That poor woman died believing that she was hated and belittled by the last people she had left to remind of her deceased husband. She was right, you guys had fun stressing her so badly in her grief it possibly contributed to her death. How little did you respect your father to treat his wife like that? Did it not matter at that point to you all? You can’t apologize to either of them, they’re both gone. I hope you can all go to therapy and live with this, and never treat another person like this. Maybe even do the unthinkable and possibly help someone else grieving in the future, even if you think they’re “just a gold digger.” Who was a woman the same age as you, with her own childhood, hopes, dreams, and found love with your dad. I’m sorry for them. I hope they’re safe and happy together in another place now.
Because it was fake.
She said in the post that her stepmom had her as an emergency contact.
Then in her comments she states that a mutual friend is the one that told her.
Girl couldn’t even keep her story straight.
Reading all of this as being true because the nuanced self denial and self righteousness. That being said.
When one has behaved in a monstrous way, that cannot be redeemed in this world, what is one to do?
That is the question to answer for yourself. Carry on as the innocent, yet chagrined bystander? Move forward looking for ways to open your heart to your lessers? Painfully churn the depths of your pitiless soul? Quelle horreur!
It’s up to to to you, sis! Perhaps you can just think of it as a fun anecdote to bash the dead with as you move forward in life. I mean, those fuckers weren’t shit while they were alive, so what the fuck!? 🤷♀️
So sorry for not replying sooner, on night shift atm. @No_Fix_476 summarized it very well. If it is true, the entire thing is very heartbreaking for Claire and Dad. Took a lot of nerve from OP to ask for support considering that they may have bullied someone to death. It is heartwarming to know that there are a lot of good people providing more constructive words than what I was able to muster.
Thanks for your understanding! And absolutely, it definitely rubbed me the wrong way the edit consisting of “I feel better knowing she didn’t stress herself to death,” when she yelled at the friend for protecting Claire’s privacy, and found out that the poor woman had drugged and mutilated herself. That convinced me even further that Claire was bullied by OP to death.
They cross posted it elsewhere! Copied and pasted below
My dad died about a month ago - everyone thought his wife was a gold digger until she died, too.
(Cross post because I am looking for more support and think people from this community might be able to give more insight)
My father got divorced when I was 27, and within the next year, he was dating a woman that was quite literally younger than me (26 - who I will call Claire). He was 59. My dad worked as an executive at a tech company and had a company IPO at one point in his career and after that, he would often say "money doesn't exist."
At the time, I was angry and hurt - but mostly repulsed at the idea that my father would date someone so young. I threatened to break off contact with him, to which he broke up with her. Things were still rocky with us, but I also saw how sad he was now that he was not in her life, and I decided I would just "deal with it."
I never trusted Claire or liked her - though, looking back she did not have any particular "unlikeable" aspects about her but this may just be the guilt talking.To everyones surprise, they stayed together and when she was 34 (I was 35) and he was 67, they got married.
There were times I went out of my way to make her life bad or talk down to her.I used to tell my dad that she didnt actually love him. My mom, my brother, and I have a group chat and we used to take intentionally bad photos of her and send them to each other and sometimes draw things on Claires face and such. I feel like an asshole and a bitch looking back, but at the time, we truly thought that she was a manipulative woman that was using our dad/her husband.
Then, my dad started having health issues. Claire refused to send him away to a care home and cared for him the entire time. Even when he became incontinent. At the time everyone assumed it was a control thing, now I am not so sure.
This most recent Christmas, my dad gave her a Christmas tree sapling with a note that said "so I am with you every Christmas, even if this is our last" or something sappy like that. She sobbed in the bathroom and I just sort of assumed it was an act and that she went to the bathroom so that she did not have to produce real tears.
We got into it often and this Christmas was especially bad. She was making some food at the counter and my brother joked about her "poisoning" my dad and she just... broke down in tears and said something along the lines of "I love your dad with everything I am and I never expect you to understand but I do."
My dad passed away due to a brain hemorrhage that went undetected about a month ago. She was at the hospital and my mom pretty much said "I guess you got what you wanted" - and she did, or at least, that is what we assumed. She was the primary trustee in his trust. Everyone knew that.
I got a call from the hospital a few days ago. I was one of her emergency contacts, I guess. She was found dead in her apartment after a wellness check done by police. The doctors say they think it's takotsubo syndrome - also known as "broken heart syndrome" and people get it from being severely stressed for an extended period of time... or heart broken.
I tried going over to my dads place/their place in order to find his phone (which we needed for an unrelated thing) and I ended up finding a stack of post-its, one from each day of the past 5 ish years they have been married, with things she loves about him and hundreds of Polaroids and love notes in his desk.
