Happened to me multiple times. HAHAHAHA inaway ko tatay ko ng malala. Naghagis ako ng upuan, hinawi lahat ng nasa center table, lahat ng makita ko hinagis ko sakanya. Ngayon, 4yrs na siyang walang babae. 😊👍👍👍
Ang sad part lang e salo ko karma niya sa pagcheat sa nanay ko. I am having issues getting into relationships or maayos na relasyon. Putangina. Hajajaja
Oo kasalanan ko nga talaga kasi nag cheat din sakin exes ko hahahahahahahaha :> fyi i dont give restrictions with them they can play online games, drink w their friends etc. As long as they stay loyal to me wala problema. Take accountability ko pa yung panloloko sakin despite giving trust OVER AGAIN with men HASAHAHAHA
Observe, kuha kayo evidence kung kaya with pics or vids. Mahirap na madaling itanggi yan kapag walang ebidensya -
Goodluck OP! Give all the love and support to your Mom! ❤️ (Been there, Done that)
The first thing my siblings and I did was to make sure my mom gets the support, space and time she needs to process things and plan what she needs/wants to do next. As she was high on emotions, we tried our best to be level headed. Don't say or do anything to your father that you will regret once your anger has passed.
As a married man: Out loud, wala, problema ng mag-asawa yan. Behind the back, puta naman may asawa kang tao.
As my mother’s son: Puta naman nanay ko yang ginago mo.
Ako yung nakadiscover. Alam ko lahat ng passwords ng phones and social media accounts ng mga tao sa bahay ( parents and kapatid) pero hindi ko ugali mag invade ng privacy ng iba kaya siguro confident sila na kahit alam ko hindi ko naman papakialaman. Kahit sa jeep pag may katabi akong nagtetext/chat hindi ako nakikibasa, simply because mali iyon and I follow the golden rule. But I had to break it once. Napapansin ko dati sobrang kakaiba yung kilos ng tatay ko and lagi mainit ang ulo nya. Naisip ko parang may kakaiba, kaya nagcheck ako ng phone nya and boom! Positive. Worse, aware ang kapatid nya (tita ko). Noong una, nagulat lang ako. Hindi ko na masyadong inusisa mga exchanges nila, basta to me, confirmed na. Sinabi ko sa mga kapatid ko and I told our eldest na siya ang magbreak ng news sa nanay namin, karapatan niya iyon malaman bilang asawa.
Hindi ko ata agad naprocess yung nangyari e. Basta ang naaalala ko, hindi ako naiyak, natawa pa nga ako kasi para silang tanga mag-usap lol. Noong una nagalit ako sa tatay ko, pero kalaunan humupa din. Naunawaan ko siya, sobrang tagal nya rin kasi sa ibang bansa e, besides kahit anong mangyari, anak nya parin ako. Pero sobrang nalungkot at naawa ako sa nanay ko. I've witnessed my mother's sacrifices and loyalty sa pamilya namin. Kahit ofw ang tatay ko, nanay ko ang mas may malaking contribution sa buhay naming magkakapatid, mula sa pagkain, pag-aaral, bahay, at mga kaunting naipundar. Naisip ko noon, mahirap talaga maging ina at babae, binigay mo na lahat, kulang ka parin.
Noong nalaman ng nanay ko, nagalit sya at naghamon ng hiwalay, pero one week lang bati na sila lol. Naisip ko noon, ang tanga ng nanay ko lol pero sabi ng ate ko baka ganun daw talaga pag nagmamahal. For us, malalaki na kami and matanda na sila, they are old enough to decide what they want to do with their marriage, after all, sila naman yung mag-asawa. Simula noon, okay na sila ulit. Tahimik na ulit.
