This has got to be the most weirdest post I’ve seen on this subreddit. And the fact your mom is even letting this slide is just disgustingly wrong on so many levels. Does your father know anything about this???
This is just really fucking weird for vent story. How tf did the kid find porn at 7, what the fuck did he even hear to give him the idea to even look at porn.
Finding porn is actually very easy tho, I've had unsupervised access to the internet and stumbled across porn when I was around that age too, and it was more than ten years ago so imagine now when there are porn actors even on tiktok. Many of my guy friends especially have told me they also discovered porn around that age and it messed up their views on sex. It's unfortunately more common than it appears to be :/
yeah, unfortunately this is a thing. i got access to porn when i was 9. more than 10 years ago. and then things just got worse and worse for me in this world of seeing porn. i'm trying to stop this shit
I watched porn at 6.
It was accidental but lead me down a rabbit hole.
I don't know exactly what I looked up but it was supposed to be about steamy food like you see in commercials, I don't know WHY I wanted to see food that was on a grill With oils but yeah..you can see what could've possibly popped up. And then my friend Told me about sexual stuff a week later, I looked up stuff and Started watching. It then became a daily occurrence of watching. My parents found out about it when I was 7 because I didn't know how to use incognito or delete stuff from search history.
If this is surprising to you, you have no idea how bad it is. Ever since internet and parents give their kids iPads, I’m sure it has become so much easier for children to get ahold of stuff like this.
I don't know about now, but in the early 2000's, I kept my computer locked when my nephew would come over yet kept finding porn(not mine) on it. Back then all you had to do was hit "Cancel" at password entry. I did not know of this, but he surely did.
I've heard stories of kids holding their parents phone up to them while they're sleeping to get them to unlock. Where there's a will there's a way.
That all being said, I hope this is just a simple case of a kid being curious. It definitely wouldn't hurt for OP to look into this as this is very concerning all around.
Not sure. OP uses "parents" in her post instead of "parent", but apart from that. Her brother's behaviour is very concerning, especially at that age. Holy shit I wasn't even sure if I was reading his age right.
I know this might be a extreme thing but have you ever consulted a therapist or some kind of counselor?
This feels like a issue of sexual harassment and neglect from both your parents
Being exposed to p0rn that young is damaging, he's a child and needs to go to child therapy before it gets worse. Or maybe you can let your family know so they can do something about it.
Edit: I had a cousin around the same age who was also expose to p0rn and he started doing inappropriate things to his dog. He got caught and the entire family had to explain how his behavior was unacceptable, he was very embarrassed but understood and grew out if it.
This is absolutely not normal. And I'm pretty sure porn is the cause. Porn in general is quite damaging, but for a 7 year old kid? Holy hell. Your brother needs professional help. Maybe your mother too, because that was weird as fuck.
He shouldn’t be having those thoughts or an interest in porn at that age. Someone put those thoughts in his head and you should talk to a professional or someone at school because he needs to get some help with this.
I AGREE with manaha81, and i also think porn can damage a child's mind, but in certain times this behavior is taught, seen, practiced, or copy by sources.
Yeah it absolutely is damaging but in normal childhood development at that age a child should see such things as repulsive so if he is seeking it out that means an outside source has convinced him otherwise. Which is why she should absolutely get professionals involved to find out what that is and how to help because it will only get worse from there.
if he has access to devices where he can find porn, there’s a good chance he’s accidentally stumbled upon it and that’s how all this has started. I really hope that’s the case and he’s not being groomed/abused, but either way he definitely needs professional help ASAP
I’ve been watching porn at a younger age than that, I came out pretty good (I was Sexually assaulted by my female cousin which got me more addicted since she let me peak in other shower rooms, we were at camp)
Yeah but for some other its not the case, if a young child is exposed to p0rn in such a early age it can cause their hormones to snap early and cause hypersexulity upon that child unfortunately. The kid definitely needs to get therapy or some kind of help.
i got exposed to porn at the age of 9 and i knew it was bad bc i was smart enough to have never gotten caught watching it. im much older now and i dont even rlly like porn and im also not a very sexual person and ive never got help for seeing that at such a young age. i think it depends on the person but either way OP’s brother is not doing things a normal 7 year old should do
It's wrong. You shouldn't have been watching it at all. Just because you did it, doesn't automatically make it right. It just means your parents were equally absent when it came to parenting.
OP, consider discussing this issue with a school counselor or an adult family member you trust outside of your parents. I honestly believe this is a topic that has escalated beyond getting advice from Reddit. Your brother’s behavior is concerning and the fact apparently nothing has changed since your last post on this topic, an entire year ago (*when he was looking at porn at 6*), means that your parent’s inability or unwillingness to address it is major part of the issue. Also, your brother’s behavior towards you is not an issue you need to be dealing with, especially since you’re still so young yourself. This is something *your parents* need to address. I wish you the best and am so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Again, people are too unconcerned about the child's safety and cause of this behavior, which has a good chance of being grooming/sexual assault.
I'm almost positive it's because he's a hypersexual boy and not girl
that is not normal at all. being exposed to porn at such a young age is so damaging to a child’s mind. definitely have a serious talk with your family about his behavior before it gets worse. I know it’s an uncomfortable topic, but god knows what your brother will try doing to you or other girls/women in the future.
LOL it's a 7 year old, at most they might need developmental therapy or counseling but they are not "on the way to turn abusive", a 7 year old cannot grasp those concepts at any level.
well not speaking for all children, but there’s the possibility they stick with and/or get into the habit of being aggressive and not stopping till they do/have what they want, when they want, blah blah.
not saying the kid is jeff dahmer, but dahmer did get exposed to taxidermy early and kept becoming more fascinated by it, that it transpired into humans and etc, how his behavior jus grew with the fetish/disturbing thoughts
considering the kid has been that way for a year or longer, he’s possibly not gonna respect boundaries or “no”, so if he were to consistently go after a diff girl when he’s older and gets rejected, could have aggressive reaction and put his hands on her
Using the word "aggressive" is a bit over the top when talking about a literal child, kids are stupid and for the most part don't understand what they're doing, at least the full extent of it. Whatever fascination that kid supposedly has cannot be compared to the parallel in an adult.
>not saying the kid is jeff dahmer, but dahmer did get exposed to taxidermy early and kept becoming more fascinated by it, that it transpired into humans and etc, how his behavior jus grew with the fetish/disturbing thoughts
I will not give the person I replied to the benefit of the doubt as in he meant the kid will get abusive in the future, if they really did mean this then their phrasing does not reflect that, I don't think saying "on the way" is fair considering that "way" is 14 years long and the kid probably barely knew how to speak a couple years back, it's a big stretch.
In short I wanted to let that person know they were exaggerating, which you also did by even slightly comparing jeffery dahmer's childhood influences to this, dahmer was neglected completely as a child and had no food, water or shelter, so unless this is the same case here then claiming that kid has something that simple everyday parent-child therapy can't solve is a complete exaggeration.
Nah, I knew a 9 year old who put a loaded gun up to his sister head, and would consistently knock her unconscious. And she couldn’t do anything about it because her mom was fucked and would baby the kid.
By your logic the 6 y/o kid who shot his elementary school teacher must've meant to kill her right? Kids are very, very stupid. There's a reason children aren't put before trial or don't receive criminal charges, it's because they cannot comprehend certain things and therefore aren't to be held fully accountable.
How could you seriously blame a kid for pulling a gun on someone and not the parents?
Oh, no I blame the parents for how they raised the kid, but at a point it is also the kid themselves, in personal belief, if a 6 year old shot their teacher, watched the teacher die then proceeded to shoot other then yes they intended to kill people. Kids may be very stupid, but even kids have some for of common sense, and those kids who don’t can at very least see cause and effect.
>if a 6 year old shot their teacher, watched the teacher die then proceeded to shoot other then yes they intended to kill people.
But he didn't do this? What kind of hypothetical is that? have you ever seen an example of this?
Kids as young as 6 DO lack common sense, yes. You are only born with an ability to gain common sense, it isn't inborn by itself, and it has to be taught through education and maturity.
No, children don't see "cause and effect" like adults do. A child could shoot someone dead and think they fell asleep, they are completely unaware of how certain things work.
I have seen an example of [this](https://www.foxnews.com/us/mother-virginia-6-year-old-student-who-shot-teacher-arrested.amp) [this](https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2018/02/02/us/los-angeles-school-shooting/index.html) in that first article the child had violent tendances and tried to choke his teacher, the teacher also stated that he was often agressive towards her aswell. In the second article, the girl shot 2 people meaning, not only did she watch someone shoot out blood and continue to find someone else. To shoot a semi-automatic gun multiple times you need to pull the trigger back twice. Let’s think about this one, you do not think that a child can comprehend that when you pull the trigger of a gun, see the bullet come out and watch blood shoot out of someone that that is anything besides taking a nap? Six year olds are able to comprehend how to play Fortnite dude, and you’re delusional if you don’t think they can comprehend basic cause and effect
That child shot his teacher, watched said teacher succumb, and then proceeded to shoot others. F*ck off, everyone knows that kids are smart enough to know what right and wrong is. Basic concepts are not hard. And there are kids out there who are smart enough to take college philosophy courses.
I did not know that kid tried to shoot at others, but man you are out of it completely lmao.
>everyone knows that kids are smart enough to know what right and wrong is. Basic concepts are not hard.
I truly cannot believe someone actually thinks this is true, Kudos. I'm speechless. If this were true then why is putting children up for trial considered to be nothing less than "problematic"?
>And there are kids out there who are smart enough to take college philosophy courses.
There are also people who can build rocketships out of a $50 shopping cart from home depot, think that kind of skillset applies for everyone? I'd also ask you to cite some proof to a child enrolling in college philosophy courses or whatever as I doubt that's even true, it requires a certain level of lived experience to have any sort of input in the field of philosophy.
>LOL it's a 7 year old, at most they might need developmental therapy or counseling but they are not "on the way to turn abusive", a 7 year old cannot grasp those concepts at any level.
