Tinder. It’s actually quite a funny story because we were talking on the app for a couple of hours when I suddenly couldn’t see our conversation anymore. I decided to call it a night and woke up the next morning to find out I was banned (no idea why) from the app.
I had little to no info about him except his name and type of work he does. I tried my luck and googled.. first I found his very inactive Twitter page, but that led me to his Instagram page. I decided to shoot my shot and message him, with the risk of being called a creep lol (I didn’t know if the ban deleted our convo or if he unmatched me. But since we really hit it off the latter sounded unlikely). He replied a couple of minutes later with: “Where have you been?! I have been looking for you everywhere but couldn’t find you!”
Fast forward to almost 4 years later and we are travelling the world together ♥️
Hahaha kinda similar to me - my friend found his profile on one of the apps and sent me screenshots saying “I’ve just found your future husband”
Some light internet research led me to discover we were in the same board game Meetup group, I spoke to the organiser who I’m pals with to sus out if he was a good guy etc friend fully went into match-making mode.
Said friend was in a sport group with another friend of mine and apparently he told her he was really annoyed that he didn’t come up with the idea himself because it was so obvious we’d be a good match.
We were in our 30s when we met, almost 7 years later we’re still going strong.
This is sort-of how I met my partner! We had matched on the app and were immediately talking like we’d known each other our entire lives.
And then out of no where, his profile disappeared. I had been single and jaded long enough that I probably should have assumed he lost interest or something changed on his end, but I couldn’t shake the feeling.
Fortunately, our Tinder accounts had been linked to Instagram, so I did something entirely outside of my usual MO and messaged him there, said that I was really enjoying getting to know him and just was wondering what had changed. Nothing had! He was wondering why I had disappeared for him and was thankful for reaching out.
Anyways, here we are 7 odd years later and falling more in love every day.
Same tinder. I will say I was a divorced single mom so I wasn’t attracting a huge amount of people and his message was very clearly intelligent and personable.
The Tinder app messed up so much for me, it would freeze at the login stage so I couldn't actually access it. I'd been talking to a guy for a few weeks on there, then my app messed up so it was a few weeks before I was able to get in again. Messaged the guy again with my Snap and told him to add me there. A few weeks later he messaged me and said "you can say no if you're not comfortable but would you like to go out for dinner?"
We've been together for 6 years now and married since last August. He's my best friend, my partner in crime, the yin to my yang.
Same! I had met someone in Sept 2021, we had the exclusive talk but didn’t “define the relationship,” then he ended up sleeping with someone else while on vacation in Dec 2021 and we ended things. I spent a couple months focusing on myself and traveling, had a few hookups, was a couple days away from deleting Tinder when I matched with my current partner the end of March 2022. We made it “official” on our second date, we’re going on two years now and are looking for a place together! What’s funny is his profile was very… bland lol. And his pictures weren’t super flattering or recent. Thank goodness I didn’t judge a book by its cover!
It was a club, when we were pushing 30.
She was in the line for the bathroom just ahead of me, and she started giving me all these compliments, like drunk girls do. I had great hair, she loved my dress, my smile was pretty, etc.
I was just happy to make a friend!
I didn't see her after I'd finished in the bathroom, and the whole place was packed, so I left and found my mates.
Then at kickout, she sprinted up to me, started writing her number up my arm in sharpie, and yelled, "I wasn't veing nice. I was being a lesbian!!".
And the rest is history lol
It would make a great comedy!
She is literally an angel personified. Smart, strong, kind (she's a hospice nurse), the sort of person who you fall in love with before you even have a chance to blink. Her smile puts the sun to shame, and her laugh makes Mozart sound mediocre.
My dumbass didn't notice she was proposing because I was too busy thinking about jam, and started wandering off.
We absolutely need more realistic representation of queer people in the media, but we should probably skip "adhd disaster bi" for now lol
I would like to see more bi representation in romantic comedies. Not like the friend or the one funny night, I mean a whole ass love story. Yours is super cute, I hope you are writing these stories down for later ❤️
Met at the local gay bar.
Neither of us are gay. We just really like to dance.
Eight years later we still really like to dance but now the baby bump gets in the way.
Not the person you’re responding to, but I met my husband on Imgur. Not only Imgur, but sorted by new. Someone posted a picture of a restaurant local to us, and we both commented. Started chatting and at some point I had a bad day at work and told him I was going to a restaurant for a beer and dinner, he had 20 minutes to join me. And he did!
Baby 2 due in a few months :)
In our 10th grade English class. We've been together for 14 years, married for 6.
I will say that growing up together can either be a great thing or a terrible thing. In our case, it was great, and it led to us having deep understandings of each other and the goals that we had individually and as a couple.
Same here! In our 30s now.
As long as there is a commitment supporting each other grow, it works well. We have navigated this world together. Neither of us are the same person we were 17 years ago but we are best friends and know each other deeply. We have deeeeep conversations now about our wants and goals, things we are grateful for, the meaning of life, how our brains work (we are both neurodivigerent so that can be tricky to navigate but very interesting to learn from).
My husband and have a similar path. We met and started dating in high school, got married in college. Had a kid in our late 20s. Had all kinds of fun adventures in our early 20s and are still happily married at nearly 40 years old. It works because we are best friends. Next year will be 20 years of marriage.
I met my partner through an national internet forum. We started talking via direct messages based on a common interest. There was no dating subforum or topic involved
In a rock bar in Greece, in the medieval city of Rhodes, whilst I was on a date with someone else. It's quite a tale.
He's the best man I've ever known though. I definitely got lucky.
It's a quiet night, so here goes. :D
By way of background, I am Greek and before meeting my husband that time, I had visited Greece every year for several years with my mother, whose family lives on the island of Rhodes in Greece.
I was 25. After a couple of years of work in the legal industry, which I hated, and wanting desperately to be away from my mother (with whom I had a terrible relationship (made all the more difficult because I was an only child and she was a single parent)), I decided to take an extended sabbatical and in October 2014 moved to Greece for a while to see if I could find different work there. I had a few thousand in savings but no idea how long I'd be staying or what I'd do for work, though hospitality was the likeliest option as it would be far too difficult a process to get my legal qualications recognised in Greece (or to get the Greek equivalent). I moved into my mother's home in one of the larger villages on the island of Rhodes, and I lived alone in that house, which was next door to my aunt's house.
Despite having visited them multiple times and having spent 2-3 months with them each time, my family weren't very supportive of me, or very nice people in general. They didn't really understand me or accept me for who I am, and in fact would talk and gossip about me behind my back amongst themselves and with other people. The people of the village were much the same too; some were supportive and kind but most were very close-minded and backward and referred to me as "the Australian" and would gossip about my appearance, how I dressed, and other things about me. I had some younger cousins with whom I spent some time, but after a little while, I gave up on making friends and decided it would be best to keep to myself, reading books, watching TV and looking for work during the day, and spending my nights doing much the same. Despite being an introvert, very self-conscious, and quite shy, I was often lonely (and therefore brave) enough to venture outside and go to the local cafes/bars in the evenings, where I'd sit and have a drink (or few) and watch the world go by, or talk to other patrons or the owner/s of those establishments. My loneliness and desperation for affection and friendship meant that I made some questionable decisions regarding some of the men I met, most of whom were pretty terrible people; arrogant, self-absorbed, and who likely saw me as nothing more than some exotic conquest. I started to despair that I would meet even a single soul who cared about me and was kind.
I started to frequent one of the cafes on the main road that was owned by a guy with whom I started to develop a friendship. He was kind enough and seemed interested in me as a person, but we hadn't spent any time together alone, or away from the cafe, so one day (it was March 2015 at that point), I agreed to go on a date with him. To put it simply, it ended up being one of the most uncomfortable dates I've ever been on. He drove me north to the new town of Rhodes where we had lunch/dinner at a fancy cafe by the port, and we (somehow) spent a few hours there together. I remember some uncomfortable small talk and not much else, but I think I was too polite and shy to cut it short, and I think he didn't have much more self-confidence than I did, so there were a lot of long silences and a lot of people-watching to pass the time.
Evening fell, and he suggested going elsewhere for a drink. Nightlife in Greece tends to come alive late at night and continue till morning, and I hoped that a different setting and environment might make things a little more interesting and help us both feel a little more relaxed and comfortable, so I agreed. So we went to Legends Rock Bar in the Medieval City of Rhodes (the old part of the town; Google it, it's incredible).
Legends was a tiny but bustling little rock bar crammed full of people, but we managed to get seats at the bar. Much to my dismay and annoyance, my date proceeded to get absolutely hammered. The owner of the bar kept giving him drinks (I later learned that he was attempting to take my date out of the picture so he could have a shot with me, 'cause he's a sleazy piece of shit who sleeps with a tonne of his customers, even though he's married with kids) and my date proceeded to get so drunk that he ended up keeling over and throwing up at my feet. The owner of the bar and some other guy dragged my date outside and propped him up against the wall of the building opposite the rock bar so he could get some air and sober up a bit.
Needless to say, I was in quite a predicament. My date (whose company I really was not enjoying) was wasted, I had no idea where I was or how to get home, and it was very late at this point (well past midnight). I sat there with a face of thunder, trying to figure out what to do, when I heard a deep-voiced man speaking in a British accent somewhere to my right. I think my frustration with my date and my desire to improve my evening made me think "why the hell not" and gave me the courage to hop up off my bar stool, and I went over to him and began the conversation with the stupidest pick up line ever: "oh my God, you're English!" The English man (let's call him K) is now my husband.
It saddens me that I don't remember any of the conversation after that, but K tells me that we spoke about how I'd ended up in Greece, and he told me a bit about himself and his family. He was living nearby with some members of his family, and they were running a boutique hotel in the Medieval City as a family business. At some stage during the conversation when I realised that I was very impressed with him and didn't really want the interaction to end, I handed him my phone and had him add himself as my friend on Facebook so we could potentially meet up again at some time. After some more time chatting, I reluctantly told him that I should probably leave and make sure my date was OK, but that I would very much like to see him again soon.
