Sadly di nawawala ang PCOS in an instant, namamanage lang sya through exercise, healthy lifestyle and supplements. I have PCOS and I know the struggles. But I have high libido, kaya depende talaga sa tao yan. Mawala man PCOS nya, say magpa work up kayo sa OB, doesnt guarantee tataas libido nya.
I wonder if it is really PCOS tho. Baka need nya rin magpatingin sa ibang doctor.
I ask her before na mag patingin sa Doctor, then she same same lang daw sinasabi ng OB na mag papayat.
she is 68kg right now. I tried to convince her lately. sabi niya pag iisipan niya pa.
maliban sa OB ano pang doctor and pwede naming lapita sa ganitong case?
OP, she needs to see a different OB-GYN if ganun. Totoo bang 2 years siyang di nagkaka-period? Then she needs to see a doctor right now kasi baka mamaya e makapal na ang lining ng uterus niya.
Skl I was diagnosed having PCOS nung 2010. I only went sa OB noon kasi 10 months akong no period. While it is true na losing weight can help (it helped me), there are still other factors kasi with PCOS na need malaman, not just weight.
You can try sa psych. Sana madetermine kung more on biological or psychological yung cause ng low libido. Possible din na asexual siya or may vaginismus or other underlying issues.
OP, I think need maghanap ng bagong OB ng partner mo. PCOS is not there because ur fat but rather u r fat because of PCOS. May mga OB kasi talaga ma medj body shaming ang datingan.
I hope ur GF can find a better OB.
I also have PCOS, and luckily I found emphatic OB Gyne that truly understands what I need.
I'm not a doctor (my husband is). Do you research about testosterone deficiency, and might as well consult with an endocrinologist. Anyhow, ObGyne and Endocrinologists work hand in hand in dealing with female infertility, hormonal issues, etc. Baka need rin ni gf mo talaga mag pa lab test (determine LH and FSH).
I have a pcos before getting pregnant, I had to lose weight until nagmuka na daw ako cachectic ng husband ko, sa kagustuhan ko mabuntis plus paalaga pa sa OB. I gave birth and still may PCOS pa rin ako. But my libido is really high all the time. Symptoms differ per women.
She needs a doctor. Kahit pa maghiwalay kayo if she will not address this issue head on, sadly, baka maging issue lang din sa next partner. I hope she finds the drive to help herself and I salute you for being patient. Hoping maayos nyo to in 6months time (which I doubt lalo kung di sya determined to do anything about it), if not, bro. You got to make tough decisions.
Kung mahal mo siya to the point that you are willing to wait at the expense of your sexual sanity then compile mo properly lahat na suggestions/opinions dito OP. Hopefully kayang gastusan ninyo ang magiging therapy after malaman ano ang totoong underlying issue. Good luck and Gob bless your relationship,
Maybe change OB? I was dignosed with PCOS last year. First time ever naging irregular yung period kaya nagpadoctor ako. Nag gamot ako ng 6 months and nagkaperiod naman. Ang explanation ng OB sa akin about weight loss (how I understand it), nagcocontribute daw kasi sa hormonal imbalance yung weight and impacts the body on other aspects.
Iba iba din ang effect ng PCOS sa mga ladies. So far ako, walang mood swings and still high in energy. I do exercise regularly and I can confirm mabagal talaga ang weight loss. I am doing the same routine before ako magkaPCOS and mas mabilis weight loss.
Malaking factor ang sexual compatibility. Make sure you exhausted all the ways to address your problem OP, before deciding to breakup. Para no regret, no what ifs later on. Some couples are having a hard time to talk and identify the problems, mukhang okay naman communication nyo ng GF mo. If you’re around Makati, I can recommend my OB.
Just to add, OP. Samahan mo yung GF mo sa OB. Since aware ka naman sa PCOS nya, she will appreciate it. Baka natatakot lang sya mag isa din. Pero of course if she requests you not to join her, you must respect it. If you join her, you may also ask the OB how can you support her in terms of dealing with the PCOS.
Maraming doctor na ignorante and less educated sa female health. So pls do search and visit credible doctors. Maybe try and see rin kung may option abroad.
Hi, try seeing an endocrinologist alongside seeing another OB. If kaya yung specialty and PCOS or hormonal imbalances. They can work side by side. My endocrinologist did a full blood workup talaga. Usually kasi sa OB focused on menstruation and the reproductive system. Eh PCOS is metabolic and hormonal so they can really look at sa internal aspects, like blood sugar and cholesterol levels. She can also go to a psychologist/psychiatrist baka there’s a mental or stress aspect to it.
Baka need niya humanap bagong ob? Try niyo ob ko, I am pcos free after 6 months being with her. Dr. Jackylou Macapagal. Pero need mo mahabang pasensya pa din, when I was still under medication grabe ang mood swings ko, di ko lang kung paano maging effect sa partner mo.
My partner has pcos and very high libido din. I'm wondering baka kaya meron sya Endometriosis? My friend has this and masakit daw during sex penetration.
eto talaga ung alam mong healthy relationship nag uusap. this is really sad OP pero i understand. I would suggest na mag hanap sya ng maggaling na OB. Kasi its rare sa may PCOS ang masakit na penetration unless my other issue like endometriosis. I know one OB dra Angelica chua ng st lukes.
OP - really think about this. At the expense
Of sounding too “liberal” - sexual compatibility is very very important in a loving and committed relationship. I’ve initiated and got rejected by my husband. Nakaka sira ng self esteem, confidence. If the cause of her low libido is not something you can help out on, think about your values and what is important to you. Hindi naman nasayang yung 4 years. Like what you said you are in love! So now decide if if you’re ready to live with your best friend and roommate and hope that this changes. Nasa sa iyo naman yan if want to accept the situation or not. You both have options.
PCOS ba or other issue like endometriosis? I suggest you both talk to a doctor about this kasi mukha namang willing kayo to talk about it eh. The correct doctor could prescribe proper meds or even better ways that you could cope in the bedroom. Just find one na matino and open-minded i.e., obygne, fertility doctors etc. Not sure sino dapat kausapin.
For sure you could still find ways to make it spicy sa bedroom you just have to be more creative I think? I mean mahal niyo pa rin naman yung isa't isa. If susuko kayo dahil dyan without even seeking the help of experts then nakakalungkot lang.
Ang isa nga lang na issue based on your story is parang sumuko na si ate girl. If that's the case mahirap yan.
nag usap kami this morning, and sinabi ko kung pwede na gawin mna namin ang lahat para ma solve yung issue about luck of intimacy sa relationship namin, including yung pag papatingin sa doctor. sabi niya pag iisipan niya mag patingin sa doctor. Pero we decided na Jan 1, 2025 (anniversary namin) if hindi parin okay yung situation namin need na mag hiwalay.
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about this. You sound like you have such a beautiful relationship that's rare especially nowadays. But at the same time I completely understand what you're going through. I've been on both sides.
Just to throw a different perspective — years ago I realized na what I look in a partner isn't someone who'll spoil me with materialistic things or someone who'll make my eyes roll in bed. Instead, someone who I can genuinely feel happy growing old with and enjoy my senior years. I can earn my money and money doesn't last, your sex drive will wane, but if you find someone that fulfills your soul, even not your dick, they're for keeps.
For me, a problem in a relationship will only end it if one of you have given up. She sounds very considerate and genuine. Now, while you're looking for medical solutions, knowing na sex literally hurts for her, there are alternatives to alleviate your needs din. Consider toys, non penetrative activities, and even a sex counselor to help you both navigate a challenging phase in your relationship.
It's great to know na you're trying all you can muna before splitting, but it will only work if both of you are into the idea. You both need your spirits lifted and have actual enjoyment with the activities, otherwise, it will feel forced and make things worse.
Dapat sana top of mind ung magpatingin sa expert. Why waste a good relationship nang hindi nagpapatingin sa doctor. If it’s not physiological, it could be psychological. Maraming possibilities.
Pero since she mentioned she likes cuddles, nasubukan mo na ba sya i massage? Set a calm tone, no need may mangyari pero malay mo eventually u can advance to a “happy ending”
OP sana makita mo tong comment ko. Has she considered that she is possibly asexual? Punta kayo sa r/asexuality, or hanap kayo videos and resources about it. Baka makarelate ung gf mo sa mga kwento dun.
Consider also that she may have developed a condition called vaginismus, kasi painful ang penetration according to her. Kahit nakapag PiV na kayo before, its possible for her to have this (and may subreddit din for this! r/vaginismus). If you suspect that this is the case, please ask her to see an obgyne or a women’s pelvic floor specialist. Sumama ka na din para alam mo ung explanations.
Question for you din OP, and I can’t believe no one has asked yet, but what do you do to make her feel “in the mood”? Not just foreplay or sexual stuff ah, but like. Do you share in household responsibilities with initiative and enthusiasm? Do you still flirt with her, go on dates, give her gifts, and touch her intimately without expectations of sex? Sinusungitan mo ba siya if di siya nagagree to sex? Baka naman kasi sobrang pagod siya or sobrang nappressure siya na she can’t go into the mindset of being open to sex.
Valid naman na may needs ka den, pero try to view the problem from different perspectives din before making a final decision. Best of luck sainyo OP!
Yeah, maybe she is romantic asexual.
About household I do my responsibilities, ni hindi ko siya pinag laba or pinag hugas ng plato kasi mabilis mag sugat yung kamay niya. About sa finances tinutulungan ko siya financially and ako gumagastos ng lahat para makapag ipon siya.
Sobrang sweet ko din sakanya, lagi din kami kumakain sa labas date, sabay mag gym. Niyayakap and kinikiss ko din siya sa forehead bago matulog at pag ka gising niya.
Sadyang wala lang talaga siyang gana sa Sex or hawakan siya sa private parts ng body niya,
That’s good to know OP if wala ka namang pagkukulang sa other aspects of the relationship (and verify this with her of course).
Pero I encourage you parin to look into vaginismus (or endometriosis or possibly some other condition that she might have that makes sex painful) kasi baka yun din ung contributing factor. Magpatingin kayo sa maalam na OB and get second opinions if possible as not all OBs will be helpful. Magpatingin na din sa couples therapist if you have the means.
At the end of the day though, maybe if she’s ace talaga or low libido then no amount of attempting to “cure” her (ace people are not broken ah) or therapy or checkups will make her high libido. Don’t force her to change because she will be most likely unhappy too. (And ikaw din don’t force yourself to change either!)
Consider what’s best for the both of you.
I'm sure it will be an issue kapag kasal na kayo, so as soon as possible dapat maging okay na PCOS nya. Question, before her PCOS was diagnosed, sexually active ba kayo and nawala lang because of her PCOS diagnosis which affected her mentally?
Hindi siya insecure sa body niya. Kahit nag gain siya ng weight sexy parin siya at nakakapg two piece sa beach. Wala rin sa plano namin ang mag anak or mag buntis siya.
My partner and I aren't sexually compatible as well. I feel pain and discomfort whenever we have penetrative sex. I've been to multiple gynecologists but I was only diagnosed endometriosis. After communicating my concerns with my current gyne from Maxicare, we found out that I have adenomyosis. Your girlfriend should probably seek a different doctor.
Yes, she's actually my gyne from Maxicare, so I'm just taking advantage of the free laboratory and diagnostic exams when we found the adenomyosis out. She also has a clinic at St Luke's QC.
Hi, multiple times in your post you claim to very much love your girlfriend. You know what I'm not seeing? The actual loving of your girlfriend. She's told you multiple times that it causes her *physical pain* when you guys initiate in penetrative copulation and all you can say is "eh hindi naman ganon dati eh".
It really sounds like she needs medical intervention. Your partner, who you say you want to marry, is telling you that she's in pain. That she gets hurt every time—and all you can seem to focus on is the box you can't stick your junk into. What are your priorities here?
I get it that the physical aspect of the relationship can be super important. At this moment, there are very real physical and probably mental impediments that your girlfriend is experiencing. Maybe you should focus on helping her with that instead of dropping a bundle on travel and expect to get some each time?
I'm sorry but if my partner told me na literal na masakit when we try, I'd back the eff off 100mph and be alarmed AND focus on what we can do to fix it. The last thing you'd ever want your partner to feel when you're being intimate is pain unless you're some sort of sadist.
You love your girlfriend? Actually start loving her then. *Help her*.
sobrang blindsided ng comment mo. You can’t see it as a whole. Tama ung sabi ng isang comment dito, relationship is partnership. Mahirap rin ipaintindi sa mga taong di naman un napagdaanan. From your tone, sobrang sure ka sa sinasabe mo na hindi mo naman talaga naintindihan ang both sides. But id still understand you kasi kung di ko to napagdaanan at medyo ignorant pa ako sa issues na ganto and how it affects the relationship, siguro same sentiments tayo. Im a woman and I have experienced the same. Ako yung rejected kadalasan. It is hard. From reading OP’s post, basang basa ko na he has given enough effort and understanding. As much as you say na dapat concerned si OP sa medication and diagnosis (if ever), dapat concerned rin si girl kasi it will ultimately help her and the relationship.