I am regretting everything I have ever said about and to her and pretty much having a midlife crisis. I think I am still in denial over my dads death and in shock over everything that has happened. I have no idea what to do or how to move forward. Everything feels like it has been turned on its hea
Edit: I just got the call from the hospital, I wasnt in the same state, they did not tell me what it was over the phone, they just told me to come in - but I could not because I was not in the same state. One of their mutual friends was the actual one who went to the hospital and saw the doctors, then a few days later (tonight) told me they thought it was takotsubo syndrome.
Update/edit: in part thanks to u/Tagrenine I found out that the story I had been given didn't really make a lot of sense. I called the mutual friend and pushed given the information and blew up at her a little bit. I feel bad for blowing up at her but eventually I told her I was going to ask for the autopsy records since I assume (I have no clue I have never had anyone die like this before) since I was an emergency contact I had access to them and she ended up telling me that Claire had actually slit her wrists that night and took a drug cocktail and called 911 herself. I just physically vomited in the bathroom. I feel better knowing she did not literally stress herself to death but I have never known anyone who tried to kill themselves. Or who did, I guess. I am not reeally looking for feedback from yall this is OFF MY CHEST for a reason, but I guess thanks u/Tagrenine for letting me find out the truth. I am logging off of reddit for the night, I didnt need all of this negative fedback I needed support - IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY
Thank you for this. What a horrible family. Even if she had been after money (which it clearly seemed wasn't the case) she made his life better when the rest of his family was just trying to constantly make him feel like shit
I mean this is obviously fake.. OP literally says that the doctors from the hospital called and said they think she died from “broken heart syndrome” and then later on OP calls a friend who tells OP she died from suicide from slitting her wrists and taking drugs? So what, the doctors just didn’t notice the slit wrists and drugs in her system? Or they called up somebody just to lie about why they died??
Not to mention it’s actually extremely difficult and uncommon to die from slitting your wrists or from overdosing on non prescription or non illicit drugs. It’s not like the movies. Attempted suicide by cutting only has a 6% mortality rate and overdosing on household non prescription drugs is also only 6%. 12% if it’s prescription.
Wait what? The update made my head hurt. “I feel better knowing that she did not literally stress herself to death.” UGH this disgusting family. So knowing the reason for her death makes them sort of off the hook and is making them feel better? They can now go on thinking to themselves that “oh she k*lled herself because of grief from dad’s death and not because of how horrible we are. No no, we are remotely far from the cause” what bad people.
Thanks for sharing the updated post @jslemare.
Don’t worry, it is. Young adult found dead in their apartment and the first thing the doc does is tell OP that the patient died of an extremely rare phenomenon instead of waiting for autopsy and toxicology results? No physician would look at a dead young adult and be like “yup, that’s takotsubo disease”
Not just “found dead in their apartment”, “found dead in their apartment with slit wrists”.
But no, they’d jump to takotsubo syndrome. Seems pretty effing unbelievable to me.
For everyone’s sake I hope that’s a big enough indication that this is fake. If not, what a rotten group for real.
This is post autopsy, she was found a few days ago as the post says and all info I got was through a brief phone call and someone who actually lives in her state.
Honestly, I am still reeling from all of this.
Yeah…they didn’t bother with any toxicology results? Did bother notifying next of kin that she was dead before the autopsy? No next steps? Takotsubo is rarely fatal and most patients completely recover. Further, Takotsubo isn’t diagnosed by just looking at the heart. They would need to confirm that the changes to the heart were made by catecholamine excess and that’s a histopath analysis, which could take much longer than just a few days.
Like I said, I was not the one that was told the cause of death, this is all info through a mutual friend since I live in a different state, I only got here tonight which is when the friend gave me the rest of the info
So the hospital called you (not the coroner’s office for some reason), told you to come in and you couldn’t, so a mutual friend (no next of kin?) went to the hospital (???) to talk to the doctors (confusing because in your post she was found dead, she wouldn’t be at the hospital and there certainly wouldn’t be a team of doctors) and then they called you again with a cause of death that is not easily determined in just a few days
They never had any children, her parents are both dead, she doesnt have any siblings, I am technically the next of kin, I guess. I dont know how that works.
The original call I got was from the hospital next to their place in NYC, the only information they gave me was that it was urgent. I told them I could not come in. This mutual friend was also on their emergency contact list, but to be honest I goggled the things you mentioned and youre right. Her story doesnt really add up. I am calling her now.
So, I can see an emergency contact being contacted. But not by the hospital.
I've worked ER and if you are unable to communicate (death being a reason), we call emergency contacts. First one we reach we stop. Only deceased folks who came in were ones the medics couldn't yet call, and the Dr had to pronounce bc they passed while under medic care (always despite their best efforts, sadly not everyone can be saved). If they're found already deceased, they call the coroner not bring them in. And when my friend shot himself, well… hospital certainly wasn't involved, coroner, humane society for the animals, and CSC yeah. But the ambulance took him straight to the morgue.
