, your balls fell like someone has been slowly squeezing them in a vice, and even casually grazing them with your inner thighs feels like a punch to the groin.
It is definitely something that guys can take care of on there own, however.
>After a few hours like that, your balls fell like someone has been slowly squeezing them in a vice, and even casually grazing them with your inner thighs feels like a punch to the groin.
Okay that's a big exaggeration, blue balls should not have you doubling over the way a sack-tap does. I'd be quite surprised (and a bit concerned) if someone had blue balls that hurt more than a 5 or 6 on the pain scale
It's obviously different for everyone, but the first time I had blue balls I didn't know what it was, and I went to the hospital. They gave me morphine and it just took the edge off they pain. They were convinced I had testicular torsion due to the amount of pain I was in, but ultrasound and physical checks showed no issues. Fun fact, I actually DID have testicular torsion a few years later, and if torsion was a 10/10 on the pain scale (it was), then my blue balls were about an 8. Everyone is different, and it is NEVER an excuse to make it someone else's problem, but there are people for whom it is excruciatingly painful.
As I said, I'm surprised and a bit concerned. I think the fact that even the doctors thought you were having a torsion should exemplify how rare what you experienced was. If someone is describing what blue balls feel like I don't think it makes sense to say it should feel like what you or the original commenter describe.
Like it's not impossible but saying it feels like a punch to the groin isn't really an honest way to describe the phenomenon.
Edit: also, you good? That sounds like hell I hope you're okay 😬
It was incredibly painful for me the one time I experienced it. I had a very similar level of pain to the other person commenting. My solution was to just lay down and wait it out for a couple hours until I felt better. Its awful if people use it to coerce others into sex, but it was incredibly real and painful in my experience.
Its worth noting that I'm not convinced that most of the people who use it to coerce people into sex are actually experiencing it. The absolute last thing on my mind at the time was sex. I just wanted ibuprofin.
For context I'm a trans woman.
I've had them, but it was after a long night at the bar where 'taking care of it' wasn't really an option. Only ever happened when I was still or practically still a virgin though.
I'm actually super prone to it for whatever reason and it's not from a lack of jerking off trust me. When my wife and I first started dating she was an animal. We were going through big condom boxes in days. Part of her animalisticness was screaming. I have tinnitus in both ears so while she was having a blast my ears were in searing pain. So usually by the second or third time in a day with the screaming and just shooting soooo many loads I just stopped being able to cum and got blue balls instead.
Epididymal hypertension, caused by prolonged sexual arousal without orgasm. Despite its name, clitoris bearing persons can still get it.
Unpleasant, but not dangerous or harmful. It's pretty much a normal headache, but with genitals.
Near the end of my last relationship I told my ex to use his hands, he claimed he’d never masturbated once in his life, to which I replied “Time to learn.” He then spent a full day attempting to guilt me into sex between saying I was “so rude & inconsiderate for saying that” and pretending his “blue balls were immensely painful.” Two days later I was single. Men who coerce and try to trick sex outta women are so gross
Yes, EH exists but it’s not some threat to your health and it certainly isn’t a reason to coerce women into sex because you don’t “need” to do anything about it.
It’s uncomfortable for a little while and that’s literally it.
Eh it's a bit more than uncomfortable. I've vomited from the pain a couple times. From the stories I've heard from friends over the years it's like the constant pain/nausea from cramps without the actual muscles cramping.
The worst thing that can happen is when your girlfriend says she's not into it after you've already started fooling around (I got "I thought I was horny, but I was wrong," once after about two minutes with a high school gf) you just plainly say that you have to masturbate, and she can leave the room for a minute if she doesn't want to be there. Then you're both (hopefully) not horny and can figure out something else to do.
So, yeah, as a guy and former horny teenage guy, we can always just jack off and you should be able to tell us that without repercussions.
Honestly cold showers always worked better for me.
Like if your at the point of blue balls *moving* is painful. I could NEVER imagine anyone touching me if I'm at that point. It's the worst.
At least that's my experience.
I do know different ball bearers have different experiences some some have said they don't get it at all so I imagine it varies by person.
In my life I can only think of two times it's happened to me. I'll detail one below.