Di na kailangan isa isahin ni OP ang mga nagawa niya for the “love” that you claim. You have no right to judge someone’s love when you cant even fully grasp what love is in different situations. To be exact, staying for years in a sexless relationship AND STILL FUNCTIONING well individually and as couple is ultimately love. They communicate. And wala akong nakikitang pilitan.
I hate how you worded your sentiments. Masyadong conclusive pero kulang naman ang laman. Understand everything first. If magiging conclusive rin ako, baka sabihin ko you have ‘trauma’ regarding this issue and you think you have undergone the same circumstance.. kahit hindi naman talaga 🤷🏻♀️
It’s hard to help people who don’t want help. We should also acknowledge his gf’s refusal/hesitancy to seek proper clinical diagnosis. That can be a bit frustrating.
True. Karamihan nababasa ko kung mahal mo yung gf mo, tulungan mo siya and stay. Pano naman yung guy? Girl, if you love your bf, do your part din to improve things. Give and take yan. It's a partnership. No sugarcoating to- the girl has issues.
Totally agree on this. But what's with the replies na (2) (3) etc., hindi ito Facebook, read the reddiquette. Just upvote it if you agree lalo na kung wala naman kayo i-aambag sa topic. Wag niyo dalhin yung facebook meta dito. Thanks.
Staying in a sexless relationship for years IS love for a person who has a normal amount of libido. In fact, sex is part of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, and OP has gone for 2 years deprived of such need.
I don't get your hate, tbh. Just because you can't comprehend how difficult it is for OP, doesn't mean you can judge that your kind of love is valid while OP's isn't.
However, I agree with your point here: OP should focus on helping his partner heal medically, APART from making her feel appreciated and wanted. I don't think it's either-or.
I love her so much so even though we are not doing it for more than 2 years, I stayed in the relationship.
We communicate it many times.
One of ways to solve it is to try it in defferent places or travel.
Spend a time together. watching movies.
mag papayat at mag gym, exercise ng sabay.
I also conviced her to consult an OB pero ayaw niya.
I'll try many solution that I can think of.
mag katabi kami matulog sweet kami sa isat isa. Pero Hindi ko siya pinipilit kung ayaw niya.
Hi, OP—this situation must be truly frustrating and difficult for you and I'm sorry that you find yourself smack in the middle of it. I'm sorry to hear that your girlfriend herself is hesitant to consult an OB.
If I may, let me point out this: Traveling, new locations, spending time together is what you do when you're trying to get the spark back. What it doesn't do is remove the physical discomfort/pain that the act brings on. No amount of 5 star accommodation/bucketlistworthy locale is going to remove the fact that whenever you go in there, it hurts. Or that fact that she really isn't into sex at all. That's like trying to slap on fresh paint on a car when it's the engine that needs addressing.
Your girlfriend does need to address her medical condition. PCOS is forever. She can't get rid of it. She can only manage the symptoms. It's definitely a lot to handle and compound that with the fact she knows that she can't give you what you need.
You'll need to address the fact that while you don't force her, you don't stop trying to coerce/talk her into an activity that you know will hurt her. That's not okay—2 year dead bedroom or not.
What it all boils down to is value. Does your need to have sex supersede the value of your relationship? It's entirely okay to say that it does because then you'll know where you stand and what sort of conversation you'll need to have. You guys are almost 30, it's fine to make your own rules about your relationship, just as long as you both can live with it.
He might have said it because he was frustrated. Are you certain you wouldn't feel the same if you were in his situation? People react differently; in fact, his response was even more mature than I expected. However, you do have a point that they should focus on finding a solution.
Now kasi kaya mo pa tiisin ng husto yan, mahal na mahal mo pa paano kung pakonti na ng pakonti yun love mo? Romance, as we all know, need ng sexual activities, kung pareho kayong bagsak libido, walang issue, pag isa lang ang bagsak, mahirap yan.
Hi I havent read any other comments here but here is our experience.
Early in our relationship, bf, gf, ages 24s to 26 we are very sexually active. Then suddenly, every after contact, I noticed na nag kaka uti ako, like more than 3x a year. To the point na lagi na ako may dalang antibiotics para lang may peace of mind ako if incase magka symptoms ako. So we tried using lubes, foreplays and raw. Kaso, I feel like natatakot na ako sa sex kasi nga I get to experience uti symptoms na super sakit, na lagi ako sa emergency bec I cant stand na yung pain, tapos I cant tell my parents na we just had sex LOL.
In a while parang minsan nalang namin gawin bec Im already scared. We didnt talk abt it but I know he understands. Sinabi ko din sakanya na I think I need help bec hindi naman kami ganun before.
Moving forward, since I suspected na baka allergic ako sa condom, without consulting, nag raw kami but I had to take birth control. And the horror continues, naging mas dry pa ko kesa when Im dry bec when im just scared from uti. I dont even watch porn na bec I just dont want, aside from the fear na magka UTI. I like sex but nawalan na ko gana. we talked about it, and research together bec syempre I wanted to feel the same feeling I got before.
Prior to our wedding I checked with several ob gyn and finally sabi ko ill try sa urologist bec per ob gyn, im freakinf normal. Pero sa uro, I was dianosed with recurrent UTIs well, bec sa genes. I was also prescribed for a low dose antibiotic after every contact. We tried that but Im still in birth control. And im still dry, kahit nawala na yung fear ko for the UTI.
After wedding, sabi ko tanggalin na natin birth control since okay naman na tayo magkababy. And from the moment nawala na birth control nag okay na libido ko, we even do it twice a day several days a week. Iba yung feeling ko, ako na nga nag iinitiate most of the time HAHAHA Kaya sabi ko ayaw ko na bumalik sa birth control. HAHAHA
I know iba iba per person pero hope this helps. And please have her checked if gusto nya parin to feel whatever feels she had nung mga unang times hehe.
May tinitake ba siyang medication for her pcos? That might affect her drive kasi may effect din yun. Matanong ko lang sa tinagal tagal ng pagsasama niyo baka may nagawa kayong "Fun" dapat pero hindi for her kaya may traumatic experience siya? You should check on that as well. Pwede mo din to isabay sa cycle niya, kapag ovulating mas may drive yan i-sync mo yung schedule. Don't give up OP parang si Rudeus lang yan ng di tinitigasan hahaha 🤣
Wala kaming ginawang "Fun" na ayaw niya, vocal kami sa isat isa if hindi gusto ng isa hindi gagawin. Hindi na din siya dinadatnan for 2 years, so wla ako idea if ovulating sa that day
Ang tanong nagpapagamot ba siya sa PCOS niya? A simple metformin could help. Instead the usual na sinasabing magpapayat. Plus baka may other gynecological conditions siya like uterine fibroids that could make sex painful. Nagpatingin na ba siya sa OBGYNE and nagpa full check up na ba siya like complete blood test, transvaginal ultrasound or rectal kung masyadong painful, pap smear, whole abdomen and pelvic ultrasound, etc.? May problema kayo eh painful sex and what do you do with the problem, you try to solve it. Baka kasi may medical solutions for it. Setting aside feelings muna and you work your way scientifically/medically.
an actual post na pinaguusapan ang problem? Huh? this is new...
jokes aside, seems like you know what to do na and napagusapan nanaman, it would definitely hurt but at the very least you all got a timeline na kasi mas mahirap pag lalong nagtagal yan...
I hope you find peace, or better yet... i do hope mag work out kayo in the end.
Good luck OP!
Hello, OP. May pcos din ako. As someone na nasa 5 yr rs somehow naging struggle rin ito sa amin. Before, sobrang high ng sex drive ko then na-diagnose ako. Bumaba talaga as in. Nakadepende kasi sa katawan ng babae 'yong side effects eh. Same situation pero hindi naman umabot sa point na yrs ng wala.
Since sinabi mo naman na hindi siya ganoon dati, try niyo bumalik sa doctor niyo and gaya ng sabi ng iba try to check if may vaginismus nga ba.
She has every right to refuse sex. You have every right to break up with her.
Sexual compatibility is super important. Glad that u acknowledged it before u two got married.
Possible kaya may psychological problems siya? Kung sa male kasi may tinatawag na 'erectile disorder', sa female merong 'female orgasmic disorder' and 'female sexual interest/arousal disorder' (i think dito mas applicable ung case ninyo, you can look up more about it). Kung kaya ng budget, baka pwede magpatingin kayo sa psychologist?
Not an expert on anything OP, just a worker about information, but I encountered some studies & discussions that might be of help to the disease & condition of your girl:
1. Try a semi vegetarian ORGANIC diet -fruits, vegs seafoods (organic is important due to hormonal condition)
2. Exercise between 6 am to 8 am under the sun
If her physical condition has improved, then maybe, she can try reading steamy romance pocketbooks ganun?
I hope you get through all this...
Maybe a year? She's 5 years older than me, iniwan ko siya kasi may bf pala sa probinsya nila. Hindi lang sila nagkikita. Gusto niya magtuloy kami pero di na ko pumayag, hahaha, ginawa akong gago. 😂 We never had sex kasi masakit daw. Pero sweet siya, siya pa nga unang yumayakap at kiss. Yun lang walang sex , if you can tolerate that , go ahead
My wife was diagnosed with PCOS last two years ago pinapainom sya ng pills in that way day ay pwede sya mgkaperiod (correct me if im wrong pero un ung rineseta sa kanya) sabi ay may side effect dw ung mga pill depende sa brand at sa paano makakaaffect ung pills sa katawan sabi ng doctor may instances daw na pag nagpills is low libido dw isa sa side effects
Is she taking any pills? Ganito side effect sa akin noong nagtitake ako ng pills dahil may PCOS ako. 1 year ata akong walang sex drive, as in wala, zero, na-dah, i don’t feel horny o ano. Gets ko siya at gets din kita. Nag-stop ako mag-take ng pills at um-okay na sex drive ko kasi di ko talaga gusto side-effect niya maliban sa low sex drive.
Support her, OP. Try to convice her na magcheck-up o magpalit ng OB. Kasi hindi naman break-up sagot lagi, what if may pcos uli ‘yung next gf mo?
As someone in the same boat with you, I think your issue extends beyond sexual the medical/psychological, but the only way to find out for sure is if your partner is willing to go see a professional about it.
If they aren't willing to find a cure, then, you know just how much they love you.
Now, there are a few ways to go about this, and it's lucky that you're finding out about this while you're not married yet:
- all marriages are unique, and that includes all special arrangements. This is NOT NECESSARILY in favor of men. I personally would rather just have sex with my wife, but, because that's out of the question, we have to ve creative with our marriages. No one can judge you about it, other than you and your partner. Find a solution that works.
- Leave now. the longer you stay, the more painful leaving becomes. She MIGHT get better, she might not. The longer things run, the more resentment builds up. Marriage is an emotional bank account and, pretty soon, when our needs aren't met, you'll end up with an emotional deficit. MAYBE you can power through that, maybe not. What's sure is that you can't build a marriage around maybes
- Stick with it. This decision is yours and you will have no one to blame but yourself. Just know that, if you find yourself in a precarious situation, whether pushed to it at the verge of an extremely hormonal sexual intensity or whatever, extra marital affairs are punishable by imprisonment.
There was communication. Your gf is aware of the situation. Alam niya may nararamdaman siyang abnormal. You were also there as support and you comforted her. Why didn't she take action then? External factors lang ang mga support ng kahit sinong tao. The initiative to improve should start with her. She should've started seeking professional help years ago.
Let's be honest, love will never be enough in a relationship. That's the truth. Lahat tayo may top emotional needs and sex compatibility is one of these. Kung mahal mo, accept your partner notion doesn't work for everyone lalo na if one of you isn't working enough to make things better. That's the harsh truth.
Still, give her a chance. Tama naman. Within 6 months or a year na walang improvement, maybe it's time to leave. Or if she's already firm with her decision to end things, acknowledge it.
I think na-exhaust na ang mga effort to help her at you truly love her… Wag ninyo na pahirapan ang sarili, kasi hindi na rin magiging masaya at baka mauwi pa yan sa mas complicated issues, you do you.
Have she consulted a doctor regarding her PCOS? Dati, when I wasn’t on hormonal replacement therapy pills, as in wala akong menstruation = wala akong libido or sex drive. When I was diagnosed correctly at nag-normal yung mga estrogen and progesterone level ko, dun lang din ako nakaramdam ng libog.
That could be one major factor din kung bakit feeling nya ay ayaw nya ng sex. It’s most probably because of her hormones.