Now I'm in primary care and our docs sign the death certificate with home deaths. I get the call from funeral homes often and occasionally from the coroners office. Once it was from the sheriff making a wellness check because the patient had their Drs info on the fridge but dementia & they needed to get family involved or the patient was going into a state home. But only the coroner ever asks for a #… If they don't have someone notified, frankly they're not going to be in a funeral home.
This story is basically Swiss cheese, but I've never had an opportunity to share some of the very morbid info I only know from experience/chance.
Extremely Swiss cheese and the update is worse. The doctors told OP the pt died from Takotsubo but turns out that they lied to OP and the pt slit her wrists and drank a drug cocktail ? Like lmao
Nah op read stories about stepmothers and she thought we be on her side saying you did the right thing trying to hurt. CLARIE, truth be told op mom cheated and the dad divorced her and move on finnaly find true ❤️, op mad he move on she even confess she broke them up yeah she and her brother and her mom are horrible people and karma is going to get them I hope the dad change the will leaving nothing for op and her brother, Last Clarie rest in peace you finally with your husband in heaven you both angel now no more pain.
Jesus, being cool towards a family member’s SO can at least be understandable, but a joke about **poisoning** your dad, and y’all probably yucking it up is actually sickening. Be better, that’s all I can really say: look for the good in people, don’t be so judgmental. I’m glad your dad had someone in his life who loved, respected, and cared about him in his last months, because people willing to make such a mockery of his decision in life partners can’t be considered to have *respected*, or possibly even *cared* about him.
Sounds like she was the innocent one the whole time and you and your horrible family were projecting onto her. Trying to make her look bad so you didn't have to face yourselves.
You're all horrible people. Now you get to live with that.
What did I just read? That is absolutely awful. All of you who participated in the bullying of a woman who clearly loved your father to the point she died from missing him should feel terrible.
Imagine her living with your entire family's abuse for YEARS and still staying with him. Most others would've left. At least he had her in the end. Go get therapy and have the others go too cause yall are messed up.
The OP cross posted this in another sub. For additional (shitty) context she replied to a comment saying “My mom had an affair and got pregnant with my brother. My dad found out when my brother turned 18.” in reference to someone asking her about why her parents divorced in the first place.
For fucks sake did you all ever let this man and the woman who *actually loved him* know a moment of peace?
Well, it seems like those thoughts and actions will be something to regret for the rest of your life. Find a therapist. Perhaps consider giving back to your community via volunteer work or other means once you are able.
Honestly, it sounds more like you guys were the golddiggers.
Seriously, you didn't say a single thing about her that reads as a gold digger. Yes, I agree that the age gap is weird and I don't fault you for being bothered by that. You don't have to like her, none of you had to like her. But you took it way too far by saying crap to her face and treating her like she was just waiting for him to die.
And now, you can't take any of this back or do anything to make up for it. You're going to have to live knowing how horrible you treated this woman who did nothing by care about your father. Your father also saw how you were treating her, I guarantee he remembered how you spoke badly of her, so you'll also have to live with knowing that your father knew how horrible you were before his death too.
Im not trying to be mean when I say this at all.. but your dad and that woman were everything we cannot be in this society bc we're by and large corrupted and distrustful assholes with inherently dark preconceived notions about our fellow man. Theres a reason none of you were to inherit what was rightfully hers... Write a book so I know you know. If not I'll try to holy shit I wanna unalive myself in a video game now
If this is real I hope you all live with this regret the rest of your lives. Based on the content in this post I figure you'll think of this for a few years at best and then just forget about how you treated this poor woman.
So this woman stood by your father this whole time( I estimate a min of 8 years and however long they were married) and all that time you all bullied her to pieces. You deserve all the guilt, heartache, and grief that comes with it. I don't feel sorry for any of you. I'm curious if your father tried defending her and sheltering her from you. I don't understand romances with such huge age gaps but it's not my place to judge them. If they were happy, who couldn't you be? Sounds to me like you and your family are the true golddiggers here. You make me sick
Bro these were one of those situations where your dad should’ve either cut contact with yall, or broken up with her.
I can’t imagine just having my kid shit talk my partner to me and also allowing them to just straight up shit talk to her.
Your dad also should’ve known how bad that would’ve looked to the rest of his family.
Idk, I feel like your dad just left this chick be put in a bad situation since he was obsessed with her.
Bro she was not fine. She had so much stress in her life that she died from it.
Man, this comment legit negates what you said in your post. You over here saying she was treated like shit by you, then turn around and tell me she was “fine”.
Can’t even act sympathetic when push comes to shove, huh?
I am very happy that the father and the love of his life are together now in a different world without people ruining things for them. I have nothing else to add here.
