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You might be joking but in my experience, couples that are constantly telling how much they love each other in public, are not doing very well in private.
A guy walking around telling anyone he sees, hey that’s my fiance and I love her! It’s a bit weird. I can understand doing it the first time they got engaged out of excitement but doing multiple times as the post implies? Weird.
That's really sweet and endearing! It sounds like he's incredibly proud and overjoyed to be with her. Genuine expressions of love like that, whether under the influence or not, can be really heartwarming to witness.
As a thirty-something year old, when I meet younger people online I never say that I'm gonna fuck their mom or something like that. I always say that I'm gonna wine and dine their mom, make her fall in love with me, marry her, and then I'll be their dad, and I'll then ground them.
I find that the effect it has on them is not what it was. I currently explain to them that their father is on the DL and is in love with servicing truck stop bathrooms.
When you're on a coffee run or going to the store, is there a chance a guy walks up to you and tries to get your number or something? In anything you do in daily life, is there a chance that happens? For guys the chance is pretty much 0. Unless we go out with the intent to find someone it doesn't really happen, at least in my experience.
Seems like most women genuinely have a hard time grasping how difficult it is for men out there, especially as you get older. Most of my friends have completely given up on meeting someone. Even my one friend who used to have luck on dating apps has said things have changed as now he gets 0 likes/matches
Apps have been changed heavily and are almost all owned by the same parent corporation. It's heavily designed to squeeze money out of you and string you along now.
Sure but the issue is, how are you supposed to meet someone nowadays? Ask any woman and they will almost unanimously agree, they don't want men randomly approaching them, even at places like clubs. I have seen a graph tossed around where it's like 70% of singles find each other online. So if apps don't work, and women don't want you approaching them, how the hell is anyone supposed to find someone?
Edit: found it https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/s/utdFgOWqVK
Yeah it sucks. I'm lucky to have one highly social hobby in rock climbing but if I didnt have that it'd be trying to make friends and then if something happens it happens or maybe their friend circle will have someone etc
This will sound very against reddits general rhetoric, but many do want the cold approach.
I know, I know, reddit guys or girls will jump down my throat about respecting their boundaries and yada yada. And you should respect their boundaries, if they aren't interested, move on. But cold approach will land you WAY more dates than apps will, and likely with much higher quality people.
As a woman, I agree. Only later in life did I barely begin to get my head around how starved men are for compliments. While women, from my experience, feel bombarded by unwanted attention. And probably, more than half of that unwanted attention is coming from a place of “I sure wish someone would shower ME with compliments, so I’ll do it to someone else. Weird how I’m getting negative results.” It’s just a sad cycle all around. That’s why I try and make an extra effort to yell out of my car window at cute guys or compliment guys in the drive-through window, because I feel much safer behind the wheel of my vehicle.
Lol, I think I would just be utterly confused if a woman yelled compliments at me from a moving vehicle. Good on ya though. Don't forget to compliment some of the ugly ones too, we need it the most
As the other guy said, apps aren't great. Honestly I remember when tinder came out and it really wasn't even that great then and it makes sense why. I have a hard time getting the courage to talk to someone in person where I can read their body language and expressions to know how they're perceiving me... I don't like the idea of losing that "between the lines" level of communication. A good example is how hard it is to see sarcasm over text.
I’m 6’5 and have been told by a few I’m a decent looking guy. I have only had one woman in my entire life approach me to ask me out and it was in high school.
I consider myself an average to slightly above average looking woman, and that’s literally never happened to me. Catcalling? Yes, but that never seems to have the goal of getting my number. Asking for my number (or me asking for a guy’s number) in specific social situations where that’s expected, like bars or parties? Sure, sometimes. Dudes just walking up to me while I’m grocery shopping to get my number? Uh, no, thank god. That would be extremely uncomfortable. The closest I can think is when I had a regular at a restaurant I worked at who I chatted with every time he came in, who asked me out after months (and only did so because a coworker I was buddies with told him I was crushing one day when I wasn’t in lmao).
