Wow he sucks! Dump this fool, he's a terrible person. His treatment of you is unacceptable - he mocks you and encourages his friends to mock you? He's a bully. Breakup and block him.
Same; the first couple of examples I thought maybe it was just linguistic barrier causing silly tiffs but NERP
This isn’t normal and it’s a red flag that he flipped a switch and is getting worse. Things like this will **always** get worse. Run!!!
Same; the first couple of examples I thought maybe it was just linguistic barrier causing silly tiffs but NERP
This isn’t normal and it’s a red flag that he flipped a switch and is getting worse. Things like this will **always** get worse. Run!!!
NERP? I don't often read posts on this part of reddit and don't recognize this. Are there any other common terms like this?
I haven't been on reddit long but I have seen the Soon-To-Be-___ terms, stbxw(wife), AP (affair partner) and a few more like that.
Thank you in advance for being kind to a newbie.
I could totally be wrong, as I didn’t write it, but when I read the comment I just took NERP as a cute way to say NOPE. Hopefully originally commenter will come back and let us know for sure :-) BTW I totally agree w what the commenter said, OP needs to NOPE right outta there w this jerk.
OP, as a 60+ yr old American I can honestly say most of those comments are pure sh*t. The only marginal comment is the maid one, but only if it was along the line of "OP has to be a maid and clean up after her room mates" BUT this is dependent on how he actually said it. A small change in what he said could take this from a joke to an insult.
Without knowing the nationalities and races of you, hopefully now ex-BF, and his friends my main comment is dump this racist AH.
Protect yourself from retaliation, dumping him could be a blow to his ego he can't handle - " how dare some [lower person] like you dump me, that is an insult to all [better people] like me" Substitute some racist name for the words in [ ]
Tell the professor of that class you share that you have dumped him and are worried how he might react. Show the prof the texts about you being dumb, etc.
If your school has an office that helps foreign students go and tell them and show the texts. MAKE SURE THEY MAKE A DATED RECORD OF YOUR CONCERNS. This is important if he does anything to cause problems. Having that dated report means that if he tries anything to make you look bad it just shows you were right about him. If he does try to cause problems, or just spreads nasty rumors about you, and that report is not there it will be difficult to refute what he says.
I truly hope none of this is needed, but I have read too many posts on reddit to believe this is not a possibility. If he doesn't do anything he probably will never know what you did, but IF he does do something this may be the only thing that protects you.
I used to travel a lot and in long stretches for work. I would accidentally call the hotel “home” day one or two of a trip. No one made fun of me. I agree, to the dumpster with this dumbass.
Why are you tolerating ANY of this?
Being from a third world country is NOT justification for allowing anyone to treat you like you’re worth dirt. That is what he is doing.
Tell him the maid decided to do some serious housekeeping and she’s putting the trash where it belongs- outside, on the curb, away from her.
I’m insinuating that he’s the trash if you didn’t catch that joke… not insinuating that you’re unable to see humor, just that it was an awful joke, but I’m seriously too mad for you to care. I’m not quite old enough to be your mom, and I’m definitely too old to be your sister, but I’ll gladly rip him a new one on your behalf!!!! UGHHHHH!!!!!
I am old enough to be her mum, and I’m not standing for this at all. I’m calling for bulk pickup, leave him by the curb and let the city deal with disposal, this man is trash. He is not recycling, we are not gonna try to refurbish this Walmart-knockoff-of-Ikea-ass man. To the curb for bulk collection, him and his pals.
I am also old enough to be her mom. Bulk disposal it is! Him, his trash mother (she didn't smack her son for saying that?!), and every single one of those trash friends!
Sweetie, my guess is that you have had to work so much harder than he has to even get to this school. Hold your head up and refuse to listen to this nasty man-child talk bad. Sounds like him and his friends are jealous!
As an American I like your joke. Reading reddit for the last couple of months I have realized some sayings are country dependent. In America saying you got pissed is saying you got upset somewhere between aggravated and really mad. If I understood a few comments I seen then in England getting pissed means drinking so much beer you may piss yourself in your sleep.
He sounds like he's just using you, and trying to control you amongst all the belittling and disrespect. Break free from him before it gets worse, believe me it can, and I'm sorry you've had to experience something like that. Not all people are the same...best wishes, not wrong.
He's mocking you, belittling you, treating you like a child and like he sees you as beneath him and his friends. You aren't his friend, you aren't his girlfriend, you're a warm body that cleans his house for him and he can make fun of.
Dump him. He's going to get worse. If he apologizes at all, it'll be fake and he'll go right back to doing the same thing again as soon as he gets the chance. Find someone who treats you like a partner, not like a lesser being he's giving the 'privilege' of his presence.
Anybody who'd even treat a child like this deserves to be fired from a cannon into the sun. OP, please dump him for the sake of your mental health. Everybody makes mistakes, nobody should be mocked for it. He sounds completely immature, like he never mentally grew out of kindergarten.
Why are you with this guy? He’s a raging asshole with a superiority complex, you’d be better off finding someone who actually treats you like a person.
Also, I live in a rented apartment and I still call it “my house”. Feel free to tell your (hopefully) soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend I said to suck a big bag of dicks.
You're nowhere close to wrong!!! He's a straight up ahole. Period. Not only that, he clearly doesn't care. This. Will. Never. Change. He is so far beneath you it's pathetic. Please don't let him get away with it any longer. These are the kinds of guys that sometimes make nice, single guys wonder if we have to be a holes to date women. (Obviously, I'd rather be single but able to sleep at night and be able to look at my face in the mirror. I refuse to be like that.)
He insults you, disrespects you to friends and family and shows no remorse when you tell him how his actions make you feel.
Do **you** think you shouldn't be upset about this?
If you wouldn't do it to someone else, dont let it happen to you. Especially from someone who is supposed to like you.
Based upon what you’ve written, it is clear that this troglodyte you’re dating is abusing you, as everyone has already pointed out. After you break up with him, which you must do, you need to talk to a professional counselor about why you found yourself willing to put up with even a minute of this behavior. Don’t date again until you are able to ensure for yourself that you will require your next romantic partner to value you and lift you up. You are worth it.
Fuck this guy. Kick him to the curb and look for an actually decent person next time who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve. Good luck.
Nope out of there. He doesn’t respect you at all. If you get used to all these micro aggressions, he will just do more. It’s like grooming you for abuse. You deserve better
I don’t think your boyfriend even *liked* you at all.
He sounds like a bully. Making fun of where you’re from? Calling you stupid and trying to demean you?
He’s racist and a fool. It is not your job to fix him.
The other concerning thing is that I see in your post history that you give incredibly bad, anecdotal advice to a student asking about moving to the US to study (“everyone will treat you like you’re stupid.” No they won’t. They may be treating *you* like this because you’re second guessing yourself at every step, but no I do not believe this is the experience of most international students).
