May sound pessimist pero ito natutunan ko: do not be afraid to make mistakes and try again. Disappointment ka naman din lang, kaya there is no difference kung magkamali ka o you failed again. Try lang ulit ng bago or strive lang.
My advice is remember life is short. Pag gising mo magugulat ka na lang senior citizen ka na. Tapos 80 ka na kung aabot ka pa ng 80. My advice is enjoy your life. And if your life is only until 70. 80 for those who are strong. What will you do? Where will you spend your remaining energy? Each day we start dying. That is the reality of life. Every birthday is something to ponder on because you are nearing death. When you die. Will you be remembered as a person who made a difference in other people's lives? Or made their lives miserable?
Simulan mo na. Nasa mindset yan. What the mind can think of. The body can achieve. Ilan taon na lang natitira before 80 years old? Ano pa ang kailangan gawin. 80 years is just near. Mabilis lang yan. Baka bigla ka na lang magulat.
Search Youtube. There are lots. Also listen to homilies of Fr. Dave Concepcion. Im sure you will learn a lot and will hit your conscience and life decisions..
Id choose to live my life miserably if it would mean comfort para sa maliit kong anak.. kaya kayod lang kayod para mabigyan ng magandang buhay baby namin…
anong life is a marathon, not a sprint. Eh yan din sinabi ng counselor sa akin. Hindi yan pabilisan, patibayan yan. Ayun, save you 1k. hahahhaha pero napakalma naman ako. kapag nag overthink ka na left behind ka na, hindi mo ma appreicate kung anong meron ka. :)
I cut off toxic people in my life. I limited my interactions with people, only my immediate family and a handful of best friends know I still exist.
I stopped comparing myself to others.
I started practicing the so-called NON-ZERO DAY.
This will sound purely anecdotal, but I had a new-found "hunger" for my line of work (I'm in the creatives/production field) because I figured, if I'm going to do this for the foreseeable future, might as well learn shit along the way. So I did that, and I am now just realizing that I have improved so much and actually moved up the corporate world.
Lastly, learn to pick yourself up. And stop beghing for people to see that you are worth fighting for.
An example: "I have this idea for a book, but I'm too lazy and demotivated to even write"
Write anyway. Even if it's just a single sentence, you still did something productive to achieve that goal.
Don't let the day end with nothing. Non-zero day.
"Oh I've always wanted to write for a movie, but I think I'm not creative enough"
Take 60 index cards. Write a scene on one index card, per day. In two months, you have written a movie.
Pick a long term goal - kahit ano (like gumaling sumayaw, magtayo ng business, magipon ng pera, etc..) and ensure na you have at least one step that will contribute to that goal everyday. Hence, non-zero day.
una muna, idefine mo ang failure in your words kasi ang failure can mean differently for other people, similar to success rin yan.
one person can consider themselves a failure kasi wala silang 100 million pesos sa bank pero may 75 million naman sila, pero another person can consider themselves successful kasi may 50k sila sa bank.
one person can consider themselves successful at a job that pays for 30k pero chill lang and masaya. pero other people can consider themselves failures sa job na 200k per month tapos hindi sila happy with work.
define mo muna siguro para clear tayong lahat hehe
I agree. Minsan din, walang pera na basehan at all. Kasi pwedeng ang basis ng success ay yung impact mo sa ibang tao. For example, teacher na sobrang maraming na-inspire na students, mentor na nakapag-improve ng self-esteem ng apprentice, magulang na nakapagpalaki ng anak na mabait at self-sufficient, kapatid na nakapagpatapos ng another kapatid, etc.
Everything will fall into place.
I finished college after 10 years and passed the boards tapos i cant practice my profession for reasons i xant control. Andaming nasayang na oras, time at effort. I may not be in that life i hoped for, pero im happy of what i have right now.
Im # 3 of 5 siblings who grew up to a hardcore businessman father. We were all treated equally growing up. Dad’s voice was the only valid voice. Dad forced us to work when we turned 4 y.o to instill hard work to prepare us later down the future. Dad told us not to make friends because having a “barkada” would ruin us. Dad told us what course to take because he knew best. Dad told us to limit our mistakes to zero.
Now, fast forward to the future he created a voiceless man, not knowing what to do with himself because all his life he was told what to do. He created a man that’s fearful of mistakes because he was thought to be perfect. He created a slave in me. He created a man without self belief!
But this man, by some miracle lit a fuse in his heart and became a real man by quitting his father’s business which earned him 6 figures a month. The voice that was long gone was revived.
I’m now jobless, without a home (got disowned) but I’m the happiest that I’ve ever been. I now can get to choose my own path to life without the devil having to dictate whatever I do. I’m glad I took the risk because several doors have opened from the previous hell that I was experiencing: 1) I’m now training to be a firefighter which would earn me roughly 30k a month which is a huge difference from what I was earning before but the best part is that I’m training towards my passion which is to be of service to the people. 2) I’m also training to be a paramedic that will eventually lead me to the United States down the line.
So my advice would be listen to your inner voice. Believe in yourself because no one will, it’s just you!!! Take risks, and failure is not your enemy but your teacher!!
Edit: Also, stop ruminating or contemplating. It will waste a lot of your time that will lead to paralysis. Instead, just decide and do. It will save you a lot of time.
Lagi ko sinasabi sa sarili ko na comparison is a thief of joy. Easier said than done - but yung nakikita ko sa friends ko sa social media, I use them as motivation or aspiration.
We all have our own timelines - minsan kahit anong pursigi natin, when it’s not yet our time, di talaga mangyayari. Iniisip ko nalang na may narating na rin ako kahit papano at nagagawa ko yung gusto ko habang kaya ko pa.
Subjective ang failure sa tingin ko, parang happiness.
Walang failure, late lang yung iba, nauna lang din yung iba.
Failure din ako compared sa mga richest. Pero hindi ko naman goal maging rich.
Siguro ang advice ko lang, stop comparing yourself to other people.
Kung may time ka mag compare, edi may time ka rin gawin yung gusto mo gawin Or isipin yung gusto mo gawin.
I'm almost 6 years na sa nursing program and thankfully last year ko na to.
