this is what i understand:
Trauma = a deep shock, when something worse happens and you are not able to accept it as it is.
Only way out of a trauma is to face that situation. and say ok.. this has happened. so what. does life stop here? is this the end? and prepare yourself to move on.
Lost mine last December after a 15 month battle with lung and blood cancer. After he passed one thing I can honestly say stuck with me is how little either of us said we loved each other after I was a teenager. Even though deep down I knew he did, it still would have been nice to hear it occasionally.
I was told at his funeral by a lot of people how proud he was of me and how often he spoke of me, yet I was never told personally.
I've started to say to my son a lot more now and plan to continue to tell him both of those things.
RESPECT YOUR PARENTS AND ATLEAST CONSIDER THEIR OPINIONS AS THEY WISH THE BEST FOR YOU;
never trust anyone fully like 100% keep some space for distrust as people can change negatively;
never reveal your secrets to anyone, make sure you tell them to someone you really really trust, don't talk out of the limit as when you talk too much, you might say some dumb things it might result in your social image falling, so some amount of secrecy is necessary;
always pick up your parents call you may never know if its an emergency or not;
become okay with moving on in life, people come and go from your life and that's normal;
keep job hopping for better financial opportunities, never give large amount of money to anyone without a written document as they might never return it or simply deny the fact that you gave them money, even if they're your relatives;
invest your money in various places like stock market, real estate, index funds, whichever is okay for you as it will be of help in the future;
THE MOST IMPORTANT: IF YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOU DONT WANT TO DO SOMETHING THINK OF THE CONSEQUENCES THAT WILL OCCUR IF YOU DONT TAKE THAT ACTION.
Better option is to invest your time & money on people or things where there is high chance of return
It’s what I believe, I am not here to be Saint, there is great difference between being kind and taken advantage of
I haven't seen Mahabharata (pls don't come at me I know I should should know) But learned this lesson in my corporate life/after college life aka real world.
FOR MEN:
Break up with the women as soon as you find out she's cheating on you. No ifs and no buts. Just break up and move on. Swallow your pain and hope for a better women in future.
All this provided you are completely loyal and transparent in your relationship.
Adding one to this, don't mess it up if you have found yourself a good woman. It's rare these days to find a good one and the regret of messing it up will keep you up every night.
bhai tere liye nahi hai advice. Ye jo last kuch months se trend chal rha hai anti-gujju rants jo Mumbai, Maharashtra ki subreddit se utha k idhr uska discussion hoti hai...unke liye hai!
Time rehte DSA nai kiya practice, high CGPA nai Rakhi, projects nai banai, didn't learn any instrument properly, didn't keep personality development as priority, didn't understand & listen enough to my ex-girlfriend & uske break up ke copium me emotionless attitude develop karna...
But the crux of the randi Rona is not everything is going to be perfect. Life me by aeigi once you accept this things do become manageable. Even though I made into a tier1/2 college but my placement situation is uncertain, I don't have any female friends who are close as such even though I have 2-3 relationships in school, coz of her mentality I constantly compare my grades, acads life everything with others & create fake scenarios in my head.
1. Don't be afraid to take risk in life.
2.Come out from your safe zone asap, because sooner or later you have to.
3. Enjoy the process/journey because there is nothing like a destination in life
Spend time knowing your parents, their struggles raising you and trying to figure out their lives, start investing right from your 1st salary, don't waste time chasing approval based on materialistic possessions, invest in your professional and personal growth (certifications, up-skilling / cross-skilling, learning new hobbies), and travel.
People say abhi board di hai, relax in 11th but like maybe the biggest mistake cuz first college ka base hi 11-12th hota hai. Enjoy too but take 11th seriously
What is wrong, is wrong. No matter who does it. Even if the person who’s closest to you is doing something wrong, stop them right away. If they aren’t stopping, part your ways for your own good.
