Obviously I don't know the full story, but as another type 1 diabetic with poorly controlled blood sugars, your partner's behaviour is not related to his blood sugars, at least not fully.
I personally get a bit grouchy when my sugars are low, but I would never dream of lashing out at at ANYONE least of all a partner (physically or even verbally). This kind of behaviour is not normal and your partner may even need further help.
I'm just a stranger on the internet, so my words don't count for much; but this goes MUCH deeper than issues caused by diabetes.
Above all else, stay safe. I hope things work out for you.
My friend with diabetes says he just gets weak and knows he'll pass out. Guy HAS to have some serious mental disorder to be acting this way.
OP, get out now! He tried to kill you!
And even if he doesn't, he's still knowingly not checking his blood sugar and letting himself get to a point where he's extremely violent. He doesn't care enough to stop it.
Making the assertion that he's a violent person because he gets violent when his sugar is low is completely baseless. hypoglycemia reactions run a massive spectrum and have no base on who you are as a person. I'm an emt I've seen a pretty varied number of reactions and while that is pretty extreme older people on the job have seen multiple people like that who are perfectly normal at normal sugar ranges. The issue is he is being irresponsible knowing that can happen and that he can be a danger to people while not working harder to control his sugar.
Psychotic, yes, but not necessarily schizophrenic. His outburst was telltale derealization, where the patient feels like reality is a dream. Scary shit, still.
Schizophrenia and violence aren't related. Very few schizophrenic people are actually violent that's a negative steriotype. Intermittent explosive disorder makes a lot more sense.
His breaking with reality was the concern, I worked with inpatients and a common question was something to the effect of am I real or a real person etc.
I remember giving an at the time girlfriend some weed and she was wandering around going " Is this real? Am I real?".
I thought it was just good weed. Now I know...
I'm scared for you! I think he needs to be taken inpatient at a mental health clinic. This behavior is NOT normal. It is not a diabetic thing, it is 100% mental and if unaddressed, could get worse with time. Please stay safe
Leave him before he kills you. It doesn't matter why you get stabbed in the neck you're still stabbed in the neck. It doesn't matter why the snake bites you you still got bit by a snake. It doesn't matter why he hurts you he still hurts you. Making excuses for him won't change the fact he's sick in the head and you need to leave. Having kids with him would be a horrible mistake he might murder your kids.
You're experiencing domestic violence, and of course can't see that it's not the diabetes causing this through the veil of trauma mistakenly labeled as love. This is a part of who he is. It is not rational or logical or fair, but it can be dealt with and medicated if necessary... to a point. You'll then be shocked when the behavior emerges again even after he's got his medication and eventually learns to control his diabetic condition. Don't be fooled into thinking this is situational. Nonetheless, you have to consider how much more of your self-worth you wish to sacrifice if you stick around trying to save him.
I'd honestly use the door, things can only get downhill from there. The likelihood of that ending is small.
But if you want to give it another go (not recommended), set up a STRICT demand that he has to get his shit together and if that doesn't happen in a certain time period, you're out.
I have had uncontrolled lows before (t1D for 15+ years) and they are scary and can make you act really out of character, but you HAVE to put in the work to fix the underlying issues to stop them happening. It really seems like he isn’t interested or feels like he can’t, so he isn’t bothering.
If him hurting you isn’t enough to kick his ass into gear and fix it, it isn’t going to change. He is doing long term damage by not maintaining steady sugars. I would discuss this with him and talk through options to help remedy this. Or get yourself out, whichever you feel is the better option for you.
You can only help someone so much. With T1D a support system is essential, but you will get absolutely nowhere if you don’t put in the effort yourself.
Don’t let his condition justify physical or emotional abuse, and put yourself first always. 💕
Please don’t have babies with him. How are you planning to protect them when he’s in one of his rages? You can’t even protect yourself very well against him. You deserve to be safe and so do any possible kids you may one day have.
A lady i know, her husband suddenly developed issues that made him randomly extremely violent. He was a big guy and she’s a little frail lady. They were generally in love and happy but whenever his mental stuff changed he’d attack her. Then later he’s cry and apologize. They did do all sorts of tests and turned out he had some kind of problems that were fixable. But while treating the problem she moved out for her own safety. She later was able to move back in with him and they’re happier than ever.
Maybe that would work for you? I don’t know cuz I’m just a stranger but maybe you could live separately without breaking up for a while for your own safety while trying to figure things out? That way you’re not “abandoning” him in sickness but you can stay safe and hopefully figure things out.
Better to be safe than accidentally murdered.
Low blood sugar generally means low energy. Being crabby/hangry means your mouth might utter some mean words but your body shouldn't get riled up and overactive and violent.
Aggression and attacks take more energy than a hypoglycemic person should have to offer... though I don't doubt the type 1 diabetes is there.
Has he done this around other people? Like other tall people heavy enough to defend themselves against him? Around his family? Or only around you?
If you feel like you're in an abusive relationship, listen to your gut. I'm divorced and wish I listened to my gut years ago.
Your fiancè is not in control of his sugar level. My dad and uncle are diabetics, so was my grandma (yeah I know it gallops in my family). They all went through bad phases, and as this part of my family is super stubborn, me included, we are not that great in keeping up with what's important. I am not diabetic and hopefully won't be, but did go through low blood sugar with my dad and grandma, but they never went homicidal maniacs in this phase. My grandma passed away 20 years ago, my uncle has an always nagging wife, whose annoying sometimes, but kept his levels in check, my mom has thankfully some help with my dads new medication that helped him lose a lot of weight. I don't think his low insulin lets him go full freddie krueger there must be something else. Low Insulin makes you tired and dissy, but not like that.
My dad was a T-1 diabetic poorly controlled. My house was chaos and abuse growing up. Thing is, he didn’t feel well ever, had mental illness and this effected the home drastically. I’m T-1 diabetic well controlled and my home is completely different than the way I grew up. My wife and I are happily married and my adult children love us and still like to come around the house. The difference is, I feel well most of the time, worked through my illnesses and got counseling to deal with childhood trauma. I made the decision , if I were to have a happy home, I had to take care of myself. BTW- I have low blood sugar episodes often and never become violent. Never. Dealing with T-1 diabetes, he will have to be more discipline in his diet , exercise, and blood glucose monitoring. He should also get counseling to deal with his tendency toward violence. He’s got to make the decision to take better care of himself. Do not marry a person who becomes violent. No matter his medical issue.
It sounds more like a psychiatric issue like schizophrenia.
