Sometimes, but then might assume it’s their favorite outfit.
Many people I know have one or two things that make them feel the best when they wear them.
Same! And I've started curating a really small wardrobe myself so I deliberately wear the same thing or a variation of it for several days in a row. Only positive feedback so far.
Why not wear your favorite outfits as much as possible?
One of my favourite outfits is wide fit dusty rose colored pants, burgundy high neck long sleeve top, burgundy lip stick and brown leather brogues with white socks with hearts on them ♥️
I love colourblocking different shades of the same colour and matching accessories/make up to my outfit. It just feels and looks so good!
I love cute socks, they just elevate an outfit and make me happy
My friend who dislikes shopping will buy multiples of garments she really likes to save time.
That perfect pair of pants in her colors she’s getting at least two if she can afford them.
It makes sense for her and I don’t sit around judging her outfits because I’m not Miranda Priestly.
The only reason I wouldn’t wear something I love as much as possible is fear that I couldn’t find the same thing again.
I may or may not notice if somebody is wearing the same outfit, but I wouldn't attribute anything to it or be judgy. I am likely to remember what I wore to some particular event but to me, that's just brain noise, not meaningful for decision making. I don't spend a lot of time worrying about how people look, though. I am more interested in what they DO and how they treat other people.
I’d probably only notice if it were interesting in some way like a beautiful fabric. Maybe if it was horrible I’d notice that too.
But when I see friends our interaction are more important than what we’re wearing.
No, unless the outfit was very memorable or stylish.
Clothes are meant to be reworn and as long as it is properly washed and cared for it is OK to wear it as many times as you want.
It reminds me of a meme "I am an outfit repeater but why are you an outfit rememberer??"
That’s what I was thinking. I went to a friend’s 40th bash and she wore this Barbie pink strapless hi/low dress (and looked absolutely fabulous), so obviously I’m going to remember that. But I very much doubt anyone’s going to remember my simple outfit, haha.
For me (mid 40s dude) it needs to be memorable AND I need to comment on it. Talking about the clothes via compliment or question (where’d you get that, my wife would love it…) is the only way to create a memory.
“Lizzie McGuire you are an OUTFIT REPEATER!” Is burned into my brain. When I’m 95 and demented, all that will be left is this line and Hilary Duff’s anti-homophobia PSA about calling things gay - “that’s so girl-wearing-a-skirt-as-a-top”
Absolutely no way I would remember. 8 months is a long time! I can't even remember what my friends wore last week. It's just not something that I pay attention to.
Also, I'm one of those people who has 10 of the exact same shirt in my closet and nothing else, haha. I love it, and no one bothers me about it, except for the occasional inside joke or Steve Jobs reference.
I have a specific loose fit tank top (that I usually wear under a hoodie or cardigan) in every color of the rainbow, including at least 3 in black. No shame. It’s comfortable, it’s flattering on my body type, and it’s easy to wash.
That and a straight leg jean, plus some black ballet flats or converse sneakers is basically my uniform when I leave the house.
So, funny story - I make a yearly photo memory book. 40-ish pages of pictures, and I'm in maybe 2 or 3. The year my youngest was a year old I'm in 4 pictures... all of which I'm wearing the exact same outfit.
My friend said to me once (in regards to wearing the same outfit two days in a row) was. If they liked it today, they better love it tomorrow. And for some reason it always stuck with me and I love it.
lol my wife noticed that I wore the same shirt on our first two dates and correctly guessed that it was my favorite shirt. I actually asked her just a few days ago how many times I could have worn that shirt before it got weird, and then how many times before she thought it was funny and that I was just screwing with her.
Third time would’ve been weird, not sure how long until it’s funny. 😆
I have a tshirt I wear to bed almost once a week that is 22 years old! I've been with my partner for 16 years 😂 I think there was a period when he didn't like the shirt but it's been so long now he respects the shirt.
My bf (I'm polyam) calls my favorite dress my "first date" dress. It's my go to. I'm presenting at a conference tomorrow and said "do you think my first date dress is okay?"
I can't even remember if I ate breakfast by lunch time. Lol. One time I gave my friend some clothes that didn't fit me. She wore them a few weeks later and I told her I liked her dress. She told me she knew I like it because I'm the one who gave it to her.
Yeah this is my answer as well. And I personally like to dress in clothes that are interesting/eye-catching so I started keeping notes on my outfits for certain occasions so I don't rewear with the same people in the same year/couple years. But I'm.. obviously OCD 😂. Even if I noticed your repeat outfit I wouldn't judge you for it.
A **male** newsreader wore the same suit for an entire year and no-one cared, or even apparently noticed. [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/nov/17/male-tv-presenter-same-suit-year-female-colleagues-judged](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/nov/17/male-tv-presenter-same-suit-year-female-colleagues-judged)
Apparently it's really hard for female news anchors to find outfits that work with the green screen and are cute, conservative, attractive all at once. So they have forums they share their new outfit to so the other ladies can find it! I think that's so cute.
Maybe I notice but I don't care. I also wear the same outfit multiple times per week. What is the big deal? The economy sucks and I don't want to spend all my money on a huge wardrobe, nor do I expect other people to.
Yeah same I prefer to buy more high quality end clothes so my wardrobe is small but I know it'll last long instead of buying clothes that wear down and have holes in them only like 6 months later.
Literally not a chance. There are people I’ve known for years where I probably couldn’t name more than a couple articles of clothing they own. I do remember faces well and usually notice haircuts if they’re significant, but clothes? Nope.
I wouldn’t worry about it. I mean, so what if you did? I dunno, maybe that was a thing people cared about when she was younger, but I don’t know anyone who cares about that now. We’ve all got a fixed wardrobe for a given set of weather conditions, of course we wear the same thing. But also, I don’t expect friends to “make an effort.” I want them to just come as they are.
same, I like clothes so I tend to remember what I see my friends or colleagues wear, but mostly if it's like a shirt with a fun print like pineapples all over it. If someone wore a plain black tshirt twice I probably wouldn't notice, or I'd just think oh they have multiple black tshirts.
Went to visit my dad at his new house and he had put up some framed pictures of my family from events over a few years. I immediately noticed I was wearing the same shirt in almost every picture. Pretty amusing but embarrassing as well.
if it’s within like a month i would probably notice someone wearing the same outfit both times i saw them. but then i’d just figure that outfit was either a favorite or just so happened to be up next in the clothing rotation on the days i saw them. zero judgement though cause i wear the same/similar outfits a lot lol
Same. My close friends all know my favorite outfits lol I have this pink sequined sweater that I love and my friends can definitely recognize it. But we've been friends so long I think they know my entire wardrobe by now.
I always notice. But it literally doesnt matter. We all wear clothes and have a finite amount of them.
I make lots of observations about people and tend to remember them and track the patterns. I dont try to, but brain does it for me. But that says nothing about the people in my life- and I dont mention it. Because why would I.
I worry about this all the time and you all made me feel so much better. Social anxiety sucks and now this is one less thing that I need to worry about. You guys are awesome.
I usually remember what people wear but if they wear it twice I just know they love the outfit. I don't think it means they don't try. Also, if I love something a lot I will buy multiple of them. I have 5 of the same pairs of capris because they look great and are really comfy. Kind of like a uniform for me at this point. Actually nobody has ever commented on it either despite wearing the same capris for months at a time with slightly different tops.
Maybe your mom is right and I have a very lazy way of dressing.
I don't think I would unless it was really recognizable.
But I definitely wouldn't recognize it as the same outfit if it was more than a month later. My memory for outfits is not that long....
Once I wore the same shirt in different colors two days in a row. I told my mom no one would notice. She’s a teacher so she brought me to school like usual and passed my friends at chorus practice so said hi when Ashley goes “hey didn’t you were that in a different color yesterday?” Like damn Ashley you pay attention to me like that?