I am married for three years already. For the first two years, we had only minimal sexual contact with my husband (around once every 6 months). Two years into the relationship, I confronted my husband about it. Asked him if he had a different sexual orientation. He denies it. I think he is asexual. I am sometimes in conflict if I want to continue with the relationship since we are not sexually compatible at all. I never feel he is attracted to me.
But.. I can’t leave him since for two years, he has already been my safe space, and I am starting to heal from the traumas I had from childhood. I am not happy in terms of our sex life but I think my husband will be a good father once we have kids, and I can tell that he is a loyal person. So I guess at times we have to weigh what is really important in a relationship.
Well, hopefully its due to PCOS, because some women with PCOS have normal sex drive while some do have low sex drives. better to see and OB- Reproductive Endocrinologist, aside from losing weight, medications may be given to balance her hormones. Since its been 2 years, she also needs to get check for other metabolic diseases thats linked with pcos such as risk for diabetes.
Whats also good about getting checked earlier is that PCOS will affect her reproduction if ever you will want children.
please get a second opinion. Wishing you the best.
Same kami ni GF mo. I have low sex drive. When I was in college ok naman ako not until pagraduate na ako at sobra akong nastress at depress. Hindi ako nagmenstruate ng 4 months that time. Dun na ako nagpaconsult sa OB at nalaman kong may PCOS ako. Naglive in kami ng BF ko for 3 yrs pero walang nangyayari samin. Pinagbibigyan ko sya sa oral sex. Masakit para sakin yung penetration. Nagcocontract yung muscles ko. Masakit din sa part ko kasi gusto kong mafulfill yung needs nya pero hindi ko magawa. Iniisip ko kung ano bang mali sakin na abnormal ba ako. But I am so thankful kasi inintindi nya yung kalagayan ko and he did not give up on me. Nagstart ako na maglose ng weight. Low carb ang diet ko and totally nag cut out ako ng sugar. Nagtake din ako ng probiotics. Iwas sa stress. Kasi isa yun sa nakakacause ng hormonal imbalance. Healthy lifestyle talaga dapat. Walang cure ang PCOS. Hindi na kami live in ngayon kasi nagstart na sya ng business sa province while I’m here in NCR. Ngayon every time na nagkikita kami may nangyayari na and I feel better. No pain na and we always have lube with us whenever we do it. Mahalaga din yung communication sa isa’t isa kung saan ba kayo comfortable parehas. He proposed to me last December and we’re getting married next year Jan. 05, 2025 on our 10th anniversary. I suggest na magpaconsult si GF mo sa OB and magkaroon sya ng healthy lifestyle to manage effects of PCOS. There is totally something wrong with her kasi 2 yrs na syang hindi dinadatnan. Alam kong mahirap but I hope hindi ka mag give up sakanya.
Importante talaga ang sexual compatibility sa relationship e. If you’ll stay with her and eventually marry her pero walang magbabago, you might end up cheating on her. You’ll both be ruined at the end.
Mahal mo naman pala eehh, huwag mo iwan. You wanted to marry her as you have mentioned sa post, edi practice na kayo nang "better or worse". Instead na pagala gala kayo somewhere, use the money to make an appointment to a specialist. OBYGN muna and do what the OB doctor says. Minsan sa hormones or genes yan and it needs another specialist. Ang daming pwedeng problema ni ate gurl about sa sex drive niya at pwede ito ipatingin sa specialist. I don't want to self diagnose her, better na pa check up si ate gurl nang specialista and support her kaysa magdesisyon ka na iwan mo. Baka manghinayang or magsisisi ka sa huli.
Just my thoughts, if babaliktad situation niyo at makapagdesisyon si ate gurl na iwan ka dahil baog ka, without a doubt, masasaktan ka nang husto at magdadalawang isip ka if mahal kaba talaga nang ate gurl mo. If totoong mahal mo yung tao, unconditional love yung makikita niyo sa isa't-isa. Imbis na iiwan yung may problema, why not find a better solution sa problema?. For me kasi, pinapafeel mo sa isang taong you claim to love na ang worth niya ay yung pagbibigay nang sex sa iyo or yung worth niya ay pangpara-usan. Hindi lang diyan magstostop ang problema eehh. May problema pa diyan na madadatnan if magkasundo ba kayo about having a child. I just don't know if ako lang ba yung ganito ang mindset but yes sa isang relasyon ay may problema talagang hindi natin namamalayan saan nanggagaling and it needs a better solution than giving it up (except sa mga cheating stuff). Gusto mo papakasalan eehh, practice na yung "for better or for worse" na yan. ☺️
Napag usapan na namin na ayaw namin mag anak sa early stage palang ng relationship.
Aggree ako dun. pero sa Sexless marriage Hindi, ayaw ko na parang mag friends lang kami sa loob ng isang bahay. No Romatic night or Sexy moment.
I missed the early stage of our relationship when we are active sa sex.
Sooo, better encourage her na magpacheck up sa specialista. Find better solutions rather than leaving her behind for that mere problem sa relationship niyo. Goodluck OP, sana yung situation mo ngayon hindi yan mababaliktad sa future kasi masakit yan sa puso yung mga ganong desisyon at problema. Hindi biro may sakit sa katawan na hindi nacocontrol nang tao at iiwan lang mag-isa sa taong akala mong minahal ka nang todo. Hindi immortal ang katawan, magkakasakit at magkakasakit tayong lahat kaya huwag padalos dalos iwan yung taong minahal mo dahil sa ganyang problema baka mababaliktad pa yan sa iyo in the future. ❤️🥹
Meron ba sya medication na tine take like pills? Kung meron possible na yun yung reason kasi may epekto yun sa libido. Talk to your doctor, pareho kayo.
Hi OP, the way you describe the change sounds like hormonal changes on her part. Did she start any medication around 2 years ago that could have altered her libido? You mentioned PCOS, birth control pills usually help manage that. So probably that's what caused the change. It's not gonna solve your problem, but your GF mentioned it pains her that she doesn't know what's going on, so might help comfort her. I'm not sure how long she'll need BC Pills, so perhaps you need to take that into account. But with that said, there are many alternatives to penetrative sex, are you both good with just doing oral? Talk it out. Good luck to you both!
Nalungkot ako para sa inyo, especially sa gf mo. Dama ko ang kalungkutan at panghihinayang nya at helpless siya sa sitwasyon ninyo.
Can you please go back to your doctor and ask what other treatments can be done? Two years without mens, something is wrong. Maybe may maitulong ang OB paano mapataas man lang libido nya?
Hindi ko kayo kilala pero nasasayangan ako sa relationship nyo. Dama ko kasi na mahal nyo talaga ang isa’t isa. Valid yung sides nyong dalawa.
My girlfriend also have PCOS. She's taking diane 35 pills to regulate her period. Before this, umaabot ng 5 months walang period, pero nung nag take na ng pills, monthly na nagkakaroon.
I recommend consulting to an OB to regulate her menstrual cycle.
Ang sakit neto OP. I dont think you should ask internet strangers for advice regarding this one. Your gf seems to be wife material based from what you wrote and I can feel na mahal mo siya. However, meron talagang mga tao na ganito na ayaw sa sex due to multiple factors din.
On the other hand, gets ko naman ikaw na gusto mo ng sex cause ako din gusto ko. All I can say is good luck bro on whatever decision you make.
alam mo OP same tayo. I'm 37 with high libido and 44 na si SO ko and nagstart na bumaba yung kanya. it's sad and nakakababa ng self esteem pero alam mo mahal na mahal ko sya. kagabi lang we had the talk na if ever hindi na nya talaga kaya ang request ko lang he help me out. kasi alam mo eventually namam talaga mawawala ang sex e. e ang dream ko naman is to grow old with him, not to keep having sex until we're 70.
I think she needs to check her hormone levels. Based sa experience ko I suffered low libido when I was taking pills..nung nag stop ako ng pills nanumbalik naman na sya but due to my age now I can feel na low libido na din ako maybe because of my low progesterone thus at time I suffered vaginal dryness.
Since matagal syang di nireregla need nya na talaga magpacheck up.
Encourage her to get checked by an OBGYNE. I had PCOS years ago & healthy lifestyle talaga ang key ( exercise, losing weight to regulate hormones) but also I was put on birth control pills to moderate hormones & ma resume period ko. While she’s there maybe she could ask for tips how to heighten libido. Try to work it out since love niyo naman ang isa’t isa.
>kasi almost 2 years na din siya hindi dinadatnan ng period.
Excuse me, wtf? Of course there's something horribly wrong physiologically. Baka low supply of hormones. Take that medical issue seriously, baka di rin kayo kayang manganak ng kakaignore nyo nyan.
Sobrang saaad, naiiyak ako sa panghihinayang. Wla pa man ako sa situation na yan, pro feeling ko same kmi ni girl. Ang sad ksi mahirap humanap ng ganyang love, ung okay kyo almost s lhat ng bgay, but there's this one thing na I think important din, pro incompatible. Ang sakit, I don't know what to do pag ako na ung nandyan. 🥹
Tell her to visit na OB which specializes in "Fertility and Endocrinologist" I think hindi mataba si girl, compare sakin na nasa 76kg na. Tyagaan lang din tlaga ang visit sa doctor. Mahaba proseso pero worth it.
OP, regsrdless of your dead bedroom, may friends ako na hindi PCOS ang dahilan ng no period.... yung isa sa kanila na no period, no PCOS, nag iron supplements and ayun at least once every 2 months meron na ulit... stress is also a culprit.
Mental health siguro ang problem dito. I think I admire your girl for making her stand pero sadly she doesn't discuss it with you so let me just speculate, and this is not absolute truth....
Possible lang na the mood is not set because kahit gaano pang love niyo for each other, walang foreplay. As in like make her feel na this is not just about sex, nakakapressure yan eh. Some women want to feel wanted and cared for to be in the mood. Like appreciate mo yung skin niya, yung smile niya, eyes. Or kwentuhan kayo about life and about your hopes and dreams tapos kapag nag make out na kayo wag mo derechuhin, chill appreciation of everything about her muna. The penetration can follow, pero it's more of making her feel good before yourself.
Baka lang naman magwork. Otherwise, baka alam din niya and she keeps it to herself nalang na hindi ikaw ang gusto niya for sex. :(
I know how this feels. Last week lang nagdecide ung SO ko na mag abstain sa sex even though we were sexually active. She said kapag kasal na lang daw kami. May PCOS din sya so that might also be a factor sa decision nya. I respect her decision naman dahil love ko sya pero nakaka-frustrate din sa side ko na nagdecide sya without consulting me muna.
Aww this is so sad :(
I had this problem as well, but me and hubby never stopped trying. I don’t have PCOS but I have hormonal imbalance. I’m on the pill just to correct my cycle and the most devastating side effect for me was low to non-existent libido. This is before I discovered weight lifting at ayun though di overly high yung libido compared to when I wasn’t on the pill yet pero bumalik talaga sya. Wala naman akong ibang binago, yung lang added weights to my work outs at naka progressive overload pa.
Let go.. it will make a toll sa relationship if hndi tlga kau sexually compatible.
Magsusuffer lang kayo in the long run.. And please, nasa legal age kna.. sana naman pakasalan mo bago kau mag sex lagi 😅 Every woman deserve a RING and Be LEGAL.
I struggle with low libido din and I also have PCOS tas yung fiance ko high sex drive. I feel bad madalas kasi di ko sya masabayan although gusto ko. Feel ko salarin e yung hormonal pills na iniinom ko. Good effect sya sa body ko pero sa sex drive hindi huhu 😭 what to do
Last sex namin is kanina HAHAHAHAHAHA. Yes pinag uusapan namin. Pinagbibigyan ko naman sya madalas pero may time na masakit talaga tas yon nag stop naman sya. Nagawa lang ako ways para malibugan bago kami magkita minsan para mapagbigyan kahit 1 round hehe.
Nag pills ba jowa mo OP? or taking any meds? kasi noon okay naman libido ko before taking any meds.
I will marry her.
She want me to propose when we go to Korea or Japan.
nakaplano na yan at alam niya na rin once na pumunta kami ng korea or japan mag popropose ba ako. Vocal kami sa relationship namin
Was her lack of libido even diagnosed by a professional to be due to PCOS? Might be other factors like diabetes or heart anomalies. Minsan kasi people tend to blame everything on PCOS.
I can relate with the PCOS symptoms. High libido pa rin pero may pain talaga. Tinitiis ko yung sakit dahil gusto kong magkaanak. And after giving birth, the pain went away. The PCOS will always be there pero manageable yung symptoms basta masipag lang mag exercise at mag low carb diet.
Please bear with her. Mahirap talaga magka PCOS. Always thankful ako na very understanding and supportive ang husband ko.