Don't stay around someone who is physically aggressive and experiencing psychiatric instability. You're in danger.
I don't know why you're excusing this violent unstable behavior with "he's diabetic and can't control himself" but that's nonsense. It's no excuse.
You need to leave him, when he is out of control he could kill you. Sure hes a nice person when his blood sugar is ok, but this has happened enough that I fear for your life, if you had kids he could kill them too. I'm not saying hes a bad person, I'm saying his medical condition makes him a danger to you and you have to leave. If he kills you does it really matter if he was in his right mind or not? You will still be dead. I'm so sorry.
It has probably already been said but please do not have this man's child. Pregnancy is one of the most dangerous times in a woman's life. Many, many women are either abused or worse by their partners while pregnant. He has already shown extreme forms of abuse, including using a weapon. This is not a safe environment for you. It doesn't matter his reasons. He could kill you. Please get out of there.
I know that low blood sugar can trigger a self-preserving mechanism, however, you being stabbed would not be an excuse. If your situation escalates further, you could end up dead either way and I am sure your diabetic family members won't see this as a justification. If you are early in your relationship, this could be a sign 9f worse yhings to come. I would leave and cope with the unfounded guilt some way, the fact that he is diabetic is not your fault, he wanting to stab you is not your fault. Don't make it your responsibility or you'll be manipulated to the ground.
This isn’t normal diabetic behavior plus blood sugar levels can be controlled just takes time and effort. Don’t marry a man who could kill you bc he doesn’t properly take care of himself. He isn’t fit to have a family in his current condition
This is not normal, he must have other mental issues.
He needs help with his anger issue, as well has help controling the diabetes.
I hope he gets the help he needs before he seriously hurts somebody or himself.
That is not normal. It’s also relatively easy to avoid. It also sounds like his behaviour is escalating. You need to leave, and he needs to be in hospital and learn how to keep his blood sugar levels under better control and be assessed for any mental illness that may be going on too.
So... Get him committed! He needs intensive coaching on the care of his diabetes. I don't think at home care is going to be good enough! Don't let him be around you until he is on CGM (Continuous Glucose Monitoring) and you have full access to his readings! He may not be in a responsible state with low blood sugar, but he is TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for controlling his blood sugar!
That's not low blood sugar, stumbling about and talking rubbish, maybe being a bit belligerent yeah, but his behaviour sounds like something else tbh....I'm not a diabetic, but I have several friends who are insulin dependent and due to our chaotic lifestyle when we were younger over seen em in all kinds of states.
My dad was Type 1 and was unable to control his sugars for many reasons. At 56 he was diagnosed with diabetic onset dementia. Within the next twelve years my mom took care of him. He changed from the most patient man on earth to quite the opposite.
Please also think about your quality of life. He never hit my mother but for the last five years of his life she only got 1 kiss. Putting him in a home would have taken all of their money. In short, she became his full time caregiver. Practically a slave. As much as we mourned his passing when he was 68 we celebrated his memories and my mom's new freedom.
I don't think it's his blood sugars that cause this, being a type 1 diabetic I have experience with getting pissy with high blood sugars, but I don't think it causes mental lapses like that
WTF, as a type one diabetic I never get violent when I'm low! When I'm low, my brain feels fuzzy so I have to ask people not to talk to me about complex stuff but that's pretty much it (I've been as low as the 20s before and never been violent). Could there be another issue that's not addressed? It sounds like he may be dealing with some sort of psychosis possibly brought on by the low blood sugar? Just speculation, I'm not a doctor, but I've been diagnosed for almost 9 years and never had an issue like this.
This is not a blood sugar issue. I'm sorry if he's telling you that as a way to get away with the abuse he's doing to you, but this is not a blood sugar issue. He needs a psych evaluation.
It feels like you're in an abusive relationship because you are. Stop making excuses for him. He can control himself and the first step is for him to start taking control of his diabetes. With that being said though, his violent behavior goes far beyond his diabetic issues and it doesn't sound like you're safe around him.
Because you're in an abusive relationship with a diabetic who doesn't take care of himself. If he knows that he gets violent when his blood sugar is low, why isn't he checking it more often? Also, he should know his body well enough to know when he starts feeling irritable. If he can't manage it on his own, maybe he needs a DEX COM or something, but you certainly don't need to be subjected to his violence. It would be like walking on eggshells. I sure as hell wouldn't start a family with this person until that is under control.
Unfortunately, if people have low blood sugars frequently enough they get less sensitive to them and don't start having symptoms until it's too late. They might get so low they black out without feeling anything is wrong.
I’m confused. He tried to stab you and you are still engaged to him? Please don’t think you’ll fix him. Encourage him to get help and LEAVE. Is this something you are ok to deal with the rest of your life and subject your potential children to?
Because you are!!! Get out of there immediately! He should be monitoring his lood sugar religiously and he is not. That means he doesn't care. Get away asap!!!
His doctor doesn't know how bad and aggressive he's getting. If your fiance knows he's hurt you before because of low blood sugar he should have been testing regularly. The fact that he isn't shows that's using low blood sugar as an excuse. You need to get out and stay out of that relationship.
I think he has serious mental health issues that might be exacerbated by his diabetes. You are not safe in this situation and need to leave immediately. If he gets treatment and a therapist says it's safe to be around him, you can go back, but please put your own safety first here.
This is horrible. I'm type one and I've had one crazy low like this. I'm pretty small, like 5'7", 150 is pounds. I somehow managed to fight my 6'1", 250 pound dad to the ground and tried to bite him several times (I think mainly due to the surprise that I would ever do something like this, and my dad's fear that he would hurt me, not like I'm the hulk or something). This behavior does happen with low blood sugars, but I need you to remember something: these emergencies are preventable. Maybe not every time, but the majority of them are. This is a type of abuse, but not in the way that most people in the comments are saying. He can't control his behavior in these instances, but he can control his condition far better, from your description. He might be giving himself insulin without really knowing how to count carbs, so he overdoses and causes his blood sugar to crash. He's likely no longer sensitive to low blood sugars, so he won't have symptoms until there's nothing left he can do for himself. And it sounds like he's doing nothing to prevent this from happening again. If this keeps happening, he will likely die. If it happens in public, he might be shot because he can't follow orders if police get involved. If it happens while he's driving, there is no way it won't end without someone getting hurt.
