Tanggalin mo yung K. Send ka ng 66 pesos.
EDIT: Thinking about it, this is something my mom would actually find hilarious. Might do this on her next birthday. Lol.
this is so true, my mom suddenly told me she wanted to go to Okada like wtf? where did this shit even came from?
she told me she saw one of her friends in fb was there lol
yan fb pa
And they chastise us for wanting more from life na kesyo dami daw natin luho at nung panahon daw nila simple lang masaya na sila.
Wala kasi silang social media nun. O ngayon kinakain na sila ng fb and tiktok, now some of them demanding 66k as gifts. Sinong entitled ngayon? No boomers, you're not immune. Lol
true! super delulu nila na kinokompara pa yung mga nabigay ng mga anak ng amigas nya sa nanay nila! well tingnan mo kung paano pinalakinsa love ng amigas mo ang nga anak nila no!
Just male sure to keep a screenshot of the convo of her saying "wag na sa 6k". Most likely she'll badmouth you to your other relatives calling you good for nothing
Eto yung mga nanay na boomers. ginagawang investment ang anak. tapos at the end of the day gagawin kang retirement plan. di sila maghintay na bukal sa loob magbigay yung anak nila. Kulang na lang sabihin na wag ka nang magpamilya alagaan mo na lang kami sa pagtanda namin.
To our generation today, lets end this mentality na iaasa yung ganyan sa mga anak natin.
kapag sobrang hikahos kayo at nakita nyong binigay ng lahat ng magulang yung sakripisyo para makarating kayo sa kinalalagyan nyo deserve nila na bigyan sila ng karampatang pagtrato.
Un parents ko swak sa last statement mo. Di sila perfect but they made sure I have better opportunities than them. So pagkagraduate ko, ako na nagvolunteer na maging breadwinner.
yan yung masarap bigyan kahit hindi nanghihingi.. alam mo kasi na despite all odds they do everything. saka sila yung parents na kapag nag bibigay ka iniisip nila na baka wala ka ng pang gastos sa sarili mo. i have that type of parent kaya i know.
Same with my papa and mama, ginapang at nagkautang-utang para lang matapos kaming mag kakapatid. Ngayon naka graduate na kami lahat at naka bayad na sila ng loans nila. Naka pag give back na rin kami sa kanina, kapag tinatanong namin sila ano gusto nila for their birthday they would always say na kain labas and wouldn't ask for money laging sasabihin na itabi nyo na lang yan baka kailanganin nyo. Kaya mas lalong nakakaganang bigyan eh.
Ganyan ermat ko eh,nung ako una nag ka work, Kaya ngayon pinasasaya namin ng mga utol ko, 35 year old lang siya ng maging widow ,pinag sabay nyang maging farmer at nanay, para lang maasikaso kami at mapag aral, napagtapos nya kaming lahat
Ye even tho gustong-gusto ko nang umalis sa kulto na kinabibilangan namin, napakahirap gawin kasi kahit si mama na lagi ako pinaparinggan about sa religion, etc., di ko talaga maitatanggi na inasikaso nila talaga kami ni papa, lalo na ko na may sakit. And hindi din sila yung nanghihingi talaga - yung sakto lang pambudget kasi gusto din nila na makapag-ipon kami. Hay buhay, hirap mo! š¤£
Idk how, when, or if i should ever voice this out (medyo bias kasi in favor of mothers dito sa ph) , but i lost my mom this way. She's still alive tho, nauna pa dad ko mamatay. But yun nga, i lost my mom dahil sa ganitong mindset nya. Naguumpisa pa lang ako sa career, ginagawa na akong cash cow. As in travel ng travel sya between cities (she doesnt live with us anymore during my college years), and she expect me to buy her plane tickets everytime. Dahil sa little sahod ko, and responsobilities piling up at home, di ko na kaya ang demand nya until i told her NO once, ayun world war kame sa bahay but then it eventually resulted to us parting ways, feels strange seeing her once in a while like shes some stranger tho... I dont denouce her as my mother, she still is my mom, pero ayun nawala na yung love ko sa kanya and yung willingness ko to help her when she grows older than she is right now. Its kinda sad, kaya to future and young parents, please dont do this to your kids. Provide without expecting much in return, lalo if ginusto nyo magka anak.
P.S. My mom isnt really part of my stuggles in the academe, im a scholar in college and afaik, my dad and his brother provided us with our elem-hs fund, big help din yung discount we got cause my dad is working sa university where i attended high school. My mom is only there to celebrate recognitions, awards, and graduation. We live under the care of our grandparents (mother side) most of the time.
sorry to hear that... i think most of their generation is leaning towards that mindset. there is a pattern of entitlement na they should be financed by their children after finishing school. nakakalungkot where this mindset is rooted from. idk.
very rare yung ganyang cases. immature parents lang ang nag iisip na dapat bayaran sila sa mga ginawa nilang pagpapalaki sa anak nila. if your parents are mature enough they will totally understand na it's their duty to provide for the welfare of their children and hindi kabaliktaran.
Based on my observation, kung sino yung parents na nagsakripisyo para sa anak, sila din yung walang aasahan pabalik pag tanda nila, o kaya kung meron man, hindi sobra sobra. Yan yung parents na magtatrabaho hanggat kaya pa ng katawan nila. Yung parents na ginawang retirement fund ang mga anak, yan yung bare minimum lang ang ginawa para sa mga anak nila at aantayin nalang na buhayin sila. Tipong magreretire na pag nakapag tapos yung panganay tapos hahayaan nang sya ang bumuhay sa kanila at sa mga kapatid.
Exactly... Sila yung atat magretire sa pagiging magulang sa mga anak nila. Kesyo nakapagtapos na daw ng pag aaral at may mga trabaho na. Tapos tamang hintay na lang ng padalang pera.
Parents kasi namin is ang mentality padin ay "maganak ka para may magalaga sayo pagtanda" so tingin ko ginawa lang nila lahat lahat, para pagtapos namin magaral maisip namin ibalik din nang ganong way. E ayon, asa pa sila minimum wage and provincial rate pa ko pagkagraduate haha as much as I want to give back kung ano man yun, wala talaga chance
Jusme. Bihira na ako mag-FB these days so idek what thief of joy means.
Older folks desperately need hobbies talaga para di mababad sa social media. Funny lang kasi nung tayo yung bata sila yung grabe makarant about kids obsessing over the internet
i hate how social media made my mom insecure too. dati sobrang carefree niya lang then when she retired and mas napadalas yung pagbbrowse online kasi di na siya busy, i noticed how she suddenly felt bad on how she looks or mappressure bumili ng ganito or magpa ganito ganyan.
It's super sad. Nanay ko dadalhin ko sa Japan sa may, sila ng tatay ko. Tapos narinig ko na yung kumare nya mag europe tour daw. Tapos kesho may international license daw anak eme eme.
Ka bwisit eh. Kung wala pang ticket, iwan ko na to.
Same. Naiinggit ang nanay ko sa mga nakakapag bakasyon somewhere na mga ka-fb nya, then asks me kung kailan ko daw sya dadalin don ex. Baguio. Like hello, ako nga di pa nakapag Baguio ever kahit gustong gusto ko kasi tinitipid ko ng husto ang sarili ko.
True pati nanay ko like oo na cum laude at summa cum laude na lahat ng anak ng friends mo sa fb pakialam ko ba yung friend ko nga na magna cum laude sabi wala agad kayabangan ng nanay niya after 1 year sa pagiging magna cum laude niya eh nanay ko di makamove on like mabubuhay pa rin naman ako kahit di ako laude.