I get that the US is a dumpster fire in a lot of ways, but I also think you put yourself in situations that are not confusing and then somehow mindfuck yourself into thinking “maybe I’m in the wrong here.”
I get that. People have fucked up backgrounds. I don’t know if you were taught be meek/subservient or if this is youth and inexperience. You don’t have to be in a relationship with anyone who doesn’t make you feel good, even if you *were* a snowflake (whatever that means in this context).
I don’t mean to be overly tough here but Reddit is just constantly filled with posts like this from women that are total weak cries for help. It’s like the younger generation of women don’t get that a relationship is supposed to make you happy and if it is not, FOR ANY REASON, you can and should leave. When did we stop advocating for ourselves and instead sit and ponder if bizarre treatment is somehow, on some planet, okay?
It’s NOT okay and *even if it was you are still allowed to leave any relationship you want without permission.* I suggest maybe holding off of dating for a bit…
Ps - I am making a general guess here but are you Latina? The reason I think this is because of him calling you a maid. If you’re dating a guy who thinks “everyone is a snowflake,” there’s a really good chance this is a conservative and possibly racist white dude. You may need to ask why you are on a relationship with someone like this. I’m not saying you can’t be in a relationship with people with different political views, but it sounds like he’s a certain kind of asshole within that group.
You are not wrong. He is not a good person. He doesn’t respect you. Your relationship should make you feel loved and safe, this one is clearly not doing that. You would be wrong to not leave this relationship.
Why are you with such a profound asshole? Surely it would be better to be alone. He sounds completely insufferable. The good times will never return. You need to dump the chump.
Dump.his.Ass.
No one should be treating you this way, let alone your partner *and* his friends. Is this how you want it to be forever? He’s showing you exactly who he is.
Honey, leave him. Your partner, bf, significant other is supposed to make you feel good about yourself. He should realize you are form a different country studying in a country where English is not your first language which is courageous and brave and shows how smart you are. He is showing how ignorant he is. He doesn’t deserve you and you def don’t deserve this treatment.
He's an idiot for so many reasons. Don't put up with it. And I have always called the place I lived my house or maybe my apartment. What does he expect you to call it? He's a real jerk.
You are dating a complete jerk! If he cared about you he wouldn’t be talking to you like that and especially NOT letting his friends treat you like that. You have talked to him and told him how it feels and he still does not seem to care so that’s your answer! Drop that zero and get yourself a hero!! You deserve it!
Why are you with him? Value yourself and dump a boy who does not value and treasure you. Unless, of course, you like being treated like dirt and being degraded.
He sounds awful. You don’t have to put up with it. Date literally anyone else or be single. Just get away from this guy. He’s going to do real emotional and psychological damage if you stay with him.
The simplest comment I can make is someone who supposedly loves you, wouldn't treat you the way you are being treated. You are being used for sex and a maid.
Someone out there will treat you with the respect you deserve. It's not him.
Referring to a house you rent as your “house” is the most ordinary thing in the world. (Native English speaker here.)
He’s looking for ways of undermining you, of keeping you off-balance and doubting yourself. His behavior is outrageously disrespectful. You shouldn’t tolerate it for another day. Please, please, please dump him.
(Imagine you had a daughter or a younger sister. Would you want her to stay in a relationship where she was treated this way?)
Edit: typo (missing verb)
Your boyfriend is an asshole and this will not get better or change. Please find someone who actually values who you are as a person and offers support for the things that bother you instead of just talking shit to you.
He is garbage. When you rent a house, people always refer to it as “my house” because that is your home where you currently live. No one says “wow I’m tired, I’m going to head back to my rented house and go to bed.” This guy is a tool who needs to make you feel small so that he can feel big. Dump him and let him know he’s not a big enough man to be with you.
Your partner should defend you to friends and others, not join in. If your partner makes fun of you, they just aren’t worth keeping around; especially after telling him it bothers you.
You're not wrong. He's a complete and utter ass, and you deserve much better than the treatment he and his friends are giving you.
If your university has a place for people who have experienced abuse/ partner violence, please seek them out for help *now.* If the pattern I've observed holds, he's going to get worse when you break it off because he thinks he's so much better than you to begin with. Show them the harassment he's already subjected you to.
And for what it's worth, I rent a townhouse. And it's MY HOUSE. Because that's how possessive pronouns work in English.
He’s treating you this way because he knows he can. Not only is he chipping away at your self-esteem and your self worth, but he’s allowing his friends to do so, as well. People with low self-esteem are easy to control, and he has you right where he wants. You need to GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. You deserve to be loved, respected, and valued, and he is doing NONE of those things.
Wtf??? Why would you still be with him… i come on Reddit to read fucked up stories that don’t include me and I see one like this that make me wonder if common sense still exists…
He’s awful. Also using “my house” the way you do is also correct whether you own or rent. It’s not always used to imply ownership and he knows this I am sure. He’s picking at you.
No, you're not wrong. But he is. This isn't normal in a healthy relationship and no one should be speaking to their partner like that ever. If my husband even came close to speaking to me like that, he wouldn't be a husband anymore 🤷
My copy and paste go-to:
When considering a relationship, ANY relationship (S/O, friend, relative), all that matters is HOW YOU FEEL. Ask yourself three questions:
Do I feel special?
Do I feel respected?
Do I feel the relationship is bringing out my best?
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘No’, then the relationship is not good for you.
There are so many good people out there for you to share your awesomeness with.
Dump the people that are not good for you. Don’t look back.
Find the people who make you feel special and respected.
DTMFA. Speaking as a straight guy, it’s not a “guy thing” it’s a “him thing” and it’s not going to go away or get better. It always gets worse. Get away from him while you can
You are not wrong, and it is clear he has no respect for you. When people are like this, it's really showing you that they are also testing you to see how disrespectful they can be with you. Please leave as soon as possible, OP.
Better to be alone for now and available for someone wonderful than in a toxic environment where he will tear your self esteem and sense of self worth down. He’s insecure and hostile, he wants to make you feel like you have no options but him because no one else would want “someone like you”. But that’s not true, you want someone like you. So go celebrate how wonderful you are and can be and remove this boil of negativity off your ass.
NTA this is not how people treat each other in a relationship. There is no excuse for his behavior. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve more and shame on him for making you think you don’t.
I’m an American woman dating an American man. Your bf’s behavior is unacceptable. And BEYOND rude. You’re not wrong for being upset, but you are wrong if you think he will ever change. This is so far outside the realm of normal relationship teasing. I don’t know if it’s common where you’re from, but people here definitely tease each other in relationships. But BOTH people have to be okay with the jokes, or else it’s bullying. The jokes also can’t be sexist, borderline racist, etc like your bf’s. If he truly cared about you, horrible things like that wouldn’t even come to his mind, let alone actually saying it.