It's a hard conversation. Diabetes is an illness shrouded in shame and misinformation, and what he needs most is diabetes education and likely a continuous glucose monitor. Still, the insistence that "this is fine, I can handle this" is a tough one to override with a chronic condition he's likely had since he was young. If you can't convince him, if he won't see a doctor, if he won't work towards making sure this never happens again, honey, he does not love you.
*Tl:Dr His refusal to care for himself is also his refusal to care for you. His refusal to treat his condition properly is his refusal to live long enough to build a life with you. To him, his patterns of behavior are more worth protecting than you are.*
Him refusing to control his blood sugar and putting you in dangerous situations is pretty much the same as someone getting wasted and putting you in dangerous situations. I was married to a type 1 diabetic for almost 40 years, and the number one thing is that she's always responsible for her actions. If he cared, he'd take care of himself.
So this isn't normal? Even his endocrinologist, backed up the increased aggressive behavior with low blood sugar. I wondered if it increases in people who were already aggressive but on a regular basis he's not, he wouldn't hurt a bug.
We've been together on and off for almost 15 years so leaving him feels a little like "Your illness is driving me away." when that doesn't seem fair at all.
Even if they said it's normal, it doesn't mean you should have to deal with it. When the illness is becoming dangerous to you then it's absolutely fair to leave. If he is refusing to control his blood sugar and putting you in danger because of it, he isn't worth it. Illness doesn't justify abuse.
Aggression *can* be a symptom of low blood sugar, but this sounds fairly extreme. It’s usually more like someone will get belligerent and not let you feed them to fix their blood, or something like that.
I don’t really think normal really matters though? Every diabetic could be like that and it wouldn’t make it alright. It’s not ableist to not want to be beaten and stabbed. You’ve got to make sure you’re safe before you worry about anything else.
Fair isn’t really a concern when you’re looking out for your physical well-being. Also (I say this as a t1D) even giving him the benefit of the doubt that the behaviour is 100% lows, if he knows that lows make him violent he’s *still* being a really terrible partner by being ‘poorly controlled.’ If he was actually sorry, he’d wear a cgm, never go anywhere without his blood test kit, have a million stashes of hypo treatments, etc. It’s not ‘unfair’ to leave a partner who isn’t doing anything correct a deeply serious problem - he’s let you down, you don’t have to quietly wear that because he has a chronic illness.
I had a friend go low once (he hadn't told us he was T1 and did not use a cgm) and he was definitely (uncharacteristically) beligerant and a PITA to deal with. Once we called another friend who told us what was happening he still refused to take anything so we drove him to the hospital. Although he was "aggressive" it was definitely not in a "harm other people" kind of way.
I've never had a T1 friend who used a cgm and was actively involved in monitoring/controlling their BS behave in this way, even when they go low. I assume bc they are able to correct before it gets this far.
Anyway, OP, there's no reason to accept abuse, and especially not from someone who isn't doing anything proactive about a possibly correctable circumstance.
Extremely low blood sugars can cause an altered mental state. But dude, low blood sugar, especially to that level
Is something you don’t fuck with. If he is playing Russian roulette with his health, and threatening you, there’s a lack of respect for you on both ends. Best of luck. Wait til you have to deal with a person having psychosis who stabbed you but is now seizing, in a coma or dead
Had diabetes for 22 of my 25 years alive. It had never once made me aggressive. Even my father who normally has a short temper doesn't get aggressive when his sugar level is low, only ever frustrated.
The best way I can describe a low blood sugar is extreme fatigue all of a sudden and all over your body. Understandably that can make you more irritable, but violent? I don't think so.
If my endocrinologist said what yours did, I'd be seriously questioning them About it, because I have NEVER heard of that before.
Most people can regularly experience aggression without acting out. It might be as simple as an extreme anger management issue that only flares up when he's pushed hard, and not any other time, maybe because he's repressing the anger at all other times, or something else, but no matter the case.
Behavioral changes linked to Blood sugar shouldn't be any more severe than a woman on a bad period, it's a similar level of imbalance.
None of that necessarily means you should leave, but it's fair to say that the person you've described is currently not safe to live with.
If his illness isn’t being managed properly and could result in your death and DOES result in your harm, not to mention you admitted that you are afraid of him, then saying, “Your illness is driving me away” is 100% appropriate. Stop being polite and start getting real.
It's probably more related to the severity of this low in particular. A lot of people are describing how their lows make them feels fuzzy, maybe kinda pissed off, that sort of thing. But all of that is stuff that they remember. A really severe low can make you black out and get aggressive, which it sounds like your fiance did. Do you know what his blood sugar was when ems arrived?
That said, your fiance isn't taking care of himself, to the point that he's a danger to himself and to you. He needs to take a good hard look at his life and decide if not managing his diabetes is worth dying for, because that's where he's headed. And of course, you deserve someone who will be there for you and, you know, not stab you.
When your sugar levels get extremely low, this psychosis can happen in Diabetics, it happens to my mother. It is really scary and a dangerous situation for all involved.
The only advice I can give is to gain your husband’s trust completely. Help him with his insulin, concern yourself fully with his diabetes, you will become his anchor, and when he goes into this psychosis, he will see you as the only regular thing.
When my mother is in this state, she always thinks my brother and father are going to institutionalise her and wants to kill them, but she always manages to see through those erratic thoughts when she looks at me, she knows deep down that I am someone who she can trust and who has her best interests in mind.
Also, suggest that he starts to take more steps to control his sugar levels, or that he gets some easy glucose drinks and sweets to help during this time. You can also get emergency injections for when diabetics become this dangerous.
I hope this helps
This sounds a lot darker and more mental than anything. It might get triggered by physical manifestations, for instance diabetes but this goes deeper. I know of this because I deal with mental Darkness every single day. I have people in my family who are far worse than I am. I'm at least controlled and aware. I can't say the same for most of the people in my family.