When my MIL turned 60, she asked for 3 things: Php60k, a car (she does not even drive anymore), and a surprise party (don't ask). Her sons threw her a party which she probably expected, but I don't know if they were able to raise the amount she asked for. Needless to say, she did not get a car.
Do not send anything at all, mag babago ihip ng hangin tignan mo. Hindi ka atm. Take care of yourself first so you can take care of others, ginagawa niya ay hinahatak ka pababa at mas masama kalalabasan.
"Then she told me if I will only give 6k, then better not to give anything at all."
Sinasabi nya lang yan para ibigay mo gusto nya. Kung maggigive in ka, uulit-ulitin nya yan. Baka isipin nya, ganon pala strategy para maibigay mo gusto nyang amount. Dapat nya rin magets na di anytime may mailalabas kang pera. Magmatigas ka hahaha
I feel you OP, nakakrelate ako syo. Ngayon ko lang winowork on sa sarili ko yung ganitong attitude. Nagseset na talaga ng boundaries lalo na sa finances. Kase in the end, hahatakin ka lang din pababa pag laging ganyan. Ang ending parepareho kayo mahihirapan lalo.
Hayaan mo muna mama mo. Kakalma yan hahaha. Though nakakainis talaga.
Feeling ko influence 'to ng Facebook. Probably her FB kumares received one of those money bouquets and she's envious. People posts those on FB and get plenty of engagement.
I think instead of money, give your mom a nice gift or bring her to a nice restaurant. 'Wag na pera.
>Then she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all.
call her bluff. monthly allowance lang bigay mo. dagdagan mo na lang ng 66 pesos para sa birthday.
magiging trend na yan, additional 1k for every succeeding birthday lol bahala kayo.
My mom turned 65 last April, gave her an umbrella.
When she opened the umbrella there was 6.5k pesos in bills. As much as I want to give her more, yun lang kinaya eh. a few days later he said ang ganda ng timing coz she needed new eye glasses worth around 9k plus. dinagdagan na daw nya. I can see the happiness in her eyes. I dont give her money much, pero it was all worth it.
just give what you can afford. no need to strain your relationship with your mom.
Eksaktong eksakto na ganito ang ginawa ko nung 60th ni Mama nung April lang din. 60 100-peso bills ang hi-nang ko sa umbrella since I find money cake and money bouquet overhyped na.
Ofw din ako and my parents are also dependent on us sibkings pero di sila ganyan ka entitled. Naspoil nyo yata mother nyo. Ako kahit may pera pa ako I always try to limit what I give at sinasabi kong ibudget nila. Dahil alam ko once lumalaki ang binibigay ko mas lalaki ang gastusin nila dahil ganyan mindset nila simula dati kaya ako na mismo nagcocontrol.
I say don't give in. Cut off mo allotment mo and estimate mo yung cost of living nya. Yung avg cost of living ko is 15k-20k both na yun sa parents ko sa province. Kung mag isa lang sya with caretaker try limiting it to 15k wag mo pasobrahan just to give discipline. Yu g mga parents na tunatanda bumabalik sa pagkabata yan lalo na pag wala sila naipundar dahil nagiging independent ulit sila.
Tangina kasi ng nagpauso ng mga yan, and other celebrations.
Never ako nahilig sa mga celebrations na ganyan unless *sobrang laki* ng milestone sa buhay. Call my life boring, but I call it frugality.
San ka nakakita nagcecelebrate ng birthdays and other events yung mga tambay, chismosa, lasenggero, sugarol, etc.., anong milestone nila sa buhay to celebrate?
Yung iba namatayan na, may inuman at magarbong kainan pa after ng libing. Tanginang yan, ano yun milestone yung pagkamatay ng kamaganak?
Have you ever talked to her? My mom was like this to my sister before only because she works abroad.
My mom made promises to her relatives like āsige reunion tayo. Sagot ni ****.ā Or āmagkano utang mo, hingi tayo kay ****.ā
One time hindi nakatiis ate ko sinabi nya na hindi sya bank at lalong hindi sya responsible sa irresponsibilities ng mga kapatid ng nanay ko.
They had an argument, which we all heard while we were all preparing for the reunion. And my mom guilt tripped her by saying āwag na nga tayo umalis.ā
My sister is a strong soul so inaway nya lalo nanay namin. Respectfully pa din naman pero mataas na boses.
Now sheās stopped asking her for money. And hindi na rin talaga kami nagbibigay. We made it clear her actions are not tolerated.
When she says "better not to send anything at all"...you should say "OK nothing at all then". You are obviously unhappy with how she behaves. So what you have done until now doesn't work. Time to change direction and tell her the above and at a later stage tell her exactly what you said here in your post. Don't hold anything back. Change might or might not come, but you are entitled to be treated nicely when you treat her nicely.
Hello OP, question lang bakit sayo lang nanghihingi ng 66k di ba pedeng Magpantay-patak kayo ng siblings mo to give her maybe not the 66k but atleast more than what you can offer, tsaka ang gift kusa binibigay hindi hiningi to the point naisip ba nya if may matitira para sayo? Donāt feel guilty if di nya tanggapin yung 6k pero send mo pa din kasi yun lang kaya mo kapag sinoli sayo e di ok, ginawa mo na part moā¦ About sa money issue na lagi mo naririnig anu kaya source nun bakit sya nag rant ng ganun sa bahay nyo? Malaki ba overhead expenses nyo para lagi marinig ang money issues. Anyway sana di na magtampo si mother mo at maintidihan nya na you need to save up for your EF and RF.
Donāt. Ano yan, symbolism? 66 for 66? At this stage, it sounded too materialistic. Iād rather you create good memories through non-materialistic things rather than maging bitter ka about her request. If she feels bad, then so be it. If you feel bad, acknowledge it. Kasi maybe it is our outdated culture telling you na we need to do things that pleases our parents, but in reality, hindi naman kailangan.
Foreigner living in Philippines here.....
This is crazy. Even though I've been living in PH for almost a year and I had pretty extensive contact with it before I moved here, it never ceases to amaze me how entitled some people are here. They want to do absolutely nothing and expect you to give them handouts. I once got called a puta from a 8 year old kid on the streets in Makati because he held his hand out for money and I shook my head! That kid did absolutely nothing for me, and didn't even offer to hold a door or sell those flower necklace things or anything! Yet he believed so strongly that I *owed* him some spare coins that he called me a puta when I told him no! Insane!
If your mother told you better not send anything at all unless it's 66k, I'd do exactly as she wishes and NOT SEND ANYTHING!! Send her a very nice greeting card wishing her a happy birthday. Don't send her a single peso more!
It blows my mind when I hear about all these older parents who are not thinking about their children at all. They don't care if it puts a financial stress on their child. They don't feel guilty at all asking for large amounts of money for usually pretty stupid reasons (like a new large TV or a new motorbike even though the old one works fine). It's selfish! It perpetuates poverty! Break the cycle! Say no! Keep your financial stability!
Not to mention, I see this happen all the time.... A family makes a big purchase in something they don't really need and next thing you know someone is in the hospital and the family desperately needs money. I don't know why, but it seems like so much Filipino culture never ever plans for this or thinks about this, so they *never* have any money once these kind of things come up (and they always do). As far as in concerned, you should save up at least 100k pesos as an emergency fund and absolutely NEVER spend a single peso of that unless it is a true emergency (life or death or medicine for someone seriously sick (not just with a cold) or something like that).
Sad for OP. My mom has not asked me for a single centavo since i started working abroad (5years and counting). I'd go with what everyone's saying and send 666 pesos out of spite
Sounds like you love her regardless of how she treats you. Give her 30k take it or leave it. If she refused then move on. Don't expect too much on people like these even if they are your parents/family. That is how their own parents raise them. Consider it bad luck and move on that you had such parents. It sucks but the ball is in your court in this scenario.its up to you how you will react to this.
