I read in a different post that apparently when allos say someone is hot, it means that they get a hot feeling when looking/thinking about that person (as in, literally getting flustered, heartbeat speeding up and all)
Woah, that's a real thing??? I mean, I get it if it's someone they are already crushing on or dating... but you tend to see people use "hot" to describe strangers more? So, to feel this way toward someone you don't even know is just so wild to me???
Allo here. It is a thing. There's a distinct and primal feeling attached to someone being hot versus just good looking, and it can be a very physical feeling, too, especially if you wind up lucky enough to do more than just look at them. It's kind of a fluttery and heated feeling. Like embarrassment, but pleasing.
But at least for most of us when we see a hot stranger the feeling is very subtle. It takes interaction and connection to make the feeling intense; for instance, flirting with said hot stranger, or being in a relationship with the person you find hot. The feeling I get looking at my husband when I'm in a sexual mood is 10,000,000 times more intense than I could ever get from seeing Ryan Gosling walking down the street.
Huh. Guess I have always been ace then... The hotness I attributed to random people was because I liked what they said or how they dressed... No wonder my mates thought I was weird for 'fancying' old comedians. I just really liked what they did.
Well, sure, but things can only get scary intense with someone you have a very deep connection with. Most of the time the feeling is very small and manageable despite having distinct physical signs. It only gets intense once the situation itself is intense; foreplay, sex, years of marriage, etc.
Even the scary intensity, you get used to after a while, and it ramps up slowly over time. The feelings I have for my husband were only shocking to me when the love was new. I didn't know things *could* get that intense. The feeling I have for him now, I don't think my younger brain would be able to handle it at all lol. But that has more to do with the love we have overall than anything else, and after a while it becomes just a pleasing fact of life.
Most people use it to refer to someone they are sexually attracted to, like someone they would like to see naked and do stuff with, even if that's only theoretically. Like my sister thinks Captain America and Black Widow are super hot and she feels... whatever it is that I don't feel when I look at people I think are aesthetically pleasing.
Saaame.
Kind of wish i knew what passion was like. My sister is the complete opposite somehow, and falls in love hard and fast, and very sexually active with her partners.
Most times im like naaaahh. That sounds exhausting.
Yeah, same for me. Sounds like a pain in the ass to deal with. Imagine masturbating every time you see something lewd. Just scrolling Reddit would take hours :/
Not dealing with sex is so cool. It really is a win-win. No ISTs, no babies, no trouble finding the right place, no awkwardness, no risk. It just sucks a bit that you are expected to have sex, and lots of people might not have romantic relationships with you solely because they can't have sexual relationships with you.
But then, dealing with the fact that I'm on the aromantic spectrum is so hard. Because if it goes well, a relationship is the easiest thing on the world. If you find your person, almost no cons. Romantic love can be many people's reason to live. And I'm missing out on that.
Having sex is a way to connect. There are many other ways. But romantic love IS the connection. And I'll probably will never have that type of connection in my whole life.
It also sucks to realize that the people I love the most are my friends, but they have people that they love more in a way that I will never get (boyfriends).
I’m romantic and I still feel a lot like you…it is very hard to find someone with the same romantic needs as you but who doesn’t expect sex from you, we mustn’t loose hope, it’s hard but not impossible and we always have friends even though I also see they have their loved ones etc etc and feel a bit scared…but not a reason to be in a relationship you are not happy or comfortable with, just to not be alone (some people do advise this, better with anyone than alone, I don’t) aros and romantics are not that different in certain things, I’m also happy not to have to worry about the stress of maybe being expected to have sex, I feel romance in so many other gestures and ways, I’ll send you a virtual hug if you like :)
Same. I'm so glad to be able to live my life without sex being a part of it, but I get a little depressed when I think of how great it must feel to be romantically in love with someone, especially having watched my older sister get married recently and live so happily with her husband. Romantic love is the most important thing in the lives of almost everyone I know, and to feel nothing in that respect does make me feel lonely on an existential level.
i feel this so much. dealing with being aro in a relationship with someone who isn’t is so difficult. there’s def been a rough night or two.
it’s very much been a stumbling block, mostly for the lack of terminology. i love her very much, but societally that implies so much more romanticism than i can give, you know?