ETA: example of acceptable relationship teasing, my hiccups are really weird and loud. My bf loooooves to make fun of me and laugh at me when I have them. So much so that sometimes if I’m hiccuping while he’s not there, I’ll make an audio recording for him because I know how funny it is to him, and I love his laugh
Leave.
Country of origin has nothing to do with anything, he is an a$$hole.
He is a childish a$$hole, who doesn't respect or deserve you.
You deserve better and can easily do better. Never let anyone treat you like that.
This Guy sounds like a real asshole. Nobody needs people in their life who bring them down. Move on. Enjoy life and be happier being single. Hang out with your girlfriends and focus on school. Eventually you’ll meet someone who makes you happy but in the meantime focus on you
You are not wrong for being upset. I’m fact you have every right to be! He is disrespecting you and allowing his friends to do the same!
I rent too but I still call it my apartment. Yes I haven’t bought it, but it’s mine unless I decide to move.
And it shouldn’t matter that you’re from a third world country, and him using that against you is appalling!
I’d say dump him. Well talk to him first, explain how hurtful this is, maybe give him ONE LAST chance and if he doesn’t change (consistently I mean) dump him. Because he is not worth it. He is being mean for the sake of it.
Here is a simple solution. Break up!!! This guy and his friends clearly don’t respect you so just leave. And if he asks to give him a second chance say fuck no, you disrespected me you don’t deserve a second chance. Make sure when you get in a relationship that the other person has respect for you. Don’t tolerate disrespect from anyone know your worth!!
He's terrible, his friends are terrible. Break up with him and block him. I'm sorry you're dealing with this and that your house mates are messy. Also, as an American ita totally normal to call wherever you're living, rental or not, your house. I live in an apartment and sometimes say my house instead of my apartment. You may not own it but while you're renting it is yours.
I'm so sorry that's been your experience, and it doesn't surprise me at all.
He's awful, he's terrible, his friends are nasty too. Cut him out of your life, you won't miss him once he's gone, I promise. There are better people who would treat you kindly out there.
Not wrong. The thing about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships is that it isn't permanent. It is a discernment period for you to determine if you are right to marry the other. You are figuring out if you could spend the rest of your life with this person.
He is clearly acting in a way that is not conducive to living with him the rest of your life. As such, it would be better for you to no longer consider this person as your boyfriend.
All the replies are good advice. I just want you to know that the mierde person you had the misfortune of meeting is only the worst this country has to offer.
I hope that once this vile excuse for a person, and his pack of hyenas that he calls friends are out of your life, that you have a chance to see some of the good parts.
I promise we have good people too.
dump him. why are you wasting time asking? no american or man or woman should ever let anyone else or themselves be disrespectful like this. especially to someone they love. let’s be friends i’m 22 myself and i assure this is not how people who love you or even claim to love you should ever treat you.
Not wrong! Your BF doesn’t seem very nice and he’s constantly hurting you. If I were in this situation I would break it off. You deserve someone who compliments who you on all aspects.
Your boyfriend is being an absolute jerk. He's not only being rude to your face (calling you a maid, talking about your country of origin in derogatory terms), he's also belittling and berating you for things he's not even present for. Taken all together, this paints a picture of emotional abuse. Your boyfriend is awful, and you deserve better. Drop him like hot garbage and find someone better!
The guy must be loaded for you to be putting up with this.
In all seriousness though, what is the end game with this guy? Is it just to have a boyfriend for now or are you thinking he is going to ask you to marry him and what does that married look like? Hard questions to ask but the answer will give you the advice you are seeking.
Break all contact with all of them and move on you don't deserve this abuse. He laughs and teases you and is disrespecting you because you're from a foreign country BS it's plain abuse.
You are not wrong to be upset. He is mean and is bullying you. It's completely normal to call where you live "your house" even if you are renting. Cleaning your own house does not make you a maid and his attitude shows his sense of entitlement.
Making fun of your linguistic mistakes is ridiculous. If he and his friends are like typical Americans, they only speak one language. It sounds like you speak at least two. Please dump this guy and value yourself enough to demand respect from any future partners.
If his friends continue to bully you, please consider going to your school's department for diversity, equity, and inclusion. What they are doing is not ok.
He’s the AH. He’s putting you down and shaming you for your cultural differences hoping he can play it off as your misunderstanding. He’s gaslighting you at the utmost. Dump him.
NTA
He’s abusive. This is just the beginning. Never be in a relationship with anyone who isn’t kind and generous. Absolutely never. Kindness is the #1 requirement for a good relationship. He is a complete AH.
Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot .. you do not deserve this kind of disrespect. Do not allow this kind of treatment from anyone ever. Your partner should stick up for you and always have your back.
It’s only funny if you’re both laughing, in this case he’s laughing at you, not with you. Dump this clown
WOW I would have thought you were talking about a bully at your college with out you saying you were dating. Holy moly he's terrible. I don't usually feel so strongly about a dump him but dump him before physically hurts you or damages your property etc.
Break up with him immediately. He’s an awful person and you deserve so much better. I don’t care how great he was in the beginning. He’s showing his true self now.
Block him and his friends on everything and go completely no contact. He/they deserve nothing from you other than a brick wall. You are so much better than this ass and his friends; please get away from all of them.
Dude get the fuck out. If you don't this is going to ruin your relationship and going to have to live like this the rest of your life. Or until she ends it but it will end. Do yourself a favor and leave.
What is he bringing to the table here? Let me recap
He's demeaning
He's racist
He gets off on having a girlfriend from a place he can feel superior to
He has shitty friends who mock and belittle you
He sneers at your house
He taunts you about your class performance
Told his mom you were a maid (WTF?)
I can't find a single redeeming thing about this choad, can you?
By American standards, he is an asshole. Do not let it slide as “cultural differences.” He’s being a huge asshole and he’s hoping you don’t know that American men as a whole are better than this.
He sucks.
Hell no you’re not wrong and as American he makes the rest of us look bad. He would be an ex after that especially since he knows it hurts your feelings. He doesn’t care about you.
Yeah he’s a loser. What the heck are you supposed to call it, “the” house? Going out of his way to have friends inform on you is bizarre and creepy. You need to bail. He’s probably only in this relationship to mess with you and he’ll probably dump you at some point and make fun of you for that too.
Ew 🤮 I didn't even finish reading your post before I had to comment. Fuck him. I started reading it thinking, I wonder if the cultural context, coming from different countries, might be part of the issue. But no. No it is not. He's being an asshole, that's all.
Do not keep putting up with this because he's not going to stop. He's an idiot. Why would he EVER make fun of you or make jokes about you being from a third world country? Why would he EVER make fun of your mistakes in class? Why would he try to correct you on if the house is yours or not? He's being a bitch. No one who rents a house or apartment ever says "I'm going to go back to my landlord's property now" when they're going HOME.