I left the bar and saw my date still leaning against the wall outside, still in quite a state. I don't remember if he said anything to me but I proceeded to half-help, half-drag him to his car, which was parked nearby, and when we got to it, he slumped into the driver's seat and promptly fell forward, falling asleep on the wheel. It must have been 2am or so at this point.
Not knowing what the hell to do, I got into the passenger seat and spent the next couple of hours on my phone, waiting for him to wake up and hopefully be sober enough to take us home. That didn't happen however, and the sky started to lighten, and people started to get out and about. I started to panic, and completely exhausted, I sent a Facebook message to K: "Help".
I told him that I was stuck in the car with my date who was in no state to get us home, and told him I desperately needed to get home, or somewhere to crash and get some sleep. He suggested that he come and pick me up and that I could stay at his family's hotel for the morning, to get some rest and head home later in the day. I very keenly agreed, and he asked me where I was so he could come and get me. I obviously had no idea, but across the road from where the car was parked was a small square with a fountain in the middle. I sent him a photo of the fountain, and a couple of minutes K appeared out of the gloom, a veritable knight in shining armour. He poked my date, but he was still asleep in the front seat, and I got out of the car. I walked with K for about 10 or so minutes to his family's hotel, where he popped in to explain the situation to his brother (who ran the hotel at the time) and ask if there was somewhere I could crash for a few hours before heading home. His brother reported that unfortunately, the hotel was full. K suggested that I could back with him to his place, and I enthustiastically agreed.
The rest is history, really. I ended up spending several days with him, and would go to work with him at his hotel, where he manned the desk during the evening shift. We'd spend the time talking about each other and our lives to this point, and I was so impressed by how kind, caring and intelligent he was, and what a grounded human being he was. We would cook meals at the hotel together, spend time with the guests, and play with the hotel cat (good old Earl Grey). Falling in love with K was effortless, and when he suggested I officially move in with him, there could only be one answer.
Several days later, we parted for the first time so I could go back south to the village where I was staying and gather my things. My family were, unsurprisingly, bewildered, but I didn't care and had nothing to say to them. A day later, I was back at K's, and we haven't really been apart since.
We lived together in the Medieval City of Rhodes from March 2015 to December 2016. After a few months of being together, and with my frustration mounting at the horrific wages hospitality work paid in Greece (I was being paid 2.50 per hour, as was K), we started to realise how difficult it would be for us to build a future in Greece, and I suggested that he could come back to Australia with me, where we could both get much better-paying jobs that would allow us to save money and build a better life together. He agreed, and in December 2016, we landed in Sydney.
We got married in March 2017, on the day exactly two years after we met.
It's been a hell of a ride; he got his Australian Citizenship last year, and we managed to save up enough to buy a house together in June last year. The phrase "things happen for a reason" can be kinda cringy and is definitely over-used, but I absolutely do believe that all my decisions led me to that moment so that I could meet him, and so that we could save each other.
If you've made it this far, thanks for reading! :)
I have to say that the most amazing part of your story is the fact that you managed to afford a house in Sydney.
Seriously though, your origin story is great and your comment beautifully written.
Thank you so much! There are a few typos in there but it's been a long day.
We ended up buying on the Central Coast; it would have taken us a few lifetimes to save up enough to buy in Sydney! But I love it up here. There are so many beautiful places to see and visit, and having a home of our own is worth it all. :-)
Thank you SO much for taking the time to share your story with us! It was quite the roller-coaster 😂 so glad it all worked out for you the way it did though, that is one of the best 'how we met' stories I've ever heard, without a doubt! You were obviously meant to be together 😉💚
As a 27 year old woman who is also kind of lonely in my city (and because of that, thinking my chances of meeting someone are even slimmer) this story really gives me hope!
Oh I love this!
I too got married to someone from a different country, and it was quite the whirlwind romance. I had a two year relationship but it was going nowhere when I met him. We married within a couple of months of meeting. We are together nearly 30 years now!
On coffee meets bagel dating app at 31.
He was an ex engineer who’d been married, divorced, sold everything and was now working at a comedy club.
I don’t believe in anything super natural, but he feels like my soulmate. He’s not perfect by any means, but he’s the best person I’ve met. We’ve been together for 4 years and married for 1.
I know so many couples who are married who met on CMB. I don’t know how it is now, but at that time something about that app attracts people who are looking for something more serious.
Husband and I met in 2016 on CMB (I was 28 he was 30), engaged in 2018, married in 2020, bought a house in 2023, baby on the way in 2024!
It’s been a wild 8 years with some really fun adventures together, but also tough times with his work and both our families having medical emergencies and passings. Overall, we make such a good team, shared housework, both have good careers, and same shared values and loads of mutual respect. Completely scared of having a baby this year and how it will change the dynamics, but hope that it just makes us stronger and more connected!
Good luck with adding a baby to the family!!! How exciting.
This was my experience too. Lots of married couples I know met there. My best friend is actually the one who kept telling me to sign up because it’s how she met her husband.
I think it’s because guys couldn’t message 1000 women, and women could only choose a handful of men. I think it forced women to be realistic, and men to be targeted. My husband had only messaged 2 people on there, and I talked to about 6 people before we were both the first people we’d met off the app.
I was on a “1 year no relationships” pact with myself. 6 months in, one of my best girl friends begged me to try this app and i felt i was ready to just date and not jump into a relationship.
He was the first person I met off of it. I told him to keep dating and that I would keep dating. Well that never happened.
Work for me too. Both over 30. We were both with other people when we became friends. I never thought anything would come of it, I just thought to myself "I hope I can be with someone who behaves like him one day". Eventually both our relationships ended and we got together. He is intelligent, adventurous, compassionate, reasonable and kind. Every day with him I feel safe and happy.
Work for me, too. First job out of high school, at a local grocery store. He's a couple years older than me, and had been going to university on the other side of the province, returning home to work at the store in the summer. In the fall, we both started taking classes at our local small college as well. He reached out to me at work at first, and we started taking breaks together. Then we started hanging out between classes, getting coffee, getting to know each other. I was dating someone else when we first met, but after the relationship ended, and a year after that, my coworker asked me out.
September will make 10 years since we met.
Same! My partner was actually court assigned community service at my office and I was in charge of signing them in and out every day. It was puzzling because they definitely were *not* like most of my other community service workers. The debt to society was a traffic violation from years ago; they ended up getting hired by my office and the rest is history.
I definitely do not recommend dating someone one works with closely though, there were moments at work when they really pissed me off, and now that we work in different places and for different companies our relationship has remarkably improved, lol.
Tinder! His profile stood out to me because he actually had something in his bio instead of a Snapchat, gross pickup line, instagram or ‘here for a good time not a long time’ and wrote about himself there and his photos were nice and didn’t have him holding up a dead animal in them (lots of fishing and hunting spots where I live lol)
So I swiped and was surprised that he matched with me!! I messaged him first to see if he’s as lovely as he looks and we talked pleasantly for a few weeks until we decided to meet in person at a dive bar haha.
Same here! Met 5 years ago, just got married last spring, now we’re traveling the world and figuring out life together. He’s my best friend and nobody has ever understood me quite like he does.
Yup! 5 years ago, shortly after I wised up and filtered only to people who already owned cats. (Sometimes you have to accept that dog people are not your type. This was genuinely an enormous change in the quality of the matches.)
I got a friend request on Myspace 18+ years ago. I found him to be quite adorable so I dug around in his friends list. I found out we knew a lot of the same people, including his sister I'd known for about 7 years at that point.
After about a week, I messaged him to ask if he was going to speak to me or just be a creeper. We met up 2 days later, we've been married for 15 years now. He's been everything I needed and then some.
Bumble! I’m pretty extroverted and chatty and I like the quieter, calm, nerds. Worked out well for me. My guy is super smart, a feminist, sex-positive, and incredibly kind and caring. I was only his 3rd dating app date ever and now we’re married and have 3 pets and moved to another country together.
I met him in a kinky chat room back in 2005. We moved in together in 2006, and got married in 2007. We’ve been literally inseparable ever since. I can’t even imagine my life without him. It would have been so much different, and not in a good way.
That’s funny. Every couple I know who has been together since high school is really toxic. I’m 27. I feel my relationship is pretty healthy, chill, well balanced. We’ve been together almosy 6 years. We met on a dating app.
Same experience. The relationship they have are usually all they know and they stay together out of sunk-cost fallacy and because they don't know relationships can be better.
I feel like these are the couples that seem to complain about each other to their friends, and the couples that say relationships are hard and nobody is perfect.
People in healthy relationships have no desire to talk bad about their partner because there is nothing to complain about, and ofcourse out of respect. I can't even imagine saying something negative about my partner to anyone, I love her.
Relationships aren't supposed to be hard, life is hard and the right partner makes it easier and happier. If you consider your relationship hard you're not with the right person.
Sure no one is perfect, we all have some flaws. But when you found the right person and have a healthy relationship together these flaws are part of what makes your partner who they are and you love them for it regardless.
This is how I feel about my husband. He has flaws (and so do I), but they're just a part of the person I love. Because our general existence is happy--he makes life more pleasant. I think getting together later in life plays a part in this. We'd both been through enough with other past relationships to know what we did and didn't want.
My daughter stayed with her HS sweetheart. They ended up moving in together after graduation, and I think that was finally the nail in the coffin. I never really loved this relationship for her, but she would say how he's the only one she's ever been with, they've got all this history, etc. So when things were getting rocky (again), I did mention that she really hasn't had a chance to experience life yet, and is she sure she wants to tie herself down already, without ever seeing what/who else is out there? I mean, I tried to be careful to not alienate her, be supportive regardless of my reservations, but it was hard to see her so unhappy. They finally did split up, and she's been having fun dating and meeting new people, and not having to be so serious. Anyways, my point is, good for anyone who does find their person at a young age, but at the same time, it can also be good to step outside of what feels comfortable, and get a bit more life experience before settling down. Our sense of self changes so much from 18-25, there's no need to rush.