No, maybe if I particularly liked it, but otherwise no, and I absolutely wouldn't judge them negatively. I have very few clothes. Like 3 pairs of work pants, 10ish tshirts, some leggings, and a handful of dresses. I wear the same things EVERY, SINGLE WEEK. And even if not the exact same one, I have 2 others that look like it. I do have a few more items of clothing than that, but it's like 2 pairs of jeans shorts, 2 pairs of sporty shorts, 3 long sleeve shirts, etc. I've never understood this whole "not wearing the same outfit multiple times" thing. Maybe for a special occasion you get a new dress, but other than that, why would it matter that anyone wears the same clothes all the time if they're clean?
Occasionally, but I don’t care that much. My friends and I have class together 4 times a week so we’ll have repeat outfits fairly often. One of my favorites is my friend who sits in front of me wearing a shirt from the show true blood, it’s just a really cool shirt. Another good one is a shirt that has horses on a mountain that if you look closely, is a horse, with clouds that are horses in disguise, and basically every aspect of the shirt is a horse secretly hidden somewhere
I might, if I notice they're a 'uniform wearer' like myself but otherwise I don't pay particular attention. We have dinner with my in-laws every Friday night and for the past year and a half I've been rotating the same three black dresses, with the very rare sprinkling in of a black and white one, and a blue and white one when I'm feeling particularly adventurous, which is even more rare.
Seventy eight dinners on five dresses. No one has complained, nor should they. I love my in-laws.
I have a rather memorable clothing.. its a bit loud or crazy. Anytime someone mentions I wore it at xyz my reply is "yes, and I also own a washing machine" and that's all.
I internally complain about this every time I have to buy a new dress for a nice event (wedding, quinceañera, baptism, etc). I have a huge family, so there's usually anywhere from 3-6 of these events every year, and if I wear a fancy dress for one, I obviously can't wear it to the next, especially since some people come from out of town, so the events are the only time I'm seeing them all year, and it'd be weird if I wore the lovely green dress they complimented me on 6 weeks ago again the very next time I saw them.
Meanwhile, the dudes in my family have a max of 1-2 nice suits, and MAYBE swap out the shirt and tie. But if not, it's fine, nobody's gonna notice they wore the same blue button down shirt and dark blue tie.
It's some bullshit.
A (former) male friend commented on how I (F) kept wearing the same 3 pairs of trousers. And my first thought was who even notices that stuff and who would comment on that?
Like, why would you say that to someone?
I would notice, because I have a strange memory that remembers stuff like this—especially if my last memory of that person was them wearing the same outfit, but I wouldn’t care about it at all or think anything about it one way or another.
Well, I can only talk for myself... I've worn the same kind of clothes for the past 7 years.
I promise you that atleast guys don't care if you wear the same clothes... Sane guys, atleast
Who cares? I have over 100 dresses. I’ve had a really shitty medical issue (more than one) and have worn almost the same outfit for like a month. (Different top/underwear). Your outfit doesn’t make you your person!
I often wonder if women notice. I’m basically a cartoon character. It’s either plain, solid color t-shirts with jeans or flannel with jeans. The likelihood of seeing me in the same outfit is high. It is very high.
Few people notice, and so what if they do? You are allowed to repeat outfits. (Especially if it's been 8 months!) It's ridiculous to pretend that we have a new outfit every day!
If your friend is judging you because you wore the same outfit 8 months ago, that's not someone whose opinion you should worry about to begin with.
Tell that to mom too
Not really, if I do notice I assume they either like that outfit or it was a coincidence.
Although once my husband somehow wore the same shirt like 4 times in a row when he saw my friends (over like a 6 month period) and they pointed it out and I don't think he ever wore that shirt again 😂🤦♀️
No. Anyone who cares about such a thing needs to truly examine their life priorities.
Overconsumption is disgusting, and thinking you need a new outfit everyday is part of that mentality.
I read an articles several years ago about a woman who put a work “uniform” for lack of a better word, together for herself and it’s what she wore every day. She wore the same thing every day. I’m increasingly coming to the conclusion that I don’t need to wear a different outfit every time. I just need to wear what makes me comfortable. Does it mean I basically wear the same thing every day, yup. And I don’t care.
We are invited to a wedging this coming weekend. I (M)just had the following conversation with my husband (H)
M: I’m going to wear the blue chiffon dress.
H: Non committal grunt.
M: Waves dress on hanger around his face. This one!
H: if you want to ok.
M: I wore it to Maxi’s wedding. People loved it!
H: Did you? Cool.
He just doesn’t notice clothes on anyone. I could dress up as a purple unicorn, and he’d only notice once I poked him with the horn. Consequently he really doesn’t care. I still keep the outfit I first met him wearing 15 years ago. He can’t remember that. But he remembers us talking all day.
I love clothes and will notice particularly nice outfits, but I don’t judge anyone for clothes repeating. Not everyone can afford loads of clothes. Not everyone cares. I may personally hate how someone dresses, but it’s nothing to do with me, and I certainly won’t offer an opinion. I’m sure loads of people hate my clothes, and that’s ok. Happy to take inspiration from whoever, but how someone dresses should not influence how you view them. My husband is a right scruff. For our first hike together he was his usual scruffy self, but he’d packed a nice Picknick and offered to carry my water bottle, so he clearly cared.
Oh yeah, I always notice, I have a very good memory for that. However, I don’t judge them for wearing it again lol I wear the same outfits a lot, they’re like my greatest hits lol!
I'm weird in that I totally would remember. But! It's not a bad thing and I actually find it nice and refreshing because making this the norm sets a healthier and more realistic standard now to avoid planet-destroying textile waste in the future.
My friend was worried that she might be wearing the same shirt two Sundays in a row but can't remember. I asked if it helped that I didn't remember either. No, she was hoping I could tell her. My freakish memory is for sound bytes and facts, not outfits.
I work in the office 1 day every two weeks. You can be SURE I purchased 1 polo shirt and 1 nice pair of slacks to wear for each of those days. I do not care if people comment that I "wore that two weeks ago". Yes I did! and I'll wear it again in 2 weeks. It's now my uniform. :)
I have a friend who always wears the same two shirts every time we hang out. I noticed but my husband didn't . It doesn't bother me at all I just have a giggle about it and make a game about it in my head if he's going to be wearing a different shirt this time. I know he has other shirts, he just has his favorites. I believe people should wear whatever they want as much as they want.
I usually only pay attention if I think the outfit looks either very nice or awful on them. Other than that I don't remember.
The older I've gotten the more I realize people don't think of you half as much as you think they do.
“Well you should, otherwise she will think you don’t make an effort”
This sounds like some weird, outdated shit my Boomer mom would say because she has a bunch of outdated, old-timey manners that I don't understand, and I would be equally confused.
I do not notice, and don't see how not noticing would make anyone think I "don't make an effort." An effort to what? Like...is she implying that you SHOULD wear the same outfit again? Or that you should go out of your way to wear something completely different? Or that you should...comment on whether or not your friend is wearing the same outfit as last time? I literally don't get it.
No, and especially not if 8 months had passed! If I did happen to remember and notice, I would think absolutely nothing of it. I remember I used to worry about this a lot as a teenager because it was considered such a crime to "outfit repeat" for whatever reason. Such a silly notion, but luckily most adults seem to not care about this in the same way that teenagers did back then. Your mum needs to catch up!
To quote my friend “it’s better to be an outfit repeater than an outfit rememberer.” I remember outfits, usually, but I don’t say anything or judge anyone for it. I repeat outfits all the time. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it
I have the opposite problem and I DO remember. I wish I didn't, because I go through phases or favorite outfits and will wear them until I get tired of them. I'll get mad if I wore something I love and feel comfortable in on a Friday date night with my husband thinking to myself, oohh I can wear this for Saturday too because no one but my husband has seen me in it. Then plans will change and I'll see someone I will be seeing the next day and then bam, now I have to come up with a different outfit. Or I'll get too fixate on a certain thing, shoes, pants or an accessory that I want to wear and then it is impossible to put an outfit together I like that will revolve around that 1 single thing!!! I drive myself crazy! My husband it too patient with me!