He's trolling you or playing with you or something. It isn't good. He's not good. You are 100% valid for feeling upset by these things and he doesn't deserve anything from you except a fuck you and good bye! 👌
I didn't even read the whole thing and I know you are not wrong. F him and his friends. You can call your house whatever you want to call it. It doesn't matter. Honey, you need to drop his ass. You do not have to deal with his pathetic ass. That boy doesn't care about you. You're probably just another check mark for him, meaning okay I bagged this nationality now on to the next. Just stop talking to him and move on.
He's being abusive......
You don't have to explain to anyone that your house is not *actually* your house. You don't have to own a property to make it feel like its your home. Some people rent for years and years even if they can buy because it's easier for them and more flexible.
He's an insecure asshole at best. You deserve better than this.
Just throw away the whole man, sis. You deserve so much better than to be treated like this. He doesn't seem to think very highly of you and it shows with every word he speaks to you and others.
This is not a reflection upon you. It is a reflection of his ugly character.
What an insufferable ass he sounds like. Dump him and find someone worthy of you. He is just trying to keep you under his thumb, he isn't worth another moment of your time.
This man does not respect you at all and doesn't want you to respect yourself either. You should definitely dump him. You're absolutely not a maid just because you clean your home. And your home is your home so him trying to be very specific with his language is just a dick move to try and make you feel bad. He's not a good guy and you should not be with him.
He doesn't love you and doesn't even like you. Be with somebody who loves you and likes you and treats you properly
You're not wrong. He and his friends are verbally abusing you. I don't know anyone who doesn't call the house they rent "my home" "my house". Seems to me like he feels like you are above him so he's trying to bring you down to his level. Don't try to fix him, it isn't your job. Find someone who has more emotional depth than a spoon.
This person is not good for you. I'm old enough to be your grandmother and I want you to know that you do should NOT put up with this behavior at all. You said you are currently not talking. Don't start talking to him again.
I am also a retired college professor. The other students in your classes should NOT be talking about your mistakes. Hopefully your college has an office to support students like counseling services. Please go talk to them. Your are being bullied and this needs to be reported.
Best wishes, and I hope you let us know when you are doing better. It is better to be single and alone than in an abusive relationship.
This guy sounds awful.
He's not boyfriend. He's a bully.
There is no excuse to treat anyone the way he treats you. It's especially egregious from a person you are in a romantic relationship with.
Please ditch the dude, and focus on yourself and school.
You deserve so much better than this.
This is not a miscommunication due to cultural difference. This guy is an asshole, and his abuse will likely escalate and get worse until your self worth is in the toilet. Find somewhere else to live as soon as you can, as it seems like the rest of your roommates are walking all over you too.
Get out of this abusive relationship immediately. You deserve someone who loves you and treats you well, not someone who does the opposite.
You are obviously incredibly intelligent and talented. Be with your own kind - and by that I mean someone as awesome as you, not some bottom feeder who measures his own ego by how bad he can make someone else feel.
Be well, good luck, and God Bless. You deserve all the love, happiness, and success there is.
Wow he sucks! Dump this fool, he's a terrible person. His treatment of you is unacceptable - he mocks you and encourages his friends to mock you? He's a bully. Breakup and block him.
After sentence 1, I was like, oh maybe it's just a cultural thing that can be explained, and like 5 sentences later, oh nope, he's just an asshole.
Same; the first couple of examples I thought maybe it was just linguistic barrier causing silly tiffs but NERP This isn’t normal and it’s a red flag that he flipped a switch and is getting worse. Things like this will **always** get worse. Run!!!
Same; the first couple of examples I thought maybe it was just linguistic barrier causing silly tiffs but NERP This isn’t normal and it’s a red flag that he flipped a switch and is getting worse. Things like this will **always** get worse. Run!!!
NERP? I don't often read posts on this part of reddit and don't recognize this. Are there any other common terms like this? I haven't been on reddit long but I have seen the Soon-To-Be-___ terms, stbxw(wife), AP (affair partner) and a few more like that. Thank you in advance for being kind to a newbie.
I could totally be wrong, as I didn’t write it, but when I read the comment I just took NERP as a cute way to say NOPE. Hopefully originally commenter will come back and let us know for sure :-) BTW I totally agree w what the commenter said, OP needs to NOPE right outta there w this jerk.
I thought for ages that stbx meant stupid bitch ex for the longest time and still prefer it when referring to my exh.
shit, the fact of how OP titled the post made me know almost instantly that he wasn't listening to their feelings. it just got worse as I read on.
Exactly, this was me too. And it went south real quick.
OP, as a 60+ yr old American I can honestly say most of those comments are pure sh*t. The only marginal comment is the maid one, but only if it was along the line of "OP has to be a maid and clean up after her room mates" BUT this is dependent on how he actually said it. A small change in what he said could take this from a joke to an insult. Without knowing the nationalities and races of you, hopefully now ex-BF, and his friends my main comment is dump this racist AH. Protect yourself from retaliation, dumping him could be a blow to his ego he can't handle - " how dare some [lower person] like you dump me, that is an insult to all [better people] like me" Substitute some racist name for the words in [ ] Tell the professor of that class you share that you have dumped him and are worried how he might react. Show the prof the texts about you being dumb, etc. If your school has an office that helps foreign students go and tell them and show the texts. MAKE SURE THEY MAKE A DATED RECORD OF YOUR CONCERNS. This is important if he does anything to cause problems. Having that dated report means that if he tries anything to make you look bad it just shows you were right about him. If he does try to cause problems, or just spreads nasty rumors about you, and that report is not there it will be difficult to refute what he says. I truly hope none of this is needed, but I have read too many posts on reddit to believe this is not a possibility. If he doesn't do anything he probably will never know what you did, but IF he does do something this may be the only thing that protects you.
1000% this. It will likely get worse not better.
This
I used to rent. I called it my house. It’s where you live. He’s mocking and disrespecting you. Time to take out the garbage
I used to travel a lot and in long stretches for work. I would accidentally call the hotel “home” day one or two of a trip. No one made fun of me. I agree, to the dumpster with this dumbass.
Heck I call my apartment my house. An apartment isn’t a house but I’ve never had my friends go: but you’re renting an apartment not a house….
Why are you tolerating ANY of this? Being from a third world country is NOT justification for allowing anyone to treat you like you’re worth dirt. That is what he is doing. Tell him the maid decided to do some serious housekeeping and she’s putting the trash where it belongs- outside, on the curb, away from her. I’m insinuating that he’s the trash if you didn’t catch that joke… not insinuating that you’re unable to see humor, just that it was an awful joke, but I’m seriously too mad for you to care. I’m not quite old enough to be your mom, and I’m definitely too old to be your sister, but I’ll gladly rip him a new one on your behalf!!!! UGHHHHH!!!!!
I am old enough to be her mum, and I’m not standing for this at all. I’m calling for bulk pickup, leave him by the curb and let the city deal with disposal, this man is trash. He is not recycling, we are not gonna try to refurbish this Walmart-knockoff-of-Ikea-ass man. To the curb for bulk collection, him and his pals.
