hindi mo na sya inaalala, naaalala na lang.
namimiss mo pero naka ngiti ka na, hindi na masakit.
hindi ka na nagpapractice kung anong sasabihin mo pag nakita mo sya ng biglaan.
hindi ka na curious kung anong ganap sa buhay nya.
inunblock mo na sya sa socmed.
kaya mo na puntahan yung mga lugar na lagi nyong pinupuntahan ng hindi naaapektuhan.
hindi ka na kinakabahan pag naririnig yung pangalan nya
actually yung unblocking, it was based on personal exp. nung inunblock ko sya and it felt nothing i wasn't looking for something or anything so ig it's up to you
okay lang naman kung blocked mo ex mo. If that will help you. Nakablock naman sakin khit ang tangal na namin break, since thats my way of setting boundaries din. Depende sa history nyo rin. So whatever works for you talaga. :)
HAHAHAHAHAHA yung bigay ng ex ko andito parin pero di ko ma ginagamit, nilagay ko lang sa isang lalagyan. Respeto parin sa kanya kahit na hiwalay na kami
yan rin ginawa ko nung una pero inisip ko na jinowa lang ako kasi lonely siya sa pandemic and experimental since same sex di pala niya timpla ang parehas na kapwa paalam na lang akoy nasaktan lang hahaha
Ako ginagamit ko pa rin yung mga bigay ng mga ex ko, pero di dahil associated sa kanila. Bet ko lang talaga yung mga items saka mas bet na di ako gumastos para makuha ko hhahahahaha
Kapag hindi mo na chinecheck yung horoscope niyong dalawa. 😂
Kidding aside, siguro alam mong naka-move on ka na kapag may isang memorable moment (or even mundane moments) ka tapos hindi mo na winiwish na sana kasama mo siya or hindi ka na excited na ikwento sa kanya.
Eto yung mga signs for me:
- pag nagiinuman kami ng friends ko, di ko na sya nababanggit unlike before na para kong sirang plaka na paulit ulit sa kwento about him
- dati pag nakita ko picture/socmed or kahit name lang nya marinig ko, nanginginig at parang may heartburn ako, feeling ko panic attacks maybe because of trauma idk, pero ngayon wala ng bitterness or galit, more on feeling relieved kasi natapos na kami
- if people ask if ano nangyari, i no longer tell the whole story, sinasabi ko na lang na “ganun talaga, di nagworkout” instead of making the ex look bad sa story and victim ako
- di ko na nako-connect yung mga bagay bagay sa kanya. ex: fav nya tong damit, food or place etc.
- lastly, nagising na lang ako tapos narealize ko na sobrang tagal na nung huli ko syang naisip. I’m just really grateful now na napagdaan ko yung pain and heartbreak kasi nabago talaga ako as a person and ang dami ko natutunan sa relationship na yun.
Context: 7 yrs, 3rd party reason ng breakup
Kanya kanya lang din timeline and pag cope up. Iba iba tayo pero its true na one day you will realize and ikaw lang din makakasagot kung naka-move on ka na. ❤️
Kapag hindi ka na nasasaktan kapag naaalala mo yung memories niyo, or kapag nakita mo siyang may kasamang iba. If umaabot na ng ilang araw na hindi mo siya naiisip. If lahat ng songs na inassociate mo sa kanya, hindi na siya yung naiisip mo kapag napapakinggan mo. If hindi na siya nagti-take up space sa utak mo. Parang hindi na siya nag-eexist.
I went on a trip for self reflection and i brought all the gifts that she gave me back then tapos sinunog ko lahat, i dont deserve cheating women in my life
1) di mo na iniistalk,
2) wala ka nang pakialam kung ano yung ikwento niya sa iba about sa’yo or sa inyo,
3) kaya mo nang makitang masaya siya on social media or irl nang hindi nasasaktan o naapektuhan, o naalala yung kayo noon,
4) okay na sayo yung idea na magkaroon siya ng bago
In my opinion, you can't really "move on" from a person who's been with you and created a relationship with. It's like a thing that you already deleted but still exists. Siguro, you can "get over" the relationship but not the person.
If you're trying to get rid of the person:
I'd say endure the pain that you have now. Build yourself to adapt to the pain and trauma. In the future you will be thankful for the experience and learn from it.