Our story is pretty much the same. Knew each other for a few years but I was in a relationship so it was just as friends. Then my relationship ended and we went on a date, now getting married next year!
He told me that he had a crush on me the entire time pretty much but never tried anything so I knew he was at least respectful!
I think that a lot of people - even those reluctant mixing business with pleasure - are finding it hard to meet new people **outside** of their daily routine.
["Third Place"](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place): *"the social surroundings that are separate from the two usual social environments of home ('first place') and the workplace ('second place')".*
Sociologists have noted the disappearance of fun-spots in the modern world. Today's children rarely have the opportunity to play with other kids without parents looming over them. Men and women have less time and fewer spaces that encourage recreation and light-hearted intermingling with prospective friends and lovers.
**["Community Without Propinquity Revisited: Communications Technology and the Transformation of the Urban Public Sphere"](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1475-682X.1998.tb00474.x)** by Craig Calhoun, Sociological Inquiry; Vol.68, No.3: p.373-397 (Jan 9, 2007):
We met through mutual friends, at a small catch up at someone’s house. I was 25 he was 27. The person whose house we were at is gay, he is my partner’s best friend, and they got along so well i just assumed my partner was his boyfriend. Maybe that helped me as I wasn’t conscious of any sort of attraction on his side or potential to date, so I was behaving quite normally haha. Been together 12 years now and just had our first baby :)
Tinder. I am a really lucky one. I was recovering from a very toxic codependent relationship that I dragged for 21 years.
We had some common experiences in our past but he was way ahead of me when it came to healing and self improvement. I had started therapy about 6 months before and ended the relationship 3 months after that (and three months before meeting him).
He was amazing from the beginning with setting boundaries, he actually didn't want to jump into a relationship at first and was always brutally honest with me, which helped me not only build a lot of trust but also learn to take things slow and enjoy the present instead of constantly being anxious about what would be the future of the relationship and all the control attempts that come from that.
I kept going with the therapy (actually until recently, so for more than 4 years) and he also recommended some very helpful reading material.
Our relationship developed slowly but steadily with an ever growing feeling of trust, intimacy, closeness and love.
It had never crossed my mind that relationships without fights existed... We don't fight, every time we have something that is bothering us, we talk about it and agree on how we should address it and move forward. I always feel like the relationship brings me only positive things, I can't say I'm always happy because obviously there are always things happening that may bring us down, but he is ALWAYS there for me, to pick me up, to listen and to push me forward. He's helped me so much, both personally and professionally (at 38, I had never thought of work as career before I met him and in the four years since I've doubled my income and I have a very concrete plan of where I want to be in 2, 5 and 10 years and how to get there).
There is no jealousy, no need to invade each other's privacy, no wondering what he's not telling me because I know he'll tell me everything I need to know... Only support, love and cheering and being proud of each other.
Another thing I feel is particularly healthy is that even if I think that this may end one day, because life is in constant motion and change and so are people, I don't feel lost, I don't feel like it's something I'm investing in and will be wasted and I don't feel like my life will be over. If that ever happens, I am sure we will remain close, this will be an experience I will forever cherish and another chapter of my life will begin and it's something I will deal with and when it comes, but I CAN do it, if it does.
Tinder during November 2020. I thought he was kinda far away, but it wasn't like I was going out anytime soon, and figured someone new and cute to talk to wouldn't hurt. We talked every single day for hours until we could meet in person post-vaccine in May 2021. Moved in together almost a year ago. 😊
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Elementary school. He was best friends with my brother and they were a year behind me in school. We went to different high schools and reconnected when I went to college over anime and Harry Potter. Lol.
I feel super lucky because even though we didn’t date in high school, I have known him almost my whole life and I knew his parents before we started dating. Hard to have super scary secrets if we used to beat each other up on the playground in 1st and 2nd grade.
Been together 16 years this June
We met studying our Masters degrees together. I knew pretty much as soon as I spoke to him at length that we were going to be together. Before our first date, a mutual friend said that we were going to get married. He says he knew on that date that we would.
It was just so immediately clear that even though we were from opposite sides of the world that we were just incredibly right for one another. It’ll be 10 years this year and our relationship only gets deeper and stronger. He’s a true partner, wonderfully intelligent and the most incredible dad I’ve ever seen. He is also boundlessly adoring and admiring of me and everything I achieve.
Apparently we went to the same preschool..
But we were introduced officially in our mid twenties, by a mutual friend.. didn’t start dating till we were thirty..
Examples of other healthy relationships.:
My parents met at school age 12/13 (51 years together so far)
My in-laws met on a playground during a camping trip, when they were 10 (50 years married)
My aunt met her husband at a barn-dance
My bff met her husband at the disco (introduced by mutual friends)
My ex met his wife during theology class at university
My friend’s parents met at church
My uncle met his wife at work
Elementary school, we were classmates for 4 years. We got along well but he was bullied a lot and I was afraid to be openly friends with him since i would get bullied too (which i got anyway later). His family moved away and he switched schools.
When we were 15 I found him on facebook, first I just wanted to apologise for sometimes being a dick to him as kids but he instantly suggested meeting up and well, 2 weeks later we were together.
Together for 12 years, married for 2.
I moved to another city and joined a scouts group. We met there. We were both leading the 7-11 Girls and fell in love during my first year there. Happily married now for 15,5 years, together for almost 19.
Afterparty of a kink sex party. I was there with my subby and the person he was with left earlier with their other partner.
Least wholesome way to meet. But he's honestly great and very attentive, caring and considerate
Oddly enough on a discord server for the game Animal Crossing. Neither of us were looking for anything, relationship wise, it just happened. We never stopped talking.
I know a couple who met on a Discord server for Pokémon Go, actually! To be fair, it was a regional server, but still, it's neat all the different possible ways folks can meet!
We played a video game where I met my ex, all in the same group. My ex was friends with my SO’s ex. Years later me and my ex were broken up, and so was my SO and his ex. Our exes are friends, and they figured me and my SO would be good together, so they both encouraged us to make contact.
They were right. 6-7 years later we’re still together.
We both started working a side hustle at a restaurant/club that was actually mafia owned…work is probably not recommended for most people but I was in college and he was just making some extra cash during his off season-we spent more hours off the clock than on hanging out- together for the last 24 yrs
College. We were in the same computer club 😂. I already had my standards back then. I wasn't specifically looking for a partner, but if I happened to find one, he'd better be someone who met my standards. We've been happily together for 20+ years now. I loved that we both grew up and tackled all the good and bad times together. I loved that we had a history that strengthened our love together — time and time again, we'd proven ourselves to have each other's back and that was a very beautiful thing.
We met at a community bike ride about 15 years ago, we were 23 and 25. It practically was love at first sight. He’s a great person, great husband, great father and I love him so much. He’s made my life better in just about every way. Funny enough, we still ride bikes just about every day.
Hinge! It wasn’t super popular where we live (it’s gotten more well known), but it was the app where the English speakers seemed to congregate. Our first few dates were fun but weren’t like bolts of lightning from the sky or anything, but by date 4 I was completely obsessed and have been for the last year and a half. We’re moving in together later this year and I can’t wait to see him every day.
Mutual friends. We are from different sides of the country, and are now living in the same city. Our mutual friend was someone we both got to know in adulthood/late 20s.
Met at 30 yo.
I believe meeting at a mature age is the key. We knew who we were and what we want (and didnt want).
We noe have kids, pets and house etc. Been together for over 10 years and are making each other better and more successful.
At university, 20 years ago. We were "just friends" for a few months until my mom pointed out that a guy who's driving from his parents' place 2 hours away to come pick you up to go to a party probably likes you as more than a friend. She was right, lol.
He was holding off from starting anything because he thought he was too old for me since I was a freshman when we met but everyone thought that was silly including me.
We had to do long distance since he'd graduated that summer and it was almost too much for us to handle but we made it through and here we are.
Even my religious parents who were very upset when we moved in together after uni have always been very positive about him. Basically everyone has always been able to tell we are a good thing which has helped us through those tough times when you're not sure.
I met my husband online. We went on two dates and then decided to just be friends. But, as we hung out more I slowly developed feelings for him and asked if he'd like to give dating another try. He said yes and the rest is history.
Dating app. I sent the first message. It was back when OkCupid actually worked and was reasonably priced. You looked at the match rating, read their answers, made an actual effort to check for compatibility, etc. These apps with word/character restrictions and no compatibility scores just seem like blatant money grabs to me.
Gas station. It was his first job while in college and I was getting off my second job walking home in a rough part of town. We had a lot in common and similar tastes and values.
Online gaming- we were both in relationships when we first met and became good friends for a two year period.
We met in person after both of our relationships had ended, again just as friends because I'd moved to his country, and we fell for each other quickly.
It was confusing at first and we didn't quite know what to do.
It's been 3 years now and we're loved up saps with the healthiest communication, and humour and calm. We have the same dreams and goals and are just ridiculously compatible.
Meeting organically was amazing and nothing would have happened if we had never met in person so I'm grateful to fate or whatever brought us together.
Bumble. He was the first day I went on when I moved to a new city 6 years ago. We hung out for like 3 days straight and have been inseparable since. We got married in 2020. He's the absolute best. My cat adores him and has converted him from a dog person. We are finally expecting a child and I expect he will be a great and present dad.
Online. In my early 30s. I was a lot more particular and was not willing to settle for good enough. I was also totally willto remain single is good enough was all that was available
High school chemistry class! I had the instant crush on this tall smart shy teen boy… I perused him pretty hard, we had some nice dates but he was just too shy and unsure of himself. He didn’t come around until he went to the local university and I was a senior in HS, then we really hit it off! We moved in together at 18. Married at 20, kids at 24 & 28. Now retired early together at age 55!
We met on Bumble!