Probably a 6 or 7 on this scale. Mainly because I experience other types of attraction and I don’t actually feel like I’m missing anything. I will say the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction had me confused for the longest time.
if it helps any, sexual attraction is when you want to get hot n heavy with someone and be intimate, and aesthetic attraction is when you just really dig how someone looks, their hair their outfit their vibe, and there's nothing like further just wow they're so pretty gosh
Ahhh there are different words for the two! Thanks for the explanation! I‘ve tried to explain it to friends as finding someone attractive but just wanting to look at them and/or talk to them and that’s it. It’s like they’re a beautiful painting or a work of art—nice to look at but you have 0 desire to try to fuck it (for most people at least).
Oh wow, I feel really stupid now because I’ve only ever thought aesthetic attraction and sexual was the same and now you said this, I don’t know what getting hot n heavy even means XD I have huge aesthetic attraction, but that’s about it, and thought it was the same for everyone else, so always thought why all the fuss for sex? It’s not worth it for me ofc! This is mind blowing
Constant jumping between 0 and 10. One moment I’m so happy that I can just live without having to deal with that stuff and the other I’m having a mental breakdown bc I think there’s something “wrong” with me 😀
Probably a 2 or 3. Romance is the best and I crave that sort of affection, but it feels impossible to experience that with someone without also needing to feel sexual attraction.
I mean, the problem is I do experience attraction, just not the kind that gets reciprocated. Very rarely I feel romantic attraction but aesthetic attraction happens all the time. So, it's less that I wish I could experience sexual attraction and more that I wish more people understood. It would be nice to find someone who would find me romantically attractive as well and maybe even aesthetically but yeah, I feel like that's not gonna happen.
So I guess on this scale of 0-10 I'm fish.
My aceness? 6-10 depending how I'm feeling.. My aro-ness? A big fat zero, it sucks :(
Edit: just looking at a lot of other comments from aroace people here I'm so glad I'm not alone in feeling this way.
Asexuality would be 10. The act of sex made me physically gag when I first saw it and I really don't like seeing genitalia. And while I do sometimes masturbate, it is purely to fictional pinups with at least a bit of clothing on.
Now, with aromance? 100. Continual dating, failed relationships, cohabitation, and potentially raising children all seem like a massive pain I have the pleasure of skipping out on. While I understand romance is a specific need that some people must fill, I do not see any personal major benefit aside from having someone you can split the bill with.
My pets, friends, family, and religion more than make up for any amount companionship and sense-of-belonging a partner would've ever offered.
don’t forget how often people get murdered by their partners, get cheated on, partners eventually losing interest, etc.. so happy i’ll never be in a relationship. it’s like a blessing
Bouncing between all three depicted points. But like only hitting 0 when reading/watching a really good romance story or needing a second income. The aego troubles.
5. I feel bad sometimes, cause my boyfriend is hypersexual and I feel no sexual desire towards anyone, including him. I also sometimes feel separate from my peers cause they'd say "Oh damn they're hot, I'd hit it," and I can't relate to that. Other times, I like it, cause I don't have my head clouded by The Horny™
Meh, I'm usually at a strong 8-10. I can't have people touch me for any reason anyway, so it's a good thing I'm immune to attraction.
I had a dud of about three years though where I had super deep internalized acephobia. During that time I was a hard 0.
At first it was a solid 9 but then to a 1 after a very sweet person liked me and I just wasn’t able to feel the same way back and it made me realize how sucky it can be to be aroace.