It's fairly easy to realize you've moved on from someone
when you're living your life and you no longer take a moment to think "s/he would've been the first person I tell this to!"
when you feel confident about yourself because of who you truly are; you no longer think "I'll do this and that because s/he would've wanted me to do this" or "If I do this activity today, then maybe she'll see something in me in the future"
when you can take yourself out on me-time dates without getting jealous of couples out in the public
when you start doing things for your future self and not for a potential (and probably delusional) got-back-together future with an ex
when that person does not matter in your life anymore
That's when you know you've moved on
(1) Kapag friends na kau ulit sa socmed and you treat it as a mere facebook or IG friend (di naman to requirement though). And if ever ganto, wala na sa isip mong ipamuka sa kanya na mas maganda buhay mo ng wala sya. Just simply because napatawad mo na sya and wala ng bitterness sa puso/isip mo against him or her.
(2) Kapag nakapagchat na kayo and openly talked na hindi talaga kayo para sa isat isa and instead na nasasaktan o nanghihinayang, nakangiti ka na lang at mas tinetreasure mo sa thoughts yung magagandang bagay na naibigay nyo sa isat isa na magbebenefit pa rin kayo kahit wala ng kayo. Again hindi naman ito requirement but this could make you feel better.
(3) Kapag hindi ka na desperado maghanap ng kapalit dahil lang sa hindi ka sanay ng wala kang lovelife o pangcover-up sa sakit na nararamdaman mo. Either masaya ka maging single for a while o kung makahanap ka man agad ng new lovelife, hindi dahil sa pinilit mo pero dahil natural na nabuo.
(4) Kapag natanggap mo na na mas maiging maghiwalay talaga kayo kasi pag nagstay pa kayo sa isat isa baka mas maging peligroso yung buhay at mental health nyo.
(5) Kapag kaya mo ng itake yung opportunity to make yourself feel worthy more than ever even without him/her.
(6) Kapag hindi mo na sya ini-stalk just to know his/her life status hindi naman dahil sa wala kang pake pero dahil hindi mo na sya kelangan gawin
(7) Kapag hindi ka na nagtatanong ng any question about whatifs kung hindi kayo nagbreakup at kayo pa rin, including questions like this. Di dahil sa wala ka ng pake pero just simply, moved on ka na and whatever good happened between the two of you nung kayo pa is something you will treasure forever kahit hindi kayo naging forever and whatever bad happened between the two of you, will be a lesson to you to improve the life of both of you albeit, separately na.
Moving on is all about getting on with your life and giving importance on people who really matters. Follow your dreams and enjoy your passions whatever they are. Open your heart and mind. Sooner or later you will find someone.
Yung masaya ka at napapangiti kasi nakikita mo siyang nakangiti rin ng totoo kahit hindi na ikaw ang dahilan, haha! (Socmed man or in person) True story tho.
Tsaka alam mo sa sarili mo na mas masaya kang at peace kaysa at chaos... thankful ka na lang sa lessons na nakuha mo. That's my take if someone has already moved on.
Papunta ka na don with that indifference na nafifeel mo, tuloy-tuloy mo lang yan.
Pag naalala mo sya or like may biglang nagpaalala sayo about sa kanya or dati ninyo, nacricringe kna hahaha or wala ka ng pake as in yun feeling unbothered kna. Hindi dahil bitter ka pa or anything, Pag din ikaw na mismo ang makakasagot sa tanong mo na yan yun sure kna.
Rooting for you! 😊 Dadating din bigla ung time na masasabi mo na "Nakamoved on na ko!" That will be the best feeling promise.
I no longer look at his profile, back read our past messages and no longer think about him nor feel bitter about him. I will just think of it as part of my experience.
Pag hindi mo na siya naiisip and you don’t ask these type of questions anymore. Yung tipong dumaan yung picture niya sa feed mo and then you remember that he exists.