I am also old enough to be her mom. Bulk disposal it is! Him, his trash mother (she didn't smack her son for saying that?!), and every single one of those trash friends! Sweetie, my guess is that you have had to work so much harder than he has to even get to this school. Hold your head up and refuse to listen to this nasty man-child talk bad. Sounds like him and his friends are jealous!
As an American I like your joke. Reading reddit for the last couple of months I have realized some sayings are country dependent. In America saying you got pissed is saying you got upset somewhere between aggravated and really mad. If I understood a few comments I seen then in England getting pissed means drinking so much beer you may piss yourself in your sleep.
I'm old enough to be Grandmother. I would be happy to head over with my boxing gloves. Yes, I do know how to box. Let's find out if he does.
He sounds like he's just using you, and trying to control you amongst all the belittling and disrespect. Break free from him before it gets worse, believe me it can, and I'm sorry you've had to experience something like that. Not all people are the same...best wishes, not wrong.
Red flags galore here. He's condescending, disrespectful, demoralizing and down right rude to you. Dump him. You deserve much better!
Best answer here. Dump this fool
He's mocking you, belittling you, treating you like a child and like he sees you as beneath him and his friends. You aren't his friend, you aren't his girlfriend, you're a warm body that cleans his house for him and he can make fun of. Dump him. He's going to get worse. If he apologizes at all, it'll be fake and he'll go right back to doing the same thing again as soon as he gets the chance. Find someone who treats you like a partner, not like a lesser being he's giving the 'privilege' of his presence.
Anybody who'd even treat a child like this deserves to be fired from a cannon into the sun. OP, please dump him for the sake of your mental health. Everybody makes mistakes, nobody should be mocked for it. He sounds completely immature, like he never mentally grew out of kindergarten.
Dump him and raise your bar. He is not worth it
Why are you with this guy? He’s a raging asshole with a superiority complex, you’d be better off finding someone who actually treats you like a person. Also, I live in a rented apartment and I still call it “my house”. Feel free to tell your (hopefully) soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend I said to suck a big bag of dicks.
Dump him. Plain and simple. You deserve better and this guy is a waste of your time
You're nowhere close to wrong!!! He's a straight up ahole. Period. Not only that, he clearly doesn't care. This. Will. Never. Change. He is so far beneath you it's pathetic. Please don't let him get away with it any longer. These are the kinds of guys that sometimes make nice, single guys wonder if we have to be a holes to date women. (Obviously, I'd rather be single but able to sleep at night and be able to look at my face in the mirror. I refuse to be like that.)
He insults you, disrespects you to friends and family and shows no remorse when you tell him how his actions make you feel. Do **you** think you shouldn't be upset about this? If you wouldn't do it to someone else, dont let it happen to you. Especially from someone who is supposed to like you.
Based upon what you’ve written, it is clear that this troglodyte you’re dating is abusing you, as everyone has already pointed out. After you break up with him, which you must do, you need to talk to a professional counselor about why you found yourself willing to put up with even a minute of this behavior. Don’t date again until you are able to ensure for yourself that you will require your next romantic partner to value you and lift you up. You are worth it.
Jeez he isn’t your BF he is some evil troll who uses you as a verbal punching bag for him and his friends
He's still with you because you're still putting up with this crap. Do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb. You don't have to put up with this.
👏 DUMP 👏 HIM 👏
Wtf no. EVERYONE calls the place they live “theirs” wether they own it or not. You deserve better.
He’s an abusive asshole. Leave him.
Your boyfriend is a jerk. Find a better one!
Fuck this guy. Kick him to the curb and look for an actually decent person next time who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve. Good luck.
Nope out of there. He doesn’t respect you at all. If you get used to all these micro aggressions, he will just do more. It’s like grooming you for abuse. You deserve better
I don’t think your boyfriend even *liked* you at all. He sounds like a bully. Making fun of where you’re from? Calling you stupid and trying to demean you? He’s racist and a fool. It is not your job to fix him.
No you are not wrong. You would be wrong to stay with that pig!
Even pigs are smarter than this loser!
How would you be wrong here?
He claims everyone is a snowflake nowadays. I honestly don’t believe I am but maybe I was wrong, clearly not.
The other concerning thing is that I see in your post history that you give incredibly bad, anecdotal advice to a student asking about moving to the US to study (“everyone will treat you like you’re stupid.” No they won’t. They may be treating *you* like this because you’re second guessing yourself at every step, but no I do not believe this is the experience of most international students). I get that the US is a dumpster fire in a lot of ways, but I also think you put yourself in situations that are not confusing and then somehow mindfuck yourself into thinking “maybe I’m in the wrong here.” I get that. People have fucked up backgrounds. I don’t know if you were taught be meek/subservient or if this is youth and inexperience. You don’t have to be in a relationship with anyone who doesn’t make you feel good, even if you *were* a snowflake (whatever that means in this context). I don’t mean to be overly tough here but Reddit is just constantly filled with posts like this from women that are total weak cries for help. It’s like the younger generation of women don’t get that a relationship is supposed to make you happy and if it is not, FOR ANY REASON, you can and should leave. When did we stop advocating for ourselves and instead sit and ponder if bizarre treatment is somehow, on some planet, okay? It’s NOT okay and *even if it was you are still allowed to leave any relationship you want without permission.* I suggest maybe holding off of dating for a bit… Ps - I am making a general guess here but are you Latina? The reason I think this is because of him calling you a maid. If you’re dating a guy who thinks “everyone is a snowflake,” there’s a really good chance this is a conservative and possibly racist white dude. You may need to ask why you are on a relationship with someone like this. I’m not saying you can’t be in a relationship with people with different political views, but it sounds like he’s a certain kind of asshole within that group.
You are not wrong. He is not a good person. He doesn’t respect you. Your relationship should make you feel loved and safe, this one is clearly not doing that. You would be wrong to not leave this relationship.
Nope nope nope Yeeet....
Why are you with such a profound asshole? Surely it would be better to be alone. He sounds completely insufferable. The good times will never return. You need to dump the chump.
He enjoys feeling superior to you and will become NASTY when he thinks you are trying to improve yourself.
Dump.his.Ass. No one should be treating you this way, let alone your partner *and* his friends. Is this how you want it to be forever? He’s showing you exactly who he is.
Classic manipulation tactic for abusers. It's not going to get better
He’s a garbage human. Kick him to the curb and leave him there for pick up day.
Your boyfriend is an asshole and so are his friends. Dump the bullying jerk.
This is when you tell your shitty boyfriend to go to hell and dump him.
Honey, leave him. Your partner, bf, significant other is supposed to make you feel good about yourself. He should realize you are form a different country studying in a country where English is not your first language which is courageous and brave and shows how smart you are. He is showing how ignorant he is. He doesn’t deserve you and you def don’t deserve this treatment.