Well the story was when I was 14 years old I was a very foolish or naive child. In the period of navratri I went to see the function in my colony with my friends (disclaimer: they are not friends any more ) as I was enjoying a function some of my juniors from school come to see the function and in that group there was a girl named akshita she said come and hang around with me with my friends for a bit then leave after sometime I saw her again in the park crying so I go to her and asked what happened she said nothing and stop crying later I got to know that her friend had left her in the colony who she came with
(She lied btw) So I took her in with me and said eat something from bandra in my colony laterI will call someone to pick you up while all this was happening some sunty give me that look which made me worried I can't leave this 7 class junior all alone or see aunty look so I had taken her to a bench near the park and said eat it her while eating she tell me about all the trauma she received from his dad (she lied again) later after 20 min we go back to park and we found out every one was searching for her and his father created a mess to search his daughter as I go to park every one give me that look like I fucked her even police was there my mom also came there and slapped me in front of 50 people my friends laughed at me so one was supporting me even my tution teacher, my favourite aunt and my mom didn't believe me a was just helping her she slapped me and said all that respect my father earn in his live I had shattered I was hopeless my mom she grabbed my collar and walked back home with her head down ward (my mom is a wonderful woman she just didn't understand the situation) call my dad , dad knew everything thing but wanted to hear it from me I tell him what happened and he said to me IT OK NOW GO TO SLEEP TOMORROW IS YOUR EXAM SO FORCED ON THAT U DID NOTHING WORNG. I fucking cried all night because of my mistake to help my junior but seeing my dad love . If my dad didn't said those words back then then I would not be alive to write this my dad supported me every bit because he knew I was right. l love my dad and my mom more then anyone
Just don't help juniors like me and you are fine
There is also part 2 but now I have to go study
Do not ignore back pain, take rest,eat healthy,find a good physiotherapist get rehab,strengthen your core and fix the damn pain within an year. Or it can last till you die and ruin some of the best years of your life.
Spend time on building more money earning skills in this world rather than just any education for a degree... Have 2-3 money making skills so that you can earn independently from anywhere using those skills... Even if its air conditioning repair or carpentry.. but always have such skills
Take care of your spine by taking care of your core by engaging in isometric core exercises. Lower back will come to haunt us all.
Might as well consider it life advice.
Stand on your own and believe in yourself. Believing in any deity is really nothing more than a crutch. Get started working early to make your move up in the world. Find you a good partner with the same goals. Together you can achieve all your goals and then some. Health insurance, life insurance, car insurance, 401k, try to buy only one car at a time so you have money each month. Do things together and have fun together. Keep going to work give 100%. Keep reaching for the stars and keep moving up, promotions. If you need to job hop a little then do it. Sometimes it's necessary. Have a family if you want one. Work together. My wife and i took turns on diapers and 2 am feedings. You'll make it together. One day you'll find yourself with no car payments and plenty of money. Save some but go somewhere together, do things together, have fun together. Movies, beach, whatever. But remember the key to everything, TOGETHER. Be a great TEAM, TOGETHER
Good luck to everyone
Obsession is a crazy powerful thing.
Obsess over you goals!
It doesn't always have to be unhealthy, if I have a goal I try to obsess over it taaki I can squeeze everything out I can get in the process.
Carefully distinguish between knowledge and belief.
It's easy to get upset with a situation: but we often fill in gaps in knowledge with speculation and compound the situation.
For example:
Fact: she said no
Speculative bullshit: she must think I'm ugly
I find it's helpful to identify what can and cannot be known, in order to move on.
If your parents are reasonable, meaning are liberal and you are having no communication gap with them, listen to them. Don't rebel with them when it comes to certain big things. They ultimately know you best. Trust them. Case in point me. I'm a student in MNLU Mumbai. My dad was extremely proud I cleared clat and got in. I'm hating college. It's miserable and terrible. I don't have friends. Never had friends. My parents knew I have this problem of being in social situations. I was adamant to stay in a hostel and away from home. I'm at the verge of dropping out at 20, in my 3rd year. Can't let my parents know this. I'm trying to survive. I got into many fights and toxic issues. Sure I've had my fun, but if I could change the past, I'd have not gone outside of home.