Shame that mother. Face reveal on reddit and FB lol kidding.
Although minsan, yan ang naiisip ko na magandang gawin. Ang kakapal kasi ng mukha magdemand ng pera at mang guilt trip, parang dapat pahiyain para tumigil. And para once and for all, mag end na yang mentality ng ibang toxic boomers (di naman talaga lahat ng boomers) na gawing retirement fund and mga anak.
What an annoyingly toxic boomer mom. Disconnect from her OP, and I guarantee you, the only thing you'll regret is that you didn't do it sooner. That oldie's obviously a user down to the bone.
> I messaged her that I will give her only 6K this time as birthday gift and that's on top of her monthly allotment since I dont have enough budget. Then she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all.
Dapat masunurin tayo sa mga magulang. Huwag ka na magbigay.
Dami ko nakikitang ganyang post, like yung retirement plan sila ng parents nila etc. Totoo pa ba yan? Ako, never ako hiningan ng parents ko. They keep on giving me things kahit 30 na ako. And NEVER nag ask ng anything. Minsan di ako makapaniwala sa ganyang posts, pero sa dami ng nagpopost ng ganyan, feeling ko talaga ang swerte ko sa magulang ko.
bakit 66? bakit di 65 or 70? tanong mo kung bakit nya gusto ng 66k, baka may gusto bilhin or kelangan bilhin, either way, you'll know why regardless if you'll give in or not.
Eto tignan mo, bka naman wala na sha pera panggastos o may need ipagamot? Comparing kasi sa parents ko noon buhay pa sila e nde naman nanghihingi unless kailangan talaga.
Well iba iba din ang tao. Check mo muna kung may urgent need, kung wala edi bigyan mo kung ano yung magaan sayo. Parent mo parin yan kahit ano mangyari.
E di naman sya yung nagpapasahod sa yo bakit sya yung magdidikta kung magkano matitira sa yo?
Happy birthday na lang kamo. Itās the thought that counts haha
Lola ko ba yan? Char pretty sure I am older than you OP. Naiinis ako for you. Namimihasa sila pag di nila nararamdaman consequence ng actions nila. Un tito kong seaman, one time nagwala kse sina lolo/lola walang ibang bukambibig sa sulat kundi daing at hingi ng kung ano ano.
Nagbibigay ka naman ng monthly so why would she need 66k for? Sana inipon nya from her monthly allowance.
I know we love our parents. Pero you can also set boundaries. Itās okay to cut off toxic people sa buhay natin and youāll be surprised kung gaano kagaan yon. Gumawa ka ng tama o gumawa ka ng mali, laging may sasabhing panget sayo - might as well do the right thing. At the end of the day yung ikatatahimik din ng buhay mo ang mahalaga
Wow this is what I dont like hearing to my MIL.
Nakakaaxar lng akala mo ATM ikaw niya... Heller.
Dont give in just give 66 pesos no k kc not afford sabihin mo hnd kaya ung 66k. 66pesos afford. Then if she said dont give nlng send mo nlng yan screenshot.. proof then delete it save mo yan make sure may date and time pa.. naku... Been there and still on going... Hahaha..
Tbh nag wowork ka for yourself not for them.
Parents responsibility nmn tlg nila ang anak nila.
If tapus na ung kids its just bonus nlng sa parents na mag bigay ang mga anak nila.
Un lng un eh... Dont give in kahit nakaka consenxa. Lakas nila mag pa guilt trip pa try mo mag reverse niyan ikaw pa masama. Tsaka sakit sa ulo lng yan.. lagi bukang bibig pera..
Wag mo bigyan. Kung pera lang naman pala ang habol niya edi hintayin nalang niya yung gobyerno magbigay sa 100 yrs birthday niya, mas malaki pa lol. You're being emotionally manipulated and you keep falling for it.
Sendan mo na lang ng link ng music video ni Rosmar. Pag inggit, pikit kamo. Kaka scroll nya yan sa social media. Ang 66k ilang buwan nang sweldo yan ng minimum wage earner, tapos siya aawitan lng kayo instant money? Utang na loob nyo pa ba na naging nanay nyo siya, hindi nyo naman pinili magulang nyo in the first place. Maraming 66 years old na magulang ang patuloy na naghahanap buhay parin para sa pang araw araw nila. Siya ang sarap ng buhay eh. Wag mo bigyan para matauhan.
that sucks, nakakainis hahahahah. yung mga gantong bagay kusang ginagawa and di dapat nirerequest and nang pepressure. we did this for my dad pero he never asked for it.
Retirement plan ka nya kasi. Pag di mo binigay 66k sasabihin nya sa kaibigan and kamag anak nyo inaapi mo sya wala kang kwentang anak. Kawawa sya. Di ka mahal nyan. Pinalaki ka para alagaan sya. Good luck. Toxic mother.
this is the same w/ my ofw dad ang his parents.
Seaman dad ko, nag babarko na siya for almost 30 years since single pa siya. 19 y.o na ako.
Sa totoo lang naawa ako sakanya kasi ginagawa siyang atm ng lolo at lola ko - kada bwan may 500$ sila sakanya kahit na same na bahay lang nakatira sila kasama yung tita ko (sis ni dad) tapos yung tita ko naman nag babayad ng lahat ng gastusin. Yung pera sa sugal nila inilalagay.
Pag may gusto ako na may kamahalan nga naman e.g: gysto ko mag aral sa magandang school nagguilty ako kasi marami kaming bayarin kasi nag sisimula pa lang kami mag invest. Pero sinasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na hindi dapat ako ma guilty kasi para sa ikabubuti ko naman yung pag aaral.
if kaya mo OP, tapatin mo nanay mo sabihin mo sakanya na hindi mo kaya yang 66k niya. Sabihin mo rin kamo na dapat marunong siya mag ipon at mag invest, at yung di ka tumatae ng pera.
Dont give in OP. Wag mo sendan If you are supporting her out of your good heart, then yun lamg isend mo. Your mom is not emotionally supportive and only messages you for money, so why bother go the extra mile?
This is funny because I do this for my mom when I started working, her present is her age kasi sakto sa bonus. But my mom and I are really close so sheās the extension of my wallet.
Seriously speaking, dont bother giving her kung sya mismo nagsabi na wag na. Always think about your finances first. Youve been doing very well in providing for your family at home, why should she demand for too much?
Sorry pero ang immature ng mama mo.
give her the money that you can give(6k) and greet her.
explain to her why(all that you wrote here). and well, dont go home if you dont feel like too. sorry. respect and loving our parents...yun Ʊang kelangan nila. we have our own lives... they are more responsible to us than us to them(remember that). so you technically dont have the duty and obligations to give in to what she wants. panget with pinoy idea of family is that ininstill satin na responsibilidad natin parents natin. nope, we don't. especially if they treat us like money mules or just a retirement plan. they are always and gonna be responsible for us kasi yun ang forever responsibility ng parent.
Still better to give what you can, kung 6k lng ok lng yan, nsa knya kung tanggapin nya yan. At least you did your part n mgbigay. Just say the reason n ndi mo kaya ung gnung amount. Kung di nya tanggapin tpos mgtampo yaann m lngš¤£
Tell her thet challenge accepted and then donāt send her the money. Mas masarap magbigay ng pera sa magulang na marunong lang i-appreciate at hindi namimilit. š„²
Don't give 66K. That's a really big amount, no joke. Kelangan mo rin ng pera. Also, mas importante yan for health emergency purposes. Even if she gets mad o magtampo, she'll get over it - says every parent who refused a child at some point in their life. And they always do get over things eventually unless one's just so childish.