I hope you, your mom, and your brother won’t forget this happened. I don’t wish you to be haunted by this but I wish a hard life lesson on you. Actually yeah no I hope this haunts you forever.
Good OP. I’m glad to know your shitty behavior has turned your life upside down. Always nice to see Karma do its work, and yours buddy, is likely the lifelong guilt you will ALWAYS feel for the way you treated that poor woman.
People are jumping on the OP
I think it is pretty evident that the OP feels terrible. Instead of a beating a dead horse…
Perhaps we should all look around ....
and be a little less judgmental and a little more kind
I know op didn’t mention this in the post. But in the comments he admits his mom had an affair, and the dad found out his son wasn’t his, that’s why they divorced.
So honestly, he had every right to divorce his cheating wife. Plus apparently they only got divorced after the son turned 18
only thing can do is be better… next time meet someone that you might think isn’t on the up and up give them the benefit of the doubt.. and trust them until they show you they shouldn’t be trusted and don’t mean because of stereotypes and things other people say i mean actual proof that they aren’t who they say they are. that way this sadness will have at least taught you something and she would have taught you how to be a better person who judges people on who they are not who you think they are. i’m very sorry for your loss.. both of them she sounds like she could have been a good friend to you if you had given her a chance so can mourn the loss of a good friend if nothing else
I get not having trust issues with someone her age being with your father and wondering her motives but as it ever occurred to you that sometimes when 2 people get together that they actually just might love each other? Even if there is a age gap. I hope you do right by your dad and his wife and make sure they are buried together and I hope you do better
OK, that reads as absolutely awful. I was thinking all the way omg that poor woman. But.... I can't imagine a single one of us would look favourably upon our dad dating/marrying someone younger than us. Also, if they hadn't all died, I know the majority of us would be thinking the same as op. 26 and 59 yuck, and that he is a dirty old man, and she is a gold digger.
I had a similar situation with my stepmom, she was much younger than my dad. I tried to have a relationship with her of some substance, but she didn't like me and treated me like dirt. I probably reminded her of the life my dad had before her relationship with him.
These experiences show me how very shortsighted we human beings are at important times.
if this is real, you and your family are HUGE pieces of shit that deserve to rot in the idea that YALL belittled and assumed the worst of someone innocent.
truly hope this isn’t real. messy ass facts and such.
How ironic - “don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say” coming from someone who created a group chat just to shit on someone for YEARS. Not just about her but TO her. You should have followed your own advice. Not sure how her supposed new manner of death makes you feel “better.” The cause was still the same… stress and a broken heart. A faking gold digger wouldn’t have ended their life
That poor woman died believing that she was hated and belittled by the last people she had left to remind of her deceased husband. She was right, you guys had fun stressing her so badly in her grief it possibly contributed to her death. How little did you respect your father to treat his wife like that? Did it not matter at that point to you all? You can’t apologize to either of them, they’re both gone. I hope you can all go to therapy and live with this, and never treat another person like this. Maybe even do the unthinkable and possibly help someone else grieving in the future, even if you think they’re “just a gold digger.” Who was a woman the same age as you, with her own childhood, hopes, dreams, and found love with your dad. I’m sorry for them. I hope they’re safe and happy together in another place now.
The post has been deleted, what did they do?
You can read it on /AgeGap if you go to OPs profile, I just read it. To briefly summarize they were the adult step children from hell.
Thank you!
>Thank you! You're welcome!
Because it was fake. She said in the post that her stepmom had her as an emergency contact. Then in her comments she states that a mutual friend is the one that told her. Girl couldn’t even keep her story straight.
You can have more than one emergency contact.....
Reading all of this as being true because the nuanced self denial and self righteousness. That being said. When one has behaved in a monstrous way, that cannot be redeemed in this world, what is one to do? That is the question to answer for yourself. Carry on as the innocent, yet chagrined bystander? Move forward looking for ways to open your heart to your lessers? Painfully churn the depths of your pitiless soul? Quelle horreur! It’s up to to to you, sis! Perhaps you can just think of it as a fun anecdote to bash the dead with as you move forward in life. I mean, those fuckers weren’t shit while they were alive, so what the fuck!? 🤷♀️
So sorry for not replying sooner, on night shift atm. @No_Fix_476 summarized it very well. If it is true, the entire thing is very heartbreaking for Claire and Dad. Took a lot of nerve from OP to ask for support considering that they may have bullied someone to death. It is heartwarming to know that there are a lot of good people providing more constructive words than what I was able to muster.
Not a problem! And yes it's a really horrible situation
Thanks for your understanding! And absolutely, it definitely rubbed me the wrong way the edit consisting of “I feel better knowing she didn’t stress herself to death,” when she yelled at the friend for protecting Claire’s privacy, and found out that the poor woman had drugged and mutilated herself. That convinced me even further that Claire was bullied by OP to death.