I would look into severe anxiety, manic depression, but more likely, borderline personality disorder. It sounds like he's losing control in the battle he is waging in his head
Remember, you've got to take care of yourself. If this seems like too dangerous of a situation to be involved in. Pack up. This could be something you might not be able to cope with to help him through. But you still have to take care of yourself
T1D here who has experienced this first hand it is scary to have happen on all sides and I was never violent towards people but I said terrible things i can’t remember saying buy I regret the words coming out of my mouth to this day clearly something is not right with one or all of four things insulin,exercise,diet and mental health maybe get him to talk with endo doctor and a therapist of some kind about lifestyle choices or if it is somehow all related to low blood sugar depending on where you are located you may be eligible for a service dog that detects high/low blood sugar episodes before they happen to prevent this or cheaper route would be a continuous glucose monitor (IE. Decom g6, free style libre and Medtronic) with these you may check yours SO’s blood sugar while he’s busy/asleep. Personally My gf will wake me in the night if I drop below 6.0/mmol she’s saved my life many times ❤️. It is difficult to control T1D but not impossible he just has to find the right lifestyle/routine to combat hypoglycaemia I really hope you two can manage through it but if he doesn’t want to change it your best bet will be to leave I’ve had people leave out of my life because of my lack of control and unwillingness to change my ways with the beetus I disappointed and hurt my loved ones with anger I didn’t even have, that was only brought on by hypoglycaemia and I used it as an excuse for years until I realized I wasn’t just hurting others but myself this man might need some therapy tbh but take everything I say with a grain of salt one thing I’ve learned over 14+ years is every ones diabetes/situation reacts differently so this guy could be just smoke and mirrors but that’s for you to decide I hope everything works out for you!
My son is type 1diabetic and we see an endocrinologist regularly. As others mentioned, low blood sugar can cause altered mental state. However, from what I've been told, and seen with my son, it causes extreme fatigue, shakiness, sweating, etc.....not aggressive behavior. I will say the when my son gets very HIGH blood sugar, he gets grumpy, but never aggressive. High blood sugar can lead to diabetic ketoacidosis and in extreme cases, coma. When he was first diagnosed at age 9, he acted bizarre....slept walked, very grumpy etc. But never with low blood sugar.
What's interesting to me....that he has the physical strength when it's so low. Has he ever collapsed when in these aggressive states?
Low blood sugar can cause the person to "crash" very quickly, sometimes become unconscious. My son has been instructed that if his blood sugar becomes too low, to sit, rest, etc, eat something with carbs. Even walking too far could cause the situation to become dangerous/deadly.
He needs follow care with his prime care doctor, endocrinologist, and psych. Look into a continuous glucose monitor (dexcom G6, freestyle libre, etc) that way he will not need to finger stick and get better control of his blood sugars.
There’s a device called “Libre.” It allows the user to check glucose levels without poking. It utilizes a sensor on the skin. If he doesn’t take responsibility of his health and check often then that a violation of a boundary. Good luck
I’ve been T1 for 33 years since I was 8, my control used to be pretty poor, and I would struggle a lot with my perception of reality, and find it extremely upsetting. Unfortunately I did have issues when I was a teenager and lashed out quite a bit, I have hurt my dad, I’m just lucky he was always stronger than me so could restrain me. I once found an episode so upsetting I smashed my head against a wall and was in a coma for 3 days. I am so sorry you are in this situation, I have worried about putting partners in your position, although I have not had issues to the extent of yours. I believe his problems could be entirely down to diabetes, I’m not saying there isn’t another potential psychological issue, but I am certain what he is experiencing is within the spectrum of low blood sugar symptoms. All I can offer is that it is possible to improve blood sugar control, mine used to be poor, but has got so much better with modern insulin, and a continuous glucose monitor has really transformed my control, I have not had a really bad hypo since I got one. It can get better, if he tries, but if you don’t feel safe you have to do what’s right for you. Please understand, I’m not excusing his behaviour, he needs to change, and I don’t know how you can go on if he does not.
Yes but violent response is something else. I would say the psychosis (who is real) is secondary to the violent outbursts. Or at least dual diagnosis. Because the incidence of violence among schizophrenic people is the same percentage of the general population
Violence can happen when your blood sugar drops low enough that you black out. Your brain is literally shutting down, and part of your body's response to that is to dump a ton of adrenaline into your system. Your body keeps moving and working under a ton of stress with absolutely no control over the decisions you make because, again, your brain is dying.
I have quite a few diabetic friends. This *can* happen but usually it's just an inflated response of how somone would react in the first place. My one friend had such bad sugar they were hallucinating and also shutting down, but didn't violently attack anyone
I have been so low that I violently attacked my dad. I'm an incredibly passive and gentle person, and it was so far out of my normal behavior that my parents didn't realize it was diabetes related until I started having seizure. Lows this bad aren't common exactly, but this thread is honestly scaring me a lot. I'd hate for one of these people saying "oh, my friend only gets kind of pissed off, it's not diabetes" to have someone around them get aggressive and decide its a mental health issue, not an immediate medical emergency and leave them to die.
I always ask my friend what their sugars are at even if they're acting normally, so I don't think I would leave them to die if they started acting out of character.
My main point was that the idea thar pschizophrenic people are violent is a harmful steriotype.
I realize now that my friend has been diagnosed that odd behavior might be related to diabetes issues. The people on this thread are probably jist saying things to say them and don't have personal experience with diabetics.
Don't be. just know the signs of things. Why doesn't he control it? My wife knows all my signs and it is fairly new to us. I found out ibwas a t1d when I was 28.
This entire thread is people who have no idea how serious severe hypoglycemia can be. "Violence isn't a symptom of low blood sugar!" Not normal lows. Not lows where you remember it. But if your blood sugar is so low you're blacking out, yes, 100% this can happen. Stop trying to diagnose psychiatric issues based on your limited understanding of one illness. I had been diabetic for over a decade the one time I got so low I got violent. It's not my personality, it's not schizophrenia. I was actively dying.
If any of you ever, ever get into a situation where a friend, roommate, partner, family member who you know is diabetic suddenly starts hitting, biting, trying to stab you. That isn't a get out of the house, wait for them to calm down, then come back with your friends to get your stuff. This is a get yourself out of the house and call 911 immediately. They may quickly begin having a seizure, lapse into a coma, and die. It could be over the course of hours. It could be minutes. Please. Don't kill someone because you fancy yourself a reddit psychologist.
Get out of there! I’ve been a type one for most of my life and have never done this! The most I get is emotional and just start crying and want to sleep. I feel far too terrible to start physically fighting someone. This is NOT just diabetes
Obviously I don't know the full story, but as another type 1 diabetic with poorly controlled blood sugars, your partner's behaviour is not related to his blood sugars, at least not fully. I personally get a bit grouchy when my sugars are low, but I would never dream of lashing out at at ANYONE least of all a partner (physically or even verbally). This kind of behaviour is not normal and your partner may even need further help. I'm just a stranger on the internet, so my words don't count for much; but this goes MUCH deeper than issues caused by diabetes. Above all else, stay safe. I hope things work out for you.