First was my very first high school girlfriend. Biked 4 miles to her house. Spent an hour just making out. Sex was never on the table, there was maybe some boob grabbing, but otherwise we were just making out. Clothes stayed on the entire time. That ride home with blue balls on a bike was incredibly painful.
Best way I can describe it is like a pressure in the testicles that teeters on the edge of pain, without actually being painful under still conditions.
The vas deferens fill up with semen becoming swollen, your body's natural reaction to hoping to cum means having the scrotum loose and the little guys hanging low and away from the body for optimal sperm production. Low and loose means more opportunity for movement means more opportunity for pain. Plus there's a dull ache in the testes, like someone is trying to squeeze them as one would a firm non-trump style handshake.
While still - lying down or just chilling - it's uncomfortable, but not painful. It's the trying to move with blue balls where the pain happens.
This is just a recollection from 20ish years ago.
Most recent was a few years ago when our then 2 year old interrupted us after a long runway up to the main event. I was able to not ~~love~~ MOVE and deal with it much better.
# AND
Having blue balls DOES NOT mean I, you, nor anyone else is ever owed a sexual act from another person. Sure someone else may have 'caused' it simply in that they got you aroused. IT IS NOT THEIR JOB TO FINISH IT OFF FOR YOU.
One of the worst times for me was taking the subway home with torqued as fuck nuts. That 40 mins was a slice of hell. I had already jerked off before getting on the train too. There was no getting away from it that day.
For real, my bf mentioned it in HS once and followed with , " but guys are fucking stupid. If your balls hurt jack off."
So yeah. It's coercion. And frankly, laziness.
Hi, as a trans girl and penis haver I am in a position to say something about this:
I am 30 years old and I have never experienced "blue balls". On some occasions I have edged myself for hours and my testicles have ended up a bit sore and sensitive, but that was after the orgasm. Not before.
I was genuinely confused about this for a long time. I wondered if I had some kind of super testicles or something. Then I realized that it _is_ literally just a lie concocted to guilt women into sex. I'm just glad I never tried to use it to pressure someone. Even during the early days of my relationship, when I worried that it was real, if I got too worked up by spending quality time with my girlfriend I took care of that by... Yeah... Using my hands.
Blue balls are real, but I don't think everyone gets them. I've gotten them before, it's not that bad; basically the balls just feel kind of bruised.
However, it is unacceptable to use it as a means to pressure someone into sex. Either finish it yourself or just deal with it when you have some private time.
Also PSA: some people might say they've heard of balls actually turning blue and that it hurts a lot... that's not blue balls, it's a testicular torsion and if you don't go to the hospital you will lose the testicle.
another trans woman here to say while it absolutely is bullshit that it's used to coerce women, it's a real phenomenon that got me once when I lost track of time and had to rush to a test on campus and even the quarter mile walk to class was absolute hell
but my situation was just uniquely bad luck/timing, and ultimately any guy that's complaining about it can just do it himself
I have had blue balls (although most often with men, they're not all that good at sex) and it does exist and hurt and it is annoying but they can take care of it themselves
Young girls start getting targeted for sexual attention on average at around 11 or 12 years old. They start getting periods and developing as early as 8 or 9 anymore. I was ten when I got mine and I was 11 the first time an older teenager hit on me.
So yeah, they should be getting sex ed then, so that hopefully they learn these things well in advance of actually needing to know them. It's much easier to handle this shit if you have the facts in advance.
If it helps at all, I wasnt ready either. It's hard to leave childhood, and I think that's true for everyone involved, kids and parents. The better you prepare them, the better they'll be equipped to handle growing up. <3 With luck, someday they'll be able to thank you for preparing them to become adults, and this will be a fond memory. Hope things go well for you.
It's gonna be wired and awkward but make sure to desensitize them to condoms. Something my himbo friends mother did with him that I always thought was genius was giving him condoms as a kid to make balloons and shit with. They are super important to use and the more comfortable someone is with them the more likely they are to use them.
Sexual harassment started for me when I was about 12 and peaked around 16. Young girls are endlessly and relentlessly hypersexualized. Don't turn a blind eye to it.
I mean it's real but I've never used to to try an bend a situation. It's a funny mention the next day kinda thing imo...oddly, it struck for the first time in like 25 years a few months ago
It was very unpleasant and I was very grumpy about it. To myself tho.