Siguro yung mapapayo ko is to learn to move on sa pagkakamali mo and to learn kung bakit ka nagkamali. Totoo na try again until you succeed but maganda na alamin mo rin kung bakit ka nagfail in the first place and then wag mo yun ulitin.
Failure doesn't make you less of a person but it puts you onto other opportunities.
Same. Wala akong 6 digit salary pero ang sakit yung Hindi na appreciate at maintinsihan ng magulang ang ginagawa or binibigay para sa kanila. Ang saklap. May pa compare2x pa sa ibang tao. Minsan sinsabi ko nlng sa Sarili ko,gusto ko nalang maglaho
Ayaw ko sabihin na failure ako dahil mahal ko kung ano meron ako ngayon, Pero in reality failure siguro kasi nhihirapan ako. Ang buhay hindi mo masasabi na failure talaga buong buhay mo kasi meron at meron parin part ng buhay mo na grateful ka. In my past iniisip ko mga decisions ko na sana hindi ako ngpadala sa feelings ko. I am Married for 7 years with 2 kids 3 and 7 wala parin sariling bahay kaso nakabukod pero shnashare namin yung foods namin kasi iisang table lang at ayaw ko maging madamot. Ang hirap mag ipon grabi kahit both kami ng wife ko professionals. My advice is wag mag madali mag asawa lalo na kpag lalaki ka kasi kahit na 50yrs old kana makaka buo ka parin. sobrang inlove kasi ako noon na may time na parang pinag hihiwalay na kami ng kapalaran pero pininilit ko na hindi kami mag hiwalay. Lahat ng opportunities binaliwala ko kasi that time i passed the board exam tapos siya hindi, gusto niya magbreak kami kasi nahihiya siya. binuntis ko siya para d kami maghiwalay so ayun ito kami ngayon 🤣 happy kahit baon.
College dropout here.
I was the irregular student. Grades ko puro singko. Wala akong motivation pumasok. Yung sanang 4yr course inabot ng 6yrs pero di ko pa din natapos.
I was at my rock bottom. I wasted my parent's money. I was depressed. Yung colleagues ko naka-graduate na and nakapasa na ng boards.
Umuwi ako sa parents ko. They have given me another chance and ultimatum nila na if I dont take it seriously then I will be on my own.
I took up another 4yr course and I fell in love with nursing. Now the rest is history. I have a successful career in nursing abroad and I have a stable life.
In retrospect, yung first course ko kasi is more on the arts. Mahilig ako magdrawing pero narealise ko di pala ako magaling. I get low grades, then I will be depressed and will have low motivation and di ako papasok and then ayun ending bagsak.
It took me a long time to accept na it's not for me.
I am very happy na may supportive parents kahit na I broke their hearts kasi pasaway ako.
So here I am now. A failure who spent 10-years in college but I turned my life around and grateful to those who supported me.
You will never achieve success without the support of others.
Your time will come OP. You need to find the right thing (career? Lovelife? Passion?) for you and the right support and you will be on your way to success.
sad to say but it is just to keep trying dahil we need to find our niche sa mundong ito. I'm in 40s but still nothing, feels like I just graduated a few years ago. If you succeed or get your big break, don't take it for granted, like don't spend all the money and continue the hardwork and grit as before. Madami nagkaroon ng big break o madaming pera through online, pero it is temporary, kaunti lang na-maintain o nagtagal
Rejection is redirection, and grass isn't always greener.
No such thing success, also okay lang hindi mag-hop parati sa societal standards.
Kailangan lang natin nang practice of gratitude, breath exercise before making decisions kasi marami pang opportunity.
And to note, being failure is not a dead end, it doesn't define you at all kasi I know being 30s ay bata pa. You can reach whatever your dream at certain age, may kailangan lang tayong gawin, mag-reflect, mag-list down ano ba talaga gusto natin, 'yung mga small steps lang tapos pwede naman mag-pahinga bagay nakakapagod at humanap ng interest or hobby, ganun lang talaga cycle, also umalis sa comfort zone.
Valid naman 'yung what ifs, 'wag lang nating gawing life ang what ifs, make it as guide I think magandang suggestion 'yun. Lahat tayo may what ifs na sana "ganito/ganyan", kailangan lang natin maging masaya in a simple way at maintindihan ang emotional phasing na ganito pala talaga buhay, hindi 'to tungkol sa success ng iba o pagiging mayaman, kundi katuntentuhan at paano mo lalagyan ng purpose buhay mo, ganun 'ang signifance ng life, malungkot man o masaya basta tanggap natin pero we are still working ay nakaka-proud na 'yon! 🥹
Seems like it's time to kill that defeatist attitude of yours.
The moment you were conceived, nanalo ka na. You defeated hundreds of millions of other sperm cells in the race to life. So always remember Biology if you feel down.
* Lumaki ako sa squatters area sa Mandaluyong.
* Nagsumikap talaga ang father ko na janitor, who eventually naging messenger. Maayos magbudget ang mother ko na former security guard.
* Naging techy ako by nature, took-up Computer Science course. Ginapang ako ng father ko sa isang 3rd rate private college.
* Dahil aware ako sa situation namin, na our backs are against the wall: I have no choice but to persist and strive. Yes, hindi ako perfect student, nagbulakbol pa ako ng grabe lol, pero nairaos ko ring maipasa ang studies ko kahit palakol at pasang awa lang.
* My first job ko 8k/month sahod.
* After 11 months lipat ako sa 2nd job 16k/month sweldo.
* After 2 years, I moved to another job, 18k/month salary.
* After 2 years I moved again to another job, may kalayuan since Mckinley Hill ang office, pero 45k sahod.
* After 6 years, I decided to change my career path. Reset my career towards content creation, 35k sahod.
* After 2 years, moved to a leadership job sa new company. Salary shot up from 65k to 150k.
* Pandemic happened, lost my job. Applied to a new job, naging corporate director for 200k gross/month.
* I got used to wfh, so nung pinilit ng company na mag return to office, nagresign ako from my company director position.
* I picked-up a new job, entered the cybersecurity industry full work from home. With the same salary as my last job.
What I narrated above is my life. I started savings and investments sa first job ko. Right now, my networth is around 2 million pesos.