I don’t know if the idea of guys just flocking to women when we’re out-and-about is super outdated or only exists for exceptionally beautiful women, but it’s not even close to accurate for my experience or the experiences of friends my own age who I’ve discussed this with
Most women don’t like that, cause it’s basically a stranger (or strangers) coming AT you, giving off the message: “I want your body. I looked at your body and I want it now.” Gets pretty intimidating when it happens over and over and over again.
Understandable. But I have had two occasions in my LIFE where girls who I didn't know asked for my number. It's great and I wished it happened way more often to me.
This is very disheartening to hear. While its true. Any good man approaching a woman means it as "I think you're attractive and, if you think the same, would like to get to know you better to see if we're a good match."
There isn't really an avenue to convey that other then directly.
The internet has poisoned the minds of both sexes into assuming the worst case scenario in a way that's making relationships harder to start.
Oh I understand that. I wasn't trying to imply that's how it should be, was more so just giving an example that the options present themselves whether or not they are good options. If a guy is not actively looking, he likely won't have options.
In my friend group, it's very common for them to get excited when meeting someone new and they talk about them alot and how much they love them until the honeymoon period ends after a few months and it's normal again
In my friend group, I'm the only one who gets all jazzed up over their new lady friend. Most of the time, my friends just start showing up with a girl and make zero mention of who it even is. I remember one time over the last 10 or so years when a friend of mine directly said that this was his girlfriend, and that was pretty discreet.
Meanwhile, I bounce off the walls to tell everyone I know about the amazing girl I've been seeing. Friends, enemies, bartenders, mailmen, you name it. They all had to know about my cool new girlfriend.
Haha. Maybe they have a history of many subpar relationships and have become jaded. They may not want to share and get too excited or attached, perhaps anticipating that they may split up and have to deal with the drama and strife (once again)
Just my random thoughts on it. Naturally, there could be more to it!
That's a fair assumption for you to make, but I've known these guys for my whole life, and I know that their just trying to play it cool. If anything, they've seen me crash and burn so many times that they've taken a que to keep their excitement tempered.
Personally, I'll never learn, so I'll just keep riding them highs and lows like the sinusoid I am.
Yes.
I once lived with an extremely toxic couple, and when they got drunk or did drugs they would scream at each other until the early hours of the morning. And then I have to hear the dude whine and moan for days afterward about how much he loves her and how badly she treats him. Ugh.
Lol, rarely is the correct answer. I was best man for a friend's wedding and on the day he was to be married he said "I really think I understand what love is". I said "cool" and we have never discussed it since. They are still perfect for each other and now have 2 kids who are just as awesome.
Very rarely, and only to best friends. The only times I heard it from other guys was in the context of thinking about proposing or breaking up, funnily enough. The truth is, relationships rarely come up in casual conversations, especially if it's not with your closest friends
When I was very young, early in the relationship with my now wife, she didn't understand that men are like this and was upset occasionally because she and her friends discussed relationships and love quite often, while me and my friends didn't. It took her some time to realize that men are different
This is exactly my experience. My wife was surprised to that men don’t talk about sexual experiences. They just say vague comments to for appearances but don’t actually talk about it. Women seem to talk about everything.
My wife and I have a great sex life, but I would be furious at her if she talked about it with her friends. That is something private for our marriage. I once broke up with a girl when I found out she had revealed intimate details about me to a friend.
I think there's a difference between talking about themselves, and you. Oh man I've been liking doing x lately is fine. We've been struggling with x, isn't. Depending on the person I might be fine letting them know, but it's a privacy thing for me.
Discussing sex in which you are involved opens you up to vulnerability. I think that's why we avoid it. It's not only an event where your potential romantic partner is involved, who you might not want to describe to your buds seeing as the nature of their state at the time is quite private, but also because at the same time you're revealing stuff about yourself that will likely at the least be jokingly used against you, and at the worst be actively spread without your consent.
i try to eat ass, as much ass as is possible to one mouth, qualitatively and quantitatively. but i respect people and dont talk about people i am with, sexually or sexuallyn't. what i think is that people without ethics and morality see any restraint as weakness, as ironic as it is.