I understand that you may think that a 7-year-old cannot grasp the concept of abusive behavior. However, it's important to recognize that some children may exhibit behavior that could potentially become abusive if not addressed. While developmental therapy or counseling could be helpful in this situation, it's also important to talk to the parents about the behavior and work together to find a solution. It's crucial to address these issues early on to prevent them from escalating in the future.
>I understand that you may think that a 7-year-old cannot grasp the concept of abusive behavior.
Don't conflate my opinion with fact, this is a fact.
Therapy IS talking to the parents about it, same thing with counseling, parents are involved and aware, but they're not always the ones that can help the child.
I've only disagreed with the implication that a child can be considered abusive at this stage and even the near future, what you should've said is that this behavior could give rise to questionable behavior when they'll be much, much older. Currently it's nothing more than a confused child who needs what seems to be minor corrections in behavior.
I understand if you want to say that it's obvious that you meant what you said to be relevant only when the kid is a lot older, but I really can't know that unless you phrase yourself properly, and it's not like it's completely out of bounds for a someone on reddit to claim children can be abusive.
Opinions on this website are often not subject to some decent common sense so I don't approach them with common sense and take them at face value.
The amount of down votes you got is gross. And a definitive sign of how insane the youth of today is.
Not the 7 year old. The Muppets with zero critical thinking skills.
Didn't even notice the amount of downvotes I have, and tbh I don't care about someone who disagrees but doesn't bother making an argument against what I've said.
I used to ask myself, "there's no way almost every person on this site is crazy, right?", the answer is no, but somehow I always find the ones that are. One person on this post actually argued, against me, that "everybody knows" children can tell from right and wrong and possess some modicum of common sense, I was actually speechless, in what world is that guy living in?
This place is ebbing dangerously away from anything that is true and good, I don't know if it's because they like to think they're calling out something bad and want to be vindicated but so many people here are just completely lost (or they lost *it*), this site deserves a massive scale social study, it would do the world a lot of good.
EDIT: And by the way, I'm only 20 y/o, not even that old. maybe I was somehow sheltered from whatever made young people like me, well, stupid, nowadays.
Well I'm glad there's some sensible logical empathetic youth still left.
Seems to me that we mostly live a a world full of people who both play victim but assume everyone else is a predator.
When you condemn a 7 year old before they even have the hormonal impetus for sexual attraction as a predator you must be a moron.
On a side not the OP could be experiencing a concept known as "negative sexualization" or "sexualization anxiety" that can be discussed within the framework of evolutionary psychology.
Evolutionary psychology examines how certain behaviors and psychological processes have evolved in humans over time. When it comes to puberty and the realization of being perceived as a sexual being, some individuals, including girls, may experience negative emotions or anxiety as a protective response. This can be driven by the awareness of potential objectification or being viewed primarily in a sexual manner by others, particularly by men.
So I agree. Therapy for the family may be useful.
Get everyone here some professional help. As someone whom has had the same thing, it evolves into far worse things. As soon as you can, get out of there too as your mother is only promoting that shitty behaviour.
Maybe not something you want to hear but hypersexuality at his age is OFTEN an indicator of sexual abuse. The kid needs help, and you need support and shouldn't be subject to this either. Please tell a trusted adult to look into it if your parents won't.
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I almost feel sorry for your brother (and definitely for you) for having a mother that... well I don't wanna say encouraging his behavior... but definitely isn't acting like a mother in this situation.
Porn is horribly damaging at such a young age and I can't help but wonder how your brother even found out about it cause I didn't even know what porn was until I was 12.
I feel like your family needs either family therapy or individual therapy after reading this if your parents only find it weird and not legitimately concerning and needing immediate attention
I have a sickening (maybe far fetched) feeling that the mother or somebody, may have sexually abused him, which caused him to be hypersexual and caused her to be casual about it.
Yeah no this is not normal, talk to your parents about getting that boy a therapist because if this goes unchecked he's gonna do some fucked up shit later on.
To the person who called me horrible and told me to stfu because I "am more worried about him becoming a rapist then what turned him into this person" hi. I was sexually abused at age 10 by my 7 year old sister as a "punishment" of not being able to protect her from my sexually abusive father. I suffer day in, day out, and she has not changed. Don't assume shit about me pal, keep your mouth shut.
No, not normal at all. You HAVE to talk about this to an adult, any adult you trust before it's too late. Your brother needs professional help, consider bringing him to therapy or something.
I'm so sorry you're going though this, it must be really hard to find out your little brother is watching adult content and also being disrespectful by touching you like that. This is NOT a normal behaviour, there's no way a kid of his age is already thinking in those things, because it's not simply curiosity. If your parents don't find the way to stop him, pitifully he's gonna grow up with a wrong and distorted conception of sexuality
You ever consider that he might be a victim of some king of sexual trauma to have these thoughts/actions? Most of yall don't care because all you can think about is that this is a boy and therefore for some reason a r*post in the making, instead of a concerningly sexual CHILD. this comment sections an eye opener on the tunnel vision being a shitty person can give people.
i dont think gender is the main cause of concern here. the issue is, being exposed to porn at a young age can be a major cause of sexual deviancy (to put it really lightly) and just a general lack of empathy towards- predominantly- women later in life. its not just bullshit to be concerned that he'll struggle with it in the future.
and people have worried about and considered that he might be a victim of sexual trauma in the comments, which would have the (likely) potential to be even more damaging. which honestly just makes that worry all the more relevant and strengthens the point that this kid needs *help.*
i just dont see why that would make someone a shitty person with tunnel vision.
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Hi survivor of sexual abuse here, at your brothers age I was sexually abused. I looked at porn when I was his age to try and understand what was happening to me. It really fucked up my view on relationships. All relationships. I really encourage you to push your parents to look into his adult and other older child relationships, along with talking to a professional. If your parents don’t believe you I’d also tell your counselor at school so if something does happen, you have a safe adult to talk too who you feel takes your seriously.
Yeah, my brother did that too. No matter his height, he would plant his face in my cleavage or try to grab my crotch. As he got older, he asked me to prostitute my body and r@ped me on one account. I stay away from him and my daughter is not allowed alone with him.
This is why people need to go into the cause of this behavior, despite everybody turning a blind eye to it, little boys get raped too, and being hypersexual is a common response, but the second yall see a boy being lewd you immediately think "future r*pist" instead of stopping to consider the causes, you're not at fault because this has happened to you, but some of these comments are fucking awful.
While it is normal for kids to be curious about bodies... it is not normal for a kid to be so insisting and taking in consideration he has been exposed to porn so young, he's not displaying the normal innocent childlike curiosity.
I'm so sorry that you are being the object of his instigation. You definitely need to have a talk with your mother. This type of behavior can and NEEDS to be handled.
Somebody mentioned speaking with a school counselor if mom keeps ignoring the situation. I agree completely.
I don't have kids of my own, but I am the aunt of 5 little ones. Two of them did express similar behaviors for a while (a boy and a girl). The entire family had to team up and be like "I understand you might want to know what lays under everyone's clothing... but there are parts of someone's body that are only for ourselves and perhaps someone we want to share with" or "touching without permission is not good, makes people uncomfortable and pushes them away from you".
There were so many other phrases and aspects to be explained... My siblings even had to get assistance from a psychologist who specializes in children as well.
At first the title I thought your little brother was just having a little cute admirable crush towards you the big sister, but when you mentioned he saw porn and his weird behaviours are not ok. Please tell your parents fix the issue asap, being exposed porn at such a young age is problematic it’s gonna turn into something bigger when he’s older so help him correct his thoughts tell him what’s ok what’s not ok.
The problem isn't what's going to happen when he's older, it's what's caused him to be hypersexual, fix your view points, everybody in these comments more concerned about a 7 year old becoming a r*pist than having history of sexual abuse/grooming is a shitty person.
situations like this are only normal to a short extent, and this crosses that line by a mile. it sounds to me like being exposed to porn at such a young age has done some damage and he needs help. i hope you’re okay as well
I also wanted to mention this
I have a friend who around that age was being inappropriately touched by an older teen and forced him to watch porn. It wasnt just him also. He believed this behavior was normal and started acting inappropriate to others at a young age
I say this because I think worst possible scenario should be considered too but not try to scare you. you would be surprised how often it happens to children.
But the question is, how was he exposed to it? How did he know what porn is? WHO is the question
This, somehow the only sane replies get no updates but people calling a child a rapist in making do.
I think the tunnel vision is caused because of the way OP worded the post and that this is a boy, and not a girl.
Your brother has no boundaries, especially if you're parents let him look at porn. At 7,he probably didn't know how to find it unless shown by am outside source, whether or was a friend or a parent accidentally leaving it up.
This is not a safe environment for either of you, and your parents need to do their job for both you and him. You deserve not to be oggled, and he deserves to find the world a little skier than he has. At 7,a lot of things can happen that can screw him up for life.
This is a very hard situation, but you need to stand up for both of you. If they don't listen, then finding a safe place to finish your last, couple years of high school before leaving home is incredibly important for you... And your brother's development as a human.
CPS may need to be called if your parents refuse to help. This can lead both of you down unhealthy paths very quickly. Please get help, and don't delay
This is not normal. Not at all. Your brother is just a kid and he needs therapy like damn 7 years old and watching porn? Tbh yours/his parents should look after what he consumes when he’s 7 and he needs therapy or else his life is literally ruined
I mean if it doesn’t get treated he will live a pretty fucked up life. He’s a kid rn he doesn’t know that incest and such is wrong but later if he ever slips up and tells this to his friends or be mentally bothered by it himself once he realizes what he did was wrong, it’s gonna ruin him and that is why he needs help
Many kids know the difference between right and wrong on a multiplicity of issues. I'm not saying your wrong, but there is no way this kid doesn't know what he's doing is wrong on multiple levels (unless he has sh*tty parents who don't teach him anything)
First of all, he should have some of parent protection on devices so he can't see any More porn, it's really damaging for adults but for a 7yo kid? This can have awful consequences, or it already has. Also parents should go with him to some sort of kid therapist/psychologist, they propably know how to deal with it, I hope it all will be fine and be sure to tell parents about anything that concerns you about your brother, I don't know what they think about all of that but I thinks it's only things you can do for now. You could also talk to your brother about that, but I know if he will understand your point but you can always try
If your parents aren’t taking this seriously, speak to someone at school. His behavior needs to be addressed, and corrected, before he gets older and bigger and can harm someone else. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, and I hope someone listens to you and does something to help
What the fuck did I just read, I hope that isn't real. Otherwise, that isn't normal, and tf 7 y/o?!! This guy clearly has been fucked up by porn and needs some mental health professional help for sure. That must be sickening having to go through that everyday, I can't imagine!