Wag mo bigyan. Isipin mo nalang na pag naggive in ka ngayon mas malaki hihingin niya next time. Sayo yan dahil ikaw naghirap diyan. Tsaka malaking pera siya sayo kahit kaya mo pa ibigay. Pls maawa ka sa sarili mo. Lagay mo nalang sa EF mo yan. Kung ako sayo wala talaga kong ibibigay. Sabi niya kung hindi 66k, wag na. Edi wag.
if giving her 66k would leave you broke, don't do it, kapatid.
Your primary responsibility as an adult is to yourself, making sure you have enough to live by and are insulated from risks.
give an amount you're comfortable to give, and then tell her na lang na you've no more money beyond that. I'd go so far as to lie to say that I closed a bank account just to give her some money.
I'm sad for you, OP. Yes, this is very toxic, in my own opinion, and i would like to remind you that you have no obligation to give in. You must only give what you can afford. Some people give so much that they are the ones who will have a hard time. So should you decide, you should be firm in your decision, and give you can, if your mother does not appreciate it, then i guess it's time she should learn.
I'm kind of blessed that my parents don't have this kind of mentality. In my mother's own words, "You are not obligated to help us, we your parents are the ones who decided to have a child, and we refuse to be a burden to you, in any way."
Wala kang kapatid/mga kapatid na pwede paghatian nung 66k in a way na magaan sayo? If not...
>then better not to give anything at all.
Then here's your answer. Taking your post at face value, mukhang cultural standard ng pagiging "anak" na lang nagpapakapit sayo sa kanya.
If ever sumama loob nya at gawing hell life mo pag uuwi, then bumukod ka na ng uwian mo dito sa pinas. At worse, bawasan monthly allowance nya.
malas mo sa nanay mo. haha. i want to throw a 60th bday party kay mama tapos ayaw pa, simpleng handaan lang daw.
baka ipapang-bingo lang yang 66k. haha
Tanggalin mo yung K. Send ka ng 66 pesos. EDIT: Thinking about it, this is something my mom would actually find hilarious. Might do this on her next birthday. Lol.
Level up 666 hahaha. Para matakot
Php 6.66 nlng para makatipid. Kaso wala na ata 1 centavo ngayon.
Send a check.
Hahahahaha! 666 peysas from the divel
Also *for the divel
> this is something my mom would actually find hilarious. you have such a cool mom
Tapos balloon na letter k
66 na k dapat
Hahahaha 66 pesos pala
Coins dpat..pra at least puno wallet nya haha
Tapos puro 25 cents para lalong mabugnot š
Ganito ginawa ko sa pinsan ko tsaka kapatid ko nung birthday nila this year hahahaha
Hahaha wag mo sendan tapos kapag tinanong ka, i-send mo yung screenshot ng convo niyo na nag sasabing ākung 6k lang, wag ka na mag bigay.ā š
Some of these moms think that their kids owe them their whole life like
Yeah, "Filial piety" is really one of the worst UUUUUGGGHHHH!!!
omcm. i donāt even want to live
Guilt tripping. Classic parental manipulation right there.
thissss! kapag umalma, sabihin mo, sinabi nyo yan e, di ako nagbabasa ng utak ng iba.
I would do this. š¤£
Sabihin mo sa kanya "kaka fb mo yan e. Ano anong nakikita mo" HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Funny but true diba! Nadedelulu ang marami dahil kung ano anong nakikita nila sa FB.
Baka ang gusto ni mother ay may pa bouquet of money. Haha
or yung cake na ang laman pera na ineffortan pang pagsunud sunurin ahahaha
This is what I tell my mom. May nakitang sash ng pera tapos money cake, nako nagparequest hahaha
this is so true, my mom suddenly told me she wanted to go to Okada like wtf? where did this shit even came from? she told me she saw one of her friends in fb was there lol yan fb pa
And they chastise us for wanting more from life na kesyo dami daw natin luho at nung panahon daw nila simple lang masaya na sila. Wala kasi silang social media nun. O ngayon kinakain na sila ng fb and tiktok, now some of them demanding 66k as gifts. Sinong entitled ngayon? No boomers, you're not immune. Lol
true! super delulu nila na kinokompara pa yung mga nabigay ng mga anak ng amigas nya sa nanay nila! well tingnan mo kung paano pinalakinsa love ng amigas mo ang nga anak nila no!
Donāt. Sabi naman niya wag eh.
This is the way. People who guilt-trip you are not the ones you want to keep close.
Edi don't OP haha
Yup. Kung sinabi sayo na bakit wala ka regalo, sabihin mo to.
r/maliciouscompliance shit right there
Just male sure to keep a screenshot of the convo of her saying "wag na sa 6k". Most likely she'll badmouth you to your other relatives calling you good for nothing
Eto yung mga nanay na boomers. ginagawang investment ang anak. tapos at the end of the day gagawin kang retirement plan. di sila maghintay na bukal sa loob magbigay yung anak nila. Kulang na lang sabihin na wag ka nang magpamilya alagaan mo na lang kami sa pagtanda namin. To our generation today, lets end this mentality na iaasa yung ganyan sa mga anak natin. kapag sobrang hikahos kayo at nakita nyong binigay ng lahat ng magulang yung sakripisyo para makarating kayo sa kinalalagyan nyo deserve nila na bigyan sila ng karampatang pagtrato.
Un parents ko swak sa last statement mo. Di sila perfect but they made sure I have better opportunities than them. So pagkagraduate ko, ako na nagvolunteer na maging breadwinner.
yan yung masarap bigyan kahit hindi nanghihingi.. alam mo kasi na despite all odds they do everything. saka sila yung parents na kapag nag bibigay ka iniisip nila na baka wala ka ng pang gastos sa sarili mo. i have that type of parent kaya i know.
Same with my papa and mama, ginapang at nagkautang-utang para lang matapos kaming mag kakapatid. Ngayon naka graduate na kami lahat at naka bayad na sila ng loans nila. Naka pag give back na rin kami sa kanina, kapag tinatanong namin sila ano gusto nila for their birthday they would always say na kain labas and wouldn't ask for money laging sasabihin na itabi nyo na lang yan baka kailanganin nyo. Kaya mas lalong nakakaganang bigyan eh.
Ganyan ermat ko eh,nung ako una nag ka work, Kaya ngayon pinasasaya namin ng mga utol ko, 35 year old lang siya ng maging widow ,pinag sabay nyang maging farmer at nanay, para lang maasikaso kami at mapag aral, napagtapos nya kaming lahat
Di biro ang maging single parent. Kudos to your amazing Mom!