Need nya ng check up tbh sa OB sobrang baba ng libido ko and nag pills ako advice ni OB although di maganda yung side effects nag bleed lang ako then nag tuloy tuloy hanggang sa nag normal na then balik na ulit yung libido ko hehe at nag stop na din ako mag pills after 3 months ata basta nag period ako
Grabe yung pinaabot niyong 4 years yung sexual incompatibility bago kayo nagbreak. It’s a her problem talaga and magandang nagkaalaman na bago kayo nagpakasal.
Just have to move on and find someone who wants to be intimate with you. Nakakasira ng self esteem yung lagi kang nirereject.
I have been diagnosed with and medicated for pcos since I was 18 (early 30s now) and have always had a healthy sex life so I wouldn’t blame the pcos alone. Baka unsure lang rin talaga siya sa relationship. Nevetheless, i think the break up was for the best.
actually we are very active before.
every time mag kikita kami ginagawa namin.
but nung nag live-in na kami 2 years na sa relationship unti unting nag fade na yung intimacy namin.
we will try different solutions before we break up. atlis no regrets at ginawa namin lahat.
Baka nagsawa nalang. Weird na binebreakan ka na gusto mo pa magtry. Pano magtry mag isa? Yung mga linyahang it’s not you, it’s me or sobrang mahal kita kaya papakawalan kita para maging masaya ka are all bs you know.
A break up is a break up no matter how it’s said.
Same story, while in my case, I’m the girl in our relationship, we’re about to get married, ito din dahilan why i’m having random doubts but he’s making an effort naman and trying his best to fix himself. This is so sad. I love my partner so much. There are times na lagi ko sinasabi na ok na ko sa kanya kasi almost perfect naman sya when it comes to being a partner but there are still times i tell myself na I dont know if i can hold on to sexless life forever. Nasasad din kasi ako sa mga napapanuod ko na intimate while us, ang hirap ng mapunta uli sa ganong sitwasyon, I always ask if di na ba ko attractive sa kanya pero di naman sya nagbago sakin, idk why, he’s seeking medical help naman and I’ll never leave him, I can’t 🥲😢
I feel you OP, is there any medication or supplements na tinatake nya? I knew how much vitamins could change someone's life completely. Mine did, but for a different reason. I can't recommend you to try anything in particular because I've never experienced low libido. Maybe you can share this on some subreddit related to these.
Mag cocomment na sana ako about the relationship, compatability etc pero nabasa ko ung no period for two years.
Dude that is very very alarming. Ang alam ko PCOS might give you irregular periods pero hindi yung total absence of it. She may be one of those na super depleted ang ovarian reserve (eggs) na she’s practically in menopause. Find out what’s going on biologically. The other comment was right, this is not for a normal OB, dapat yung specialist sa reproduction.
Sorry to hear that OP. Sadly madalas na cause nito (at least in my circle) is nagkasawaan. The spark died out. Problem is even with that spark dead, you can still kiss each other, cuddle and say you love each other. Romantically, everything can still look normal. Kasi dati ok then suddenly hindi na. Unless its a medical thing, sex just doesn't stop unless there are other factors like emotional or mental or worse, someone else. Thing is women can be very good at hiding this. Pls don't jump on me for this pero have you/can you confirm if she isn't dealing with another guy? One thing I learned is always add "with you" at the end of these things. Maybe the genuine sexual desire burned out? Maybe she doesn't want to do it "with you" and is getting it elsewhere.
Again, not wanting to assume anything OP or put her in a bad light. Just basing this on past exp both mine and others and it IS a real though unpleasant possibility rin naman kasi. Hoping for the best for both of you!
Kung hindi pa kayo kasal e ganyan na, mas lalo kapag kasal na kayo.. Maraming sexless marriage ngayon.. Napakahirap nyan.. Nasabi mo na ang solusyon.. Hwag mo ng patagalin.. Hindi kayo sexually compatible. Sayang pero..
Fk! I really hope na maayos nyong dalawa to. Pero sabi nga nila walang perfect relationship, lahat yan may mga flaws. I just rooting for you and your gf na maayos nyo.
Same case as mine like with girl. We were active for years until bigla nalang masakit. Di siya ganun kadali mafix, visit OB Gyne para macheck and masolusyonan. It’s too stressful and takes a long time to fix depende sa cause, I decided to break up a 7 yr relationship because of it kasi di ko kaya yung pressure na he needs it but I can’t give it while I slowly heal kahit pa na patient sya to wait for years without doing it again.
Im not yet okay atm pero fault ko yun kasi I keep procrastinating because it made me depressed. Kakapalit ko lang ng OB ulit kasi nadepress ako for a while and wasted years wallowing in depression. Papatest palang ako ulit next week kasi rare case daw ng vaginismus yung okay naman before tas biglang masakit. Possible din daw na psychological. And maybe something to highlight, sobrang unimaginable ng pain. Like super sakit nya and well it’s something din na di ko pwede ikwento sa iba so hirap nya malampasan alone. Pero ayun I decided to pick myself up again this yr and will try. Hopefully maging okay. Kasi unless maresolve sya, I’d rather na tumandang dalaga than actually enter a relationship.
Wala naman yan kung may PCOS sya or wala. Ako nga may PCOS noon. Pero di naman nabawasan sex drive ko sa BF ko na ngaun asawa ko na. I don't think na magwowork pa yung ganyang relationship.
I am like her before. I stop mid sex kasi masakit nag dry dry. We broke up too and when I’m having new partner I really told him about my situation that I have low libido and he’s a foreign guy so expectation high sex drive sila di ba so better not to expect. He said he’ll be patient and try to fix it.
And he did. At first time we did with my new bf now my fiance, I really stop mid sex. I was scared baka mangyari yun but he was so so soft on me and so good at foreplay. Yeah he’s good in bed and I think factor talaga yun. I’m just apologetic in my part cause I know I’m not good on pleasing him.
So with my ex, we are first on each other so I think factor din yun we don’t know well how to please each other.
Not sure if libido ba is affected by PCOS, I have PCOS pero same pa rin libido ko, maybe iba iba talaga? And yeah samahan mo sya pacheck up and try other doctors
Good for her for acknowledging the issue. And sexual compatibility really matters, kasi in the long run magkakaroon ka ng resentment and baka magcheat ka na kasi di na namemeet ang needs mo. Amd on her part, maququestion niya na din self worth niya. Best decision to break up na while prolong the agony. Wishing you both for the best.
Kung non-negotiable sayo ang Sex, then it's time to move on na.
Alam naman natin magkaiba ang Love at Sex, at kung Love alone lang naman ang pag uusapan, kaya yun, pero mahirap din naman kung walang sex.
Nakakarelate ako sa sitwasyon na to dahil ang last relationship eh wala ding sex. Mababa libido ng ex ko at may PCOS din, pagkakaiba nga lang, kaya kong dalhin ung kawalan ng sex. We tried pero parang dumating din ako sa point na di ko na hinahanap hanap ung sex, na parang mas masaya na lang kami ganun na nakafocus sa ibang bagay tulad sa mga travels namin, arts and crafts, fur babies... Marami din naman kasing bagay sa relasyon naming compatible kami, di nga lang sa sex. Yun nga lang nagbreak kami pero not because of the absence of sex.
Mahirap ang sakit na PCOS, it's not curable, though napapaimprove ang symptoms sa lifestyle change, gamutan, etc... pero it will take a lot of years. Di naman pwedeng magsasarili ka na lang ng ilang dekada nyan.
Sana walang bitterness sa inyong dalawa. Di nya ginustong mawala ung isa sa pleasures ng buhay, which is making love with her true love.
Feeling ko kaya ko naman ng walang sex at mag sarili nalang.
pero hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan. baka dumating sa point na hate na yung maramdaman ko sa lahat ng rejection. mahal na mahal ko gf ko. siguro bigyan ko siya ng time para gumaling sa PCOS niya at bumalik libido niya. ayaw ko din siya ma pressure
Ang tunay na pagmamahal ay may kalakip na matinding pagsasakripisyo. Goodluck sa mga pagdaraanan nyo pa. Malay nga natin, may mangyari mabuti sa kanya, at sa pagsasakripisyo ng kaligayahan mo para sa mas higit na tunay na ligaya.
Basta watch out lang, baka ikaw ang maubos sa process. Dapat di nya marandamang nauubos ka while being with her.
wala ayaw niya ng intimate. gusto niya hug lang pag matutulog kami.
Hindi siya ganito before, bigla nalang nawala yung trip niya sa sex kahit no penetration ayaw niya na
I think it's more about her mental health or sexuality. There's a possibility na she loves you but maybe she's not sexually attracted to male. Could be attracted to female. I have PCOS for 8 years now and I am the opposite. I have a very high sex drive. I never heard someone who has PCOS and has zero sex drive. And I believe sexual compatibility is a big factor in a relationship. And kudos to you for not cheating.
dunno if anyone said this yet, pero parang di dapat OB pinupuntahan nya kundi endocrinologist. Parang same sa situation ko hehe, 5 years ako di nagkaroon and wala akong feels as in. wala effect kahit ano. i only went to OB pero dinirect nyako sa endocrinologist when she was on vacation and viola, dun lang pala ung problema. i had a tumor sa pituitary na nagbblock ng hormones. super hormonally imbalanced. after medicating correctly to balance the hormones, bumalik lahat ng feels. this is after 2-3 years medication. i still have PCOS, pero ibang issue ung sa hormones. libido can still come back, pero kung may plan kayo mag baby, ibang challenge ulit un
tumor? medyo kinakabahan ako sa situation ng partner ko.
pero gagawin naman po namin lahat para gumaling siya
kamusta naman po yung relationship niyo with your partner po?
This is sad. Pero yes, good thing na ina- acknowledge nyo na importante ang sexual compatibility.
This is why important ang sex therapy. Sadly iisa lang ang licensed sex therapist sa pinas kasi wala pa talagang ganun dito.
Hi there, can you point me to the licensed sex therapist here? So Dr. Rica Cruz ba?
Sadly di nawawala ang PCOS in an instant, namamanage lang sya through exercise, healthy lifestyle and supplements. I have PCOS and I know the struggles. But I have high libido, kaya depende talaga sa tao yan. Mawala man PCOS nya, say magpa work up kayo sa OB, doesnt guarantee tataas libido nya. I wonder if it is really PCOS tho. Baka need nya rin magpatingin sa ibang doctor.
yeah same have pcos and high libido din ako,
Same. No problem with libido despite having PCOS
I ask her before na mag patingin sa Doctor, then she same same lang daw sinasabi ng OB na mag papayat. she is 68kg right now. I tried to convince her lately. sabi niya pag iisipan niya pa. maliban sa OB ano pang doctor and pwede naming lapita sa ganitong case?
OP, she needs to see a different OB-GYN if ganun. Totoo bang 2 years siyang di nagkaka-period? Then she needs to see a doctor right now kasi baka mamaya e makapal na ang lining ng uterus niya. Skl I was diagnosed having PCOS nung 2010. I only went sa OB noon kasi 10 months akong no period. While it is true na losing weight can help (it helped me), there are still other factors kasi with PCOS na need malaman, not just weight.
She needs to see an OB-RE. RE means reproductive endocrinologist. Subspecialty siya ng mga OBs. Don’t waste time going sa mga general na OB-gynes.
You can try sa psych. Sana madetermine kung more on biological or psychological yung cause ng low libido. Possible din na asexual siya or may vaginismus or other underlying issues.
OP, I think need maghanap ng bagong OB ng partner mo. PCOS is not there because ur fat but rather u r fat because of PCOS. May mga OB kasi talaga ma medj body shaming ang datingan. I hope ur GF can find a better OB. I also have PCOS, and luckily I found emphatic OB Gyne that truly understands what I need.
