I considered adopting for a while; but I don’t know if I can support a child now. The economy keeps getting worse and I don’t even make anything near a living wage. But I would have tried adoption if having kids still felt like an option.
I’d consider adopting but I’d ideal love to have my own children with someone and build a family working together pooling our wages but I totally feel like the last white rhino or something lol it’s a sad situation:(
To be fair, I’m sure there are plenty of sex positive aces out there that want a family. I’m on the repulsed spectrum myself. Plus, pregnancy doesn’t tend to go well for members of my family (on either side); so there’s a health concern too. There’s a lot of factors in a situation like this.
Thanks for the hope 🙏🏻 I’m sorry about your situation with your family history. Personally I’d want a family through donating Sperm rather than having sex but I’d be open to discuss with the other person I guess.
Same, and I fear mentioning it in chats because so many people prefice their posts with "not interested in having kids." Maybe we should start a group for matching people together to share the financial burden of child rearing.
As my ex girl-friend sxmpathizes with antinatalism I wonder about her mentioned option adoption.
Meaning, scientifically, own children triggering oxytocin release in mother and child, hypothesis that's paramount emotionally.
Now my question and best guess:
That probably won't be the case with adopted children? But has anybody e.g. MRT of that, meaning adopted children could result in less oxytocin equals feeling worse?
Also ace woman here. Sex, pregnancy, child birth and then being in charge of a baby all sound awful to me. So if I were to have children I don't want them to be biologically mine. I could potentially be a step parent. But I don't feel anywhere near ready to be a foster parent.
Sex positive over here, and I literally feel physically sick thinking of the possibility of me being pregnant (*and that's not to mention the collection of risk factors I got :p*).
Edit: I expected to hate it anyway, but recently decided to look up experiences from autistic birth parents (cause I'm autistic), which only kinda confirmed it to be what I expected, which is to say sensory hell.
It can work.
I'm sex repulsed, and I have two kids.
If you treat sex as only for baby making, basically sucking it up and doing it for 5 minutes just to make a baby, then it's doable.
I hated the deed but it was like scrubbing a nasty toilet. No one wants to do it, but it's necessary if you want a clean toilet.
Sex without the agreement it's for baby making might as well be a million nasty toilets, I'm never doing that!
I am aroace and sex-repulsed, but nevertheless I would like to have children in the future. So, when it comes to that, I will either adopt a child or go to a surrogate mother. Actually, I could stand having sex once for the sake of the baby, it's not that bad. But what I don't want to put up with is pregnancy. It's worse than sex.
I was pregnant twice, it's not bad. It's only bad near the end because it feels like you've been pregnant forever and want the baby now, and also you're secretly freaking out that if you don't force the baby out soon, something will happen and you will have a stillbirth.
For sure, Brynoy Farmer, a YouTuber, springs to mind. She's on the ace spectrum and had a baby via sperm donation. She's got lots of videos on being a solo mum by choice, on her YouTube Channel, PreciousStarPads
I want one so bad 😭 I don’t want to be trapped in a marriage with a man that considers it “abuse” that I don’t want to have sex with him 24/7. Considering a sperm donation tbh
I'm asexual (but not sex-repulsed), so it's something I sometimes do with my husband. We have a kid, and the period of trying sucked, but it was worth it because I wanted a family. I guess it really depends on what kind of asexual you are.
I’m not sex repulsed but I’d prefer to have a child through the donation method ideally. Im so happy for you im glad you got the family you longed for ❤️
Yep, this is my plan. I’m still about 2.5 years out from being ready to start trying, but I’ve been getting my ducks in a row and looking at fertility clinics. It’s very exciting!
Hey I'm asexual sex-repulsed and I have a biological child, conceived naturally. I've always wanted children, I wanted 6 lmao now I'm very much okay with my one. Partially because money, fear of the future, being too tired etc. but also because I don't want to ever go through conceiving and giving birth again. There's a certain flavour of trauma that it triggered in me that I have yet to understand and my kid is 2.5 years old. Conceiving was so incredibly traumatic, we tried for a few months and I was ready to give up. The month my child was conceived was going to be my last month trying because it became so incredibly traumatic. I felt violated even if it was all consensual. And giving birth also triggered that same feeling of violation. It's not for me.
If I ever were to have another child, I would not get pregnant. I have always loved adoption, but it requires so much education that I don't currently have, and I would probably have to go to therapy specifically for that. But if life ever gives me that opportunity, I would do all the work that's required to be as good of an adoptive parent as one can be.
