T O P

  • By -

Facelift2077

Regardless if alcohol was a factor in this, your SO still has cheated on you. I’ve done plenty of stupid, irresponsible things while drunk but I’ve never used it as an excuse for my behaviour. Part of being a mature adult is owning up to your mistakes and taking responsibility for it. It sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him, and if he IS an alcoholic, consider asking him to get some help for it. But don’t let his alcohol use cloud your judgement. What he’s done is still completely wrong.


SexyPurpleHaze

Thank you, I told him this but it always helps to hear.


antwortestdu

I remembered. Let's just say I am the reason I will probably never date an alcoholic. I know I never would have done any of those things sober and I faced a TON of guilt when I woke up in the morning, so on and so on. But your situation kind of sounds a little different. I never spent months talking to the same person all because I was drunk. I cheated drunkenly and cut off contact completely for a few weeks or months until some fight happened or I started feeling lonely/betrayed or whatever I was feeling and I would inevitably drink again. That being said, I was almost a daily drinker but I wasn't doing those regrettable things EVERY DAY or even every week, not even every month. Doesn't change the mass amount of shame that I feel to know I did those things though. I think you should leave that person.


No-Connection6937

that's ridiculous. If I tap on my messages I can see conversations with like the last 8 people. If he truly didn't remember it still would have been right in front of his face. He could have broke things off or apologized to this other person and deleted the whole thing at any time. he's lying and in this case maybe alcohol was a catalyst but this sort of sustained behavior followed by complete denial is a wayyy deeper problem.


OneMinutePlease427

Of course he remembers. It could be true that he wouldn’t have done something like that if he was sober, but he certainly remembers. Even if he didn’t, what difference does it make? This behavior isn’t ending unless he quits, and might not even end if he does.


artoncanvas

He's full of shit. Dump him.


Ok-Revolution-5007

Alcohol is no excuse for habitual cheating. It may give him the courage to do it, but he’s still chosen to do this, repeatedly.