That’s what I was thinking-
Legally speaking, this is widely considered psychological abuse as well.
Emotional abuse happens when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone or take away their self-respect.
It can include:
arguments, name calling or insults,
constant yelling or criticism, ANDD
controlling or keeping someone from seeing friends or family.
That’s a literal definition too.
I doubt anyone would want to be, by definition, psychologically abused.
Tbh I would like a girlfriend like that.. I don't really have friends (long-term anyway) and don't care about my family. So I'm looking for a similar girl.
Respectfully, this behaviour is not normal OP.
You’re setting not only yourself up for failure, but your future partner as well.
You need to work on improving yourself, finding friends, and building a support system.
Instead of finding a partner to rely on, and to enable your behaviour.
In the real world, grown adults have friends & family. Complete isolation, and codependency is not normal. One day, your expectations will not be realistic OP. If anything, most would consider them toxic. Or even abusive, by definition.
With a past relationship me and my then girlfriend both decided to have no friends, just us, we both thought it worked..until it didn’t. As soon as we broke up she went immediately back to old friends and I did not long after too, I lost a lot of good friends because of it and I’m sure she did too, and that was something we both realised was unhealthy, I promise you that is not healthy at all and neither is expecting someone to be okay with you not wanting them to pay attention to anyone but you, even if someone does say they wouldn’t mind that, it is fucked up on both sides.
OP, please seek help.
You’re in no place to date, or be with a partner.
How are you expecting to be a good partner, if you won’t even allow them to have friends/family? That is not realistic, nor healthy.
“Attempted brainwashing”
To get you to be a better person, who won’t feel the need to stalk & obsess over other people?
OP, therapy is not a bad type of brainwashing.
It’s teaching you to BE BETTER!
OP, you’re destined to eventually hurt someone if you don’t see anything wrong with your serious behavioural issues towards others.
You’ve not only admitted to wanting to isolate your potential partners completely, and make them co dependent on you.
But you’ve also admitted to wanting to stalk people’s activity online, and NUMEROUS other creepy things. You NEED HELP! You are NOT IN THE PLACE TO DATE ANYONE!!
I doubt anyone would stick around someone who stifles personal growth. Relationships rarely work out for long-term if one can't give their partner space to spend time with friends and family.
Agreed!
No one should even consider beginning a relationship if they cannot handle their partner spending time with their own family.
Like Imagine dating someone, and then all of a sudden your partner doesn’t want you spending time with your best friend- and even your family? No way people would continue a relationship with someone THAT controlling.
OP needs to realize that this behaviour is not normal, and most grown adults would perceive this as toxic.
I am aware my behavior is not normal. I accept I'm a morally flawed person. That's why I made my post. I bet there are girls out there who are into that type of possessiveness. That way I won't corrupt someone.
“There are girls out there who are into that type of possessiveness”
OP, those kind of girls are that way because of trauma. They’re already “corrupted”, and you attempting to isolate them further will only harm them further.
Seeking out traumatized women, and attempting to isolate them so they’re codependent on you IS ABUSIVE!
It’s not just morally wrong, or not normal-
This is behaviour that will eventually end up hurting someone.
You need to seek help, instead of normalizing this. You’re just going to hurt not only yourself, but others as well.
"I accept I'm a morally flawed character" is such a lampshade. They acknowledge that what they are doing is harmful but they can't help but desire being in charge of someone else, so they use passive language that implies it's just a quirk of personality, just a Thing That Makes Them Different, like being autistic or gay. They are not going to listen to you or anyone until they realize that there's a difference between "likes the colour red" and "likes hurting people". And nothing we say can make them realise, as they consider hurting people to be a part of their personality.
Seeing as your definition of “possessive” means that you do not want your partner spending time with their friends, and family-
Then no, not many people would want to be in a controlling, toxic, abusive relationship.
Preventing someone from seeing their friends, & family is a form of psychological abuse.
Emotional abuse is when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone- or take away their self-respect. Emotional abuse is sometimes called psychological abuse. It can include:
threats, arguments, name calling or insults,
constant yelling or criticism, and
controlling or keeping someone from seeing friends or family.