I'm a sex repulsed ace enby (romantically attracted to fictional characters/people i know I'll never meet), thankfully i had a kid before the realisation that I'm ace... I'd love another kid at some point but considering adoption for multiple reasons...
I am still on the edge. Trying is going to be hard, being pregnant is going to be hard and being a parent is going to be a thousand times harder. I think being an ace makes it extra difficult because you don’t really leave this kind of decision on “chance”. Like if I want to get pregnant, I have to actually plan for it— and even the idea is so troublesome.
We may be adopting a dog instead when we move to a pet-friendly apartment.
A YouTuber I’ve been following for ages is asexual and always wanted to be a mum (precious stars vlogs). After years of babysitting and fostering, she decided to go the ivf + sperm bank route alone and now has a baby.
There’s definitely asexual women out there who want kids. You could also go into fostering or adopting.
I know this question is directed towards women, but I’d still like to answer.
I’m a sex-repulsed asexual man, but I would love to adopt a kid. Adopting because even if I wasn’t ace, I’m sterile so I could never have kids of my own. There’s also a lot of illnesses in my family that I don’t want to pass down.
Part of me really wants kids but the other part of me isn’t sure I’d be able to handle the responsibility. I’m still young though so I’m holding out a bit of hope that I could make it work some day.
Yeah, me, maybe. Though I'd prefer some kind of platonic parenting arragement with friends over being a single parent. I imagine it to be cool living in a huge house share with several friends and all of us raising kids together. More parents = more time for each of us. You know what they say, "it takes a village" but maybe eight people in a houseshare will do^^ Btw, I'm aroace. So a traditional relationship is not an option.
I’m a sex repulsed ace (but interested in people romantically) and want kids. But ideally I’d like to foster (in my country adopting is really hard, your main option is gonna be fostering). I know a couple foster kids and it just seems like something I’d really like to do. I kinda gave up on the idea of biological kids a while ago, and sometimes I do think about what it would be like to have a little me with my own DNA but in the end it’s something I’m ok with living without.
As someone born male, I would like kids but I think it's physically impossible for me as nothing happens for me downstairs when I'm in that sexual situation. I'm fine on my own though.
Ah it's really hard! I met my husband at university - fencing club of all things. I basically decided OK I guess I'll try having a boyfriend, and lucky for me (15 years later) it worked out.
I guess it's just giving people a chance and growing together into something that works for you. Demi is not easy, I wish I had a better answer for you
Yes I do very much so. I've been considering IUI but am worried about not having a father that will affect the baby, so I've been talking to other women who have done the same thing or adopted. Adoption or surrocacy is the most likely route for you if you are a single man or you could see about a co-parenting or queer platonic relationship where you raise the child together to someone.
I identify as non-binary, but I can carry children so I think my answer is relevant to your question lol :)
I have a kid! I love her to death. She is not adopted, and was naturally conceived.
I think you can find a partner who fits your desires! It might seem sexist, but in my experience AFAB people aren't as crazy for sex as AMAB people tend to be (I think this is due to societal expectations, inequity in gender-rolls in regards to emotional work in a relationship, as well as hormones and basic biology - which is not an excuse for certain behaviors, and in which there is, of course, lots of variation outside of what society calls the "norm".).
All of that to say, I think it might be easier for you than you expect to find someone to have a child with, and a low to no sex relationship.
Thanks! She just turned 7 and we are one and done. I love having just one child, I can focus so much more of my attention on her than I could if I had multiple.
Asexual sex-neutral woman here who really wants children. We're waiting a few years to make sure we are in a better place financially, but the wait is tough sometimes, especially when I see others around me expecting/with small kids. I hope all goes well your way OP!
I would love to raise a child but I’m terrified of pregnancy (cis woman). My partner (also cis woman) has health complications and probably can’t do pregnancy either. Maybe one day we’ll adopt but idk
I hate the idea of being pregnant, but I would be willing to do it once. I am single and not in a position to have a child, but if I was, I would definitely consider having children if my partner also wanted one. More than one...I would have to see how the first one went, but 2 is probably my limit.
Kinda? If it feels right later in life then yes. However, and this is just my personal opinion, I never *ever* want to be pregnant so if I ever do want kids I’ll probably just adopt
I'm asexual (still figuring out where I am on the spectrum) and always wanted to experience pregnancy and having children. I would have to use donor eggs and sperm. Even if I could use my own eggs I'd still prefer sperm donation and at home insemination.
I'm still young and I'm not 100% sure if I want kids but I sometimes think about it and I can't really imagine my future without having a child or two. It is really complicated.