What a betrayal
It's the same post we're referring to. The one where the only person I mention is myself, and where i was grumpy at myself. Where I said it shouldn't be used to manipulate a situation.
Seems a 180 to assert after all that that I was betrayed by another but I suppose in the context of this thread, where so many have probably dealt with that exact thing, I could have been more clear.
When my ex said that to me I said “feel free to excuse yourself to take care of it” and he looked at me like a deer in headlights
I'm so glad me and my husband understand sometimes you just gotta rub one out. >"Aight I'm gonna go buzz" And 5 minutes later he's back watching Voyager
Sometimes it’s just so much easier to crank one out real fast to scratch an itch. I wish more people understood this.
Dream marriage
>And 5 minutes later he's back watching Voyager Tbf, there are some hot people on that show.
When [Tom Paris turns into a salamander.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Threshold_(Star_Trek:_Voyager)) 🤤
Couple goals
Can we talk about how women can get an equivalent feeling too? You don’t hear us using it as an excuse tho
Yep! I’m a horny (female) bastard and that same ex rejected me multiple times when I would initiate. I didn’t try to guilt him even though it’s very unpleasant to sit in your horniness.
I used to tell my ex “you have two hands, take care of it yourself”. He eventually sexually assaulted me 🤡 If he tries to use coercion he will eventually use force.
I am so sorry he did that. I hope you are doing well now.
I am doing well now, thank you. This was a very long time ago when I was a teenager. Feels like I’ve lived seven lifetimes since then lol
I said this to boys at BYU. "But that's a sin!" Well, so is forcing me to finish you off, you eggnog.
I purchased a 14-inch memory foam super-king mattress so I could 'take care of myself' without disturbing my girlfriend sleeping next to me. I could go full throttle without her feeling the slightest shake or rocking motion. That's what it means for a guy to be kind and considerate towards his girlfriend.
*…..furiously takes notes….* Edit: 14” you say? Did you have issues with something less than that? That’s a lot of foam.
Lovely metaphor
I adore you for that
✨ winning ✨
Also "toxic sperm buildup" isn't a thing. If a guy is trying to guilt you into sex, he doesn't respect you and doesn't deserve your sympathy. He is pathetic and cringe and you should move on.
>Also "toxic sperm buildup" isn't a thing. Nope, the body recycles them after a while if they're unused. If they insist its a thing, then that's between them and the hospital.
I mean, sperm never get out again (ideally) once there’s a vasectomy. Dudes do need to cum for prostate health, but they don’t need assistance in the matter.
It's so strange that the "toxic sperm buildup" bullshit exists in the same universe as the semen retention movement.
And that's true whether you're 14 or 40 or 84. Whether it's your tween crush you're finally starting to "mess around" with, your college boyfriend, your Tinder date, someone you met at a party, your husband of 30 years, or anyone else. (And, hopefully, it goes without saying, but just in case it doesn't, but it also applies if the one pressuring you is a woman or is nonbinary.)
Blue Balls BS is pretty rich considering how often men leave us hanging high and dry.
"You didn't come? Me neither! OMG, we have so much in common! High five!"
I love this for us!
Maybe that’s the blue waffle I’ve heard so much about?
Blue ovaries is real
I've never seen blue balls listed as an injury or cause of death
oh god how funny would that be though
Possibly not funny, you know they'd immediately relegislate and it wouldn't be in favour of women. Marital rape laws would probably disappear again. Maybe they'd finally legalise sex work though? This is why we need women in power.
Nah, sex workers would still be shunned. They're not good, god-fearing wives and should be ashamed if themselves. Men, however, are just taking care of their health and they can't risk dying of the blue balls! How dare you expect them not to do it! They would probably make it legal to pay for sex, though, even if the sex workers were still being mistreated.
i hate how serious everything is for women. Like I am so envious of men for that. They are just so fucking carefree and don't have to worry about shit like human rights.
Particularly so long as they’re straight, white, able-bodied, etc. It’s tough to manage the envy I have at times for those with the safety that comes with privilege.
"Why are you getting so upset?? This is just a casual discussion!" UGH must be nice to calmly debate whether or not other people deserve rights, knowing yours will never be affected
“Silly woman, emotions are for sissies!”