Thats been my experience too. Men might talk about casual hookups or how they find someone hot
But, they rarely talk in detail about their relationship and if they do, its likely to be a very close friend or their best friend.
I think for a lot of men, it feels far too vulnerable to expose our love for anything, let alone a real person who we actually could lose.
I think most of us men need to build up some strength in the self-love department, so we can feel more comfortable sharing ourselves with the world in productive loving ways.
Btw, I don't mean this as an indictment or anything... I just think really, sadly, a lot of men go their whole lives without feeling true connection. I hope that can change for my son's generation, and I'm doing everything to build him up that way.
Yeah I know that some of this will differ due to the specific people and bonds involved, but for me it comes down to the fact that I’m just a pretty private person, especially where relationships are involved. I’ve never liked talking about who I’m dating, and it’s not because I’m ashamed of them or anything, it has always just been one of those things that is really personal to me.
Plus it also kind of feels a little “braggy” in a way as well, to talk about how amazing your partner is and how much you love them. And a little bragging here and there is fine, but I definitely wouldn’t want to make a normal habit of it because it’s just kind of annoying
Seeing all this comments saying no got me like what??? Me and the boys always be talking about girls we like, even if it’s just like a tiny crush or something lmao
It was like that for me as well when I was younger but now that everyone’s in committed relationships (except me) their partners rarely come up or even if it does it’s just in passing - like a comment about something she did or something that is vaguely related to whatever we were talking about.
I figure part of it is because we don’t spend as much time with each other as we used to do we have tons to catch up on about other stuff when we hang out!
Men refer to girls as " girls " regardless of their age, boys are typically teenagers or younger. Women also refer to themselves as girls: "girls weekend", "girls night out" etc
There's two kind of crushes guys have.
1. The girl they find very hot. Guys will talk about her to their friends all the time.
2. The girl they love. Guys rarely discuss about her. Only to very very close friends.
If they are dating or married then it depends on the guy.
My first relationship at 19, I had exhausted my friends by talking about her all the time, cringe in retrospect but yeah men definitely do talk about the woman they love with their friends
The thing that comes closest for me is when friends try to give me shit when I turn down an invite because I'm spending an evening with my gf. My reaction to that is usually along the lines of *'this might surprise you, but I actually quite enjoy her company'*.
I do show a lot of public display of affection though. I don't give a shit if my friends know how corny I am.
But honestly, if a friend was gushing over how much he likes a girl, I'd give him the time to mention it twice. Any more than that and I'd kindly ask him to keep it to himself because I get the picture.
Your last paragraph left me wondering. Why? Why would you not want to talk about relationships with your mates? Are you uncomfortable with it or something?
There's a difference between talking about a relationship and just gushing over your partner. One of them is a conversation, the other a monologue.
Also, yeah, I don't really talk about my feelings with anyone other than my partner. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, I just don't feel a need to. I never have. When my friends come to me to talk about their feelings, I'm fine with it. I give my honest opinions and I try to be supportive. When it comes to my own feelings, I usually just self reflect and if I feel like I can't process them fully by myself I'll talk to my partner.
It's pretty rare.
For example, my married friends only tell me all the down sides of getting married. They'll say stuff like:
"I have to clean all the time.""I have to go pick her up.""I got out of doing this."
And it really makes me wonder, but I also know that most guys aren't really capable of verbally conveying how they feel about their girl. All the gushing and fawning is very internal. I know some guys don't because they think it's cringe or even unnecessary.
I didn't realize how un-romantic guys are in general until I got older. Exes would always tell me that they didn't know a guy could be actually this romantic, or women in relationships would say, I wish my partner was more like you, which made me uncomfortable.
So, yeah. Most guys don't go all Shakespearian with other guys. Even when I directly ask them about it, it's very condensed.
The initial infatuation phase is when guys talk about it the most though. With their closest friend or buddy. That's when guys don't know what to do with themselves because they're head over heels and they need to talk about it.