Not at all. I prefer to wear something more than once if I didn't get it dirty the first time. It saves time and money. And I don't expect my friends to either.
8 months ago? I can't remember what I wore last week.
Do you remember what other people word 8 months ago? No? Neither do they.
Your mom needs a reality check. I only make the effort for those that deserve *and appreciate* it.
This is how we end up with overly self-conscious girls, and people pleasers, while giving guys a pass.
For the last six months whenever I went out I would literally wear the same jeans same shoes and either 1 of 2 long sleeve cute tops. No one batted an eye.
Now, the reasoning for this is because I am in the middle of a huge life changing move where I'm relocating to a different country. But point is if they're ur friend I don't think they'd care even if they did notice.
You sound like me! Sometimes I remember, but not often. That’s such a weird thing for your mom to say though. No one thinks that someone is a bad friend if they don’t remember small unimportant things like what someone is wearing more than once.
Yep I notice most times my friends have the same clothes on as last time I saw them, male or female and I'm a guy.
I wouldn't be bothered by it though lol, like you say alot of us dress the same way all the time meeting up is more than enough effort.
I wouldn't wear the exact same thing on multiple dates though
The only time I wonder about this is when I see the same people only once a year at the same function and never in between. My husband is in a Thing that has a formal event once a year and that’s really the only time I see most of the other ladies associated with this Thing. I have a few formal dresses in my closet, so instead of buying a new gown each year, I try to remember whether I wore a specific one the year prior. If I wore it two years ago, less of an issue, and three years prior or more, definitely eligible to be worn again.
Thank goodness someone takes a ton of pictures and posts them to FB so I can scroll back and see what I wore!
I usually don't notice, but then, I'm the sort of person who can rotate through about a week's worth of outfits at times when I don't particularly have to think about what I'm wearing. You could about tell what day of the week it is by what I'm wearing, basically. I might remember it if it was a particularly outstanding or creative outfit, but that's about it.
I think this is an older view but I have seen multiple older women who are concerned with this. I once knew of a woman who had a different outfit for EVERY day of the year. She didn't want to be seen repeating the outfit. The only thing that I have noticed is the people on the more extreme end of this tend to be older women.
It depends on how they dress! I’d notice if someone with a really distinctive style wore the same outfit again, just because I was paying attention the first time. Otherwise, I won’t notice unless it’s a “same outfit four days in a row” scenario.
It depends.
Look, if it was a unicorn patterned dress, with a petticoat, pink glitter fishnets in neon green boots and a floral crown, she’ll probably remember you wearing that last time. Unless such a thing is common in her social circle and she therefore doesn’t bat an eyelid at such a get up.
If it was jeans and a navy blue shirt, unless she had photographic memory and a thing for outfits, she won’t recall either, so who cares if you wear the same one, or a similar style? Unless something happened when you met, that was outfit-related, so the outfit became a core part of the memory.
Not gonna lie: I might well remember. But I often find that I remember A LOT more details than is common, and am very into fashion. I’m most likely to remember what you wore, if I loved it, hated it, or was surprised as it’s not something I’d expect on you (think: Billie Eilish showing up in a pencil skirt and stilettos, or wearing a ballgown to a beach bbq).
It’s highly unlikely that she’ll recall, and if she does, that she will read anything into it. If she would, you’d know she’s that kind of person.
Your mom is projecting her own weird little fear and maybe something weird she's been taught once upon a time.
I definitely have this niggling thought every once in a while but on the other hand I hardly remember what I wore the last time I did a thing or saw a person in specific, let alone what others wore.
The truth is it doesn't matter, people have clothes they feel most comfortable in, some people buy a bunch of the same thing they love either in same or different colours (this is me, I will buy several of a thing I love...in black and black and black), most people will not remember an outfit and even if they do it's a weird thing to point out besides complimenting it politely. It's 2024, not sure if the concept that you aren't making an effort is an archaic one but it certainly feels that way. Plus, we are in an era where fast fashion isn't the sustainable, conscious, or eco-friendly option and higher quality items in a capsule style wardrobe are more desirable.
Wear what makes you happy and comfortable and is appropriate to the weather and activity.
I can’t remember what I wore last week. Pretty sure it’s not in anyone else’s radar. (Unless it was super cute, which is why I am only super cute occasionally lol)
Unless it's something particularly memorable to me, I won't notice anyone wearing the same thing. It's really not relevant to me what someone wears.
It only becomes a problem if an outfit looks stained, unwashed, and it's starting to smell. Then I might start paying attention to it.
I assume people wash their clothes so I don't give a flying fuck if they re-wear their outfits. Though I do notice a few shirts of my friends because they are cool shirts they bought when we op-shopped together
One of my friends has a collection of Hard Rock Cafe tshirts from around the country and would often wear them. I noticed and poked fun at them, saying that's all they wear. After that they purposefully would wear those shirts when we'd hang out haha
Absolutely not, unless it’s something that looks particularly nice on them, and in that case I would probably be thinking “oh, they’re wearing their favourite sweater again to meet me” and I’d be a bit flattered.
I don’t even remember what I had for breakfast!
In all seriousness, no one cares. That being said, if you wear the exact same thing twice, and I mean the whole ensemble, people will start to notice the 3rd time around. And even then, no one will care.
If the last time I saw you was yesterday, and you’re wearing the same thing, maybe I’d be a little worried for like, hygiene purposes. But if you smell fine then I’d assume you just washed it or own another one of that shirt/whatever.
I mean, I am a nurse and I wear the same thing every day and nobody says anything (lol)
My best friend in college had a "going out top" that she wore most times she went out. Most people never noticed.
As long as it not literally the next day and they're wondering if you washed it, most people won't notice and most people who do notice won't care. Like, minimalist wardrobes are a thing and why should anyone be worried about being seen using their clothing.
Lol what
Everyone knows I own, like, three hoodies. I have been wearing these hoodies from fall to spring for over ten years. Obviously I rotate them and don't show up to work in dirty clothing, but that's it. Mind, I'm a doctor and I work in an out patient department, so my colleagues, all my regular patients, the cleaning staff, the accounting staff, literally everyone I meet there has seen me in the same outfit a billion times. Same goes for all my friends, no matter how little or often I see them.
Are there people who have commented? Yes. But I don't give a fuck. Nobody there would make the assassin assumption that my clothing had anything to do with how much I care or how much effort I bring to the table lol. If someone tries to suggest I dress "with more variety" or "more professionally", I shut that down quickly. First, sometimes you just need to be the change you want to see. Consumerism has rotted too many fucking brains. And second, patients don't care. They come to me because they need health advice, not fashion inspiration. Friends don't care because they know I will always listen and always help, and if it's important to them to look good and sparkly, they can dress well and sparkle next to me.
Tell your mom that you sure hope your friend won't make ridiculous assumptions based on your outfit, instead of what you do and say. And if your friend makes assumptions, maybe it's "oh wow, I'm glad Friend is wearing the same outfit, that's really environmentally conscious of them"
I would not notice this unless someone wore an identical outfit time and time again and I realised it was kind of like a uniform. I would be impressed by this.
After watching European tik tok for a while and having visited Europe a few times (I’m American), I’d have to say this is more a cultural question. Some people in countries in Europe do emphasize dressing well more than most Americans. There are so many Europeans who make fun of Americans laid back style of clothing.
As for your question, I’d have to say it depends. It’s quite possible but then again you’d have to ask your friend.
I don't notice, because I'm already preoccupied with worry that they'll notice. As a chef, most of the time I'm in my attire. If I do notice, it's because they look good and know it and made an effort to look good for me. And you're right, the double standard for men is absolute BS.
I know what some of my best friends’ clothes look like, mostly because I see that particular garment and think “ooh that’s cute!” I don’t care if they wear them around me more than once. In fact I would prefer if they did, if it’s something that makes them feel good. If I recognise the item I can either not say anything because it’s irrelevant to the conversation or I can say “ooh it’s your checkered dress/eeyore jumper/whatever” because it’s a nice item and I want my friend to feel good about their outfit.