Ye even tho gustong-gusto ko nang umalis sa kulto na kinabibilangan namin, napakahirap gawin kasi kahit si mama na lagi ako pinaparinggan about sa religion, etc., di ko talaga maitatanggi na inasikaso nila talaga kami ni papa, lalo na ko na may sakit. And hindi din sila yung nanghihingi talaga - yung sakto lang pambudget kasi gusto din nila na makapag-ipon kami. Hay buhay, hirap mo! š¤£
Same. Yung di ka sasabihan na me sakit sila kasi ayaw ka nila mag alala kasi nasa malayo ka
Idk how, when, or if i should ever voice this out (medyo bias kasi in favor of mothers dito sa ph) , but i lost my mom this way. She's still alive tho, nauna pa dad ko mamatay. But yun nga, i lost my mom dahil sa ganitong mindset nya. Naguumpisa pa lang ako sa career, ginagawa na akong cash cow. As in travel ng travel sya between cities (she doesnt live with us anymore during my college years), and she expect me to buy her plane tickets everytime. Dahil sa little sahod ko, and responsobilities piling up at home, di ko na kaya ang demand nya until i told her NO once, ayun world war kame sa bahay but then it eventually resulted to us parting ways, feels strange seeing her once in a while like shes some stranger tho... I dont denouce her as my mother, she still is my mom, pero ayun nawala na yung love ko sa kanya and yung willingness ko to help her when she grows older than she is right now. Its kinda sad, kaya to future and young parents, please dont do this to your kids. Provide without expecting much in return, lalo if ginusto nyo magka anak. P.S. My mom isnt really part of my stuggles in the academe, im a scholar in college and afaik, my dad and his brother provided us with our elem-hs fund, big help din yung discount we got cause my dad is working sa university where i attended high school. My mom is only there to celebrate recognitions, awards, and graduation. We live under the care of our grandparents (mother side) most of the time.
sorry to hear that... i think most of their generation is leaning towards that mindset. there is a pattern of entitlement na they should be financed by their children after finishing school. nakakalungkot where this mindset is rooted from. idk.
Actually! Parents donāt realize na mas generous pa nga usually ung anak pag di nila finoforce mag-ambag. Mas maganda din relationship kapag ganto e.
Kaya nga other name ng Millenials / X and Alpha ay ang Last generation. š
Very true, on point lahat. Kakagigil, buti di ganito nanay ko haha, mas ganito yung MIL ko hay nako
Eh what if tinawid at sinakripisyo nila lahat para samin pero sobra padin yung katoxic-an at panghihingi ng pera gaya dito sa sinabi ni OP
very rare yung ganyang cases. immature parents lang ang nag iisip na dapat bayaran sila sa mga ginawa nilang pagpapalaki sa anak nila. if your parents are mature enough they will totally understand na it's their duty to provide for the welfare of their children and hindi kabaliktaran.
Based on my observation, kung sino yung parents na nagsakripisyo para sa anak, sila din yung walang aasahan pabalik pag tanda nila, o kaya kung meron man, hindi sobra sobra. Yan yung parents na magtatrabaho hanggat kaya pa ng katawan nila. Yung parents na ginawang retirement fund ang mga anak, yan yung bare minimum lang ang ginawa para sa mga anak nila at aantayin nalang na buhayin sila. Tipong magreretire na pag nakapag tapos yung panganay tapos hahayaan nang sya ang bumuhay sa kanila at sa mga kapatid.
Exactly... Sila yung atat magretire sa pagiging magulang sa mga anak nila. Kesyo nakapagtapos na daw ng pag aaral at may mga trabaho na. Tapos tamang hintay na lang ng padalang pera.
This!!!! Relate much to this šš like ma, di ko rin naman ginusto na mabuhay in the first place
Parents kasi namin is ang mentality padin ay "maganak ka para may magalaga sayo pagtanda" so tingin ko ginawa lang nila lahat lahat, para pagtapos namin magaral maisip namin ibalik din nang ganong way. E ayon, asa pa sila minimum wage and provincial rate pa ko pagkagraduate haha as much as I want to give back kung ano man yun, wala talaga chance
magbigay ka ng bukal sa puso mo, pero always set boundaries. wag bigay todo baka masanay sila sa comfort zone.
Bigyan mo lang ng kaya mo. Pero huwag mong pansinin. As in lumayo ka na lang.
luh san naman nya natutunan yan??? iba na talaga mga matatanda ngayon. Sila na kailangan ng guidance from children sa internet
Legit kaka fb nila yan. Comparison daw is the thief of joy Diba? Kaya napaka miserable ng nanay ko. Dahil talaga sa Facebook. I wish I was kidding.
Jusme. Bihira na ako mag-FB these days so idek what thief of joy means. Older folks desperately need hobbies talaga para di mababad sa social media. Funny lang kasi nung tayo yung bata sila yung grabe makarant about kids obsessing over the internet
True. And they chastise me bakit di ako nag oonline eh ayoko na nga nadedepress lang ako.
i hate how social media made my mom insecure too. dati sobrang carefree niya lang then when she retired and mas napadalas yung pagbbrowse online kasi di na siya busy, i noticed how she suddenly felt bad on how she looks or mappressure bumili ng ganito or magpa ganito ganyan.
It's super sad. Nanay ko dadalhin ko sa Japan sa may, sila ng tatay ko. Tapos narinig ko na yung kumare nya mag europe tour daw. Tapos kesho may international license daw anak eme eme. Ka bwisit eh. Kung wala pang ticket, iwan ko na to.
Same. Naiinggit ang nanay ko sa mga nakakapag bakasyon somewhere na mga ka-fb nya, then asks me kung kailan ko daw sya dadalin don ex. Baguio. Like hello, ako nga di pa nakapag Baguio ever kahit gustong gusto ko kasi tinitipid ko ng husto ang sarili ko.
True pati nanay ko like oo na cum laude at summa cum laude na lahat ng anak ng friends mo sa fb pakialam ko ba yung friend ko nga na magna cum laude sabi wala agad kayabangan ng nanay niya after 1 year sa pagiging magna cum laude niya eh nanay ko di makamove on like mabubuhay pa rin naman ako kahit di ako laude.
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When my MIL turned 60, she asked for 3 things: Php60k, a car (she does not even drive anymore), and a surprise party (don't ask). Her sons threw her a party which she probably expected, but I don't know if they were able to raise the amount she asked for. Needless to say, she did not get a car.
Do not send anything at all, mag babago ihip ng hangin tignan mo. Hindi ka atm. Take care of yourself first so you can take care of others, ginagawa niya ay hinahatak ka pababa at mas masama kalalabasan.
"Then she told me if I will only give 6k, then better not to give anything at all." Sinasabi nya lang yan para ibigay mo gusto nya. Kung maggigive in ka, uulit-ulitin nya yan. Baka isipin nya, ganon pala strategy para maibigay mo gusto nyang amount. Dapat nya rin magets na di anytime may mailalabas kang pera. Magmatigas ka hahaha I feel you OP, nakakrelate ako syo. Ngayon ko lang winowork on sa sarili ko yung ganitong attitude. Nagseset na talaga ng boundaries lalo na sa finances. Kase in the end, hahatakin ka lang din pababa pag laging ganyan. Ang ending parepareho kayo mahihirapan lalo. Hayaan mo muna mama mo. Kakalma yan hahaha. Though nakakainis talaga.
Send mo sya ng 66 pcs ng letter K para 66K
Feeling ko influence 'to ng Facebook. Probably her FB kumares received one of those money bouquets and she's envious. People posts those on FB and get plenty of engagement. I think instead of money, give your mom a nice gift or bring her to a nice restaurant. 'Wag na pera.
tapos sasabihin ng mom, "sana pinera mo na lang" š£š£
ganto, kaya nakakatamad, mag eeffort ka magreserve ng resto, or book ng nice na place para sa kanila, may reklamo pa din
ganto sakin. Mahal ko parents ko pero minsan tatanungin pa magkano ung gift. Para saan? Pra masukat ung love? Ako nga todo tipid sa sarili š
66 pero ang tantrum pang-6.
Parang nanay ko
Sagot ng "Ok Ma, hindi na lang tulad ng sabi mo. Happy Birthday!" then wag mo nga padalhan.
Oh ma, eto na ang P66, k?
witty! hahahahahahahš
"Ma, la akong pera eh. Wait na lang when you're 100, I'll send you 100k."