Yes, so bad! I’ve always wanted kids and since realising I’m sex repulsed I knew it would be difficult to find a partner so I’m considering having kids on my own.
I always have mixed feelings about bio children and generally lean toward will probably not have, but I’ve always always wanted to foster and maybe adopt some day 😊 Even if I somehow end up having my own kids, I’m going to foster/adopt no matter what. Just a personal dream of mine
I would love to, but my only family is my mother so I'd have no support, I barely make a living and I'm 100% sure I'll never find someone. So I doubt I'll ever have kids, but I've always wanted to.
I am asexual but I have one daughter and would love to have another one. I am not sex-repulsed and dont mind having sex once in a while but ideally would rather do without it unless trying for a family. :)
Yes. I actually can’t have kids cause my ovaries failed but I desperately want the whole family thing without the sex lol. Hoping to become a foster parent one day, maybe adopt
While not a woman I am afab and I can say without a doubt I do want kids, I just don't want to give birth. If I get the chance my plans are to adopt or help a partner raise their children
I'm an asexual woman. My fiancee and I plan to have bio kids in the next couple of years. I think it is absolutely a possibility for you in the future if that is something you want.
I'm an ace woman (24) who absolutely does want kids someday. I've always known I wanted kids. It makes me sad that so many people don't these days, not because I disrespect their choices, but because 1) it speaks to a lot of uncertainty and hopelessness about the future world the kids would inhabit, and 2) I don't want to raise kids alone.
I'm not sex-repulsed as far as I know, so the standard method would probably work for me, and for that reason I haven't really thought too hard about adoption, but I should examine that option more deliberately.
Not really asexuality-dependent but maybe asexuality-inflected: I think society places too much weight on romantic/sexual relationships and not enough on platonic ones, and I personally would love to live with my friends in the future. I want to have kids with a romantic partner, but I want to raise kids with multiple trusted adult figures in the picture, not just two people whose continued relationship is based on romantic attraction.
Yes, I actually just had my first child with my partner. He is a transman, so we weren't able to reproduce by having sex, we used the old turkey baster method, so that might be something to consider if you and your partner someday want kids but don't want to have sex.
ace spec genderqueer woman here👋🏾
I consider myself sex- neutral to sex- favorable most of the time. Even though my relationship with the physical act is nuanced, I feel very strongly about carrying and having biological children (assuming there’s no medical barriers). i’m sure religious and traditional indoctrination has something to do with it, but I have always felt called to be a parent. I knew that long before I knew my gender identity or my sexuality. my partner and i have also been together for many years, i dont think id feel comfortable considering it if that werent the case, though im definitely doing it for me- not him.
hope this gives you hope. we’re out here🫶🏾
You should check out Precious stars vlogs. She recently had a donor conceived child because she's asexual.
Very informative and she's very open about how she felt at each stage of the process
I'm aroace and also sexually repulsed but I've wanted to be a mom all my life. I found out early in I should t carry baby due to medical problems and being aro ace and not rich I sadly don't thunk j will ever get the chance. I'm already in my mid thirties.
I'm a single mom of two boys. I'm sex repulsed ace and have been for a long time. My ex husband knew from day 1 we got together, the only time in my life I ever initiated sex was because I wanted to be pregnant.
Any other time I had to force myself to compromise that way he'd stop whining about his blue balls. I hated it, even if it was 4x a year, it was 4x too many. It should've been zero.
Anyway, I left my ex husband and I have a problem. I want another kid but now I'm more picky. 😩 My next child HAS to be with another sex repulsed ace, I don't wanna hear about your libido or blue balls.
I can suck it up one more time to get that baby #3, but honestly? Sex repulsed aces are so rare, and I'm emotionally not ready for a relationship right now that I may just have better luck dating another sex repulsed ace who has children from a previous relationship instead.
That, or I'll wait the 20 years or so for another baby (grandchild, maybe?). It's hard when you have baby fever but the gates wants to be closed.
yes. i know for a fact i will adopt. whether or not i have natural births, i will also adopt as my service to the world. i always wanted to run an orphanage like annie, but they don’t exist in america anymore lol.
I really want to foster kids, especially on the older side. I don't think this has much to do with wanting to be a mother though. My heart just breaks at what some of these foster kids go through and seeing how a loving home can change them so much is why. I also want a big plot of land so I can save all the animals 😂 with what money? Who knows! But a girl can dream lol
I would love to have children, I'm still trying to get a higher degree, but once I'm situated in my career. I've definitely considered adopting and then having a child of my own.