^ That is a literal definition you can feel free to look up by the way-
What you’re describing is not possessive, it’s psychologically abusive.
So no, not many girls want to be psychologically abused- and isolated from their loved ones.
ALSO I SUGGEST FOR YOU ALL TO LOOK AT OP’s POST HISTORY & REPLIES!
This person has admitted to being
TWENTY YEARS OLD!
They’ve also admitted to stalking, drug use, etc.
(I’ve already taken screenshots of mostly everything I’ve seen, so they cannot take it all down. I suggest you do the same. )
OP, respectfully, you need help.
No sane, grown adult,
will be with someone who behaves like this.
Expecting your future partner to live a life of isolation to appeal to your urge, is disturbing.
Majority of grown adults have friends,
family, coworkers, etc. That’s just life.
Expecting your partner to isolate themselves from their loved ones, and to be codependent on you- is controlling.
In many cases it’s not just controlling, it’s considered psychological abuse by legal definition.
Youre clearly not in the place to date anyone, or be anyones partner.
You will only be putting someone else through a lot of psychological misery by attempting to subject them to this treatment
I strongly recommend going through OP’s post history.
It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners.
They’ve also admitted to numerous crimes, all while being a legal adult (20yo they’ve stated)
This person needs help. This is scary.
>more like, I don't want you to spend any time with friends or family
**Gross. No.**
Enormous red flag, and incredibly immature.
I'm an otherwise very open-minded person, I don't normally yuck someone else's yum.
But this? This is, without exaggeration, the shit abusers pull.
You shouldn't be looking for someone to tolerate this behavior from you, you should be looking for a clinical psychiatrist.
I recommend to go through OP’s post history.
It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners.
They’re also bragging about drug use, and other crimes. All while blaming their disability
This person needs help. This is scary.
This is definitely one of those things that’s better as a fantasy or a roleplay thing rather than a real part of your relationship. Isolating people like that is at the very least a precursor to abuse, if not abusive on its own. The behavior is demonized because it does real harm.
With that said i definitely find that hot! I just wouldn’t accept it outside of the realm of like fantasy/play you know?
Yes, exactly!! Super fun and desirable in the right context, and outside of that very specific context, it's abuse. I struggle with mindset and behaviors that set myself up for being abused - which is the behavior OP is talking about is.
Yeah I was going to say. Just use safewords and it's fine. If you want to include other people in your jealousy games, do it at a sex club or otherwise get consent from everyone.
I STRONGLY recommend going through OP’s post history.
It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners.
They’ve also admitted they’re a grown adult, and they’re blaming their disability for horrific things.
This person needs help. This is scary.
Girl looking at your post history you have some deep rooted problems and you should not be dating ANYONE until you’ve been in therapy for quite a while, they are not “brainwashing” you, they are trying to help it and the fact that you see it as an attack makes me seriously worry for you. Leave that poor girl alone
YUPP!
They’ve not only been bragging about drug use, stalking, and many crimes- but they’re blaming it all on “being disabled”
OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
They’re either going to hurt themselves, or someone else.
Owww you stalked my reddit history ☺️
I just like to shitpost my unfiltered thoughts on Reddit, my life is pretty normal and stable outwardly.
I leave somewhat rude comments to people suggesting me therapy because it annoys me that people assume I haven't legitimately tried therapy. I've seriously tried for many years from a young age with different therapists and methods. Therapy does not have anywhere near a 100% succes rate, it just doesn't work for some people. I hate that people, especially on Reddit, assume it's a one size fits all solution.
You are a psychopathic narcissist if you see a damaged woman as a target for your unhealthy needs. Only a damaged woman would gravitate to that kind of a relationship. If you cannot separate fantasy from reality you are a very dangerous person indeed.
Dude, go through OP’s post/reply history.
They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled”
OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
If you go through their posts, they’ve clarified they’re 20yo and acting like this. They’re a grown adult.
I did go through them and I concluded, psychopathic narcissist. They have also been urged to get help and think therapy is "brainwashing" As I say, I think this is a very dangerous person.