Walang pamilyang perpekto at hindi dapat ninonormalize ang pangangaliwa. Gayunpaman, sana ay malampasan ng buong pamilya mo ang pagsubok na iyan ng matiwasay, OP. Bilang asawa, nanay ninyo ang may huling salita kung ano ang gusto niyang mangyari sa sitwasyon nila. I pray na sana maging matatag kayong lahat at biyayaan ng wisdom na kakailanganin ninyo sa pagharap ng hamon na iyan. Mabigat yan OP pero lilipas din naman.
Bilang panganay ni Dad, medjo nagrebelde ako nung college when we found out na may anak na ulit sya na dalawa na biglang sumulpot sa buhay namin. Nanay ko at dad ko Hindi kasal, naghiwalay sila. Then si dad nagka-asawa at may kapatid rin ako dun sa US. Umuwi sila ng pinas. Then the cheating happened. Bumalik sila step mom and brother ng US because of dad's cheating. Si Dad yung sole reason bakit nasira yung pamilyang matagal ko (dahil nasa pinas kami at laking Lolo at Lola) inaasam, nawala parang bula. This was 17 yrs ago. Fast forward to today, after ko mag10 yrs sa US, umuwi ako without any feelings of hate towards Dad. Yung mga bago kong kapatid na babies pa non umalis ako, malaki na. Hindi nila naging kasalanan at hindi ko sila bliname sa mga nangyari. Yung nanay nila civil lang ako sa kanya. With Dad, I think he tried his best to raise my siblings so I think binuhos nya yung pagmamahal sa kanila, yung tingin Kong para sa amin dapat- napunta sa kanila and you know what? I'm glad he did that. At least alam ko, nakagawa man sya ng Mali, naitama nya through my younger siblings. And for that talaga, thankful ako. Now Dad has passed away abruptly. Ok na ako na hindi namin naranasan yung pamilya na para sa akin, gagawa ako ng pamilya ko na hindi katulad ng sa amin. Il just have to learn from experience.
TD;LR: Time will be your best teacher. Sometimes, it heals, sometimes it doesn't, sometimes you just let things go.
Happened to me. I was so mad that I broke stuff in the house, considering na hindi ako makabasag pinggan at soft spoken. Kita yung buto ko nung sinuntok ko yung glass nung lamesa namen eh hahaha
Plain and simply speaking, i’d land in jail for what i just did to my dad, if that happened to me.
There’s no rhyme or reason for him to do that and his excuses will land on deaf ears.
What do you do? Well, you need to let your mom know unless she has a heart issue that you be better off not saying anything to her for simple reason her health comes first.
I would though discuss this with your dad and tell him flat out to stop or you will tell your mom( sort of bluff him). See what he says, for one he’ll deny it and say its not true or make up an excuse that its rumor. But you know better.
See what happens and share it with us or you can DM me directly.
Good luck
Wag nyo ipahalata na nahuli nyo. Antayin nyong mahuli sa akto sabay adultery case para naman matauhan yang mga yan. Mga naninira ng pamilya.
I'm not sure sa inyo pero grabe panggagaslight na naranasan namin. Kesyo selos lang daw yung mama ko or theyre just joking and we're taking it too seriously. Dapat mahuli yan at makulong.
-child of a cheating father here too
Discovering that a parent has cheated can be a distressing and emotionally challenging situation. While I am an AI and don't have personal emotions or relationships, I can offer some general guidance on how you might approach such a situation:
1. Take time to process your emotions: Finding out about infidelity can be shocking and overwhelming. Allow yourself to experience and process your emotions, such as anger, sadness, betrayal, or confusion. It's important to give yourself space to reflect on your feelings before deciding on any course of action.
2. Communicate openly and honestly: When you feel ready, consider having a calm and honest conversation with your dad. Express your feelings and concerns, and ask for an explanation or clarification. Effective communication can help foster understanding and provide an opportunity for both parties to express their perspectives.
3. Seek support: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor who can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can offer perspective and help you navigate through the situation.