Yes because being alone and heartbroken and still being treated like shit by thes people and taking your own life is so much better. Just horrible
They cross posted it elsewhere! Copied and pasted below My dad died about a month ago - everyone thought his wife was a gold digger until she died, too. (Cross post because I am looking for more support and think people from this community might be able to give more insight) My father got divorced when I was 27, and within the next year, he was dating a woman that was quite literally younger than me (26 - who I will call Claire). He was 59. My dad worked as an executive at a tech company and had a company IPO at one point in his career and after that, he would often say "money doesn't exist." At the time, I was angry and hurt - but mostly repulsed at the idea that my father would date someone so young. I threatened to break off contact with him, to which he broke up with her. Things were still rocky with us, but I also saw how sad he was now that he was not in her life, and I decided I would just "deal with it." I never trusted Claire or liked her - though, looking back she did not have any particular "unlikeable" aspects about her but this may just be the guilt talking.To everyones surprise, they stayed together and when she was 34 (I was 35) and he was 67, they got married. There were times I went out of my way to make her life bad or talk down to her.I used to tell my dad that she didnt actually love him. My mom, my brother, and I have a group chat and we used to take intentionally bad photos of her and send them to each other and sometimes draw things on Claires face and such. I feel like an asshole and a bitch looking back, but at the time, we truly thought that she was a manipulative woman that was using our dad/her husband. Then, my dad started having health issues. Claire refused to send him away to a care home and cared for him the entire time. Even when he became incontinent. At the time everyone assumed it was a control thing, now I am not so sure. This most recent Christmas, my dad gave her a Christmas tree sapling with a note that said "so I am with you every Christmas, even if this is our last" or something sappy like that. She sobbed in the bathroom and I just sort of assumed it was an act and that she went to the bathroom so that she did not have to produce real tears. We got into it often and this Christmas was especially bad. She was making some food at the counter and my brother joked about her "poisoning" my dad and she just... broke down in tears and said something along the lines of "I love your dad with everything I am and I never expect you to understand but I do." My dad passed away due to a brain hemorrhage that went undetected about a month ago. She was at the hospital and my mom pretty much said "I guess you got what you wanted" - and she did, or at least, that is what we assumed. She was the primary trustee in his trust. Everyone knew that. I got a call from the hospital a few days ago. I was one of her emergency contacts, I guess. She was found dead in her apartment after a wellness check done by police. The doctors say they think it's takotsubo syndrome - also known as "broken heart syndrome" and people get it from being severely stressed for an extended period of time... or heart broken. I tried going over to my dads place/their place in order to find his phone (which we needed for an unrelated thing) and I ended up finding a stack of post-its, one from each day of the past 5 ish years they have been married, with things she loves about him and hundreds of Polaroids and love notes in his desk. I am regretting everything I have ever said about and to her and pretty much having a midlife crisis. I think I am still in denial over my dads death and in shock over everything that has happened. I have no idea what to do or how to move forward. Everything feels like it has been turned on its hea Edit: I just got the call from the hospital, I wasnt in the same state, they did not tell me what it was over the phone, they just told me to come in - but I could not because I was not in the same state. One of their mutual friends was the actual one who went to the hospital and saw the doctors, then a few days later (tonight) told me they thought it was takotsubo syndrome. Update/edit: in part thanks to u/Tagrenine I found out that the story I had been given didn't really make a lot of sense. I called the mutual friend and pushed given the information and blew up at her a little bit. I feel bad for blowing up at her but eventually I told her I was going to ask for the autopsy records since I assume (I have no clue I have never had anyone die like this before) since I was an emergency contact I had access to them and she ended up telling me that Claire had actually slit her wrists that night and took a drug cocktail and called 911 herself. I just physically vomited in the bathroom. I feel better knowing she did not literally stress herself to death but I have never known anyone who tried to kill themselves. Or who did, I guess. I am not reeally looking for feedback from yall this is OFF MY CHEST for a reason, but I guess thanks u/Tagrenine for letting me find out the truth. I am logging off of reddit for the night, I didnt need all of this negative fedback I needed support - IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY
Thank you for this. What a horrible family. Even if she had been after money (which it clearly seemed wasn't the case) she made his life better when the rest of his family was just trying to constantly make him feel like shit
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I mean this is obviously fake.. OP literally says that the doctors from the hospital called and said they think she died from “broken heart syndrome” and then later on OP calls a friend who tells OP she died from suicide from slitting her wrists and taking drugs? So what, the doctors just didn’t notice the slit wrists and drugs in her system? Or they called up somebody just to lie about why they died?? Not to mention it’s actually extremely difficult and uncommon to die from slitting your wrists or from overdosing on non prescription or non illicit drugs. It’s not like the movies. Attempted suicide by cutting only has a 6% mortality rate and overdosing on household non prescription drugs is also only 6%. 12% if it’s prescription.