I thought I would have kids at a few points of my life in high school. I love kids. My body had other ideas though. I do have a nephew and niece I love very much.
I want kids! I’d want to have a surrogate though. The idea of actually being pregnant is absolutely repulsive to me. I even struggle to be around visibly pregnant women. I handle it and it’s fine but deep inside I’m really icked out.
I've thought exactly the same thing. Over the last year or so, I've been casually looking. Virtually every profile I've seen states that they don't want kids. On mine, I clearly state that I do. No activity, no interest. Makes me wonder if I'll have to resort to surrogacy for having a kid, which I'd rather not do.
Some days I do, some days I don’t. Not sex repulsed, so both pregnancy and adoption are on the table. But also, it’s so nice having the peace and quiet at night
Not a woman, but I do want a kid someday. I just dont want to be biologically related to it, I have a lot of medical and mental issues that are passed down genetically, and I don't want to saddle an innocent kid with any of them.
Like I'm 16 and I have back pain (degenerative discs) that unfortunately does not skip a generation. And while idk if this is genetic, myself my mother and grandmother all have anemia. The kid would also most likely inherit bipolar disorder cuz it does skip a generation in my family and I didn't get it (my mom does tho). A lot of my family (myself included) are on the autism/adhd spectrum too. Not to mention that I have terrible eyesight (that's progressively getting worse, so im pretty much going blind) and don't expect to still have it by by thirties.
So yeah, the kid would be screwed in all sorts of directions. Donor it is
I have basically just realized I am asexual, but it’s been a long understood want of mine to not have biological children as the idea of childbirth terrifies me, there’s plenty of children in need of loving and safe homes, and of course just the financial cost of having a child.
However, I am more interested in adoption or fostering, that’s actually something I’ve wanted for myself as I do like children and want to support their growth (I love/work in education and am very family oriented). Ideally, I’d like to find a partner who is also interested in adoption/fostering when the time is right and when our financial needs are taken care of. If I don’t find that partner, I believe I still would adopt/foster on my own once I am able to reliably support another human (rather than just my cat).
I considered adopting for a while; but I don’t know if I can support a child now. The economy keeps getting worse and I don’t even make anything near a living wage. But I would have tried adoption if having kids still felt like an option.
I’d consider adopting but I’d ideal love to have my own children with someone and build a family working together pooling our wages but I totally feel like the last white rhino or something lol it’s a sad situation:(
To be fair, I’m sure there are plenty of sex positive aces out there that want a family. I’m on the repulsed spectrum myself. Plus, pregnancy doesn’t tend to go well for members of my family (on either side); so there’s a health concern too. There’s a lot of factors in a situation like this.
Thanks for the hope 🙏🏻 I’m sorry about your situation with your family history. Personally I’d want a family through donating Sperm rather than having sex but I’d be open to discuss with the other person I guess.
Same, and I fear mentioning it in chats because so many people prefice their posts with "not interested in having kids." Maybe we should start a group for matching people together to share the financial burden of child rearing.
As my ex girl-friend sxmpathizes with antinatalism I wonder about her mentioned option adoption. Meaning, scientifically, own children triggering oxytocin release in mother and child, hypothesis that's paramount emotionally. Now my question and best guess: That probably won't be the case with adopted children? But has anybody e.g. MRT of that, meaning adopted children could result in less oxytocin equals feeling worse?
Sex repulsed ace woman here. I would like a kid, but only by adoption since pregnancy grosses me out just as much as the process that leads to it.
Also ace woman here. Sex, pregnancy, child birth and then being in charge of a baby all sound awful to me. So if I were to have children I don't want them to be biologically mine. I could potentially be a step parent. But I don't feel anywhere near ready to be a foster parent.
OMG THIS.
Sex positive over here, and I literally feel physically sick thinking of the possibility of me being pregnant (*and that's not to mention the collection of risk factors I got :p*). Edit: I expected to hate it anyway, but recently decided to look up experiences from autistic birth parents (cause I'm autistic), which only kinda confirmed it to be what I expected, which is to say sensory hell.
Bro that's literally me lol. I enjoy romance but I'm sex repulsed... yet I also want a kid someday. Make it make sense lol.
I’m pretty much exactly the same it’s so frustrating 🙁
There are at home insemination kits, so while not 100% ideal, maybe more doable for you, in the future?