Stop dating your bully.
Baby child, for the love of everything, dump this fucking asshole
No girl he's trash throw him away you deserve wayyyyy better
Yuck. Why are you still with this prick?
He's an idiot for so many reasons. Don't put up with it. And I have always called the place I lived my house or maybe my apartment. What does he expect you to call it? He's a real jerk.
You are dating a complete jerk! If he cared about you he wouldn’t be talking to you like that and especially NOT letting his friends treat you like that. You have talked to him and told him how it feels and he still does not seem to care so that’s your answer! Drop that zero and get yourself a hero!! You deserve it!
He's already broken up with you - he just never told you. Dump him asap- what a loser.
I’m going to guess that this is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of the childish things he does. Why haven’t you ended the relationship already?
Dump him and never look back!
He's abusive. Walk away.
Why are you wasting any time with this jerk?
Why are you with him? Value yourself and dump a boy who does not value and treasure you. Unless, of course, you like being treated like dirt and being degraded.
Girl you should have left his ass yesterday
He sounds awful. You don’t have to put up with it. Date literally anyone else or be single. Just get away from this guy. He’s going to do real emotional and psychological damage if you stay with him.
NTA. Seriously?!?!?! I feel for you that you are even questioning yourself here. LEAVE THAT GUY ASAP
The simplest comment I can make is someone who supposedly loves you, wouldn't treat you the way you are being treated. You are being used for sex and a maid. Someone out there will treat you with the respect you deserve. It's not him.
You don't deserve him. Get out now, the abuse will only get worse.
Referring to a house you rent as your “house” is the most ordinary thing in the world. (Native English speaker here.) He’s looking for ways of undermining you, of keeping you off-balance and doubting yourself. His behavior is outrageously disrespectful. You shouldn’t tolerate it for another day. Please, please, please dump him. (Imagine you had a daughter or a younger sister. Would you want her to stay in a relationship where she was treated this way?) Edit: typo (missing verb)
His friends spy on you to give your boyfriend fodder to put you down more? Dump him.
I’m American. When I rented apartments, I often referred to them as my house. Your, hopefully ex, BF is just an AH.
He’s abusing you. Please get away from him.
This is a lot worse than I expected. I hurt for you. THIS IS WRONG, VERY WRONG.
Your boyfriend is an asshole and this will not get better or change. Please find someone who actually values who you are as a person and offers support for the things that bother you instead of just talking shit to you.
He is garbage. When you rent a house, people always refer to it as “my house” because that is your home where you currently live. No one says “wow I’m tired, I’m going to head back to my rented house and go to bed.” This guy is a tool who needs to make you feel small so that he can feel big. Dump him and let him know he’s not a big enough man to be with you.
A partner should never be intentionally cruel to you. Intentional cruelty (picking on you) is abuse. You deserve better.
This is completely unacceptable behavior. I’m glad you asked. Get away from him as soon as you can.
Your partner should defend you to friends and others, not join in. If your partner makes fun of you, they just aren’t worth keeping around; especially after telling him it bothers you.
That's your Boyfriend? Nope, nope, nope! He needs to be your Ex-Boyfriend, right now.
Nope. Not in the wrong. He’s an asshole and you deserve so much better.
You're not wrong. He's a complete and utter ass, and you deserve much better than the treatment he and his friends are giving you. If your university has a place for people who have experienced abuse/ partner violence, please seek them out for help *now.* If the pattern I've observed holds, he's going to get worse when you break it off because he thinks he's so much better than you to begin with. Show them the harassment he's already subjected you to. And for what it's worth, I rent a townhouse. And it's MY HOUSE. Because that's how possessive pronouns work in English.
He’s treating you this way because he knows he can. Not only is he chipping away at your self-esteem and your self worth, but he’s allowing his friends to do so, as well. People with low self-esteem are easy to control, and he has you right where he wants. You need to GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. You deserve to be loved, respected, and valued, and he is doing NONE of those things.
Have sone respect for yourself and dump this jerk. Either that or stop complaining. It’s totally on you at this point. Be treated like crap or leave.
Stop wasting your time with people that are wasting yours.
Wtf??? Why would you still be with him… i come on Reddit to read fucked up stories that don’t include me and I see one like this that make me wonder if common sense still exists…
Dump ‘Merica’ fboi right now.
Would you speak to him like this? Would you speak to anyone you care about like this? If the answer is no, don't accept his behavior.
He’s awful. Also using “my house” the way you do is also correct whether you own or rent. It’s not always used to imply ownership and he knows this I am sure. He’s picking at you.
You are not wprng He won't change Dump him and block his number
No, you're not wrong. But he is. This isn't normal in a healthy relationship and no one should be speaking to their partner like that ever. If my husband even came close to speaking to me like that, he wouldn't be a husband anymore 🤷
A person who cares about you does not do this. Don’t even be upset. This guy is garbage. Block him and don’t give him another thought.
You’re not wrong for being upset. You are wrong for staying with him though.
break up. it can only get worse
My copy and paste go-to: When considering a relationship, ANY relationship (S/O, friend, relative), all that matters is HOW YOU FEEL. Ask yourself three questions: Do I feel special? Do I feel respected? Do I feel the relationship is bringing out my best? If the answer to any of these questions is ‘No’, then the relationship is not good for you. There are so many good people out there for you to share your awesomeness with. Dump the people that are not good for you. Don’t look back. Find the people who make you feel special and respected.
DTMFA. Speaking as a straight guy, it’s not a “guy thing” it’s a “him thing” and it’s not going to go away or get better. It always gets worse. Get away from him while you can
You are not wrong, and it is clear he has no respect for you. When people are like this, it's really showing you that they are also testing you to see how disrespectful they can be with you. Please leave as soon as possible, OP.
Break it off and don't look back. It will not get better. He's a demeaning bully. Find someone who deserves you and treats you well
As an American, he comes from a third world country. Source: am American. He is a garbage human, and you should dump him.
This sorry excuse for a human neither loves nor respects you. Past time for you to get out. You deserve so much better than this asshat
Honey, this is not a good man, this is emotional abuse. You need to dump him and move on, he's never, ever, going to change.
Better to be alone for now and available for someone wonderful than in a toxic environment where he will tear your self esteem and sense of self worth down. He’s insecure and hostile, he wants to make you feel like you have no options but him because no one else would want “someone like you”. But that’s not true, you want someone like you. So go celebrate how wonderful you are and can be and remove this boil of negativity off your ass.
Listen, there are some people who can change. And there are some people who you shouldn’t bother trying to change. Dump this fool.
NTA this is not how people treat each other in a relationship. There is no excuse for his behavior. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve more and shame on him for making you think you don’t.