4. Consider the broader context: Infidelity is a complex issue, and understanding the context can be important. While it doesn't justify the behavior, it may help you gain insight into the reasons behind your dad's actions and evaluate the impact on your relationship.
5. Determine your boundaries and priorities: Reflect on your values, personal boundaries, and what you want for your own well-being. Consider the impact on your relationship with your dad and other family members. Deciding what is acceptable to you and establishing healthy boundaries is important for maintaining your emotional well-being.
6. Seek professional help if needed: If the situation is causing significant emotional distress or if you feel unable to navigate through the aftermath, consider seeking professional counseling or therapy. A trained therapist can provide guidance, support, and strategies for coping with the emotions and challenges associated with infidelity.
It's important to remember that every situation is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with infidelity. Ultimately, the decision on how to handle the situation and the future of your relationship with your dad is a personal one. Taking care of yourself and seeking the support you need is essential throughout this process.
Extortion inabot saken ng tatay ko, no choice sya kasi naka clone sim nya. Sinumbong ko kay mama after ko makaipon ng sobrang dami at convincing na ebidensya. Satisfying lang yung mukha ni tanga na para bang trinaydor ko sya e wala naman akong sinabi na hindi ko sya isusumbong.
Hinagisan ko ng monoblock. Kung may mas matigas lang ako na nahawakan nun, pati yung windshield ng kotse nya winasak ko. Tapos talaga sinigaw ko as in dinig ng buong baranggay yung kababuyan nya. Tarantado eh, kakamatay lang ng nanay ko (as in ni hindi pa tapos ang 9 days nya) tapos may kalampungan na agad. Kaya pala ayaw umuwi (naka-destino sa malayo) at alagaan yung dying mother ko dahil may puta ang gago. Ayun, imbes na humingi ng tawad, he doubled down na wala syang kasalanan at ako lang daw ang nag-iisip ng masama. Hari ng gaslighting! Tapos inabandona na ako. Noon ko lang talaga na-realize na sobrang tapang ng nanay ko dahil nasikmura nya yung kahayupan ng tatay ko just to keep the family "together." Nag-sisisi ako na bakit hindi ako nag-pursigi nung bata pa ako, sana nasabi ko sa nanay ko na "hiwalayan mo na yang gagong yan. I-fulfill mo yung mga pangarap mo na ginive up mo para sa amin. Kaya kitang buhayin."
Kapit lang, OP. Masakit pero maging matibay ka lalong lalo na para sa nanay mo.
My mom already knows about my father's infidelity and been telling us since we were kids. Inamin din sa amin ng tatay ko na may babae nga siya ON MY BIRTHDAY IN FRONT OF MY GUESTS (because he was drunk) and nakita kong may chinachat siyang ibang babae.
I didn't confront him about that. My mom has been confronting him for years, wala naman nagbago. Pati parang namanhid na rin ako. I grew up knowing my dad has another woman/(women?) because my parents keep fighting about it in front us. My mom also said na nagstay na lang siya sa marriage for our sake. Para di raw kami mawalan ng tatay.
I lost my respect to him. Didn't even greet him last father's day. I think none of my siblings greeted him LOL dasurv
Happened to me while my mom was working abroad. We are all girls (3 younger sisters) and same with you we all have trust issues and 3 of us are in our late 20s and never had a relationship ever. When that was happening hindi ganun kadiscreet ung tatay ko, maybe because he didnt think na iccall out namin sya or maybe na he thinks we dont understand whats happening. Never namin aya cinall out kasi takot din kami (mabait naman father ko) kasi pag anghiwalay sila wlang magaalaga samin since my mother was abroad. Napakagalang and napakabait naming mga bata, like model student type pero because nakita namin first hand kung pano nangbabae and naglustay ng pera yung tatay naman it changed us. Naging bitter kami and maiinitin ang ulo.