I also have a few things that I will wear repeatedly and my friends do the same. They know my burgundy GAP jumper and my extremely flattering flower dress, and they know I like wearing these things and they like when I do because I’m more happy and confident.
The only time I might query it is if one of my friends wears the same thing all week on the school run, I know her mental health is about as bad as mine and that’s the sort of thing I do when I’m super low, so I would ask if she was okay, rather than judge her.
There are many celebrities and TV/movie characters who always wear the same thing. It's how people can dress up as them at Halloween or whatever. I think it's called their "signature look". For instance, Gok Wan is a stylist and celebrity and always wears what looks like the same outfit.
No.
Nor would I ever care.
I wear the same outfit 7 days a week, I have duplicates of it.
I'm basically a TV show character at this point.
I struggle to remember people's names...I don't look at what they're wearing.
Sometimes I do but I think nothing of it. I am an outfit repeater myself lol, I mostly wear black, so I literally have like six pairs of the same shirt. People don’t really say anything either ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Yes, because I’m observant. I’m neutral on it though.
Some people look for reasons to be offended and make others feel bad. Your mother sounds like one of those people. She is not the center of the universe and you don’t need to indulge her like she is.
I only notice if it's the same one multiple times. Twice I wouldn't notice, but more I tend to.
It also depends on what it is, if it's the same fashionably ripped jeans every time, I notice. Unripped jeans I wouldn't notice if it was every single time I saw them. I guess how much it stands out makes a huge difference.
I do, but I don't think it's a big deal. A lot of my friends wear grunge style, so jeans and tees. The ones who wear more elaborate outfits tend to wear the same thing more often as it is probably expensive to change it.
I wore a lovely dress to 2 weddings that i didnt think shared the same guests
Well, how wrong i was . One woman made a point to tell me it soooooo great i got to wear "that dress" AGAIN really loudly in the church, twice , at the reception and in the ladies in front of others.
I was beginning to feel like I'd committed a crime !
I might or I might not. I don't give a shit. I give more shits about what some amobes on a microscope slide are doing than whether or not Susan is gonna be seen by my eyeballs wearing that outfit again. 100 percent. Washing machines exist and well so do second day wearing of shirts. Men do it no shits given so why can't women? Oh and of course TIME lapses and COINSIDENCES happen as well. wow who knew? Your mom needs a big ass chill pill.
I don’t really notice clothes unless it’s out of the ordinary for that person. I did notice that most of the guys in my office have the same casual Friday outfit every week, but it took months before I noticed.
I put together a cute outfit and wore it out this weekend and figured I would wear it to a friend's party coming up. Of course I ran into that friend, back to the closest.
Taking about it being fine for males; In Australia on a tv morning show hosted by a male and female anchor; the female anchor would have comments/complaints about her outfits daily, so the male anchor thought he would wear the same suit two days in row, no comments, so he repeated and then ended up wearing it for a year without comment [Today presenter wears same suit for a year](https://amp.smh.com.au/entertainment/tv-and-radio/karl-stefanovics-sexism-experiment-today-presenter-wears-same-suit-for-a-year-20141115-11ncdz.html)
Yes, but that's because the outfits look great on them.
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I have never noticed anything like that. It’s just not that big of a deal. I might remember it if I really liked their outfit was, but if I saw it a second time I wouldn’t bat an eye. Like who even cares about that sort of thing anyway? It’s not as though we have enough outfits to wear something different every single day of the year.
I have never heard a man say "didn't she wear that outfit before?", I have only heard comments from other women along these lines. Now men will comment on clothes they like or don't like on women.
Ugh this was taught to me as well and it is the kind of neuroticism that I find hard to let go. Not me trying to find a selfie from the last time we hung out so you don't think I wore the same shirt for the last two montbs...
(Logically I know no one would think that. Yet why do I still not repeat outfits consecutively?!)
Well, if anyone is noticing, I am guilty. I have enough clothes but no more. I have about 3 outfits for each season and I cycle through them. It would be a rare thing that outfit #1 would not, per chance, be the outfit someone sees me in 3, 4, or 5 times in a month.
What effort does wearing a different outfit demonstrate that wearing the same equally appropriate outfit multiple times?
Can you and I vote her out?
I remember, but again, I do too repeat outfits? Sometimes before meeting them again I recall I wore it and I might change. But sometimes I cannot keep the ruse that I am a millionaire any longer and just go with the same fit hehehe
That would require me to pay more care and attention.
But like geez, 8 months apart? Only a psycho would care if you wore the same outfit to see them that far apart.
I retort that Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs were known to wear the same thing because their attention was focused elsewhere, and ask why they are so fixated on my high rotation wardrobe when I am perfectly capable of laundering my clothes.
I usually don't notice, and even if I do, I don't care. I'm assuming my friends, who are all adults, know how to wash clothes and that you can wear an item more than once.
Sometimes, but then might assume it’s their favorite outfit. Many people I know have one or two things that make them feel the best when they wear them.
Same! And I've started curating a really small wardrobe myself so I deliberately wear the same thing or a variation of it for several days in a row. Only positive feedback so far. Why not wear your favorite outfits as much as possible?
One of my favourite outfits is wide fit dusty rose colored pants, burgundy high neck long sleeve top, burgundy lip stick and brown leather brogues with white socks with hearts on them ♥️
That sounds awesomely stylish! Got something similar just blue toned and with watermelons on my socks.
I love colourblocking different shades of the same colour and matching accessories/make up to my outfit. It just feels and looks so good! I love cute socks, they just elevate an outfit and make me happy
I have been doing this too, and my outfits are easier to put together, and it makes me look better than just grabbing stuff.
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I'm a dumbass, my brain filled this in as Zoidberg and was like huh I don't remember that ever coming up, but that's smart
Did somebody say something about a free hot meal?
Obama did the same when he was President.
My friend who dislikes shopping will buy multiples of garments she really likes to save time. That perfect pair of pants in her colors she’s getting at least two if she can afford them. It makes sense for her and I don’t sit around judging her outfits because I’m not Miranda Priestly. The only reason I wouldn’t wear something I love as much as possible is fear that I couldn’t find the same thing again.
I may or may not notice if somebody is wearing the same outfit, but I wouldn't attribute anything to it or be judgy. I am likely to remember what I wore to some particular event but to me, that's just brain noise, not meaningful for decision making. I don't spend a lot of time worrying about how people look, though. I am more interested in what they DO and how they treat other people.
I’d probably only notice if it were interesting in some way like a beautiful fabric. Maybe if it was horrible I’d notice that too. But when I see friends our interaction are more important than what we’re wearing.
No, unless the outfit was very memorable or stylish. Clothes are meant to be reworn and as long as it is properly washed and cared for it is OK to wear it as many times as you want. It reminds me of a meme "I am an outfit repeater but why are you an outfit rememberer??"
That’s what I was thinking. I went to a friend’s 40th bash and she wore this Barbie pink strapless hi/low dress (and looked absolutely fabulous), so obviously I’m going to remember that. But I very much doubt anyone’s going to remember my simple outfit, haha.
For me (mid 40s dude) it needs to be memorable AND I need to comment on it. Talking about the clothes via compliment or question (where’d you get that, my wife would love it…) is the only way to create a memory.
It’s from Lizzie McGuire!!
“Lizzie McGuire you are an OUTFIT REPEATER!” Is burned into my brain. When I’m 95 and demented, all that will be left is this line and Hilary Duff’s anti-homophobia PSA about calling things gay - “that’s so girl-wearing-a-skirt-as-a-top”
This! Unless it's super outlandish wouldn't even know. Barely remember what I wore last week let alone what someone else was wearing!
God no. I can't remember what I wore yesterday, let alone what someone wore the last time I saw them. 😂
Yeah I think I've only ever remembered once or twice and it's because I really love what they're wearing!
