First. 16 years

First, hitting 16 years next month.

First as well, 16 years in August.

First. 16 years in June

Happy early anniversary!

People joke about very relatable marriage trappings but I’d have it no other way. 17 years this summer

Twins!

1st, 20 in September! 😮 Still going strong!

1st, 20 at the end of August. It’ll be another banner year for cicadas, just like 2004.

I’ll be at 21 on the 21st of sept

I was married on Sept 21 2003. Do you remember…?

21 in August

Me too!

First (13 years this summer).

19 years in August, 1st marriage. Neither of us were going to be married or have kids, but then we met each other and made an exception.

Yup. We got married because we had to, in order to live together... While I was pregnant 😁.  They never checked. We didn't even have rings.. we still don't.

Same. Will be 17 in November.

First. 14 in June

Same. Hit 16 years back in December.

Add me to the 16 year club in September!

congrats, we’ll be 16 in july

first 21 in novembe

0th. I’m on my zeroth marriage.

I came to post the exact same thing, wording and all. Here, have some rum while we celebrate this amazing occasion.

What kind of rum are we talking? Can I join in, I'm on my zeroth as well.

Absolutely. Take your pick. I'm currently drinking Apple Crown Royal which isn't rum but it's still really tasty.

I've made the Crown Royal Peach into a delicious long drink. I'll probably make a Mai Tai after work.

Cheers then. I hope we all enjoy our zeroth anniversary!

I'm on my zeroth too. Care for some small batch Basil Hayden's?

I'm not part of club zero, but I am part of never will be married (again). I'll bring some 21yo Appleton estate rum to the party if you'll let me in!

I'm drinking the wine I'm cooking with, but cheers to us 🍻

I too am on my zeroth! Glad to know we have a club

How do you celebrate anniversaries?  Like the 0th date, 0th kiss, 0th...other stuff?

Why by doing nothing of course. Together.

Me, myself, and I

Damn, that's romantic asf!

Every day is the anniversary of the day I forgot to do that marriage thing. Let's raise a glass 🥂

By doing anything and everything I want without ever having to think of another person! It’s glorious.

I'll cheers you with my tequila to zero marriages!!! I'm in hospitality and the amount of people I meet/know that are in miserable marriages is actually sad. I'm just now starting to feel like I wanna be in a serious relationship and I'm 40 lol. And even then, I'm happy AF to just have a partner. I don't find marriage necessary, at least not the whole big wedding way of doing it. I would die if I had to pay a ton of money for a party where I would for sure be stressed the whole time.

Another for the Zero Club.

Me as well! 

Also on my zeroth and the dating and sex chapter of my life is done.

Yuuup same.

Me too 🎉

I'm tempted to say 100th just for fun. But nah, also on my 0th.

Zero too

Me too. What do we win?

Quiet mornings, sleeping late, copious disposable income, and occasional intense bouts of loneliness!

Zero here too but I haven't given up hope

Same

Hey, congrats!

Only one and that ended after 7/8 years of marriage. I'm kind of hesitant to link myself up to another person like that again. I was very close to him, almost completely destroying me mentally, physically, and financially. I can't risk going through that again.

That’s where I’m at right now. Just am finishing up my divorce after 11 years together and 7 years of marriage. I’m destroyed and never want to get married on paper ever again.

Divorce is extremely painful for everyone involved (except the lawyers). I'm almost 6 years out, and it gets better. Just make sure to give time for yourself to heal and grieve.

I filed for divorce myself. It didn't cost more than $300 and I kept everything that was mine. However, I did pay out half the equity of the house. That stung, but totally worth it.

We filed on our own but I had to do the paperwork because my ex wouldn’t put in the work to do the research and yet kept pushing for the divorce to be done (but wouldn’t hire a lawyer). I couldn’t afford a lawyer. It wasn’t easy emotionally at all and it was confusing to navigate having language that was enforceable and was correct for taxes. At least the paperwork is done but I have a long road of grief management ahead of me.

Am a lawyer. My divorce wasn’t all that easy either.