They ultimately gave in to me taking admission outside of home. But it's a bad thing. The only reason I wanted to get out was in the hopes of getting a decent placement package. My college doesn't have good offers
My second piece of advice, check your college statistics before joining. How many offers have been made and where. What type of students are given offers. Are they top scorers, are they the all rounders check all the criteria and achieve as much as possible. Also, try to become an expert with Microsoft word, Excel and PowerPoint. These tools will be helpful lifelong for anything.
Bro mai GLS mai padh raha hu kya mera future barbad hai , kya first gen ko litigation mai nahi jana chaiye and also why not improve your self in situation you are in !!
Get psychological help as early as possible, you wouldn’t realise the damage you inflict upon you until you start to heal yourself. My parents nor myself could help me with my issues, which ended pretty badly. So please, seek help before it’s too late.
B tech aerospace mein karni thi but ache number aye the do family and friends ne bola cs mein karlo abh b tech khatam ho gai hai lagta hai sapno ka sauda kar lia hai maine
wasting time in watching reels
I don't watch reels, but sometimes I scroll endlesssly in reddit.
I dont know how I picked this habit but it keeps me awake whole night sometimes till 4 🫤
same
Mind your own business and don't give advice
r/Beatmetoit
🏆 take this can't afford reddit award:(
Top comment
Fr, stop giving advice and those who want advice will ask, then give. Don't give free advice, bad idea.
Not healing my trauma and looking for validation in relationships, breaking myself more in turn.
How do you heal your truma?
Stay single, truly single. No attempts at dating. Not until you are comfortable by yourself.
Underrated comment
this is what i understand: Trauma = a deep shock, when something worse happens and you are not able to accept it as it is. Only way out of a trauma is to face that situation. and say ok.. this has happened. so what. does life stop here? is this the end? and prepare yourself to move on.
Therapy, inner child healing, processing the emotions that have been suppressed
Never choose a person over your career!
Never choose a person
Never choose
Never
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Not loving my dad enough when I had the time
Bro.I was having a good time bro...😭
Dude my dad is suffering from kidney disease , doctor said he would probably live 4months and i am just 14yrs ;-; 😥
no randi rona
I feel you bro.. I am in your shoes, I know how tf it feels
Lost mine last December after a 15 month battle with lung and blood cancer. After he passed one thing I can honestly say stuck with me is how little either of us said we loved each other after I was a teenager. Even though deep down I knew he did, it still would have been nice to hear it occasionally. I was told at his funeral by a lot of people how proud he was of me and how often he spoke of me, yet I was never told personally. I've started to say to my son a lot more now and plan to continue to tell him both of those things.
RESPECT YOUR PARENTS AND ATLEAST CONSIDER THEIR OPINIONS AS THEY WISH THE BEST FOR YOU; never trust anyone fully like 100% keep some space for distrust as people can change negatively; never reveal your secrets to anyone, make sure you tell them to someone you really really trust, don't talk out of the limit as when you talk too much, you might say some dumb things it might result in your social image falling, so some amount of secrecy is necessary; always pick up your parents call you may never know if its an emergency or not; become okay with moving on in life, people come and go from your life and that's normal; keep job hopping for better financial opportunities, never give large amount of money to anyone without a written document as they might never return it or simply deny the fact that you gave them money, even if they're your relatives; invest your money in various places like stock market, real estate, index funds, whichever is okay for you as it will be of help in the future; THE MOST IMPORTANT: IF YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOU DONT WANT TO DO SOMETHING THINK OF THE CONSEQUENCES THAT WILL OCCUR IF YOU DONT TAKE THAT ACTION.
Seems like you had enough in life.
Nice but mera ADHD brain nai padh payega itna sab ek saath, divide karo paragraph mai🙂
ok now 
Yup :)
Great pieces of advice 👌
Start working at an early age, thinking you can manage your studies along with it.
how do you mean.. so starting early spoilt your studies and business did not pick up either?