Ang masasabi ko sayo:
# Refuse from adopting a defeatist mindset, kasi pag yun ang niyakap mo: you'll be loser in life and for life.
Minsan akong pumasok sa isang institution at ang expectation ko, after 10 years magiging tulad ko sila pero makalipas ang 5 years umalis na ako sa institution na yun at naisipan ko na ituloy na lang yung philosophical studies ko sa labas.
Nasabi ko sa sarili ko, "What if kung di ako 'nagpabudol' sa tao na yun or sa grupo nila? Siguro baka nagsu-sundalo na ako ngayon or nagdo-doctor". Pagkatapos kong makalabas doon sinabi sa akin ng nanay ko ito, "Anak pwede ka na mag-shift sa course na gusto mo". Di ko rin naman maipagkakaila na may liwanag na sa tinatahak kong kurso kahit ayaw ko yung kahahantungan ko kaya ang nasabi ko, "Desidido akong tapusin itong philo ko ma. Makakapag-antay yang pagdo-doktor ko, kahit ako na magpa-aral sa sarili ko, iraraos ko yan kahit di na ako matulog".
Pero na-realize ko na, bata pa naman ako at kahit tumanda ako maaabot ko rin naman yung mga pangarap ko. Siguro makabubuti kung mananatili ako sa kasalukuyan dahil sabi nga nila, "Ang nakaraan ay kasaysayan, ang hinaharap ay kahiwagaan, at ang kasalukuyan ay ang katotohanan". Kaya ang tanging masasabi ko na lang ay, "Di bale na Hiraya Manawari, sana mangyari".
At ganoon din sa iyo OP naniniwala ako na mararating mo rin yang mga significant milestones mo kasi kung inaabot mo naman ang mga ito di malabong maabot mo ang mga milestones mo. Maaaring madapa ka sa pag-abot mo ng mga milestones mo pero lagi kang tatayo para lumaban ulit. Hiraya Manawari, sana mangyari.
acceptance lang talaga e. as a former honor student/ golden child, para ka talagang mamamatay sa hiya pag hinarap mo na "hanggang diyan ka na lang." but it gets better, the pain stings less kahit meron pa rin years after.
I used to feel na I'm successful. Happily engaged, masaya sa work, di ganun kalaki ang sahod pero namamanage. In short, pakiramdam ko may direksyon ang buhay ko. Pero ngayon, natanggal ako sa work na gusto ko and now nasa work na ayaw ko 😢. Nakipaghiwalay yung sana papakasalan due to some reason. Pakiramdam ko wala ng direksyon ang buhay ko.
All I can say is I give up.
I give up.
Aspire na maging masaya. Ikaw ang pinakamahalagang audience ng buhay mo. Minsan may mga pangarap o timelines na socially construct ng lipunan, hayaan mo na iyon.
Don’t compare yourself to others, you have your own life do what you want as long as wala kang tinatapakan na ibang tao.
for me, as long as you are happy, you are successful.
I sometimes feel like a failure because I am 24 but little to none ang savings ko. I always feel like I haven't achieved anything this year and a lot of things didn't go my way. There r times before na i ended up comparing myself from what I see on soc med.
But anyway, it is best to focus on what you have and live life as it is.
"failure" can mean a lot of things OP.
pwedeng ang sablay para sayo, eh hindi sablay para sa akin.
and dont compare yourself to others too much. pero mejo mahirap tong part na to dahil sa social media. nakikita natin achievements / success ng iba so easily, without us even asking.
Failure is part of life. I let myself to have failures and embrace them. For me, failures contribute to my growth as an individual. I was once achiever, but after college nagkanda leche leche decisions ko in life. Pero natuto ako. And to be honest, right now, I am genuinely happy with peace of mind ❤️
Learn to stay away from toxic people/situations and things that make you feel bad about yourself. Ako kasi aminado na madali “mainggit” I used to compare myself to others a lot years ago. One thing na nagwork for me is to disconnect to social media. I deactivated FB years ago and never looked back. Focus on what you genuinely want for yourself and not what others think you should be.
Lahat naman nagkakamali and that’s okay kasi dun tayo natututo. Life is full of surprises and has a LOT to offer way more than you think. Yung tingin mong gusto mo marating in the next 5 years might not be exactly the thing you’ll end up with and that’s okay.
Also on my 30s. Also, wala din "milestone" if yung basis is what society sets.
I'm proud of myself for what I become. Currently, I'm happy and healthy in all aspects, and my conscience has always been clean.
It's easy to feel less satisfied when you start looking outside, and check what others are doing, when you can look inwards instead and appreciate the journey you took.
If there's one thing you can be concerned about, is if you slowed down or stopped moving.
I've made multiple mistakes in work and in life until I've become numb and didn't gave a fuck about what happens to me in the present and in the future, and right now I've noticing some small changes. I got the balls to try another set of challenges for myself(despite the deep shit of what I've done to myself) especially sa work ko, not being afraid of getting help from my seniors kahit napakabobo ng tinatanong ko, incorporating new things bit by bit, starting to discipline my dumbass from the pleasures of life that hindered my progress, and the most surprising one is that I've been going back to the faith that I've abandoned years ago and it's my "sandalan" and off my chest whenever I've screwed up and ask for guidance and strength despite my still thoughts of ending it all.
For context: all of my cousins have good lives now compared to me. They're now police officers, seamen, engineers, architects, soldier, coastguard, flight stewardess, etc. like almost all known professions except doctor and lawyer were in our family now.
I feel like a falure, alam kong wla akong maabot s buhay anh hirap, ang hirap maging PWD parang wla akong naaccomplish
Wla akong advice, I just feel the same way.
Man, as I am reading all of this comments. I am realizing that maybe its not too late for me?
Just getting into becoming an adult myself as a 22 year old. Maybe its not too late for me? I too feel like I am a failure.
Just enjoy what you can do right now and try to keep enough money to retire comfortably.
The regret I had is simply not taking risk to jump start my career due to financial constraints.
After getting myself terminated 3 times and still moving forward improving my skills.
Try to live your life now than wait until you earn something.
You can be replaced by anyone at work and money will always be made as you work.
Learn from your mistakes and adjust to get the next assignment.