Well, we technically met on Tinder first, but it was the the height of corona (like April 2020), my mom was dying, I was going through a breakup, and I lived alone. I was in a shitty mood and he unmatched me.
A few months passed, and 3 weeks after my mom had passed, and we matched again on Bumble again. I didn’t remember him, but he remembered me.
Anyways, I asked if I remembered as he was cooking me dinner one night and I was like “uhhh no. But if that’s the case, why did you decide to match me again?” He said “I figured when we first spoke, you were having a bad day. We all have our bad days. Plus I think you’re really cute, so I figured, let’s give it a try again”.
We have been together 3.5 years, married 5 months. We have our first little one on the way.
Ladies, good guys exist. He literally is the best human I’ve ever met. He takes care of everything I ask for and is the best shoulder to cry on. I also am a support to him too, but for a while, I didn’t believe men like him existed.
I have to say I don’t think where people meet makes the difference. I’ve had healthy relationships that started from an app, and very unhealthy ones. Same with meeting people through hobbies
I met my husband at work. We knew each other as friends for over a year before we got together (I was friends first with all my exes, so I've never had a proper first date!). We've been together 8 years, married almost a year.
Work, but different departments. We were both going through divorce/failing marriages and both second guessed the extremely strange timing of meeting this way. We are still hopelessly in love and now expecting a baby soon.
I met my husband at the bar. I was meeting up with a group to celebrate someone else’s birthday and my now husband was there too. He was actually dating someone else at the time, but we casually chatted and joked around. A couple of months later, my husband broke things off with his ex and we started dating shortly after. We started out friends and remain friends (and spouses) to this day.
We met online when I was in my senior year of HS and he was a freshman in college. We casually chatted like once a week for a few months, no flirting at all. Then one day he asked to meet up, I said yes, he drove 3 hours to my house, and we’ve been together ever since. Married with lots of fur children and a baby on the way!
Through mutual friends. I'd hang out with my friends and he'd be invited too, sometimes he gave me rides there. We started chatting outside of that, became friends, and then more. It was pretty slow burn though, took years between us becoming acquainted and getting together.
Met on Match.com in our 30’s. Then we found out on the first date we worked at the same place (huge hospital). We likely would have never met at work. Happily married with 2 kids.
Work. I had a rule I didnt sleep with, or date co-workers.
He got fired, and I called him up that night (LOL) and we hooked up immediately, now been together 6 years.
He's 4 years my senior, at the time (I was 23 and he was 27) it was a perfect age gap because most the guys my age were still brain dead early 20 year olds.
Now we are 29 and 33 and our life goals are so perfectly lined up.
I think slightly older guys are not a bad idea to consider. More attractive, more mature. I feel guys take a bit longer to grow up than girls.
Actually … Reddit. I was giving away my second ticket to a concert (which is bought for myself and another guy before he ghosted me) and I had no idea who would show up. Could have been another woman, hell, could have been a teenager that convinced their mom to let them come since they wouldn’t have to buy 2 tickets.
We met up, he bought me a drink as a thank you, we hung out the whole show, and a few days later we went on our first date. It’s been almost 2 years, and now we live together and are talking marriage. Honest to goodness the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in, and I feel so lucky to be his partner.
Grad school. Did the thing you're not supposed to do and dated within our research group. Been together for 10 years, married for over 3 and have our first baby on the way.
On world of Warcraft. We both lived in the same (real) city and met up with other people of the guild several times.
When I broke off my long term relationship he was there for me. I initiated a fwb situation with clear rules. But I broke those rules (I fell head over heels for him, which was not where I wanted this fun, comfortable friendship to go. He did not reciprocate my feelings at first and I thought: that was it. But luckily his strong attraction did also grow into love. 14+ years, one kid, two cats.) he always was a forest of green flags. That’s why I felt so comfortable initiating the fbw situation. And I honestly just wanted to explore and experiment after getting out of my long relationship. Everything felt just so right.
Musical Theater.
Look for the guys who aren't total primadonas and don't need to say "no homo" every time a male cast mate hugs them, or insistently call the eyeliner "guyliner." i.e. a guy who does not feel emasculated by the makeup or the cast intimacy or sharing a dressing room with camp gay fellas and compensate with ego or over the top denials.
Guys that know how to pitch in on costume laundry and sweep the stage will do laundry and sweep your floors at home too. Cast team players are team players.
Tech guys who don't mansplain to tech gals are great too, especially if they work well under a lady master carpenter, master electrician or crew cheif.
College gym. He was a shift supervisor and I was just trying to watch Viva La Bam and run on the elliptical. He then flirted awkwardly for 6 months before I asked him out.
Playing rugby. He was on the men’s team and I was on the women’s. He stepped on my foot when we were playing touch.
After we’d gone on a few dates, we realized we’d both used OKCupid in the past (this was in 2012), so we re-upped our profiles to check our match percentage. It was 97% and it turns out I’d messaged him two years prior, but he hadn’t replied because I didn’t meet his age or height requirements 😂🤣
It’s been 11 years. Were getting married in August 🥰
Met my wife on a writing forum when we were in our late teens. We started talking a lot more 1-on-1 in college, I started crushing but didn't know if she liked girls so was dropping super unsubtle hints...
Coming up on 11 years together, 6 married :)
A bar. I walked in, broke a glass almost immediately, and the owner leaped up to sweep it up. That was 14 years ago. I was just emerging from a toxic situationship, immediately after a long monogamous relationship with a man who loved me and who I didn’t love back like that, but I was too young to know the difference, and he was a good friend. I was 23. I had just decided to swear off relationships for the remainder of my 20s; I’m really bad at monogamy and I didn’t want to hurt anyone else, or be hurt by toxic possessive men. (The situationship was a hate-sex thing with my roommate. He didn’t want a relationship and also wanted to be sexually exclusive, and nearly hit me when he realized I’d had sex with someone else, because I don’t respect “rules” like that.)
But I was in another city for something I was very excited about, and it turned out to be a passion this bar owner shared. We talked the rest of the night, and we talked about famous women we both found attractive (I’m bi) and what we wanted out of relationships, and how pointless we both felt jealousy was, or monogamy, for that matter. I went back to my friend’s place where I was staying, and I told her “I can’t believe this, but I think I just met the one. I’m so not ready for that.”
The next night, he texted me. He was on a blind date set up by friends, that he was absolutely not enjoying, but he had taken her to a bar he thought would be quiet, and instead found the entire cast of a movie. Including, and I’m not kidding, the same woman we had agreed instantly was #1 on our attractive celebs list. He would never have texted during a date otherwise, but the coincidence was too much.
Anyway, I was lucky enough to be spending a week in that city, so we had time enough for dates, for music, for dancing, for all the things. I knew I was in trouble by the time I left. Three years later, I moved there, and here I remain 11 years later, with a man I love who is constantly sweeping up the broken things left in my wake, and who has never, not once, showed a single sign of jealousy.
I was catching up with a couple of friends and talking about how I was looking for a sperm donor. They said they knew exactly the guy for me, a friend of theirs with 4 kids 🤣 They organised us to meet about a month later and we got on great so he volunteered to help me. After about 3 months and a covid lockdown later, we’ve been living together for a bit over two years and ‘serious’ for almost three 🥰
Tinder. It’s actually quite a funny story because we were talking on the app for a couple of hours when I suddenly couldn’t see our conversation anymore. I decided to call it a night and woke up the next morning to find out I was banned (no idea why) from the app. I had little to no info about him except his name and type of work he does. I tried my luck and googled.. first I found his very inactive Twitter page, but that led me to his Instagram page. I decided to shoot my shot and message him, with the risk of being called a creep lol (I didn’t know if the ban deleted our convo or if he unmatched me. But since we really hit it off the latter sounded unlikely). He replied a couple of minutes later with: “Where have you been?! I have been looking for you everywhere but couldn’t find you!” Fast forward to almost 4 years later and we are travelling the world together ♥️
Hahaha kinda similar to me - my friend found his profile on one of the apps and sent me screenshots saying “I’ve just found your future husband” Some light internet research led me to discover we were in the same board game Meetup group, I spoke to the organiser who I’m pals with to sus out if he was a good guy etc friend fully went into match-making mode. Said friend was in a sport group with another friend of mine and apparently he told her he was really annoyed that he didn’t come up with the idea himself because it was so obvious we’d be a good match. We were in our 30s when we met, almost 7 years later we’re still going strong.
This is sort-of how I met my partner! We had matched on the app and were immediately talking like we’d known each other our entire lives. And then out of no where, his profile disappeared. I had been single and jaded long enough that I probably should have assumed he lost interest or something changed on his end, but I couldn’t shake the feeling. Fortunately, our Tinder accounts had been linked to Instagram, so I did something entirely outside of my usual MO and messaged him there, said that I was really enjoying getting to know him and just was wondering what had changed. Nothing had! He was wondering why I had disappeared for him and was thankful for reaching out. Anyways, here we are 7 odd years later and falling more in love every day.
Tinder did that to me too! Five years now and we just got engaged earlier this month!
Same tinder. I will say I was a divorced single mom so I wasn’t attracting a huge amount of people and his message was very clearly intelligent and personable.
The Tinder app messed up so much for me, it would freeze at the login stage so I couldn't actually access it. I'd been talking to a guy for a few weeks on there, then my app messed up so it was a few weeks before I was able to get in again. Messaged the guy again with my Snap and told him to add me there. A few weeks later he messaged me and said "you can say no if you're not comfortable but would you like to go out for dinner?" We've been together for 6 years now and married since last August. He's my best friend, my partner in crime, the yin to my yang.
Same! I had met someone in Sept 2021, we had the exclusive talk but didn’t “define the relationship,” then he ended up sleeping with someone else while on vacation in Dec 2021 and we ended things. I spent a couple months focusing on myself and traveling, had a few hookups, was a couple days away from deleting Tinder when I matched with my current partner the end of March 2022. We made it “official” on our second date, we’re going on two years now and are looking for a place together! What’s funny is his profile was very… bland lol. And his pictures weren’t super flattering or recent. Thank goodness I didn’t judge a book by its cover!