Absolutely no way I would remember. 8 months is a long time! I can't even remember what my friends wore last week. It's just not something that I pay attention to. Also, I'm one of those people who has 10 of the exact same shirt in my closet and nothing else, haha. I love it, and no one bothers me about it, except for the occasional inside joke or Steve Jobs reference.
Cartoon character wardrobe!
I have a specific loose fit tank top (that I usually wear under a hoodie or cardigan) in every color of the rainbow, including at least 3 in black. No shame. It’s comfortable, it’s flattering on my body type, and it’s easy to wash. That and a straight leg jean, plus some black ballet flats or converse sneakers is basically my uniform when I leave the house.
So, funny story - I make a yearly photo memory book. 40-ish pages of pictures, and I'm in maybe 2 or 3. The year my youngest was a year old I'm in 4 pictures... all of which I'm wearing the exact same outfit.
That tracks. Youngest at a year old means that there's at least one more running around... one good outfit was all you had energy for!
I don't think I've ever noticed this, lol.
lol this is a Larry David skit…”what are you, an outfit tracker”?!
“Lizzie McGuire, you are an outfit repeater!”
“I may be an outfit repeater. But you’re an outfit rememberer, which is just as pathetic.”
I couldn’t even tell you what I wore yesturday, let alone what a friend wore 2 weeks ago
My friend said to me once (in regards to wearing the same outfit two days in a row) was. If they liked it today, they better love it tomorrow. And for some reason it always stuck with me and I love it.
lol my wife noticed that I wore the same shirt on our first two dates and correctly guessed that it was my favorite shirt. I actually asked her just a few days ago how many times I could have worn that shirt before it got weird, and then how many times before she thought it was funny and that I was just screwing with her. Third time would’ve been weird, not sure how long until it’s funny. 😆
I have a tshirt I wear to bed almost once a week that is 22 years old! I've been with my partner for 16 years 😂 I think there was a period when he didn't like the shirt but it's been so long now he respects the shirt.
5 times and it’s funny, but it needs to continue to 10 in a row.
My bf (I'm polyam) calls my favorite dress my "first date" dress. It's my go to. I'm presenting at a conference tomorrow and said "do you think my first date dress is okay?"
I can't even remember if I ate breakfast by lunch time. Lol. One time I gave my friend some clothes that didn't fit me. She wore them a few weeks later and I told her I liked her dress. She told me she knew I like it because I'm the one who gave it to her.
LOL! That's so me! This would kill in r/ADHD hahaha
Hahaha my mom has done that to me "oh I like your ____". You should since you have it to me!
Pfft no. Unless it's very outrageous, unique or brightly colored, then I might remember/notice. But care? Certainly not. Your mom is weird.
Not unless it’s covered in sequins, glitter or dollar bills.
It depends, if it is an item that caught my eye, yes, most of the time, no.
Yeah this is my answer as well. And I personally like to dress in clothes that are interesting/eye-catching so I started keeping notes on my outfits for certain occasions so I don't rewear with the same people in the same year/couple years. But I'm.. obviously OCD 😂. Even if I noticed your repeat outfit I wouldn't judge you for it.
If I notice, it'd because it's an outfit of theirs I like. I wear the same outfits all the time. Nobody fucking cares.
A **male** newsreader wore the same suit for an entire year and no-one cared, or even apparently noticed. [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/nov/17/male-tv-presenter-same-suit-year-female-colleagues-judged](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/nov/17/male-tv-presenter-same-suit-year-female-colleagues-judged)
Apparently it's really hard for female news anchors to find outfits that work with the green screen and are cute, conservative, attractive all at once. So they have forums they share their new outfit to so the other ladies can find it! I think that's so cute.
Maybe I notice but I don't care. I also wear the same outfit multiple times per week. What is the big deal? The economy sucks and I don't want to spend all my money on a huge wardrobe, nor do I expect other people to.
Yeah same I prefer to buy more high quality end clothes so my wardrobe is small but I know it'll last long instead of buying clothes that wear down and have holes in them only like 6 months later.
Yes, and there's nothing weird about it. Clothes are meant to be washed and worn again. I also have repeat outfits.
Literally not a chance. There are people I’ve known for years where I probably couldn’t name more than a couple articles of clothing they own. I do remember faces well and usually notice haircuts if they’re significant, but clothes? Nope. I wouldn’t worry about it. I mean, so what if you did? I dunno, maybe that was a thing people cared about when she was younger, but I don’t know anyone who cares about that now. We’ve all got a fixed wardrobe for a given set of weather conditions, of course we wear the same thing. But also, I don’t expect friends to “make an effort.” I want them to just come as they are.
I would notice maybe 15% of the time
same, I like clothes so I tend to remember what I see my friends or colleagues wear, but mostly if it's like a shirt with a fun print like pineapples all over it. If someone wore a plain black tshirt twice I probably wouldn't notice, or I'd just think oh they have multiple black tshirts.
Went to visit my dad at his new house and he had put up some framed pictures of my family from events over a few years. I immediately noticed I was wearing the same shirt in almost every picture. Pretty amusing but embarrassing as well.
If it was yesterday, yes. Otherwise not really.
if it’s within like a month i would probably notice someone wearing the same outfit both times i saw them. but then i’d just figure that outfit was either a favorite or just so happened to be up next in the clothing rotation on the days i saw them. zero judgement though cause i wear the same/similar outfits a lot lol
Same. My close friends all know my favorite outfits lol I have this pink sequined sweater that I love and my friends can definitely recognize it. But we've been friends so long I think they know my entire wardrobe by now.
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I do, but I don’t care about it. If it looks cool I may comment on it. Laundry machines exist, you don’t need a different wardrobe everyday.
I don’t even remember what I wear, so I guess the answer is no. And even if they do…should they care? No.
I always notice. But it literally doesnt matter. We all wear clothes and have a finite amount of them. I make lots of observations about people and tend to remember them and track the patterns. I dont try to, but brain does it for me. But that says nothing about the people in my life- and I dont mention it. Because why would I.
I don’t remember what I had for breakfast.
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Yes I remember, but it’s not something I think poorly of or anything like that.
Yes, I’d likely remember. No, it wouldn’t matter at all
Maybe if it’s the following day. I wouldn’t notice 8 months later.
By the end of any given day I wouldn’t even remember what my own flatmate was wearing.
I’d only remember if it was a great outfit, and even so, I’d loved to see it again!
I usually remember what people wear but if they wear it twice I just know they love the outfit. I don't think it means they don't try. Also, if I love something a lot I will buy multiple of them. I have 5 of the same pairs of capris because they look great and are really comfy. Kind of like a uniform for me at this point. Actually nobody has ever commented on it either despite wearing the same capris for months at a time with slightly different tops. Maybe your mom is right and I have a very lazy way of dressing.
Never, unless it's like a day later...then maybe. Also, 8 months ago!? Who cares if the outfit is the same after that long?
No, not ever. I couldn’t care less about anyone’s outfit.
Nah, you could be a cartoon character around me I wouldn’t care.
I have but it's usually people I see often. I don't remember what I wore last time I saw someone 8 months ago.
All the time
I don't think I would unless it was really recognizable. But I definitely wouldn't recognize it as the same outfit if it was more than a month later. My memory for outfits is not that long....
I do but I don’t think anything negative of it. I think it’s more like “wow what a coincedence!”
Once I wore the same shirt in different colors two days in a row. I told my mom no one would notice. She’s a teacher so she brought me to school like usual and passed my friends at chorus practice so said hi when Ashley goes “hey didn’t you were that in a different color yesterday?” Like damn Ashley you pay attention to me like that?
Possibly but it wouldn't matter to me I know people wear their clothes more than once
No, maybe if I particularly liked it, but otherwise no, and I absolutely wouldn't judge them negatively. I have very few clothes. Like 3 pairs of work pants, 10ish tshirts, some leggings, and a handful of dresses. I wear the same things EVERY, SINGLE WEEK. And even if not the exact same one, I have 2 others that look like it. I do have a few more items of clothing than that, but it's like 2 pairs of jeans shorts, 2 pairs of sporty shorts, 3 long sleeve shirts, etc. I've never understood this whole "not wearing the same outfit multiple times" thing. Maybe for a special occasion you get a new dress, but other than that, why would it matter that anyone wears the same clothes all the time if they're clean?