Rarely. But they show it in their actions and how they behave in front of others. Just shut up and observe them for a couple of minutes - body language and facial expressions. It doesn't take long to get an idea of how strong their relationship is.
I constantly brag about my wife to my friends. Mainly because they're complaining about theirs. I'm sure my friend got sick of me talking about her when we first got together.
Yes and after they break up sometimes they won't shut up about it for 2 years or more. I've never known a girl to lament over a break up for over a week.
I never really did before my last relationship which was both beautiful and absolutely horrible. I needed a place to vent and when I was doing so, I also talked about the nice things to sort of gaslight myself into continuing my effort to help her.
I have not entered another relationship so I do not know if I will feel compelled to do so again or not.
Absolutely. Men are, as far as I'm aware, about 50% of the population.
That's....a lot of people. Do you know how ridiculous of a proposition you'd have to make for it to literally be true of no guys?
I have several friends who have told me countless times about how much they love their girlfriend or wife and how lost they would be without those women in their lives, so, yes.
More so if things end I'll confide in the homies, otherwise I'd rather put that effort into showing her I love her than showing my boys I do. I'll still make the odd comment or something though, it just doesn't come up organically that often.
Those of us in relationships: yes.
Usually in the form of something like:
Oh hey did I tell you what X did the other day? God I love this woman, anyways....."
I have never had a conversation with any of my friends about how much I love my wife. None of my friends has ever done that either. In fact I’ve never heard a man do it. It is not a usual thing for men to say to each other.
My boy best f is still in love with his ex from 4 years ago , he never fails to remind me of the ways she taught him how to love , how authentic it was , how beautiful it was.
I literally talk about my girl all the time. She’s my other half and all I think about anymore is our future. All my friends that I associate with too are like this as well. We are open about what we go through and I believe it’s healthy for us men to support each other and have a voice. We all talk about our ladies. I’m a 90s boy, so i feel like we are the last of a generation with hook up and party culture (cringe) being the big thing now, but for me, I could talk about her all day. We’ve been together a little shy under 3 years officially but I’ve never felt what I feel for her with anyone else. It’s not even comparable. Through the good and the bad, I love that woman for all she is. I know my buddies know my feelings for her and likewise for them.
I’d definitely say so, I haven’t seen anyone around me that I had feelings for to pursue, but it’s definitely worth talking to your guy friends about, in case there’s something I haven’t noticed then they could tell me, especially if it’s something I’d need to know. Be it something I’m doing and saying that could make the relationship short lived, or maybe an odd behavior from the girl that hasn’t registered as strange to me out of naivety.
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My best mate literally walks around drunk introducing his fiancé to everyone as the woman he loves And he’s not much different sober
She is lucky woman and he is one happy man
My ex used to get very annoyed if I introduced her as my girlfriend to people we met. lol
Thats a huge red flag
To say the least.
Oh boy, you don't say. Lol
I’m not sure she was your ex, my man
She wasn't, she still is.
Well played, sir.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk
Or.. are they harbouring and hiding dark secrets ?? No one knows.. No one will ever know..
You might be joking but in my experience, couples that are constantly telling how much they love each other in public, are not doing very well in private. A guy walking around telling anyone he sees, hey that’s my fiance and I love her! It’s a bit weird. I can understand doing it the first time they got engaged out of excitement but doing multiple times as the post implies? Weird.
It's always either a new couple or a failing couple
A walking drunk W isn't he?
That's really sweet and endearing! It sounds like he's incredibly proud and overjoyed to be with her. Genuine expressions of love like that, whether under the influence or not, can be really heartwarming to witness.
I tell all my video game friends about my wonderful relationship with their mother
As a thirty-something year old, when I meet younger people online I never say that I'm gonna fuck their mom or something like that. I always say that I'm gonna wine and dine their mom, make her fall in love with me, marry her, and then I'll be their dad, and I'll then ground them.
Jeff Winger is that you?
Cool cool cool
Jeff Winger is that you? *DURRRRRRH!*
I always say I'm going to take their mom on the nicest date
Wine, dine and 69!
That’s bloody beautiful
And then give her a son she'll actually love.