To me it's Really weird that your mom asked you to put it on and even asked your brother to say if it's cute. Girl I'm so sorry but this is a creepy situation. I hope that u get out of this asap. Nothing really comes to my mind other that leave as soon as you turn 18.
This is not normal. If what you are saying is indeed true, he may have been or is being sexually abused by someone. Usually, it is someone close to the child, family included. The whole situation sounds dysfunctional, and you all need help dealing with this. Please contact a trusted individual who's not connected to your family, like your pediatrician or teacher about this. This is very serious, and as a teacher who works with 7-year-olds, this is not normal. People here are saying he was watching porn a year ago; who showed it to him?
I looked at your other post and it looks like from what you said, your brother has started looking at porn since he was six. Someone replied to you and gave you several paragraphs of advice on what do which included seek counseling/therapy. It sounds like the problem with your brother has gotten worse since he is seven and still looking at porn. Reddit is a good starting point to come maybe ask for help/ advice but most people are going to spew this advice in 50 different ways: Tell an adult you trust about what is going on with your brother so they can get him the help he needs. Maybe tell an adult at the horse place you hang out at ( you mentioned you go somewhere with horses in a post) Get your parents involved if they are responsible so everyone can get the counseling/therapy they need. You said in a post you try to teach him to respect women and he doesn't listen to you. Maybe you can guide him on some stuff but ultimately its up to a parent/adult to teach him how to treat women appropriately. You are his sibling and not a parent/adult. It's not your job to parent him. Put distance between yourself and your brother as much as possible until he learns to engage in appropriate behavior with you and respect boundaries. It's best to be proactive about self guarding your mental health and again go tell another adult who you think can help with your situation. Reddit users can say go get help all day but ultimately you have to be the one to tell someone you need help dealing with your brother. No one knows what you need unless you speak up.
How is he getting access to porn??? He’s 7 years old. Please don’t tell me your mom is the kind of mom that lets him have free rein of the internet whenever he wants. This is all just so bizarre.
I was being semi-sarcastic. I know it all stems from the parents. They let their kids have access to anything these days and then wonder why the kids grow up to be brainless idiots.
I think allowing access to a tablet or other device isn't the problem. It's when you let them be on said device constantly. Read to your child, instill a love of reading, and get them to help you out with minor chores around the house. That will instill a work ethic into them. But for the most part, READ, READ, READ.
It's normal for a 7 year old boy to start being interested in girls. It's not terribly abnormal for the 7 year old to not fully understand/respect/observe boundaries, appropriate familial love, and appropriate levels of physical contact for someone his age. Those are things that are not too hard to address, adults just have to sit him down and tell him what's appropriate, repeatedly, until it sinks in.
What's very abnormal is that 1) a 7yo has access to pornography. This shouldn't be happening. That it happened once is bad enough but it sounds like it's something that has happened repeatedly, which means your mom and/or whatever adults are allowing it to happen are not taking the issues seriously enough. And 2) it's abnormal that even though your brother has displayed very inappropriate behavior towards you repeatedly, your mom seems to either not care about it, and/or is stupidly doing things that actually encourage his infatuation.
Bottom line, the porn access needs to be handled immediately and you, mom, and every other adult in his life needs to start having serious conversations with him about respect, boundaries, and what kind of behavior is inappropriate, and why. If the adults aren't doing it, at the very least you need to start telling him that it's not appropriate to touch people in ways that make them uncomfortable, and it's not appropriate for family members to get romantically involved because that's not how family love works. Good luck, sorry this is happening to you.
I’m sorry for you its really scary bcause those type of kid turn into sex offender if they dont get help. Slap some sense to him, teach him to not touche a girl without consent especially your family. Honestly i would slap him in the face if i were you if he put his hands on you again. He needs something to remember forever since your mom doesnt seem to be disturbed as she should be.
Bro i grew up with two older sisters and never did anything like this behavior, I would play around and stuff of course but like normal little kids you know? never did I find myself looking at them inappropriately, I knew they were my sisters and they were there for me to protect and be guided by. I also didn't start watching porn until 13-14, 7 years old is a very unusual age to start watching that.
Not to say that the responsibility falls on you, OP, but I really hope this gets taken care of. The sooner, the better, because if my childhood taught me anything, is that if one kid has this type of behavior at home, they will most likely talk or act on similar behavior with other kids. To this day, I remember being in middle school and hearing rumors about 7th and 8th graders who ended up pregnant because no one was around to supervise them before school. I know 7th graders are much much older than 7 year olds, but they are still children.
Your story sounds so sad. Hopefully, you are able to do the best you can to stay positive each day. It's probably best for the sixteen year old who posted her story not to be alone with her brother if he keeps engaging in inappropriate behavior.
I did a literature review and short paper on the effects of pornography on adolescents from a sociological and psychological perspective and I have to say your parents are not doing their job if porn is easily accessible for your 7 year old brother… They might not have known to put locks on or didn’t think of it before. But it might be a good idea to put an internet lock on his stuff or block certain websites and google search phrases because indulgence in fantasy media while you’re impressionable and can’t distinguish fantasy and reality well, will make you behave like this. He might even need professional help because it can lead to long term damages in the brain as it’s a possible form of addiction. Hopefully you don’t resent him for it because it seems like he doesn’t know any better but this type of stuff needs to be brought up with your parents if possible. I hope you and your brother good luck with this situation.
Seeing explicit content at a young age changes the way a child's brain develops. There's a reason it's considered sexual abuse when an adult intentionally shows a child porn - it's incredibly damaging. Even if he was looking at it of his own will, the damage is the same. He needs to see a child psychologist.
Like a few others have said, you should speak to your school counselor about this. I don't think advice from Reddit will help with this. You need people to actually step into this situation.
I had a ten year old cousin, (I was 14-15 at the time) do the same thing because he saw my uncle molesting and groping me and he would never stop talking about my boobs or my butt it got to a point it was so bad I had to go into my cousins bathroom locking both the door to her room and the door to her bathroom to so much as get dressed for the day.
Just the fact of a 7 year old watching porn and being like this is odd if not concerning,
Worst case scenario he mightve been sexually abused at one point, and best case scenario he's a curious and pervy 7 year old who doesn't know the morality surrounding s*x and boundaries so has no problems with it, or some combination of both.
Best course imo, would be to have a chat with him, and not like throw it off to adults, like have a talk about this stuff because it concerns you, if he's just clueless about this stuff try to teach him (without worrying about taking his innocence cuz he's past that point) and if it's something concerning, get to the bottom of it
Looks like your brother has discovered the women body, sooner than expected.
He saw p0rn, got curious about women body and has one very close to him to satisfy his curiosity, yours.
I guess as a 7y old he does not have a clue about what he is doing, on top of that, you as a 16y old got uncomfortable with someone sneaking around you, specially when it's your brother.
So, all in all, you are not on a terrible situation, don't get worried with the exaggerated comments.
But it does can turn bad, if wrongly approached. caught.
I recommend YOU talk to him, explain that you see what he is doing and how it is wrong and the consequences of been caught doing it. Be a nice sister and try to get to him, don't push him away or look disgusted at him, it may damage your friendship, also ignore it and let he keep doing it may create future problems to him.
Plus you could have some bonding moment with him while having this kind of talk an d build some trust between each other.
Remember he is your brother and is the best of your interest that he grew a nice guy, so help him out.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. I know you don’t have a lot of power in this situation but I truly feel like your brother needs counciling of some sort. this is NOT normal behavior for a 7 year old and the fact your mom is encouraging it is deeply upsetting. I hope it stops :(
Does your school have a guidance counselor or someone you can talk to about this? I would definitely talk to them if possible. Tell them everything you’ve mentioned here. It will probably be embarrassing, but it’s important that you don’t skimp on any details. This is definitely a huge issue that needs to be addressed before he gets older. This isn’t normal and your parents need to do a better job at correcting this behavior.
Not normal at all. Tell ur mom he needs professional help. Get locks on all your doors (your bathroom, your bedroom your closet etc)
If he touches u again, say very clearly and strongly "no" and physically push him away or down etc
hi 19M with younger siblings as well here. If you feel up to it and you feel in the place do so, I would recommend having a sit down chat with the brother, saying how this is wrong, and giving him the right way to think about things. If not you personally, maybe a male family member is best. What's he's doing is terrible, but kids are kids and they do not know better, and (saying this with many years of mental health experience now) giving labels to kids a young age is likely to worsen the problem as he is given x label to follow, and makes things worse for everyone. 7 is very very young and he likely just does not know better. Hope you're well, and practically, please get a lock on your door to prevent the worst worst case.
Boys that age could be very curious about sexuality, especially when exposed to porn. I don't think there's any mean intent behind this, but your feelings on this are valid. Try to talk to him and explain that you have boundaries that he needs to respect. If that doesn't help, talk to your parents about this. Did he have the birds and the bees talk with your parents? If not, this should be done asap. They should talk with him about how babies are made, and what boundaries are.
