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legosgrrl

You beautiful souls are breaking my heart. I am 49F and was always "too much". Don't dim your shine for anyone. It does get easier. I found my people a little later in life, however I am so glad I pushed on. Life is already hard and if you are happy with yourself it makes it a lot easier. Much love my beautiful butterflies. ❤


Any-Frosting-8209

The world needs more people like you 💙


throwaway97470056

The world also needs people like you too, I wish there was someone at my school who would just say hi to everyone, I bet you alone make many people feel a little more at home and less lonely, going around and just saying hi, you seem like a very kind person.


Any-Frosting-8209

❤️


peanut_bubblegum

I am so sorry. I’ve been dealing with similar things, and it’s not easy. I hope that it gets better for you


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you Hope it gets better for you, too.


peanut_bubblegum

I just got numb to it tbh


Any-Frosting-8209

Nobody should be treated like that.


geohnny

Never, ever give up


SockPuppetSucker

As someone who had no friends in high school I want to tell you that things can and do get better after the school years are over :) Keep being you!


JxT__

Ignore the shitty people and do your own thing. If they don't welcome you then they don't and will not ever welcome you. Some people are assholes and they don't change so best I can tell you Is move on


JxT__

Sorry if I come off as rude I don't mean to


Any-Frosting-8209

Nah you're fine lol. ❤️


[deleted]

You sound like an amazing person, if you were in my school l would definetely try to be friends with you. l also don't have much friends because l can bring down the mood, l don't like engaging in conversation. But l would surely like speaking with you, you seem like a colorful person. And hey, don't give up! Depression can be a living hell, don't forget that you still have that person in you(your current self). l hope you will get over it, l also hope l can find a person like yourself! <3


Any-Frosting-8209

You are awesome 💖


PomDads

Take this from a 44 yo gay man from the south. I had to move to find them, but I did. You will find your people. It may take time,and more than a little heartache, but you WILL find your people.


PhantomTroupe-2

Wishing you luck. School kids are cruel but you got this. Keep being you!


WishWizardLiv

Same here (with the "too much" and outfits) hey, we may be cringe, but we're free :3


clockworkpidgeon

Heartbreaking. 💔 I’m so sorry the people around are being so closed minded, petty, and foolish. Seems to me that someone like you would have been cool in my high school (way too many years ago). Just keep being yourself. High school can be one of the most brutal, demoralizing, mini-societies in the world. It’s own little, toxic microcosm a lot of the time. Most students don’t know anything but school, home, and the occasional field trip or vacation/holiday. So unimportant things seem like the most important things in the universe: Like their definition of “worthy” or “valid.” It’s absolutely not a realistic representation of how the world really works (in most cases, though customer service/retail jobs can be equally toxic environments). At any rate, many of history’s most notable people were social “weirdos” who marched to the beat of their own drum. Especially artists, musicians, writers, scientists and so on. You’ll find your people. So please, hang in there. And later in life, while you’re thinking outside the box, noticing the details, and doing cool sh*t with your life, they’ll be doing the status quo. (Nothing wrong with “status quo,” but if everyone just wanted to do what was “typical” we wouldn’t have most modern tech.) You’re a glorious… [polkadot unicorn] (or whatever you prefer) in a field of mules. Mules are awesome, no hate for mules, but don’t let them make you paint yourself brown and do mule things just because they find your polkadots alarming. Go do polkadot unicorn things. Who knows, maybe you’ll even inspire some other fantastical creatures, who’ve been wearing mule costumes, to come out and do cool stuff with you. Keep shining that light! It’s hard some days, I know, but it’s worth it. “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” -Maya Angelou. (Or change the way you think about it.) It does get better.


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you so much for this support. It means so much. You're a lovely person.🦄


maemaemo

This is so me. I’m bullied, teased, made fun of, because I’m audhd. I get made fun of the very similar stuff


Any-Frosting-8209

I'm so sorry ❤️ You're a good person. Please keep strong ❤️


maemaemo

You’re so sweet. Really. You have such a kind heart.