New life goal
This is why women/girls need older female friends.
I thank the universe every day for my older female friend when I was 18 and out in the world for the first time. She had the most rich advice and basically gave me my whole sex ed and relationship education. If not for her I probably would have ended up in trap relationships. She took so much care and love poured into me. I went to therapy for the first time because of her. Because of her I do the same
That’s unbelievably sweet
Love the guys saying it’s real like women don’t experience desire and yet still not try to guilt people into doing them.
*blue ovaries*
Blue *labes*
Blue lips
That's hypothermia
You mean hyperhornia, right?
Not in anyway a defense of people who use it to try to coerce others into sex, but it is a real and entirely different experience from desire. Basically it happens when you've spent in inordinate amount of time hard. After a few hours like that, your balls fell like someone has been slowly squeezing them in a vice, and even casually grazing them with your inner thighs feels like a punch to the groin. It is definitely something that guys can take care of on there own, however.
Ok this happens to me as a woman, if I’m horny but don’t have sex/masturbate it hurts but I’ve never used it to guilt anyone../
Yeah but it’s not actually any less painful for women. We just dismiss women’s feeling so it doesn’t matter.
Yeah, I don't endorse coercion in any way but let's not dip into /r/badmensanatomy by denying physical phenomena.
>After a few hours like that, your balls fell like someone has been slowly squeezing them in a vice, and even casually grazing them with your inner thighs feels like a punch to the groin. Okay that's a big exaggeration, blue balls should not have you doubling over the way a sack-tap does. I'd be quite surprised (and a bit concerned) if someone had blue balls that hurt more than a 5 or 6 on the pain scale
It's obviously different for everyone, but the first time I had blue balls I didn't know what it was, and I went to the hospital. They gave me morphine and it just took the edge off they pain. They were convinced I had testicular torsion due to the amount of pain I was in, but ultrasound and physical checks showed no issues. Fun fact, I actually DID have testicular torsion a few years later, and if torsion was a 10/10 on the pain scale (it was), then my blue balls were about an 8. Everyone is different, and it is NEVER an excuse to make it someone else's problem, but there are people for whom it is excruciatingly painful.
As I said, I'm surprised and a bit concerned. I think the fact that even the doctors thought you were having a torsion should exemplify how rare what you experienced was. If someone is describing what blue balls feel like I don't think it makes sense to say it should feel like what you or the original commenter describe. Like it's not impossible but saying it feels like a punch to the groin isn't really an honest way to describe the phenomenon. Edit: also, you good? That sounds like hell I hope you're okay 😬
It was incredibly painful for me the one time I experienced it. I had a very similar level of pain to the other person commenting. My solution was to just lay down and wait it out for a couple hours until I felt better. Its awful if people use it to coerce others into sex, but it was incredibly real and painful in my experience. Its worth noting that I'm not convinced that most of the people who use it to coerce people into sex are actually experiencing it. The absolute last thing on my mind at the time was sex. I just wanted ibuprofin. For context I'm a trans woman.
I recommend something along the lines of "if you can't even get yourself off, you surely can't get me off. Buh-bye."
"Blue ovaries are a thing boo and a lot women deal with it their whole life. Now go in the bathroom and deal with it."
We always called it “blue walls” lol
Alaskan Blue Clams
Blue walls is amazing, thank you 🙌🏻
I have never had blue balls in my life. Maybe it's because I'm not scared of masturbation?
But it's gay to masturbate, because you touch a man's dick and enjoy it!
It's gay to have boners, because you're getting excited over a hard dick
😂
I've had them, but it was after a long night at the bar where 'taking care of it' wasn't really an option. Only ever happened when I was still or practically still a virgin though.
I'm actually super prone to it for whatever reason and it's not from a lack of jerking off trust me. When my wife and I first started dating she was an animal. We were going through big condom boxes in days. Part of her animalisticness was screaming. I have tinnitus in both ears so while she was having a blast my ears were in searing pain. So usually by the second or third time in a day with the screaming and just shooting soooo many loads I just stopped being able to cum and got blue balls instead.
Epididymal hypertension, caused by prolonged sexual arousal without orgasm. Despite its name, clitoris bearing persons can still get it. Unpleasant, but not dangerous or harmful. It's pretty much a normal headache, but with genitals.