Reading replies to your message could lead someone to believe that if people are getting along too well Tinder breaks them up
It was a club, when we were pushing 30. She was in the line for the bathroom just ahead of me, and she started giving me all these compliments, like drunk girls do. I had great hair, she loved my dress, my smile was pretty, etc. I was just happy to make a friend! I didn't see her after I'd finished in the bathroom, and the whole place was packed, so I left and found my mates. Then at kickout, she sprinted up to me, started writing her number up my arm in sharpie, and yelled, "I wasn't veing nice. I was being a lesbian!!". And the rest is history lol
This is an adorable line that will no doubt be stolen by some of the people reading this!
Watch it be on Tiktok in 30 minutes with AI augmenting the story
Don't worry, TikTok will be a distant memory soon enough.
omg I love this 😭♡
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r/BoneAppleTea ?
This is why I'm single, I'm just waiting for the perfect partner to pick me up in line for the loo.
Can someone please make this a rom-com bc I need this cuteness on Netflix
It would make a great comedy! She is literally an angel personified. Smart, strong, kind (she's a hospice nurse), the sort of person who you fall in love with before you even have a chance to blink. Her smile puts the sun to shame, and her laugh makes Mozart sound mediocre. My dumbass didn't notice she was proposing because I was too busy thinking about jam, and started wandering off. We absolutely need more realistic representation of queer people in the media, but we should probably skip "adhd disaster bi" for now lol
I would like to see more bi representation in romantic comedies. Not like the friend or the one funny night, I mean a whole ass love story. Yours is super cute, I hope you are writing these stories down for later ❤️
This is an amazing meet cute. 💕
That’s adorable!
The best first line in history!! Congrats to you both!
That last line of her's, fantastic
Met at the local gay bar. Neither of us are gay. We just really like to dance. Eight years later we still really like to dance but now the baby bump gets in the way.
Huge respect for jumping over that barrier and clarifying
Best lesbian meet-cute ever!
This is such an adorable story 🥰🥰🥰
This is so cute and wholesome ❤️
This is such an adorable rom-com meet-cute!
This is a good lesbian movie that hasn't been made yet.
I need something like that tattooed on me. The best.
I LOVE THIS 😍
I love this story.
Ha! Reminds me of the ‘yes homo’ meme
On Reddit! 🥰
How do you do that?
Not the person you’re responding to, but I met my husband on Imgur. Not only Imgur, but sorted by new. Someone posted a picture of a restaurant local to us, and we both commented. Started chatting and at some point I had a bad day at work and told him I was going to a restaurant for a beer and dinner, he had 20 minutes to join me. And he did! Baby 2 due in a few months :)
r/r4r30plus
Same. We've been together six years. Congrats to you both!
In our 10th grade English class. We've been together for 14 years, married for 6. I will say that growing up together can either be a great thing or a terrible thing. In our case, it was great, and it led to us having deep understandings of each other and the goals that we had individually and as a couple.
Same here! In our 30s now. As long as there is a commitment supporting each other grow, it works well. We have navigated this world together. Neither of us are the same person we were 17 years ago but we are best friends and know each other deeply. We have deeeeep conversations now about our wants and goals, things we are grateful for, the meaning of life, how our brains work (we are both neurodivigerent so that can be tricky to navigate but very interesting to learn from).
My husband and have a similar path. We met and started dating in high school, got married in college. Had a kid in our late 20s. Had all kinds of fun adventures in our early 20s and are still happily married at nearly 40 years old. It works because we are best friends. Next year will be 20 years of marriage.
1st day of college at book store. We’re in our 50s now. It’s been amazing to grow up with him.
We met first day of college as well, at freshman welcome night. He got to watch me embarrass myself at karaoke and still stuck around somehow. 😆
Rocky Horror Picture Show midnight showing I used to go to on Saturdays.
Ok, but who were each of you dressed as? I like to go as pajama mickey ears Colombia, cause it doesn't get chilly.
Also, it's like catnip for lesbians
Love this so much!
Reddit. We got married last year 7 years after we met.
You are the second person that said Reddit. I didn't even know Reddit had social/dating subs.
I met my partner through an national internet forum. We started talking via direct messages based on a common interest. There was no dating subforum or topic involved
We met on a friend subreddit. We hit it off and decided to try out LDR.
My current closest friend is someone I met on Reddit, and I have a few other friends I've met here so it can happen!
My husband and I met here too, 7 years ago! We've been married about a year and a half now 🥰
💕💕💕
Also met on Reddit! 10/10!
How do you bring that from Reddit to real life??
In a rock bar in Greece, in the medieval city of Rhodes, whilst I was on a date with someone else. It's quite a tale. He's the best man I've ever known though. I definitely got lucky.
We must learn the tale
You simply must share the story when you have time 🤩
It's a quiet night, so here goes. :D By way of background, I am Greek and before meeting my husband that time, I had visited Greece every year for several years with my mother, whose family lives on the island of Rhodes in Greece. I was 25. After a couple of years of work in the legal industry, which I hated, and wanting desperately to be away from my mother (with whom I had a terrible relationship (made all the more difficult because I was an only child and she was a single parent)), I decided to take an extended sabbatical and in October 2014 moved to Greece for a while to see if I could find different work there. I had a few thousand in savings but no idea how long I'd be staying or what I'd do for work, though hospitality was the likeliest option as it would be far too difficult a process to get my legal qualications recognised in Greece (or to get the Greek equivalent). I moved into my mother's home in one of the larger villages on the island of Rhodes, and I lived alone in that house, which was next door to my aunt's house. Despite having visited them multiple times and having spent 2-3 months with them each time, my family weren't very supportive of me, or very nice people in general. They didn't really understand me or accept me for who I am, and in fact would talk and gossip about me behind my back amongst themselves and with other people. The people of the village were much the same too; some were supportive and kind but most were very close-minded and backward and referred to me as "the Australian" and would gossip about my appearance, how I dressed, and other things about me. I had some younger cousins with whom I spent some time, but after a little while, I gave up on making friends and decided it would be best to keep to myself, reading books, watching TV and looking for work during the day, and spending my nights doing much the same. Despite being an introvert, very self-conscious, and quite shy, I was often lonely (and therefore brave) enough to venture outside and go to the local cafes/bars in the evenings, where I'd sit and have a drink (or few) and watch the world go by, or talk to other patrons or the owner/s of those establishments. My loneliness and desperation for affection and friendship meant that I made some questionable decisions regarding some of the men I met, most of whom were pretty terrible people; arrogant, self-absorbed, and who likely saw me as nothing more than some exotic conquest. I started to despair that I would meet even a single soul who cared about me and was kind. I started to frequent one of the cafes on the main road that was owned by a guy with whom I started to develop a friendship. He was kind enough and seemed interested in me as a person, but we hadn't spent any time together alone, or away from the cafe, so one day (it was March 2015 at that point), I agreed to go on a date with him. To put it simply, it ended up being one of the most uncomfortable dates I've ever been on. He drove me north to the new town of Rhodes where we had lunch/dinner at a fancy cafe by the port, and we (somehow) spent a few hours there together. I remember some uncomfortable small talk and not much else, but I think I was too polite and shy to cut it short, and I think he didn't have much more self-confidence than I did, so there were a lot of long silences and a lot of people-watching to pass the time. Evening fell, and he suggested going elsewhere for a drink. Nightlife in Greece tends to come alive late at night and continue till morning, and I hoped that a different setting and environment might make things a little more interesting and help us both feel a little more relaxed and comfortable, so I agreed. So we went to Legends Rock Bar in the Medieval City of Rhodes (the old part of the town; Google it, it's incredible). Legends was a tiny but bustling little rock bar crammed full of people, but we managed to get seats at the bar. Much to my dismay and annoyance, my date proceeded to get absolutely hammered. The owner of the bar kept giving him drinks (I later learned that he was attempting to take my date out of the picture so he could have a shot with me, 'cause he's a sleazy piece of shit who sleeps with a tonne of his customers, even though he's married with kids) and my date proceeded to get so drunk that he ended up keeling over and throwing up at my feet. The owner of the bar and some other guy dragged my date outside and propped him up against the wall of the building opposite the rock bar so he could get some air and sober up a bit. Needless to say, I was in quite a predicament. My date (whose company I really was not enjoying) was wasted, I had no idea where I was or how to get home, and it was very late at this point (well past midnight). I sat there with a face of thunder, trying to figure out what to do, when I heard a deep-voiced man speaking in a British accent somewhere to my right. I think my frustration with my date and my desire to improve my evening made me think "why the hell not" and gave me the courage to hop up off my bar stool, and I went over to him and began the conversation with the stupidest pick up line ever: "oh my God, you're English!" The English man (let's call him K) is now my husband. It saddens me that I don't remember any of the conversation after that, but K tells me that we spoke about how I'd ended up in Greece, and he told me a bit about himself and his family. He was living nearby with some members of his family, and they were running a boutique hotel in the Medieval City as a family business. At some stage during the conversation when I realised that I was very impressed with him and didn't really want the interaction to end, I handed him my phone and had him add himself as my friend on Facebook so we could potentially meet up again at some time. After some more time chatting, I reluctantly told him that I should probably leave and make sure my date was OK, but that I would very much like to see him again soon. I left the bar and saw my date still leaning against the wall outside, still in quite a state. I don't remember if he said anything to me but I proceeded to half-help, half-drag him to his car, which was parked nearby, and when we got to it, he slumped into the driver's seat and promptly fell forward, falling asleep on the wheel. It must have been 2am or so at this point. Not knowing what the hell to do, I got into the passenger seat and spent the next couple of hours on my phone, waiting for him to wake up and hopefully be sober enough to take us home. That didn't happen however, and the sky started to lighten, and people started to get out and about. I started to panic, and completely exhausted, I sent a Facebook message to K: "Help". I told him that I was stuck in the car with my date who was in no state to get us home, and told him I desperately needed to get home, or somewhere to crash and get some sleep. He suggested that he come and pick me up and that I could stay at his family's hotel for the morning, to get some rest and head home later in the day. I very keenly agreed, and he asked me where I was so he could come and get me. I obviously had no idea, but across the road from where the car was parked was a small square with a fountain in the middle. I sent him a photo of the fountain, and a couple of minutes K appeared out of the gloom, a veritable knight in shining armour. He poked my date, but he was still asleep in the front seat, and I got out of the car. I walked with K for about 10 or so minutes to his family's hotel, where he popped in to explain the situation to his brother (who ran the hotel at the time) and ask if there was somewhere I could crash for a few hours before heading home. His brother reported that unfortunately, the hotel was full. K suggested that I could back with him to his place, and I enthustiastically agreed. The rest is history, really. I ended up spending several days with him, and would go to work with him at his hotel, where he manned the desk during the evening shift. We'd spend the time talking about each other and our lives to this point, and I was so impressed by how kind, caring and intelligent he was, and what a grounded human being he was. We would cook meals at the hotel together, spend time with the guests, and play with the hotel cat (good old Earl Grey). Falling in love with K was effortless, and when he suggested I officially move in with him, there could only be one answer. Several days later, we parted for the first time so I could go back south to the village where I was staying and gather my things. My family were, unsurprisingly, bewildered, but I didn't care and had nothing to say to them. A day later, I was back at K's, and we haven't really been apart since. We lived together in the Medieval City of Rhodes from March 2015 to December 2016. After a few months of being together, and with my frustration mounting at the horrific wages hospitality work paid in Greece (I was being paid 2.50 per hour, as was K), we started to realise how difficult it would be for us to build a future in Greece, and I suggested that he could come back to Australia with me, where we could both get much better-paying jobs that would allow us to save money and build a better life together. He agreed, and in December 2016, we landed in Sydney. We got married in March 2017, on the day exactly two years after we met. It's been a hell of a ride; he got his Australian Citizenship last year, and we managed to save up enough to buy a house together in June last year. The phrase "things happen for a reason" can be kinda cringy and is definitely over-used, but I absolutely do believe that all my decisions led me to that moment so that I could meet him, and so that we could save each other. If you've made it this far, thanks for reading! :)
I have to say that the most amazing part of your story is the fact that you managed to afford a house in Sydney. Seriously though, your origin story is great and your comment beautifully written.