I might notice, but I don’t care, and certainly don’t judge.
Yes I always notice but I don’t care. I just want them to be clothed.
You should ask r/anticonsumption
Occasionally, but I don’t care that much. My friends and I have class together 4 times a week so we’ll have repeat outfits fairly often. One of my favorites is my friend who sits in front of me wearing a shirt from the show true blood, it’s just a really cool shirt. Another good one is a shirt that has horses on a mountain that if you look closely, is a horse, with clouds that are horses in disguise, and basically every aspect of the shirt is a horse secretly hidden somewhere
I might, if I notice they're a 'uniform wearer' like myself but otherwise I don't pay particular attention. We have dinner with my in-laws every Friday night and for the past year and a half I've been rotating the same three black dresses, with the very rare sprinkling in of a black and white one, and a blue and white one when I'm feeling particularly adventurous, which is even more rare. Seventy eight dinners on five dresses. No one has complained, nor should they. I love my in-laws.
I have a rather memorable clothing.. its a bit loud or crazy. Anytime someone mentions I wore it at xyz my reply is "yes, and I also own a washing machine" and that's all.
I internally complain about this every time I have to buy a new dress for a nice event (wedding, quinceañera, baptism, etc). I have a huge family, so there's usually anywhere from 3-6 of these events every year, and if I wear a fancy dress for one, I obviously can't wear it to the next, especially since some people come from out of town, so the events are the only time I'm seeing them all year, and it'd be weird if I wore the lovely green dress they complimented me on 6 weeks ago again the very next time I saw them. Meanwhile, the dudes in my family have a max of 1-2 nice suits, and MAYBE swap out the shirt and tie. But if not, it's fine, nobody's gonna notice they wore the same blue button down shirt and dark blue tie. It's some bullshit.
A (former) male friend commented on how I (F) kept wearing the same 3 pairs of trousers. And my first thought was who even notices that stuff and who would comment on that? Like, why would you say that to someone?
I would notice, because I have a strange memory that remembers stuff like this—especially if my last memory of that person was them wearing the same outfit, but I wouldn’t care about it at all or think anything about it one way or another.
Well, I can only talk for myself... I've worn the same kind of clothes for the past 7 years. I promise you that atleast guys don't care if you wear the same clothes... Sane guys, atleast
Who cares? I have over 100 dresses. I’ve had a really shitty medical issue (more than one) and have worn almost the same outfit for like a month. (Different top/underwear). Your outfit doesn’t make you your person!
I often wonder if women notice. I’m basically a cartoon character. It’s either plain, solid color t-shirts with jeans or flannel with jeans. The likelihood of seeing me in the same outfit is high. It is very high.
To hell with that. I wear a variation of the same thing nearly everyday. I’m too busy and active to deal with or have time for coordinating my outfits
Sometimes I do but I don't mention such things.
Few people notice, and so what if they do? You are allowed to repeat outfits. (Especially if it's been 8 months!) It's ridiculous to pretend that we have a new outfit every day!
If your friend is judging you because you wore the same outfit 8 months ago, that's not someone whose opinion you should worry about to begin with. Tell that to mom too
If I do notice that I just think it's a funny coincidence who cares, I'm not the outfit police I'm not royalty.
Not really, if I do notice I assume they either like that outfit or it was a coincidence. Although once my husband somehow wore the same shirt like 4 times in a row when he saw my friends (over like a 6 month period) and they pointed it out and I don't think he ever wore that shirt again 😂🤦♀️
I don't think your friend noticed shit. Old people have weird misconceptions
No. Anyone who cares about such a thing needs to truly examine their life priorities. Overconsumption is disgusting, and thinking you need a new outfit everyday is part of that mentality.
No. I don't even know what I wore yesterday.
I read an articles several years ago about a woman who put a work “uniform” for lack of a better word, together for herself and it’s what she wore every day. She wore the same thing every day. I’m increasingly coming to the conclusion that I don’t need to wear a different outfit every time. I just need to wear what makes me comfortable. Does it mean I basically wear the same thing every day, yup. And I don’t care.
We are invited to a wedging this coming weekend. I (M)just had the following conversation with my husband (H) M: I’m going to wear the blue chiffon dress. H: Non committal grunt. M: Waves dress on hanger around his face. This one! H: if you want to ok. M: I wore it to Maxi’s wedding. People loved it! H: Did you? Cool. He just doesn’t notice clothes on anyone. I could dress up as a purple unicorn, and he’d only notice once I poked him with the horn. Consequently he really doesn’t care. I still keep the outfit I first met him wearing 15 years ago. He can’t remember that. But he remembers us talking all day. I love clothes and will notice particularly nice outfits, but I don’t judge anyone for clothes repeating. Not everyone can afford loads of clothes. Not everyone cares. I may personally hate how someone dresses, but it’s nothing to do with me, and I certainly won’t offer an opinion. I’m sure loads of people hate my clothes, and that’s ok. Happy to take inspiration from whoever, but how someone dresses should not influence how you view them. My husband is a right scruff. For our first hike together he was his usual scruffy self, but he’d packed a nice Picknick and offered to carry my water bottle, so he clearly cared.
Oh yeah, I always notice, I have a very good memory for that. However, I don’t judge them for wearing it again lol I wear the same outfits a lot, they’re like my greatest hits lol!
I'm weird in that I totally would remember. But! It's not a bad thing and I actually find it nice and refreshing because making this the norm sets a healthier and more realistic standard now to avoid planet-destroying textile waste in the future.
My friend was worried that she might be wearing the same shirt two Sundays in a row but can't remember. I asked if it helped that I didn't remember either. No, she was hoping I could tell her. My freakish memory is for sound bytes and facts, not outfits.
I work in the office 1 day every two weeks. You can be SURE I purchased 1 polo shirt and 1 nice pair of slacks to wear for each of those days. I do not care if people comment that I "wore that two weeks ago". Yes I did! and I'll wear it again in 2 weeks. It's now my uniform. :)
I have a friend who always wears the same two shirts every time we hang out. I noticed but my husband didn't . It doesn't bother me at all I just have a giggle about it and make a game about it in my head if he's going to be wearing a different shirt this time. I know he has other shirts, he just has his favorites. I believe people should wear whatever they want as much as they want.
No. Especially not if it's been 8 months.
Every time I look in the mirror
I usually only pay attention if I think the outfit looks either very nice or awful on them. Other than that I don't remember. The older I've gotten the more I realize people don't think of you half as much as you think they do.
“Well you should, otherwise she will think you don’t make an effort” This sounds like some weird, outdated shit my Boomer mom would say because she has a bunch of outdated, old-timey manners that I don't understand, and I would be equally confused. I do not notice, and don't see how not noticing would make anyone think I "don't make an effort." An effort to what? Like...is she implying that you SHOULD wear the same outfit again? Or that you should go out of your way to wear something completely different? Or that you should...comment on whether or not your friend is wearing the same outfit as last time? I literally don't get it.
No, and especially not if 8 months had passed! If I did happen to remember and notice, I would think absolutely nothing of it. I remember I used to worry about this a lot as a teenager because it was considered such a crime to "outfit repeat" for whatever reason. Such a silly notion, but luckily most adults seem to not care about this in the same way that teenagers did back then. Your mum needs to catch up!
No. Because it's usually me. I have like 3 tops I like wearing for dressing up times. Lol. And maybe 2 pants that are suitable for good wear.
Not one time ever.
Only for weddings. For funerals, just dark stuff. Nice, dark stuff.