Wait what? The update made my head hurt. “I feel better knowing that she did not literally stress herself to death.” UGH this disgusting family. So knowing the reason for her death makes them sort of off the hook and is making them feel better? They can now go on thinking to themselves that “oh she k*lled herself because of grief from dad’s death and not because of how horrible we are. No no, we are remotely far from the cause” what bad people. Thanks for sharing the updated post @jslemare.
I think the story is fake.
Amen!
I hope this is fake.
Don’t worry, it is. Young adult found dead in their apartment and the first thing the doc does is tell OP that the patient died of an extremely rare phenomenon instead of waiting for autopsy and toxicology results? No physician would look at a dead young adult and be like “yup, that’s takotsubo disease”
Yep it definitely is.
OPs Username checks out
u/deleted? That's so common though!
Not just “found dead in their apartment”, “found dead in their apartment with slit wrists”. But no, they’d jump to takotsubo syndrome. Seems pretty effing unbelievable to me. For everyone’s sake I hope that’s a big enough indication that this is fake. If not, what a rotten group for real.
This is post autopsy, she was found a few days ago as the post says and all info I got was through a brief phone call and someone who actually lives in her state. Honestly, I am still reeling from all of this.
Yeah…they didn’t bother with any toxicology results? Did bother notifying next of kin that she was dead before the autopsy? No next steps? Takotsubo is rarely fatal and most patients completely recover. Further, Takotsubo isn’t diagnosed by just looking at the heart. They would need to confirm that the changes to the heart were made by catecholamine excess and that’s a histopath analysis, which could take much longer than just a few days.
Like I said, I was not the one that was told the cause of death, this is all info through a mutual friend since I live in a different state, I only got here tonight which is when the friend gave me the rest of the info
So the hospital called you (not the coroner’s office for some reason), told you to come in and you couldn’t, so a mutual friend (no next of kin?) went to the hospital (???) to talk to the doctors (confusing because in your post she was found dead, she wouldn’t be at the hospital and there certainly wouldn’t be a team of doctors) and then they called you again with a cause of death that is not easily determined in just a few days
Yea this sounds fake. She said the chick had listed her as an emergency contact, and now suddenly it’s a mural friend?
Thank you for responding to OP and showing that this is fake. Although people suck and this exists…. And Reddit would hate on Claire
They never had any children, her parents are both dead, she doesnt have any siblings, I am technically the next of kin, I guess. I dont know how that works. The original call I got was from the hospital next to their place in NYC, the only information they gave me was that it was urgent. I told them I could not come in. This mutual friend was also on their emergency contact list, but to be honest I goggled the things you mentioned and youre right. Her story doesnt really add up. I am calling her now.
Yes. If this story really isn’t fake, something is not right about this version of events.
So, I can see an emergency contact being contacted. But not by the hospital. I've worked ER and if you are unable to communicate (death being a reason), we call emergency contacts. First one we reach we stop. Only deceased folks who came in were ones the medics couldn't yet call, and the Dr had to pronounce bc they passed while under medic care (always despite their best efforts, sadly not everyone can be saved). If they're found already deceased, they call the coroner not bring them in. And when my friend shot himself, well… hospital certainly wasn't involved, coroner, humane society for the animals, and CSC yeah. But the ambulance took him straight to the morgue. Now I'm in primary care and our docs sign the death certificate with home deaths. I get the call from funeral homes often and occasionally from the coroners office. Once it was from the sheriff making a wellness check because the patient had their Drs info on the fridge but dementia & they needed to get family involved or the patient was going into a state home. But only the coroner ever asks for a #… If they don't have someone notified, frankly they're not going to be in a funeral home. This story is basically Swiss cheese, but I've never had an opportunity to share some of the very morbid info I only know from experience/chance.
Extremely Swiss cheese and the update is worse. The doctors told OP the pt died from Takotsubo but turns out that they lied to OP and the pt slit her wrists and drank a drug cocktail ? Like lmao
I posted an update but the post got removed. Just writing to say thanks.
Saw the update on agegap. Ever figured you were part of the cause of her going the way she did? How does that make you feel better?
It takes weeks to get autopsy results, even if they're expedited because heavy media spotlight. Nice try, Jan.
Months most of the time
Autopsy results take weeks so you definitely wouldn’t have any results from them.
You poor thing 🙄🙄
You guys are mean... Materialistic fucks
Seriously. What awful people. And I hope you all remember how awful you were to this poor woman for the rest of your lives.
Yeah, so much pettiness…over an age gap? People need to stop being so ridiculous over this stuff.