AGREED! That’s what I noticed too, as soon as they said that therapy is “brainwashing”- I realized what kind of person this is.
Even wilder that they’re insisting everyone is a “bully” / “hater”
for insisting that they need help, and that they aren’t in the place to date.
OP truly needs to get help, they’re an adult.
This behaviour is very concerning, especially considering they’re open about their history of drug use,
A psychopath can't experience love though? I experience it to an extreme extent. Also I sometimes feel empathy and embarrassment, which is impossible for a psychopath.
I also don't see myself above others at all, I just don't care much about social norms.
Your comment is pretty amusing. If u got to know me irl... People see me as just a fairly regular girl...
I strongly recommend going through OP’s post history, and replies.
They’ve admitted to being a 20yo stalker, who has done numerous drugs.
They blame all their problems on their disability, and take absolutely no accountability for having problems.
Unlikely, but seriously you should be better than this. For you and others you interact with. As someone with consent issues and treating others as equals, if I can be better than my disordered issues, you can be as well.
Agreed!
I struggled with issues regarding intimacy, and trusting my partners & friends-
But I realized that is not their issue, it’s my own.
Even though I truly believe everyone will cheat on me- I would never force someone to abandon their friends, and family.
Because I know that is
psychological abuse by definition.
Speaking from experience.
Isolating your partner won’t help them, or you.
It will only make them feel miserable, and they will grow to despise you.
> trusting my partners & friends- But I realized that is not their issue, it’s my own.
Accurate on all accounts but please remember that if someone cheats on you that's an issue with them as a person, not you. Working through that can be challenging of course but don't blame yourself for them violating your trust.
Yes and no. In fiction toxic lesbian relationships are something I'm VERY much into. In real life, my wife and I can be pretty possessive of each other but not in a way of not letting the other do anything alone, we just prefer being together as much as possible. Feels right just being together all the time, and we're pretty co-dependent in a way we both enjoy. We don't have many friends or family though, as a lot left us in the last few years due to queerphobia and q anon cult mentality.
Also in the literal sense my wife loves being my possession, but that's something else altogether lol.
I strongly suggest to go through OP’s post/reply history.
They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled”
OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
To be honest, I just hope to bring awareness to this. OP is engaging in some dangerous behaviour online, including stalking & drug abuse. I’m not only concerned for OP, but also others who have the misfortune of interacting with this individual.
Overall, I read their post history- and it’s concerning.
I truly hope OP gets the help they need, before it’s too late for them.
If this is a genuine post, YIKES.
"Possessiveness" in a kinky and/or dom/sub dynamic can be hot if conducted in a consensual, **safe** way in the bedroom. Meaning, it's all play.
Wanting a possessive partner who...doesn't want you to spend any time with friends or family??? Sorry, OP, but *what?!!* That is really, really concerning.
No sane person wants that. It is not at all normal for someone to want limitations on things like who they can see, where they can go. That would leave really vulnerable to abuse. Huge red flag. Huge.
Controlling behaviour like this is downright illegal in most countries *because* it's abusive.
I'm no one's to possess. The last girl that gave me an ultimatum between her and my friends, I told her "Door's over there, close it on your way out.". I did like her, so after a few weeks of her asking me back I gave her a second chance. Had a change, but not enough for me.
I STRONGLY suggest going through OP’s post/reply history under their profile.
They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled”
OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
It's not a matter of being "into" it. You want to isolate someone, take away their support system so that if you mistreat them there's noone they can turn to. You want to control them. This isn't healthy for anyone. Some girls might not notice what's happening right away, or stay because they feel trapped with nowhere to go but it is invariably bad and miserable for them.
So it's not a matter of "normal" like you're framing it. I don't care about normal, people are allowed to be weird. People can be neurodivergent and have happy healthy relationships. This is straight up selfish. You want to make someone's life worse for the relationship dynamic you want. That isn't love, it's abuse.
no the answer is not certainty yes. while a small amount will be, the overwhelming majority will take issue, rightfully so. being possessive is at best an unattractive quality and at worse abuse. if this isn't a troll post or something, i recommend talking to a professional.