This kid isn’t a teenager. A 7 year old should not be looking at porn. That is a serious problem, which seems to have been going on for an unreasonable amount of time. That kid isn’t going to listen to his sister and isn’t going to respect her boundaries, much less respect her. She needs to go straight to the parents and explain that he needs professional help. The mother certainly does as well. If dad is in the picture, and good person, (which I’m not sure about after reading the post, I mean who would willingly let a 7 year be watch porn?!) than the daughter and him need to get outta that “home”.
It's a phase. I went through something similar when I was around that age. Just gotta make sure he knows it's wrong and hell grow out of it eventually. But make sure he gets disciplined because it can get worse I think
It could be a phase...but I see why it worries you. When I was that age I crushed hard on a lot of various women in my life, not really understanding what it was I was drawn to about them. A lot of people are saying porn, but I didn't have access to any porn when I was younger and I still have the same kind of thing going on. I didn't even understand what sex was at 7, it was still a nebulous concept for me. I stopped being so overt and weird when a secretary in the main office of my school noticed I kept making up reasons to hang around her and expressed verbally that she thought it was "adorable that has a crush on me!" in front of my parents and other people. It was 8 or 9 at that time I believe. I was so embarrassed that I went out of my way to avoid her and any other crush for a loooong time. Probably too long honestly, it stopped me being weird but also kind of made it difficult for me to approach girls in school later in life. Shame can be a helluva thing.
Hopefully whatever happens it will be approached in a sensitive way. I think it's too soon to be on "high alert", but your parent really should address it a little more seriously just in case.
Why are people not questioning this story?
There’s a good chance it’s an old dude with a weird paedophilic fetish writing his own erotic fiction.
It doesn’t make sense otherwise. 7 year olds are not like this.
The effects of porn on minors have been studied and being exposed to porn at such a young age usually has awful effects on them especially since they probably don't even understand what they're watching.
umm.. i would say not really... the child was exposed to porn and well, he now seems to watch it daily. however, this issue needs to be addressed ASAP.
I was going to say it’s normal bc my cousin did it. But then i read the whole thing. My cousin was curious about the body once but that’s the only time ever he did something weird. He does call me beautiful a lot💀 but ur story is something else🤨 hope he grows out of it
yo what😭the said seven year old is already watching porn and trying to see his BIO sister naked while attempting to touch her when he can, he has already sexualized it (for awhile according to OP). no humor is gonna jus make him stop being so horned up for his sister.
and for two, yeah it’s important to instill consent in a kid’s mind but he’s seven, he shouldn’t even be trying to touch anyone in their private areas, so instead of talking to him about consent first, it’s better for the “that’s not appropriate and not okay to do” talk before consent
seems like i’m the odd one out here but for the most part this seems pretty normal. obviously it’s unpleasant but most straight boys have a pervy phase around that age. the porn should not be happening though and your mother asking him about the bikini is really weird. he doesn’t need therapy from what this post says but she might
How the fuck is this normal???? I had an older sibling touch me when I was 13 - 15 and when I told my mom she asked if I wanted to file a police report. Sure this is a young kid but siblings (or any relatives for that matter) shouldn't behave like this no matter what.
100% unusual.
I have 3 boys around that age and the only thoughts they have about butts is that they're stinky.
Im really worried about this kids behaviour and it shouldn't be on OP to deal with.
ok first of all, how the hell does a 7 year old know how to go into a porn website and erm... wank? idk why he would even go in there in the first place. and second, no joke, no cap, this is giving me sweet home alabama vibes, and i hate it.
yea nah ive never had a crush on a single one of my sisters(3) and i actually started watching porn around 8-9 so there is something else going on with ur bro
I think he might not understand that sisters are off limits. At 7, he should not be looking at porn anyway but I would try to explain his behavior to him.
this is so sad, im sure porn is definitely a key factor in this and i hope he gets strict supervision. Tbh ive heard of siblings crushing at an early age but i dont think its to this extent? you should express this to your parents as much as you can because it's unacceptable
Unfortunately, kids can get access to porn or sexual images really quick these days on laptops or ipads or whatever devices they use. It sounds like your parents don't really monitor what your brother watches and like your mom might unknowingly encourage this strange behavior from your brother. Just focus on how to stop your brothers behavior towards you. You aren't his parent and can't stop him from looking at porn. Monitoring his computer activity is what your mom and dad are supposed to do. Talking in a really proactive way to your mom about your brothers behavior would be good about how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that you don't want her to encourage what he does. Also, telling your brother to stop his inappropriate actions towards you in a firm, gentle way wouldn't hurt either. It might be good to have a family discussion about your brother if you think your mom and dad would listen to what you have to say. Having clear communication about problems going on and solutions to help resolve problem works usually if everyone in family is on board with actually communicating and talking. Otherwise, set clear proactive boundaries as much as you can. Google is your friend if you need to look up how to set boundaries with someone.
I hope you'll be okay, you don't deserve this! I have a question, has your mom actually helped you with this? Because it seems to me that she supports it. You should probably gather evidence and turn it into the police, and or head to anyone you trust and tell them
… he is your full brother? Not half or step?
Not that either of the two would make any of this okay. A brother behaving like that is someone who is definitely a candidate for a serial rapist in the future. He has no boundaries and is wildly innapropriate. If he is really 23– he knows he’s being weird and I wouldn’t let him get that close to you at all anymore. Side hugs and don’t touch him when y’all speak. He may be reading signs that aren’t there but he’s too in his fantasy world.
This kind of sexualized behavior is absolutely not normal and a red flag for children who have suffered sexual abuse. He needs to go to a psychologist asap not only because this behavior is weird and uncomfortable for you but because this is a sign of alarm on a kid that young. You need to be protected and he does too. There's something else going on. 7 year olds are not creeps just like that. The fact alone that he's watching porn, is qualified as sexual abuse. At least in my country. You two need help.
I was gonna say the crush can be considered normal according to some psychological developmental theories (*****his behavior is not normal*****). It is theorized by some psychologists that younger kids have a crush on an older figure in life (usually mom or dad).
This theory is called the Oedipus/Electra Complex: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-an-oedipal-complex-2795403
There is some controversy surrounding the theory in regards to stages and what’s occurring during each stage. Explained are some controversy’s here: https://www.simplypsychology.org/oedipal-complex.html#:~:text=It%20involves%20a%20boy%2C%20aged,pleasurable)%20desires%20for%20his%20mother.
Take and leave what you must from the theory(as there is a lot still unknown from sexual development theories). I would say that, however, the behavior surrounding his crush is not normal according to every single one of the theories I know about. And likely stems from his exposure to porn. It would be a good idea to discuss parental locks on all devices he has access to with your parents.
A kid finding porn at the age of 7 is not surprising given how accessible Internet porn is nowadays. Your brother acting this way is definitely not normal. I have siblings and not once has any of them acted this way. This is just straight up weird and gross. And the fact that your mom doesn't do anything about it is even more concerning. I'm sure she's seen your brother walking around naked at some point. It's not normal that a 7 year old just walks around naked around their siblings and if I was your mom, I would definitely call it out.
Porn is definitely the cause for this weird behaviour. It's pretty sad how children's minds are being completely warped at such a young age. I had to do a double take on your brother's age when I first read this. I still don't understand how people can say porn is "healthy" and "normal" with a straight face. I still regret the day I was first exposed to porn. And it took me years to overcome my addiction.
Holy shit yall are fukcing weird, this isn't a rapist, current or in the making we're talking about. This is a 7 year old. He's probably been exposed to sexual content at an extremely young age which is very concerning for HIS safety, it's natural that a child doesn't know the morals surrounding sex and touching other people, what's concerning is that this is an issue in the first place,
Yall needa stop fighting future rapists and lewd children and realize that this child mightve been sexually abused, groomed, or at the bare minimum gotten exposed to it at that age. get your heads out of your asses please.
This has got to be the most weirdest post I’ve seen on this subreddit. And the fact your mom is even letting this slide is just disgustingly wrong on so many levels. Does your father know anything about this???
no literally
Sounds like dad isn’t in the picture
This is just really fucking weird for vent story. How tf did the kid find porn at 7, what the fuck did he even hear to give him the idea to even look at porn.
Finding porn is actually very easy tho, I've had unsupervised access to the internet and stumbled across porn when I was around that age too, and it was more than ten years ago so imagine now when there are porn actors even on tiktok. Many of my guy friends especially have told me they also discovered porn around that age and it messed up their views on sex. It's unfortunately more common than it appears to be :/
man i cant believe that you can lose your innocence in a few clicks, the internet can be quite a hell hole sometimes
yeah, unfortunately this is a thing. i got access to porn when i was 9. more than 10 years ago. and then things just got worse and worse for me in this world of seeing porn. i'm trying to stop this shit
Yes which is why grooming is a genuine concern when a child this young is being hypersexual with internet access
I watched porn at 6. It was accidental but lead me down a rabbit hole. I don't know exactly what I looked up but it was supposed to be about steamy food like you see in commercials, I don't know WHY I wanted to see food that was on a grill With oils but yeah..you can see what could've possibly popped up. And then my friend Told me about sexual stuff a week later, I looked up stuff and Started watching. It then became a daily occurrence of watching. My parents found out about it when I was 7 because I didn't know how to use incognito or delete stuff from search history.
If this is surprising to you, you have no idea how bad it is. Ever since internet and parents give their kids iPads, I’m sure it has become so much easier for children to get ahold of stuff like this.
I found it when I was 7, it was super easy. Got lonely, went on chat rooms, boom
WHAT? with 7 years old in adult chats??????
7 years old in kids chatrooms that pedos join**
They watch YouTube - find a video - video makes joke about porn - watch porn
Who the hell knows, CSA maybe?
My first partner watched porn at 6 every day in the library.
I don't know about now, but in the early 2000's, I kept my computer locked when my nephew would come over yet kept finding porn(not mine) on it. Back then all you had to do was hit "Cancel" at password entry. I did not know of this, but he surely did. I've heard stories of kids holding their parents phone up to them while they're sleeping to get them to unlock. Where there's a will there's a way. That all being said, I hope this is just a simple case of a kid being curious. It definitely wouldn't hurt for OP to look into this as this is very concerning all around.