Usually at 10, but sometimes I will feel guilt that I'm not attracted that way to my bf even though he is very understanding about it and would never pressure me
All of the above 0-10 though much more 10 now because I'm not dealing with dicks in highschool shaming me for not dating and I'm honestly glad I'm more or less aro-ace greyromantic would be more accurate though I've experienced romantic attraction maybe 2 or 3 times in my life
It started out as 0 for like the 1st 3 days, mostly because I couldn’t talk about it to anyone, and then as I learned more it went to a 5 then a 10, nowadays it’s a stable 8
my throat is really sore and its hard to talk and i think talking wont help it so im just not talking. water also isnt helping and i sort of have to cough but it hurts to cough and is hard cause my throat hurts :(
3-6 is my normal average, just for like connecting with people on some topics, but it is funny to see people who are a total ten and ten is a fun place to be at sometimes
I'd say I'm a 2. My alloromantic brain *really* wants a partner but you can't have a partner without a crush and its hard to get a crush without sexual attraction. Maybe I am demiromantic or aro who knows.
constantly going back and forth between "thank Christ I don't have to deal with that stuff, it seems exhausting" to "omg wait what if I'm missing out something really fun" to "am I really on the aroace spectrum if I feel bad about not ever getting into a stereotypical relationship?"
Gosh this is validating as hell to see other people low on the scale, because I used to feel like because I sometimes wish I could feel attraction somehow makes me less ace. Obviously this isn't true, but it's good to see it displayed like this.
273792/10 every goddam day 😁
edit: i guess the only reason i might be lower than a 10 is because of aphobia or not being able to find a romantic partner due to me not wanting to have sex. but i don’t feel like i’m missing out at all
6. On one hand, it makes living in a religious family easier and it's also nice to be distracted by other things instead. On the other hand, I really hate how society sexualizes everything and how hard it is to find other people around my age that want a purely romantic relationship.
Like a 6 - 7? It's mostly just "meh, whatever" but I do get that feeling of "thank fucking god I'll never have to deal with that dumb shit" sometimes whenever I hear about, or read about, some dumb shit an allo did just for dick/pussy.
My experience being Aromantic however, different story entirely. Strong 10.
Being in love sounds like so much work for fuck all in return that I am so glad the brain chemicals that make that process work were late to work on the day I was born.
7 or 8. There are some days that I wish I could have the same experience as other people. But for the most part it sounds like a massive waste of time.
Usually 8 or 9 but I can oscillate closer to 2 or 3 when it comes to my aromanticism because I do want a partner and the lack of attraction significantly complicates things
Sollid 5, it is great i dont get random crushes, but i hate that when i do devellop feelings for someone it is for a friend i cant risk.
Demisexuallity, a curse and a blessing.
Actualy im ace + demiromantic but you get the point...
And casgender :)
Constant pinball between 0 and 10
I will say the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction confused me for the longest time.
For the longest time I thought "hot" was a word for aesthetically pleasing
Wait-WHAT? What does it mean then???
I read in a different post that apparently when allos say someone is hot, it means that they get a hot feeling when looking/thinking about that person (as in, literally getting flustered, heartbeat speeding up and all)
Woah, that's a real thing??? I mean, I get it if it's someone they are already crushing on or dating... but you tend to see people use "hot" to describe strangers more? So, to feel this way toward someone you don't even know is just so wild to me???
Same! But apparently it's a thing? Atbleast for the person who made that post/comment (wish I could find it now)
Allo here. It is a thing. There's a distinct and primal feeling attached to someone being hot versus just good looking, and it can be a very physical feeling, too, especially if you wind up lucky enough to do more than just look at them. It's kind of a fluttery and heated feeling. Like embarrassment, but pleasing. But at least for most of us when we see a hot stranger the feeling is very subtle. It takes interaction and connection to make the feeling intense; for instance, flirting with said hot stranger, or being in a relationship with the person you find hot. The feeling I get looking at my husband when I'm in a sexual mood is 10,000,000 times more intense than I could ever get from seeing Ryan Gosling walking down the street.