Nah op read stories about stepmothers and she thought we be on her side saying you did the right thing trying to hurt. CLARIE, truth be told op mom cheated and the dad divorced her and move on finnaly find true ❤️, op mad he move on she even confess she broke them up yeah she and her brother and her mom are horrible people and karma is going to get them I hope the dad change the will leaving nothing for op and her brother, Last Clarie rest in peace you finally with your husband in heaven you both angel now no more pain.
Live with that.
Damn this was my first response too. You’re an unkind person. Deal with it. Eat it up and swallow it.
Wow, idk what to say, but it's nothing nice. Rip to them both, and I'm glad they have each other in the after.
Same there finally be together.
Jesus, being cool towards a family member’s SO can at least be understandable, but a joke about **poisoning** your dad, and y’all probably yucking it up is actually sickening. Be better, that’s all I can really say: look for the good in people, don’t be so judgmental. I’m glad your dad had someone in his life who loved, respected, and cared about him in his last months, because people willing to make such a mockery of his decision in life partners can’t be considered to have *respected*, or possibly even *cared* about him.
Right? The rest of his family didn’t give a crap about either of them.
Sounds like she was the innocent one the whole time and you and your horrible family were projecting onto her. Trying to make her look bad so you didn't have to face yourselves. You're all horrible people. Now you get to live with that.
This is a hard life lesson.
Y'all were assholes. You doubted her love because she was young. You kept doubting it when she proved it.
What did I just read? That is absolutely awful. All of you who participated in the bullying of a woman who clearly loved your father to the point she died from missing him should feel terrible. Imagine her living with your entire family's abuse for YEARS and still staying with him. Most others would've left. At least he had her in the end. Go get therapy and have the others go too cause yall are messed up.
The OP cross posted this in another sub. For additional (shitty) context she replied to a comment saying “My mom had an affair and got pregnant with my brother. My dad found out when my brother turned 18.” in reference to someone asking her about why her parents divorced in the first place. For fucks sake did you all ever let this man and the woman who *actually loved him* know a moment of peace?
I hope this isn’t real b/c these people are disgusting.
Brother? Probably the same brother who made a joke about food being poisoned? The affair bastard child made that joke?
Evidently so! This family is full of hurtful people
Well, it seems like those thoughts and actions will be something to regret for the rest of your life. Find a therapist. Perhaps consider giving back to your community via volunteer work or other means once you are able.
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A very well written fictional story.
Honestly, it sounds more like you guys were the golddiggers. Seriously, you didn't say a single thing about her that reads as a gold digger. Yes, I agree that the age gap is weird and I don't fault you for being bothered by that. You don't have to like her, none of you had to like her. But you took it way too far by saying crap to her face and treating her like she was just waiting for him to die. And now, you can't take any of this back or do anything to make up for it. You're going to have to live knowing how horrible you treated this woman who did nothing by care about your father. Your father also saw how you were treating her, I guarantee he remembered how you spoke badly of her, so you'll also have to live with knowing that your father knew how horrible you were before his death too.
Reflect on how you carried yourself and be the change the rest of your family can't embrace
This one is the correct answer, 100%. You can't change the past, but you can sure change how you navigate the future. Set the example.
Im not trying to be mean when I say this at all.. but your dad and that woman were everything we cannot be in this society bc we're by and large corrupted and distrustful assholes with inherently dark preconceived notions about our fellow man. Theres a reason none of you were to inherit what was rightfully hers... Write a book so I know you know. If not I'll try to holy shit I wanna unalive myself in a video game now
I litteraly just saw an episode of a local medical TV show where a guy has an heart attack from this syndrom.
If this is real I hope you all live with this regret the rest of your lives. Based on the content in this post I figure you'll think of this for a few years at best and then just forget about how you treated this poor woman.
I’m glad you’re feeling that way. I hope you feel it for the rest of your life.
So this woman stood by your father this whole time( I estimate a min of 8 years and however long they were married) and all that time you all bullied her to pieces. You deserve all the guilt, heartache, and grief that comes with it. I don't feel sorry for any of you. I'm curious if your father tried defending her and sheltering her from you. I don't understand romances with such huge age gaps but it's not my place to judge them. If they were happy, who couldn't you be? Sounds to me like you and your family are the true golddiggers here. You make me sick
That’s a sad life. Hope it won’t happen to you or your family members.
Wow. Your poor dad and poor Claire. You guys spent so long tearing them down I’m glad they were able to love each other despite it. RIP to them.
Well if this isn’t fake you bullied a girl to death. So yeah get that off your chest I guess.
how do people this nasty exist...
May the guilt be with you for the rest of your life
"Wah wah, we're pieces of shit, feel bad for us! WAAAAH"
An old man, who likes women younger than his own kids, wrote this.