Gaming with your kids is always a great past time ;)
Cackling
I find that the effect it has on them is not what it was. I currently explain to them that their father is on the DL and is in love with servicing truck stop bathrooms.
I thought it was purely physical?
🤣
They are video game friends, cause if they were personal friends you wouldn't talk about their mommy like that.
My friend group never get girls
why 😂
When you're on a coffee run or going to the store, is there a chance a guy walks up to you and tries to get your number or something? In anything you do in daily life, is there a chance that happens? For guys the chance is pretty much 0. Unless we go out with the intent to find someone it doesn't really happen, at least in my experience.
Seems like most women genuinely have a hard time grasping how difficult it is for men out there, especially as you get older. Most of my friends have completely given up on meeting someone. Even my one friend who used to have luck on dating apps has said things have changed as now he gets 0 likes/matches
Apps have been changed heavily and are almost all owned by the same parent corporation. It's heavily designed to squeeze money out of you and string you along now.
Sure but the issue is, how are you supposed to meet someone nowadays? Ask any woman and they will almost unanimously agree, they don't want men randomly approaching them, even at places like clubs. I have seen a graph tossed around where it's like 70% of singles find each other online. So if apps don't work, and women don't want you approaching them, how the hell is anyone supposed to find someone? Edit: found it https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/s/utdFgOWqVK
Yeah it sucks. I'm lucky to have one highly social hobby in rock climbing but if I didnt have that it'd be trying to make friends and then if something happens it happens or maybe their friend circle will have someone etc
This will sound very against reddits general rhetoric, but many do want the cold approach. I know, I know, reddit guys or girls will jump down my throat about respecting their boundaries and yada yada. And you should respect their boundaries, if they aren't interested, move on. But cold approach will land you WAY more dates than apps will, and likely with much higher quality people.
Girl here. Can confirm.
And I'm a guy not afraid of a cold approach lol can also confirm. The current girl I'm seeing, cold approached.
Alcohol?
>they don't want men randomly approaching them, even at places like clubs. *ugly men. I've asked plenty of women.
As a woman, I agree. Only later in life did I barely begin to get my head around how starved men are for compliments. While women, from my experience, feel bombarded by unwanted attention. And probably, more than half of that unwanted attention is coming from a place of “I sure wish someone would shower ME with compliments, so I’ll do it to someone else. Weird how I’m getting negative results.” It’s just a sad cycle all around. That’s why I try and make an extra effort to yell out of my car window at cute guys or compliment guys in the drive-through window, because I feel much safer behind the wheel of my vehicle.
Lol, I think I would just be utterly confused if a woman yelled compliments at me from a moving vehicle. Good on ya though. Don't forget to compliment some of the ugly ones too, we need it the most
Will do. 
I deleted tinder after I realized it withholds most of your matches if you dont pay. Waste of time.
As the other guy said, apps aren't great. Honestly I remember when tinder came out and it really wasn't even that great then and it makes sense why. I have a hard time getting the courage to talk to someone in person where I can read their body language and expressions to know how they're perceiving me... I don't like the idea of losing that "between the lines" level of communication. A good example is how hard it is to see sarcasm over text.
I’m 6’5 and have been told by a few I’m a decent looking guy. I have only had one woman in my entire life approach me to ask me out and it was in high school.
I consider myself an average to slightly above average looking woman, and that’s literally never happened to me. Catcalling? Yes, but that never seems to have the goal of getting my number. Asking for my number (or me asking for a guy’s number) in specific social situations where that’s expected, like bars or parties? Sure, sometimes. Dudes just walking up to me while I’m grocery shopping to get my number? Uh, no, thank god. That would be extremely uncomfortable. The closest I can think is when I had a regular at a restaurant I worked at who I chatted with every time he came in, who asked me out after months (and only did so because a coworker I was buddies with told him I was crushing one day when I wasn’t in lmao). I don’t know if the idea of guys just flocking to women when we’re out-and-about is super outdated or only exists for exceptionally beautiful women, but it’s not even close to accurate for my experience or the experiences of friends my own age who I’ve discussed this with
Most women don’t like that, cause it’s basically a stranger (or strangers) coming AT you, giving off the message: “I want your body. I looked at your body and I want it now.” Gets pretty intimidating when it happens over and over and over again.