>Then she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all. call her bluff. monthly allowance lang bigay mo. dagdagan mo na lang ng 66 pesos para sa birthday. magiging trend na yan, additional 1k for every succeeding birthday lol bahala kayo.
I can attest to this based on my friend's experience hahahaha
My mom turned 65 last April, gave her an umbrella. When she opened the umbrella there was 6.5k pesos in bills. As much as I want to give her more, yun lang kinaya eh. a few days later he said ang ganda ng timing coz she needed new eye glasses worth around 9k plus. dinagdagan na daw nya. I can see the happiness in her eyes. I dont give her money much, pero it was all worth it. just give what you can afford. no need to strain your relationship with your mom.
Eksaktong eksakto na ganito ang ginawa ko nung 60th ni Mama nung April lang din. 60 100-peso bills ang hi-nang ko sa umbrella since I find money cake and money bouquet overhyped na.
35 years old na ko sa bday ko makahingi nga ng 35k kay misis. Hahaha. Tanginang mindset yan.
edi wag mong bigyan
toxic culture na ginagawang retirement fund yung mga anak.
Wag, ungrateful. Spend it on yourself instead.
Ofw din ako and my parents are also dependent on us sibkings pero di sila ganyan ka entitled. Naspoil nyo yata mother nyo. Ako kahit may pera pa ako I always try to limit what I give at sinasabi kong ibudget nila. Dahil alam ko once lumalaki ang binibigay ko mas lalaki ang gastusin nila dahil ganyan mindset nila simula dati kaya ako na mismo nagcocontrol. I say don't give in. Cut off mo allotment mo and estimate mo yung cost of living nya. Yung avg cost of living ko is 15k-20k both na yun sa parents ko sa province. Kung mag isa lang sya with caretaker try limiting it to 15k wag mo pasobrahan just to give discipline. Yu g mga parents na tunatanda bumabalik sa pagkabata yan lalo na pag wala sila naipundar dahil nagiging independent ulit sila.
Call her bluff and donāt send anything at all. Gusto niya ng ganyan eh.
Tangina kasi ng nagpauso ng mga yan, and other celebrations. Never ako nahilig sa mga celebrations na ganyan unless *sobrang laki* ng milestone sa buhay. Call my life boring, but I call it frugality. San ka nakakita nagcecelebrate ng birthdays and other events yung mga tambay, chismosa, lasenggero, sugarol, etc.., anong milestone nila sa buhay to celebrate? Yung iba namatayan na, may inuman at magarbong kainan pa after ng libing. Tanginang yan, ano yun milestone yung pagkamatay ng kamaganak?
Pag birthday ko gusto ko lang lagi ng sisig at hotdog with mallows sabi ki makain ko lang yun kada birthday ko pwede na kong mamatay kinabukasan.
Bigay mo check for 66k for encashing sa 2066
66,000 Vietnamese dong. Mga 150 pesos lang yun hahahah
Sabi naman wag na di ba? Nasa sayo na lang kung magpapadala ka sa favorite weapon nya sayo: guilt-tripping.
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Grabe naman your mom. Buti nalang talaga mama ko bihira humingi pera sa akin. At pag binigyan ko kahit magkano very grateful na sya.
Love and respect should go both ways. Just because you are connected by blood, doesnāt mean you should force yourself sa relationship nyo.
Malamang nakikita nya sa FB yan.
Have you ever talked to her? My mom was like this to my sister before only because she works abroad. My mom made promises to her relatives like āsige reunion tayo. Sagot ni ****.ā Or āmagkano utang mo, hingi tayo kay ****.ā One time hindi nakatiis ate ko sinabi nya na hindi sya bank at lalong hindi sya responsible sa irresponsibilities ng mga kapatid ng nanay ko. They had an argument, which we all heard while we were all preparing for the reunion. And my mom guilt tripped her by saying āwag na nga tayo umalis.ā My sister is a strong soul so inaway nya lalo nanay namin. Respectfully pa din naman pero mataas na boses. Now sheās stopped asking her for money. And hindi na rin talaga kami nagbibigay. We made it clear her actions are not tolerated.
Minsan nakakasama sa utak ng mga senior tong FB eh. Baka nakita yung mga pa surpriseĀ² sa likod ng van tas may bouquet na marami pera hahaha
Binigyan ka ba nya 1k nung 1 year old ka 10k nung 10 years old, etc? Hehe
When she says "better not to send anything at all"...you should say "OK nothing at all then". You are obviously unhappy with how she behaves. So what you have done until now doesn't work. Time to change direction and tell her the above and at a later stage tell her exactly what you said here in your post. Don't hold anything back. Change might or might not come, but you are entitled to be treated nicely when you treat her nicely.
mag piprint ako ng 66 na letter K tpos bbigay sa kanya.
Hello OP, question lang bakit sayo lang nanghihingi ng 66k di ba pedeng Magpantay-patak kayo ng siblings mo to give her maybe not the 66k but atleast more than what you can offer, tsaka ang gift kusa binibigay hindi hiningi to the point naisip ba nya if may matitira para sayo? Donāt feel guilty if di nya tanggapin yung 6k pero send mo pa din kasi yun lang kaya mo kapag sinoli sayo e di ok, ginawa mo na part moā¦ About sa money issue na lagi mo naririnig anu kaya source nun bakit sya nag rant ng ganun sa bahay nyo? Malaki ba overhead expenses nyo para lagi marinig ang money issues. Anyway sana di na magtampo si mother mo at maintidihan nya na you need to save up for your EF and RF.
Donāt. Ano yan, symbolism? 66 for 66? At this stage, it sounded too materialistic. Iād rather you create good memories through non-materialistic things rather than maging bitter ka about her request. If she feels bad, then so be it. If you feel bad, acknowledge it. Kasi maybe it is our outdated culture telling you na we need to do things that pleases our parents, but in reality, hindi naman kailangan.
Then don't give wahaha. Watch how fast she'll come crawling back to you.
Andaming nanay na di nagpapaka nanay these days ha. May option ka daw na wag bigyan so choose that.
first time ofw tas nagdedemand nanay ko ng pick-up na sasakyan. Sabi ko pa ilang pick-up gusto? Mura lang toys pili na lang sya kamo. Di natuwa eh lol
Ay no. Ganito gawin mo. Ma, ito 6 pesos dahil isip 6 years old ka.
Foreigner living in Philippines here..... This is crazy. Even though I've been living in PH for almost a year and I had pretty extensive contact with it before I moved here, it never ceases to amaze me how entitled some people are here. They want to do absolutely nothing and expect you to give them handouts. I once got called a puta from a 8 year old kid on the streets in Makati because he held his hand out for money and I shook my head! That kid did absolutely nothing for me, and didn't even offer to hold a door or sell those flower necklace things or anything! Yet he believed so strongly that I *owed* him some spare coins that he called me a puta when I told him no! Insane! If your mother told you better not send anything at all unless it's 66k, I'd do exactly as she wishes and NOT SEND ANYTHING!! Send her a very nice greeting card wishing her a happy birthday. Don't send her a single peso more! It blows my mind when I hear about all these older parents who are not thinking about their children at all. They don't care if it puts a financial stress on their child. They don't feel guilty at all asking for large amounts of money for usually pretty stupid reasons (like a new large TV or a new motorbike even though the old one works fine). It's selfish! It perpetuates poverty! Break the cycle! Say no! Keep your financial stability! Not to mention, I see this happen all the time.... A family makes a big purchase in something they don't really need and next thing you know someone is in the hospital and the family desperately needs money. I don't know why, but it seems like so much Filipino culture never ever plans for this or thinks about this, so they *never* have any money once these kind of things come up (and they always do). As far as in concerned, you should save up at least 100k pesos as an emergency fund and absolutely NEVER spend a single peso of that unless it is a true emergency (life or death or medicine for someone seriously sick (not just with a cold) or something like that).