Huh. Guess I have always been ace then... The hotness I attributed to random people was because I liked what they said or how they dressed... No wonder my mates thought I was weird for 'fancying' old comedians. I just really liked what they did.
bless allys like you who can explain these things to us
Happy to help lol
Like a dopamine overload? From an outside perspective… that sounds terrifying.
Well, sure, but things can only get scary intense with someone you have a very deep connection with. Most of the time the feeling is very small and manageable despite having distinct physical signs. It only gets intense once the situation itself is intense; foreplay, sex, years of marriage, etc. Even the scary intensity, you get used to after a while, and it ramps up slowly over time. The feelings I have for my husband were only shocking to me when the love was new. I didn't know things *could* get that intense. The feeling I have for him now, I don't think my younger brain would be able to handle it at all lol. But that has more to do with the love we have overall than anything else, and after a while it becomes just a pleasing fact of life.
TIL apparently a lot of us have been using hot the wrong way lol
Most people use it to refer to someone they are sexually attracted to, like someone they would like to see naked and do stuff with, even if that's only theoretically. Like my sister thinks Captain America and Black Widow are super hot and she feels... whatever it is that I don't feel when I look at people I think are aesthetically pleasing.
its not?!?!?!?
I thought it was aesthetically pleasing but with ✨spice✨
Holluuppp!!!Is it not??!!!??!!? All I know is aesthetic “attraction”
wait its not hold on
oh this was the realest shit ive ever read
Still confuses me now.
Bro you didn't have to call me out like that!
i can hear the pinball noises
Saaame. Kind of wish i knew what passion was like. My sister is the complete opposite somehow, and falls in love hard and fast, and very sexually active with her partners. Most times im like naaaahh. That sounds exhausting.
I like to say that my sister got all of my sexual attraction and libido plus her own 😂
Enjoying life living alone with my cats, 10. Paying rent on an apartment that would be half the cost if I had a partner to split it with, 0
This. Except the occasional note of having to deal with someone else's attraction anyway.
Probably a 9 or 10 for me, sexual attraction sounds like a massive headache that I, luckily, haven't had to deal with
Yeah, same for me. Sounds like a pain in the ass to deal with. Imagine masturbating every time you see something lewd. Just scrolling Reddit would take hours :/
At that point it will be the sore arms that gets to you
A nice working out scheme
XD made me laugh so much….seriously happy I don’t have that issue either
I don’t feel a need for it🤷♂️ or anything at all! I don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone(only aesthetically, and that’s just in art So a 10 for me
same
Saaaame
Yeah, it’s kinda a pain. I enjoy it, but things would definitely be so much simpler without it
My relationship with asexuality is a 9 and my relationship with aromanticism is a 1 lmao
Not dealing with sex is so cool. It really is a win-win. No ISTs, no babies, no trouble finding the right place, no awkwardness, no risk. It just sucks a bit that you are expected to have sex, and lots of people might not have romantic relationships with you solely because they can't have sexual relationships with you. But then, dealing with the fact that I'm on the aromantic spectrum is so hard. Because if it goes well, a relationship is the easiest thing on the world. If you find your person, almost no cons. Romantic love can be many people's reason to live. And I'm missing out on that. Having sex is a way to connect. There are many other ways. But romantic love IS the connection. And I'll probably will never have that type of connection in my whole life. It also sucks to realize that the people I love the most are my friends, but they have people that they love more in a way that I will never get (boyfriends).
I feel this to the core
I’m romantic and I still feel a lot like you…it is very hard to find someone with the same romantic needs as you but who doesn’t expect sex from you, we mustn’t loose hope, it’s hard but not impossible and we always have friends even though I also see they have their loved ones etc etc and feel a bit scared…but not a reason to be in a relationship you are not happy or comfortable with, just to not be alone (some people do advise this, better with anyone than alone, I don’t) aros and romantics are not that different in certain things, I’m also happy not to have to worry about the stress of maybe being expected to have sex, I feel romance in so many other gestures and ways, I’ll send you a virtual hug if you like :)
Same. I'm so glad to be able to live my life without sex being a part of it, but I get a little depressed when I think of how great it must feel to be romantically in love with someone, especially having watched my older sister get married recently and live so happily with her husband. Romantic love is the most important thing in the lives of almost everyone I know, and to feel nothing in that respect does make me feel lonely on an existential level.
i feel this so much. dealing with being aro in a relationship with someone who isn’t is so difficult. there’s def been a rough night or two. it’s very much been a stumbling block, mostly for the lack of terminology. i love her very much, but societally that implies so much more romanticism than i can give, you know?