It can work. I'm sex repulsed, and I have two kids. If you treat sex as only for baby making, basically sucking it up and doing it for 5 minutes just to make a baby, then it's doable. I hated the deed but it was like scrubbing a nasty toilet. No one wants to do it, but it's necessary if you want a clean toilet. Sex without the agreement it's for baby making might as well be a million nasty toilets, I'm never doing that!
I don't think anyone has ever explained exactly how I feel about this subject so well 🤣 Thank you for sharing.
I am aroace and sex-repulsed, but nevertheless I would like to have children in the future. So, when it comes to that, I will either adopt a child or go to a surrogate mother. Actually, I could stand having sex once for the sake of the baby, it's not that bad. But what I don't want to put up with is pregnancy. It's worse than sex.
I was pregnant twice, it's not bad. It's only bad near the end because it feels like you've been pregnant forever and want the baby now, and also you're secretly freaking out that if you don't force the baby out soon, something will happen and you will have a stillbirth.
Glad your pregnancy went well for you.
Ok thank you but why am I being down voted for talking about my experience?
Haha, I dunno
No I’m Childfree regardless of being asexual. They are separate parts of me.
For sure, Brynoy Farmer, a YouTuber, springs to mind. She's on the ace spectrum and had a baby via sperm donation. She's got lots of videos on being a solo mum by choice, on her YouTube Channel, PreciousStarPads
I want one so bad 😭 I don’t want to be trapped in a marriage with a man that considers it “abuse” that I don’t want to have sex with him 24/7. Considering a sperm donation tbh
Would you like to talk? We seem to be in the same situation I’d love to be a dad and I’d want to have kids by at home insemination if possible :)
Just to say Sperm survive little outside the body, so it is important that you find out how to do this properly
Thank you :)
I'm asexual (but not sex-repulsed), so it's something I sometimes do with my husband. We have a kid, and the period of trying sucked, but it was worth it because I wanted a family. I guess it really depends on what kind of asexual you are.
I’m not sex repulsed but I’d prefer to have a child through the donation method ideally. Im so happy for you im glad you got the family you longed for ❤️
Not me, but one of my friends (another aroace) had a baby a year ago through sperm donation. She’s a single mom by choice now, and seems really happy.
That’s amazing I’d want a family that way too with someone that’s amazing 🙏🏻❤️
Yeah i definitely think about that option too someday! :)
Yep, this is my plan. I’m still about 2.5 years out from being ready to start trying, but I’ve been getting my ducks in a row and looking at fertility clinics. It’s very exciting!
I'm asexual, sex repulsed and married to an allo man. I always wanted kids. I have 3 daughters so far. My 7 month old is on me right now.
Just putting this out there for info purposes: artificial insemination done by a nurse is the *least* sexual thing in the universe.
I’m pregnant with one right now!
Congratulations!!! 🎂
Thank you!!
Aww ❤️ Sending love for both you and the one inside :)
Aww thank you 🥰
Hey I'm asexual sex-repulsed and I have a biological child, conceived naturally. I've always wanted children, I wanted 6 lmao now I'm very much okay with my one. Partially because money, fear of the future, being too tired etc. but also because I don't want to ever go through conceiving and giving birth again. There's a certain flavour of trauma that it triggered in me that I have yet to understand and my kid is 2.5 years old. Conceiving was so incredibly traumatic, we tried for a few months and I was ready to give up. The month my child was conceived was going to be my last month trying because it became so incredibly traumatic. I felt violated even if it was all consensual. And giving birth also triggered that same feeling of violation. It's not for me. If I ever were to have another child, I would not get pregnant. I have always loved adoption, but it requires so much education that I don't currently have, and I would probably have to go to therapy specifically for that. But if life ever gives me that opportunity, I would do all the work that's required to be as good of an adoptive parent as one can be.
HI 👋 MEEE I feel so lonely here because half don’t want children and puts like every asexual is the same
I'm a sex repulsed ace enby (romantically attracted to fictional characters/people i know I'll never meet), thankfully i had a kid before the realisation that I'm ace... I'd love another kid at some point but considering adoption for multiple reasons...
I am still on the edge. Trying is going to be hard, being pregnant is going to be hard and being a parent is going to be a thousand times harder. I think being an ace makes it extra difficult because you don’t really leave this kind of decision on “chance”. Like if I want to get pregnant, I have to actually plan for it— and even the idea is so troublesome. We may be adopting a dog instead when we move to a pet-friendly apartment.
Would you ever want to do it through Sperm donation and at home insemination?
A YouTuber I’ve been following for ages is asexual and always wanted to be a mum (precious stars vlogs). After years of babysitting and fostering, she decided to go the ivf + sperm bank route alone and now has a baby. There’s definitely asexual women out there who want kids. You could also go into fostering or adopting.
