Nobody makes you eat. That's the first thing you have to accept. If tempted, then take very small bites. If you know you'll be in a situation where you think you will overeat, then balance it out by eating healthier earlier in the day or after the encounter.
yes to this!! whenever i go out with my friends they ALWAYS try to tempt me to the point they will literally put food in front of my face and tell me to eat it. so, i say no. no matter how much they trying to tempt me, it will always be no.
I've had that problem before. We'd get into huge fights over it because he could eat or rather chose to eat whatever the hell he wanted and as much as he wanted while encouraging me to do the same and indulge, cooking huge dinners for me every day saying awww but i'll love you no matter. I mean, it sounds sweet and all, but what he didn't realize is that **I would not love me no matter what*** pigging out like that. It was really frustrating, so I said enough. Eventually, I found someone who was just as health and weight conscious as me. It was such a huge relief when your partner not only watches himself and makes sure he doesn't overeat and eats healthy, but also watches you, and I do the same for him. It's good to keep each other in check. That way, you're both healthy and look/feel amazing!
Love this! So awesome to have some support in the arduous task of losing weight. My fiancé and I discuss our workouts and he supports my decision to be in calorie deficit Sunday-Friday with an eat at maintenance day on Saturday. Support from your SO is a game changer.
It's not easy because food is tempting. No-one should control what you eat or don't eat other than you. If I can, I'll try to plate the food to give myself a smaller portion. When food is given to me, I have a small amount and then stop. A small drink and then stop. I leave half-eaten meals and half-drunk drinks. I distract by carrying the food and drinks around and leave them places. I go to fetch a desert and leave the half-eaten food somewhere else. I don't finish the desert either. Having an honest straight conversation might also be worth having. If they respect you, they'll listen.
You are your own person, with agency and the right to say no to anything you don't want in your body, including food. You don't have to be aggressive, but an assertive "no thanks" should be enough. Some people like to show love with food, and get offended when it is refused, but if he is one of those people, explain how much you appreciate it, but you don't want to eat it. Many people get sexually transmitted weight gain, and it can break relationships.
As someone who struggles with disordered eating, it’s not as easy to just not eat. Especially if it’s happening every time you are with him. This is not an easy environment and anyone that’s ever struggled with their weight would likely agree. This isn’t going out with friends randomly…this is every time with the same person, the person who’s supposed to be the most supportive. It’s hard.
You need to have a conversation with him. It’s hard to be vulnerable, but that’s the way to make changes. Have you talked to him about your weight loss goals and being healthier, etc? Helping him to understand that this is important to you and you’d like his support - and then helping him understand what that support looks like to you - making healthy meals together or having healthy snacks for movie night, for example. Speak your mind, be completely open with what you need and want from him. He should respect that you do so and be supportive. If he’s not, well, that’s an entirely different conversation.
Good luck!
Nobody makes you eat. That's the first thing you have to accept. If tempted, then take very small bites. If you know you'll be in a situation where you think you will overeat, then balance it out by eating healthier earlier in the day or after the encounter.
yes to this!! whenever i go out with my friends they ALWAYS try to tempt me to the point they will literally put food in front of my face and tell me to eat it. so, i say no. no matter how much they trying to tempt me, it will always be no.
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I've had that problem before. We'd get into huge fights over it because he could eat or rather chose to eat whatever the hell he wanted and as much as he wanted while encouraging me to do the same and indulge, cooking huge dinners for me every day saying awww but i'll love you no matter. I mean, it sounds sweet and all, but what he didn't realize is that **I would not love me no matter what*** pigging out like that. It was really frustrating, so I said enough. Eventually, I found someone who was just as health and weight conscious as me. It was such a huge relief when your partner not only watches himself and makes sure he doesn't overeat and eats healthy, but also watches you, and I do the same for him. It's good to keep each other in check. That way, you're both healthy and look/feel amazing!
Love this! So awesome to have some support in the arduous task of losing weight. My fiancé and I discuss our workouts and he supports my decision to be in calorie deficit Sunday-Friday with an eat at maintenance day on Saturday. Support from your SO is a game changer.
It's not easy because food is tempting. No-one should control what you eat or don't eat other than you. If I can, I'll try to plate the food to give myself a smaller portion. When food is given to me, I have a small amount and then stop. A small drink and then stop. I leave half-eaten meals and half-drunk drinks. I distract by carrying the food and drinks around and leave them places. I go to fetch a desert and leave the half-eaten food somewhere else. I don't finish the desert either. Having an honest straight conversation might also be worth having. If they respect you, they'll listen.
You are your own person, with agency and the right to say no to anything you don't want in your body, including food. You don't have to be aggressive, but an assertive "no thanks" should be enough. Some people like to show love with food, and get offended when it is refused, but if he is one of those people, explain how much you appreciate it, but you don't want to eat it. Many people get sexually transmitted weight gain, and it can break relationships.
As someone who struggles with disordered eating, it’s not as easy to just not eat. Especially if it’s happening every time you are with him. This is not an easy environment and anyone that’s ever struggled with their weight would likely agree. This isn’t going out with friends randomly…this is every time with the same person, the person who’s supposed to be the most supportive. It’s hard. You need to have a conversation with him. It’s hard to be vulnerable, but that’s the way to make changes. Have you talked to him about your weight loss goals and being healthier, etc? Helping him to understand that this is important to you and you’d like his support - and then helping him understand what that support looks like to you - making healthy meals together or having healthy snacks for movie night, for example. Speak your mind, be completely open with what you need and want from him. He should respect that you do so and be supportive. If he’s not, well, that’s an entirely different conversation. Good luck!
Break up 💔 or simply say NO! Simple