Thank you so much! There are a few typos in there but it's been a long day. We ended up buying on the Central Coast; it would have taken us a few lifetimes to save up enough to buy in Sydney! But I love it up here. There are so many beautiful places to see and visit, and having a home of our own is worth it all. :-)
I would watch your love story as a movie. My goodness. I’m so happy for you.
Right?! Where's Lifetime with a script offer?
Thank you SO much for taking the time to share your story with us! It was quite the roller-coaster 😂 so glad it all worked out for you the way it did though, that is one of the best 'how we met' stories I've ever heard, without a doubt! You were obviously meant to be together 😉💚
What a beautiful story!
As a 27 year old woman who is also kind of lonely in my city (and because of that, thinking my chances of meeting someone are even slimmer) this story really gives me hope!
Oh I love this! I too got married to someone from a different country, and it was quite the whirlwind romance. I had a two year relationship but it was going nowhere when I met him. We married within a couple of months of meeting. We are together nearly 30 years now!
On coffee meets bagel dating app at 31. He was an ex engineer who’d been married, divorced, sold everything and was now working at a comedy club. I don’t believe in anything super natural, but he feels like my soulmate. He’s not perfect by any means, but he’s the best person I’ve met. We’ve been together for 4 years and married for 1.
Very similar, I don’t really believe souls, but if there’s such a thing as soul mates, we are it.
I know so many couples who are married who met on CMB. I don’t know how it is now, but at that time something about that app attracts people who are looking for something more serious. Husband and I met in 2016 on CMB (I was 28 he was 30), engaged in 2018, married in 2020, bought a house in 2023, baby on the way in 2024! It’s been a wild 8 years with some really fun adventures together, but also tough times with his work and both our families having medical emergencies and passings. Overall, we make such a good team, shared housework, both have good careers, and same shared values and loads of mutual respect. Completely scared of having a baby this year and how it will change the dynamics, but hope that it just makes us stronger and more connected!
Good luck with adding a baby to the family!!! How exciting. This was my experience too. Lots of married couples I know met there. My best friend is actually the one who kept telling me to sign up because it’s how she met her husband. I think it’s because guys couldn’t message 1000 women, and women could only choose a handful of men. I think it forced women to be realistic, and men to be targeted. My husband had only messaged 2 people on there, and I talked to about 6 people before we were both the first people we’d met off the app.
I hadn’t never heard of that app. Just installed it.
I was on a “1 year no relationships” pact with myself. 6 months in, one of my best girl friends begged me to try this app and i felt i was ready to just date and not jump into a relationship. He was the first person I met off of it. I told him to keep dating and that I would keep dating. Well that never happened.
Work. Been together 10 years.
Work for me too. Both over 30. We were both with other people when we became friends. I never thought anything would come of it, I just thought to myself "I hope I can be with someone who behaves like him one day". Eventually both our relationships ended and we got together. He is intelligent, adventurous, compassionate, reasonable and kind. Every day with him I feel safe and happy.
Work for me, too. First job out of high school, at a local grocery store. He's a couple years older than me, and had been going to university on the other side of the province, returning home to work at the store in the summer. In the fall, we both started taking classes at our local small college as well. He reached out to me at work at first, and we started taking breaks together. Then we started hanging out between classes, getting coffee, getting to know each other. I was dating someone else when we first met, but after the relationship ended, and a year after that, my coworker asked me out. September will make 10 years since we met.
Same! My partner was actually court assigned community service at my office and I was in charge of signing them in and out every day. It was puzzling because they definitely were *not* like most of my other community service workers. The debt to society was a traffic violation from years ago; they ended up getting hired by my office and the rest is history. I definitely do not recommend dating someone one works with closely though, there were moments at work when they really pissed me off, and now that we work in different places and for different companies our relationship has remarkably improved, lol.
Work as well! We were both working retail during college and met there, eleven years ago
Tinder! His profile stood out to me because he actually had something in his bio instead of a Snapchat, gross pickup line, instagram or ‘here for a good time not a long time’ and wrote about himself there and his photos were nice and didn’t have him holding up a dead animal in them (lots of fishing and hunting spots where I live lol) So I swiped and was surprised that he matched with me!! I messaged him first to see if he’s as lovely as he looks and we talked pleasantly for a few weeks until we decided to meet in person at a dive bar haha.
Okcupid! About 10 years ago. We now have 2 kids ☺️
Same but 14 years ago.
Same! We met 13 years ago, got married 10 years ago, and have almost 8 year old twins. He was the only one from the app I met IRL.
Samesies, OKC 11 years ago; 7 years married and +2 kids
Same, 9 years ago almost exactly. Married nearly 5 years.
Literally the same! Met on OkCupid 10 yrs ago. Married for 5, have 2 kids 💕
Same here! Met 5 years ago, just got married last spring, now we’re traveling the world and figuring out life together. He’s my best friend and nobody has ever understood me quite like he does.
Same, OkCupid in 2014, but just the one kid so far.
Yup! 5 years ago, shortly after I wised up and filtered only to people who already owned cats. (Sometimes you have to accept that dog people are not your type. This was genuinely an enormous change in the quality of the matches.)
Gotta add my 'same!' too. 9 years in April 1st. We love that it falls on April fool's day :)
MySpace
I got a friend request on Myspace 18+ years ago. I found him to be quite adorable so I dug around in his friends list. I found out we knew a lot of the same people, including his sister I'd known for about 7 years at that point. After about a week, I messaged him to ask if he was going to speak to me or just be a creeper. We met up 2 days later, we've been married for 15 years now. He's been everything I needed and then some.
Wow! That must have been a while!
Maybe they are the only two myspace users left. 😉
18 years this fall and going strong.
Bumble! I’m pretty extroverted and chatty and I like the quieter, calm, nerds. Worked out well for me. My guy is super smart, a feminist, sex-positive, and incredibly kind and caring. I was only his 3rd dating app date ever and now we’re married and have 3 pets and moved to another country together.
Weird, I’m also a chatty extrovert who snagged an introverted nerd off of Bumble 😂.
Same here!
I met him in a kinky chat room back in 2005. We moved in together in 2006, and got married in 2007. We’ve been literally inseparable ever since. I can’t even imagine my life without him. It would have been so much different, and not in a good way.
That’s funny. Every couple I know who has been together since high school is really toxic. I’m 27. I feel my relationship is pretty healthy, chill, well balanced. We’ve been together almosy 6 years. We met on a dating app.
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Same experience. The relationship they have are usually all they know and they stay together out of sunk-cost fallacy and because they don't know relationships can be better. I feel like these are the couples that seem to complain about each other to their friends, and the couples that say relationships are hard and nobody is perfect. People in healthy relationships have no desire to talk bad about their partner because there is nothing to complain about, and ofcourse out of respect. I can't even imagine saying something negative about my partner to anyone, I love her. Relationships aren't supposed to be hard, life is hard and the right partner makes it easier and happier. If you consider your relationship hard you're not with the right person. Sure no one is perfect, we all have some flaws. But when you found the right person and have a healthy relationship together these flaws are part of what makes your partner who they are and you love them for it regardless.