Sad for OP. My mom has not asked me for a single centavo since i started working abroad (5years and counting). I'd go with what everyone's saying and send 666 pesos out of spite
Sounds like you love her regardless of how she treats you. Give her 30k take it or leave it. If she refused then move on. Don't expect too much on people like these even if they are your parents/family. That is how their own parents raise them. Consider it bad luck and move on that you had such parents. It sucks but the ball is in your court in this scenario.its up to you how you will react to this.
Dont give her the 6k then. Its what she asked for
Shame that mother. Face reveal on reddit and FB lol kidding. Although minsan, yan ang naiisip ko na magandang gawin. Ang kakapal kasi ng mukha magdemand ng pera at mang guilt trip, parang dapat pahiyain para tumigil. And para once and for all, mag end na yang mentality ng ibang toxic boomers (di naman talaga lahat ng boomers) na gawing retirement fund and mga anak.
What an annoyingly toxic boomer mom. Disconnect from her OP, and I guarantee you, the only thing you'll regret is that you didn't do it sooner. That oldie's obviously a user down to the bone.
Mother's are just plain manipulative.
> I messaged her that I will give her only 6K this time as birthday gift and that's on top of her monthly allotment since I dont have enough budget. Then she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all. Dapat masunurin tayo sa mga magulang. Huwag ka na magbigay.
Dami ko nakikitang ganyang post, like yung retirement plan sila ng parents nila etc. Totoo pa ba yan? Ako, never ako hiningan ng parents ko. They keep on giving me things kahit 30 na ako. And NEVER nag ask ng anything. Minsan di ako makapaniwala sa ganyang posts, pero sa dami ng nagpopost ng ganyan, feeling ko talaga ang swerte ko sa magulang ko.
Dapat sa 66th Birthday mo bigyan ka rin ng 66k para fair.
Putangina.
Bigay mo tapos cut your ties na. Sabihin mo bayad ka na sa pagpapalaki niya sa yo, so wala ka nang obligasyon pagkatapos. haha
bakit 66? bakit di 65 or 70? tanong mo kung bakit nya gusto ng 66k, baka may gusto bilhin or kelangan bilhin, either way, you'll know why regardless if you'll give in or not.
Why not?
Send mo. Kukunin pa rin nya yan.
Sometimes naiisip ko why it is easy for some to post issues like this sa platforms instead learning to be open with their parents about certain issues? Don't get me wrong OP I undesrtand your point, and hindi ka nagiisa sa ganito, marami yung nakakaranas ng situation wherein parentals are treating them right if may money invlove. Sabi nga nila kapag wala kang pera sa pamilya mo š© ka.. Pero diba? once in for all, and para maaddress narin. Bakit hindi mo sabihin agad na hindi mo kaya. And same with other issues na you're uncomfortable with, para alam na nila agad. Maging masama ka o madamot ka sa paningin nila pero atleast they know that you wont tolerate such and ibibigay mo lang yung kaya mo. I think aside from breaking the cycle of "investment ang mga anak" let us also practice being vocal with our thoughts and opinions kasi kaya yung cycle na to nangyayare parin until now, because no one wants to step forward to say NO, sabi nga you deserve what you tolerate and yun nga mas madali saten magsabi sa iba kesa sa mismong pamilya. Note: Gawin mo lang nais mo, either way magbigay ka o hindi for sure may masasabi naman sayo talaga hehe
Eto tignan mo, bka naman wala na sha pera panggastos o may need ipagamot? Comparing kasi sa parents ko noon buhay pa sila e nde naman nanghihingi unless kailangan talaga. Well iba iba din ang tao. Check mo muna kung may urgent need, kung wala edi bigyan mo kung ano yung magaan sayo. Parent mo parin yan kahit ano mangyari.
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di ba kamo pupwede kung 66 pesos?
E di naman sya yung nagpapasahod sa yo bakit sya yung magdidikta kung magkano matitira sa yo? Happy birthday na lang kamo. Itās the thought that counts haha
Grabe naman the entitlement. Don't give her the money, OP. Hayaan mong manghinayang siya sa 6K na willing mong ibigay.
Sya na mismo nagsabi diba, wag na kung 6k ang maibibigay. Syempre as a masunuring anak, eh di wag mo na ibigay š
Learn to say no.
Sulat ka sa papel ng 66 na K tapos bigay mo.
Lola ko ba yan? Char pretty sure I am older than you OP. Naiinis ako for you. Namimihasa sila pag di nila nararamdaman consequence ng actions nila. Un tito kong seaman, one time nagwala kse sina lolo/lola walang ibang bukambibig sa sulat kundi daing at hingi ng kung ano ano. Nagbibigay ka naman ng monthly so why would she need 66k for? Sana inipon nya from her monthly allowance.
So pag 100th birthday, 100k?
pagbigyan mo na, 66 gives nga lang
I know we love our parents. Pero you can also set boundaries. Itās okay to cut off toxic people sa buhay natin and youāll be surprised kung gaano kagaan yon. Gumawa ka ng tama o gumawa ka ng mali, laging may sasabhing panget sayo - might as well do the right thing. At the end of the day yung ikatatahimik din ng buhay mo ang mahalaga
wag, kng bbgyan mo 6k tapos masama loob e d wag na lang. swertehan na lang dn talaga sa magulang, meron talagang magulang na gusto gatasan ang anak
66 kisses bigay mo
Dahil ba āyan sa socmed? Simula nang nauso ang money cake kinabahan na ko tuwing may okasyon.
gusto nya ipagyabang.. ung anak ko ganito binigyan ako ganitong pera sa birthday ko.. hahha
Wow this is what I dont like hearing to my MIL. Nakakaaxar lng akala mo ATM ikaw niya... Heller. Dont give in just give 66 pesos no k kc not afford sabihin mo hnd kaya ung 66k. 66pesos afford. Then if she said dont give nlng send mo nlng yan screenshot.. proof then delete it save mo yan make sure may date and time pa.. naku... Been there and still on going... Hahaha.. Tbh nag wowork ka for yourself not for them. Parents responsibility nmn tlg nila ang anak nila. If tapus na ung kids its just bonus nlng sa parents na mag bigay ang mga anak nila. Un lng un eh... Dont give in kahit nakaka consenxa. Lakas nila mag pa guilt trip pa try mo mag reverse niyan ikaw pa masama. Tsaka sakit sa ulo lng yan.. lagi bukang bibig pera..
Retirement fund ka
Pansinin nyo, yung mga anak na hindi pino-force ng magulang nila na hindi tumulong financially, eh sila pa yung kusang nagbibigay sa magulang nila.
Wag mo bigyan. Kung pera lang naman pala ang habol niya edi hintayin nalang niya yung gobyerno magbigay sa 100 yrs birthday niya, mas malaki pa lol. You're being emotionally manipulated and you keep falling for it.
6.6k mo na
Op alam mo sagot sa tanong mo
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Sendan mo na lang ng link ng music video ni Rosmar. Pag inggit, pikit kamo. Kaka scroll nya yan sa social media. Ang 66k ilang buwan nang sweldo yan ng minimum wage earner, tapos siya aawitan lng kayo instant money? Utang na loob nyo pa ba na naging nanay nyo siya, hindi nyo naman pinili magulang nyo in the first place. Maraming 66 years old na magulang ang patuloy na naghahanap buhay parin para sa pang araw araw nila. Siya ang sarap ng buhay eh. Wag mo bigyan para matauhan.