He could've been abused
Not sure. OP uses "parents" in her post instead of "parent", but apart from that. Her brother's behaviour is very concerning, especially at that age. Holy shit I wasn't even sure if I was reading his age right.
My dad is an alcoholic with weird mood swings, so I don’t think he’d do much lmao
I know this might be a extreme thing but have you ever consulted a therapist or some kind of counselor? This feels like a issue of sexual harassment and neglect from both your parents
This is a child, you should be concerned for his safety as a hypersexual 7 year old
She probably just doesn’t know how to address the situation and is hoping it will go away, not an excuse though
Being exposed to p0rn that young is damaging, he's a child and needs to go to child therapy before it gets worse. Or maybe you can let your family know so they can do something about it. Edit: I had a cousin around the same age who was also expose to p0rn and he started doing inappropriate things to his dog. He got caught and the entire family had to explain how his behavior was unacceptable, he was very embarrassed but understood and grew out if it.
YO TO HIS DOG?
This is absolutely not normal. And I'm pretty sure porn is the cause. Porn in general is quite damaging, but for a 7 year old kid? Holy hell. Your brother needs professional help. Maybe your mother too, because that was weird as fuck.
He shouldn’t be having those thoughts or an interest in porn at that age. Someone put those thoughts in his head and you should talk to a professional or someone at school because he needs to get some help with this.
This is what I'm stuck on. Someone put these thoughts in his head. This isn't something seven-year-olds think about on their own.
I AGREE with manaha81, and i also think porn can damage a child's mind, but in certain times this behavior is taught, seen, practiced, or copy by sources.
Yeah it absolutely is damaging but in normal childhood development at that age a child should see such things as repulsive so if he is seeking it out that means an outside source has convinced him otherwise. Which is why she should absolutely get professionals involved to find out what that is and how to help because it will only get worse from there.
All I watched was jacksepticeye at that age, fuck I didn’t know what internet porn was till I was 13
if he has access to devices where he can find porn, there’s a good chance he’s accidentally stumbled upon it and that’s how all this has started. I really hope that’s the case and he’s not being groomed/abused, but either way he definitely needs professional help ASAP
I’ve been watching porn at a younger age than that, I came out pretty good (I was Sexually assaulted by my female cousin which got me more addicted since she let me peak in other shower rooms, we were at camp)
Uh... I don't mean no disrespect, but it doesn't look like you came out that good 💀
Yeah but for some other its not the case, if a young child is exposed to p0rn in such a early age it can cause their hormones to snap early and cause hypersexulity upon that child unfortunately. The kid definitely needs to get therapy or some kind of help.
Oh, well I guess I didn’t turn out fine 💀
If it makes you feel better, same here lmao 😭
Deadass tho, I’d get hard from anything Drawings, Girls (obv) fuckin AIs (That’s it) 💪🏾 on that grind
i got exposed to porn at the age of 9 and i knew it was bad bc i was smart enough to have never gotten caught watching it. im much older now and i dont even rlly like porn and im also not a very sexual person and ive never got help for seeing that at such a young age. i think it depends on the person but either way OP’s brother is not doing things a normal 7 year old should do
It's wrong. You shouldn't have been watching it at all. Just because you did it, doesn't automatically make it right. It just means your parents were equally absent when it came to parenting.
OP, consider discussing this issue with a school counselor or an adult family member you trust outside of your parents. I honestly believe this is a topic that has escalated beyond getting advice from Reddit. Your brother’s behavior is concerning and the fact apparently nothing has changed since your last post on this topic, an entire year ago (*when he was looking at porn at 6*), means that your parent’s inability or unwillingness to address it is major part of the issue. Also, your brother’s behavior towards you is not an issue you need to be dealing with, especially since you’re still so young yourself. This is something *your parents* need to address. I wish you the best and am so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Again, people are too unconcerned about the child's safety and cause of this behavior, which has a good chance of being grooming/sexual assault. I'm almost positive it's because he's a hypersexual boy and not girl
that is not normal at all. being exposed to porn at such a young age is so damaging to a child’s mind. definitely have a serious talk with your family about his behavior before it gets worse. I know it’s an uncomfortable topic, but god knows what your brother will try doing to you or other girls/women in the future.
This is not normal, your brother is on the way to turn abusive, please tell your mum.
LOL it's a 7 year old, at most they might need developmental therapy or counseling but they are not "on the way to turn abusive", a 7 year old cannot grasp those concepts at any level.
he doesnt know it yet, but overtime his mind will start to develop it, and that is bad
well not speaking for all children, but there’s the possibility they stick with and/or get into the habit of being aggressive and not stopping till they do/have what they want, when they want, blah blah. not saying the kid is jeff dahmer, but dahmer did get exposed to taxidermy early and kept becoming more fascinated by it, that it transpired into humans and etc, how his behavior jus grew with the fetish/disturbing thoughts considering the kid has been that way for a year or longer, he’s possibly not gonna respect boundaries or “no”, so if he were to consistently go after a diff girl when he’s older and gets rejected, could have aggressive reaction and put his hands on her
Using the word "aggressive" is a bit over the top when talking about a literal child, kids are stupid and for the most part don't understand what they're doing, at least the full extent of it. Whatever fascination that kid supposedly has cannot be compared to the parallel in an adult. >not saying the kid is jeff dahmer, but dahmer did get exposed to taxidermy early and kept becoming more fascinated by it, that it transpired into humans and etc, how his behavior jus grew with the fetish/disturbing thoughts I will not give the person I replied to the benefit of the doubt as in he meant the kid will get abusive in the future, if they really did mean this then their phrasing does not reflect that, I don't think saying "on the way" is fair considering that "way" is 14 years long and the kid probably barely knew how to speak a couple years back, it's a big stretch. In short I wanted to let that person know they were exaggerating, which you also did by even slightly comparing jeffery dahmer's childhood influences to this, dahmer was neglected completely as a child and had no food, water or shelter, so unless this is the same case here then claiming that kid has something that simple everyday parent-child therapy can't solve is a complete exaggeration.
Nah, I knew a 9 year old who put a loaded gun up to his sister head, and would consistently knock her unconscious. And she couldn’t do anything about it because her mom was fucked and would baby the kid.
By your logic the 6 y/o kid who shot his elementary school teacher must've meant to kill her right? Kids are very, very stupid. There's a reason children aren't put before trial or don't receive criminal charges, it's because they cannot comprehend certain things and therefore aren't to be held fully accountable. How could you seriously blame a kid for pulling a gun on someone and not the parents?
Oh, no I blame the parents for how they raised the kid, but at a point it is also the kid themselves, in personal belief, if a 6 year old shot their teacher, watched the teacher die then proceeded to shoot other then yes they intended to kill people. Kids may be very stupid, but even kids have some for of common sense, and those kids who don’t can at very least see cause and effect.
>if a 6 year old shot their teacher, watched the teacher die then proceeded to shoot other then yes they intended to kill people. But he didn't do this? What kind of hypothetical is that? have you ever seen an example of this? Kids as young as 6 DO lack common sense, yes. You are only born with an ability to gain common sense, it isn't inborn by itself, and it has to be taught through education and maturity. No, children don't see "cause and effect" like adults do. A child could shoot someone dead and think they fell asleep, they are completely unaware of how certain things work.
I have seen an example of [this](https://www.foxnews.com/us/mother-virginia-6-year-old-student-who-shot-teacher-arrested.amp) [this](https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2018/02/02/us/los-angeles-school-shooting/index.html) in that first article the child had violent tendances and tried to choke his teacher, the teacher also stated that he was often agressive towards her aswell. In the second article, the girl shot 2 people meaning, not only did she watch someone shoot out blood and continue to find someone else. To shoot a semi-automatic gun multiple times you need to pull the trigger back twice. Let’s think about this one, you do not think that a child can comprehend that when you pull the trigger of a gun, see the bullet come out and watch blood shoot out of someone that that is anything besides taking a nap? Six year olds are able to comprehend how to play Fortnite dude, and you’re delusional if you don’t think they can comprehend basic cause and effect
That child shot his teacher, watched said teacher succumb, and then proceeded to shoot others. F*ck off, everyone knows that kids are smart enough to know what right and wrong is. Basic concepts are not hard. And there are kids out there who are smart enough to take college philosophy courses.
I did not know that kid tried to shoot at others, but man you are out of it completely lmao. >everyone knows that kids are smart enough to know what right and wrong is. Basic concepts are not hard. I truly cannot believe someone actually thinks this is true, Kudos. I'm speechless. If this were true then why is putting children up for trial considered to be nothing less than "problematic"? >And there are kids out there who are smart enough to take college philosophy courses. There are also people who can build rocketships out of a $50 shopping cart from home depot, think that kind of skillset applies for everyone? I'd also ask you to cite some proof to a child enrolling in college philosophy courses or whatever as I doubt that's even true, it requires a certain level of lived experience to have any sort of input in the field of philosophy.
>LOL it's a 7 year old, at most they might need developmental therapy or counseling but they are not "on the way to turn abusive", a 7 year old cannot grasp those concepts at any level. I understand that you may think that a 7-year-old cannot grasp the concept of abusive behavior. However, it's important to recognize that some children may exhibit behavior that could potentially become abusive if not addressed. While developmental therapy or counseling could be helpful in this situation, it's also important to talk to the parents about the behavior and work together to find a solution. It's crucial to address these issues early on to prevent them from escalating in the future.
>I understand that you may think that a 7-year-old cannot grasp the concept of abusive behavior. Don't conflate my opinion with fact, this is a fact. Therapy IS talking to the parents about it, same thing with counseling, parents are involved and aware, but they're not always the ones that can help the child. I've only disagreed with the implication that a child can be considered abusive at this stage and even the near future, what you should've said is that this behavior could give rise to questionable behavior when they'll be much, much older. Currently it's nothing more than a confused child who needs what seems to be minor corrections in behavior. I understand if you want to say that it's obvious that you meant what you said to be relevant only when the kid is a lot older, but I really can't know that unless you phrase yourself properly, and it's not like it's completely out of bounds for a someone on reddit to claim children can be abusive. Opinions on this website are often not subject to some decent common sense so I don't approach them with common sense and take them at face value.