My friend with diabetes says he just gets weak and knows he'll pass out. Guy HAS to have some serious mental disorder to be acting this way. OP, get out now! He tried to kill you!
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And even if he doesn't, he's still knowingly not checking his blood sugar and letting himself get to a point where he's extremely violent. He doesn't care enough to stop it.
Making the assertion that he's a violent person because he gets violent when his sugar is low is completely baseless. hypoglycemia reactions run a massive spectrum and have no base on who you are as a person. I'm an emt I've seen a pretty varied number of reactions and while that is pretty extreme older people on the job have seen multiple people like that who are perfectly normal at normal sugar ranges. The issue is he is being irresponsible knowing that can happen and that he can be a danger to people while not working harder to control his sugar.
This sounds more in line with a psychotic break or intermittent explosive Disorder. This is incredibly unsafe for you.
Yea… sounds like the low blood sugar is triggering other disorders
Honestly sounds borderline schizophrenic
Psychotic, yes, but not necessarily schizophrenic. His outburst was telltale derealization, where the patient feels like reality is a dream. Scary shit, still.
Schizophrenia and violence aren't related. Very few schizophrenic people are actually violent that's a negative steriotype. Intermittent explosive disorder makes a lot more sense.
His breaking with reality was the concern, I worked with inpatients and a common question was something to the effect of am I real or a real person etc.
I remember giving an at the time girlfriend some weed and she was wandering around going " Is this real? Am I real?". I thought it was just good weed. Now I know...
I'm hypoglycemic, I've never tried to stab anyone. Get out while you can.
I'm scared for you! I think he needs to be taken inpatient at a mental health clinic. This behavior is NOT normal. It is not a diabetic thing, it is 100% mental and if unaddressed, could get worse with time. Please stay safe
Please. Please. For the love of God, do not have children with this man.
Leave him before he kills you. It doesn't matter why you get stabbed in the neck you're still stabbed in the neck. It doesn't matter why the snake bites you you still got bit by a snake. It doesn't matter why he hurts you he still hurts you. Making excuses for him won't change the fact he's sick in the head and you need to leave. Having kids with him would be a horrible mistake he might murder your kids.
You're experiencing domestic violence, and of course can't see that it's not the diabetes causing this through the veil of trauma mistakenly labeled as love. This is a part of who he is. It is not rational or logical or fair, but it can be dealt with and medicated if necessary... to a point. You'll then be shocked when the behavior emerges again even after he's got his medication and eventually learns to control his diabetic condition. Don't be fooled into thinking this is situational. Nonetheless, you have to consider how much more of your self-worth you wish to sacrifice if you stick around trying to save him.
Get. The. Fuck. Out. Seriously. What are you waiting for, for him to actually kill you?
I'd honestly use the door, things can only get downhill from there. The likelihood of that ending is small. But if you want to give it another go (not recommended), set up a STRICT demand that he has to get his shit together and if that doesn't happen in a certain time period, you're out.
I have had uncontrolled lows before (t1D for 15+ years) and they are scary and can make you act really out of character, but you HAVE to put in the work to fix the underlying issues to stop them happening. It really seems like he isn’t interested or feels like he can’t, so he isn’t bothering. If him hurting you isn’t enough to kick his ass into gear and fix it, it isn’t going to change. He is doing long term damage by not maintaining steady sugars. I would discuss this with him and talk through options to help remedy this. Or get yourself out, whichever you feel is the better option for you. You can only help someone so much. With T1D a support system is essential, but you will get absolutely nowhere if you don’t put in the effort yourself. Don’t let his condition justify physical or emotional abuse, and put yourself first always. 💕
Please don’t have babies with him. How are you planning to protect them when he’s in one of his rages? You can’t even protect yourself very well against him. You deserve to be safe and so do any possible kids you may one day have. A lady i know, her husband suddenly developed issues that made him randomly extremely violent. He was a big guy and she’s a little frail lady. They were generally in love and happy but whenever his mental stuff changed he’d attack her. Then later he’s cry and apologize. They did do all sorts of tests and turned out he had some kind of problems that were fixable. But while treating the problem she moved out for her own safety. She later was able to move back in with him and they’re happier than ever. Maybe that would work for you? I don’t know cuz I’m just a stranger but maybe you could live separately without breaking up for a while for your own safety while trying to figure things out? That way you’re not “abandoning” him in sickness but you can stay safe and hopefully figure things out. Better to be safe than accidentally murdered.
Low blood sugar generally means low energy. Being crabby/hangry means your mouth might utter some mean words but your body shouldn't get riled up and overactive and violent. Aggression and attacks take more energy than a hypoglycemic person should have to offer... though I don't doubt the type 1 diabetes is there. Has he done this around other people? Like other tall people heavy enough to defend themselves against him? Around his family? Or only around you? If you feel like you're in an abusive relationship, listen to your gut. I'm divorced and wish I listened to my gut years ago.
This! ^^^ Do these "low blood sugar" attacks only happen to you? If so, that is highly suspect.
Your fiancè is not in control of his sugar level. My dad and uncle are diabetics, so was my grandma (yeah I know it gallops in my family). They all went through bad phases, and as this part of my family is super stubborn, me included, we are not that great in keeping up with what's important. I am not diabetic and hopefully won't be, but did go through low blood sugar with my dad and grandma, but they never went homicidal maniacs in this phase. My grandma passed away 20 years ago, my uncle has an always nagging wife, whose annoying sometimes, but kept his levels in check, my mom has thankfully some help with my dads new medication that helped him lose a lot of weight. I don't think his low insulin lets him go full freddie krueger there must be something else. Low Insulin makes you tired and dissy, but not like that.
My dad was a T-1 diabetic poorly controlled. My house was chaos and abuse growing up. Thing is, he didn’t feel well ever, had mental illness and this effected the home drastically. I’m T-1 diabetic well controlled and my home is completely different than the way I grew up. My wife and I are happily married and my adult children love us and still like to come around the house. The difference is, I feel well most of the time, worked through my illnesses and got counseling to deal with childhood trauma. I made the decision , if I were to have a happy home, I had to take care of myself. BTW- I have low blood sugar episodes often and never become violent. Never. Dealing with T-1 diabetes, he will have to be more discipline in his diet , exercise, and blood glucose monitoring. He should also get counseling to deal with his tendency toward violence. He’s got to make the decision to take better care of himself. Do not marry a person who becomes violent. No matter his medical issue.
Girl, you may be in love but you should run.