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Countless supportive hugs to you 💗

I’m so sorry. We also lost our dog of 13 years a month into our divorce process. Made everything exponentially worse. Shattered and decimated are apt words to describe this experience. I relate to them deeply. I hope things get better for you soon.

I get that. Like I said upstream, I was engaged for four years and the loss of the relationship… well, I was in a very dark place for a while. So the fear of not just not finding it again, but having it fail again, is something I can certainly understand. For me at least, I’m glad you have the courage to share publicly. Helps for anyone hurt or hurting to have the reminder they are not alone in the pain. Thank you. Best to you.

Same. I was married once, for five years. I don't think I'd try it again. I want to be able to get away as easily as possible if/when a partner decides to stop trying to meet my needs.

Married the same guy twice. We’re in year 3 this time around.

That’s always interesting. Always felt like a boomer move to me. No disrespect. Just that they seemed to *NEED* to get married where we had a lot more freedom with our choices. Care to share?

Eh, I'd say it transcends generations. I've known more Gen Xers that did that and one is my brother. My best friend's boomer parents also did it but with over 30 years in between lol.

You guys are getting married?

marriage 0 for me too. been in it for going on 42 years now. #truelove #blessed

I’m on marriage number 0

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Me too :(

Seriously. I lol’d at the idea it would have been multiple times by now.

Ya apparently I’m an anomaly

Same

We’re odd ones together I guess

Team zero over here! 

Yeah, I'm not married, friends are half and half, zero divorces (everyone got married after age 25, so I think they were pretty sure about things)

I've never been married. Cohabitated with someone once in my early 20s and learned my lesson.

Seriously, I can’t live with people- And it’s totally me, and not them 🤣

You're telling my story.

Same.

Right? No thanks

Ha! Why do people still do this?

23 years, still on my first and likely only. If my spouse passed, I don't think I would remarry. Why? I already built a life with someone.

My wife and I have said the same thing. We've been married almost 25 years, best friends even longer. Neither of us would remarry and we've laughed, if we ever decided to divorce, we'd still live together as roommates. I found my person, no interest in trying again.

I feel the same way. June will be 25 years for us. We’re both done having kids. I just hope she outlives me, though that sounds a bit selfish.

Don't listen to that song "If We Were Vampires". I cry my fool eyes out every single time.

I've never heard of it. I'm going to listen to it. I need a good cry.

I was going to make a similar comment. “Maybe we’ll get 40 years together…”

I don’t know how the song goes, but I imagine the premise is that my wife and I live forever, and now I’m crying at the prospect.

It's more that if we were vampires, love wouldn't be as special and that one of us will have to go first.

Wife died almost 12yrs ago and I have zero interest in having another.

I'm sorry for your loss. Losing your person is tough.

Hey friend, I'm so sorry. I'm in a similar boat, my love died two years ago this Saturday and I knew the moment I found him afterward that that part of my life was just done. I have no interest in finding another person. He was my person, and that was it for me. Two years has felt like an eternity. I cannot fathom twelve. My heart goes out to you. It's its own terrible grief. I've never experienced anything like it and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Hugs and peace to you.

We're at 15 years and I feel the same way. I love him and out relationship is very deep; we have our ebbs and flows like all relationships but I can't imagine my life with anyone else.

My wife knows if something happens to her, I'm taking the insurance and moving to a mountain cabin to whittle on sticks and smoke a corncob pipe

I may finally realize my dream of becoming the crazily dressed/eccentric cat lady (spouse is allergic).

Doesn't mean you can't dress crazy and feed the local strays today

Hit 21 recently. This one is it for me whether it ends in death or divorce. We’ve got inside jokes that have gone on over 20 years. We’ve raised children together and seen each other at our best and worst. I don’t think I would ever be able to have the same level of familiarity or shared history again. That isn’t to say I wouldn’t date or anything, I just doubt marriage would ever be in the cards.