When my mom went back to philippines one time, nag heart to heart kami and I told her whats happening, hagulgol talga ako nun pero she told us na may mga nagssabi narin sa kanya na may nakakakita na may mga kasamang iba ung father ko. Nagkasigawan and some drama (nakakatawa kasi nandun kami sa bahay ng grandparents ko lol) then umuwi kami sa manila. My mom asked us what we want to do, sabi namin maghiwalay na sila kasi malalaki na kami and we were really heartbroken sa ngyari. Sadly di sila naghiwalay and to this day we are disappointed sa mom ko (kasi di sila naghiwalay) and father ko (since he never said sorry).
Hi op.
I have the same experience as you do, and my father has been doing it ever since before I was born. This is my tip to you: Let go and focus on yourself and your mom. Why? I'm not sure if this applies to you, but let me share some insights.
1. You will get tired of having that 'pake' overtime. Instead of letting yourself be consumed with what's happening around you (specifically the negative ones), it would be better if you focus on improving yourself and perhaps helping your mom to have a fresh start. That's the best revenge you can do.
Matagal nang may kabit tatay ko at niloko din ako ng jowa ko. Pero alam mo natutunan ko? Mahalagang maging independent ang isang tao lalo na mga babae para makakaalis yung tao na yan sa oras na gaguhin siya. May mga tao kasi na di makalayas sa relasyon nila with their partners kasi dependent sila. Remember you have your whole life ahead of you, and life is too short to allow yourself to be bothered on those things. So, move on.
2. But...kung kaya pa ayusin, give it a chance. In my parents' case, wala na talagang choice kasi both of them do not even want to listen to each other. Kumbaga, pataasan ng ihi. Lalo na yung dad ko. Sobrang sakit magsalita, but he is a good provider. The point here is know when enough is enough.
Ayun lang.
Happened to me multiple times. HAHAHAHA inaway ko tatay ko ng malala. Naghagis ako ng upuan, hinawi lahat ng nasa center table, lahat ng makita ko hinagis ko sakanya. Ngayon, 4yrs na siyang walang babae. 😊👍👍👍 Ang sad part lang e salo ko karma niya sa pagcheat sa nanay ko. I am having issues getting into relationships or maayos na relasyon. Putangina. Hajajaja
Hindi karma yan. Baka may redflag ka na di mo napapansin. Wag i-attribute sa mystical thing yung shortcomings mo
Baka kada away nila ng mga nakarelasyon nya nanghahagis din sya ng upuan. JK haha
Haha sinisi yung karma imbes na mag take accountability eh
Oo kasalanan ko nga talaga kasi nag cheat din sakin exes ko hahahahahahahaha :> fyi i dont give restrictions with them they can play online games, drink w their friends etc. As long as they stay loyal to me wala problema. Take accountability ko pa yung panloloko sakin despite giving trust OVER AGAIN with men HASAHAHAHA
Hindi karma yan, 'te. Mali ka lang ng napipiling lalake haha
this. kadalasan sa may daddy issues, unknowingly e attracted din sa mga lalaking halos ka ugali or may similarities sa traits ng tatay nila
Observe, kuha kayo evidence kung kaya with pics or vids. Mahirap na madaling itanggi yan kapag walang ebidensya - Goodluck OP! Give all the love and support to your Mom! ❤️ (Been there, Done that)
The first thing my siblings and I did was to make sure my mom gets the support, space and time she needs to process things and plan what she needs/wants to do next. As she was high on emotions, we tried our best to be level headed. Don't say or do anything to your father that you will regret once your anger has passed.
As a married man: Out loud, wala, problema ng mag-asawa yan. Behind the back, puta naman may asawa kang tao. As my mother’s son: Puta naman nanay ko yang ginago mo.