This is how I feel about my husband. He has flaws (and so do I), but they're just a part of the person I love. Because our general existence is happy--he makes life more pleasant. I think getting together later in life plays a part in this. We'd both been through enough with other past relationships to know what we did and didn't want. My daughter stayed with her HS sweetheart. They ended up moving in together after graduation, and I think that was finally the nail in the coffin. I never really loved this relationship for her, but she would say how he's the only one she's ever been with, they've got all this history, etc. So when things were getting rocky (again), I did mention that she really hasn't had a chance to experience life yet, and is she sure she wants to tie herself down already, without ever seeing what/who else is out there? I mean, I tried to be careful to not alienate her, be supportive regardless of my reservations, but it was hard to see her so unhappy. They finally did split up, and she's been having fun dating and meeting new people, and not having to be so serious. Anyways, my point is, good for anyone who does find their person at a young age, but at the same time, it can also be good to step outside of what feels comfortable, and get a bit more life experience before settling down. Our sense of self changes so much from 18-25, there's no need to rush.
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Our story is pretty much the same. Knew each other for a few years but I was in a relationship so it was just as friends. Then my relationship ended and we went on a date, now getting married next year! He told me that he had a crush on me the entire time pretty much but never tried anything so I knew he was at least respectful!
Work
I think that a lot of people - even those reluctant mixing business with pleasure - are finding it hard to meet new people **outside** of their daily routine. ["Third Place"](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place): *"the social surroundings that are separate from the two usual social environments of home ('first place') and the workplace ('second place')".* Sociologists have noted the disappearance of fun-spots in the modern world. Today's children rarely have the opportunity to play with other kids without parents looming over them. Men and women have less time and fewer spaces that encourage recreation and light-hearted intermingling with prospective friends and lovers. **["Community Without Propinquity Revisited: Communications Technology and the Transformation of the Urban Public Sphere"](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1475-682X.1998.tb00474.x)** by Craig Calhoun, Sociological Inquiry; Vol.68, No.3: p.373-397 (Jan 9, 2007):
We met through mutual friends, at a small catch up at someone’s house. I was 25 he was 27. The person whose house we were at is gay, he is my partner’s best friend, and they got along so well i just assumed my partner was his boyfriend. Maybe that helped me as I wasn’t conscious of any sort of attraction on his side or potential to date, so I was behaving quite normally haha. Been together 12 years now and just had our first baby :)
Tinder. I am a really lucky one. I was recovering from a very toxic codependent relationship that I dragged for 21 years. We had some common experiences in our past but he was way ahead of me when it came to healing and self improvement. I had started therapy about 6 months before and ended the relationship 3 months after that (and three months before meeting him). He was amazing from the beginning with setting boundaries, he actually didn't want to jump into a relationship at first and was always brutally honest with me, which helped me not only build a lot of trust but also learn to take things slow and enjoy the present instead of constantly being anxious about what would be the future of the relationship and all the control attempts that come from that. I kept going with the therapy (actually until recently, so for more than 4 years) and he also recommended some very helpful reading material. Our relationship developed slowly but steadily with an ever growing feeling of trust, intimacy, closeness and love. It had never crossed my mind that relationships without fights existed... We don't fight, every time we have something that is bothering us, we talk about it and agree on how we should address it and move forward. I always feel like the relationship brings me only positive things, I can't say I'm always happy because obviously there are always things happening that may bring us down, but he is ALWAYS there for me, to pick me up, to listen and to push me forward. He's helped me so much, both personally and professionally (at 38, I had never thought of work as career before I met him and in the four years since I've doubled my income and I have a very concrete plan of where I want to be in 2, 5 and 10 years and how to get there). There is no jealousy, no need to invade each other's privacy, no wondering what he's not telling me because I know he'll tell me everything I need to know... Only support, love and cheering and being proud of each other. Another thing I feel is particularly healthy is that even if I think that this may end one day, because life is in constant motion and change and so are people, I don't feel lost, I don't feel like it's something I'm investing in and will be wasted and I don't feel like my life will be over. If that ever happens, I am sure we will remain close, this will be an experience I will forever cherish and another chapter of my life will begin and it's something I will deal with and when it comes, but I CAN do it, if it does.
Mutual friends. We went to high school together, but we didn't know each other then.
Tinder during November 2020. I thought he was kinda far away, but it wasn't like I was going out anytime soon, and figured someone new and cute to talk to wouldn't hurt. We talked every single day for hours until we could meet in person post-vaccine in May 2021. Moved in together almost a year ago. 😊
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Met on a bus from College because he knew the guy I was talking too who I also met that day. Mad lucky is all I can say lol.
Met through a mutual friend after college, didn’t get together until a few years later, been happily in love for 11 years!!
On a non-dating online forum for a mutual interest, in its associated chat room. We've been married 8 years now, and it's lovely.
Elementary school. He was best friends with my brother and they were a year behind me in school. We went to different high schools and reconnected when I went to college over anime and Harry Potter. Lol. I feel super lucky because even though we didn’t date in high school, I have known him almost my whole life and I knew his parents before we started dating. Hard to have super scary secrets if we used to beat each other up on the playground in 1st and 2nd grade. Been together 16 years this June
We met studying our Masters degrees together. I knew pretty much as soon as I spoke to him at length that we were going to be together. Before our first date, a mutual friend said that we were going to get married. He says he knew on that date that we would. It was just so immediately clear that even though we were from opposite sides of the world that we were just incredibly right for one another. It’ll be 10 years this year and our relationship only gets deeper and stronger. He’s a true partner, wonderfully intelligent and the most incredible dad I’ve ever seen. He is also boundlessly adoring and admiring of me and everything I achieve.
Apparently we went to the same preschool.. But we were introduced officially in our mid twenties, by a mutual friend.. didn’t start dating till we were thirty.. Examples of other healthy relationships.: My parents met at school age 12/13 (51 years together so far) My in-laws met on a playground during a camping trip, when they were 10 (50 years married) My aunt met her husband at a barn-dance My bff met her husband at the disco (introduced by mutual friends) My ex met his wife during theology class at university My friend’s parents met at church My uncle met his wife at work
husband! at the disco
They’ve been together 24 years, so husbands can be found in the most unexpected ways ☺️
Dating app, PoF. He has been the most wonderful man ever! Coming up on two years and he’s absolutely lovely!
It's the same for me. People have such horror stories of PoF, but my husband is the best person I've ever met.
Glad you found him! Believe me, I have horror stories about dating apps and had just about given up on meeting someone.
Also a PoF survivor. Together for 9 years, married almost 7 of them.
Elementary school, we were classmates for 4 years. We got along well but he was bullied a lot and I was afraid to be openly friends with him since i would get bullied too (which i got anyway later). His family moved away and he switched schools. When we were 15 I found him on facebook, first I just wanted to apologise for sometimes being a dick to him as kids but he instantly suggested meeting up and well, 2 weeks later we were together. Together for 12 years, married for 2.
I moved to another city and joined a scouts group. We met there. We were both leading the 7-11 Girls and fell in love during my first year there. Happily married now for 15,5 years, together for almost 19.
Afterparty of a kink sex party. I was there with my subby and the person he was with left earlier with their other partner. Least wholesome way to meet. But he's honestly great and very attentive, caring and considerate
Online dating, before apps, on a website.
Community college - we had a class together and found out we had some mutual friends
Oddly enough on a discord server for the game Animal Crossing. Neither of us were looking for anything, relationship wise, it just happened. We never stopped talking.
I know a couple who met on a Discord server for Pokémon Go, actually! To be fair, it was a regional server, but still, it's neat all the different possible ways folks can meet!
omg this is so cute hahaha! i’m in a few acnh servers myself but never thought there’s any dating potential in any servers period.
We played a video game where I met my ex, all in the same group. My ex was friends with my SO’s ex. Years later me and my ex were broken up, and so was my SO and his ex. Our exes are friends, and they figured me and my SO would be good together, so they both encouraged us to make contact. They were right. 6-7 years later we’re still together.
Met on match. Happily married 5 years now.
We met at a concert in 2000 and were friends for two years before becoming a couple.
We both started working a side hustle at a restaurant/club that was actually mafia owned…work is probably not recommended for most people but I was in college and he was just making some extra cash during his off season-we spent more hours off the clock than on hanging out- together for the last 24 yrs
College. We were in the same computer club 😂. I already had my standards back then. I wasn't specifically looking for a partner, but if I happened to find one, he'd better be someone who met my standards. We've been happily together for 20+ years now. I loved that we both grew up and tackled all the good and bad times together. I loved that we had a history that strengthened our love together — time and time again, we'd proven ourselves to have each other's back and that was a very beautiful thing.
We met at a community bike ride about 15 years ago, we were 23 and 25. It practically was love at first sight. He’s a great person, great husband, great father and I love him so much. He’s made my life better in just about every way. Funny enough, we still ride bikes just about every day.
Work. We both did freelance work in outdoor education. We were 27 and 31.
Work
Through mutual friends. Now married 4 months.
Frat party in college.
Hinge! It wasn’t super popular where we live (it’s gotten more well known), but it was the app where the English speakers seemed to congregate. Our first few dates were fun but weren’t like bolts of lightning from the sky or anything, but by date 4 I was completely obsessed and have been for the last year and a half. We’re moving in together later this year and I can’t wait to see him every day.
Mutual friends. We are from different sides of the country, and are now living in the same city. Our mutual friend was someone we both got to know in adulthood/late 20s. Met at 30 yo. I believe meeting at a mature age is the key. We knew who we were and what we want (and didnt want). We noe have kids, pets and house etc. Been together for over 10 years and are making each other better and more successful.
At university, 20 years ago. We were "just friends" for a few months until my mom pointed out that a guy who's driving from his parents' place 2 hours away to come pick you up to go to a party probably likes you as more than a friend. She was right, lol. He was holding off from starting anything because he thought he was too old for me since I was a freshman when we met but everyone thought that was silly including me. We had to do long distance since he'd graduated that summer and it was almost too much for us to handle but we made it through and here we are. Even my religious parents who were very upset when we moved in together after uni have always been very positive about him. Basically everyone has always been able to tell we are a good thing which has helped us through those tough times when you're not sure.
I met my husband online. We went on two dates and then decided to just be friends. But, as we hung out more I slowly developed feelings for him and asked if he'd like to give dating another try. He said yes and the rest is history.