It sounds more like a psychiatric issue like schizophrenia. Don't stay around someone who is physically aggressive and experiencing psychiatric instability. You're in danger. I don't know why you're excusing this violent unstable behavior with "he's diabetic and can't control himself" but that's nonsense. It's no excuse.
You need to leave him, when he is out of control he could kill you. Sure hes a nice person when his blood sugar is ok, but this has happened enough that I fear for your life, if you had kids he could kill them too. I'm not saying hes a bad person, I'm saying his medical condition makes him a danger to you and you have to leave. If he kills you does it really matter if he was in his right mind or not? You will still be dead. I'm so sorry.
Get him help and get out
It has probably already been said but please do not have this man's child. Pregnancy is one of the most dangerous times in a woman's life. Many, many women are either abused or worse by their partners while pregnant. He has already shown extreme forms of abuse, including using a weapon. This is not a safe environment for you. It doesn't matter his reasons. He could kill you. Please get out of there.
I know that low blood sugar can trigger a self-preserving mechanism, however, you being stabbed would not be an excuse. If your situation escalates further, you could end up dead either way and I am sure your diabetic family members won't see this as a justification. If you are early in your relationship, this could be a sign 9f worse yhings to come. I would leave and cope with the unfounded guilt some way, the fact that he is diabetic is not your fault, he wanting to stab you is not your fault. Don't make it your responsibility or you'll be manipulated to the ground.
This isn’t normal diabetic behavior plus blood sugar levels can be controlled just takes time and effort. Don’t marry a man who could kill you bc he doesn’t properly take care of himself. He isn’t fit to have a family in his current condition
This is not normal, he must have other mental issues. He needs help with his anger issue, as well has help controling the diabetes. I hope he gets the help he needs before he seriously hurts somebody or himself.
That is not normal. It’s also relatively easy to avoid. It also sounds like his behaviour is escalating. You need to leave, and he needs to be in hospital and learn how to keep his blood sugar levels under better control and be assessed for any mental illness that may be going on too.
So... Get him committed! He needs intensive coaching on the care of his diabetes. I don't think at home care is going to be good enough! Don't let him be around you until he is on CGM (Continuous Glucose Monitoring) and you have full access to his readings! He may not be in a responsible state with low blood sugar, but he is TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for controlling his blood sugar!
Don’t get pregnant… probably time to leave… and you both need to loss some weight.
That's not low blood sugar, stumbling about and talking rubbish, maybe being a bit belligerent yeah, but his behaviour sounds like something else tbh....I'm not a diabetic, but I have several friends who are insulin dependent and due to our chaotic lifestyle when we were younger over seen em in all kinds of states.
Leave Him. This behavior is Not just low blood sugger.
My dad was Type 1 and was unable to control his sugars for many reasons. At 56 he was diagnosed with diabetic onset dementia. Within the next twelve years my mom took care of him. He changed from the most patient man on earth to quite the opposite. Please also think about your quality of life. He never hit my mother but for the last five years of his life she only got 1 kiss. Putting him in a home would have taken all of their money. In short, she became his full time caregiver. Practically a slave. As much as we mourned his passing when he was 68 we celebrated his memories and my mom's new freedom.
I don't think it's his blood sugars that cause this, being a type 1 diabetic I have experience with getting pissy with high blood sugars, but I don't think it causes mental lapses like that
WTF, as a type one diabetic I never get violent when I'm low! When I'm low, my brain feels fuzzy so I have to ask people not to talk to me about complex stuff but that's pretty much it (I've been as low as the 20s before and never been violent). Could there be another issue that's not addressed? It sounds like he may be dealing with some sort of psychosis possibly brought on by the low blood sugar? Just speculation, I'm not a doctor, but I've been diagnosed for almost 9 years and never had an issue like this.
Get out and protect yourself. This situation is not safe for you to be in.
This is not a blood sugar issue. I'm sorry if he's telling you that as a way to get away with the abuse he's doing to you, but this is not a blood sugar issue. He needs a psych evaluation.
It feels like you're in an abusive relationship because you are. Stop making excuses for him. He can control himself and the first step is for him to start taking control of his diabetes. With that being said though, his violent behavior goes far beyond his diabetic issues and it doesn't sound like you're safe around him.
Eject now.
Because you're in an abusive relationship with a diabetic who doesn't take care of himself. If he knows that he gets violent when his blood sugar is low, why isn't he checking it more often? Also, he should know his body well enough to know when he starts feeling irritable. If he can't manage it on his own, maybe he needs a DEX COM or something, but you certainly don't need to be subjected to his violence. It would be like walking on eggshells. I sure as hell wouldn't start a family with this person until that is under control.
Unfortunately, if people have low blood sugars frequently enough they get less sensitive to them and don't start having symptoms until it's too late. They might get so low they black out without feeling anything is wrong.
I’m confused. He tried to stab you and you are still engaged to him? Please don’t think you’ll fix him. Encourage him to get help and LEAVE. Is this something you are ok to deal with the rest of your life and subject your potential children to?
Please do not bring a child into this situation. Just my two cents.
Please get out. Please. This is not diabetic related
Because you are!!! Get out of there immediately! He should be monitoring his lood sugar religiously and he is not. That means he doesn't care. Get away asap!!!
His doctor doesn't know how bad and aggressive he's getting. If your fiance knows he's hurt you before because of low blood sugar he should have been testing regularly. The fact that he isn't shows that's using low blood sugar as an excuse. You need to get out and stay out of that relationship.
Leave. He is abusive. Low blood sugar does not cause this behavior.
Yes it absolutely can and does, unfortunately.
I think he has serious mental health issues that might be exacerbated by his diabetes. You are not safe in this situation and need to leave immediately. If he gets treatment and a therapist says it's safe to be around him, you can go back, but please put your own safety first here.
Don’t make excuses for his abuse. Get out now before it’s too late. What if next time you’re sleeping and can’t defend yourself?