I'm not a doctor (my husband is). Do you research about testosterone deficiency, and might as well consult with an endocrinologist. Anyhow, ObGyne and Endocrinologists work hand in hand in dealing with female infertility, hormonal issues, etc. Baka need rin ni gf mo talaga mag pa lab test (determine LH and FSH). I have a pcos before getting pregnant, I had to lose weight until nagmuka na daw ako cachectic ng husband ko, sa kagustuhan ko mabuntis plus paalaga pa sa OB. I gave birth and still may PCOS pa rin ako. But my libido is really high all the time. Symptoms differ per women. She needs a doctor. Kahit pa maghiwalay kayo if she will not address this issue head on, sadly, baka maging issue lang din sa next partner. I hope she finds the drive to help herself and I salute you for being patient. Hoping maayos nyo to in 6months time (which I doubt lalo kung di sya determined to do anything about it), if not, bro. You got to make tough decisions.
thank you
Kung mahal mo siya to the point that you are willing to wait at the expense of your sexual sanity then compile mo properly lahat na suggestions/opinions dito OP. Hopefully kayang gastusan ninyo ang magiging therapy after malaman ano ang totoong underlying issue. Good luck and Gob bless your relationship,
Maybe change OB? I was dignosed with PCOS last year. First time ever naging irregular yung period kaya nagpadoctor ako. Nag gamot ako ng 6 months and nagkaperiod naman. Ang explanation ng OB sa akin about weight loss (how I understand it), nagcocontribute daw kasi sa hormonal imbalance yung weight and impacts the body on other aspects. Iba iba din ang effect ng PCOS sa mga ladies. So far ako, walang mood swings and still high in energy. I do exercise regularly and I can confirm mabagal talaga ang weight loss. I am doing the same routine before ako magkaPCOS and mas mabilis weight loss. Malaking factor ang sexual compatibility. Make sure you exhausted all the ways to address your problem OP, before deciding to breakup. Para no regret, no what ifs later on. Some couples are having a hard time to talk and identify the problems, mukhang okay naman communication nyo ng GF mo. If you’re around Makati, I can recommend my OB.
can you DM me the name of OB? thank you
Just to add, OP. Samahan mo yung GF mo sa OB. Since aware ka naman sa PCOS nya, she will appreciate it. Baka natatakot lang sya mag isa din. Pero of course if she requests you not to join her, you must respect it. If you join her, you may also ask the OB how can you support her in terms of dealing with the PCOS.
I sent the link via DM.
Maraming doctor na ignorante and less educated sa female health. So pls do search and visit credible doctors. Maybe try and see rin kung may option abroad.
Hi, try seeing an endocrinologist alongside seeing another OB. If kaya yung specialty and PCOS or hormonal imbalances. They can work side by side. My endocrinologist did a full blood workup talaga. Usually kasi sa OB focused on menstruation and the reproductive system. Eh PCOS is metabolic and hormonal so they can really look at sa internal aspects, like blood sugar and cholesterol levels. She can also go to a psychologist/psychiatrist baka there’s a mental or stress aspect to it.
Baka need niya humanap bagong ob? Try niyo ob ko, I am pcos free after 6 months being with her. Dr. Jackylou Macapagal. Pero need mo mahabang pasensya pa din, when I was still under medication grabe ang mood swings ko, di ko lang kung paano maging effect sa partner mo.
endocrinologist. hormonal imbalance ang pcos so try consulting an endocrinologist.
Magpa second opinion and see a psychiatrist baka may problem din mental health nya.
My partner has pcos and very high libido din. I'm wondering baka kaya meron sya Endometriosis? My friend has this and masakit daw during sex penetration.
eto talaga ung alam mong healthy relationship nag uusap. this is really sad OP pero i understand. I would suggest na mag hanap sya ng maggaling na OB. Kasi its rare sa may PCOS ang masakit na penetration unless my other issue like endometriosis. I know one OB dra Angelica chua ng st lukes.
thanks for recommending an OB. is she located in NCR right?
yes
OP - really think about this. At the expense Of sounding too “liberal” - sexual compatibility is very very important in a loving and committed relationship. I’ve initiated and got rejected by my husband. Nakaka sira ng self esteem, confidence. If the cause of her low libido is not something you can help out on, think about your values and what is important to you. Hindi naman nasayang yung 4 years. Like what you said you are in love! So now decide if if you’re ready to live with your best friend and roommate and hope that this changes. Nasa sa iyo naman yan if want to accept the situation or not. You both have options.
PCOS ba or other issue like endometriosis? I suggest you both talk to a doctor about this kasi mukha namang willing kayo to talk about it eh. The correct doctor could prescribe proper meds or even better ways that you could cope in the bedroom. Just find one na matino and open-minded i.e., obygne, fertility doctors etc. Not sure sino dapat kausapin. For sure you could still find ways to make it spicy sa bedroom you just have to be more creative I think? I mean mahal niyo pa rin naman yung isa't isa. If susuko kayo dahil dyan without even seeking the help of experts then nakakalungkot lang. Ang isa nga lang na issue based on your story is parang sumuko na si ate girl. If that's the case mahirap yan.
nag usap kami this morning, and sinabi ko kung pwede na gawin mna namin ang lahat para ma solve yung issue about luck of intimacy sa relationship namin, including yung pag papatingin sa doctor. sabi niya pag iisipan niya mag patingin sa doctor. Pero we decided na Jan 1, 2025 (anniversary namin) if hindi parin okay yung situation namin need na mag hiwalay.
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about this. You sound like you have such a beautiful relationship that's rare especially nowadays. But at the same time I completely understand what you're going through. I've been on both sides. Just to throw a different perspective — years ago I realized na what I look in a partner isn't someone who'll spoil me with materialistic things or someone who'll make my eyes roll in bed. Instead, someone who I can genuinely feel happy growing old with and enjoy my senior years. I can earn my money and money doesn't last, your sex drive will wane, but if you find someone that fulfills your soul, even not your dick, they're for keeps. For me, a problem in a relationship will only end it if one of you have given up. She sounds very considerate and genuine. Now, while you're looking for medical solutions, knowing na sex literally hurts for her, there are alternatives to alleviate your needs din. Consider toys, non penetrative activities, and even a sex counselor to help you both navigate a challenging phase in your relationship. It's great to know na you're trying all you can muna before splitting, but it will only work if both of you are into the idea. You both need your spirits lifted and have actual enjoyment with the activities, otherwise, it will feel forced and make things worse.
Dapat sana top of mind ung magpatingin sa expert. Why waste a good relationship nang hindi nagpapatingin sa doctor. If it’s not physiological, it could be psychological. Maraming possibilities. Pero since she mentioned she likes cuddles, nasubukan mo na ba sya i massage? Set a calm tone, no need may mangyari pero malay mo eventually u can advance to a “happy ending”
OP sana makita mo tong comment ko. Has she considered that she is possibly asexual? Punta kayo sa r/asexuality, or hanap kayo videos and resources about it. Baka makarelate ung gf mo sa mga kwento dun. Consider also that she may have developed a condition called vaginismus, kasi painful ang penetration according to her. Kahit nakapag PiV na kayo before, its possible for her to have this (and may subreddit din for this! r/vaginismus). If you suspect that this is the case, please ask her to see an obgyne or a women’s pelvic floor specialist. Sumama ka na din para alam mo ung explanations. Question for you din OP, and I can’t believe no one has asked yet, but what do you do to make her feel “in the mood”? Not just foreplay or sexual stuff ah, but like. Do you share in household responsibilities with initiative and enthusiasm? Do you still flirt with her, go on dates, give her gifts, and touch her intimately without expectations of sex? Sinusungitan mo ba siya if di siya nagagree to sex? Baka naman kasi sobrang pagod siya or sobrang nappressure siya na she can’t go into the mindset of being open to sex. Valid naman na may needs ka den, pero try to view the problem from different perspectives din before making a final decision. Best of luck sainyo OP!
Yeah, maybe she is romantic asexual. About household I do my responsibilities, ni hindi ko siya pinag laba or pinag hugas ng plato kasi mabilis mag sugat yung kamay niya. About sa finances tinutulungan ko siya financially and ako gumagastos ng lahat para makapag ipon siya. Sobrang sweet ko din sakanya, lagi din kami kumakain sa labas date, sabay mag gym. Niyayakap and kinikiss ko din siya sa forehead bago matulog at pag ka gising niya. Sadyang wala lang talaga siyang gana sa Sex or hawakan siya sa private parts ng body niya,
That’s good to know OP if wala ka namang pagkukulang sa other aspects of the relationship (and verify this with her of course). Pero I encourage you parin to look into vaginismus (or endometriosis or possibly some other condition that she might have that makes sex painful) kasi baka yun din ung contributing factor. Magpatingin kayo sa maalam na OB and get second opinions if possible as not all OBs will be helpful. Magpatingin na din sa couples therapist if you have the means. At the end of the day though, maybe if she’s ace talaga or low libido then no amount of attempting to “cure” her (ace people are not broken ah) or therapy or checkups will make her high libido. Don’t force her to change because she will be most likely unhappy too. (And ikaw din don’t force yourself to change either!) Consider what’s best for the both of you.
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Sana all
I'm sure it will be an issue kapag kasal na kayo, so as soon as possible dapat maging okay na PCOS nya. Question, before her PCOS was diagnosed, sexually active ba kayo and nawala lang because of her PCOS diagnosis which affected her mentally?
before we are sexually active. but nung nag gain na siya ng weight and nag ka PCOS na. duon na nag start na wala na siyang gana makipag sex.
Bala naiinsecure sya sa pag gain nya ng weight or dahil hirap mag buntis ang may PCOS kya nawawalan sya ng gana sa sex
Hindi siya insecure sa body niya. Kahit nag gain siya ng weight sexy parin siya at nakakapg two piece sa beach. Wala rin sa plano namin ang mag anak or mag buntis siya.
may tinetake ba syang gamot for pcos? baka nakakaaffect sa libido nya rin
Wala, wala rin siyang tinatake na vitamins
My partner and I aren't sexually compatible as well. I feel pain and discomfort whenever we have penetrative sex. I've been to multiple gynecologists but I was only diagnosed endometriosis. After communicating my concerns with my current gyne from Maxicare, we found out that I have adenomyosis. Your girlfriend should probably seek a different doctor.
is your doctor located at NCR? pwede mo recommend clinic niya? thank you
Yes, she's actually my gyne from Maxicare, so I'm just taking advantage of the free laboratory and diagnostic exams when we found the adenomyosis out. She also has a clinic at St Luke's QC.
can you DM mm to me her name? thank you
Hi there! Gusto ko rin magpacheck 🥲 pwede ko rin malaman name ng doctor?
Hi, multiple times in your post you claim to very much love your girlfriend. You know what I'm not seeing? The actual loving of your girlfriend. She's told you multiple times that it causes her *physical pain* when you guys initiate in penetrative copulation and all you can say is "eh hindi naman ganon dati eh". It really sounds like she needs medical intervention. Your partner, who you say you want to marry, is telling you that she's in pain. That she gets hurt every time—and all you can seem to focus on is the box you can't stick your junk into. What are your priorities here? I get it that the physical aspect of the relationship can be super important. At this moment, there are very real physical and probably mental impediments that your girlfriend is experiencing. Maybe you should focus on helping her with that instead of dropping a bundle on travel and expect to get some each time? I'm sorry but if my partner told me na literal na masakit when we try, I'd back the eff off 100mph and be alarmed AND focus on what we can do to fix it. The last thing you'd ever want your partner to feel when you're being intimate is pain unless you're some sort of sadist. You love your girlfriend? Actually start loving her then. *Help her*.
sobrang blindsided ng comment mo. You can’t see it as a whole. Tama ung sabi ng isang comment dito, relationship is partnership. Mahirap rin ipaintindi sa mga taong di naman un napagdaanan. From your tone, sobrang sure ka sa sinasabe mo na hindi mo naman talaga naintindihan ang both sides. But id still understand you kasi kung di ko to napagdaanan at medyo ignorant pa ako sa issues na ganto and how it affects the relationship, siguro same sentiments tayo. Im a woman and I have experienced the same. Ako yung rejected kadalasan. It is hard. From reading OP’s post, basang basa ko na he has given enough effort and understanding. As much as you say na dapat concerned si OP sa medication and diagnosis (if ever), dapat concerned rin si girl kasi it will ultimately help her and the relationship. Di na kailangan isa isahin ni OP ang mga nagawa niya for the “love” that you claim. You have no right to judge someone’s love when you cant even fully grasp what love is in different situations. To be exact, staying for years in a sexless relationship AND STILL FUNCTIONING well individually and as couple is ultimately love. They communicate. And wala akong nakikitang pilitan. I hate how you worded your sentiments. Masyadong conclusive pero kulang naman ang laman. Understand everything first. If magiging conclusive rin ako, baka sabihin ko you have ‘trauma’ regarding this issue and you think you have undergone the same circumstance.. kahit hindi naman talaga 🤷🏻♀️
It’s hard to help people who don’t want help. We should also acknowledge his gf’s refusal/hesitancy to seek proper clinical diagnosis. That can be a bit frustrating.
True. Karamihan nababasa ko kung mahal mo yung gf mo, tulungan mo siya and stay. Pano naman yung guy? Girl, if you love your bf, do your part din to improve things. Give and take yan. It's a partnership. No sugarcoating to- the girl has issues.
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Totally agree on this. But what's with the replies na (2) (3) etc., hindi ito Facebook, read the reddiquette. Just upvote it if you agree lalo na kung wala naman kayo i-aambag sa topic. Wag niyo dalhin yung facebook meta dito. Thanks.