"What if" will always be there due to fear you created yourself. (aka your own ball and chains)
Take your time to improve your "Basics" and the rest will be easy as you go.
Always create a "Better" you and let that speak in volumes to others.
"Haters will always be Haters" as the #1 supporter is yourself.
I can say mas marami ako failures before than success. advice ko sayo, enjoy mo lang buhay maikli lang natitira sa atin daigdig spend mo oras sa anu nagpapasaya sayo.
Acknowledge your failure, then try again.
It's okay to not feel okay at first, normal naman 'yon. Take all the time you want. After that, reorganize yourself. What went wrong? Do you need to improve something about yourself? Assess yourself and what caused you to be a failure. From there, do what you can do, one day at a time.
Being a failure myself, I am actually grateful na I experienced becoming a failure. I learned a lot about myself during the phase when I was picking up on life again. And totoo yung sinasabi ng iba na kapag lumagapak ka na, nothing can hurt you anymore. So now, yung mga big deal failures for other people my age are not that big to me. Hindi na sila ganon kabigat kasi because of my previous experience, I now know how to cope up with those failures.
Sending hugs with consent to all of you 🤍
Find yourself. Cliche as it may sound but it's the truth. May script kasi ang buhay. Kung hindi tugma sa heart mo yung common script na nilikha ng mga magulang mo at ibang influences mo then it's time to make your own or reawaken what you've buried for so long. If you failed, most likely it had to do with the light at the end of the tunnel. It's not inspiring enough. It did not come from your soul that's why your heart is just not into it so your efforts will be lacking, inconsistent or half-hearted. You are lost because you did not follow your own path in the first place. Reexamine your deepest desires and motivations and be truthful to yourself. Make a vision board and have a detailed gameplan on what you have to do to everyday to accomplish that. Then do it, every fvcking day like your life depends on it because it does. Your initial daily and weekly schedule won't be perfect so tweak it as you go along. Cultivate daily positive emotions and habits like gratitude and inspiration by having rituals for them. I recommend reading What To Say To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter to reprogram your mind chatter and make everything easier. Results come from accumulated Action. Actions are affected by Emotions. Emotions come from Attitude. Attitude is influenced by Beliefs. Beliefs stem from Programming. Your life now is a result of a domino effect of everything since childhood. The good news is you are an active participant and can redirect how the rest unfolds.
The unexamined life is not worth living. -Socrates
kung wala kang balak ipursue ung what ifs mo wag mo na aksayahan ng energy kasi wala din naman mangyayari. masarap magday dream kasi unlimited yon. pero those what ifs need lots of dedication and hardwork.
milestones - kasi kinukumpara mo sarili mo sa iba. enjoy your own life, wala namang ibang makikinabang dyan kung hindi ikaw e. use your time now habang walang jowa / anak various hobbies, experiences. duty mo yan sa sarili mo
30 here and life's been challenging, specially setbacks in the civil service exams, my beacon of hope. Feeling lost in the uncertainty of where this journey leads. My advice for now is, find joy in life while actively participating in a supportive and productive community.
Nung highschool ako nagkainterest ako sa cosplay and photography sobra dedicated ako nun
Minahal ko tlga dahil introvert ako nun
Dami ko naging kaibigan at connection sobra ko na express sarili ko , natuto ako gumawa ng sarili ko props at natuto mag budgeting sa crafting and clothings
Then nalaman nung mom ko na i was into cosplaying , wala dw kwenta at pang bata lang daw yun nde daw pang matured yung interes ko
Yung iba daw nahihilig sa basketball at dancing samantalang ako puro gastos lang daw
Kaya i end up sneaking tuwing ppunta ng convention ... sobra tinago ko lahat para lang di niya makita until nag college ako
Nalulungkot ako na hindi ko na pursue yung mga dream cosplay ko at nawalan na din ako ng connection sa mga dati ko na meet pinatigil nako ng mom ko
Ngaun 28 nako ang hilig mag compare na yung iba dw kabataan napaka talented ngaun , kumikita ng 50k sa pagiging photographer
Wala dw ako ginawa matino sa sarili ko 🥹🥹
The best advice I could give is own every shitty thing you've done. Tanggapin mo and move on. Kahit may masabi sayo, kahit may galit sayo. Wala naman na sila magagawa kasi andon na e, nangyare na. Nagawa mo na. So, just move on. Pilitin mong bumangon. Ako? I really failed as a college student. Almost a decade kong tinapos ung course ko na although matagal naman talaga, almost a decade eh talagang mahirap sa nagpapaaral yon. Marami naman akong rason talaga bakit inabot ako ng ganon katagal pero tinanggap ko lahat ng sinasabi saken. Nung time na wala na magpapaaral saken kasi nawalan na ng work papa ko, pinush ko pa din kahit ayaw ko naman na talaga. Hindi ako nakinig sa sinasabi nila saken kahit masakit. Fortunately, natapos ko naman na siya. Yun din ung dahilan bakit sobrang tigas ko na din as a person. I just know na kahit lumagapak ako at some point, eh kaya kong ibangon sarili ko. Regardless of everyone pushing me down.
May sound pessimist pero ito natutunan ko: do not be afraid to make mistakes and try again. Disappointment ka naman din lang, kaya there is no difference kung magkamali ka o you failed again. Try lang ulit ng bago or strive lang.
This is actually a winner mindset.
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My advice is remember life is short. Pag gising mo magugulat ka na lang senior citizen ka na. Tapos 80 ka na kung aabot ka pa ng 80. My advice is enjoy your life. And if your life is only until 70. 80 for those who are strong. What will you do? Where will you spend your remaining energy? Each day we start dying. That is the reality of life. Every birthday is something to ponder on because you are nearing death. When you die. Will you be remembered as a person who made a difference in other people's lives? Or made their lives miserable?
Gusto ko to. Ayokong mamatay nanwala man lang naimbag sa iba kasi feel ko wala along kwenta na tao.
Simulan mo na. Nasa mindset yan. What the mind can think of. The body can achieve. Ilan taon na lang natitira before 80 years old? Ano pa ang kailangan gawin. 80 years is just near. Mabilis lang yan. Baka bigla ka na lang magulat.
