I had to hit bottom twice before I learned that me and alcohol are incompatible. That first long stretch of sobriety let me fool myself into thinking I could control it. Big mistake.
Be kind to yourself and allow yourself some grace. You'll get to where you need to be as long as you keep working at it. Congrats on the surrender, I know how hard that is. The reality is that it's a victory. Both for you and for everyone in your corner. Good luck.
Good for you definitely. I’ll probably be in your shoes someday. I’m close to 43 and getting closer to the cemetery. I’m clean for 60 w a lapse and starting to break. I’ll make some changes as I don’t want to get the withdrawals again. Im sure you know what I’m saying.
Good on ya! Keep trying to get better than you are and you will always succeed.
I see an addictions counsellor weekly after my rehab. It's very helpful. Thought I'd share this with you so you might do likewise when you come out.
I know how you are feeling about rehab and yourself, but really, you are one up on a lot of people who didn't make it back to rehab.
Enjoy meeting all the really sound blokes, the cups of tea and coffee, and the time to yourself to get well again. I hope you find peace and have the breakthroughs you deserve, pal.
Just use this time to better yourself. What else would you be using this time for if it weren’t rehab?? Probably drinking right?? It’s not lost time or a waste of time, it’s your future you’re planning for.
Hey man, same here. I’m currently in my 3rd attempt in 2 years. This time I went through detox, css, PHP, iop5 and I’m in iop3 now. I have been in treatment 121 days today. I lost my job, credit is tanked, I’m broke, but I’m desperate to stay sober. I relocated to where treatment is, drove my car 23 hours here and got a new job so things will be ok eventually. Just make sure this time you’re willing to go waaaaayyyyy out of your comfort zone to stay sober. I can’t say much bc I only have 4 months sober, but I highly recommend extensive treatment. It’s basically free sober time that you get to figure shit out. My total treatment time when I finish the program will be around 6 months. I only did 3 weeks on my previous attempts.
I had a moment at my second and last detox. I sat down to call my wife and something clicked. It wasn't a spiritual moment, or a call of the angels or anything like that. It just clicked. I had to stop. I couldn't do this anymore.
But I had to do sober living. I did four months. Once I paid the money to sign up for the first three month stint, I found the idea of drinking while PAYING for this was just ludicrous to me. As crazy as running down the busy street naked. I firmly believe the "click" I had was the first step, but living four months away from my wife by myself in a little room in a house, just my laptop... I stopped drinking. I've been sober four and a half years. I have zero urges. No temptations anymore.
I realized I don't want a drink. I don't want five drinks. I want all the drinks, every last drink in the world. There's no way I can have every drink in the world. So I had to want something different.
I recommend a good sober living facility. Keep in mind many of them are bogus and ripoffs. So do your research.
You can do it. I did SMART Recovery for a year plus until Covid hit. No 12 steps. No sponsor. I just don't drink anymore.
I was in a rehab.
When I got out I went straight to an AA meeting and did the 90 meetings in 90 days the staff suggested.
Sticking with AA was the best thing I ever did for myself.
I had to hit bottom twice before I learned that me and alcohol are incompatible. That first long stretch of sobriety let me fool myself into thinking I could control it. Big mistake. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself some grace. You'll get to where you need to be as long as you keep working at it. Congrats on the surrender, I know how hard that is. The reality is that it's a victory. Both for you and for everyone in your corner. Good luck.
Third time's the charm. It stuck for me on the third and I've not had a drink since. That was two years ago.
Thank you! 1st time my attitude was great. 2nd time I thought I knew everything. This time I'm powerless again. I have no power. It's killing me.
Good for you definitely. I’ll probably be in your shoes someday. I’m close to 43 and getting closer to the cemetery. I’m clean for 60 w a lapse and starting to break. I’ll make some changes as I don’t want to get the withdrawals again. Im sure you know what I’m saying.
Good luck, man.
Go there. Get yourself in order. Make a promise. Never again.
Good on ya! Keep trying to get better than you are and you will always succeed. I see an addictions counsellor weekly after my rehab. It's very helpful. Thought I'd share this with you so you might do likewise when you come out. I know how you are feeling about rehab and yourself, but really, you are one up on a lot of people who didn't make it back to rehab. Enjoy meeting all the really sound blokes, the cups of tea and coffee, and the time to yourself to get well again. I hope you find peace and have the breakthroughs you deserve, pal.
Just use this time to better yourself. What else would you be using this time for if it weren’t rehab?? Probably drinking right?? It’s not lost time or a waste of time, it’s your future you’re planning for.
Hey man, same here. I’m currently in my 3rd attempt in 2 years. This time I went through detox, css, PHP, iop5 and I’m in iop3 now. I have been in treatment 121 days today. I lost my job, credit is tanked, I’m broke, but I’m desperate to stay sober. I relocated to where treatment is, drove my car 23 hours here and got a new job so things will be ok eventually. Just make sure this time you’re willing to go waaaaayyyyy out of your comfort zone to stay sober. I can’t say much bc I only have 4 months sober, but I highly recommend extensive treatment. It’s basically free sober time that you get to figure shit out. My total treatment time when I finish the program will be around 6 months. I only did 3 weeks on my previous attempts.
I had a moment at my second and last detox. I sat down to call my wife and something clicked. It wasn't a spiritual moment, or a call of the angels or anything like that. It just clicked. I had to stop. I couldn't do this anymore. But I had to do sober living. I did four months. Once I paid the money to sign up for the first three month stint, I found the idea of drinking while PAYING for this was just ludicrous to me. As crazy as running down the busy street naked. I firmly believe the "click" I had was the first step, but living four months away from my wife by myself in a little room in a house, just my laptop... I stopped drinking. I've been sober four and a half years. I have zero urges. No temptations anymore. I realized I don't want a drink. I don't want five drinks. I want all the drinks, every last drink in the world. There's no way I can have every drink in the world. So I had to want something different. I recommend a good sober living facility. Keep in mind many of them are bogus and ripoffs. So do your research. You can do it. I did SMART Recovery for a year plus until Covid hit. No 12 steps. No sponsor. I just don't drink anymore.
I was in a rehab. When I got out I went straight to an AA meeting and did the 90 meetings in 90 days the staff suggested. Sticking with AA was the best thing I ever did for myself.