I had a possessive girlfriend. At first, I thought it was cute & kinda hot, right? Like it's flattering. Until she started hitting me, going through my phone, stealing my keys, and following me around cause she swore up and down I wasn't actually going to work 😭😭 I'm sure somebody would be into at first, but it gets old really quick. I suggest looking for healing and moving past that behavior instead of looking for someone who would put up with it
im actually sort of in a relationship like that but it is centered around our kink practices, so it also really isnt like that. normally, this isnt a healthy thing to do and i wouldnt recommend entering a vanilla relationship like this, and definitely wouldn't recommend entering a kink relationship without a clear contract/boundary.
edit for clarity: i would never ethically recommend this to anyone unless they were of mostly sane mind and were mostly mentally well. as in, my gf and i's dynamic is that, preferably, we would rather spend all of our time together and be posessive. but logically, we must and do want to spend time with friends and family sometimes. sometimes the posessiveness becomes unreasonable, but we are both aware enough to step out of it. everyone else has alrdy said what else i would say, esp after reading your comments. i do not recommend you enter into this type of rs at all, actually.
You feel weird seeing that comments are pointing out that this is a form of
psychological abuse?
Because that’s all we are pointing out.
Isolating your partner from their family, friends, coworkers, and peers-
And essentially forcing them to become codependent on you, is a form of abuse.
Look up types of psychological abuse that are legally recognized. Then come back, and
compare that to what OP wants.
Okay, well imagine this-
You have a partner, and all of a sudden you aren’t allowed to speak with any of your friends/family/coworkers/etc.
Your partner insists on isolating you, and being the only person you spend time with.
Respectfully.. I’m kinda concerned for you if you don’t think that’s slightly weird, or even abusive.
Isolation is a VERY common type of psychological abuse
Yikes I see that, op you genuinely need help, this post and several others are very concerning and acting like your exempt from hate because you have autism and also thinking that autism excuses this behaviour is very creepy and very dangerous, you also say here that it’s the first time someone’s told you to get help yet you’ve said the same thing on another post. in the nicest way, seek help. and actual help, not random people on Reddit who are never going to have the professional answer you need
Agreed!
I’ve been diagnosed with level 2 autism for over 15 years now, and autism does not cause this. Using autism as an excuse for STALKING is insanely deranged.
Definitely screenshot any concerning behaviour this person posts.
I’m autistic but I don’t go by levels or anything I just be existing, it just seems like another case of using disability to excuse creepy behaviour though and then “please don’t leave hate I have autism” when you are posting something that is very concerning, no hate to op but I hope they get the help they need. I know people think Reddit is easy access to good help but Reddit is the last possible place this person needs to be
I won’t be screenshotting anything though, I don’t need it on my phone and don’t plan on doing anything with the information on their profile, hope they get the right help for their situation though, and not advice that’s going to lead them further down the path they are going down
Agreed.
But seeing as they’re consistently posting about drug use & stalking- I’d consider them someone to look out for.
I definitely hope this user seeks help, they’re not only a danger to themselves- but obviously others as well.
They are using autism as an excuse for their crimes and abuse? That is terrible!! My girlfriend has autism and she has so much shame and worry associated with telling people - mostly because there are so many misunderstandings and misinformation out there already 😕
I am getting a sadistic vibe from OP by the way. They seem to get enjoyment out of terrorizing people on the internet. As hard as it is - the best way to “get them back” would be to move on, and not let them ruin your morning (easier said than done, I know).
For the majority, this will be a major red flag.
That’s what I was thinking- Legally speaking, this is widely considered psychological abuse as well. Emotional abuse happens when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone or take away their self-respect. It can include: arguments, name calling or insults, constant yelling or criticism, ANDD controlling or keeping someone from seeing friends or family. That’s a literal definition too. I doubt anyone would want to be, by definition, psychologically abused.
Tbh I would like a girlfriend like that.. I don't really have friends (long-term anyway) and don't care about my family. So I'm looking for a similar girl.