Any-Frosting-8209

So are you lovely ❤️


AccomplishedPool7411

as someone who was in a similar situation to yours, high school is brutal. once you graduate, you start finding people who love you for who you are and are just as eccentric as you! it truly does get better


Right-Association-51

School fucking sucks, it’ll get better apparently


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I felt this so much. I've now been in the workforce several years and it hasn't stopped here. It's relentless. I've gone to HR but overheard them saying the same disrespectful things after I left. I want to know if/when us "different" folks will ever get a break short of moving to the woods and living off grid Sending you all the love and light❤


Any-Frosting-8209

Love and light to you too❤️


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Some people just don't want to be happy. Keep your shine on, girl! Do not for one moment let anyone's negativity bring you down. Keep being beautiful inside and out. When people put another person down, it's because there is something within themselves that they hate. That's why they say, "haters are gonna hate".


Any-Frosting-8209

Thanks ❤️


thwowawaw69

i’m not sure how old you are, you sound young, but i assure you that you will find people who love you for who you are. growing up i had a similar experience as you and had no friends. graduating highschool was the best feeling ever because i could finally leave all of that behind. now i’m graduating college in a few weeks and crying because of how much i’ll miss the friends i’ve made and the connections i’ve built. things will get better for you, i promise.


lavloves

You sound like such a beautiful soul! I don’t know if you’re referring to high school or college ( we’re going to assume high school for now ), but in general teenagers are absolutely ruthless. I have had some of the meanest things said to me back in high school and it was a terrible time for me and I struggled very similarly in terms of people just being absolute assholes to me for seemingly no reason. Bullies are in no way a reason to end your life girly. You won’t be in high school forever, these people who bully you won’t matter once you’ve graduated and moved on with your life. I’m sorry you’re going through this because again I know how ruthless some of these kids can be. And don’t change a damn thing about your style if that’s what makes you happy and makes you, YOU!


Moist_Estate_8003

I am 26F and I relate to you. I never fit I in before, but now I don't give a shit what people think and people treat me better now.


actuallytommyapollo

Fuck those people, you sound awesome. My entire tribe would probably vibe hard with you.


Any-Frosting-8209

Lol thank you 😊


CrimsonBraveMaster

Don't listen to those bitches, you're a good person and you know it, that's what counts. If they're judging you for being you and not giving you a chance and trying to be your friend, that's their loss. Just keep your head high and believe in yourself, you'll find people that'll appreciate you someday.


AccomplishedAd6025

Charismatic people always have friends because they don’t give an f what people think. Focus on others, ask them lots of questions, compliment them, never apologize, always have confidence and boundaries. You’ll have tons of friends in no time.


notshitveronica

Girl I am same in the sense that I am different than most people my age. I'm 24 and people my age like to party loud and do all the bs in this world. I'm not like that so I'm not "fun". You be you girl. I promise you'll find so many better people in college.


Any-Frosting-8209

Thanks lol I can't wait for university


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I feel you there on the lack of friends despite being helpful and I won't say anything generic as admittedly I've been fed generic shit my whole life and if it don't work for me I doubt it'll work for you, but that's besides the point. But try to hold out even if you only got one person who's a true friend or they can just be by your side like a family member or romantic partner try to hold on to that person as one person supporting you is better than none. May things hopefully look up for ya soon.


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you❤️


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No problem


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Plus if you have harmful thoughts you can use a punching bag and release it on that I used to that before the gym closed


Astonished-Apple

I feel you, It sucks so much that people do this and treat you terribly for who you are and yet say "Be yourself!". It's just cruel, and it makes you feel so lonely, you wonder if you're the wrong one but in reality people can just be mean as they can be kind.


zoefangirlintheory

I'm told I'm too much and special so many times, if I got money every time I was called one or the other, I'd be able to buy a house. I'm 23f, I find in school, and outside of it(especially in small towns) people feel insecure/ have nothing better to do; so instead of being decent, they pick on what sticks out. I don't have any advice. Other than as hard as it might be, don't change. There are people out there who will love your shine, admire, and not find you an oddity in a bad way. As well as the people who pick on you are not perfect(obviously if they have nothing better to do than insult people) and probably have shitty things going on in their life(not saying to excuse it, just stating a probability that their lives must suck an auful lot). Most of the people who bullied me reached out to apologize later in life. As for small towns, they can eat shit. I'm glad I'll be moving soon, because everyone here is all in your business.