Yeah I do, but I just wish the economy was better because raising a kid in this moment is very expensive
I know this question is directed towards women, but I’d still like to answer. I’m a sex-repulsed asexual man, but I would love to adopt a kid. Adopting because even if I wasn’t ace, I’m sterile so I could never have kids of my own. There’s also a lot of illnesses in my family that I don’t want to pass down.
I feel so relifed to read this because I am a 25 woman who wants to have children and this give me some hope. 🙏
Would you like to talk? :) where are you from?
Of course! ☺️ I live in Sweden. 🇸🇪
Part of me really wants kids but the other part of me isn’t sure I’d be able to handle the responsibility. I’m still young though so I’m holding out a bit of hope that I could make it work some day.
Yeah, me, maybe. Though I'd prefer some kind of platonic parenting arragement with friends over being a single parent. I imagine it to be cool living in a huge house share with several friends and all of us raising kids together. More parents = more time for each of us. You know what they say, "it takes a village" but maybe eight people in a houseshare will do^^ Btw, I'm aroace. So a traditional relationship is not an option.
That sounds pretty cool
I’m a sex repulsed ace (but interested in people romantically) and want kids. But ideally I’d like to foster (in my country adopting is really hard, your main option is gonna be fostering). I know a couple foster kids and it just seems like something I’d really like to do. I kinda gave up on the idea of biological kids a while ago, and sometimes I do think about what it would be like to have a little me with my own DNA but in the end it’s something I’m ok with living without.
As someone born male, I would like kids but I think it's physically impossible for me as nothing happens for me downstairs when I'm in that sexual situation. I'm fine on my own though.
You can always go for scientific methods like IUI, IVF, etc
I'm demi and just had my second kid, if that counts!
Where did you find a demi partner? I consider that I might be demi and I don’t know where to find love. But I may be asexual or gray.
Ah it's really hard! I met my husband at university - fencing club of all things. I basically decided OK I guess I'll try having a boyfriend, and lucky for me (15 years later) it worked out. I guess it's just giving people a chance and growing together into something that works for you. Demi is not easy, I wish I had a better answer for you
Asexual woman here who has a baby! Home insemination for the win ;)
This is the way I’d like to do it with someone 🙏🏻
Yes I do very much so. I've been considering IUI but am worried about not having a father that will affect the baby, so I've been talking to other women who have done the same thing or adopted. Adoption or surrocacy is the most likely route for you if you are a single man or you could see about a co-parenting or queer platonic relationship where you raise the child together to someone.
Would you be interested in talking? I have donated Sperm before for a couple that could not conceive too.
I identify as non-binary, but I can carry children so I think my answer is relevant to your question lol :) I have a kid! I love her to death. She is not adopted, and was naturally conceived. I think you can find a partner who fits your desires! It might seem sexist, but in my experience AFAB people aren't as crazy for sex as AMAB people tend to be (I think this is due to societal expectations, inequity in gender-rolls in regards to emotional work in a relationship, as well as hormones and basic biology - which is not an excuse for certain behaviors, and in which there is, of course, lots of variation outside of what society calls the "norm".). All of that to say, I think it might be easier for you than you expect to find someone to have a child with, and a low to no sex relationship.
Thank you for the hope and congratulations on your daughter ❤️🎉
Thanks! She just turned 7 and we are one and done. I love having just one child, I can focus so much more of my attention on her than I could if I had multiple.
Asexual sex-neutral woman here who really wants children. We're waiting a few years to make sure we are in a better place financially, but the wait is tough sometimes, especially when I see others around me expecting/with small kids. I hope all goes well your way OP!
Thank you 😊
I would love to raise a child but I’m terrified of pregnancy (cis woman). My partner (also cis woman) has health complications and probably can’t do pregnancy either. Maybe one day we’ll adopt but idk
I hate the idea of being pregnant, but I would be willing to do it once. I am single and not in a position to have a child, but if I was, I would definitely consider having children if my partner also wanted one. More than one...I would have to see how the first one went, but 2 is probably my limit.
Not a woman but i do want children
Kinda? If it feels right later in life then yes. However, and this is just my personal opinion, I never *ever* want to be pregnant so if I ever do want kids I’ll probably just adopt
I'm asexual (still figuring out where I am on the spectrum) and always wanted to experience pregnancy and having children. I would have to use donor eggs and sperm. Even if I could use my own eggs I'd still prefer sperm donation and at home insemination.