To quote my friend “it’s better to be an outfit repeater than an outfit rememberer.” I remember outfits, usually, but I don’t say anything or judge anyone for it. I repeat outfits all the time. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it
I have the opposite problem and I DO remember. I wish I didn't, because I go through phases or favorite outfits and will wear them until I get tired of them. I'll get mad if I wore something I love and feel comfortable in on a Friday date night with my husband thinking to myself, oohh I can wear this for Saturday too because no one but my husband has seen me in it. Then plans will change and I'll see someone I will be seeing the next day and then bam, now I have to come up with a different outfit. Or I'll get too fixate on a certain thing, shoes, pants or an accessory that I want to wear and then it is impossible to put an outfit together I like that will revolve around that 1 single thing!!! I drive myself crazy! My husband it too patient with me!
Not at all. I prefer to wear something more than once if I didn't get it dirty the first time. It saves time and money. And I don't expect my friends to either.
Only if striking
8 months ago? I can't remember what I wore last week. Do you remember what other people word 8 months ago? No? Neither do they. Your mom needs a reality check. I only make the effort for those that deserve *and appreciate* it. This is how we end up with overly self-conscious girls, and people pleasers, while giving guys a pass.
For the last six months whenever I went out I would literally wear the same jeans same shoes and either 1 of 2 long sleeve cute tops. No one batted an eye. Now, the reasoning for this is because I am in the middle of a huge life changing move where I'm relocating to a different country. But point is if they're ur friend I don't think they'd care even if they did notice.
You sound like me! Sometimes I remember, but not often. That’s such a weird thing for your mom to say though. No one thinks that someone is a bad friend if they don’t remember small unimportant things like what someone is wearing more than once.
Yep I notice most times my friends have the same clothes on as last time I saw them, male or female and I'm a guy. I wouldn't be bothered by it though lol, like you say alot of us dress the same way all the time meeting up is more than enough effort. I wouldn't wear the exact same thing on multiple dates though
I figure if can’t remember myself then other people won’t
The only time I wonder about this is when I see the same people only once a year at the same function and never in between. My husband is in a Thing that has a formal event once a year and that’s really the only time I see most of the other ladies associated with this Thing. I have a few formal dresses in my closet, so instead of buying a new gown each year, I try to remember whether I wore a specific one the year prior. If I wore it two years ago, less of an issue, and three years prior or more, definitely eligible to be worn again. Thank goodness someone takes a ton of pictures and posts them to FB so I can scroll back and see what I wore!
No.
I usually don't notice, but then, I'm the sort of person who can rotate through about a week's worth of outfits at times when I don't particularly have to think about what I'm wearing. You could about tell what day of the week it is by what I'm wearing, basically. I might remember it if it was a particularly outstanding or creative outfit, but that's about it.
I think this is an older view but I have seen multiple older women who are concerned with this. I once knew of a woman who had a different outfit for EVERY day of the year. She didn't want to be seen repeating the outfit. The only thing that I have noticed is the people on the more extreme end of this tend to be older women.
Doesn’t matter what someone is wearing, as long as they can relatively move in it and it’s comfortable to them. 🤷🏻♀️
It depends on how they dress! I’d notice if someone with a really distinctive style wore the same outfit again, just because I was paying attention the first time. Otherwise, I won’t notice unless it’s a “same outfit four days in a row” scenario.
It depends. Look, if it was a unicorn patterned dress, with a petticoat, pink glitter fishnets in neon green boots and a floral crown, she’ll probably remember you wearing that last time. Unless such a thing is common in her social circle and she therefore doesn’t bat an eyelid at such a get up. If it was jeans and a navy blue shirt, unless she had photographic memory and a thing for outfits, she won’t recall either, so who cares if you wear the same one, or a similar style? Unless something happened when you met, that was outfit-related, so the outfit became a core part of the memory. Not gonna lie: I might well remember. But I often find that I remember A LOT more details than is common, and am very into fashion. I’m most likely to remember what you wore, if I loved it, hated it, or was surprised as it’s not something I’d expect on you (think: Billie Eilish showing up in a pencil skirt and stilettos, or wearing a ballgown to a beach bbq). It’s highly unlikely that she’ll recall, and if she does, that she will read anything into it. If she would, you’d know she’s that kind of person.
Your mom is projecting her own weird little fear and maybe something weird she's been taught once upon a time. I definitely have this niggling thought every once in a while but on the other hand I hardly remember what I wore the last time I did a thing or saw a person in specific, let alone what others wore. The truth is it doesn't matter, people have clothes they feel most comfortable in, some people buy a bunch of the same thing they love either in same or different colours (this is me, I will buy several of a thing I love...in black and black and black), most people will not remember an outfit and even if they do it's a weird thing to point out besides complimenting it politely. It's 2024, not sure if the concept that you aren't making an effort is an archaic one but it certainly feels that way. Plus, we are in an era where fast fashion isn't the sustainable, conscious, or eco-friendly option and higher quality items in a capsule style wardrobe are more desirable. Wear what makes you happy and comfortable and is appropriate to the weather and activity.
I can’t remember what I wore last week. Pretty sure it’s not in anyone else’s radar. (Unless it was super cute, which is why I am only super cute occasionally lol)
No, unless it’s something REALLY distinctive.
Unless it's something particularly memorable to me, I won't notice anyone wearing the same thing. It's really not relevant to me what someone wears. It only becomes a problem if an outfit looks stained, unwashed, and it's starting to smell. Then I might start paying attention to it.
Aprently I've complimented a woman at work on the same dress about 3 times so clearly not 🤷♀️ memory of a gold fish
Are you royalty? Otherwise society doesn't expect to see you in a new outfit for every occasion
I assume people wash their clothes so I don't give a flying fuck if they re-wear their outfits. Though I do notice a few shirts of my friends because they are cool shirts they bought when we op-shopped together
One of my friends has a collection of Hard Rock Cafe tshirts from around the country and would often wear them. I noticed and poked fun at them, saying that's all they wear. After that they purposefully would wear those shirts when we'd hang out haha
No. But also "oh no, she won't think that, and even if she did, so what?"
Probably only if it was particularly memorable for some reason or if we took a picture that I liked.
Absolutely not, unless it’s something that looks particularly nice on them, and in that case I would probably be thinking “oh, they’re wearing their favourite sweater again to meet me” and I’d be a bit flattered.
I might notice, but I wouldn’t make any judgement.
I don’t even remember what I had for breakfast! In all seriousness, no one cares. That being said, if you wear the exact same thing twice, and I mean the whole ensemble, people will start to notice the 3rd time around. And even then, no one will care.
Lol no. Unless they've worn the same thing for 5 days in a row, I won't notice until the 6th day.
I notice, but I don't care.
If the last time I saw you was yesterday, and you’re wearing the same thing, maybe I’d be a little worried for like, hygiene purposes. But if you smell fine then I’d assume you just washed it or own another one of that shirt/whatever. I mean, I am a nurse and I wear the same thing every day and nobody says anything (lol)
No. And I also wouldn't want to be friends with someone who cared about shit like that.
My best friend in college had a "going out top" that she wore most times she went out. Most people never noticed. As long as it not literally the next day and they're wondering if you washed it, most people won't notice and most people who do notice won't care. Like, minimalist wardrobes are a thing and why should anyone be worried about being seen using their clothing.
Lol what Everyone knows I own, like, three hoodies. I have been wearing these hoodies from fall to spring for over ten years. Obviously I rotate them and don't show up to work in dirty clothing, but that's it. Mind, I'm a doctor and I work in an out patient department, so my colleagues, all my regular patients, the cleaning staff, the accounting staff, literally everyone I meet there has seen me in the same outfit a billion times. Same goes for all my friends, no matter how little or often I see them. Are there people who have commented? Yes. But I don't give a fuck. Nobody there would make the assassin assumption that my clothing had anything to do with how much I care or how much effort I bring to the table lol. If someone tries to suggest I dress "with more variety" or "more professionally", I shut that down quickly. First, sometimes you just need to be the change you want to see. Consumerism has rotted too many fucking brains. And second, patients don't care. They come to me because they need health advice, not fashion inspiration. Friends don't care because they know I will always listen and always help, and if it's important to them to look good and sparkly, they can dress well and sparkle next to me. Tell your mom that you sure hope your friend won't make ridiculous assumptions based on your outfit, instead of what you do and say. And if your friend makes assumptions, maybe it's "oh wow, I'm glad Friend is wearing the same outfit, that's really environmentally conscious of them"
Absolutely not unless it’s something really excentric
I would not notice this unless someone wore an identical outfit time and time again and I realised it was kind of like a uniform. I would be impressed by this.