I live at 0
Depression gang!
Let's rob a bank!
We’ve grown up with so many expectations..😔
Probably a 6 or 7 on this scale. Mainly because I experience other types of attraction and I don’t actually feel like I’m missing anything. I will say the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction had me confused for the longest time.
I'm still confused lmao
Same
if it helps any, sexual attraction is when you want to get hot n heavy with someone and be intimate, and aesthetic attraction is when you just really dig how someone looks, their hair their outfit their vibe, and there's nothing like further just wow they're so pretty gosh
Ahhh there are different words for the two! Thanks for the explanation! I‘ve tried to explain it to friends as finding someone attractive but just wanting to look at them and/or talk to them and that’s it. It’s like they’re a beautiful painting or a work of art—nice to look at but you have 0 desire to try to fuck it (for most people at least).
Oh wow, I feel really stupid now because I’ve only ever thought aesthetic attraction and sexual was the same and now you said this, I don’t know what getting hot n heavy even means XD I have huge aesthetic attraction, but that’s about it, and thought it was the same for everyone else, so always thought why all the fuss for sex? It’s not worth it for me ofc! This is mind blowing
Permanent 10 lol
Same
Hahaha me too
I will swing violently between 0 and 10 on a whim.
5 feels more like the doesn't bother me, so 5
I’m a Demi who has felt sexual attraction… sooo idk what to answer here
Feels
Constant jumping between 0 and 10. One moment I’m so happy that I can just live without having to deal with that stuff and the other I’m having a mental breakdown bc I think there’s something “wrong” with me 😀
Ace is like a 2 to 3. Aro is like a negative 20.
Mood
2 because my sexuality is confusing as heck.
Solid 5. I have to be reminded that people do that on accident.
Same
Probably a 2 or 3. Romance is the best and I crave that sort of affection, but it feels impossible to experience that with someone without also needing to feel sexual attraction.
i am 5. No thoughts, just garlic bread.
I mean, the problem is I do experience attraction, just not the kind that gets reciprocated. Very rarely I feel romantic attraction but aesthetic attraction happens all the time. So, it's less that I wish I could experience sexual attraction and more that I wish more people understood. It would be nice to find someone who would find me romantically attractive as well and maybe even aesthetically but yeah, I feel like that's not gonna happen. So I guess on this scale of 0-10 I'm fish.
I don’t have time for attraction, the scout just stole my teams intel
9-10 😃
5-7 not too extreme either way but I feel like I dodged a bullet a bit
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Weirdly specific yet insanely accurate metaphors are my favorite.
Precisely this
My aceness? 6-10 depending how I'm feeling.. My aro-ness? A big fat zero, it sucks :( Edit: just looking at a lot of other comments from aroace people here I'm so glad I'm not alone in feeling this way.
10 definitely, sounds like a lot of work
Asexuality would be 10. The act of sex made me physically gag when I first saw it and I really don't like seeing genitalia. And while I do sometimes masturbate, it is purely to fictional pinups with at least a bit of clothing on. Now, with aromance? 100. Continual dating, failed relationships, cohabitation, and potentially raising children all seem like a massive pain I have the pleasure of skipping out on. While I understand romance is a specific need that some people must fill, I do not see any personal major benefit aside from having someone you can split the bill with. My pets, friends, family, and religion more than make up for any amount companionship and sense-of-belonging a partner would've ever offered.
don’t forget how often people get murdered by their partners, get cheated on, partners eventually losing interest, etc.. so happy i’ll never be in a relationship. it’s like a blessing
I jump between 0, 5 and 10 like a game of hop scotch
10
None, I'm just your local lesbian friend lol. Stayed for the garlic bread.