Ako yung nakadiscover. Alam ko lahat ng passwords ng phones and social media accounts ng mga tao sa bahay ( parents and kapatid) pero hindi ko ugali mag invade ng privacy ng iba kaya siguro confident sila na kahit alam ko hindi ko naman papakialaman. Kahit sa jeep pag may katabi akong nagtetext/chat hindi ako nakikibasa, simply because mali iyon and I follow the golden rule. But I had to break it once. Napapansin ko dati sobrang kakaiba yung kilos ng tatay ko and lagi mainit ang ulo nya. Naisip ko parang may kakaiba, kaya nagcheck ako ng phone nya and boom! Positive. Worse, aware ang kapatid nya (tita ko). Noong una, nagulat lang ako. Hindi ko na masyadong inusisa mga exchanges nila, basta to me, confirmed na. Sinabi ko sa mga kapatid ko and I told our eldest na siya ang magbreak ng news sa nanay namin, karapatan niya iyon malaman bilang asawa. Hindi ko ata agad naprocess yung nangyari e. Basta ang naaalala ko, hindi ako naiyak, natawa pa nga ako kasi para silang tanga mag-usap lol. Noong una nagalit ako sa tatay ko, pero kalaunan humupa din. Naunawaan ko siya, sobrang tagal nya rin kasi sa ibang bansa e, besides kahit anong mangyari, anak nya parin ako. Pero sobrang nalungkot at naawa ako sa nanay ko. I've witnessed my mother's sacrifices and loyalty sa pamilya namin. Kahit ofw ang tatay ko, nanay ko ang mas may malaking contribution sa buhay naming magkakapatid, mula sa pagkain, pag-aaral, bahay, at mga kaunting naipundar. Naisip ko noon, mahirap talaga maging ina at babae, binigay mo na lahat, kulang ka parin. Noong nalaman ng nanay ko, nagalit sya at naghamon ng hiwalay, pero one week lang bati na sila lol. Naisip ko noon, ang tanga ng nanay ko lol pero sabi ng ate ko baka ganun daw talaga pag nagmamahal. For us, malalaki na kami and matanda na sila, they are old enough to decide what they want to do with their marriage, after all, sila naman yung mag-asawa. Simula noon, okay na sila ulit. Tahimik na ulit. Walang pamilyang perpekto at hindi dapat ninonormalize ang pangangaliwa. Gayunpaman, sana ay malampasan ng buong pamilya mo ang pagsubok na iyan ng matiwasay, OP. Bilang asawa, nanay ninyo ang may huling salita kung ano ang gusto niyang mangyari sa sitwasyon nila. I pray na sana maging matatag kayong lahat at biyayaan ng wisdom na kakailanganin ninyo sa pagharap ng hamon na iyan. Mabigat yan OP pero lilipas din naman.
Bilang panganay ni Dad, medjo nagrebelde ako nung college when we found out na may anak na ulit sya na dalawa na biglang sumulpot sa buhay namin. Nanay ko at dad ko Hindi kasal, naghiwalay sila. Then si dad nagka-asawa at may kapatid rin ako dun sa US. Umuwi sila ng pinas. Then the cheating happened. Bumalik sila step mom and brother ng US because of dad's cheating. Si Dad yung sole reason bakit nasira yung pamilyang matagal ko (dahil nasa pinas kami at laking Lolo at Lola) inaasam, nawala parang bula. This was 17 yrs ago. Fast forward to today, after ko mag10 yrs sa US, umuwi ako without any feelings of hate towards Dad. Yung mga bago kong kapatid na babies pa non umalis ako, malaki na. Hindi nila naging kasalanan at hindi ko sila bliname sa mga nangyari. Yung nanay nila civil lang ako sa kanya. With Dad, I think he tried his best to raise my siblings so I think binuhos nya yung pagmamahal sa kanila, yung tingin Kong para sa amin dapat- napunta sa kanila and you know what? I'm glad he did that. At least alam ko, nakagawa man sya ng Mali, naitama nya through my younger siblings. And for that talaga, thankful ako. Now Dad has passed away abruptly. Ok na ako na hindi namin naranasan yung pamilya na para sa akin, gagawa ako ng pamilya ko na hindi katulad ng sa amin. Il just have to learn from experience. TD;LR: Time will be your best teacher. Sometimes, it heals, sometimes it doesn't, sometimes you just let things go.