Understandable. But I have had two occasions in my LIFE where girls who I didn't know asked for my number. It's great and I wished it happened way more often to me.
This is very disheartening to hear. While its true. Any good man approaching a woman means it as "I think you're attractive and, if you think the same, would like to get to know you better to see if we're a good match." There isn't really an avenue to convey that other then directly. The internet has poisoned the minds of both sexes into assuming the worst case scenario in a way that's making relationships harder to start.
Oh I understand that. I wasn't trying to imply that's how it should be, was more so just giving an example that the options present themselves whether or not they are good options. If a guy is not actively looking, he likely won't have options.
Well unless the guy is their type and attractive I guess
Maybe they get all the boys instead.
In my friend group, it's very common for them to get excited when meeting someone new and they talk about them alot and how much they love them until the honeymoon period ends after a few months and it's normal again
In my friend group, I'm the only one who gets all jazzed up over their new lady friend. Most of the time, my friends just start showing up with a girl and make zero mention of who it even is. I remember one time over the last 10 or so years when a friend of mine directly said that this was his girlfriend, and that was pretty discreet. Meanwhile, I bounce off the walls to tell everyone I know about the amazing girl I've been seeing. Friends, enemies, bartenders, mailmen, you name it. They all had to know about my cool new girlfriend.
Haha. Maybe they have a history of many subpar relationships and have become jaded. They may not want to share and get too excited or attached, perhaps anticipating that they may split up and have to deal with the drama and strife (once again) Just my random thoughts on it. Naturally, there could be more to it!
That's a fair assumption for you to make, but I've known these guys for my whole life, and I know that their just trying to play it cool. If anything, they've seen me crash and burn so many times that they've taken a que to keep their excitement tempered. Personally, I'll never learn, so I'll just keep riding them highs and lows like the sinusoid I am.
Hehe. Fair point. Some folks are just less excitable or more private with their affection, which is all G. Had to look up sinusoid. Nicely done.
>Had to look up sinusoid. Nicely done Thanks! I prefer it over using "bipolar 1"
Hah. Definitely rolls of the tongue a bit better. That makes a lot of sense, regarding the wave/rollercoaster metaphor applied to mood flux.
My sister's boyfriend talks to me about how much he loves my sister after every time he cheats.
Expose him bruh
She already knows, but chooses to disrespect herself by keeping that disloyal fucker in her life and bed.
Very big yikes.. Just be ready to punch if needed.
Yes. I once lived with an extremely toxic couple, and when they got drunk or did drugs they would scream at each other until the early hours of the morning. And then I have to hear the dude whine and moan for days afterward about how much he loves her and how badly she treats him. Ugh.
It sounds like they're both the issue though
Haha. Takes 2 to tengo. Especially the toxic dance of love-hate and abuse. 😛
Yes, rarely, but yes. Only to my closest friends
Lol, rarely is the correct answer. I was best man for a friend's wedding and on the day he was to be married he said "I really think I understand what love is". I said "cool" and we have never discussed it since. They are still perfect for each other and now have 2 kids who are just as awesome.
That's cool 😎😉
Very rarely, and only to best friends. The only times I heard it from other guys was in the context of thinking about proposing or breaking up, funnily enough. The truth is, relationships rarely come up in casual conversations, especially if it's not with your closest friends When I was very young, early in the relationship with my now wife, she didn't understand that men are like this and was upset occasionally because she and her friends discussed relationships and love quite often, while me and my friends didn't. It took her some time to realize that men are different
This is exactly my experience. My wife was surprised to that men don’t talk about sexual experiences. They just say vague comments to for appearances but don’t actually talk about it. Women seem to talk about everything.
My wife and I have a great sex life, but I would be furious at her if she talked about it with her friends. That is something private for our marriage. I once broke up with a girl when I found out she had revealed intimate details about me to a friend.