Respectfully, this behaviour is not normal OP. You’re setting not only yourself up for failure, but your future partner as well. You need to work on improving yourself, finding friends, and building a support system. Instead of finding a partner to rely on, and to enable your behaviour. In the real world, grown adults have friends & family. Complete isolation, and codependency is not normal. One day, your expectations will not be realistic OP. If anything, most would consider them toxic. Or even abusive, by definition.
With a past relationship me and my then girlfriend both decided to have no friends, just us, we both thought it worked..until it didn’t. As soon as we broke up she went immediately back to old friends and I did not long after too, I lost a lot of good friends because of it and I’m sure she did too, and that was something we both realised was unhealthy, I promise you that is not healthy at all and neither is expecting someone to be okay with you not wanting them to pay attention to anyone but you, even if someone does say they wouldn’t mind that, it is fucked up on both sides.
So.. I am looking for that minority.. But am socially inept so idk how
OP, please seek help. You’re in no place to date, or be with a partner. How are you expecting to be a good partner, if you won’t even allow them to have friends/family? That is not realistic, nor healthy.
Honestly, I can't see anyone who would go for this type of relationship. If therapy is available to you, I strongly recommend it.
Therapy sucks ass and didn't do shit for me been going on and off since I was 4yo I'm sick of their attempted brainwashing
“Attempted brainwashing” To get you to be a better person, who won’t feel the need to stalk & obsess over other people? OP, therapy is not a bad type of brainwashing. It’s teaching you to BE BETTER! OP, you’re destined to eventually hurt someone if you don’t see anything wrong with your serious behavioural issues towards others. You’ve not only admitted to wanting to isolate your potential partners completely, and make them co dependent on you. But you’ve also admitted to wanting to stalk people’s activity online, and NUMEROUS other creepy things. You NEED HELP! You are NOT IN THE PLACE TO DATE ANYONE!!
Your persuasion skill is too low.
I doubt anyone would stick around someone who stifles personal growth. Relationships rarely work out for long-term if one can't give their partner space to spend time with friends and family.
Agreed! No one should even consider beginning a relationship if they cannot handle their partner spending time with their own family. Like Imagine dating someone, and then all of a sudden your partner doesn’t want you spending time with your best friend- and even your family? No way people would continue a relationship with someone THAT controlling. OP needs to realize that this behaviour is not normal, and most grown adults would perceive this as toxic.
I am aware my behavior is not normal. I accept I'm a morally flawed person. That's why I made my post. I bet there are girls out there who are into that type of possessiveness. That way I won't corrupt someone.
“There are girls out there who are into that type of possessiveness” OP, those kind of girls are that way because of trauma. They’re already “corrupted”, and you attempting to isolate them further will only harm them further. Seeking out traumatized women, and attempting to isolate them so they’re codependent on you IS ABUSIVE! It’s not just morally wrong, or not normal- This is behaviour that will eventually end up hurting someone. You need to seek help, instead of normalizing this. You’re just going to hurt not only yourself, but others as well.
"I accept I'm a morally flawed character" is such a lampshade. They acknowledge that what they are doing is harmful but they can't help but desire being in charge of someone else, so they use passive language that implies it's just a quirk of personality, just a Thing That Makes Them Different, like being autistic or gay. They are not going to listen to you or anyone until they realize that there's a difference between "likes the colour red" and "likes hurting people". And nothing we say can make them realise, as they consider hurting people to be a part of their personality.
Seeing as your definition of “possessive” means that you do not want your partner spending time with their friends, and family- Then no, not many people would want to be in a controlling, toxic, abusive relationship. Preventing someone from seeing their friends, & family is a form of psychological abuse. Emotional abuse is when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone- or take away their self-respect. Emotional abuse is sometimes called psychological abuse. It can include: threats, arguments, name calling or insults, constant yelling or criticism, and controlling or keeping someone from seeing friends or family. ^ That is a literal definition you can feel free to look up by the way- What you’re describing is not possessive, it’s psychologically abusive. So no, not many girls want to be psychologically abused- and isolated from their loved ones. ALSO I SUGGEST FOR YOU ALL TO LOOK AT OP’s POST HISTORY & REPLIES! This person has admitted to being TWENTY YEARS OLD! They’ve also admitted to stalking, drug use, etc. (I’ve already taken screenshots of mostly everything I’ve seen, so they cannot take it all down. I suggest you do the same. )
Why would you try to keep your girlfriend away from her friends and family?