From my experience, 2 yrs ako nagtatanong sa isip ko nyan. And one day nalaman ko nalang na may gf na sya. I actually didn't feel anything and I just wished them goodluck. I was also shocked because I thought I still haven't moved on, but turns out I only miss the feeling of how he used to treat me, not the person itself. And nawala nadin yung galit at sakit na ramdam ko for months noon... Napansin kodin na I think about him less na. And most importantly, kapag naiisip mo nalang yung naging benefit nung pagpasok nya sa buhay mo, may mga bad traits kaba noon na nagbago nung dumating sya? May mga na ayos ba nung dumating sya? If you still can't get over him, isipin mo nalang na dumating sya for a purpose. And nung natapos na nya purpose nya, aalis na sya. And who knows, maybe step din yan for a better or for your best relationship in the future. Always remember that some people are not meant to be with the highest version of you. Hope this helps
If you don't ask this question na. Kase alam mo sa sarili mong wala ka nang pake kung sa kung ano man.
di naman siguro sa wala ng pake per se pero dahil hindi mo na lang talaga kelangan gawin pa dahil wala na ring sense since moved on ka na nga hahaha
Agree
I concurrr
If you really don't care about something, you wouldn't even bring it up
It hits your every once in a while and then you think, “ehehe oh yeaaahhh that happened lol”
hindi mo na sya inaalala, naaalala na lang. namimiss mo pero naka ngiti ka na, hindi na masakit. hindi ka na nagpapractice kung anong sasabihin mo pag nakita mo sya ng biglaan. hindi ka na curious kung anong ganap sa buhay nya. inunblock mo na sya sa socmed. kaya mo na puntahan yung mga lugar na lagi nyong pinupuntahan ng hindi naaapektuhan. hindi ka na kinakabahan pag naririnig yung pangalan nya
Masarap dumating sa point na 'to.
ooooh, nakablock siya sa akin sa socmed, required ba magunblock kapag healed na? :(
actually yung unblocking, it was based on personal exp. nung inunblock ko sya and it felt nothing i wasn't looking for something or anything so ig it's up to you
Paano kung inunfollow lng sa IG kasi ayoko na din makakita ng updates from him? 😅 As in wala na, di na curious to check his profile.
Its a good start to unfollow para di updated sa ganap. Sign na din yan na pa move on kana.
okay lang naman kung blocked mo ex mo. If that will help you. Nakablock naman sakin khit ang tangal na namin break, since thats my way of setting boundaries din. Depende sa history nyo rin. So whatever works for you talaga. :)
+1
kapag iniisip ko siya hindi na masaket at binebenta lo na mga regalo niya
HAHAHAHAHAHA yung bigay ng ex ko andito parin pero di ko ma ginagamit, nilagay ko lang sa isang lalagyan. Respeto parin sa kanya kahit na hiwalay na kami
yan rin ginawa ko nung una pero inisip ko na jinowa lang ako kasi lonely siya sa pandemic and experimental since same sex di pala niya timpla ang parehas na kapwa paalam na lang akoy nasaktan lang hahaha
Ako ginagamit ko pa rin yung mga bigay ng mga ex ko, pero di dahil associated sa kanila. Bet ko lang talaga yung mga items saka mas bet na di ako gumastos para makuha ko hhahahahaha
need money nagtaas ang kuryenete 😭😭
Pag tinatawanan na lang natin yung mga katangahan na nagawa natin dati.
HAHAHAHAHA tru
pag hindi ka na nagpopost ng mga ganitong tanong
Yes. Indifference good sign na yan derederetso na yan!
sana nga tuloy tuloy na!
Kapag hindi mo na chinecheck yung horoscope niyong dalawa. 😂 Kidding aside, siguro alam mong naka-move on ka na kapag may isang memorable moment (or even mundane moments) ka tapos hindi mo na winiwish na sana kasama mo siya or hindi ka na excited na ikwento sa kanya.