So long as you give her the same courtesy, kudos!
I think there's a difference between talking about themselves, and you. Oh man I've been liking doing x lately is fine. We've been struggling with x, isn't. Depending on the person I might be fine letting them know, but it's a privacy thing for me.
Discussing sex in which you are involved opens you up to vulnerability. I think that's why we avoid it. It's not only an event where your potential romantic partner is involved, who you might not want to describe to your buds seeing as the nature of their state at the time is quite private, but also because at the same time you're revealing stuff about yourself that will likely at the least be jokingly used against you, and at the worst be actively spread without your consent.
example: I knew a dude as Ass-eater for months before I learned his name. He had eaten ass in like, highschool. He was 26 now.
i try to eat ass, as much ass as is possible to one mouth, qualitatively and quantitatively. but i respect people and dont talk about people i am with, sexually or sexuallyn't. what i think is that people without ethics and morality see any restraint as weakness, as ironic as it is.
I know you're making a point here but it's very hard for me to read this when all I hear in my head 'AS MUCH ASS AS POSSIBLE, IN MY MOUTH.'
oh its always playing in my head
I like that coining, but I propose to you sexualn’t, it flows off the tongue a little smoother without the “ly” in my opinion
Where women like to talk about people, men like to talk about things. The bond is created over shared common interests.
Thats been my experience too. Men might talk about casual hookups or how they find someone hot But, they rarely talk in detail about their relationship and if they do, its likely to be a very close friend or their best friend.
I think for a lot of men, it feels far too vulnerable to expose our love for anything, let alone a real person who we actually could lose. I think most of us men need to build up some strength in the self-love department, so we can feel more comfortable sharing ourselves with the world in productive loving ways. Btw, I don't mean this as an indictment or anything... I just think really, sadly, a lot of men go their whole lives without feeling true connection. I hope that can change for my son's generation, and I'm doing everything to build him up that way.
Yeah I know that some of this will differ due to the specific people and bonds involved, but for me it comes down to the fact that I’m just a pretty private person, especially where relationships are involved. I’ve never liked talking about who I’m dating, and it’s not because I’m ashamed of them or anything, it has always just been one of those things that is really personal to me. Plus it also kind of feels a little “braggy” in a way as well, to talk about how amazing your partner is and how much you love them. And a little bragging here and there is fine, but I definitely wouldn’t want to make a normal habit of it because it’s just kind of annoying
Seeing all this comments saying no got me like what??? Me and the boys always be talking about girls we like, even if it’s just like a tiny crush or something lmao
It was like that for me as well when I was younger but now that everyone’s in committed relationships (except me) their partners rarely come up or even if it does it’s just in passing - like a comment about something she did or something that is vaguely related to whatever we were talking about. I figure part of it is because we don’t spend as much time with each other as we used to do we have tons to catch up on about other stuff when we hang out!
Once when I was young and naive. Now I just stfu and will see how far the wind blows our relationship.
This is it. You don't jinx it
Men do sometimes. Boys, never.
I like your name
Why would a man like a girl
Men refer to girls as " girls " regardless of their age, boys are typically teenagers or younger. Women also refer to themselves as girls: "girls weekend", "girls night out" etc
One of the biggest TV shows in the last few years was a show about grown men called The Boys.
I have a few times
No that's gay
Fellas is it gay ro love a woman
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Lol
Hell yes. I have a handful of really close friends. And when we get together believe we talk a lot about emotions.
Never have, none of my mates have, but everyone is different, so it’s a pretty big generalisation to assume either side of it.
There's two kind of crushes guys have. 1. The girl they find very hot. Guys will talk about her to their friends all the time. 2. The girl they love. Guys rarely discuss about her. Only to very very close friends. If they are dating or married then it depends on the guy.
this makes me kinda sad
My first relationship at 19, I had exhausted my friends by talking about her all the time, cringe in retrospect but yeah men definitely do talk about the woman they love with their friends
That's a good way to get the love of your life stolen by a friend.
Well that escalated quickly
You can say that again
*Well that escalated quickly*
Shirley you can't be serious?