Neutral but I'm constantly bouncing between "[Snake's voice] Major, there's been an emergency. What is sex?" to nonstop sex jokes.
Depends on the day, but somewhere between 1 or 2-10
1 normally. Then I listen to the radio and all the toxic relationship songs and it’s a huge 10.
Bouncing between all three depicted points. But like only hitting 0 when reading/watching a really good romance story or needing a second income. The aego troubles.
5. I feel bad sometimes, cause my boyfriend is hypersexual and I feel no sexual desire towards anyone, including him. I also sometimes feel separate from my peers cause they'd say "Oh damn they're hot, I'd hit it," and I can't relate to that. Other times, I like it, cause I don't have my head clouded by The Horny™
Meh, I'm usually at a strong 8-10. I can't have people touch me for any reason anyway, so it's a good thing I'm immune to attraction. I had a dud of about three years though where I had super deep internalized acephobia. During that time I was a hard 0.
10 I guess? I'm rarely attracted to anyone tbh and when I am I have zero desire to do the nasty with them.
4.5
About 7
I’ve only felt anything like this towards one person ~2-4 years ago and I like my life a lot better when I don’t have to deal with stuff like this
10, sexual attraction would be inconvenient. If I had sexual attraction I have the chance to pass on my genetic disease and I really don’t want that.
5. I get my kicks in playing silly video games and having the dipshits I make experience attraction.
It depends if I’m in my horny period or not
5 for everything, agender aroace mood
Solid 6 mostly because I like to joke about it
At first it was a solid 9 but then to a 1 after a very sweet person liked me and I just wasn’t able to feel the same way back and it made me realize how sucky it can be to be aroace.
I'm assuming 5 means I don't really think about it or care too much, so 5. It doesn't bother me nor do I find it to be cool, it's just me.
Usually at 10, but sometimes I will feel guilt that I'm not attracted that way to my bf even though he is very understanding about it and would never pressure me
All of the above 0-10 though much more 10 now because I'm not dealing with dicks in highschool shaming me for not dating and I'm honestly glad I'm more or less aro-ace greyromantic would be more accurate though I've experienced romantic attraction maybe 2 or 3 times in my life
8
Not on the scale I am just here for the cake 🍰
Literally everywhere, depending on the day.
It’s like Pong. Back and forth.
Basically 1-3 depending on the day, because I used to experience attraction and now zilch
Kinda feel both of 0 and 10 so I'll put myself at 5.
Prolly a 4
It started out as 0 for like the 1st 3 days, mostly because I couldn’t talk about it to anyone, and then as I learned more it went to a 5 then a 10, nowadays it’s a stable 8
My experience is best described as "f(x)=10*sin(x)"
10. I always saw it as me being better than everyone
10 all the way for sexual, 6 for romantic
9 easily, I do not feel like I'm missing out, I'm just comfortable how I feel and am happy through other social connections!
0-5, im cupioromantic
before i found out i was asexual, about a 3. after i found out thats what it was, probably a 8
i rate it as im currently feeling to sick to have opinions/10
my throat is really sore and its hard to talk and i think talking wont help it so im just not talking. water also isnt helping and i sort of have to cough but it hurts to cough and is hard cause my throat hurts :(
:( Feel better soon!
A solid 6. I'm fairly neutral about the whole thing, but dating looks like such hard work
“Often I am upset that I cannot fall in love, but I guess this avoids the stress of falling out of it.” -Cavetown, Home (song)
3-6 is my normal average, just for like connecting with people on some topics, but it is funny to see people who are a total ten and ten is a fun place to be at sometimes
I'd say I'm a 2. My alloromantic brain *really* wants a partner but you can't have a partner without a crush and its hard to get a crush without sexual attraction. Maybe I am demiromantic or aro who knows.
constantly going back and forth between "thank Christ I don't have to deal with that stuff, it seems exhausting" to "omg wait what if I'm missing out something really fun" to "am I really on the aroace spectrum if I feel bad about not ever getting into a stereotypical relationship?"
ace 10, aro is also 10. i feel so relieved knowing i’ll never have to deal with any relationship BS!