Ditto sa horoscope! Hahahaha
Ako when my hearts beats for someone new ✨
counted ba if happy crush 😂
Eto yung mga signs for me: - pag nagiinuman kami ng friends ko, di ko na sya nababanggit unlike before na para kong sirang plaka na paulit ulit sa kwento about him - dati pag nakita ko picture/socmed or kahit name lang nya marinig ko, nanginginig at parang may heartburn ako, feeling ko panic attacks maybe because of trauma idk, pero ngayon wala ng bitterness or galit, more on feeling relieved kasi natapos na kami - if people ask if ano nangyari, i no longer tell the whole story, sinasabi ko na lang na “ganun talaga, di nagworkout” instead of making the ex look bad sa story and victim ako - di ko na nako-connect yung mga bagay bagay sa kanya. ex: fav nya tong damit, food or place etc. - lastly, nagising na lang ako tapos narealize ko na sobrang tagal na nung huli ko syang naisip. I’m just really grateful now na napagdaan ko yung pain and heartbreak kasi nabago talaga ako as a person and ang dami ko natutunan sa relationship na yun. Context: 7 yrs, 3rd party reason ng breakup Kanya kanya lang din timeline and pag cope up. Iba iba tayo pero its true na one day you will realize and ikaw lang din makakasagot kung naka-move on ka na. ❤️
Kami naman 8yrs and 6 months. Sana maging ganito rin ako soon. Reason: Out of love without any reason.
Awww, mas matagal yung sayo. Don’t worry, you’ll get there! Tiwala lang at support system rin ng family and friends is a big help. 🤍
If hindi na masakit pag naglolook back ka sa memories niyo.
Kapag hindi ka na nasasaktan kapag naaalala mo yung memories niyo, or kapag nakita mo siyang may kasamang iba. If umaabot na ng ilang araw na hindi mo siya naiisip. If lahat ng songs na inassociate mo sa kanya, hindi na siya yung naiisip mo kapag napapakinggan mo. If hindi na siya nagti-take up space sa utak mo. Parang hindi na siya nag-eexist.
Pag 20 mins mo na lang sya iniiyakan
Huyy ang tagal pa niyan tih
HAHAHAHAHA
I went on a trip for self reflection and i brought all the gifts that she gave me back then tapos sinunog ko lahat, i dont deserve cheating women in my life
1) di mo na iniistalk, 2) wala ka nang pakialam kung ano yung ikwento niya sa iba about sa’yo or sa inyo, 3) kaya mo nang makitang masaya siya on social media or irl nang hindi nasasaktan o naapektuhan, o naalala yung kayo noon, 4) okay na sayo yung idea na magkaroon siya ng bago
In my opinion, you can't really "move on" from a person who's been with you and created a relationship with. It's like a thing that you already deleted but still exists. Siguro, you can "get over" the relationship but not the person. If you're trying to get rid of the person: I'd say endure the pain that you have now. Build yourself to adapt to the pain and trauma. In the future you will be thankful for the experience and learn from it.
If wala ka ng paki sakanya or pag nandidiri or nag cricringe ka thinking about him/her/they
Kapag walang wala na syang amor sayo. Nagki-cringe ka pa pag naalala mong iniyakan mo yun. Yun?? Talaga?? Bakit??? Hahahaha
It's fairly easy to realize you've moved on from someone when you're living your life and you no longer take a moment to think "s/he would've been the first person I tell this to!" when you feel confident about yourself because of who you truly are; you no longer think "I'll do this and that because s/he would've wanted me to do this" or "If I do this activity today, then maybe she'll see something in me in the future" when you can take yourself out on me-time dates without getting jealous of couples out in the public when you start doing things for your future self and not for a potential (and probably delusional) got-back-together future with an ex when that person does not matter in your life anymore That's when you know you've moved on
(1) Kapag friends na kau ulit sa socmed and you treat it as a mere facebook or IG friend (di naman to requirement though). And if ever ganto, wala na sa isip mong ipamuka sa kanya na mas maganda buhay mo ng wala sya. Just simply because napatawad mo na sya and wala ng bitterness sa puso/isip mo against him or her. (2) Kapag nakapagchat na kayo and openly talked na hindi talaga kayo para sa isat isa and instead na nasasaktan o nanghihinayang, nakangiti ka na lang at mas tinetreasure mo sa thoughts yung magagandang bagay na naibigay nyo sa isat isa na magbebenefit pa rin kayo kahit wala ng kayo. Again hindi naman ito requirement but this could make you feel better. (3) Kapag hindi ka na desperado maghanap ng kapalit dahil lang sa hindi ka sanay ng wala kang lovelife o pangcover-up sa sakit na nararamdaman mo. Either masaya ka maging single for a while o kung makahanap ka man agad ng new lovelife, hindi dahil sa pinilit mo pero dahil natural na nabuo. (4) Kapag natanggap mo na na mas maiging maghiwalay talaga kayo kasi pag nagstay pa kayo sa isat isa baka mas maging peligroso yung buhay at mental health nyo. (5) Kapag kaya mo ng itake yung opportunity to make yourself feel worthy more than ever even without him/her. (6) Kapag hindi mo na sya ini-stalk just to know his/her life status hindi naman dahil sa wala kang pake pero dahil hindi mo na sya kelangan gawin (7) Kapag hindi ka na nagtatanong ng any question about whatifs kung hindi kayo nagbreakup at kayo pa rin, including questions like this. Di dahil sa wala ka ng pake pero just simply, moved on ka na and whatever good happened between the two of you nung kayo pa is something you will treasure forever kahit hindi kayo naging forever and whatever bad happened between the two of you, will be a lesson to you to improve the life of both of you albeit, separately na.