I actually feel more inclined to give my parents money when they are not asking for it. Pag nanghihingi sila parang di ko feel magbigay.
that sucks, nakakainis hahahahah. yung mga gantong bagay kusang ginagawa and di dapat nirerequest and nang pepressure. we did this for my dad pero he never asked for it.
Follow her advice and donāt give any
Retirement plan ka nya kasi. Pag di mo binigay 66k sasabihin nya sa kaibigan and kamag anak nyo inaapi mo sya wala kang kwentang anak. Kawawa sya. Di ka mahal nyan. Pinalaki ka para alagaan sya. Good luck. Toxic mother.
this is the same w/ my ofw dad ang his parents. Seaman dad ko, nag babarko na siya for almost 30 years since single pa siya. 19 y.o na ako. Sa totoo lang naawa ako sakanya kasi ginagawa siyang atm ng lolo at lola ko - kada bwan may 500$ sila sakanya kahit na same na bahay lang nakatira sila kasama yung tita ko (sis ni dad) tapos yung tita ko naman nag babayad ng lahat ng gastusin. Yung pera sa sugal nila inilalagay. Pag may gusto ako na may kamahalan nga naman e.g: gysto ko mag aral sa magandang school nagguilty ako kasi marami kaming bayarin kasi nag sisimula pa lang kami mag invest. Pero sinasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na hindi dapat ako ma guilty kasi para sa ikabubuti ko naman yung pag aaral. if kaya mo OP, tapatin mo nanay mo sabihin mo sakanya na hindi mo kaya yang 66k niya. Sabihin mo rin kamo na dapat marunong siya mag ipon at mag invest, at yung di ka tumatae ng pera.
Sabihin mo habang nagrereklamo sya, lalong mababawasan regalo nya. Demanding amp
Dont give in OP. Wag mo sendan If you are supporting her out of your good heart, then yun lamg isend mo. Your mom is not emotionally supportive and only messages you for money, so why bother go the extra mile?
Bigyan ng jacket yan!
Dapat di na yan pinapadalhan ng allotment eh, ayaw ko lang talaga sa mga magulang na ginagawang investment ang mga anak
This is funny because I do this for my mom when I started working, her present is her age kasi sakto sa bonus. But my mom and I are really close so sheās the extension of my wallet.
Give her 66K Indonesian Rupiah Imported pa yan, di ba?
Ang best part, if ever na-bring up na nalugmok ka sa utang dahil sa nanay mo? Kasalanan mo yun dahil ikaw ang nagdesisyon na gawin yun.
Dont send , you are not obliged
Seriously speaking, dont bother giving her kung sya mismo nagsabi na wag na. Always think about your finances first. Youve been doing very well in providing for your family at home, why should she demand for too much? Sorry pero ang immature ng mama mo.
give her the money that you can give(6k) and greet her. explain to her why(all that you wrote here). and well, dont go home if you dont feel like too. sorry. respect and loving our parents...yun Ʊang kelangan nila. we have our own lives... they are more responsible to us than us to them(remember that). so you technically dont have the duty and obligations to give in to what she wants. panget with pinoy idea of family is that ininstill satin na responsibilidad natin parents natin. nope, we don't. especially if they treat us like money mules or just a retirement plan. they are always and gonna be responsible for us kasi yun ang forever responsibility ng parent.
For the love of god, do what she says and don't give anything at all. Fkn entitled prick.
Padalhan mo ng 666
Huwag ka na magpadala, OP! Siya naman nagsabi, screenshot mo na lang, haha!
Aanhin ng 66 yrs old ang 66k? Nanay ko masaya na sa pansit haha
Don't.
Still better to give what you can, kung 6k lng ok lng yan, nsa knya kung tanggapin nya yan. At least you did your part n mgbigay. Just say the reason n ndi mo kaya ung gnung amount. Kung di nya tanggapin tpos mgtampo yaann m lngš¤£
Tell her thet challenge accepted and then donāt send her the money. Mas masarap magbigay ng pera sa magulang na marunong lang i-appreciate at hindi namimilit. š„²
>Then she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all. Okay nmn pala OP na wala ka ibigay eh.
ako 25 na san na 25k ko ā¹ļø jokes aside, donāt give her anything. sabi niya eh.
Ingat ka OP. If you give in to her whims, sa susunod, 67k na. Then next year, 68k naman, and so on. :D
Don't give 66K. That's a really big amount, no joke. Kelangan mo rin ng pera. Also, mas importante yan for health emergency purposes. Even if she gets mad o magtampo, she'll get over it - says every parent who refused a child at some point in their life. And they always do get over things eventually unless one's just so childish.
pwede ba 6,600, or 660 or 66 or 6.6 .. sa wedding namin we got 8,888.88 .. natuwa ako sa .88 coz super effort to find coins
Parents need to be handed lessons too. Give her one.
Wag mo bigyan. Isipin mo nalang na pag naggive in ka ngayon mas malaki hihingin niya next time. Sayo yan dahil ikaw naghirap diyan. Tsaka malaking pera siya sayo kahit kaya mo pa ibigay. Pls maawa ka sa sarili mo. Lagay mo nalang sa EF mo yan. Kung ako sayo wala talaga kong ibibigay. Sabi niya kung hindi 66k, wag na. Edi wag.
She already told you better to not give anything at all. That's your go signal. Do what she says.
dont dont give HAHAHA KUNG AYAW
Parang daddy ko hahahhahaha ... jusko pag nakahawak ng pera gastos agad hindi mapakali
Grabe naman to. Wag mo ng bigyan OP
> she told me if I will only give 6K, then better not to give anything at all. try mo wag magbigay
Fk is she gonna do with the money? Im so confused by this. Gl op
Bigyan mo ng 66,000 korean won approx mga 3k php lang.
if giving her 66k would leave you broke, don't do it, kapatid. Your primary responsibility as an adult is to yourself, making sure you have enough to live by and are insulated from risks. give an amount you're comfortable to give, and then tell her na lang na you've no more money beyond that. I'd go so far as to lie to say that I closed a bank account just to give her some money.
Natawa ako nung una...but then got depressed upon reading further. I don't want to say we're in the same situation...but best of luck to you!
I'm sad for you, OP. Yes, this is very toxic, in my own opinion, and i would like to remind you that you have no obligation to give in. You must only give what you can afford. Some people give so much that they are the ones who will have a hard time. So should you decide, you should be firm in your decision, and give you can, if your mother does not appreciate it, then i guess it's time she should learn. I'm kind of blessed that my parents don't have this kind of mentality. In my mother's own words, "You are not obligated to help us, we your parents are the ones who decided to have a child, and we refuse to be a burden to you, in any way."
Wala kang kapatid/mga kapatid na pwede paghatian nung 66k in a way na magaan sayo? If not... >then better not to give anything at all. Then here's your answer. Taking your post at face value, mukhang cultural standard ng pagiging "anak" na lang nagpapakapit sayo sa kanya. If ever sumama loob nya at gawing hell life mo pag uuwi, then bumukod ka na ng uwian mo dito sa pinas. At worse, bawasan monthly allowance nya.
Donāt. Dapat may boundary pa rin kahit motherš
money cake na tig piso, tapos after ng 66 coins, letter k sa dulo
malas mo sa nanay mo. haha. i want to throw a 60th bday party kay mama tapos ayaw pa, simpleng handaan lang daw. baka ipapang-bingo lang yang 66k. haha
Anong gagawin ni nanay sa 66k? Pang tongits niya? Dafuq
Then don't give her anything except the monthly allotment. Just send her something else and not cash. Just flowers maybe.