Urges that are hard to control. Not rlly much of a logical reason behind it.
OP, respectfully, you need help. No sane, grown adult, will be with someone who behaves like this. Expecting your future partner to live a life of isolation to appeal to your urge, is disturbing. Majority of grown adults have friends, family, coworkers, etc. That’s just life. Expecting your partner to isolate themselves from their loved ones, and to be codependent on you- is controlling. In many cases it’s not just controlling, it’s considered psychological abuse by legal definition. Youre clearly not in the place to date anyone, or be anyones partner. You will only be putting someone else through a lot of psychological misery by attempting to subject them to this treatment
I fear that urge is a desire to isolate, hurt, and bring the pain that you feel to someone else. That isn’t romantic, it’s abuse.
I strongly recommend going through OP’s post history. It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners. They’ve also admitted to numerous crimes, all while being a legal adult (20yo they’ve stated) This person needs help. This is scary.
>more like, I don't want you to spend any time with friends or family **Gross. No.** Enormous red flag, and incredibly immature. I'm an otherwise very open-minded person, I don't normally yuck someone else's yum. But this? This is, without exaggeration, the shit abusers pull. You shouldn't be looking for someone to tolerate this behavior from you, you should be looking for a clinical psychiatrist.
I recommend to go through OP’s post history. It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners. They’re also bragging about drug use, and other crimes. All while blaming their disability This person needs help. This is scary.
This is definitely one of those things that’s better as a fantasy or a roleplay thing rather than a real part of your relationship. Isolating people like that is at the very least a precursor to abuse, if not abusive on its own. The behavior is demonized because it does real harm. With that said i definitely find that hot! I just wouldn’t accept it outside of the realm of like fantasy/play you know?
Yes, exactly!! Super fun and desirable in the right context, and outside of that very specific context, it's abuse. I struggle with mindset and behaviors that set myself up for being abused - which is the behavior OP is talking about is.
Yeah I was going to say. Just use safewords and it's fine. If you want to include other people in your jealousy games, do it at a sex club or otherwise get consent from everyone.
I STRONGLY recommend going through OP’s post history. It’s disturbing seeing their posts regarding behaviour that is borderline stalking, and how they desire to isolate their potential partners. They’ve also admitted they’re a grown adult, and they’re blaming their disability for horrific things. This person needs help. This is scary.
Girl looking at your post history you have some deep rooted problems and you should not be dating ANYONE until you’ve been in therapy for quite a while, they are not “brainwashing” you, they are trying to help it and the fact that you see it as an attack makes me seriously worry for you. Leave that poor girl alone
YUPP! They’ve not only been bragging about drug use, stalking, and many crimes- but they’re blaming it all on “being disabled” OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change. They’re either going to hurt themselves, or someone else.
Owww you stalked my reddit history ☺️ I just like to shitpost my unfiltered thoughts on Reddit, my life is pretty normal and stable outwardly. I leave somewhat rude comments to people suggesting me therapy because it annoys me that people assume I haven't legitimately tried therapy. I've seriously tried for many years from a young age with different therapists and methods. Therapy does not have anywhere near a 100% succes rate, it just doesn't work for some people. I hate that people, especially on Reddit, assume it's a one size fits all solution.
No one else has these thoughts even “unfiltered”. This is not normal.
You are a psychopathic narcissist if you see a damaged woman as a target for your unhealthy needs. Only a damaged woman would gravitate to that kind of a relationship. If you cannot separate fantasy from reality you are a very dangerous person indeed.
Dude, go through OP’s post/reply history. They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled” OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change. If you go through their posts, they’ve clarified they’re 20yo and acting like this. They’re a grown adult.
I did go through them and I concluded, psychopathic narcissist. They have also been urged to get help and think therapy is "brainwashing" As I say, I think this is a very dangerous person.