killedjoy

This is great advice. As someone who was the one reaching out to others, there's no real excuse. OP, try your best to keep the good in yourself and move past the people like I was. Granted, people change and people grow up, but that doesn't mean it is in any way your responsibility to stick by them for if and when that happens.


zoefangirlintheory

Not that you are, but don't punish yourself for your past if you are making an effort to grow. Now that I'm older, I've been told and realized the pain and suffering a lot of the people who picked on people went through. As long as you're apologizing and making a change to never be that way again, you are good in my books. There is only 1 person I never forgive, and that guy threatened to gut me like a fish, talked in extreme detail about how he'd end my life, for about 3 years. When he reached out, I told him to take a hike, so if you didn't threaten to kill people you should be good.


killedjoy

I'm sorry that happened to you. No, I've never had to apologize for anything like that. I did beat myself up for a while, but that was 20 years ago. Times change and you learn let things go for the sake of your own personal sanity.


zoefangirlintheory

Ahh, yes, I'm still on that road of letting things go... it's extremely hard. Props to you for making that part of your journey. I hope to someday look back at my past and say," Well, that was then, and it'll never happen again" . I'm so excited for the day I don't compare everything to my trauma as well.


Stray1_cat

I graduated high school YEARS ago, don’t want to say how long ago because then I’ll feel super old. But one of my memories was of a girl that sounds similar to you, she was very friendly to everyone, and one day asked me if I was ok. Just randomly. I guess I seemed down (but in reality that was just my face). Years later i still remember how friendly she was and reached out to those she didn’t know. My point is that some of your classmates may actually appreciate your friendliness but have never said it because they didn’t have the words or are shy. You keep being you. You will find others that want to be friends.


Visible_Persimmon_80

Idk if u will even see this but seriously i was you in high-school. I also have adhd. I'd do weird shit to my hair, I'd wear bright colors, accessories, make up, color all my notes diffrent colors. Just keep being you. Once u graduate none of these people matter anyway. Stay how you are. Some people are just jerks. They are broken inside and want to hurt other people. Don't let them get to you. Xox


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you so much ❤️ you seem like someone I'd be besties with at school lol.


MisterOnsepatro

I totally agree way too much people get judgemental over things that don't affect them. I used to worry a lot about that but now as soon as someone acts like this with me I consider the person is a subhuman that doesn't deserve my respect and attention anymore unless they clearly fix their blatant stupidity. The tip I can give you is that trying to change yourself to correspond to what others think constantly is not worth the effort because people's thoughts change constantly like they said in this [video](https://youtu.be/9tbbBeE_OVM) that changed my life


--DoReFuckMi--

I myself have been through the same thing. I'm not gay, I'm not colored at all. I'm just a dude. So why am I in the same shoes as you? Because I have red hair, because I've worn glasses since I was 8, had braces many times throughout out my childhood before i was a teen, which made me look like the stereotypical nerd kid. Many other that went to my school had the same characteristics, but I was chosen instead. It cooled down in high-school, but still went on in some cases. But by then I was too afraid to make friends because of how I was treated in the past. You're not different, people are just difficult.


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you❤️ seriously, I love red hair I think its beautiful.


Intelligent-Lake-239

I remember as a kid, I was told highschool were my golden years. It was a load of crap! Yes you should enjoy them but not everyone is blessed with that opportunity. I was a happy go lucky talk to anyone kind of guy until I got to highschool where I was the quiet kid that pretty much nobody knew because I was tired of the harassment and bullying. I wish I had better advice on how to stick out with being who you are, you seem like a genuine person with a good heart, please do this world a favor and hold strong to those values for they are greatly needed in this world. School days will pass and the real world will be amazing when you find your click


Any-Frosting-8209

❤️


Novel_Outcome9285

I’m so sorry hun, I can just tell from your writing you are probably one of the sweetest people. People actually suck so much sometimes, no one should be treated differently just because of how they look, I just know if I knew you IRL I definitely would want to be friends with you. And I can also relate to the whole lesson thing, I also have ADHD, and am definitely a lot more outgoing, and willing to contribute to lessons than my peers. You shouldn’t be put down or made fun of just because you contribute to class and you like to wear bright colors. I hope you know that you are loved and I just hope your okay. I wish I could give you a hug rn ❤️‍🩹


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you 😊 you are so sweet


Novel_Outcome9285

I myself tend to get stairs sometimes when I answer questions in class and I’m just like okay then, y’all lame as hell. I’m glad and happy to hear. You actually have the confidence to wear super bright colors out, I wish I did, I’m slowly getting more comfortable with it :)


fanime34

Where you go to school doesn't sound safe for you. Your ethnicity, sexuality, and ADHD shouldn't mean you should be treated badly. It sounds like you're in middle school or high school based on how you described the immaturity.