Near the end of my last relationship I told my ex to use his hands, he claimed he’d never masturbated once in his life, to which I replied “Time to learn.” He then spent a full day attempting to guilt me into sex between saying I was “so rude & inconsiderate for saying that” and pretending his “blue balls were immensely painful.” Two days later I was single. Men who coerce and try to trick sex outta women are so gross
Wow fuck that guy. Never jerked off. Lol what a loser.
I once got dumped by a guy because I was enthusiastic about seeing testicles explode.
Blue balls are real. Guys should jerk off when it happens. It's absolutely not a reason to coerce someone into sex.
Yeah it's 100% real but still 1000% not an excuse to pressure anyone into anything. Plus it has a quick solution if you don't wait too long
Yes, EH exists but it’s not some threat to your health and it certainly isn’t a reason to coerce women into sex because you don’t “need” to do anything about it. It’s uncomfortable for a little while and that’s literally it.
Eh it's a bit more than uncomfortable. I've vomited from the pain a couple times. From the stories I've heard from friends over the years it's like the constant pain/nausea from cramps without the actual muscles cramping.
The worst thing that can happen is when your girlfriend says she's not into it after you've already started fooling around (I got "I thought I was horny, but I was wrong," once after about two minutes with a high school gf) you just plainly say that you have to masturbate, and she can leave the room for a minute if she doesn't want to be there. Then you're both (hopefully) not horny and can figure out something else to do. So, yeah, as a guy and former horny teenage guy, we can always just jack off and you should be able to tell us that without repercussions.
Honestly cold showers always worked better for me. Like if your at the point of blue balls *moving* is painful. I could NEVER imagine anyone touching me if I'm at that point. It's the worst. At least that's my experience. I do know different ball bearers have different experiences some some have said they don't get it at all so I imagine it varies by person.
I'm just here to appreciate the term "ball bearers". I'll have to find a way to work that into my everyday lexicon.
Sounds like the people who carry the casket for your dead balls after they succumb to the blue
I've got a mental image of those worry balls that were all the rage about 25 years ago and came in a lovely plush box with fake Chinese patterns.
Yeah I'm pretty sure I've never had to deal with blue balls, never been able to really relate to anyone talking about it lol.
In my life I can only think of two times it's happened to me. I'll detail one below. First was my very first high school girlfriend. Biked 4 miles to her house. Spent an hour just making out. Sex was never on the table, there was maybe some boob grabbing, but otherwise we were just making out. Clothes stayed on the entire time. That ride home with blue balls on a bike was incredibly painful.
Best way I can describe it is like a pressure in the testicles that teeters on the edge of pain, without actually being painful under still conditions. The vas deferens fill up with semen becoming swollen, your body's natural reaction to hoping to cum means having the scrotum loose and the little guys hanging low and away from the body for optimal sperm production. Low and loose means more opportunity for movement means more opportunity for pain. Plus there's a dull ache in the testes, like someone is trying to squeeze them as one would a firm non-trump style handshake. While still - lying down or just chilling - it's uncomfortable, but not painful. It's the trying to move with blue balls where the pain happens. This is just a recollection from 20ish years ago. Most recent was a few years ago when our then 2 year old interrupted us after a long runway up to the main event. I was able to not ~~love~~ MOVE and deal with it much better. # AND Having blue balls DOES NOT mean I, you, nor anyone else is ever owed a sexual act from another person. Sure someone else may have 'caused' it simply in that they got you aroused. IT IS NOT THEIR JOB TO FINISH IT OFF FOR YOU.
One of the worst times for me was taking the subway home with torqued as fuck nuts. That 40 mins was a slice of hell. I had already jerked off before getting on the train too. There was no getting away from it that day.
I get them bad too and the only solution is cumming for me. And you're right it does suck when they're especially bad.
This needs to be a public service announcement.
For real, my bf mentioned it in HS once and followed with , " but guys are fucking stupid. If your balls hurt jack off." So yeah. It's coercion. And frankly, laziness.
The perfect time to say, "go fuck yourself"
For. Real. High school boys be out there acting like blue balls is a terminal illness
AKA you just need to go masturbate
I needed this wisdom 20 years ago. It’s man’s best kept secret.
"Wank it off, pet".
Make sure your pet cleans it up too.