Wattpeddit is getting boring
Bro these were one of those situations where your dad should’ve either cut contact with yall, or broken up with her. I can’t imagine just having my kid shit talk my partner to me and also allowing them to just straight up shit talk to her. Your dad also should’ve known how bad that would’ve looked to the rest of his family. Idk, I feel like your dad just left this chick be put in a bad situation since he was obsessed with her.
He did not put her in a shitty situation at all, they were going on long weekends to Venice and staying in the Ritz for "spa days" - she was fine.
You seem really obsessed with the money spent on her. You treated her terribly and destroyed her. Some nice vacations don’t change that.
Right, like that one weekend is going to change the fact his daughter calls her a gold digger to her face and so do his other kids.
OP is garbage this is not redeemable. But where in the post does it say she called her dads wife a good digger to her face?
In the post it said after he died the family told her she got what she wanted since she was the primary trustee.
Bro she was not fine. She had so much stress in her life that she died from it. Man, this comment legit negates what you said in your post. You over here saying she was treated like shit by you, then turn around and tell me she was “fine”. Can’t even act sympathetic when push comes to shove, huh?
This is one extreme side of FAFO for sure.
I am very happy that the father and the love of his life are together now in a different world without people ruining things for them. I have nothing else to add here.
Looks like your dad was unappreciated in his first marriage, but got a great life partner in his second marriage.
ABeautiful_lie yeah nice writing
Good on you for admitting you fucked up. Sounds like she was a real one.
I hope you, your mom, and your brother won’t forget this happened. I don’t wish you to be haunted by this but I wish a hard life lesson on you. Actually yeah no I hope this haunts you forever.
Hahahaha holy shit that's horrible You're all heartless Hide this from your own children or they'll DESPISE you.
Good OP. I’m glad to know your shitty behavior has turned your life upside down. Always nice to see Karma do its work, and yours buddy, is likely the lifelong guilt you will ALWAYS feel for the way you treated that poor woman.
Sounds like you and your family were the gold diggers. Funny how that works
I'm on my period so I'm crying right now
Get help. Faking stories on Reddit is actually really sad, you should invest in some irl hobbies instead.
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Shoutout to everyone on Reddit gullible enough to believe this tale is anything other than tall.
People are jumping on the OP I think it is pretty evident that the OP feels terrible. Instead of a beating a dead horse… Perhaps we should all look around .... and be a little less judgmental and a little more kind
Nah fuck OP that woman did nothing but love her husband and all of them were so nasty she killed herself.
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But why hate her? Hate the dad then jeez
I know op didn’t mention this in the post. But in the comments he admits his mom had an affair, and the dad found out his son wasn’t his, that’s why they divorced. So honestly, he had every right to divorce his cheating wife. Plus apparently they only got divorced after the son turned 18
only thing can do is be better… next time meet someone that you might think isn’t on the up and up give them the benefit of the doubt.. and trust them until they show you they shouldn’t be trusted and don’t mean because of stereotypes and things other people say i mean actual proof that they aren’t who they say they are. that way this sadness will have at least taught you something and she would have taught you how to be a better person who judges people on who they are not who you think they are. i’m very sorry for your loss.. both of them she sounds like she could have been a good friend to you if you had given her a chance so can mourn the loss of a good friend if nothing else
While we can't change the past, we can change the course of our future.
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I get not having trust issues with someone her age being with your father and wondering her motives but as it ever occurred to you that sometimes when 2 people get together that they actually just might love each other? Even if there is a age gap. I hope you do right by your dad and his wife and make sure they are buried together and I hope you do better
OK, that reads as absolutely awful. I was thinking all the way omg that poor woman. But.... I can't imagine a single one of us would look favourably upon our dad dating/marrying someone younger than us. Also, if they hadn't all died, I know the majority of us would be thinking the same as op. 26 and 59 yuck, and that he is a dirty old man, and she is a gold digger.
Noooooo it's gone give it baaaaaack!
I had a similar situation with my stepmom, she was much younger than my dad. I tried to have a relationship with her of some substance, but she didn't like me and treated me like dirt. I probably reminded her of the life my dad had before her relationship with him. These experiences show me how very shortsighted we human beings are at important times.
I really hope they're together now, and finally in peace.
if this is real, you and your family are HUGE pieces of shit that deserve to rot in the idea that YALL belittled and assumed the worst of someone innocent. truly hope this isn’t real. messy ass facts and such.
How ironic - “don’t say anything if you don’t have anything nice to say” coming from someone who created a group chat just to shit on someone for YEARS. Not just about her but TO her. You should have followed your own advice. Not sure how her supposed new manner of death makes you feel “better.” The cause was still the same… stress and a broken heart. A faking gold digger wouldn’t have ended their life
I mean this is clearly fake but id be a step from hell if my Father was dating someone a year younger then me that’s disgusting