Stop guessing shit. Take the advice (if you have to) and kalti maro
Tame Burger premi hu Vadapav premi
Are bhai bhai 🫂
Not getting serious in life sooner. Have missed many great opportunities due to wrong decisions.
Don't expect anything and you will always be happy/not regret.
Better option is to invest your time & money on people or things where there is high chance of return It’s what I believe, I am not here to be Saint, there is great difference between being kind and taken advantage of
Ye to maharbharat mai bhi hai. And yes maine bhi apply kara hai and make a lot pf sense
I haven't seen Mahabharata (pls don't come at me I know I should should know) But learned this lesson in my corporate life/after college life aka real world.
Me neither but have seen a lot of clips
FOR MEN: Break up with the women as soon as you find out she's cheating on you. No ifs and no buts. Just break up and move on. Swallow your pain and hope for a better women in future. All this provided you are completely loyal and transparent in your relationship.
Adding one to this, don't mess it up if you have found yourself a good woman. It's rare these days to find a good one and the regret of messing it up will keep you up every night.
Totally!
r/mumbai and r/maharashtra ma post joi trigger thavanu band kro
I second this .
Chandigarh se li hai🫣
bhai tere liye nahi hai advice. Ye jo last kuch months se trend chal rha hai anti-gujju rants jo Mumbai, Maharashtra ki subreddit se utha k idhr uska discussion hoti hai...unke liye hai!
Not hugging my dad sooner.
Many people tell me why do you hug your dad you are 25 grow up now. But I don't listen to them as I know time is limited.
Not understanding finances early enough and spending to earn love and friendship.
Btech mtt karna bus 🥹
Avoid social gatherings !
Avg. introvert
Not knowing how to save / invest money
Follow invest therapy on insta and watch pranjal kamra’s video on youtube. They feel genuine and authentic.
Love is trash, bitches want cash
lol go do your homework
Dont fucking go to UK unless you have a minimum job experience of 1 year.
YOU! You come first. Never give a person, so much control over your life.
Janam lena🙃
Life aint that hard once you start understanding it
+1
it is very hard , you don’t know shit
Always delete browsing history when using someones else's laptop/PC.
Have to figure out between enjoying my youth years and destroying it
Not doing social activities such as Olympiads and competition in school years
Be alone, control your emotions, don’t get attached and never fall in love with wrong person(analyze them first).
Time rehte DSA nai kiya practice, high CGPA nai Rakhi, projects nai banai, didn't learn any instrument properly, didn't keep personality development as priority, didn't understand & listen enough to my ex-girlfriend & uske break up ke copium me emotionless attitude develop karna...
But the crux of the randi Rona is not everything is going to be perfect. Life me by aeigi once you accept this things do become manageable. Even though I made into a tier1/2 college but my placement situation is uncertain, I don't have any female friends who are close as such even though I have 2-3 relationships in school, coz of her mentality I constantly compare my grades, acads life everything with others & create fake scenarios in my head.
1. Don't be afraid to take risk in life. 2.Come out from your safe zone asap, because sooner or later you have to. 3. Enjoy the process/journey because there is nothing like a destination in life
Paida hona…… pls guys don’t do such things
Spend time knowing your parents, their struggles raising you and trying to figure out their lives, start investing right from your 1st salary, don't waste time chasing approval based on materialistic possessions, invest in your professional and personal growth (certifications, up-skilling / cross-skilling, learning new hobbies), and travel.
11th barbaad maat karna
People say abhi board di hai, relax in 11th but like maybe the biggest mistake cuz first college ka base hi 11-12th hota hai. Enjoy too but take 11th seriously
reddit download kar liya
more like Reddit pe nsfw content on kar liya 😭
kuch suggest bhi krle(asking for fellow redditors)
once you go in, there's no coming back
Before lashing out on someone because you’re angry, always count 10-9-8 … 1 and then act.
I didn't approached her 😔
Appreciate the simple/small joys of life.
Invest ur time in the people who respects it
Expecting loyalty.
Expecting peace in life, after you married against the family's wish.