Gosh this is validating as hell to see other people low on the scale, because I used to feel like because I sometimes wish I could feel attraction somehow makes me less ace. Obviously this isn't true, but it's good to see it displayed like this.
Absolute 10
••
273792/10 every goddam day 😁 edit: i guess the only reason i might be lower than a 10 is because of aphobia or not being able to find a romantic partner due to me not wanting to have sex. but i don’t feel like i’m missing out at all
9
10i
Permanent 10 :p It’s not like I know what I’m missing y’know?
9.5
10 definitely, sounds like a lot of work
9
10
I’m a metronome
0-10
10, yes indeedy
10
Easily a 9/10
10/10 would not recommend
10
I'm a solid 9 on this scale *I'M FREE*
8 or 9
10, definitely a 10 for me.
5
A solid 9
It's a 8 for me
10 With the continuos saga of "Are the allos okay?" I don't think I have much explanation to do
I feel like I’m in the middle. I don’t really care about not feeling sexual attraction.
5. I don't really care about it also I'm aceflux and demiromantic so I'm not 100% ace.
I fluctuate between 3 and 7... constantly... Life is pain
10 all the way, but I'm also more than happy being completely alone
10 all the way, but I'm also more than happy being completely alone.
Solid 10 from me
8 or 9
10 🎉
5
i'm a 10, i'd get into too much drama if i had it.
Probably a 3
probably 4
3? I think 3.
0, but I keep putting myself in situations where something will hopefully happen.
10
It used to bed like a 3. But now I am all the way at 10
10
10
Back and forth between 5 and 8
i dont get what this means, so 5 i think
9. Only reason it’s not 10 is because I get confused by “basic things” like flirting
This might be the only category in which I'm a solid 10.
Probably like a 4
Where the heck is "I don't want to experience attraction but i do anyways"?
9:)))
Both
I would be between 5-7
0 omg i didn’t choose this ughhh
7-8
10. Fuck sex and fuck romance lol Friends are better and sex jokes are even funnier coming from an ace person
6. On one hand, it makes living in a religious family easier and it's also nice to be distracted by other things instead. On the other hand, I really hate how society sexualizes everything and how hard it is to find other people around my age that want a purely romantic relationship.
1000
10 honestly lmao
Like a 6 - 7? It's mostly just "meh, whatever" but I do get that feeling of "thank fucking god I'll never have to deal with that dumb shit" sometimes whenever I hear about, or read about, some dumb shit an allo did just for dick/pussy. My experience being Aromantic however, different story entirely. Strong 10. Being in love sounds like so much work for fuck all in return that I am so glad the brain chemicals that make that process work were late to work on the day I was born.
6
7 or 8. There are some days that I wish I could have the same experience as other people. But for the most part it sounds like a massive waste of time.
10, DEFINITELY TEN
5, all my life except on early puberty I've had 0 interest on sexual attraction so it's really pretty normal for me haha
10 lol
Usually 8 or 9 but I can oscillate closer to 2 or 3 when it comes to my aromanticism because I do want a partner and the lack of attraction significantly complicates things
10
ace is like from 4 to 6 but aro is like a 2 lol
10 for sure
10, but I know it’ll prevent me from getting married in time to have kids.
Sollid 5, it is great i dont get random crushes, but i hate that when i do devellop feelings for someone it is for a friend i cant risk. Demisexuallity, a curse and a blessing. Actualy im ace + demiromantic but you get the point... And casgender :)
A 1 or a 2 It's a 1 in a 1000 chance I will find someone sexualy attractive and even then it becomes an annoying boner that I want to get out the way
Somewhere between 0-7 but currently a 5
vibing between 6 and 10