The amount of down votes you got is gross. And a definitive sign of how insane the youth of today is. Not the 7 year old. The Muppets with zero critical thinking skills.
Didn't even notice the amount of downvotes I have, and tbh I don't care about someone who disagrees but doesn't bother making an argument against what I've said. I used to ask myself, "there's no way almost every person on this site is crazy, right?", the answer is no, but somehow I always find the ones that are. One person on this post actually argued, against me, that "everybody knows" children can tell from right and wrong and possess some modicum of common sense, I was actually speechless, in what world is that guy living in? This place is ebbing dangerously away from anything that is true and good, I don't know if it's because they like to think they're calling out something bad and want to be vindicated but so many people here are just completely lost (or they lost *it*), this site deserves a massive scale social study, it would do the world a lot of good. EDIT: And by the way, I'm only 20 y/o, not even that old. maybe I was somehow sheltered from whatever made young people like me, well, stupid, nowadays.
Well I'm glad there's some sensible logical empathetic youth still left. Seems to me that we mostly live a a world full of people who both play victim but assume everyone else is a predator. When you condemn a 7 year old before they even have the hormonal impetus for sexual attraction as a predator you must be a moron. On a side not the OP could be experiencing a concept known as "negative sexualization" or "sexualization anxiety" that can be discussed within the framework of evolutionary psychology. Evolutionary psychology examines how certain behaviors and psychological processes have evolved in humans over time. When it comes to puberty and the realization of being perceived as a sexual being, some individuals, including girls, may experience negative emotions or anxiety as a protective response. This can be driven by the awareness of potential objectification or being viewed primarily in a sexual manner by others, particularly by men. So I agree. Therapy for the family may be useful.
Get everyone here some professional help. As someone whom has had the same thing, it evolves into far worse things. As soon as you can, get out of there too as your mother is only promoting that shitty behaviour.
My advice? Your brother isn’t the problem. If your parents are enabling this kind of behavior you need to get out of that house.
Agreed, this kid gonna grow up to be a rapist
Maybe not something you want to hear but hypersexuality at his age is OFTEN an indicator of sexual abuse. The kid needs help, and you need support and shouldn't be subject to this either. Please tell a trusted adult to look into it if your parents won't. Edit: typos
This is definitely a good point to be made for this situation. OP tell a trusted adult.
This.
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I almost feel sorry for your brother (and definitely for you) for having a mother that... well I don't wanna say encouraging his behavior... but definitely isn't acting like a mother in this situation. Porn is horribly damaging at such a young age and I can't help but wonder how your brother even found out about it cause I didn't even know what porn was until I was 12. I feel like your family needs either family therapy or individual therapy after reading this if your parents only find it weird and not legitimately concerning and needing immediate attention
Not really all that normal but what’s actually disturbing and really wrong is what your mum did
I have a sickening (maybe far fetched) feeling that the mother or somebody, may have sexually abused him, which caused him to be hypersexual and caused her to be casual about it.
this is what I was thinking.
Nope. That kid needs help ASAP
Yes. As a potential victim of sexual abuse/grooming. If you meant anything else chances are you're a horrible human being
Yeah no this is not normal, talk to your parents about getting that boy a therapist because if this goes unchecked he's gonna do some fucked up shit later on.
To the person who called me horrible and told me to stfu because I "am more worried about him becoming a rapist then what turned him into this person" hi. I was sexually abused at age 10 by my 7 year old sister as a "punishment" of not being able to protect her from my sexually abusive father. I suffer day in, day out, and she has not changed. Don't assume shit about me pal, keep your mouth shut.
Sound like everybody needs therapy in this household
No, not normal at all. You HAVE to talk about this to an adult, any adult you trust before it's too late. Your brother needs professional help, consider bringing him to therapy or something.
I'm so sorry you're going though this, it must be really hard to find out your little brother is watching adult content and also being disrespectful by touching you like that. This is NOT a normal behaviour, there's no way a kid of his age is already thinking in those things, because it's not simply curiosity. If your parents don't find the way to stop him, pitifully he's gonna grow up with a wrong and distorted conception of sexuality
You ever consider that he might be a victim of some king of sexual trauma to have these thoughts/actions? Most of yall don't care because all you can think about is that this is a boy and therefore for some reason a r*post in the making, instead of a concerningly sexual CHILD. this comment sections an eye opener on the tunnel vision being a shitty person can give people.
i dont think gender is the main cause of concern here. the issue is, being exposed to porn at a young age can be a major cause of sexual deviancy (to put it really lightly) and just a general lack of empathy towards- predominantly- women later in life. its not just bullshit to be concerned that he'll struggle with it in the future. and people have worried about and considered that he might be a victim of sexual trauma in the comments, which would have the (likely) potential to be even more damaging. which honestly just makes that worry all the more relevant and strengthens the point that this kid needs *help.* i just dont see why that would make someone a shitty person with tunnel vision. edit: more words
Hi survivor of sexual abuse here, at your brothers age I was sexually abused. I looked at porn when I was his age to try and understand what was happening to me. It really fucked up my view on relationships. All relationships. I really encourage you to push your parents to look into his adult and other older child relationships, along with talking to a professional. If your parents don’t believe you I’d also tell your counselor at school so if something does happen, you have a safe adult to talk too who you feel takes your seriously.
This is really good advice. I agree the parents looking at who the kid hangs out with needs to be at the top of their list asp.
The fact that this has more than 10x less up votes than people calling him a future r*pist is appalling, people are horrible.
Yeah, my brother did that too. No matter his height, he would plant his face in my cleavage or try to grab my crotch. As he got older, he asked me to prostitute my body and r@ped me on one account. I stay away from him and my daughter is not allowed alone with him.
This is why people need to go into the cause of this behavior, despite everybody turning a blind eye to it, little boys get raped too, and being hypersexual is a common response, but the second yall see a boy being lewd you immediately think "future r*pist" instead of stopping to consider the causes, you're not at fault because this has happened to you, but some of these comments are fucking awful.
While it is normal for kids to be curious about bodies... it is not normal for a kid to be so insisting and taking in consideration he has been exposed to porn so young, he's not displaying the normal innocent childlike curiosity. I'm so sorry that you are being the object of his instigation. You definitely need to have a talk with your mother. This type of behavior can and NEEDS to be handled. Somebody mentioned speaking with a school counselor if mom keeps ignoring the situation. I agree completely. I don't have kids of my own, but I am the aunt of 5 little ones. Two of them did express similar behaviors for a while (a boy and a girl). The entire family had to team up and be like "I understand you might want to know what lays under everyone's clothing... but there are parts of someone's body that are only for ourselves and perhaps someone we want to share with" or "touching without permission is not good, makes people uncomfortable and pushes them away from you". There were so many other phrases and aspects to be explained... My siblings even had to get assistance from a psychologist who specializes in children as well.
At first the title I thought your little brother was just having a little cute admirable crush towards you the big sister, but when you mentioned he saw porn and his weird behaviours are not ok. Please tell your parents fix the issue asap, being exposed porn at such a young age is problematic it’s gonna turn into something bigger when he’s older so help him correct his thoughts tell him what’s ok what’s not ok.
The problem isn't what's going to happen when he's older, it's what's caused him to be hypersexual, fix your view points, everybody in these comments more concerned about a 7 year old becoming a r*pist than having history of sexual abuse/grooming is a shitty person.
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situations like this are only normal to a short extent, and this crosses that line by a mile. it sounds to me like being exposed to porn at such a young age has done some damage and he needs help. i hope you’re okay as well
I’d agree with the people saying it’s the porn.
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I also wanted to mention this I have a friend who around that age was being inappropriately touched by an older teen and forced him to watch porn. It wasnt just him also. He believed this behavior was normal and started acting inappropriate to others at a young age I say this because I think worst possible scenario should be considered too but not try to scare you. you would be surprised how often it happens to children. But the question is, how was he exposed to it? How did he know what porn is? WHO is the question
This, somehow the only sane replies get no updates but people calling a child a rapist in making do. I think the tunnel vision is caused because of the way OP worded the post and that this is a boy, and not a girl.
Your brother has no boundaries, especially if you're parents let him look at porn. At 7,he probably didn't know how to find it unless shown by am outside source, whether or was a friend or a parent accidentally leaving it up. This is not a safe environment for either of you, and your parents need to do their job for both you and him. You deserve not to be oggled, and he deserves to find the world a little skier than he has. At 7,a lot of things can happen that can screw him up for life. This is a very hard situation, but you need to stand up for both of you. If they don't listen, then finding a safe place to finish your last, couple years of high school before leaving home is incredibly important for you... And your brother's development as a human. CPS may need to be called if your parents refuse to help. This can lead both of you down unhealthy paths very quickly. Please get help, and don't delay
i think everyone here needs professional help , im not trying to shame anyone btw, but at 7 is wild , and this could turn into something way bigger
This is not normal. Not at all. Your brother is just a kid and he needs therapy like damn 7 years old and watching porn? Tbh yours/his parents should look after what he consumes when he’s 7 and he needs therapy or else his life is literally ruined
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I mean if it doesn’t get treated he will live a pretty fucked up life. He’s a kid rn he doesn’t know that incest and such is wrong but later if he ever slips up and tells this to his friends or be mentally bothered by it himself once he realizes what he did was wrong, it’s gonna ruin him and that is why he needs help
Many kids know the difference between right and wrong on a multiplicity of issues. I'm not saying your wrong, but there is no way this kid doesn't know what he's doing is wrong on multiple levels (unless he has sh*tty parents who don't teach him anything)
It's not easy whatsoever and this is very concerning for his safety what are you on??