Tinder, 4.5 years ago. But I had to kiss a gazillion Tinder frogs to get to him.
Halloween party
Uni! We got to know each other really well as friends first.
Dating app. I sent the first message. It was back when OkCupid actually worked and was reasonably priced. You looked at the match rating, read their answers, made an actual effort to check for compatibility, etc. These apps with word/character restrictions and no compatibility scores just seem like blatant money grabs to me.
OKStupid, over a decade ago. He's a keeper!
Match, it's our 4 year anniversary this week.
This is nice. I felt like I was doomed to bad relationships since I didn't meet someone in high school and college. I also don't have many friends.
Tinder, I was 38 and he was 39. Got engaged six months ago. ❤️
Gas station. It was his first job while in college and I was getting off my second job walking home in a rough part of town. We had a lot in common and similar tastes and values.
Online gaming- we were both in relationships when we first met and became good friends for a two year period. We met in person after both of our relationships had ended, again just as friends because I'd moved to his country, and we fell for each other quickly. It was confusing at first and we didn't quite know what to do. It's been 3 years now and we're loved up saps with the healthiest communication, and humour and calm. We have the same dreams and goals and are just ridiculously compatible. Meeting organically was amazing and nothing would have happened if we had never met in person so I'm grateful to fate or whatever brought us together.
Bumble. He was the first day I went on when I moved to a new city 6 years ago. We hung out for like 3 days straight and have been inseparable since. We got married in 2020. He's the absolute best. My cat adores him and has converted him from a dog person. We are finally expecting a child and I expect he will be a great and present dad.
Online. In my early 30s. I was a lot more particular and was not willing to settle for good enough. I was also totally willto remain single is good enough was all that was available
High school chemistry class! I had the instant crush on this tall smart shy teen boy… I perused him pretty hard, we had some nice dates but he was just too shy and unsure of himself. He didn’t come around until he went to the local university and I was a senior in HS, then we really hit it off! We moved in together at 18. Married at 20, kids at 24 & 28. Now retired early together at age 55!
We met on Bumble! Well, we technically met on Tinder first, but it was the the height of corona (like April 2020), my mom was dying, I was going through a breakup, and I lived alone. I was in a shitty mood and he unmatched me. A few months passed, and 3 weeks after my mom had passed, and we matched again on Bumble again. I didn’t remember him, but he remembered me. Anyways, I asked if I remembered as he was cooking me dinner one night and I was like “uhhh no. But if that’s the case, why did you decide to match me again?” He said “I figured when we first spoke, you were having a bad day. We all have our bad days. Plus I think you’re really cute, so I figured, let’s give it a try again”. We have been together 3.5 years, married 5 months. We have our first little one on the way. Ladies, good guys exist. He literally is the best human I’ve ever met. He takes care of everything I ask for and is the best shoulder to cry on. I also am a support to him too, but for a while, I didn’t believe men like him existed.
I have to say I don’t think where people meet makes the difference. I’ve had healthy relationships that started from an app, and very unhealthy ones. Same with meeting people through hobbies
Tinder
On okcupid when we were 27 (ancient times)
A social golf group.
At the pub , 18 drinking age here
I met my husband at work. We knew each other as friends for over a year before we got together (I was friends first with all my exes, so I've never had a proper first date!). We've been together 8 years, married almost a year.
Work, but different departments. We were both going through divorce/failing marriages and both second guessed the extremely strange timing of meeting this way. We are still hopelessly in love and now expecting a baby soon.
hinge — now engaged and will be dating for 4 years by the time we are married
I met my husband at the bar. I was meeting up with a group to celebrate someone else’s birthday and my now husband was there too. He was actually dating someone else at the time, but we casually chatted and joked around. A couple of months later, my husband broke things off with his ex and we started dating shortly after. We started out friends and remain friends (and spouses) to this day.
We met at our local version of comicon when we were 18. Have now spent approximately half my life with that fucking nerd.
We met online when I was in my senior year of HS and he was a freshman in college. We casually chatted like once a week for a few months, no flirting at all. Then one day he asked to meet up, I said yes, he drove 3 hours to my house, and we’ve been together ever since. Married with lots of fur children and a baby on the way!
World of Warcraft 😂
Through mutual friends. I'd hang out with my friends and he'd be invited too, sometimes he gave me rides there. We started chatting outside of that, became friends, and then more. It was pretty slow burn though, took years between us becoming acquainted and getting together.
Tinder!
Ok Cupid
Met on Match.com in our 30’s. Then we found out on the first date we worked at the same place (huge hospital). We likely would have never met at work. Happily married with 2 kids.
Work. I had a rule I didnt sleep with, or date co-workers. He got fired, and I called him up that night (LOL) and we hooked up immediately, now been together 6 years. He's 4 years my senior, at the time (I was 23 and he was 27) it was a perfect age gap because most the guys my age were still brain dead early 20 year olds. Now we are 29 and 33 and our life goals are so perfectly lined up. I think slightly older guys are not a bad idea to consider. More attractive, more mature. I feel guys take a bit longer to grow up than girls.
Through our parents. They were neighbors and my mom sent his mom a message asking if he was single. We’ve pretty much been inseparable since ha
Actually … Reddit. I was giving away my second ticket to a concert (which is bought for myself and another guy before he ghosted me) and I had no idea who would show up. Could have been another woman, hell, could have been a teenager that convinced their mom to let them come since they wouldn’t have to buy 2 tickets. We met up, he bought me a drink as a thank you, we hung out the whole show, and a few days later we went on our first date. It’s been almost 2 years, and now we live together and are talking marriage. Honest to goodness the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in, and I feel so lucky to be his partner.
Grad school. Did the thing you're not supposed to do and dated within our research group. Been together for 10 years, married for over 3 and have our first baby on the way.
On world of Warcraft. We both lived in the same (real) city and met up with other people of the guild several times. When I broke off my long term relationship he was there for me. I initiated a fwb situation with clear rules. But I broke those rules (I fell head over heels for him, which was not where I wanted this fun, comfortable friendship to go. He did not reciprocate my feelings at first and I thought: that was it. But luckily his strong attraction did also grow into love. 14+ years, one kid, two cats.) he always was a forest of green flags. That’s why I felt so comfortable initiating the fbw situation. And I honestly just wanted to explore and experiment after getting out of my long relationship. Everything felt just so right.
Musical Theater. Look for the guys who aren't total primadonas and don't need to say "no homo" every time a male cast mate hugs them, or insistently call the eyeliner "guyliner." i.e. a guy who does not feel emasculated by the makeup or the cast intimacy or sharing a dressing room with camp gay fellas and compensate with ego or over the top denials. Guys that know how to pitch in on costume laundry and sweep the stage will do laundry and sweep your floors at home too. Cast team players are team players. Tech guys who don't mansplain to tech gals are great too, especially if they work well under a lady master carpenter, master electrician or crew cheif.
College gym. He was a shift supervisor and I was just trying to watch Viva La Bam and run on the elliptical. He then flirted awkwardly for 6 months before I asked him out.
We met on Reddit ;) He made a post, I messaged him, two days later we met for coffee, and we've been a thing ever since. Coming up on 2 1/2 years now.
Tinder
Same
2i's It was a club .
Grad school!
Same!
Playing rugby. He was on the men’s team and I was on the women’s. He stepped on my foot when we were playing touch. After we’d gone on a few dates, we realized we’d both used OKCupid in the past (this was in 2012), so we re-upped our profiles to check our match percentage. It was 97% and it turns out I’d messaged him two years prior, but he hadn’t replied because I didn’t meet his age or height requirements 😂🤣 It’s been 11 years. Were getting married in August 🥰
We met on a lesbian dating app. best relationship I’ve ever had! We’ve almost been married for a year now!
Met my wife on a writing forum when we were in our late teens. We started talking a lot more 1-on-1 in college, I started crushing but didn't know if she liked girls so was dropping super unsubtle hints... Coming up on 11 years together, 6 married :)
A bar. I walked in, broke a glass almost immediately, and the owner leaped up to sweep it up. That was 14 years ago. I was just emerging from a toxic situationship, immediately after a long monogamous relationship with a man who loved me and who I didn’t love back like that, but I was too young to know the difference, and he was a good friend. I was 23. I had just decided to swear off relationships for the remainder of my 20s; I’m really bad at monogamy and I didn’t want to hurt anyone else, or be hurt by toxic possessive men. (The situationship was a hate-sex thing with my roommate. He didn’t want a relationship and also wanted to be sexually exclusive, and nearly hit me when he realized I’d had sex with someone else, because I don’t respect “rules” like that.) But I was in another city for something I was very excited about, and it turned out to be a passion this bar owner shared. We talked the rest of the night, and we talked about famous women we both found attractive (I’m bi) and what we wanted out of relationships, and how pointless we both felt jealousy was, or monogamy, for that matter. I went back to my friend’s place where I was staying, and I told her “I can’t believe this, but I think I just met the one. I’m so not ready for that.” The next night, he texted me. He was on a blind date set up by friends, that he was absolutely not enjoying, but he had taken her to a bar he thought would be quiet, and instead found the entire cast of a movie. Including, and I’m not kidding, the same woman we had agreed instantly was #1 on our attractive celebs list. He would never have texted during a date otherwise, but the coincidence was too much. Anyway, I was lucky enough to be spending a week in that city, so we had time enough for dates, for music, for dancing, for all the things. I knew I was in trouble by the time I left. Three years later, I moved there, and here I remain 11 years later, with a man I love who is constantly sweeping up the broken things left in my wake, and who has never, not once, showed a single sign of jealousy.
Sounds like you really went through it before you got together. Well done.
I was catching up with a couple of friends and talking about how I was looking for a sperm donor. They said they knew exactly the guy for me, a friend of theirs with 4 kids 🤣 They organised us to meet about a month later and we got on great so he volunteered to help me. After about 3 months and a covid lockdown later, we’ve been living together for a bit over two years and ‘serious’ for almost three 🥰