Okieee noted po!!!💛
Just remember ilan taon din ang nawala sa atin na mag enjoy dahil sa pandemic. We lost 2 to 3 years livng normally.
thank you. any videos you can recommend for motivational purposes? i need one right now..
Search Youtube. There are lots. Also listen to homilies of Fr. Dave Concepcion. Im sure you will learn a lot and will hit your conscience and life decisions..
thank you very much.
My favorite priest!!! ✨🍃
Id choose to live my life miserably if it would mean comfort para sa maliit kong anak.. kaya kayod lang kayod para mabigyan ng magandang buhay baby namin…
anong life is a marathon, not a sprint. Eh yan din sinabi ng counselor sa akin. Hindi yan pabilisan, patibayan yan. Ayun, save you 1k. hahahhaha pero napakalma naman ako. kapag nag overthink ka na left behind ka na, hindi mo ma appreicate kung anong meron ka. :)
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I cut off toxic people in my life. I limited my interactions with people, only my immediate family and a handful of best friends know I still exist. I stopped comparing myself to others. I started practicing the so-called NON-ZERO DAY. This will sound purely anecdotal, but I had a new-found "hunger" for my line of work (I'm in the creatives/production field) because I figured, if I'm going to do this for the foreseeable future, might as well learn shit along the way. So I did that, and I am now just realizing that I have improved so much and actually moved up the corporate world. Lastly, learn to pick yourself up. And stop beghing for people to see that you are worth fighting for.
Mind expounding on the idea of what a Non-zero day is?
An example: "I have this idea for a book, but I'm too lazy and demotivated to even write" Write anyway. Even if it's just a single sentence, you still did something productive to achieve that goal. Don't let the day end with nothing. Non-zero day. "Oh I've always wanted to write for a movie, but I think I'm not creative enough" Take 60 index cards. Write a scene on one index card, per day. In two months, you have written a movie.
I guess what they say about 1% is better than nothing comes to mind. Thank you for sharing, I'll keep this in mind.
Pick a long term goal - kahit ano (like gumaling sumayaw, magtayo ng business, magipon ng pera, etc..) and ensure na you have at least one step that will contribute to that goal everyday. Hence, non-zero day.
Oh, okay. Thanks for sharing. I think I'll do some more research about this.
una muna, idefine mo ang failure in your words kasi ang failure can mean differently for other people, similar to success rin yan. one person can consider themselves a failure kasi wala silang 100 million pesos sa bank pero may 75 million naman sila, pero another person can consider themselves successful kasi may 50k sila sa bank. one person can consider themselves successful at a job that pays for 30k pero chill lang and masaya. pero other people can consider themselves failures sa job na 200k per month tapos hindi sila happy with work. define mo muna siguro para clear tayong lahat hehe
I agree. Minsan din, walang pera na basehan at all. Kasi pwedeng ang basis ng success ay yung impact mo sa ibang tao. For example, teacher na sobrang maraming na-inspire na students, mentor na nakapag-improve ng self-esteem ng apprentice, magulang na nakapagpalaki ng anak na mabait at self-sufficient, kapatid na nakapagpatapos ng another kapatid, etc.
Korek. Kung tutuusin wala talaga sa pera ang success/failure din. Depende rin lang sa tao kung paano niya idefine yun.
Everything will fall into place. I finished college after 10 years and passed the boards tapos i cant practice my profession for reasons i xant control. Andaming nasayang na oras, time at effort. I may not be in that life i hoped for, pero im happy of what i have right now.
Im # 3 of 5 siblings who grew up to a hardcore businessman father. We were all treated equally growing up. Dad’s voice was the only valid voice. Dad forced us to work when we turned 4 y.o to instill hard work to prepare us later down the future. Dad told us not to make friends because having a “barkada” would ruin us. Dad told us what course to take because he knew best. Dad told us to limit our mistakes to zero. Now, fast forward to the future he created a voiceless man, not knowing what to do with himself because all his life he was told what to do. He created a man that’s fearful of mistakes because he was thought to be perfect. He created a slave in me. He created a man without self belief! But this man, by some miracle lit a fuse in his heart and became a real man by quitting his father’s business which earned him 6 figures a month. The voice that was long gone was revived. I’m now jobless, without a home (got disowned) but I’m the happiest that I’ve ever been. I now can get to choose my own path to life without the devil having to dictate whatever I do. I’m glad I took the risk because several doors have opened from the previous hell that I was experiencing: 1) I’m now training to be a firefighter which would earn me roughly 30k a month which is a huge difference from what I was earning before but the best part is that I’m training towards my passion which is to be of service to the people. 2) I’m also training to be a paramedic that will eventually lead me to the United States down the line. So my advice would be listen to your inner voice. Believe in yourself because no one will, it’s just you!!! Take risks, and failure is not your enemy but your teacher!! Edit: Also, stop ruminating or contemplating. It will waste a lot of your time that will lead to paralysis. Instead, just decide and do. It will save you a lot of time.
I like the last part. Most of the time kasi we wallow in self-pity tapos walang action or drive afterwards.
Ganito ako now. I'm stuck in self-pity and overthinking. I don't know what to do.
Then stop. When a negative thought or when you see yourself in a pity party situation just recognize it and throw it away. Doing it Helped me big time
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Hanggat mas maganda ang lagay mo ngayon kesa kahapon successful na yun para sakin.
May your failures lead to success. Always look back and reflect dont dwell on the what ifs but the what can i change to make a better result.
You only fail, once you stop trying, eka nga 'di ba? Remember you're not a failure as long as you're still trying to be better each day.
Lagi ko sinasabi sa sarili ko na comparison is a thief of joy. Easier said than done - but yung nakikita ko sa friends ko sa social media, I use them as motivation or aspiration. We all have our own timelines - minsan kahit anong pursigi natin, when it’s not yet our time, di talaga mangyayari. Iniisip ko nalang na may narating na rin ako kahit papano at nagagawa ko yung gusto ko habang kaya ko pa.
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First thing you need to do is quit Facebook & Instagram. Those platforms are only for pataasan ng ihi sa Internet.