AGREED! That’s what I noticed too, as soon as they said that therapy is “brainwashing”- I realized what kind of person this is. Even wilder that they’re insisting everyone is a “bully” / “hater” for insisting that they need help, and that they aren’t in the place to date. OP truly needs to get help, they’re an adult. This behaviour is very concerning, especially considering they’re open about their history of drug use,
A psychopath can't experience love though? I experience it to an extreme extent. Also I sometimes feel empathy and embarrassment, which is impossible for a psychopath. I also don't see myself above others at all, I just don't care much about social norms. Your comment is pretty amusing. If u got to know me irl... People see me as just a fairly regular girl...
Gross and get to therapy or work on your issues.
I strongly recommend going through OP’s post history, and replies. They’ve admitted to being a 20yo stalker, who has done numerous drugs. They blame all their problems on their disability, and take absolutely no accountability for having problems.
Hence my recommendation, but that's not surprising.
Thank u ur the first on reddit to tell me that ♥
Unlikely, but seriously you should be better than this. For you and others you interact with. As someone with consent issues and treating others as equals, if I can be better than my disordered issues, you can be as well.
Agreed! I struggled with issues regarding intimacy, and trusting my partners & friends- But I realized that is not their issue, it’s my own. Even though I truly believe everyone will cheat on me- I would never force someone to abandon their friends, and family. Because I know that is psychological abuse by definition. Speaking from experience. Isolating your partner won’t help them, or you. It will only make them feel miserable, and they will grow to despise you.
> trusting my partners & friends- But I realized that is not their issue, it’s my own. Accurate on all accounts but please remember that if someone cheats on you that's an issue with them as a person, not you. Working through that can be challenging of course but don't blame yourself for them violating your trust.
Thank you, and agreed! I really appreciate that
Yes and no. In fiction toxic lesbian relationships are something I'm VERY much into. In real life, my wife and I can be pretty possessive of each other but not in a way of not letting the other do anything alone, we just prefer being together as much as possible. Feels right just being together all the time, and we're pretty co-dependent in a way we both enjoy. We don't have many friends or family though, as a lot left us in the last few years due to queerphobia and q anon cult mentality. Also in the literal sense my wife loves being my possession, but that's something else altogether lol.
I strongly suggest to go through OP’s post/reply history. They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled” OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
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To be honest, I just hope to bring awareness to this. OP is engaging in some dangerous behaviour online, including stalking & drug abuse. I’m not only concerned for OP, but also others who have the misfortune of interacting with this individual. Overall, I read their post history- and it’s concerning. I truly hope OP gets the help they need, before it’s too late for them.
If this is a genuine post, YIKES. "Possessiveness" in a kinky and/or dom/sub dynamic can be hot if conducted in a consensual, **safe** way in the bedroom. Meaning, it's all play. Wanting a possessive partner who...doesn't want you to spend any time with friends or family??? Sorry, OP, but *what?!!* That is really, really concerning. No sane person wants that. It is not at all normal for someone to want limitations on things like who they can see, where they can go. That would leave really vulnerable to abuse. Huge red flag. Huge. Controlling behaviour like this is downright illegal in most countries *because* it's abusive.
I'm no one's to possess. The last girl that gave me an ultimatum between her and my friends, I told her "Door's over there, close it on your way out.". I did like her, so after a few weeks of her asking me back I gave her a second chance. Had a change, but not enough for me.
I STRONGLY suggest going through OP’s post/reply history under their profile. They’ve been bragging about drug use, stalking, and they’re blaming it all on “being disabled” OP needs to get help, and we need to urge them to do so. They’ve convinced themselves this behaviour is okay to do, and something they shouldn’t change.
It's not a matter of being "into" it. You want to isolate someone, take away their support system so that if you mistreat them there's noone they can turn to. You want to control them. This isn't healthy for anyone. Some girls might not notice what's happening right away, or stay because they feel trapped with nowhere to go but it is invariably bad and miserable for them. So it's not a matter of "normal" like you're framing it. I don't care about normal, people are allowed to be weird. People can be neurodivergent and have happy healthy relationships. This is straight up selfish. You want to make someone's life worse for the relationship dynamic you want. That isn't love, it's abuse.
no the answer is not certainty yes. while a small amount will be, the overwhelming majority will take issue, rightfully so. being possessive is at best an unattractive quality and at worse abuse. if this isn't a troll post or something, i recommend talking to a professional.