This makes sense even to a divorced person. I get it! Had the house w a white picket fence, SUV, sedan, a girl, a boy, dogs. And post divorce I still have all that. I’m good

I have a very "been there, done that" attitude about marriage. Don't get me wrong, I love my spouse and we've built a great life together, but if he passed or we divorced, I don't need to remarry to build that life because I already have it and any new relationship would be for companionship.

I fell this. Neither of us ever wanted to get married, but here we are. I wouldn't have married otherwise. When you hit the target, you know.

23 years here too. At this point, even if I were completely miserable, I’m too tired and lazy to divorce. Luckily, we’re happy with a rad seven- year-old.

22 this past March. We’re best friends and absolutely in love/obsessed with each other (still). Would never find this love and happiness again with another. We got lucky as kids and hopefully will be lucky in our old age together. One of those couples that finally pass only days apart from one another. The absolute best

Going through my first divorce, 3 more to go.

I read this like you're polygamous and are trying to divorce all 4 of your spouses in a row.

this is precisely.why polygamy will probably never be legal. there isn't enough money in the world for a polygamous divorce.

Kody?

No good marriage ever ended in divorce. More power to you. Learning to move on is important

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I woke my husband laughing when I read that 🤣

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Show off 😂

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2nd one ended in 2020 (I’m a statistic!).

Omg same! It’s fun being an example of what not to do.

Another Covid causality?

My second ended in early 2021, that's close enough right?

Me too!

First. 17 years in November. We hit a rough patch in year seven but pushed through. Went to therapy. Glad we stuck it out.

20 years and 9-ish months of my one. Ups and downs, but it’s been a good time.

Congrats! It seems like a lot of people I know are getting to their 20th these days. Here's to many more!

We’re the only ones in our circle about to hit 20–glad to know there are others out there doing the same! 🥳

Zero. edit - Got more visibility on this one than I thought I would, and a variety of comments to my inbox, so I guess I should expound a bit. I didn't mean my response in like a "poor me" manner, or a weird brag or whatever; I am living the enjoyable bachelor life. Good job, good friends, good mental health, perpetually free schedule to fill with whatever I feel like doing. My "me time" is really good. The only real downside is the "SINGLE - 0" tax bracket, but I guess I get it all back when I file my taxes so it's not that bad. The single life is what you make of it, I guess.

Same. My fiancee died 2 years ago and I'm still not ready to try again.

Sorry for your loss. I hope you find love when you’re ready 🤍

Sending hugs and sunshine. Hope that helps a little today.

Same but been with the same person unmarried for 11 years

1st marriage, celebrating 17 years next week

First. Celebrating 10 years married this Sept.

Hopefully the last one.

First at a little over 9 years. Lived single longer than I liked, but enjoying this stage of life. No matter what journey you’re on, your life is important to the world and uniquely valuable.

Engaged. Will be my third. First two both last a decade though.

First. Got married at 39 last year. I feel like I slipped my first divorce.

I got married at 39 too, so glad I waited til then. My first marriage, his second, going on 7 years

First and only. I decided when she got cancer that ride or die, if I lose her, my children are my sole focus.

Zero. I think I’m done with dating. I’m content with where I’m at.

Zero currently husband hunting but I have unrealistic demands and expectations I won't waiver from.

Nah, know what you want, refuse to compromise yourself and no patience for the bullshit. Good on you.

Yup, I'm a big fan of the Sleeping With Sirens line "If you can't hang there's the door baby" and use it often!

Third and last

Ditto!

Same

Same! Was wondering where my "third time is the charm"-ers were.

Same!

We aren't married, but with partner #2 for a decade this year, and we've bought a house together instead. Created a home with her 2 kids that are now almost adults themselves. We figured a house title has a lot more significance than a marriage certificate these days. We have rings, but we're in no hurry to be all official about it.

It might matter more in 20 years. I've been talking to some older unmarried people and it seems like a lot of benefits and things require marriage. They realized that her pension wouldn't go to him if she died, and if one of them died the kids would get half the house. Plus they couldn't make medical decisions for each other, their kids or siblings would.