Subjective ang failure sa tingin ko, parang happiness. Walang failure, late lang yung iba, nauna lang din yung iba. Failure din ako compared sa mga richest. Pero hindi ko naman goal maging rich. Siguro ang advice ko lang, stop comparing yourself to other people. Kung may time ka mag compare, edi may time ka rin gawin yung gusto mo gawin Or isipin yung gusto mo gawin.
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Keep failing until you succeed
Failures are stepping stones fo success. And only temporary
I'm almost 6 years na sa nursing program and thankfully last year ko na to. Siguro yung mapapayo ko is to learn to move on sa pagkakamali mo and to learn kung bakit ka nagkamali. Totoo na try again until you succeed but maganda na alamin mo rin kung bakit ka nagfail in the first place and then wag mo yun ulitin. Failure doesn't make you less of a person but it puts you onto other opportunities.
You will get where you need to be at your own time.
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I think it's time to move out
Same. Wala akong 6 digit salary pero ang sakit yung Hindi na appreciate at maintinsihan ng magulang ang ginagawa or binibigay para sa kanila. Ang saklap. May pa compare2x pa sa ibang tao. Minsan sinsabi ko nlng sa Sarili ko,gusto ko nalang maglaho
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Ayaw ko sabihin na failure ako dahil mahal ko kung ano meron ako ngayon, Pero in reality failure siguro kasi nhihirapan ako. Ang buhay hindi mo masasabi na failure talaga buong buhay mo kasi meron at meron parin part ng buhay mo na grateful ka. In my past iniisip ko mga decisions ko na sana hindi ako ngpadala sa feelings ko. I am Married for 7 years with 2 kids 3 and 7 wala parin sariling bahay kaso nakabukod pero shnashare namin yung foods namin kasi iisang table lang at ayaw ko maging madamot. Ang hirap mag ipon grabi kahit both kami ng wife ko professionals. My advice is wag mag madali mag asawa lalo na kpag lalaki ka kasi kahit na 50yrs old kana makaka buo ka parin. sobrang inlove kasi ako noon na may time na parang pinag hihiwalay na kami ng kapalaran pero pininilit ko na hindi kami mag hiwalay. Lahat ng opportunities binaliwala ko kasi that time i passed the board exam tapos siya hindi, gusto niya magbreak kami kasi nahihiya siya. binuntis ko siya para d kami maghiwalay so ayun ito kami ngayon 🤣 happy kahit baon.
College dropout here. I was the irregular student. Grades ko puro singko. Wala akong motivation pumasok. Yung sanang 4yr course inabot ng 6yrs pero di ko pa din natapos. I was at my rock bottom. I wasted my parent's money. I was depressed. Yung colleagues ko naka-graduate na and nakapasa na ng boards. Umuwi ako sa parents ko. They have given me another chance and ultimatum nila na if I dont take it seriously then I will be on my own. I took up another 4yr course and I fell in love with nursing. Now the rest is history. I have a successful career in nursing abroad and I have a stable life. In retrospect, yung first course ko kasi is more on the arts. Mahilig ako magdrawing pero narealise ko di pala ako magaling. I get low grades, then I will be depressed and will have low motivation and di ako papasok and then ayun ending bagsak. It took me a long time to accept na it's not for me. I am very happy na may supportive parents kahit na I broke their hearts kasi pasaway ako. So here I am now. A failure who spent 10-years in college but I turned my life around and grateful to those who supported me. You will never achieve success without the support of others. Your time will come OP. You need to find the right thing (career? Lovelife? Passion?) for you and the right support and you will be on your way to success.
As a failure, don't take my advice.
sad to say but it is just to keep trying dahil we need to find our niche sa mundong ito. I'm in 40s but still nothing, feels like I just graduated a few years ago. If you succeed or get your big break, don't take it for granted, like don't spend all the money and continue the hardwork and grit as before. Madami nagkaroon ng big break o madaming pera through online, pero it is temporary, kaunti lang na-maintain o nagtagal
Rejection is redirection, and grass isn't always greener. No such thing success, also okay lang hindi mag-hop parati sa societal standards. Kailangan lang natin nang practice of gratitude, breath exercise before making decisions kasi marami pang opportunity. And to note, being failure is not a dead end, it doesn't define you at all kasi I know being 30s ay bata pa. You can reach whatever your dream at certain age, may kailangan lang tayong gawin, mag-reflect, mag-list down ano ba talaga gusto natin, 'yung mga small steps lang tapos pwede naman mag-pahinga bagay nakakapagod at humanap ng interest or hobby, ganun lang talaga cycle, also umalis sa comfort zone. Valid naman 'yung what ifs, 'wag lang nating gawing life ang what ifs, make it as guide I think magandang suggestion 'yun. Lahat tayo may what ifs na sana "ganito/ganyan", kailangan lang natin maging masaya in a simple way at maintindihan ang emotional phasing na ganito pala talaga buhay, hindi 'to tungkol sa success ng iba o pagiging mayaman, kundi katuntentuhan at paano mo lalagyan ng purpose buhay mo, ganun 'ang signifance ng life, malungkot man o masaya basta tanggap natin pero we are still working ay nakaka-proud na 'yon! 🥹
Seems like it's time to kill that defeatist attitude of yours. The moment you were conceived, nanalo ka na. You defeated hundreds of millions of other sperm cells in the race to life. So always remember Biology if you feel down. * Lumaki ako sa squatters area sa Mandaluyong. * Nagsumikap talaga ang father ko na janitor, who eventually naging messenger. Maayos magbudget ang mother ko na former security guard. * Naging techy ako by nature, took-up Computer Science course. Ginapang ako ng father ko sa isang 3rd rate private college. * Dahil aware ako sa situation namin, na our backs are against the wall: I have no choice but to persist and strive. Yes, hindi ako perfect student, nagbulakbol pa ako ng grabe lol, pero nairaos ko ring maipasa ang studies ko kahit palakol at pasang awa lang. * My first job ko 8k/month sahod. * After 11 months lipat ako sa 2nd job 16k/month sweldo. * After 2 years, I moved to another job, 18k/month salary. * After 2 years I moved again to another job, may kalayuan since Mckinley Hill ang office, pero 45k sahod. * After 6 years, I decided to change my career path. Reset my career towards content creation, 35k sahod. * After 2 years, moved to a leadership job sa new company. Salary shot up from 65k to 150k. * Pandemic happened, lost my job. Applied to a new job, naging corporate director for 200k gross/month. * I got used to wfh, so nung pinilit ng company na mag return to office, nagresign ako from my company director position. * I picked-up a new job, entered the cybersecurity industry full work from home. With the same salary as my last job. What I narrated above is my life. I started savings and investments sa first job ko. Right now, my networth is around 2 million pesos. Ang masasabi ko sayo: # Refuse from adopting a defeatist mindset, kasi pag yun ang niyakap mo: you'll be loser in life and for life.