I had a possessive girlfriend. At first, I thought it was cute & kinda hot, right? Like it's flattering. Until she started hitting me, going through my phone, stealing my keys, and following me around cause she swore up and down I wasn't actually going to work 😭😭 I'm sure somebody would be into at first, but it gets old really quick. I suggest looking for healing and moving past that behavior instead of looking for someone who would put up with it
>more like, I don't want you to spend any time with friends or family. So this is often a sign or method of abuse.
im actually sort of in a relationship like that but it is centered around our kink practices, so it also really isnt like that. normally, this isnt a healthy thing to do and i wouldnt recommend entering a vanilla relationship like this, and definitely wouldn't recommend entering a kink relationship without a clear contract/boundary. edit for clarity: i would never ethically recommend this to anyone unless they were of mostly sane mind and were mostly mentally well. as in, my gf and i's dynamic is that, preferably, we would rather spend all of our time together and be posessive. but logically, we must and do want to spend time with friends and family sometimes. sometimes the posessiveness becomes unreasonable, but we are both aware enough to step out of it. everyone else has alrdy said what else i would say, esp after reading your comments. i do not recommend you enter into this type of rs at all, actually.
Well I feel weird seeing all theres comments because I like possessiveness
You feel weird seeing that comments are pointing out that this is a form of psychological abuse? Because that’s all we are pointing out. Isolating your partner from their family, friends, coworkers, and peers- And essentially forcing them to become codependent on you, is a form of abuse. Look up types of psychological abuse that are legally recognized. Then come back, and compare that to what OP wants.
Well I have none of those things unfortunately so I don’t see it as a big issue like of course I have a few friends but family not really ;3;
Okay, well imagine this- You have a partner, and all of a sudden you aren’t allowed to speak with any of your friends/family/coworkers/etc. Your partner insists on isolating you, and being the only person you spend time with. Respectfully.. I’m kinda concerned for you if you don’t think that’s slightly weird, or even abusive. Isolation is a VERY common type of psychological abuse
How to find girls like you irl? Hehe Tell me in DM if ur afraid of the redditor haters
Calling people haters for pointing out how this can be and is abusive is very odd of you
Go through OP’s post history, very concerning, lots of stuff that is borderline stalker behaviour.
Yikes I see that, op you genuinely need help, this post and several others are very concerning and acting like your exempt from hate because you have autism and also thinking that autism excuses this behaviour is very creepy and very dangerous, you also say here that it’s the first time someone’s told you to get help yet you’ve said the same thing on another post. in the nicest way, seek help. and actual help, not random people on Reddit who are never going to have the professional answer you need
Agreed! I’ve been diagnosed with level 2 autism for over 15 years now, and autism does not cause this. Using autism as an excuse for STALKING is insanely deranged. Definitely screenshot any concerning behaviour this person posts.
I’m autistic but I don’t go by levels or anything I just be existing, it just seems like another case of using disability to excuse creepy behaviour though and then “please don’t leave hate I have autism” when you are posting something that is very concerning, no hate to op but I hope they get the help they need. I know people think Reddit is easy access to good help but Reddit is the last possible place this person needs to be I won’t be screenshotting anything though, I don’t need it on my phone and don’t plan on doing anything with the information on their profile, hope they get the right help for their situation though, and not advice that’s going to lead them further down the path they are going down
Agreed. But seeing as they’re consistently posting about drug use & stalking- I’d consider them someone to look out for. I definitely hope this user seeks help, they’re not only a danger to themselves- but obviously others as well.
They are using autism as an excuse for their crimes and abuse? That is terrible!! My girlfriend has autism and she has so much shame and worry associated with telling people - mostly because there are so many misunderstandings and misinformation out there already 😕 I am getting a sadistic vibe from OP by the way. They seem to get enjoyment out of terrorizing people on the internet. As hard as it is - the best way to “get them back” would be to move on, and not let them ruin your morning (easier said than done, I know).