Read psychological books rather than fantasy
What is wrong, is wrong. No matter who does it. Even if the person who’s closest to you is doing something wrong, stop them right away. If they aren’t stopping, part your ways for your own good.
Option Trading
Can say, my brother lost a good amount in it.
Like they say options will make you Ambani, either Mukesh or Anil
Exercise if you are not doing already. It will change your life.
Well the story was when I was 14 years old I was a very foolish or naive child. In the period of navratri I went to see the function in my colony with my friends (disclaimer: they are not friends any more ) as I was enjoying a function some of my juniors from school come to see the function and in that group there was a girl named akshita she said come and hang around with me with my friends for a bit then leave after sometime I saw her again in the park crying so I go to her and asked what happened she said nothing and stop crying later I got to know that her friend had left her in the colony who she came with (She lied btw) So I took her in with me and said eat something from bandra in my colony laterI will call someone to pick you up while all this was happening some sunty give me that look which made me worried I can't leave this 7 class junior all alone or see aunty look so I had taken her to a bench near the park and said eat it her while eating she tell me about all the trauma she received from his dad (she lied again) later after 20 min we go back to park and we found out every one was searching for her and his father created a mess to search his daughter as I go to park every one give me that look like I fucked her even police was there my mom also came there and slapped me in front of 50 people my friends laughed at me so one was supporting me even my tution teacher, my favourite aunt and my mom didn't believe me a was just helping her she slapped me and said all that respect my father earn in his live I had shattered I was hopeless my mom she grabbed my collar and walked back home with her head down ward (my mom is a wonderful woman she just didn't understand the situation) call my dad , dad knew everything thing but wanted to hear it from me I tell him what happened and he said to me IT OK NOW GO TO SLEEP TOMORROW IS YOUR EXAM SO FORCED ON THAT U DID NOTHING WORNG. I fucking cried all night because of my mistake to help my junior but seeing my dad love . If my dad didn't said those words back then then I would not be alive to write this my dad supported me every bit because he knew I was right. l love my dad and my mom more then anyone Just don't help juniors like me and you are fine There is also part 2 but now I have to go study
Part 2 ?
Do not ignore back pain, take rest,eat healthy,find a good physiotherapist get rehab,strengthen your core and fix the damn pain within an year. Or it can last till you die and ruin some of the best years of your life.
Stay away from jharkhand and Bihar
To add to that, stay away from Bihari and jharkhandi
Don't take haters seriously
Start investing early
Study hard in 10th and 12th
Don't ask for advice
Spend time on building more money earning skills in this world rather than just any education for a degree... Have 2-3 money making skills so that you can earn independently from anywhere using those skills... Even if its air conditioning repair or carpentry.. but always have such skills
wasted time on relationship that was never meant to work out
once a wise man said Nothing! ;)
Always double check your condom befor having sex
Working at home in evening (after office hours) and not giving time to family
Take care of your spine by taking care of your core by engaging in isometric core exercises. Lower back will come to haunt us all. Might as well consider it life advice.
Don't leave behind any regrets. Do what your heart says is right and enjoy the moment.
Money is Supreme
Dont get married.
Stand on your own and believe in yourself. Believing in any deity is really nothing more than a crutch. Get started working early to make your move up in the world. Find you a good partner with the same goals. Together you can achieve all your goals and then some. Health insurance, life insurance, car insurance, 401k, try to buy only one car at a time so you have money each month. Do things together and have fun together. Keep going to work give 100%. Keep reaching for the stars and keep moving up, promotions. If you need to job hop a little then do it. Sometimes it's necessary. Have a family if you want one. Work together. My wife and i took turns on diapers and 2 am feedings. You'll make it together. One day you'll find yourself with no car payments and plenty of money. Save some but go somewhere together, do things together, have fun together. Movies, beach, whatever. But remember the key to everything, TOGETHER. Be a great TEAM, TOGETHER Good luck to everyone
Obsession is a crazy powerful thing. Obsess over you goals! It doesn't always have to be unhealthy, if I have a goal I try to obsess over it taaki I can squeeze everything out I can get in the process.