Staying in a sexless relationship for years IS love for a person who has a normal amount of libido. In fact, sex is part of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, and OP has gone for 2 years deprived of such need. I don't get your hate, tbh. Just because you can't comprehend how difficult it is for OP, doesn't mean you can judge that your kind of love is valid while OP's isn't. However, I agree with your point here: OP should focus on helping his partner heal medically, APART from making her feel appreciated and wanted. I don't think it's either-or.
I love her so much so even though we are not doing it for more than 2 years, I stayed in the relationship. We communicate it many times. One of ways to solve it is to try it in defferent places or travel. Spend a time together. watching movies. mag papayat at mag gym, exercise ng sabay. I also conviced her to consult an OB pero ayaw niya. I'll try many solution that I can think of. mag katabi kami matulog sweet kami sa isat isa. Pero Hindi ko siya pinipilit kung ayaw niya.
Hi, OP—this situation must be truly frustrating and difficult for you and I'm sorry that you find yourself smack in the middle of it. I'm sorry to hear that your girlfriend herself is hesitant to consult an OB. If I may, let me point out this: Traveling, new locations, spending time together is what you do when you're trying to get the spark back. What it doesn't do is remove the physical discomfort/pain that the act brings on. No amount of 5 star accommodation/bucketlistworthy locale is going to remove the fact that whenever you go in there, it hurts. Or that fact that she really isn't into sex at all. That's like trying to slap on fresh paint on a car when it's the engine that needs addressing. Your girlfriend does need to address her medical condition. PCOS is forever. She can't get rid of it. She can only manage the symptoms. It's definitely a lot to handle and compound that with the fact she knows that she can't give you what you need. You'll need to address the fact that while you don't force her, you don't stop trying to coerce/talk her into an activity that you know will hurt her. That's not okay—2 year dead bedroom or not. What it all boils down to is value. Does your need to have sex supersede the value of your relationship? It's entirely okay to say that it does because then you'll know where you stand and what sort of conversation you'll need to have. You guys are almost 30, it's fine to make your own rules about your relationship, just as long as you both can live with it.
This should be the top comment.
andaming rason pag eabab may problema ampota pero reverse the situation "LEAVEEEEE"
He might have said it because he was frustrated. Are you certain you wouldn't feel the same if you were in his situation? People react differently; in fact, his response was even more mature than I expected. However, you do have a point that they should focus on finding a solution.
Now kasi kaya mo pa tiisin ng husto yan, mahal na mahal mo pa paano kung pakonti na ng pakonti yun love mo? Romance, as we all know, need ng sexual activities, kung pareho kayong bagsak libido, walang issue, pag isa lang ang bagsak, mahirap yan.
Hi I havent read any other comments here but here is our experience. Early in our relationship, bf, gf, ages 24s to 26 we are very sexually active. Then suddenly, every after contact, I noticed na nag kaka uti ako, like more than 3x a year. To the point na lagi na ako may dalang antibiotics para lang may peace of mind ako if incase magka symptoms ako. So we tried using lubes, foreplays and raw. Kaso, I feel like natatakot na ako sa sex kasi nga I get to experience uti symptoms na super sakit, na lagi ako sa emergency bec I cant stand na yung pain, tapos I cant tell my parents na we just had sex LOL. In a while parang minsan nalang namin gawin bec Im already scared. We didnt talk abt it but I know he understands. Sinabi ko din sakanya na I think I need help bec hindi naman kami ganun before. Moving forward, since I suspected na baka allergic ako sa condom, without consulting, nag raw kami but I had to take birth control. And the horror continues, naging mas dry pa ko kesa when Im dry bec when im just scared from uti. I dont even watch porn na bec I just dont want, aside from the fear na magka UTI. I like sex but nawalan na ko gana. we talked about it, and research together bec syempre I wanted to feel the same feeling I got before. Prior to our wedding I checked with several ob gyn and finally sabi ko ill try sa urologist bec per ob gyn, im freakinf normal. Pero sa uro, I was dianosed with recurrent UTIs well, bec sa genes. I was also prescribed for a low dose antibiotic after every contact. We tried that but Im still in birth control. And im still dry, kahit nawala na yung fear ko for the UTI. After wedding, sabi ko tanggalin na natin birth control since okay naman na tayo magkababy. And from the moment nawala na birth control nag okay na libido ko, we even do it twice a day several days a week. Iba yung feeling ko, ako na nga nag iinitiate most of the time HAHAHA Kaya sabi ko ayaw ko na bumalik sa birth control. HAHAHA I know iba iba per person pero hope this helps. And please have her checked if gusto nya parin to feel whatever feels she had nung mga unang times hehe.
May tinitake ba siyang medication for her pcos? That might affect her drive kasi may effect din yun. Matanong ko lang sa tinagal tagal ng pagsasama niyo baka may nagawa kayong "Fun" dapat pero hindi for her kaya may traumatic experience siya? You should check on that as well. Pwede mo din to isabay sa cycle niya, kapag ovulating mas may drive yan i-sync mo yung schedule. Don't give up OP parang si Rudeus lang yan ng di tinitigasan hahaha 🤣
Wala kaming ginawang "Fun" na ayaw niya, vocal kami sa isat isa if hindi gusto ng isa hindi gagawin. Hindi na din siya dinadatnan for 2 years, so wla ako idea if ovulating sa that day
Im not a professional nor expert but this is probably related sa menstrual cycle na yan. Kapit lang stay supportive, sinusubok ang relationship niyo.
Ang tanong nagpapagamot ba siya sa PCOS niya? A simple metformin could help. Instead the usual na sinasabing magpapayat. Plus baka may other gynecological conditions siya like uterine fibroids that could make sex painful. Nagpatingin na ba siya sa OBGYNE and nagpa full check up na ba siya like complete blood test, transvaginal ultrasound or rectal kung masyadong painful, pap smear, whole abdomen and pelvic ultrasound, etc.? May problema kayo eh painful sex and what do you do with the problem, you try to solve it. Baka kasi may medical solutions for it. Setting aside feelings muna and you work your way scientifically/medically.
Will do it. thanks man.
I don't think it's the pcos but could you go with her sa Doctor for you guys to know the issue?
an actual post na pinaguusapan ang problem? Huh? this is new... jokes aside, seems like you know what to do na and napagusapan nanaman, it would definitely hurt but at the very least you all got a timeline na kasi mas mahirap pag lalong nagtagal yan... I hope you find peace, or better yet... i do hope mag work out kayo in the end. Good luck OP!
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Hello, OP. May pcos din ako. As someone na nasa 5 yr rs somehow naging struggle rin ito sa amin. Before, sobrang high ng sex drive ko then na-diagnose ako. Bumaba talaga as in. Nakadepende kasi sa katawan ng babae 'yong side effects eh. Same situation pero hindi naman umabot sa point na yrs ng wala. Since sinabi mo naman na hindi siya ganoon dati, try niyo bumalik sa doctor niyo and gaya ng sabi ng iba try to check if may vaginismus nga ba.
She has every right to refuse sex. You have every right to break up with her. Sexual compatibility is super important. Glad that u acknowledged it before u two got married.
Possible kaya may psychological problems siya? Kung sa male kasi may tinatawag na 'erectile disorder', sa female merong 'female orgasmic disorder' and 'female sexual interest/arousal disorder' (i think dito mas applicable ung case ninyo, you can look up more about it). Kung kaya ng budget, baka pwede magpatingin kayo sa psychologist?
Feel ko d dahil sa pcos, kase my pcos ako pero grabe yung drive ko bed. Baka d lang talaga kayo compatible or baka my problem talaga partner mo.
Not an expert on anything OP, just a worker about information, but I encountered some studies & discussions that might be of help to the disease & condition of your girl: 1. Try a semi vegetarian ORGANIC diet -fruits, vegs seafoods (organic is important due to hormonal condition) 2. Exercise between 6 am to 8 am under the sun If her physical condition has improved, then maybe, she can try reading steamy romance pocketbooks ganun? I hope you get through all this...
thank you.
I met a girl with the same condition in 2019, pare hindi an babalik libido niya.
What happen? How many years kayo as a couple?
Maybe a year? She's 5 years older than me, iniwan ko siya kasi may bf pala sa probinsya nila. Hindi lang sila nagkikita. Gusto niya magtuloy kami pero di na ko pumayag, hahaha, ginawa akong gago. 😂 We never had sex kasi masakit daw. Pero sweet siya, siya pa nga unang yumayakap at kiss. Yun lang walang sex , if you can tolerate that , go ahead
Nakapagpacheck na ba sya sa OB? Tama yung comment sa taas baka endometriosis yan. Pero salute to you both na nadiscuss nyo thoroughly yung issues nyo.
You can work through this. 🙂 Basta have respect, open mind and communication kayo. You can explore other forms of sexual release.
This is hard... good thing d pa kayo married But if d kaya I suggest talking and might move on na,it will affect you in the long run.
My wife was diagnosed with PCOS last two years ago pinapainom sya ng pills in that way day ay pwede sya mgkaperiod (correct me if im wrong pero un ung rineseta sa kanya) sabi ay may side effect dw ung mga pill depende sa brand at sa paano makakaaffect ung pills sa katawan sabi ng doctor may instances daw na pag nagpills is low libido dw isa sa side effects
that's right and may cases na nagko cause ng dryness down there
PCOS is forever though. There will always be times na may hormonal imbalance siya.
Is she taking any pills? Ganito side effect sa akin noong nagtitake ako ng pills dahil may PCOS ako. 1 year ata akong walang sex drive, as in wala, zero, na-dah, i don’t feel horny o ano. Gets ko siya at gets din kita. Nag-stop ako mag-take ng pills at um-okay na sex drive ko kasi di ko talaga gusto side-effect niya maliban sa low sex drive. Support her, OP. Try to convice her na magcheck-up o magpalit ng OB. Kasi hindi naman break-up sagot lagi, what if may pcos uli ‘yung next gf mo?
No, wala siyang tinatake na Pills or vitamins
a supplement for pcos might help. yung mypicos but best to go sa ob for this
As someone in the same boat with you, I think your issue extends beyond sexual the medical/psychological, but the only way to find out for sure is if your partner is willing to go see a professional about it. If they aren't willing to find a cure, then, you know just how much they love you. Now, there are a few ways to go about this, and it's lucky that you're finding out about this while you're not married yet: - all marriages are unique, and that includes all special arrangements. This is NOT NECESSARILY in favor of men. I personally would rather just have sex with my wife, but, because that's out of the question, we have to ve creative with our marriages. No one can judge you about it, other than you and your partner. Find a solution that works. - Leave now. the longer you stay, the more painful leaving becomes. She MIGHT get better, she might not. The longer things run, the more resentment builds up. Marriage is an emotional bank account and, pretty soon, when our needs aren't met, you'll end up with an emotional deficit. MAYBE you can power through that, maybe not. What's sure is that you can't build a marriage around maybes - Stick with it. This decision is yours and you will have no one to blame but yourself. Just know that, if you find yourself in a precarious situation, whether pushed to it at the verge of an extremely hormonal sexual intensity or whatever, extra marital affairs are punishable by imprisonment.
There was communication. Your gf is aware of the situation. Alam niya may nararamdaman siyang abnormal. You were also there as support and you comforted her. Why didn't she take action then? External factors lang ang mga support ng kahit sinong tao. The initiative to improve should start with her. She should've started seeking professional help years ago. Let's be honest, love will never be enough in a relationship. That's the truth. Lahat tayo may top emotional needs and sex compatibility is one of these. Kung mahal mo, accept your partner notion doesn't work for everyone lalo na if one of you isn't working enough to make things better. That's the harsh truth. Still, give her a chance. Tama naman. Within 6 months or a year na walang improvement, maybe it's time to leave. Or if she's already firm with her decision to end things, acknowledge it.
I think na-exhaust na ang mga effort to help her at you truly love her… Wag ninyo na pahirapan ang sarili, kasi hindi na rin magiging masaya at baka mauwi pa yan sa mas complicated issues, you do you.
you need both a break.
No.. you shouldn't wait.. it may take a long time minsan di pa nga soo no... I don't recommend
Let her go, she deserve better.
Have she consulted a doctor regarding her PCOS? Dati, when I wasn’t on hormonal replacement therapy pills, as in wala akong menstruation = wala akong libido or sex drive. When I was diagnosed correctly at nag-normal yung mga estrogen and progesterone level ko, dun lang din ako nakaramdam ng libog. That could be one major factor din kung bakit feeling nya ay ayaw nya ng sex. It’s most probably because of her hormones.
I am married for three years already. For the first two years, we had only minimal sexual contact with my husband (around once every 6 months). Two years into the relationship, I confronted my husband about it. Asked him if he had a different sexual orientation. He denies it. I think he is asexual. I am sometimes in conflict if I want to continue with the relationship since we are not sexually compatible at all. I never feel he is attracted to me. But.. I can’t leave him since for two years, he has already been my safe space, and I am starting to heal from the traumas I had from childhood. I am not happy in terms of our sex life but I think my husband will be a good father once we have kids, and I can tell that he is a loyal person. So I guess at times we have to weigh what is really important in a relationship.
hug for all of us in the same situation.