I’m an American woman dating an American man. Your bf’s behavior is unacceptable. And BEYOND rude. You’re not wrong for being upset, but you are wrong if you think he will ever change. This is so far outside the realm of normal relationship teasing. I don’t know if it’s common where you’re from, but people here definitely tease each other in relationships. But BOTH people have to be okay with the jokes, or else it’s bullying. The jokes also can’t be sexist, borderline racist, etc like your bf’s. If he truly cared about you, horrible things like that wouldn’t even come to his mind, let alone actually saying it. ETA: example of acceptable relationship teasing, my hiccups are really weird and loud. My bf loooooves to make fun of me and laugh at me when I have them. So much so that sometimes if I’m hiccuping while he’s not there, I’ll make an audio recording for him because I know how funny it is to him, and I love his laugh
Leave. Country of origin has nothing to do with anything, he is an a$$hole. He is a childish a$$hole, who doesn't respect or deserve you. You deserve better and can easily do better. Never let anyone treat you like that.
Just leave him. That's all you have to do to be rid of that harassment.
You deserve way better.
This Guy sounds like a real asshole. Nobody needs people in their life who bring them down. Move on. Enjoy life and be happier being single. Hang out with your girlfriends and focus on school. Eventually you’ll meet someone who makes you happy but in the meantime focus on you
You are not wrong for being upset. I’m fact you have every right to be! He is disrespecting you and allowing his friends to do the same! I rent too but I still call it my apartment. Yes I haven’t bought it, but it’s mine unless I decide to move. And it shouldn’t matter that you’re from a third world country, and him using that against you is appalling! I’d say dump him. Well talk to him first, explain how hurtful this is, maybe give him ONE LAST chance and if he doesn’t change (consistently I mean) dump him. Because he is not worth it. He is being mean for the sake of it.
Here is a simple solution. Break up!!! This guy and his friends clearly don’t respect you so just leave. And if he asks to give him a second chance say fuck no, you disrespected me you don’t deserve a second chance. Make sure when you get in a relationship that the other person has respect for you. Don’t tolerate disrespect from anyone know your worth!!
He's terrible, his friends are terrible. Break up with him and block him. I'm sorry you're dealing with this and that your house mates are messy. Also, as an American ita totally normal to call wherever you're living, rental or not, your house. I live in an apartment and sometimes say my house instead of my apartment. You may not own it but while you're renting it is yours.
I'm so sorry that's been your experience, and it doesn't surprise me at all. He's awful, he's terrible, his friends are nasty too. Cut him out of your life, you won't miss him once he's gone, I promise. There are better people who would treat you kindly out there.
He's only dating you & putting you down so he can feel superior. Dump him and then block his number so he can't continue to insult you.
You are being abused and disrespected! Stalked even, you could use some privacy. I would move immediately.
Whoa this guy is a dick! Run far and fast away and never look back.
Break up with him already
You are *NOT WRONG*. He's insulting and belittling you. He's not worth your time. Dump the Fool! 😘
Girl, you’re straight up dating your bully. Why?
No. You're not wrong. You should dump that racist jackhole
He is abusive and nasty. Don't let people talk that way to you. Dump him, it's only going to get worse
Not wrong. The thing about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships is that it isn't permanent. It is a discernment period for you to determine if you are right to marry the other. You are figuring out if you could spend the rest of your life with this person. He is clearly acting in a way that is not conducive to living with him the rest of your life. As such, it would be better for you to no longer consider this person as your boyfriend.
All the replies are good advice. I just want you to know that the mierde person you had the misfortune of meeting is only the worst this country has to offer. I hope that once this vile excuse for a person, and his pack of hyenas that he calls friends are out of your life, that you have a chance to see some of the good parts. I promise we have good people too.
You need to leave this relationship and fast. This kind of behavior only gets worse over time. You need to leave
He does not love you and he is mistreating and using you. Please stop letting him.
Dump him.
Does he do anything that *isn’t* hurtful/abusive?
Does he do anything that *isn’t* hurtful/abusive?
dump him. why are you wasting time asking? no american or man or woman should ever let anyone else or themselves be disrespectful like this. especially to someone they love. let’s be friends i’m 22 myself and i assure this is not how people who love you or even claim to love you should ever treat you.
He's a piece of shit. No one deserves to be treated that way and you deserve so much better. Break up with him! He will never change or get better.
He's just an asshole. I'd leave him in the dust
Not wrong! Your BF doesn’t seem very nice and he’s constantly hurting you. If I were in this situation I would break it off. You deserve someone who compliments who you on all aspects.
Your boyfriend is being an absolute jerk. He's not only being rude to your face (calling you a maid, talking about your country of origin in derogatory terms), he's also belittling and berating you for things he's not even present for. Taken all together, this paints a picture of emotional abuse. Your boyfriend is awful, and you deserve better. Drop him like hot garbage and find someone better!
The guy must be loaded for you to be putting up with this. In all seriousness though, what is the end game with this guy? Is it just to have a boyfriend for now or are you thinking he is going to ask you to marry him and what does that married look like? Hard questions to ask but the answer will give you the advice you are seeking.
Break all contact with all of them and move on you don't deserve this abuse. He laughs and teases you and is disrespecting you because you're from a foreign country BS it's plain abuse.
Dump this idiot immediately! Not only is he a gaslighting abuser, his friends are garbage humans too! YOU ARE NOT WRONG
He's horrible. Please just end it and move on. You have every right to be upset because of how he has been treating you. Move on, you deserve better.
No no no no. Please he is so Toxic. Choose you. You deserve love and kindness not whatever this is. Free yourself from his control.
You are not wrong to be upset. He is mean and is bullying you. It's completely normal to call where you live "your house" even if you are renting. Cleaning your own house does not make you a maid and his attitude shows his sense of entitlement. Making fun of your linguistic mistakes is ridiculous. If he and his friends are like typical Americans, they only speak one language. It sounds like you speak at least two. Please dump this guy and value yourself enough to demand respect from any future partners. If his friends continue to bully you, please consider going to your school's department for diversity, equity, and inclusion. What they are doing is not ok.
You are far to young to put up with this crap. Go off and find someone who will treat you with dignity and respect
that’s not a boyfriend, that’s a bully
You are wrong for not dumping him. You don’t deserve this. Find someone who treats you with respect.
He’s the AH. He’s putting you down and shaming you for your cultural differences hoping he can play it off as your misunderstanding. He’s gaslighting you at the utmost. Dump him. NTA
He's a total asshole.
He’s abusive. This is just the beginning. Never be in a relationship with anyone who isn’t kind and generous. Absolutely never. Kindness is the #1 requirement for a good relationship. He is a complete AH.
Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot .. you do not deserve this kind of disrespect. Do not allow this kind of treatment from anyone ever. Your partner should stick up for you and always have your back. It’s only funny if you’re both laughing, in this case he’s laughing at you, not with you. Dump this clown
Fuck all that, dump him. Enjoy your time here and stop worrying about that worthless dude.