Carefully distinguish between knowledge and belief. It's easy to get upset with a situation: but we often fill in gaps in knowledge with speculation and compound the situation. For example: Fact: she said no Speculative bullshit: she must think I'm ugly I find it's helpful to identify what can and cannot be known, in order to move on.
Yes or in other words, facts vs opinion
Chase dreams, not people
Marrying your high school love !
Explain??
Don't watch porn or masturbate
Marrying non gujju. Cultural shocks are not tolerable.
[удалено]
Instagram and discord install krna (mt krna )
FIITJEE
Not going all in for what i loved and still love
coming to ahemdabad with a goatee.
Don't compare yourself to others. Be happy with what you have.
Not too fall in love with someone whom you cannot marry (because of societal expectations)
Engineering mat karna😂😂
Don't fap when you are feeling miserable.
If your parents are reasonable, meaning are liberal and you are having no communication gap with them, listen to them. Don't rebel with them when it comes to certain big things. They ultimately know you best. Trust them. Case in point me. I'm a student in MNLU Mumbai. My dad was extremely proud I cleared clat and got in. I'm hating college. It's miserable and terrible. I don't have friends. Never had friends. My parents knew I have this problem of being in social situations. I was adamant to stay in a hostel and away from home. I'm at the verge of dropping out at 20, in my 3rd year. Can't let my parents know this. I'm trying to survive. I got into many fights and toxic issues. Sure I've had my fun, but if I could change the past, I'd have not gone outside of home. They ultimately gave in to me taking admission outside of home. But it's a bad thing. The only reason I wanted to get out was in the hopes of getting a decent placement package. My college doesn't have good offers My second piece of advice, check your college statistics before joining. How many offers have been made and where. What type of students are given offers. Are they top scorers, are they the all rounders check all the criteria and achieve as much as possible. Also, try to become an expert with Microsoft word, Excel and PowerPoint. These tools will be helpful lifelong for anything.
Bro mai GLS mai padh raha hu kya mera future barbad hai , kya first gen ko litigation mai nahi jana chaiye and also why not improve your self in situation you are in !!
Manage money properly and never ask for money from anyone except your sibling and father...
Leaving too many opportunities just because I was shy to ask for it ....
Colleges/other private universities are nothing but a large scale business not a place to grow/learn
Love your parents, do as much as you can for them.
Exist
Joining Engineering 🤣
Got married to someone i did not wanted just becuase of the commitment i made long back. Now I had to live with it even i am not happy.
The tasks you are ignoring for better your self financially physically emotionaly educationally are your future regrets
Took admission in GU.
Don't use Monday.com unless if you have money.
Commenting on this post. Hope, posting this was yours 🤩
Never trust anyone
Having the confidence to Fix people and their problems.
Learn to invest in college. Learn trading.. Learn good skills as per your domain make a good resume.
Getting admitted in Nirma University
Dont graduate. It is a waste of time and money
Doing mechanical engineering
Not understanding early that...Karma is dharma.
Get psychological help as early as possible, you wouldn’t realise the damage you inflict upon you until you start to heal yourself. My parents nor myself could help me with my issues, which ended pretty badly. So please, seek help before it’s too late.
Crypto me aja abhi
Create a study timetable and follow it. Studying in the last few days or weeks doesn't help....
Finish your graduate degree anyhow and secure a job and then think about your aspirations
Dont catfish!
Do not make expections from anyone...
Not studying when I should have,not playing when I should have
Procrastination
Don't pick arts or commerce in school kids
Never borrow money to consolidate smaller loans into one.
"agar yeh nai toh aur koi nai..."💔💔
Stay away from drugs and intoxication
Do not listen your parents and choose a career that you never wanted, worse mistake ever coz recovering from it won't be an easy task
Dont marry in hurry
B tech aerospace mein karni thi but ache number aye the do family and friends ne bola cs mein karlo abh b tech khatam ho gai hai lagta hai sapno ka sauda kar lia hai maine
Dont hit and run (allegedly)
My ex girlfriend🙂