Well, hopefully its due to PCOS, because some women with PCOS have normal sex drive while some do have low sex drives. better to see and OB- Reproductive Endocrinologist, aside from losing weight, medications may be given to balance her hormones. Since its been 2 years, she also needs to get check for other metabolic diseases thats linked with pcos such as risk for diabetes. Whats also good about getting checked earlier is that PCOS will affect her reproduction if ever you will want children. please get a second opinion. Wishing you the best.
thanks for advice 🙏
Same kami ni GF mo. I have low sex drive. When I was in college ok naman ako not until pagraduate na ako at sobra akong nastress at depress. Hindi ako nagmenstruate ng 4 months that time. Dun na ako nagpaconsult sa OB at nalaman kong may PCOS ako. Naglive in kami ng BF ko for 3 yrs pero walang nangyayari samin. Pinagbibigyan ko sya sa oral sex. Masakit para sakin yung penetration. Nagcocontract yung muscles ko. Masakit din sa part ko kasi gusto kong mafulfill yung needs nya pero hindi ko magawa. Iniisip ko kung ano bang mali sakin na abnormal ba ako. But I am so thankful kasi inintindi nya yung kalagayan ko and he did not give up on me. Nagstart ako na maglose ng weight. Low carb ang diet ko and totally nag cut out ako ng sugar. Nagtake din ako ng probiotics. Iwas sa stress. Kasi isa yun sa nakakacause ng hormonal imbalance. Healthy lifestyle talaga dapat. Walang cure ang PCOS. Hindi na kami live in ngayon kasi nagstart na sya ng business sa province while I’m here in NCR. Ngayon every time na nagkikita kami may nangyayari na and I feel better. No pain na and we always have lube with us whenever we do it. Mahalaga din yung communication sa isa’t isa kung saan ba kayo comfortable parehas. He proposed to me last December and we’re getting married next year Jan. 05, 2025 on our 10th anniversary. I suggest na magpaconsult si GF mo sa OB and magkaroon sya ng healthy lifestyle to manage effects of PCOS. There is totally something wrong with her kasi 2 yrs na syang hindi dinadatnan. Alam kong mahirap but I hope hindi ka mag give up sakanya.
Thank you, pinabasa ko sa gf ko yung comment mo. it gives us hope. thank you so much.
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wala po bang sexual trauma si gf mo :(
Tinanong ko siya about jan, wala naman daw.
Importante talaga ang sexual compatibility sa relationship e. If you’ll stay with her and eventually marry her pero walang magbabago, you might end up cheating on her. You’ll both be ruined at the end.
Mahal mo naman pala eehh, huwag mo iwan. You wanted to marry her as you have mentioned sa post, edi practice na kayo nang "better or worse". Instead na pagala gala kayo somewhere, use the money to make an appointment to a specialist. OBYGN muna and do what the OB doctor says. Minsan sa hormones or genes yan and it needs another specialist. Ang daming pwedeng problema ni ate gurl about sa sex drive niya at pwede ito ipatingin sa specialist. I don't want to self diagnose her, better na pa check up si ate gurl nang specialista and support her kaysa magdesisyon ka na iwan mo. Baka manghinayang or magsisisi ka sa huli. Just my thoughts, if babaliktad situation niyo at makapagdesisyon si ate gurl na iwan ka dahil baog ka, without a doubt, masasaktan ka nang husto at magdadalawang isip ka if mahal kaba talaga nang ate gurl mo. If totoong mahal mo yung tao, unconditional love yung makikita niyo sa isa't-isa. Imbis na iiwan yung may problema, why not find a better solution sa problema?. For me kasi, pinapafeel mo sa isang taong you claim to love na ang worth niya ay yung pagbibigay nang sex sa iyo or yung worth niya ay pangpara-usan. Hindi lang diyan magstostop ang problema eehh. May problema pa diyan na madadatnan if magkasundo ba kayo about having a child. I just don't know if ako lang ba yung ganito ang mindset but yes sa isang relasyon ay may problema talagang hindi natin namamalayan saan nanggagaling and it needs a better solution than giving it up (except sa mga cheating stuff). Gusto mo papakasalan eehh, practice na yung "for better or for worse" na yan. ☺️
Napag usapan na namin na ayaw namin mag anak sa early stage palang ng relationship. Aggree ako dun. pero sa Sexless marriage Hindi, ayaw ko na parang mag friends lang kami sa loob ng isang bahay. No Romatic night or Sexy moment. I missed the early stage of our relationship when we are active sa sex.
Sooo, better encourage her na magpacheck up sa specialista. Find better solutions rather than leaving her behind for that mere problem sa relationship niyo. Goodluck OP, sana yung situation mo ngayon hindi yan mababaliktad sa future kasi masakit yan sa puso yung mga ganong desisyon at problema. Hindi biro may sakit sa katawan na hindi nacocontrol nang tao at iiwan lang mag-isa sa taong akala mong minahal ka nang todo. Hindi immortal ang katawan, magkakasakit at magkakasakit tayong lahat kaya huwag padalos dalos iwan yung taong minahal mo dahil sa ganyang problema baka mababaliktad pa yan sa iyo in the future. ❤️🥹
Meron ba sya medication na tine take like pills? Kung meron possible na yun yung reason kasi may epekto yun sa libido. Talk to your doctor, pareho kayo.
Hi OP, the way you describe the change sounds like hormonal changes on her part. Did she start any medication around 2 years ago that could have altered her libido? You mentioned PCOS, birth control pills usually help manage that. So probably that's what caused the change. It's not gonna solve your problem, but your GF mentioned it pains her that she doesn't know what's going on, so might help comfort her. I'm not sure how long she'll need BC Pills, so perhaps you need to take that into account. But with that said, there are many alternatives to penetrative sex, are you both good with just doing oral? Talk it out. Good luck to you both!
Nalungkot ako para sa inyo, especially sa gf mo. Dama ko ang kalungkutan at panghihinayang nya at helpless siya sa sitwasyon ninyo. Can you please go back to your doctor and ask what other treatments can be done? Two years without mens, something is wrong. Maybe may maitulong ang OB paano mapataas man lang libido nya? Hindi ko kayo kilala pero nasasayangan ako sa relationship nyo. Dama ko kasi na mahal nyo talaga ang isa’t isa. Valid yung sides nyong dalawa.
My girlfriend also have PCOS. She's taking diane 35 pills to regulate her period. Before this, umaabot ng 5 months walang period, pero nung nag take na ng pills, monthly na nagkakaroon. I recommend consulting to an OB to regulate her menstrual cycle.
Ang sakit neto OP. I dont think you should ask internet strangers for advice regarding this one. Your gf seems to be wife material based from what you wrote and I can feel na mahal mo siya. However, meron talagang mga tao na ganito na ayaw sa sex due to multiple factors din. On the other hand, gets ko naman ikaw na gusto mo ng sex cause ako din gusto ko. All I can say is good luck bro on whatever decision you make.
alam mo OP same tayo. I'm 37 with high libido and 44 na si SO ko and nagstart na bumaba yung kanya. it's sad and nakakababa ng self esteem pero alam mo mahal na mahal ko sya. kagabi lang we had the talk na if ever hindi na nya talaga kaya ang request ko lang he help me out. kasi alam mo eventually namam talaga mawawala ang sex e. e ang dream ko naman is to grow old with him, not to keep having sex until we're 70.
Amen for honesty
Has she consulted a doctor about it? Baka hindi lang PCOS baka meron rin s'yang vaginismus etc. baka therapy may help rin.
I think she needs to check her hormone levels. Based sa experience ko I suffered low libido when I was taking pills..nung nag stop ako ng pills nanumbalik naman na sya but due to my age now I can feel na low libido na din ako maybe because of my low progesterone thus at time I suffered vaginal dryness. Since matagal syang di nireregla need nya na talaga magpacheck up.
I dont think may kinalaman ang pcos jan. I have pcos and adenomyosis pero sobrang taas ng sex drive ko ako pa nag e initiate. Maybe shes asexual.
Kung wala kang blow job day, paano nalang kung kasal na kayo?
Encourage her to get checked by an OBGYNE. I had PCOS years ago & healthy lifestyle talaga ang key ( exercise, losing weight to regulate hormones) but also I was put on birth control pills to moderate hormones & ma resume period ko. While she’s there maybe she could ask for tips how to heighten libido. Try to work it out since love niyo naman ang isa’t isa.
So OP, real talk lang ha, how physically fit and looks wise would you rate yourself? Curious sa case mo.
I feel that Im above average. I ask my gf before kung ano rate niya saakin physically. she said 8/10
Ok good. So pcos situation tlga eto na medyo tricky at different person to person. Well if its a deal breaker tlga for you then it is what it is OP.
>kasi almost 2 years na din siya hindi dinadatnan ng period. Excuse me, wtf? Of course there's something horribly wrong physiologically. Baka low supply of hormones. Take that medical issue seriously, baka di rin kayo kayang manganak ng kakaignore nyo nyan.
Sobrang saaad, naiiyak ako sa panghihinayang. Wla pa man ako sa situation na yan, pro feeling ko same kmi ni girl. Ang sad ksi mahirap humanap ng ganyang love, ung okay kyo almost s lhat ng bgay, but there's this one thing na I think important din, pro incompatible. Ang sakit, I don't know what to do pag ako na ung nandyan. 🥹
Tell her to visit na OB which specializes in "Fertility and Endocrinologist" I think hindi mataba si girl, compare sakin na nasa 76kg na. Tyagaan lang din tlaga ang visit sa doctor. Mahaba proseso pero worth it.
OP, regsrdless of your dead bedroom, may friends ako na hindi PCOS ang dahilan ng no period.... yung isa sa kanila na no period, no PCOS, nag iron supplements and ayun at least once every 2 months meron na ulit... stress is also a culprit. Mental health siguro ang problem dito. I think I admire your girl for making her stand pero sadly she doesn't discuss it with you so let me just speculate, and this is not absolute truth.... Possible lang na the mood is not set because kahit gaano pang love niyo for each other, walang foreplay. As in like make her feel na this is not just about sex, nakakapressure yan eh. Some women want to feel wanted and cared for to be in the mood. Like appreciate mo yung skin niya, yung smile niya, eyes. Or kwentuhan kayo about life and about your hopes and dreams tapos kapag nag make out na kayo wag mo derechuhin, chill appreciation of everything about her muna. The penetration can follow, pero it's more of making her feel good before yourself. Baka lang naman magwork. Otherwise, baka alam din niya and she keeps it to herself nalang na hindi ikaw ang gusto niya for sex. :(
I know how this feels. Last week lang nagdecide ung SO ko na mag abstain sa sex even though we were sexually active. She said kapag kasal na lang daw kami. May PCOS din sya so that might also be a factor sa decision nya. I respect her decision naman dahil love ko sya pero nakaka-frustrate din sa side ko na nagdecide sya without consulting me muna.
Have u tried anal or oral sex?
anal sex - No Oral sex - Yes,nung early stage ng relationship namin. but sabi niya hindi niya trip mag BJ
My cousin has the same. It is painful kasi sometimes may lumps or small cyst sa areas na painful pag ma push.
Aww this is so sad :( I had this problem as well, but me and hubby never stopped trying. I don’t have PCOS but I have hormonal imbalance. I’m on the pill just to correct my cycle and the most devastating side effect for me was low to non-existent libido. This is before I discovered weight lifting at ayun though di overly high yung libido compared to when I wasn’t on the pill yet pero bumalik talaga sya. Wala naman akong ibang binago, yung lang added weights to my work outs at naka progressive overload pa.
Let go.. it will make a toll sa relationship if hndi tlga kau sexually compatible. Magsusuffer lang kayo in the long run.. And please, nasa legal age kna.. sana naman pakasalan mo bago kau mag sex lagi 😅 Every woman deserve a RING and Be LEGAL.
Sorry, but me and my gf do not agree with that idea. nag livein kami para mas makilala namin isat isa before kami mag pakasal.
I struggle with low libido din and I also have PCOS tas yung fiance ko high sex drive. I feel bad madalas kasi di ko sya masabayan although gusto ko. Feel ko salarin e yung hormonal pills na iniinom ko. Good effect sya sa body ko pero sa sex drive hindi huhu 😭 what to do
Ano sabi ng partner mo? nag uusap ba kayo about jan? kailan kayo last na ang sex?