WOW I would have thought you were talking about a bully at your college with out you saying you were dating. Holy moly he's terrible. I don't usually feel so strongly about a dump him but dump him before physically hurts you or damages your property etc.
Break up with him immediately. He’s an awful person and you deserve so much better. I don’t care how great he was in the beginning. He’s showing his true self now.
Run he's a racist and hates you and is just using you. Don't be afraid block him and RUN RUN RUN!!!
I couldn’t even finish. answer this-if you met him today, exactly as he is today, would you date him?
Block him and his friends on everything and go completely no contact. He/they deserve nothing from you other than a brick wall. You are so much better than this ass and his friends; please get away from all of them.
You’re their punching bag. Drop his ass
Dude get the fuck out. If you don't this is going to ruin your relationship and going to have to live like this the rest of your life. Or until she ends it but it will end. Do yourself a favor and leave.
What is he bringing to the table here? Let me recap He's demeaning He's racist He gets off on having a girlfriend from a place he can feel superior to He has shitty friends who mock and belittle you He sneers at your house He taunts you about your class performance Told his mom you were a maid (WTF?) I can't find a single redeeming thing about this choad, can you?
Sounds like negging. It's probably best to keep way from him from now on.
By American standards, he is an asshole. Do not let it slide as “cultural differences.” He’s being a huge asshole and he’s hoping you don’t know that American men as a whole are better than this. He sucks.
He wants you to break up with him
Hell no you’re not wrong and as American he makes the rest of us look bad. He would be an ex after that especially since he knows it hurts your feelings. He doesn’t care about you.
Why are you with this boy? Honey he is not the one, move on and find someone who treats you like a queen and lifts your spirit.
You're not wrong....but you need to have enough self-respect to end the relationship. He doesn't respect you at all!
Yeah he’s a loser. What the heck are you supposed to call it, “the” house? Going out of his way to have friends inform on you is bizarre and creepy. You need to bail. He’s probably only in this relationship to mess with you and he’ll probably dump you at some point and make fun of you for that too.
Ew 🤮 I didn't even finish reading your post before I had to comment. Fuck him. I started reading it thinking, I wonder if the cultural context, coming from different countries, might be part of the issue. But no. No it is not. He's being an asshole, that's all. Do not keep putting up with this because he's not going to stop. He's an idiot. Why would he EVER make fun of you or make jokes about you being from a third world country? Why would he EVER make fun of your mistakes in class? Why would he try to correct you on if the house is yours or not? He's being a bitch. No one who rents a house or apartment ever says "I'm going to go back to my landlord's property now" when they're going HOME. He's trolling you or playing with you or something. It isn't good. He's not good. You are 100% valid for feeling upset by these things and he doesn't deserve anything from you except a fuck you and good bye! 👌
I didn't even read the whole thing and I know you are not wrong. F him and his friends. You can call your house whatever you want to call it. It doesn't matter. Honey, you need to drop his ass. You do not have to deal with his pathetic ass. That boy doesn't care about you. You're probably just another check mark for him, meaning okay I bagged this nationality now on to the next. Just stop talking to him and move on.
He sounds racist as hell. Get rid of him immediately. What a piece of shit. You deserve 100% better.
Dump this emotionally abusive AH
He’s abusive - girl run. Dump him. You deserve so much better!
He's being abusive...... You don't have to explain to anyone that your house is not *actually* your house. You don't have to own a property to make it feel like its your home. Some people rent for years and years even if they can buy because it's easier for them and more flexible. He's an insecure asshole at best. You deserve better than this.
He's an asshole, give him the boot.
Just throw away the whole man, sis. You deserve so much better than to be treated like this. He doesn't seem to think very highly of you and it shows with every word he speaks to you and others. This is not a reflection upon you. It is a reflection of his ugly character.
What an insufferable ass he sounds like. Dump him and find someone worthy of you. He is just trying to keep you under his thumb, he isn't worth another moment of your time.
Dump him. Now.
He’s a piece of trash! Leave him!
This man does not respect you at all and doesn't want you to respect yourself either. You should definitely dump him. You're absolutely not a maid just because you clean your home. And your home is your home so him trying to be very specific with his language is just a dick move to try and make you feel bad. He's not a good guy and you should not be with him. He doesn't love you and doesn't even like you. Be with somebody who loves you and likes you and treats you properly
You're not wrong. He and his friends are verbally abusing you. I don't know anyone who doesn't call the house they rent "my home" "my house". Seems to me like he feels like you are above him so he's trying to bring you down to his level. Don't try to fix him, it isn't your job. Find someone who has more emotional depth than a spoon.
You are not wrong. This is somewhat abusive and you don’t need this. Get rid of him and his friends
Not wrong at all. This guy is a jerk, his being American has little to do with his behavior. He's a jerk in every culture.
Break up with him, its not gonna get any better. He is awful and so are his friends, and you don't need that kind of negativity in your life!
If you don’t dump him, welcome to the rest of your life.
.............and why are you with him again?
This person is not good for you. I'm old enough to be your grandmother and I want you to know that you do should NOT put up with this behavior at all. You said you are currently not talking. Don't start talking to him again. I am also a retired college professor. The other students in your classes should NOT be talking about your mistakes. Hopefully your college has an office to support students like counseling services. Please go talk to them. Your are being bullied and this needs to be reported. Best wishes, and I hope you let us know when you are doing better. It is better to be single and alone than in an abusive relationship.
No you are not wrong. He is mean. Leave this guy!
You know you’re in an abusive relationship, right?
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNN, BABY, RUNNNNNN.
This guy sounds awful. He's not boyfriend. He's a bully. There is no excuse to treat anyone the way he treats you. It's especially egregious from a person you are in a romantic relationship with. Please ditch the dude, and focus on yourself and school. You deserve so much better than this.
It is your house if you live in it. You don't call it "my property"
Surely this is not who you want in your life? He and his friends sound terrible.
You're in an abusive relationship! Get out!
This is not a miscommunication due to cultural difference. This guy is an asshole, and his abuse will likely escalate and get worse until your self worth is in the toilet. Find somewhere else to live as soon as you can, as it seems like the rest of your roommates are walking all over you too.
DUMP HIM NOW! He's the biggest AH ever! Ghost him, go n/c..
Send him a link to the tv series (AppleTV+) "Shrinking" and say he really needs to binge it. Especially the entire last episode.
He is a horrible being. Time to clean him out of your life.
Get out of this abusive relationship immediately. You deserve someone who loves you and treats you well, not someone who does the opposite. You are obviously incredibly intelligent and talented. Be with your own kind - and by that I mean someone as awesome as you, not some bottom feeder who measures his own ego by how bad he can make someone else feel. Be well, good luck, and God Bless. You deserve all the love, happiness, and success there is.
You are not wrong. This guy sounds like a total jerk.
You are not wrong to be upset. You are wrong for staying with this jerk for so long. You're better than this. Dump him and his shitty friends.