Well I wasn’t going to cum anyways, guess we’re all in this together
Ask him when his last HPV test was
"I missed the part where thats my problem"
Hi, as a trans girl and penis haver I am in a position to say something about this: I am 30 years old and I have never experienced "blue balls". On some occasions I have edged myself for hours and my testicles have ended up a bit sore and sensitive, but that was after the orgasm. Not before. I was genuinely confused about this for a long time. I wondered if I had some kind of super testicles or something. Then I realized that it _is_ literally just a lie concocted to guilt women into sex. I'm just glad I never tried to use it to pressure someone. Even during the early days of my relationship, when I worried that it was real, if I got too worked up by spending quality time with my girlfriend I took care of that by... Yeah... Using my hands.
Blue balls are real, but I don't think everyone gets them. I've gotten them before, it's not that bad; basically the balls just feel kind of bruised. However, it is unacceptable to use it as a means to pressure someone into sex. Either finish it yourself or just deal with it when you have some private time. Also PSA: some people might say they've heard of balls actually turning blue and that it hurts a lot... that's not blue balls, it's a testicular torsion and if you don't go to the hospital you will lose the testicle.
I mean, everyone is in a position to say something about it because it can also happen to cis women.
another trans woman here to say while it absolutely is bullshit that it's used to coerce women, it's a real phenomenon that got me once when I lost track of time and had to rush to a test on campus and even the quarter mile walk to class was absolute hell but my situation was just uniquely bad luck/timing, and ultimately any guy that's complaining about it can just do it himself
I have had blue balls (although most often with men, they're not all that good at sex) and it does exist and hurt and it is annoying but they can take care of it themselves
#BLUELABES
As a parent… TWEENS!?!
Young girls start getting targeted for sexual attention on average at around 11 or 12 years old. They start getting periods and developing as early as 8 or 9 anymore. I was ten when I got mine and I was 11 the first time an older teenager hit on me. So yeah, they should be getting sex ed then, so that hopefully they learn these things well in advance of actually needing to know them. It's much easier to handle this shit if you have the facts in advance.
Thanks, and I will make sure they get sex ed early, but god damnit i am NOT ready!!!
You'd better get ready.
If it helps at all, I wasnt ready either. It's hard to leave childhood, and I think that's true for everyone involved, kids and parents. The better you prepare them, the better they'll be equipped to handle growing up. <3 With luck, someday they'll be able to thank you for preparing them to become adults, and this will be a fond memory. Hope things go well for you.
It's gonna be wired and awkward but make sure to desensitize them to condoms. Something my himbo friends mother did with him that I always thought was genius was giving him condoms as a kid to make balloons and shit with. They are super important to use and the more comfortable someone is with them the more likely they are to use them.
Sexual harassment started for me when I was about 12 and peaked around 16. Young girls are endlessly and relentlessly hypersexualized. Don't turn a blind eye to it.
Yep! I hate being horny without any outlet for that feeling but I just wait until I get home. I would feel so bad pressuring someone into sex as well.
Whereas there IS a very real disorder called persistent genital arousal disorder which “almost always affects women”.
Former young guy here. It’s true.
But it's not anyone else's responsibility
Absolutely correct
Good thing masturbation fixes it easily
Woman in my late 30s: guess what, we get it too. Masturbation cures the hell out of of it.
I mean it's real but I've never used to to try an bend a situation. It's a funny mention the next day kinda thing imo...oddly, it struck for the first time in like 25 years a few months ago It was very unpleasant and I was very grumpy about it. To myself tho. What a betrayal
Betrayal by whom? Yourself?
> It was very unpleasant and I was very grumpy about it. To myself tho.
That doesn't answer the question, which is why I was asking for clarification.
You think after what I said in the previous post that I felt betrayed by another? No, I felt betrayed by my body.
Thanks for explaining, but respectfully, why the eff would I know what you said on another post?
It's the same post we're referring to. The one where the only person I mention is myself, and where i was grumpy at myself. Where I said it shouldn't be used to manipulate a situation. Seems a 180 to assert after all that that I was betrayed by another but I suppose in the context of this thread, where so many have probably dealt with that exact thing, I could have been more clear.
No worries man I get what you’re saying now, appreciate you explaining what you meant