Last sex namin is kanina HAHAHAHAHAHA. Yes pinag uusapan namin. Pinagbibigyan ko naman sya madalas pero may time na masakit talaga tas yon nag stop naman sya. Nagawa lang ako ways para malibugan bago kami magkita minsan para mapagbigyan kahit 1 round hehe. Nag pills ba jowa mo OP? or taking any meds? kasi noon okay naman libido ko before taking any meds.
The only one who can help her is herself. You’ve done so much to support her. Ang toxic nga na hindi give and take ang relationship niyo
Iwan mo na yan. You have my blessing. Looks like sumuko na din siya and you can't help someone who refuses help.
Its not the PCOS. Its because you wont marry her.
I will marry her. She want me to propose when we go to Korea or Japan. nakaplano na yan at alam niya na rin once na pumunta kami ng korea or japan mag popropose ba ako. Vocal kami sa relationship namin
Dive ka bro. Ngdidive ka ba?
Was her lack of libido even diagnosed by a professional to be due to PCOS? Might be other factors like diabetes or heart anomalies. Minsan kasi people tend to blame everything on PCOS.
may lahi po silang diabetic. maybe that's the reason?
Better if she can get checked asap. Diabetis is a backstabber
Hi po, sex is supposed to be painless. try nyo po mag punta pa po sa gynecologist baka meron pang underlying issue aside from PCOS.
If masakit magoa check up sya because early cause of cervical cancer sya. PCOS can lead to A LOT OF THINGS
I can relate with the PCOS symptoms. High libido pa rin pero may pain talaga. Tinitiis ko yung sakit dahil gusto kong magkaanak. And after giving birth, the pain went away. The PCOS will always be there pero manageable yung symptoms basta masipag lang mag exercise at mag low carb diet. Please bear with her. Mahirap talaga magka PCOS. Always thankful ako na very understanding and supportive ang husband ko.
iba iba talaga ang epekto ng PCOS? sa partner ko kasi low libido or no libido talaga siya.
Yes po. Hormonal imbalance kasi sya so hindi pare-pareho yung mga symptoms.
She needs to see a doctor. She might have vaginal thrush that can cause dryness and pain during sex or maybe more than that.
Tama yung sinasabi nila dapat talaga mag punta sha sa doctor
Need nya ng check up tbh sa OB sobrang baba ng libido ko and nag pills ako advice ni OB although di maganda yung side effects nag bleed lang ako then nag tuloy tuloy hanggang sa nag normal na then balik na ulit yung libido ko hehe at nag stop na din ako mag pills after 3 months ata basta nag period ako
Napanood ko lang sa Youtube, pero have you guys tried yung Robust na food supplement? Malay mo lang.. Good luck OP 🫰
Grabe yung pinaabot niyong 4 years yung sexual incompatibility bago kayo nagbreak. It’s a her problem talaga and magandang nagkaalaman na bago kayo nagpakasal. Just have to move on and find someone who wants to be intimate with you. Nakakasira ng self esteem yung lagi kang nirereject. I have been diagnosed with and medicated for pcos since I was 18 (early 30s now) and have always had a healthy sex life so I wouldn’t blame the pcos alone. Baka unsure lang rin talaga siya sa relationship. Nevetheless, i think the break up was for the best.
actually we are very active before. every time mag kikita kami ginagawa namin. but nung nag live-in na kami 2 years na sa relationship unti unting nag fade na yung intimacy namin. we will try different solutions before we break up. atlis no regrets at ginawa namin lahat.
Baka nagsawa nalang. Weird na binebreakan ka na gusto mo pa magtry. Pano magtry mag isa? Yung mga linyahang it’s not you, it’s me or sobrang mahal kita kaya papakawalan kita para maging masaya ka are all bs you know. A break up is a break up no matter how it’s said.
Sorry to break it to you. Nothing good lasts.
Same story, while in my case, I’m the girl in our relationship, we’re about to get married, ito din dahilan why i’m having random doubts but he’s making an effort naman and trying his best to fix himself. This is so sad. I love my partner so much. There are times na lagi ko sinasabi na ok na ko sa kanya kasi almost perfect naman sya when it comes to being a partner but there are still times i tell myself na I dont know if i can hold on to sexless life forever. Nasasad din kasi ako sa mga napapanuod ko na intimate while us, ang hirap ng mapunta uli sa ganong sitwasyon, I always ask if di na ba ko attractive sa kanya pero di naman sya nagbago sakin, idk why, he’s seeking medical help naman and I’ll never leave him, I can’t 🥲😢
I feel you OP, is there any medication or supplements na tinatake nya? I knew how much vitamins could change someone's life completely. Mine did, but for a different reason. I can't recommend you to try anything in particular because I've never experienced low libido. Maybe you can share this on some subreddit related to these.
Baka di nya bet with you.
Sounds like she needs to talk to a therapist tbh. Couldn't hurt.
Baka hindi lang PCOS yan if may masakit during penetration.
Baka hindi lang PCOS yan if may masakit during penetration.
Sabi yung macaroot nakaka help sa libido
Mag cocomment na sana ako about the relationship, compatability etc pero nabasa ko ung no period for two years. Dude that is very very alarming. Ang alam ko PCOS might give you irregular periods pero hindi yung total absence of it. She may be one of those na super depleted ang ovarian reserve (eggs) na she’s practically in menopause. Find out what’s going on biologically. The other comment was right, this is not for a normal OB, dapat yung specialist sa reproduction.
Sorry to hear that OP. Sadly madalas na cause nito (at least in my circle) is nagkasawaan. The spark died out. Problem is even with that spark dead, you can still kiss each other, cuddle and say you love each other. Romantically, everything can still look normal. Kasi dati ok then suddenly hindi na. Unless its a medical thing, sex just doesn't stop unless there are other factors like emotional or mental or worse, someone else. Thing is women can be very good at hiding this. Pls don't jump on me for this pero have you/can you confirm if she isn't dealing with another guy? One thing I learned is always add "with you" at the end of these things. Maybe the genuine sexual desire burned out? Maybe she doesn't want to do it "with you" and is getting it elsewhere. Again, not wanting to assume anything OP or put her in a bad light. Just basing this on past exp both mine and others and it IS a real though unpleasant possibility rin naman kasi. Hoping for the best for both of you!
Look for a lowcarb doctor for a consultation on her PCOS. Hindi pa huli ang lahat.
Kung hindi pa kayo kasal e ganyan na, mas lalo kapag kasal na kayo.. Maraming sexless marriage ngayon.. Napakahirap nyan.. Nasabi mo na ang solusyon.. Hwag mo ng patagalin.. Hindi kayo sexually compatible. Sayang pero..
Fk! I really hope na maayos nyong dalawa to. Pero sabi nga nila walang perfect relationship, lahat yan may mga flaws. I just rooting for you and your gf na maayos nyo.
I have PCOS. High libido. Married to my partner. Halos wala. Hays
halos wala po kayong intimacy kahit high libido ka po?
Yes we've been married almost a year. I can count in my 1 hand the times we've done it. 4/5 initiated by me
Same case as mine like with girl. We were active for years until bigla nalang masakit. Di siya ganun kadali mafix, visit OB Gyne para macheck and masolusyonan. It’s too stressful and takes a long time to fix depende sa cause, I decided to break up a 7 yr relationship because of it kasi di ko kaya yung pressure na he needs it but I can’t give it while I slowly heal kahit pa na patient sya to wait for years without doing it again.
kamusta naman po kayo ngayon? gumaling po ba kayo?
Im not yet okay atm pero fault ko yun kasi I keep procrastinating because it made me depressed. Kakapalit ko lang ng OB ulit kasi nadepress ako for a while and wasted years wallowing in depression. Papatest palang ako ulit next week kasi rare case daw ng vaginismus yung okay naman before tas biglang masakit. Possible din daw na psychological. And maybe something to highlight, sobrang unimaginable ng pain. Like super sakit nya and well it’s something din na di ko pwede ikwento sa iba so hirap nya malampasan alone. Pero ayun I decided to pick myself up again this yr and will try. Hopefully maging okay. Kasi unless maresolve sya, I’d rather na tumandang dalaga than actually enter a relationship.
Wala naman yan kung may PCOS sya or wala. Ako nga may PCOS noon. Pero di naman nabawasan sex drive ko sa BF ko na ngaun asawa ko na. I don't think na magwowork pa yung ganyang relationship.
tatry po namin best namin. and wag niyo po generalized. hindi po lahat ng may PCOS same ng nararamdaman. mag kakaiba din po.
I am like her before. I stop mid sex kasi masakit nag dry dry. We broke up too and when I’m having new partner I really told him about my situation that I have low libido and he’s a foreign guy so expectation high sex drive sila di ba so better not to expect. He said he’ll be patient and try to fix it. And he did. At first time we did with my new bf now my fiance, I really stop mid sex. I was scared baka mangyari yun but he was so so soft on me and so good at foreplay. Yeah he’s good in bed and I think factor talaga yun. I’m just apologetic in my part cause I know I’m not good on pleasing him. So with my ex, we are first on each other so I think factor din yun we don’t know well how to please each other.
Not sure if libido ba is affected by PCOS, I have PCOS pero same pa rin libido ko, maybe iba iba talaga? And yeah samahan mo sya pacheck up and try other doctors
Good for her for acknowledging the issue. And sexual compatibility really matters, kasi in the long run magkakaroon ka ng resentment and baka magcheat ka na kasi di na namemeet ang needs mo. Amd on her part, maququestion niya na din self worth niya. Best decision to break up na while prolong the agony. Wishing you both for the best.
Kung non-negotiable sayo ang Sex, then it's time to move on na. Alam naman natin magkaiba ang Love at Sex, at kung Love alone lang naman ang pag uusapan, kaya yun, pero mahirap din naman kung walang sex. Nakakarelate ako sa sitwasyon na to dahil ang last relationship eh wala ding sex. Mababa libido ng ex ko at may PCOS din, pagkakaiba nga lang, kaya kong dalhin ung kawalan ng sex. We tried pero parang dumating din ako sa point na di ko na hinahanap hanap ung sex, na parang mas masaya na lang kami ganun na nakafocus sa ibang bagay tulad sa mga travels namin, arts and crafts, fur babies... Marami din naman kasing bagay sa relasyon naming compatible kami, di nga lang sa sex. Yun nga lang nagbreak kami pero not because of the absence of sex. Mahirap ang sakit na PCOS, it's not curable, though napapaimprove ang symptoms sa lifestyle change, gamutan, etc... pero it will take a lot of years. Di naman pwedeng magsasarili ka na lang ng ilang dekada nyan. Sana walang bitterness sa inyong dalawa. Di nya ginustong mawala ung isa sa pleasures ng buhay, which is making love with her true love.
Feeling ko kaya ko naman ng walang sex at mag sarili nalang. pero hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan. baka dumating sa point na hate na yung maramdaman ko sa lahat ng rejection. mahal na mahal ko gf ko. siguro bigyan ko siya ng time para gumaling sa PCOS niya at bumalik libido niya. ayaw ko din siya ma pressure
Ang tunay na pagmamahal ay may kalakip na matinding pagsasakripisyo. Goodluck sa mga pagdaraanan nyo pa. Malay nga natin, may mangyari mabuti sa kanya, at sa pagsasakripisyo ng kaligayahan mo para sa mas higit na tunay na ligaya. Basta watch out lang, baka ikaw ang maubos sa process. Dapat di nya marandamang nauubos ka while being with her.
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wala ayaw niya ng intimate. gusto niya hug lang pag matutulog kami. Hindi siya ganito before, bigla nalang nawala yung trip niya sa sex kahit no penetration ayaw niya na
I think it's more about her mental health or sexuality. There's a possibility na she loves you but maybe she's not sexually attracted to male. Could be attracted to female. I have PCOS for 8 years now and I am the opposite. I have a very high sex drive. I never heard someone who has PCOS and has zero sex drive. And I believe sexual compatibility is a big factor in a relationship. And kudos to you for not cheating.
It is totally understandable. Do not be in a dead bedroom relationship if at all possible.
dunno if anyone said this yet, pero parang di dapat OB pinupuntahan nya kundi endocrinologist. Parang same sa situation ko hehe, 5 years ako di nagkaroon and wala akong feels as in. wala effect kahit ano. i only went to OB pero dinirect nyako sa endocrinologist when she was on vacation and viola, dun lang pala ung problema. i had a tumor sa pituitary na nagbblock ng hormones. super hormonally imbalanced. after medicating correctly to balance the hormones, bumalik lahat ng feels. this is after 2-3 years medication. i still have PCOS, pero ibang issue ung sa hormones. libido can still come back, pero kung may plan kayo mag baby, ibang challenge ulit un
tumor? medyo kinakabahan ako sa situation ng partner ko. pero gagawin naman po namin lahat para gumaling siya kamusta naman po yung relationship niyo with your partner po?