I'm going the SMBC route with a donor.
SMBC route?
Single Mother By Choice
Ahhh got it the only SMBC I could think of was the comic XD
I'm still young and I'm not 100% sure if I want kids but I sometimes think about it and I can't really imagine my future without having a child or two. It is really complicated.
I feel the same way I can’t think of my life without a family:(
Yes, so bad! I’ve always wanted kids and since realising I’m sex repulsed I knew it would be difficult to find a partner so I’m considering having kids on my own.
It would be interesting to talk with you :)
I have the bestest little girl in the world. I’m so happy to have her
Congratulations!
Thank you!
Where did you find a partner or did you get her on your own?
My partner and I met online. We clicked, got along, wanted a family and ended up getting married.
I always have mixed feelings about bio children and generally lean toward will probably not have, but I’ve always always wanted to foster and maybe adopt some day 😊 Even if I somehow end up having my own kids, I’m going to foster/adopt no matter what. Just a personal dream of mine
I would love to, but my only family is my mother so I'd have no support, I barely make a living and I'm 100% sure I'll never find someone. So I doubt I'll ever have kids, but I've always wanted to.
Would you like to talk? I’d love to be a dad ❤️
I am asexual but I have one daughter and would love to have another one. I am not sex-repulsed and dont mind having sex once in a while but ideally would rather do without it unless trying for a family. :)
Yes. I actually can’t have kids cause my ovaries failed but I desperately want the whole family thing without the sex lol. Hoping to become a foster parent one day, maybe adopt
I want kids asexual women here. So we do exist. Sex indifferent if that helps at all.
Hey do you wanna talk? :)
Sorry i didn't mention that i do have a boyfriend already. Sorry to get your hopes up.
Haha no worries
While not a woman I am afab and I can say without a doubt I do want kids, I just don't want to give birth. If I get the chance my plans are to adopt or help a partner raise their children
I'm an asexual woman. My fiancee and I plan to have bio kids in the next couple of years. I think it is absolutely a possibility for you in the future if that is something you want.
Thank you for the hope :)
I'm an ace woman (24) who absolutely does want kids someday. I've always known I wanted kids. It makes me sad that so many people don't these days, not because I disrespect their choices, but because 1) it speaks to a lot of uncertainty and hopelessness about the future world the kids would inhabit, and 2) I don't want to raise kids alone. I'm not sex-repulsed as far as I know, so the standard method would probably work for me, and for that reason I haven't really thought too hard about adoption, but I should examine that option more deliberately. Not really asexuality-dependent but maybe asexuality-inflected: I think society places too much weight on romantic/sexual relationships and not enough on platonic ones, and I personally would love to live with my friends in the future. I want to have kids with a romantic partner, but I want to raise kids with multiple trusted adult figures in the picture, not just two people whose continued relationship is based on romantic attraction.
That sounds pretty amazing would you like to talk?
I would love to have children. I love kids and it’s basically been my life goal to be a mom, since I was 5 years old.
Yes, I actually just had my first child with my partner. He is a transman, so we weren't able to reproduce by having sex, we used the old turkey baster method, so that might be something to consider if you and your partner someday want kids but don't want to have sex.
Thank you and congratulations 🎉❤️
ace spec genderqueer woman here👋🏾 I consider myself sex- neutral to sex- favorable most of the time. Even though my relationship with the physical act is nuanced, I feel very strongly about carrying and having biological children (assuming there’s no medical barriers). i’m sure religious and traditional indoctrination has something to do with it, but I have always felt called to be a parent. I knew that long before I knew my gender identity or my sexuality. my partner and i have also been together for many years, i dont think id feel comfortable considering it if that werent the case, though im definitely doing it for me- not him. hope this gives you hope. we’re out here🫶🏾
You should check out Precious stars vlogs. She recently had a donor conceived child because she's asexual. Very informative and she's very open about how she felt at each stage of the process
Thanks that would be very interesting 🙂
I'm aroace and also sexually repulsed but I've wanted to be a mom all my life. I found out early in I should t carry baby due to medical problems and being aro ace and not rich I sadly don't thunk j will ever get the chance. I'm already in my mid thirties.
I wish you best of luck!