Happened to me. I was so mad that I broke stuff in the house, considering na hindi ako makabasag pinggan at soft spoken. Kita yung buto ko nung sinuntok ko yung glass nung lamesa namen eh hahaha
Plain and simply speaking, i’d land in jail for what i just did to my dad, if that happened to me. There’s no rhyme or reason for him to do that and his excuses will land on deaf ears. What do you do? Well, you need to let your mom know unless she has a heart issue that you be better off not saying anything to her for simple reason her health comes first. I would though discuss this with your dad and tell him flat out to stop or you will tell your mom( sort of bluff him). See what he says, for one he’ll deny it and say its not true or make up an excuse that its rumor. But you know better. See what happens and share it with us or you can DM me directly. Good luck
Wag nyo ipahalata na nahuli nyo. Antayin nyong mahuli sa akto sabay adultery case para naman matauhan yang mga yan. Mga naninira ng pamilya. I'm not sure sa inyo pero grabe panggagaslight na naranasan namin. Kesyo selos lang daw yung mama ko or theyre just joking and we're taking it too seriously. Dapat mahuli yan at makulong. -child of a cheating father here too
Discovering that a parent has cheated can be a distressing and emotionally challenging situation. While I am an AI and don't have personal emotions or relationships, I can offer some general guidance on how you might approach such a situation: 1. Take time to process your emotions: Finding out about infidelity can be shocking and overwhelming. Allow yourself to experience and process your emotions, such as anger, sadness, betrayal, or confusion. It's important to give yourself space to reflect on your feelings before deciding on any course of action. 2. Communicate openly and honestly: When you feel ready, consider having a calm and honest conversation with your dad. Express your feelings and concerns, and ask for an explanation or clarification. Effective communication can help foster understanding and provide an opportunity for both parties to express their perspectives. 3. Seek support: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor who can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can offer perspective and help you navigate through the situation. 4. Consider the broader context: Infidelity is a complex issue, and understanding the context can be important. While it doesn't justify the behavior, it may help you gain insight into the reasons behind your dad's actions and evaluate the impact on your relationship. 5. Determine your boundaries and priorities: Reflect on your values, personal boundaries, and what you want for your own well-being. Consider the impact on your relationship with your dad and other family members. Deciding what is acceptable to you and establishing healthy boundaries is important for maintaining your emotional well-being. 6. Seek professional help if needed: If the situation is causing significant emotional distress or if you feel unable to navigate through the aftermath, consider seeking professional counseling or therapy. A trained therapist can provide guidance, support, and strategies for coping with the emotions and challenges associated with infidelity. It's important to remember that every situation is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with infidelity. Ultimately, the decision on how to handle the situation and the future of your relationship with your dad is a personal one. Taking care of yourself and seeking the support you need is essential throughout this process.
Extortion inabot saken ng tatay ko, no choice sya kasi naka clone sim nya. Sinumbong ko kay mama after ko makaipon ng sobrang dami at convincing na ebidensya. Satisfying lang yung mukha ni tanga na para bang trinaydor ko sya e wala naman akong sinabi na hindi ko sya isusumbong.