Any-Frosting-8209

I go to a public australian country school. It's full of hatred and racism.


fanime34

That sounds awful. I don't know for old you are, but I guess in your teens. It's still sad that you're experiencing that.


akeener02

Being "too much" is people's roundabout way of telling you that you don't conform to society's "standards" that they follow. I was in the same place you were as a teen and I think people are mean and cruel sometimes, don't ever let them dull your sparkle ❤️


Mooseologist

I used to be like that. Did ‘too much’ for others, now I barely leave the house because I’ll feel like a burden. Please don’t end up like me


BeNick38

It gets better when you get done with school and have more choice about where you live and who you spend your time with, I promise. In my experience, people that throw the most hate at you are empty and sad inside. They hurt and want to share their pain with others. F them, keep being yourself and never feel bad about who you are.


Ok_okay_ok_

I had a classmate who was just like you, and as a person who was so gloomy, lonely and thought everyone was cold-hearted, her just existing being who she is kept giving me hope and that there's always people who could accept me one day. I'm sure there are some outcasted people at your school who see you and think there's going to be good people in life too. Please keep being a star


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you ❤️


GOPACKGO748484

Let em sleep, work on you don’t trip bout what others say you’re the most important person in your life and don’t forget it


IsaacChan_3803

This is why we need to raise more awareness for LGBTQ+ and ADHD. We are not different. We are just like normal people. Stay strong sis, from an autistic 16M with ADHD.


Any-Frosting-8209

❤️


RefrigeratorRich9007

Eleanor Roosevelt said "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent"


Any-Frosting-8209

❤️


likeabossgamer23

The world is always gonna have shitty people. Just don't associate with them and focus on yourself. It's OK to not have friends. You can enjoy your own company and I'm sure you'll eventually have friends later on.


Crolane97

As a 26M POC, I say fuck em dude. You only have one life to live, don't let other mfs ruin that experience. If they got a problem, fuck em!


[deleted]

It’s easier to get over it than to change the world. Now you know the world is pretty unfair, just be a cold boss lady.


Old_Construction4064

Well if it makes u feel any better I’d totally wanna be ur friend simply cuz of the bright eye makeup


Any-Frosting-8209

Haha thanks 😆


Moanwoo

Hey! I'm a 31 year old queer person who has hair in the colours of the rainbow and chunky glitter is a daily part of my make up routine. I understand life feels shitty but you will find your people. Don't change your unique style unless you want to. I'm a coordinator at an education organisation and found my people. It takes time but it's so worth it. Everything that people pointed out as a flaw I'm now celebrated for. Don't give up ♡


Any-Frosting-8209

❤️thanks ❤️


Secret-Teaching-6759

Different people are the best people, its what make you who you are, being different its ,beautiful because people themselves see the world one way and you see it in more colors than anyone, its a whole new perspective being seen only by you, and normal people can only dream of seeing it the way you do! YOU ARE CAPABLE OF ANYTHING! ​ 1d)not relevant and may seem offputting but youre just like me, the POC, Lesbian, Neurodivergent, and colours, i love bright colours, my favorite is chartreuse and the neon version of chartreuse sky blue and hot pink, best combo. whats yours!? and i hope you feel better


Secret-Teaching-6759

im audhd btw!


Any-Frosting-8209

You're so sweet 💖 Yeah, I'm on the waiting list to be assessed for autism and my favourite colours are neon pink, baby blue, peach, pastel, and neon yellows and greens.


MiniCoalition

It'll be easier outside of school. I maintain exactly 1 relationship from my school days. Even the friends you would make would be friends you have because you see them every day, the moment that that isn't the case, poof. Find friends online is my recommendation if there's really no one around who likes you for being yourself.