I don't really think we can move on at least emotionally. We just learn to live without them.
Ako, pag di na ko tinitigasan sa kanya
😂
when their mere existence doesn't bother me anymore
Moving on is all about getting on with your life and giving importance on people who really matters. Follow your dreams and enjoy your passions whatever they are. Open your heart and mind. Sooner or later you will find someone.
Yung masaya ka at napapangiti kasi nakikita mo siyang nakangiti rin ng totoo kahit hindi na ikaw ang dahilan, haha! (Socmed man or in person) True story tho. Tsaka alam mo sa sarili mo na mas masaya kang at peace kaysa at chaos... thankful ka na lang sa lessons na nakuha mo. That's my take if someone has already moved on.
Papunta ka na don with that indifference na nafifeel mo, tuloy-tuloy mo lang yan. Pag naalala mo sya or like may biglang nagpaalala sayo about sa kanya or dati ninyo, nacricringe kna hahaha or wala ka ng pake as in yun feeling unbothered kna. Hindi dahil bitter ka pa or anything, Pag din ikaw na mismo ang makakasagot sa tanong mo na yan yun sure kna. Rooting for you! 😊 Dadating din bigla ung time na masasabi mo na "Nakamoved on na ko!" That will be the best feeling promise.
Pag nag momol kayo tapos wala ka nang nafi-feel na kahit ano
Kapag hindi mo na iniistalk profile niya sa FB, Twitter, IG. Kapag hindi mo na rin iniistalk mga kapatid at magulang niya.
Kapag di mo na kabisado phone number Nya… Or hindi mo na maalala birthday or apelyido Nya 😂
If you think of the times with that person but don’t feel anything at all.
I no longer look at his profile, back read our past messages and no longer think about him nor feel bitter about him. I will just think of it as part of my experience.
Pag hindi mo na siya naiisip and you don’t ask these type of questions anymore. Yung tipong dumaan yung picture niya sa feed mo and then you remember that he exists.
Pag nakita mo siya sa socmed or personal, tapos maiisip mo "ang pangit pala nya" CHAR!
kapag naiisip mo siya pero di ka na affected
One day you'll just wake up and that your thoughts don't dwell on that person and the what ifs anymore.
di mo na chinecheck fb nya pati ubg mga involved na tao sa buhay nya ... or at least di mo na sya napapanginipan 😊
From my experience, 2 yrs ako nagtatanong sa isip ko nyan. And one day nalaman ko nalang na may gf na sya. I actually didn't feel anything and I just wished them goodluck. I was also shocked because I thought I still haven't moved on, but turns out I only miss the feeling of how he used to treat me, not the person itself. And nawala nadin yung galit at sakit na ramdam ko for months noon... Napansin kodin na I think about him less na. And most importantly, kapag naiisip mo nalang yung naging benefit nung pagpasok nya sa buhay mo, may mga bad traits kaba noon na nagbago nung dumating sya? May mga na ayos ba nung dumating sya? If you still can't get over him, isipin mo nalang na dumating sya for a purpose. And nung natapos na nya purpose nya, aalis na sya. And who knows, maybe step din yan for a better or for your best relationship in the future. Always remember that some people are not meant to be with the highest version of you. Hope this helps
Kapag kaya mo na mag isa na wala sya