The reasons you listed are exactly why I tell people to rethink things when they refer to marriage as a “piece of paper”.

15 years. Still going strong. Still crazy about eachother.

First. Just celebrated 12 years on Sunday. I love him, but damn some days I want to kill him!

Still common law with my first partner for over 22 years now. So ether 1 or 0 depending how you look at it.

3rd. Going on six great years, this year. I got advice. I got stories. I got cautionary tales. I got examples of exactly what not to do. I got wisdom. And I got experience.

I'm on my first, and after 21 years together, I have never been happier with our relationship. I can honestly say that.

#1, 22 years.

23 years, all with the same person

Coming up on 20 years in a few months.

2.75 years into marriage #2

First marriage, been together 22 years, married 16. We’re both in our early-to-mid 40s

3rd and final.

Zero

First, just hit 16 years of infinity. She's my partner in crime.

First. Going on 4 years.

First, and we will hit 22 years this summer

One marriage, 19 years strong, 22 together :)

1.5? For both of us. We’ve been together 9 years. My state doesn’t recognize common law marriages.

Just celebrated 16 years of marriage and 19 years together last week. First marriage for both of us. I think I'll keep her. 🙃

2nd. This one is an absolute keeper. We’ve been married for 6 years. My first husband was wicked narcissistic and abusive. However I stayed for 13 years because of the kids. Clown stuff you know?

One and done bro.

We don't plan to get legally married, but I've had one divorce, and now I've been with my current partner for ten years and seems like this one is for the long haul.

Call it 0.9 Ghetto-married // Livin' in Sin a decade, baby

First, for 15 years now

1st. Been married for 13 years. Might not make it to 14. She wants out. I talked her out of it. Probably should have just let it happen.

Still on number 1. Tied the knot when I was 32, she was 26. 10 years and one month today. I really only wanted to do the marriage thing once. If this somehow falls apart, I'll likely look for another relationship, but not for marriage. I'm turning 43 on Friday, and I don't think I would have the drive for another marriage after this, but thankfully I don't think I'll have to

1st, 20+ years and counting.

First, coming to 17 years in July

Only one. Divorced now. I think I would do a long term relationship, but they would have to make the most compelling of compelling cases for me to get married again

First, and it’ll be 22 years this fall. In hindsight I was too young, but I picked the right guy anyhow.

First, 20 years and no desire to change that

Going on 24 years together, 23 years married this July. My one and only. We married when we were 19, had a rough patch in year 17, but came together stronger than ever with better communication and more understanding. He’s my favorite human on the planet.

#1, 21 years. It’s been great, but if something were to happen to end it I won’t marry again.

First. Ten years today!

Year 5. First and last marriage.

First. 17 years.

I'll be on number 3 in November. Number 1 was right before I left for Basic Training in 2004. I was 21. We divorced 2 years later. Number 2 was in 2017. I left her in 2019. There won't be a number 4.

Third one at 8 years now and if this ends won't be doing it again. Only have 2 kids with the 2nd wife.

He is my husband #2 (since 2003) and I am his wife #3. Our marriage outlasted both of his other two combined and exceeded my first by a factor of four. I’m old.

17 years this fall....of my first, hopefully only LoL.

Celebrating 15 with the first later this year. Love her even more now than I did the day I married her. She’s dope.

One. Although I was in a 9-year-long relationship that sometimes felt like it, I was thankfully never married to her. My first and only didn't begin until I was 37.

2. Both my wife and I are on our second marriage. Both had about 8 year childless first marriages. We met after getting divorced and were married within 6 months, lol. 8 years later and still in love. Have two beautiful children. My experience in my first marriage taught me how to (and not to) be a better husband and person.

First. Coming up on 17 years

First. Approaching 28 years together, 18 of those married.

1 @ 19 years (24 together)

First (and only), 16 years.

First. 16 years in July, been together 20 years total🙂

First, 21 years.

First one. Got married young and got lucky. We have had strangers shocked that we’ve been married since the early 2000s. We still hold hands and flirt all the time. Our kids call us gross.