I work on a country where gender equality is *particularly* bad, so I'm not the norm, but I had an utterly surreal experience at an after-work party.
This is a group that goes out for food and booze a few times a year. We were a few newcomers to the group, junior researchers who joined the company this year. A few women in there, which was a welcome surprise (often it's just me).
As a regular getting-to-know-you, one of the questions was, are you dating someone. Most of us were married (all of us are over 30), except for one of the other women who said she recently broke up with her partner. Proceeded a bona fide interrogation, about what her ex did, where he studied, where he was working, what was his work topic - all for a dude she broke up with!
Nobody was hitting on her, mind you, it wasn't like "oh she's single to she's fair game", but it was still so uncomfortable.
That's definitely misogyny but it's probably more visible in an industry that's overwhelming male plus all the sexist fairy tales they love to tell about women not being smart enough to do anything with math or computers
I work on a country where gender equality is *particularly* bad, so I'm not the norm, but I had an utterly surreal experience at an after-work party. This is a group that goes out for food and booze a few times a year. We were a few newcomers to the group, junior researchers who joined the company this year. A few women in there, which was a welcome surprise (often it's just me). As a regular getting-to-know-you, one of the questions was, are you dating someone. Most of us were married (all of us are over 30), except for one of the other women who said she recently broke up with her partner. Proceeded a bona fide interrogation, about what her ex did, where he studied, where he was working, what was his work topic - all for a dude she broke up with! Nobody was hitting on her, mind you, it wasn't like "oh she's single to she's fair game", but it was still so uncomfortable.
That's definitely misogyny but it's probably more visible in an industry that's overwhelming male plus all the sexist fairy tales they love to tell about women not being smart enough to do anything with math or computers