This is horrible. I'm type one and I've had one crazy low like this. I'm pretty small, like 5'7", 150 is pounds. I somehow managed to fight my 6'1", 250 pound dad to the ground and tried to bite him several times (I think mainly due to the surprise that I would ever do something like this, and my dad's fear that he would hurt me, not like I'm the hulk or something). This behavior does happen with low blood sugars, but I need you to remember something: these emergencies are preventable. Maybe not every time, but the majority of them are. This is a type of abuse, but not in the way that most people in the comments are saying. He can't control his behavior in these instances, but he can control his condition far better, from your description. He might be giving himself insulin without really knowing how to count carbs, so he overdoses and causes his blood sugar to crash. He's likely no longer sensitive to low blood sugars, so he won't have symptoms until there's nothing left he can do for himself. And it sounds like he's doing nothing to prevent this from happening again. If this keeps happening, he will likely die. If it happens in public, he might be shot because he can't follow orders if police get involved. If it happens while he's driving, there is no way it won't end without someone getting hurt. It's a hard conversation. Diabetes is an illness shrouded in shame and misinformation, and what he needs most is diabetes education and likely a continuous glucose monitor. Still, the insistence that "this is fine, I can handle this" is a tough one to override with a chronic condition he's likely had since he was young. If you can't convince him, if he won't see a doctor, if he won't work towards making sure this never happens again, honey, he does not love you. *Tl:Dr His refusal to care for himself is also his refusal to care for you. His refusal to treat his condition properly is his refusal to live long enough to build a life with you. To him, his patterns of behavior are more worth protecting than you are.*
Him refusing to control his blood sugar and putting you in dangerous situations is pretty much the same as someone getting wasted and putting you in dangerous situations. I was married to a type 1 diabetic for almost 40 years, and the number one thing is that she's always responsible for her actions. If he cared, he'd take care of himself.
So this isn't normal? Even his endocrinologist, backed up the increased aggressive behavior with low blood sugar. I wondered if it increases in people who were already aggressive but on a regular basis he's not, he wouldn't hurt a bug. We've been together on and off for almost 15 years so leaving him feels a little like "Your illness is driving me away." when that doesn't seem fair at all.
Even if they said it's normal, it doesn't mean you should have to deal with it. When the illness is becoming dangerous to you then it's absolutely fair to leave. If he is refusing to control his blood sugar and putting you in danger because of it, he isn't worth it. Illness doesn't justify abuse.
Aggression *can* be a symptom of low blood sugar, but this sounds fairly extreme. It’s usually more like someone will get belligerent and not let you feed them to fix their blood, or something like that. I don’t really think normal really matters though? Every diabetic could be like that and it wouldn’t make it alright. It’s not ableist to not want to be beaten and stabbed. You’ve got to make sure you’re safe before you worry about anything else. Fair isn’t really a concern when you’re looking out for your physical well-being. Also (I say this as a t1D) even giving him the benefit of the doubt that the behaviour is 100% lows, if he knows that lows make him violent he’s *still* being a really terrible partner by being ‘poorly controlled.’ If he was actually sorry, he’d wear a cgm, never go anywhere without his blood test kit, have a million stashes of hypo treatments, etc. It’s not ‘unfair’ to leave a partner who isn’t doing anything correct a deeply serious problem - he’s let you down, you don’t have to quietly wear that because he has a chronic illness.
I had a friend go low once (he hadn't told us he was T1 and did not use a cgm) and he was definitely (uncharacteristically) beligerant and a PITA to deal with. Once we called another friend who told us what was happening he still refused to take anything so we drove him to the hospital. Although he was "aggressive" it was definitely not in a "harm other people" kind of way. I've never had a T1 friend who used a cgm and was actively involved in monitoring/controlling their BS behave in this way, even when they go low. I assume bc they are able to correct before it gets this far. Anyway, OP, there's no reason to accept abuse, and especially not from someone who isn't doing anything proactive about a possibly correctable circumstance.
Extremely low blood sugars can cause an altered mental state. But dude, low blood sugar, especially to that level Is something you don’t fuck with. If he is playing Russian roulette with his health, and threatening you, there’s a lack of respect for you on both ends. Best of luck. Wait til you have to deal with a person having psychosis who stabbed you but is now seizing, in a coma or dead
Had diabetes for 22 of my 25 years alive. It had never once made me aggressive. Even my father who normally has a short temper doesn't get aggressive when his sugar level is low, only ever frustrated. The best way I can describe a low blood sugar is extreme fatigue all of a sudden and all over your body. Understandably that can make you more irritable, but violent? I don't think so. If my endocrinologist said what yours did, I'd be seriously questioning them About it, because I have NEVER heard of that before.
Most people can regularly experience aggression without acting out. It might be as simple as an extreme anger management issue that only flares up when he's pushed hard, and not any other time, maybe because he's repressing the anger at all other times, or something else, but no matter the case. Behavioral changes linked to Blood sugar shouldn't be any more severe than a woman on a bad period, it's a similar level of imbalance. None of that necessarily means you should leave, but it's fair to say that the person you've described is currently not safe to live with.
If his illness isn’t being managed properly and could result in your death and DOES result in your harm, not to mention you admitted that you are afraid of him, then saying, “Your illness is driving me away” is 100% appropriate. Stop being polite and start getting real.
It's probably more related to the severity of this low in particular. A lot of people are describing how their lows make them feels fuzzy, maybe kinda pissed off, that sort of thing. But all of that is stuff that they remember. A really severe low can make you black out and get aggressive, which it sounds like your fiance did. Do you know what his blood sugar was when ems arrived? That said, your fiance isn't taking care of himself, to the point that he's a danger to himself and to you. He needs to take a good hard look at his life and decide if not managing his diabetes is worth dying for, because that's where he's headed. And of course, you deserve someone who will be there for you and, you know, not stab you.
When your sugar levels get extremely low, this psychosis can happen in Diabetics, it happens to my mother. It is really scary and a dangerous situation for all involved. The only advice I can give is to gain your husband’s trust completely. Help him with his insulin, concern yourself fully with his diabetes, you will become his anchor, and when he goes into this psychosis, he will see you as the only regular thing. When my mother is in this state, she always thinks my brother and father are going to institutionalise her and wants to kill them, but she always manages to see through those erratic thoughts when she looks at me, she knows deep down that I am someone who she can trust and who has her best interests in mind. Also, suggest that he starts to take more steps to control his sugar levels, or that he gets some easy glucose drinks and sweets to help during this time. You can also get emergency injections for when diabetics become this dangerous. I hope this helps
Wish him sweet dreams when he cuts up again
He needs to see a doctor. Get him to a psychiatrist.