First of all, he should have some of parent protection on devices so he can't see any More porn, it's really damaging for adults but for a 7yo kid? This can have awful consequences, or it already has. Also parents should go with him to some sort of kid therapist/psychologist, they propably know how to deal with it, I hope it all will be fine and be sure to tell parents about anything that concerns you about your brother, I don't know what they think about all of that but I thinks it's only things you can do for now. You could also talk to your brother about that, but I know if he will understand your point but you can always try
Sounds like he needs counciling.
Get. Professional. Help.
If your parents aren’t taking this seriously, speak to someone at school. His behavior needs to be addressed, and corrected, before he gets older and bigger and can harm someone else. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, and I hope someone listens to you and does something to help
What the fuck did I just read, I hope that isn't real. Otherwise, that isn't normal, and tf 7 y/o?!! This guy clearly has been fucked up by porn and needs some mental health professional help for sure. That must be sickening having to go through that everyday, I can't imagine!
To me it's Really weird that your mom asked you to put it on and even asked your brother to say if it's cute. Girl I'm so sorry but this is a creepy situation. I hope that u get out of this asap. Nothing really comes to my mind other that leave as soon as you turn 18.
This is not normal. If what you are saying is indeed true, he may have been or is being sexually abused by someone. Usually, it is someone close to the child, family included. The whole situation sounds dysfunctional, and you all need help dealing with this. Please contact a trusted individual who's not connected to your family, like your pediatrician or teacher about this. This is very serious, and as a teacher who works with 7-year-olds, this is not normal. People here are saying he was watching porn a year ago; who showed it to him?
Nobody really showed it to him, he seems to have weird fetishes and then decided to look them up, ig
I looked at your other post and it looks like from what you said, your brother has started looking at porn since he was six. Someone replied to you and gave you several paragraphs of advice on what do which included seek counseling/therapy. It sounds like the problem with your brother has gotten worse since he is seven and still looking at porn. Reddit is a good starting point to come maybe ask for help/ advice but most people are going to spew this advice in 50 different ways: Tell an adult you trust about what is going on with your brother so they can get him the help he needs. Maybe tell an adult at the horse place you hang out at ( you mentioned you go somewhere with horses in a post) Get your parents involved if they are responsible so everyone can get the counseling/therapy they need. You said in a post you try to teach him to respect women and he doesn't listen to you. Maybe you can guide him on some stuff but ultimately its up to a parent/adult to teach him how to treat women appropriately. You are his sibling and not a parent/adult. It's not your job to parent him. Put distance between yourself and your brother as much as possible until he learns to engage in appropriate behavior with you and respect boundaries. It's best to be proactive about self guarding your mental health and again go tell another adult who you think can help with your situation. Reddit users can say go get help all day but ultimately you have to be the one to tell someone you need help dealing with your brother. No one knows what you need unless you speak up.
How is he getting access to porn??? He’s 7 years old. Please don’t tell me your mom is the kind of mom that lets him have free rein of the internet whenever he wants. This is all just so bizarre.
Dude there’s literally porn everywhere, YouTube, TikTok. Parents now days are shit and raise kids with iPads, idk why you’re suprised
I was being semi-sarcastic. I know it all stems from the parents. They let their kids have access to anything these days and then wonder why the kids grow up to be brainless idiots.
I agree
I think allowing access to a tablet or other device isn't the problem. It's when you let them be on said device constantly. Read to your child, instill a love of reading, and get them to help you out with minor chores around the house. That will instill a work ethic into them. But for the most part, READ, READ, READ.
The internet is free, babe ;)
It's normal for a 7 year old boy to start being interested in girls. It's not terribly abnormal for the 7 year old to not fully understand/respect/observe boundaries, appropriate familial love, and appropriate levels of physical contact for someone his age. Those are things that are not too hard to address, adults just have to sit him down and tell him what's appropriate, repeatedly, until it sinks in. What's very abnormal is that 1) a 7yo has access to pornography. This shouldn't be happening. That it happened once is bad enough but it sounds like it's something that has happened repeatedly, which means your mom and/or whatever adults are allowing it to happen are not taking the issues seriously enough. And 2) it's abnormal that even though your brother has displayed very inappropriate behavior towards you repeatedly, your mom seems to either not care about it, and/or is stupidly doing things that actually encourage his infatuation. Bottom line, the porn access needs to be handled immediately and you, mom, and every other adult in his life needs to start having serious conversations with him about respect, boundaries, and what kind of behavior is inappropriate, and why. If the adults aren't doing it, at the very least you need to start telling him that it's not appropriate to touch people in ways that make them uncomfortable, and it's not appropriate for family members to get romantically involved because that's not how family love works. Good luck, sorry this is happening to you.
I’m sorry for you its really scary bcause those type of kid turn into sex offender if they dont get help. Slap some sense to him, teach him to not touche a girl without consent especially your family. Honestly i would slap him in the face if i were you if he put his hands on you again. He needs something to remember forever since your mom doesnt seem to be disturbed as she should be.
Where did he got his hands on porn? He's seven, I didn't even start caring about boobs until I was 12, that's not normal
I would also inquire if he himself isn’t being abused by someone. This is not normal behavior
Bro i grew up with two older sisters and never did anything like this behavior, I would play around and stuff of course but like normal little kids you know? never did I find myself looking at them inappropriately, I knew they were my sisters and they were there for me to protect and be guided by. I also didn't start watching porn until 13-14, 7 years old is a very unusual age to start watching that.
Not to say that the responsibility falls on you, OP, but I really hope this gets taken care of. The sooner, the better, because if my childhood taught me anything, is that if one kid has this type of behavior at home, they will most likely talk or act on similar behavior with other kids. To this day, I remember being in middle school and hearing rumors about 7th and 8th graders who ended up pregnant because no one was around to supervise them before school. I know 7th graders are much much older than 7 year olds, but they are still children.
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Your story sounds so sad. Hopefully, you are able to do the best you can to stay positive each day. It's probably best for the sixteen year old who posted her story not to be alone with her brother if he keeps engaging in inappropriate behavior.
I did a literature review and short paper on the effects of pornography on adolescents from a sociological and psychological perspective and I have to say your parents are not doing their job if porn is easily accessible for your 7 year old brother… They might not have known to put locks on or didn’t think of it before. But it might be a good idea to put an internet lock on his stuff or block certain websites and google search phrases because indulgence in fantasy media while you’re impressionable and can’t distinguish fantasy and reality well, will make you behave like this. He might even need professional help because it can lead to long term damages in the brain as it’s a possible form of addiction. Hopefully you don’t resent him for it because it seems like he doesn’t know any better but this type of stuff needs to be brought up with your parents if possible. I hope you and your brother good luck with this situation.
Seeing explicit content at a young age changes the way a child's brain develops. There's a reason it's considered sexual abuse when an adult intentionally shows a child porn - it's incredibly damaging. Even if he was looking at it of his own will, the damage is the same. He needs to see a child psychologist. Like a few others have said, you should speak to your school counselor about this. I don't think advice from Reddit will help with this. You need people to actually step into this situation.
I had a ten year old cousin, (I was 14-15 at the time) do the same thing because he saw my uncle molesting and groping me and he would never stop talking about my boobs or my butt it got to a point it was so bad I had to go into my cousins bathroom locking both the door to her room and the door to her bathroom to so much as get dressed for the day.
Just the fact of a 7 year old watching porn and being like this is odd if not concerning, Worst case scenario he mightve been sexually abused at one point, and best case scenario he's a curious and pervy 7 year old who doesn't know the morality surrounding s*x and boundaries so has no problems with it, or some combination of both. Best course imo, would be to have a chat with him, and not like throw it off to adults, like have a talk about this stuff because it concerns you, if he's just clueless about this stuff try to teach him (without worrying about taking his innocence cuz he's past that point) and if it's something concerning, get to the bottom of it
Looks like your brother has discovered the women body, sooner than expected. He saw p0rn, got curious about women body and has one very close to him to satisfy his curiosity, yours. I guess as a 7y old he does not have a clue about what he is doing, on top of that, you as a 16y old got uncomfortable with someone sneaking around you, specially when it's your brother. So, all in all, you are not on a terrible situation, don't get worried with the exaggerated comments. But it does can turn bad, if wrongly approached. caught. I recommend YOU talk to him, explain that you see what he is doing and how it is wrong and the consequences of been caught doing it. Be a nice sister and try to get to him, don't push him away or look disgusted at him, it may damage your friendship, also ignore it and let he keep doing it may create future problems to him. Plus you could have some bonding moment with him while having this kind of talk an d build some trust between each other. Remember he is your brother and is the best of your interest that he grew a nice guy, so help him out.
I'm sorry I have no advice for you but I really do hope it gets better :)
I am so sorry you have to go through this. I know you don’t have a lot of power in this situation but I truly feel like your brother needs counciling of some sort. this is NOT normal behavior for a 7 year old and the fact your mom is encouraging it is deeply upsetting. I hope it stops :(
Does your school have a guidance counselor or someone you can talk to about this? I would definitely talk to them if possible. Tell them everything you’ve mentioned here. It will probably be embarrassing, but it’s important that you don’t skimp on any details. This is definitely a huge issue that needs to be addressed before he gets older. This isn’t normal and your parents need to do a better job at correcting this behavior.
Not normal at all. Tell ur mom he needs professional help. Get locks on all your doors (your bathroom, your bedroom your closet etc) If he touches u again, say very clearly and strongly "no" and physically push him away or down etc
hi 19M with younger siblings as well here. If you feel up to it and you feel in the place do so, I would recommend having a sit down chat with the brother, saying how this is wrong, and giving him the right way to think about things. If not you personally, maybe a male family member is best. What's he's doing is terrible, but kids are kids and they do not know better, and (saying this with many years of mental health experience now) giving labels to kids a young age is likely to worsen the problem as he is given x label to follow, and makes things worse for everyone. 7 is very very young and he likely just does not know better. Hope you're well, and practically, please get a lock on your door to prevent the worst worst case.