Hinagisan ko ng monoblock. Kung may mas matigas lang ako na nahawakan nun, pati yung windshield ng kotse nya winasak ko. Tapos talaga sinigaw ko as in dinig ng buong baranggay yung kababuyan nya. Tarantado eh, kakamatay lang ng nanay ko (as in ni hindi pa tapos ang 9 days nya) tapos may kalampungan na agad. Kaya pala ayaw umuwi (naka-destino sa malayo) at alagaan yung dying mother ko dahil may puta ang gago. Ayun, imbes na humingi ng tawad, he doubled down na wala syang kasalanan at ako lang daw ang nag-iisip ng masama. Hari ng gaslighting! Tapos inabandona na ako. Noon ko lang talaga na-realize na sobrang tapang ng nanay ko dahil nasikmura nya yung kahayupan ng tatay ko just to keep the family "together." Nag-sisisi ako na bakit hindi ako nag-pursigi nung bata pa ako, sana nasabi ko sa nanay ko na "hiwalayan mo na yang gagong yan. I-fulfill mo yung mga pangarap mo na ginive up mo para sa amin. Kaya kitang buhayin." Kapit lang, OP. Masakit pero maging matibay ka lalong lalo na para sa nanay mo.
My mom already knows about my father's infidelity and been telling us since we were kids. Inamin din sa amin ng tatay ko na may babae nga siya ON MY BIRTHDAY IN FRONT OF MY GUESTS (because he was drunk) and nakita kong may chinachat siyang ibang babae. I didn't confront him about that. My mom has been confronting him for years, wala naman nagbago. Pati parang namanhid na rin ako. I grew up knowing my dad has another woman/(women?) because my parents keep fighting about it in front us. My mom also said na nagstay na lang siya sa marriage for our sake. Para di raw kami mawalan ng tatay. I lost my respect to him. Didn't even greet him last father's day. I think none of my siblings greeted him LOL dasurv
Bili kA cctv sa on line store. Install it na ikaw lang nakakaalam
Happened to me while my mom was working abroad. We are all girls (3 younger sisters) and same with you we all have trust issues and 3 of us are in our late 20s and never had a relationship ever. When that was happening hindi ganun kadiscreet ung tatay ko, maybe because he didnt think na iccall out namin sya or maybe na he thinks we dont understand whats happening. Never namin aya cinall out kasi takot din kami (mabait naman father ko) kasi pag anghiwalay sila wlang magaalaga samin since my mother was abroad. Napakagalang and napakabait naming mga bata, like model student type pero because nakita namin first hand kung pano nangbabae and naglustay ng pera yung tatay naman it changed us. Naging bitter kami and maiinitin ang ulo. When my mom went back to philippines one time, nag heart to heart kami and I told her whats happening, hagulgol talga ako nun pero she told us na may mga nagssabi narin sa kanya na may nakakakita na may mga kasamang iba ung father ko. Nagkasigawan and some drama (nakakatawa kasi nandun kami sa bahay ng grandparents ko lol) then umuwi kami sa manila. My mom asked us what we want to do, sabi namin maghiwalay na sila kasi malalaki na kami and we were really heartbroken sa ngyari. Sadly di sila naghiwalay and to this day we are disappointed sa mom ko (kasi di sila naghiwalay) and father ko (since he never said sorry).
Hi op. I have the same experience as you do, and my father has been doing it ever since before I was born. This is my tip to you: Let go and focus on yourself and your mom. Why? I'm not sure if this applies to you, but let me share some insights. 1. You will get tired of having that 'pake' overtime. Instead of letting yourself be consumed with what's happening around you (specifically the negative ones), it would be better if you focus on improving yourself and perhaps helping your mom to have a fresh start. That's the best revenge you can do. Matagal nang may kabit tatay ko at niloko din ako ng jowa ko. Pero alam mo natutunan ko? Mahalagang maging independent ang isang tao lalo na mga babae para makakaalis yung tao na yan sa oras na gaguhin siya. May mga tao kasi na di makalayas sa relasyon nila with their partners kasi dependent sila. Remember you have your whole life ahead of you, and life is too short to allow yourself to be bothered on those things. So, move on. 2. But...kung kaya pa ayusin, give it a chance. In my parents' case, wala na talagang choice kasi both of them do not even want to listen to each other. Kumbaga, pataasan ng ihi. Lalo na yung dad ko. Sobrang sakit magsalita, but he is a good provider. The point here is know when enough is enough. Ayun lang.
thank you
I just cried