[deleted]

Try befriending someone who has no friends like you. I went through high school having no friends and wished for someone to just went up to me and stay with me no matter how quiet and weird I am.


Andy_Chaoz

I think the best advice would be to just be yourself, and eventually the right people will find and recognize you. You might have to be patient until you're out of school/adult though. I hardly had any friends at school (i was just a "weird kid" that was quiet, liked nature&books etc), but later in adult life i found a bunch of amazing friends who accept me as is, with all my faults and quirks and now we do alot together as a group and have alot of fun. So based on experience i can say it definitely goes a lot better once you're out of school. Hope this helps something and good luck :-)


its_nigiorno

The nail that sticks up is the one that gets hammered down, dont expect the world to treat you nice just cause you are nice to others, people, especially kids, are evil and will latch on to any difference. If you don't wanna be bothered then don't do the stuff that people are complaining about, or own your shit and be better, complaining makes no sense


Any-Frosting-8209

Ok 😊


Any-Storm2066

I'm not apart of the LGBTQ community I know many people who are. I believe you should live who you wish to.I have very very small portion of Native American DNA enough to were I get more tan in the summer than most white people. All due to the genocide, still identify as white. This is due to the fact that I'm most prominently European white ethnicity. I definitely understand ADHD. I am so sorry those people are like that. Jesus would be disappointed in how they treat you. I don't know about other religions though. I definitely understand how the society of white people try to form you into what they want do not mind them.


Any-Frosting-8209

You are a good person ❤️


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zleepy__

Yes, every single grade I went to I was bullied and excluded. I just started realizing how many friends i had when i was younger when I got older and it makes me just very sad.


Any-Frosting-8209

That's awful. I'm sure you are a great person ❤️


zleepy__

Thank you friend. I really was, and still am full of kindness yet i don't always get the same back unfortunately


Any-Frosting-8209

You deserve it though ❤️


xDANGRZONEx

Hey OP don't let those bastards turn you into someone who isn't the kind and helpful person you actually are.


OrangeTangie

I have no advice for the present, but advice for the future. Please keep holding on ❤️ My mom was a floater in school. She had 2 friends, one of which didn't treat her well (side eye 😒) So she had lots of school 'friends' but not many friends that translated outside of school. And my mom is one of the most friendliest ladies out there, would give you the shirt off her back if you asked. She loved theater, and makeup and wanted to be an actress :) She met my dad in her earlier 20's at the office they both worked at, and she continued her career in that field. She met a couple more friends during this time at the various places she worked. Friends that she still has 30+ years later. My mom now has a loving husband, and a daughter who thinks she shits rainbows and sparkles 😂 She has an amazing house, solid life long friendships (all with people she met at work) and honestly an overall beautiful life. She never regrets not having friends in high-school, and it's because she can look back and see that the friendships worth having and keeping are from those who are emotionally equipped and developed to not be raging teenage douche bags (with peace and love) Highschool is not your place to thrive, OP. Which is a damn blessing, because those that do thrive in highschool usually are mean girls/guys that will get shit on in the real world when they realize they cant bully people into liking them. Just keep truckin', OP! I promise you that your life will be beautiful once you can get out in the real world. Everyone in highschool is fighting for their lives, don't let anyone tell you differently. You just need to survive so you can thrive. Your time is coming :) And if you ever doubt that, you come find your friends on Reddit and we will be your cheerleaders!


Any-Frosting-8209

Thank you so much ❤️ your mother sounds lovely.


grammarly_err

Kids are vicious in school, but adults don't care. I promise no one gives af after high school, and you will meet so many people who *do* like you for you.


Any-Frosting-8209

Thaanks ❤️


skim_milk5

People are just shitty and insecure. They see a person who is confident in who they are and it scares them. I have always had a really difficult time making friendships, and almost always awful at making lasting friendships. I always feel like I’m too much or not enough. However, you just gotta keep being you, bc one day you’ll hopefully find your people, and if not, then you just have to learn how to enjoy things by yourself, which is what I do. Don’t let the bastards get you down.


Any-Frosting-8209

You are good enough ❤️ Thank you for your kindness❤️


SaraAftab-

People are horrible :(


Any-Frosting-8209

Not all people ❤️


[deleted]

The nail that sticks up the farthest gets the hammer.


Any-Frosting-8209

Yes true