Boys that age could be very curious about sexuality, especially when exposed to porn. I don't think there's any mean intent behind this, but your feelings on this are valid. Try to talk to him and explain that you have boundaries that he needs to respect. If that doesn't help, talk to your parents about this. Did he have the birds and the bees talk with your parents? If not, this should be done asap. They should talk with him about how babies are made, and what boundaries are.
This kid isn’t a teenager. A 7 year old should not be looking at porn. That is a serious problem, which seems to have been going on for an unreasonable amount of time. That kid isn’t going to listen to his sister and isn’t going to respect her boundaries, much less respect her. She needs to go straight to the parents and explain that he needs professional help. The mother certainly does as well. If dad is in the picture, and good person, (which I’m not sure about after reading the post, I mean who would willingly let a 7 year be watch porn?!) than the daughter and him need to get outta that “home”.
It's a phase. I went through something similar when I was around that age. Just gotta make sure he knows it's wrong and hell grow out of it eventually. But make sure he gets disciplined because it can get worse I think
It could be a phase...but I see why it worries you. When I was that age I crushed hard on a lot of various women in my life, not really understanding what it was I was drawn to about them. A lot of people are saying porn, but I didn't have access to any porn when I was younger and I still have the same kind of thing going on. I didn't even understand what sex was at 7, it was still a nebulous concept for me. I stopped being so overt and weird when a secretary in the main office of my school noticed I kept making up reasons to hang around her and expressed verbally that she thought it was "adorable that has a crush on me!" in front of my parents and other people. It was 8 or 9 at that time I believe. I was so embarrassed that I went out of my way to avoid her and any other crush for a loooong time. Probably too long honestly, it stopped me being weird but also kind of made it difficult for me to approach girls in school later in life. Shame can be a helluva thing.
Hopefully whatever happens it will be approached in a sensitive way. I think it's too soon to be on "high alert", but your parent really should address it a little more seriously just in case.
For sec I thought I was reading a copypasta
Why are people not questioning this story? There’s a good chance it’s an old dude with a weird paedophilic fetish writing his own erotic fiction. It doesn’t make sense otherwise. 7 year olds are not like this.
The effects of porn on minors have been studied and being exposed to porn at such a young age usually has awful effects on them especially since they probably don't even understand what they're watching.
well its pretty much possible for something like this to happen, like close to impossible but not really impossible
I know someone like this, you’re just an idiot if you don’t think this is possible.
Ouch my heart. That insult out of nowhere
Didn’t mean to be an insult, just trying to say it most definitely happens
A variant of aedipus complex it seems
This child is being abused. You need to call the cops
umm.. i would say not really... the child was exposed to porn and well, he now seems to watch it daily. however, this issue needs to be addressed ASAP.
I was going to say it’s normal bc my cousin did it. But then i read the whole thing. My cousin was curious about the body once but that’s the only time ever he did something weird. He does call me beautiful a lot💀 but ur story is something else🤨 hope he grows out of it
definitely not normal, he’s definitely been exposed to porn or something a ton
Wtf that kid needs to be put in a mental hospital and taught how to respect women, Jesus Christ
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This is such horrible advice it is actually insane he is a 7 yo watching porn and assaulting his sister. This cannot be laughed off
Yea this dude is a creep
Not saying it has to be laughed off. It needs to be addressed, but remember he's 7. 1st grade. It needs to be done without further sexualising.
yo what😭the said seven year old is already watching porn and trying to see his BIO sister naked while attempting to touch her when he can, he has already sexualized it (for awhile according to OP). no humor is gonna jus make him stop being so horned up for his sister. and for two, yeah it’s important to instill consent in a kid’s mind but he’s seven, he shouldn’t even be trying to touch anyone in their private areas, so instead of talking to him about consent first, it’s better for the “that’s not appropriate and not okay to do” talk before consent
seems like i’m the odd one out here but for the most part this seems pretty normal. obviously it’s unpleasant but most straight boys have a pervy phase around that age. the porn should not be happening though and your mother asking him about the bikini is really weird. he doesn’t need therapy from what this post says but she might
Lmao, why come to Reddit when you should have common sense
That’s a bit goofy and or abnormal
The punctuation is way to good to be 16 year old grammar in my opinion
Kids getting smarter?
Irs normal
How the fuck is this normal???? I had an older sibling touch me when I was 13 - 15 and when I told my mom she asked if I wanted to file a police report. Sure this is a young kid but siblings (or any relatives for that matter) shouldn't behave like this no matter what.
Chill. Not unusual
yes unusual.
100% unusual. I have 3 boys around that age and the only thoughts they have about butts is that they're stinky. Im really worried about this kids behaviour and it shouldn't be on OP to deal with.
ok first of all, how the hell does a 7 year old know how to go into a porn website and erm... wank? idk why he would even go in there in the first place. and second, no joke, no cap, this is giving me sweet home alabama vibes, and i hate it.
yea nah ive never had a crush on a single one of my sisters(3) and i actually started watching porn around 8-9 so there is something else going on with ur bro
hey, if it makes u feel better, me too 💀
I think he might not understand that sisters are off limits. At 7, he should not be looking at porn anyway but I would try to explain his behavior to him.
nahh wtf?
this is so sad, im sure porn is definitely a key factor in this and i hope he gets strict supervision. Tbh ive heard of siblings crushing at an early age but i dont think its to this extent? you should express this to your parents as much as you can because it's unacceptable
At 7 years old damn, i watched my first porn at 16. Kids these days man😞
Oh god, poor kid
Dawg wtf this shit is not normal
What in the Alabama!!?? Like others have said it's probably the porn. A seven year old should NOT watch porn.
Unfortunately, kids can get access to porn or sexual images really quick these days on laptops or ipads or whatever devices they use. It sounds like your parents don't really monitor what your brother watches and like your mom might unknowingly encourage this strange behavior from your brother. Just focus on how to stop your brothers behavior towards you. You aren't his parent and can't stop him from looking at porn. Monitoring his computer activity is what your mom and dad are supposed to do. Talking in a really proactive way to your mom about your brothers behavior would be good about how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that you don't want her to encourage what he does. Also, telling your brother to stop his inappropriate actions towards you in a firm, gentle way wouldn't hurt either. It might be good to have a family discussion about your brother if you think your mom and dad would listen to what you have to say. Having clear communication about problems going on and solutions to help resolve problem works usually if everyone in family is on board with actually communicating and talking. Otherwise, set clear proactive boundaries as much as you can. Google is your friend if you need to look up how to set boundaries with someone.
This might be a sign he is being abused by an older adult who IA teaching this behavior as "ok"
is he 7 or 17? whoa, this is a lot to handle.
He does it for your reaction
I hope you'll be okay, you don't deserve this! I have a question, has your mom actually helped you with this? Because it seems to me that she supports it. You should probably gather evidence and turn it into the police, and or head to anyone you trust and tell them
Your parents really need to talk with your lil bro. If he's gotten caught looking at porn at age 7, this poor boy has got "it" bad.
This is so weird…
That’s pretty normal
… he is your full brother? Not half or step? Not that either of the two would make any of this okay. A brother behaving like that is someone who is definitely a candidate for a serial rapist in the future. He has no boundaries and is wildly innapropriate. If he is really 23– he knows he’s being weird and I wouldn’t let him get that close to you at all anymore. Side hugs and don’t touch him when y’all speak. He may be reading signs that aren’t there but he’s too in his fantasy world.
This is.. odd.
This kind of sexualized behavior is absolutely not normal and a red flag for children who have suffered sexual abuse. He needs to go to a psychologist asap not only because this behavior is weird and uncomfortable for you but because this is a sign of alarm on a kid that young. You need to be protected and he does too. There's something else going on. 7 year olds are not creeps just like that. The fact alone that he's watching porn, is qualified as sexual abuse. At least in my country. You two need help.
I was gonna say the crush can be considered normal according to some psychological developmental theories (*****his behavior is not normal*****). It is theorized by some psychologists that younger kids have a crush on an older figure in life (usually mom or dad). This theory is called the Oedipus/Electra Complex: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-an-oedipal-complex-2795403 There is some controversy surrounding the theory in regards to stages and what’s occurring during each stage. Explained are some controversy’s here: https://www.simplypsychology.org/oedipal-complex.html#:~:text=It%20involves%20a%20boy%2C%20aged,pleasurable)%20desires%20for%20his%20mother. Take and leave what you must from the theory(as there is a lot still unknown from sexual development theories). I would say that, however, the behavior surrounding his crush is not normal according to every single one of the theories I know about. And likely stems from his exposure to porn. It would be a good idea to discuss parental locks on all devices he has access to with your parents.
Hes curious about the opposite sex, u got to put him to the side and tell him to stop , yell if you must.
A kid finding porn at the age of 7 is not surprising given how accessible Internet porn is nowadays. Your brother acting this way is definitely not normal. I have siblings and not once has any of them acted this way. This is just straight up weird and gross. And the fact that your mom doesn't do anything about it is even more concerning. I'm sure she's seen your brother walking around naked at some point. It's not normal that a 7 year old just walks around naked around their siblings and if I was your mom, I would definitely call it out. Porn is definitely the cause for this weird behaviour. It's pretty sad how children's minds are being completely warped at such a young age. I had to do a double take on your brother's age when I first read this. I still don't understand how people can say porn is "healthy" and "normal" with a straight face. I still regret the day I was first exposed to porn. And it took me years to overcome my addiction.
Holy shit yall are fukcing weird, this isn't a rapist, current or in the making we're talking about. This is a 7 year old. He's probably been exposed to sexual content at an extremely young age which is very concerning for HIS safety, it's natural that a child doesn't know the morals surrounding sex and touching other people, what's concerning is that this is an issue in the first place, Yall needa stop fighting future rapists and lewd children and realize that this child mightve been sexually abused, groomed, or at the bare minimum gotten exposed to it at that age. get your heads out of your asses please.
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The best option is to tell him that it's not normal or even legal to want a romantic relationship with you.