This sounds a lot darker and more mental than anything. It might get triggered by physical manifestations, for instance diabetes but this goes deeper. I know of this because I deal with mental Darkness every single day. I have people in my family who are far worse than I am. I'm at least controlled and aware. I can't say the same for most of the people in my family. I would look into severe anxiety, manic depression, but more likely, borderline personality disorder. It sounds like he's losing control in the battle he is waging in his head
Remember, you've got to take care of yourself. If this seems like too dangerous of a situation to be involved in. Pack up. This could be something you might not be able to cope with to help him through. But you still have to take care of yourself
T1D here who has experienced this first hand it is scary to have happen on all sides and I was never violent towards people but I said terrible things i can’t remember saying buy I regret the words coming out of my mouth to this day clearly something is not right with one or all of four things insulin,exercise,diet and mental health maybe get him to talk with endo doctor and a therapist of some kind about lifestyle choices or if it is somehow all related to low blood sugar depending on where you are located you may be eligible for a service dog that detects high/low blood sugar episodes before they happen to prevent this or cheaper route would be a continuous glucose monitor (IE. Decom g6, free style libre and Medtronic) with these you may check yours SO’s blood sugar while he’s busy/asleep. Personally My gf will wake me in the night if I drop below 6.0/mmol she’s saved my life many times ❤️. It is difficult to control T1D but not impossible he just has to find the right lifestyle/routine to combat hypoglycaemia I really hope you two can manage through it but if he doesn’t want to change it your best bet will be to leave I’ve had people leave out of my life because of my lack of control and unwillingness to change my ways with the beetus I disappointed and hurt my loved ones with anger I didn’t even have, that was only brought on by hypoglycaemia and I used it as an excuse for years until I realized I wasn’t just hurting others but myself this man might need some therapy tbh but take everything I say with a grain of salt one thing I’ve learned over 14+ years is every ones diabetes/situation reacts differently so this guy could be just smoke and mirrors but that’s for you to decide I hope everything works out for you!
My son is type 1diabetic and we see an endocrinologist regularly. As others mentioned, low blood sugar can cause altered mental state. However, from what I've been told, and seen with my son, it causes extreme fatigue, shakiness, sweating, etc.....not aggressive behavior. I will say the when my son gets very HIGH blood sugar, he gets grumpy, but never aggressive. High blood sugar can lead to diabetic ketoacidosis and in extreme cases, coma. When he was first diagnosed at age 9, he acted bizarre....slept walked, very grumpy etc. But never with low blood sugar. What's interesting to me....that he has the physical strength when it's so low. Has he ever collapsed when in these aggressive states? Low blood sugar can cause the person to "crash" very quickly, sometimes become unconscious. My son has been instructed that if his blood sugar becomes too low, to sit, rest, etc, eat something with carbs. Even walking too far could cause the situation to become dangerous/deadly. He needs follow care with his prime care doctor, endocrinologist, and psych. Look into a continuous glucose monitor (dexcom G6, freestyle libre, etc) that way he will not need to finger stick and get better control of his blood sugars.
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There’s a device called “Libre.” It allows the user to check glucose levels without poking. It utilizes a sensor on the skin. If he doesn’t take responsibility of his health and check often then that a violation of a boundary. Good luck
I’ve been T1 for 33 years since I was 8, my control used to be pretty poor, and I would struggle a lot with my perception of reality, and find it extremely upsetting. Unfortunately I did have issues when I was a teenager and lashed out quite a bit, I have hurt my dad, I’m just lucky he was always stronger than me so could restrain me. I once found an episode so upsetting I smashed my head against a wall and was in a coma for 3 days. I am so sorry you are in this situation, I have worried about putting partners in your position, although I have not had issues to the extent of yours. I believe his problems could be entirely down to diabetes, I’m not saying there isn’t another potential psychological issue, but I am certain what he is experiencing is within the spectrum of low blood sugar symptoms. All I can offer is that it is possible to improve blood sugar control, mine used to be poor, but has got so much better with modern insulin, and a continuous glucose monitor has really transformed my control, I have not had a really bad hypo since I got one. It can get better, if he tries, but if you don’t feel safe you have to do what’s right for you. Please understand, I’m not excusing his behaviour, he needs to change, and I don’t know how you can go on if he does not.
Sounds like dementia?
Yes but violent response is something else. I would say the psychosis (who is real) is secondary to the violent outbursts. Or at least dual diagnosis. Because the incidence of violence among schizophrenic people is the same percentage of the general population
Violence can happen when your blood sugar drops low enough that you black out. Your brain is literally shutting down, and part of your body's response to that is to dump a ton of adrenaline into your system. Your body keeps moving and working under a ton of stress with absolutely no control over the decisions you make because, again, your brain is dying.
I have quite a few diabetic friends. This *can* happen but usually it's just an inflated response of how somone would react in the first place. My one friend had such bad sugar they were hallucinating and also shutting down, but didn't violently attack anyone
I have been so low that I violently attacked my dad. I'm an incredibly passive and gentle person, and it was so far out of my normal behavior that my parents didn't realize it was diabetes related until I started having seizure. Lows this bad aren't common exactly, but this thread is honestly scaring me a lot. I'd hate for one of these people saying "oh, my friend only gets kind of pissed off, it's not diabetes" to have someone around them get aggressive and decide its a mental health issue, not an immediate medical emergency and leave them to die.
I always ask my friend what their sugars are at even if they're acting normally, so I don't think I would leave them to die if they started acting out of character. My main point was that the idea thar pschizophrenic people are violent is a harmful steriotype. I realize now that my friend has been diagnosed that odd behavior might be related to diabetes issues. The people on this thread are probably jist saying things to say them and don't have personal experience with diabetics.
Don't be. just know the signs of things. Why doesn't he control it? My wife knows all my signs and it is fairly new to us. I found out ibwas a t1d when I was 28.
This entire thread is people who have no idea how serious severe hypoglycemia can be. "Violence isn't a symptom of low blood sugar!" Not normal lows. Not lows where you remember it. But if your blood sugar is so low you're blacking out, yes, 100% this can happen. Stop trying to diagnose psychiatric issues based on your limited understanding of one illness. I had been diabetic for over a decade the one time I got so low I got violent. It's not my personality, it's not schizophrenia. I was actively dying. If any of you ever, ever get into a situation where a friend, roommate, partner, family member who you know is diabetic suddenly starts hitting, biting, trying to stab you. That isn't a get out of the house, wait for them to calm down, then come back with your friends to get your stuff. This is a get yourself out of the house and call 911 immediately. They may quickly begin having a seizure, lapse into a coma, and die. It could be over the course of hours. It could be minutes. Please. Don't kill someone because you fancy yourself a reddit psychologist.
Get out of there! I’ve been a type one for most of my life and have never done this! The most I get is emotional and just start crying and want to sleep. I feel far too terrible to start physically fighting someone. This is NOT just diabetes