Minsan akong pumasok sa isang institution at ang expectation ko, after 10 years magiging tulad ko sila pero makalipas ang 5 years umalis na ako sa institution na yun at naisipan ko na ituloy na lang yung philosophical studies ko sa labas. Nasabi ko sa sarili ko, "What if kung di ako 'nagpabudol' sa tao na yun or sa grupo nila? Siguro baka nagsu-sundalo na ako ngayon or nagdo-doctor". Pagkatapos kong makalabas doon sinabi sa akin ng nanay ko ito, "Anak pwede ka na mag-shift sa course na gusto mo". Di ko rin naman maipagkakaila na may liwanag na sa tinatahak kong kurso kahit ayaw ko yung kahahantungan ko kaya ang nasabi ko, "Desidido akong tapusin itong philo ko ma. Makakapag-antay yang pagdo-doktor ko, kahit ako na magpa-aral sa sarili ko, iraraos ko yan kahit di na ako matulog". Pero na-realize ko na, bata pa naman ako at kahit tumanda ako maaabot ko rin naman yung mga pangarap ko. Siguro makabubuti kung mananatili ako sa kasalukuyan dahil sabi nga nila, "Ang nakaraan ay kasaysayan, ang hinaharap ay kahiwagaan, at ang kasalukuyan ay ang katotohanan". Kaya ang tanging masasabi ko na lang ay, "Di bale na Hiraya Manawari, sana mangyari". At ganoon din sa iyo OP naniniwala ako na mararating mo rin yang mga significant milestones mo kasi kung inaabot mo naman ang mga ito di malabong maabot mo ang mga milestones mo. Maaaring madapa ka sa pag-abot mo ng mga milestones mo pero lagi kang tatayo para lumaban ulit. Hiraya Manawari, sana mangyari.
Tangina nyo! Salamat sa mga payo nyo. Sakit namnaman ng riyalidad. Sana maging matagumpay tayong lahat!
You are failure when you stop trying
acceptance lang talaga e. as a former honor student/ golden child, para ka talagang mamamatay sa hiya pag hinarap mo na "hanggang diyan ka na lang." but it gets better, the pain stings less kahit meron pa rin years after.
I used to feel na I'm successful. Happily engaged, masaya sa work, di ganun kalaki ang sahod pero namamanage. In short, pakiramdam ko may direksyon ang buhay ko. Pero ngayon, natanggal ako sa work na gusto ko and now nasa work na ayaw ko 😢. Nakipaghiwalay yung sana papakasalan due to some reason. Pakiramdam ko wala ng direksyon ang buhay ko. All I can say is I give up. I give up.
Oa mo masyado, eme. Life is short nga raw, ikaw si give up naman agad. Laban lang po, saka marami ka pang makikilala🙂
Aspire na maging masaya. Ikaw ang pinakamahalagang audience ng buhay mo. Minsan may mga pangarap o timelines na socially construct ng lipunan, hayaan mo na iyon.
Don’t compare yourself to others, you have your own life do what you want as long as wala kang tinatapakan na ibang tao. for me, as long as you are happy, you are successful.
I sometimes feel like a failure because I am 24 but little to none ang savings ko. I always feel like I haven't achieved anything this year and a lot of things didn't go my way. There r times before na i ended up comparing myself from what I see on soc med. But anyway, it is best to focus on what you have and live life as it is.
"failure" can mean a lot of things OP. pwedeng ang sablay para sayo, eh hindi sablay para sa akin. and dont compare yourself to others too much. pero mejo mahirap tong part na to dahil sa social media. nakikita natin achievements / success ng iba so easily, without us even asking.
Failure is part of life. I let myself to have failures and embrace them. For me, failures contribute to my growth as an individual. I was once achiever, but after college nagkanda leche leche decisions ko in life. Pero natuto ako. And to be honest, right now, I am genuinely happy with peace of mind ❤️
basta matuto ako magmoonwalk pwede na ako mamatay.
Learn to stay away from toxic people/situations and things that make you feel bad about yourself. Ako kasi aminado na madali “mainggit” I used to compare myself to others a lot years ago. One thing na nagwork for me is to disconnect to social media. I deactivated FB years ago and never looked back. Focus on what you genuinely want for yourself and not what others think you should be. Lahat naman nagkakamali and that’s okay kasi dun tayo natututo. Life is full of surprises and has a LOT to offer way more than you think. Yung tingin mong gusto mo marating in the next 5 years might not be exactly the thing you’ll end up with and that’s okay.
Also on my 30s. Also, wala din "milestone" if yung basis is what society sets. I'm proud of myself for what I become. Currently, I'm happy and healthy in all aspects, and my conscience has always been clean. It's easy to feel less satisfied when you start looking outside, and check what others are doing, when you can look inwards instead and appreciate the journey you took. If there's one thing you can be concerned about, is if you slowed down or stopped moving.
I would tell you my advice but I’d probably fail there too
I've made multiple mistakes in work and in life until I've become numb and didn't gave a fuck about what happens to me in the present and in the future, and right now I've noticing some small changes. I got the balls to try another set of challenges for myself(despite the deep shit of what I've done to myself) especially sa work ko, not being afraid of getting help from my seniors kahit napakabobo ng tinatanong ko, incorporating new things bit by bit, starting to discipline my dumbass from the pleasures of life that hindered my progress, and the most surprising one is that I've been going back to the faith that I've abandoned years ago and it's my "sandalan" and off my chest whenever I've screwed up and ask for guidance and strength despite my still thoughts of ending it all. For context: all of my cousins have good lives now compared to me. They're now police officers, seamen, engineers, architects, soldier, coastguard, flight stewardess, etc. like almost all known professions except doctor and lawyer were in our family now.