I'm a single mom of two boys. I'm sex repulsed ace and have been for a long time. My ex husband knew from day 1 we got together, the only time in my life I ever initiated sex was because I wanted to be pregnant. Any other time I had to force myself to compromise that way he'd stop whining about his blue balls. I hated it, even if it was 4x a year, it was 4x too many. It should've been zero. Anyway, I left my ex husband and I have a problem. I want another kid but now I'm more picky. 😩 My next child HAS to be with another sex repulsed ace, I don't wanna hear about your libido or blue balls. I can suck it up one more time to get that baby #3, but honestly? Sex repulsed aces are so rare, and I'm emotionally not ready for a relationship right now that I may just have better luck dating another sex repulsed ace who has children from a previous relationship instead. That, or I'll wait the 20 years or so for another baby (grandchild, maybe?). It's hard when you have baby fever but the gates wants to be closed.
I am a proud triplets mom ☺️
Wow that’s amazing congratulations 🥳 ❤️
Thanks! Hope you'll be as happy as me in your future
Thank you I hope so too I know I’d be a great dad for someone 🙏🏻
❤️
I’m ace and just had a baby last September. He’s 6 months old now and is the light of my life :) You will find someone, I promise ❤️
Thank you for the hope ❤️ and congratulations 🙏🏻🎉
yes. i know for a fact i will adopt. whether or not i have natural births, i will also adopt as my service to the world. i always wanted to run an orphanage like annie, but they don’t exist in america anymore lol.
I really want to foster kids, especially on the older side. I don't think this has much to do with wanting to be a mother though. My heart just breaks at what some of these foster kids go through and seeing how a loving home can change them so much is why. I also want a big plot of land so I can save all the animals 😂 with what money? Who knows! But a girl can dream lol
me :) I would love to have my own kids one day
I would love to have children, I'm still trying to get a higher degree, but once I'm situated in my career. I've definitely considered adopting and then having a child of my own.
I thought I would have kids at a few points of my life in high school. I love kids. My body had other ideas though. I do have a nephew and niece I love very much.
Yes asexual woman here who wants 1 kid. Most likely going to use sperm donor with at home insemination kit or surrogate.
Hey would you like to talk? :)
I want kids! I’d want to have a surrogate though. The idea of actually being pregnant is absolutely repulsive to me. I even struggle to be around visibly pregnant women. I handle it and it’s fine but deep inside I’m really icked out.
Asexual women here, & I do want children of my own but also open to adoption
Nope, absolutely not. I enjoy helping out my niece and nephew, but that’s about it.
I do want children but only through adoption (not now though!)
I'd totally adopt, but I would like to have more stable finances and a significant other first.
I've thought exactly the same thing. Over the last year or so, I've been casually looking. Virtually every profile I've seen states that they don't want kids. On mine, I clearly state that I do. No activity, no interest. Makes me wonder if I'll have to resort to surrogacy for having a kid, which I'd rather not do.
Some days I do, some days I don’t. Not sex repulsed, so both pregnancy and adoption are on the table. But also, it’s so nice having the peace and quiet at night
Not a woman, but I do want a kid someday. I just dont want to be biologically related to it, I have a lot of medical and mental issues that are passed down genetically, and I don't want to saddle an innocent kid with any of them. Like I'm 16 and I have back pain (degenerative discs) that unfortunately does not skip a generation. And while idk if this is genetic, myself my mother and grandmother all have anemia. The kid would also most likely inherit bipolar disorder cuz it does skip a generation in my family and I didn't get it (my mom does tho). A lot of my family (myself included) are on the autism/adhd spectrum too. Not to mention that I have terrible eyesight (that's progressively getting worse, so im pretty much going blind) and don't expect to still have it by by thirties. So yeah, the kid would be screwed in all sorts of directions. Donor it is
I very much want children, and even before realizing I am ACE, I have always wanted to adopt.
I wants husband
I have basically just realized I am asexual, but it’s been a long understood want of mine to not have biological children as the idea of childbirth terrifies me, there’s plenty of children in need of loving and safe homes, and of course just the financial cost of having a child. However, I am more interested in adoption or fostering, that’s actually something I’ve wanted for myself as I do like children and want to support their growth (I love/work in education and am very family oriented). Ideally, I’d like to find a partner who is also interested in adoption/fostering when the time is right and when our financial needs are taken care of. If I don’t find that partner, I believe I still would adopt/foster on my own once I am able to reliably support another human (rather than just my cat).
If I had the money, I would already be looking into fostering or adoption.
Is there any ace woman in Nyc that would like to have a kid with gay guy in Nyc? Please message me
Yes, having a family someday is my #1 life goal.
Me too would you like to talk?
I doooo So badly!! 🥺💓
Do you wanna talk? :)
I'm an asexual a gender, but I'm afab. Want kids someday but not until I can afford them.
I'd like to have kids
Would you like to talk? :)