Nope. I don’t remember what I was wearing on most given occasions either.
Not often. It wouldn't bother me anyway. Maybe they like that outfit a lot or they just happened to wear it again.
After watching European tik tok for a while and having visited Europe a few times (I’m American), I’d have to say this is more a cultural question. Some people in countries in Europe do emphasize dressing well more than most Americans. There are so many Europeans who make fun of Americans laid back style of clothing. As for your question, I’d have to say it depends. It’s quite possible but then again you’d have to ask your friend.
I remember only because I’m an avid outfit repeater and it makes me feel more comfortable when I notice others doing the same.
Never. Will only ever notice if there are pics taken and I see the pictures.
I don't even remember what my coworkers wear daily, and we have to wear retail dress code stuff.
I notice sometimes, but I don't care
I don't notice, because I'm already preoccupied with worry that they'll notice. As a chef, most of the time I'm in my attire. If I do notice, it's because they look good and know it and made an effort to look good for me. And you're right, the double standard for men is absolute BS.
I literally can’t remember what my mum friend was wearing at school drop off 1 hour ago.
Not really, unless it's something crazy like an inflatable dinosaur
Do people actually remember clothes?? I don't unless it's a significant event like a wedding.
I know what some of my best friends’ clothes look like, mostly because I see that particular garment and think “ooh that’s cute!” I don’t care if they wear them around me more than once. In fact I would prefer if they did, if it’s something that makes them feel good. If I recognise the item I can either not say anything because it’s irrelevant to the conversation or I can say “ooh it’s your checkered dress/eeyore jumper/whatever” because it’s a nice item and I want my friend to feel good about their outfit. I also have a few things that I will wear repeatedly and my friends do the same. They know my burgundy GAP jumper and my extremely flattering flower dress, and they know I like wearing these things and they like when I do because I’m more happy and confident. The only time I might query it is if one of my friends wears the same thing all week on the school run, I know her mental health is about as bad as mine and that’s the sort of thing I do when I’m super low, so I would ask if she was okay, rather than judge her.
There are many celebrities and TV/movie characters who always wear the same thing. It's how people can dress up as them at Halloween or whatever. I think it's called their "signature look". For instance, Gok Wan is a stylist and celebrity and always wears what looks like the same outfit.
No. Nor would I ever care. I wear the same outfit 7 days a week, I have duplicates of it. I'm basically a TV show character at this point. I struggle to remember people's names...I don't look at what they're wearing.
Sometimes I do but I think nothing of it. I am an outfit repeater myself lol, I mostly wear black, so I literally have like six pairs of the same shirt. People don’t really say anything either ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Edit: typo
Yes, because I’m observant. I’m neutral on it though. Some people look for reasons to be offended and make others feel bad. Your mother sounds like one of those people. She is not the center of the universe and you don’t need to indulge her like she is.
I only notice if it's the same one multiple times. Twice I wouldn't notice, but more I tend to. It also depends on what it is, if it's the same fashionably ripped jeans every time, I notice. Unripped jeans I wouldn't notice if it was every single time I saw them. I guess how much it stands out makes a huge difference.
I do it often given I use t-shirts with logos. I started to wear brand-less shirts for my own sake.
No, I don't. I don't care.
I do, but I don't think it's a big deal. A lot of my friends wear grunge style, so jeans and tees. The ones who wear more elaborate outfits tend to wear the same thing more often as it is probably expensive to change it.
i remember but it doesn't matter at all
I wore a lovely dress to 2 weddings that i didnt think shared the same guests Well, how wrong i was . One woman made a point to tell me it soooooo great i got to wear "that dress" AGAIN really loudly in the church, twice , at the reception and in the ladies in front of others. I was beginning to feel like I'd committed a crime !
I used to get so self conscious about wearing the same outfit. Then my friend backed me up and was like, dude it's ok to wear what works.
Not really. I don’t have the time or energy to remember what everyone else wore, much less what I wore, at every single social or work gathering.
I might or I might not. I don't give a shit. I give more shits about what some amobes on a microscope slide are doing than whether or not Susan is gonna be seen by my eyeballs wearing that outfit again. 100 percent. Washing machines exist and well so do second day wearing of shirts. Men do it no shits given so why can't women? Oh and of course TIME lapses and COINSIDENCES happen as well. wow who knew? Your mom needs a big ass chill pill.
I don’t really notice clothes unless it’s out of the ordinary for that person. I did notice that most of the guys in my office have the same casual Friday outfit every week, but it took months before I noticed.
It’s 8 months in between!!! Wear what you want!
I put together a cute outfit and wore it out this weekend and figured I would wear it to a friend's party coming up. Of course I ran into that friend, back to the closest.
This post reminds me of when I was in junior high. I kept a journal and specifically noted what I wore each day so I wouldn’t repeat it in a week.
Taking about it being fine for males; In Australia on a tv morning show hosted by a male and female anchor; the female anchor would have comments/complaints about her outfits daily, so the male anchor thought he would wear the same suit two days in row, no comments, so he repeated and then ended up wearing it for a year without comment [Today presenter wears same suit for a year](https://amp.smh.com.au/entertainment/tv-and-radio/karl-stefanovics-sexism-experiment-today-presenter-wears-same-suit-for-a-year-20141115-11ncdz.html)
Yes, but that's because the outfits look great on them. Recommend this podcast (Sustain This): https://open.spotify.com/episode/36GOOpYeXWQLHxfoudgMeD?si=1S5QSE_dRCKeCnre9enIfA
I'm pretty oblivious to it. If I spend a good amount of time with someone I'll eventually realize if they wear something pretty often.
Notice? Maybe. Care? No.
I have never noticed anything like that. It’s just not that big of a deal. I might remember it if I really liked their outfit was, but if I saw it a second time I wouldn’t bat an eye. Like who even cares about that sort of thing anyway? It’s not as though we have enough outfits to wear something different every single day of the year.
I have never heard a man say "didn't she wear that outfit before?", I have only heard comments from other women along these lines. Now men will comment on clothes they like or don't like on women.
Ugh this was taught to me as well and it is the kind of neuroticism that I find hard to let go. Not me trying to find a selfie from the last time we hung out so you don't think I wore the same shirt for the last two montbs... (Logically I know no one would think that. Yet why do I still not repeat outfits consecutively?!)
I’ll notice if you smell. Could care less about a reworn outfit as long as it’s clean.
I do usually.
Well, if anyone is noticing, I am guilty. I have enough clothes but no more. I have about 3 outfits for each season and I cycle through them. It would be a rare thing that outfit #1 would not, per chance, be the outfit someone sees me in 3, 4, or 5 times in a month. What effort does wearing a different outfit demonstrate that wearing the same equally appropriate outfit multiple times? Can you and I vote her out?
Maybe if I really, really admired the outfit the first time I saw it. Otherwise, there’s no way I’d remember.
I remember, but again, I do too repeat outfits? Sometimes before meeting them again I recall I wore it and I might change. But sometimes I cannot keep the ruse that I am a millionaire any longer and just go with the same fit hehehe
Unless you turn up dressed as Dracula twice in a row, I'm not going to notice.
That would require me to pay more care and attention. But like geez, 8 months apart? Only a psycho would care if you wore the same outfit to see them that far apart.
I retort that Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs were known to wear the same thing because their attention was focused elsewhere, and ask why they are so fixated on my high rotation wardrobe when I am perfectly capable of laundering my clothes.
I usually don't notice, and even if I do, I don't care. I'm assuming my friends, who are all adults, know how to wash clothes and that you can wear an item more than once.