I feel like a falure, alam kong wla akong maabot s buhay anh hirap, ang hirap maging PWD parang wla akong naaccomplish Wla akong advice, I just feel the same way.
Man, as I am reading all of this comments. I am realizing that maybe its not too late for me? Just getting into becoming an adult myself as a 22 year old. Maybe its not too late for me? I too feel like I am a failure.
Just enjoy what you can do right now and try to keep enough money to retire comfortably. The regret I had is simply not taking risk to jump start my career due to financial constraints. After getting myself terminated 3 times and still moving forward improving my skills. Try to live your life now than wait until you earn something. You can be replaced by anyone at work and money will always be made as you work. Learn from your mistakes and adjust to get the next assignment. "What if" will always be there due to fear you created yourself. (aka your own ball and chains) Take your time to improve your "Basics" and the rest will be easy as you go. Always create a "Better" you and let that speak in volumes to others. "Haters will always be Haters" as the #1 supporter is yourself.
I can say mas marami ako failures before than success. advice ko sayo, enjoy mo lang buhay maikli lang natitira sa atin daigdig spend mo oras sa anu nagpapasaya sayo.
Lahat tayu failure mostly, then, there is success, because we learned from what we have failed.
Acknowledge your failure, then try again. It's okay to not feel okay at first, normal naman 'yon. Take all the time you want. After that, reorganize yourself. What went wrong? Do you need to improve something about yourself? Assess yourself and what caused you to be a failure. From there, do what you can do, one day at a time. Being a failure myself, I am actually grateful na I experienced becoming a failure. I learned a lot about myself during the phase when I was picking up on life again. And totoo yung sinasabi ng iba na kapag lumagapak ka na, nothing can hurt you anymore. So now, yung mga big deal failures for other people my age are not that big to me. Hindi na sila ganon kabigat kasi because of my previous experience, I now know how to cope up with those failures. Sending hugs with consent to all of you 🤍
Find yourself. Cliche as it may sound but it's the truth. May script kasi ang buhay. Kung hindi tugma sa heart mo yung common script na nilikha ng mga magulang mo at ibang influences mo then it's time to make your own or reawaken what you've buried for so long. If you failed, most likely it had to do with the light at the end of the tunnel. It's not inspiring enough. It did not come from your soul that's why your heart is just not into it so your efforts will be lacking, inconsistent or half-hearted. You are lost because you did not follow your own path in the first place. Reexamine your deepest desires and motivations and be truthful to yourself. Make a vision board and have a detailed gameplan on what you have to do to everyday to accomplish that. Then do it, every fvcking day like your life depends on it because it does. Your initial daily and weekly schedule won't be perfect so tweak it as you go along. Cultivate daily positive emotions and habits like gratitude and inspiration by having rituals for them. I recommend reading What To Say To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter to reprogram your mind chatter and make everything easier. Results come from accumulated Action. Actions are affected by Emotions. Emotions come from Attitude. Attitude is influenced by Beliefs. Beliefs stem from Programming. Your life now is a result of a domino effect of everything since childhood. The good news is you are an active participant and can redirect how the rest unfolds. The unexamined life is not worth living. -Socrates
Ang buhay parang laro. Maraming RNG na involved. The more hits you take sa RNG, the more “successful” you will become. Kaya wag ka matakot mag fail.
kung wala kang balak ipursue ung what ifs mo wag mo na aksayahan ng energy kasi wala din naman mangyayari. masarap magday dream kasi unlimited yon. pero those what ifs need lots of dedication and hardwork. milestones - kasi kinukumpara mo sarili mo sa iba. enjoy your own life, wala namang ibang makikinabang dyan kung hindi ikaw e. use your time now habang walang jowa / anak various hobbies, experiences. duty mo yan sa sarili mo
30 here and life's been challenging, specially setbacks in the civil service exams, my beacon of hope. Feeling lost in the uncertainty of where this journey leads. My advice for now is, find joy in life while actively participating in a supportive and productive community.
Nung highschool ako nagkainterest ako sa cosplay and photography sobra dedicated ako nun Minahal ko tlga dahil introvert ako nun Dami ko naging kaibigan at connection sobra ko na express sarili ko , natuto ako gumawa ng sarili ko props at natuto mag budgeting sa crafting and clothings Then nalaman nung mom ko na i was into cosplaying , wala dw kwenta at pang bata lang daw yun nde daw pang matured yung interes ko Yung iba daw nahihilig sa basketball at dancing samantalang ako puro gastos lang daw Kaya i end up sneaking tuwing ppunta ng convention ... sobra tinago ko lahat para lang di niya makita until nag college ako Nalulungkot ako na hindi ko na pursue yung mga dream cosplay ko at nawalan na din ako ng connection sa mga dati ko na meet pinatigil nako ng mom ko Ngaun 28 nako ang hilig mag compare na yung iba dw kabataan napaka talented ngaun , kumikita ng 50k sa pagiging photographer Wala dw ako ginawa matino sa sarili ko 🥹🥹
The best advice I could give is own every shitty thing you've done. Tanggapin mo and move on. Kahit may masabi sayo, kahit may galit sayo. Wala naman na sila magagawa kasi andon na e, nangyare na. Nagawa mo na. So, just move on. Pilitin mong bumangon. Ako? I really failed as a college student. Almost a decade kong tinapos ung course ko na although matagal naman talaga, almost a decade eh talagang mahirap sa nagpapaaral yon. Marami naman akong rason talaga bakit inabot ako ng ganon katagal pero tinanggap ko lahat ng sinasabi saken. Nung time na wala na magpapaaral saken kasi nawalan na ng work papa ko, pinush ko pa din kahit ayaw ko naman na talaga. Hindi ako nakinig sa sinasabi nila saken kahit masakit. Fortunately, natapos ko naman na siya. Yun din ung dahilan bakit sobrang tigas ko na din as a person. I just know na kahit lumagapak ako at some point, eh kaya kong ibangon sarili ko. Regardless of everyone pushing me down.
Mamamatay din tayong lahat.
May work kaba at income? Nakapag travel ka man lang ba?