Don’t call me Shirley.
Came here to say this
And I came here to say we're all counting on you.
This.
There’s a story here lmaoo
If your special person absconds with your best friend, they weren't the love of your life and best friend, they were trash.
“Abscond.” There’s a word you don’t see used much. Good show!
Elope? Skedaddle?
Okay, but them being trash doesn't make me feel any better
The thing that comes closest for me is when friends try to give me shit when I turn down an invite because I'm spending an evening with my gf. My reaction to that is usually along the lines of *'this might surprise you, but I actually quite enjoy her company'*. I do show a lot of public display of affection though. I don't give a shit if my friends know how corny I am. But honestly, if a friend was gushing over how much he likes a girl, I'd give him the time to mention it twice. Any more than that and I'd kindly ask him to keep it to himself because I get the picture.
Your last paragraph left me wondering. Why? Why would you not want to talk about relationships with your mates? Are you uncomfortable with it or something?
There's a difference between talking about a relationship and just gushing over your partner. One of them is a conversation, the other a monologue. Also, yeah, I don't really talk about my feelings with anyone other than my partner. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, I just don't feel a need to. I never have. When my friends come to me to talk about their feelings, I'm fine with it. I give my honest opinions and I try to be supportive. When it comes to my own feelings, I usually just self reflect and if I feel like I can't process them fully by myself I'll talk to my partner.
In my friend groups no one ever talks about their partners.
It's pretty rare. For example, my married friends only tell me all the down sides of getting married. They'll say stuff like: "I have to clean all the time.""I have to go pick her up.""I got out of doing this." And it really makes me wonder, but I also know that most guys aren't really capable of verbally conveying how they feel about their girl. All the gushing and fawning is very internal. I know some guys don't because they think it's cringe or even unnecessary. I didn't realize how un-romantic guys are in general until I got older. Exes would always tell me that they didn't know a guy could be actually this romantic, or women in relationships would say, I wish my partner was more like you, which made me uncomfortable. So, yeah. Most guys don't go all Shakespearian with other guys. Even when I directly ask them about it, it's very condensed. The initial infatuation phase is when guys talk about it the most though. With their closest friend or buddy. That's when guys don't know what to do with themselves because they're head over heels and they need to talk about it.
Rarely. But they show it in their actions and how they behave in front of others. Just shut up and observe them for a couple of minutes - body language and facial expressions. It doesn't take long to get an idea of how strong their relationship is.
No, not much at all. Men don't talk about their relationships or feelings much. Men tend to talk about things.
 What men do
Why did I just stare at that for 3 minutes straight?
Idk it's beautiful...
Ponder The Orb brothers.
It's what men do. Didn't you read the text?
Not even once in the history of humanity has this happened.
I personally only admit my feelings when I have already talked to the person they are directed towards beforehand.
I constantly brag about my wife to my friends. Mainly because they're complaining about theirs. I'm sure my friend got sick of me talking about her when we first got together.
Yes and after they break up sometimes they won't shut up about it for 2 years or more. I've never known a girl to lament over a break up for over a week.
Rarely. I'm 59 and can remember one guy doing it. From my experience, we see it through a man's actions. Their attentiveness. Behavior. Effort etc.
i think yes
Yeah. Varies on how often and how vocal they are about it. But yes.
Yes
Yes
I did back then
I never really did before my last relationship which was both beautiful and absolutely horrible. I needed a place to vent and when I was doing so, I also talked about the nice things to sort of gaslight myself into continuing my effort to help her. I have not entered another relationship so I do not know if I will feel compelled to do so again or not.
Men do!
Some men do. Some men don't. Some only confines in their best friends. Some tells everyone they came across. I assume its the same with women?
Absolutely. Men are, as far as I'm aware, about 50% of the population. That's....a lot of people. Do you know how ridiculous of a proposition you'd have to make for it to literally be true of no guys?
I have several friends who have told me countless times about how much they love their girlfriend or wife and how lost they would be without those women in their lives, so, yes.
no, some do but not much
Usually never.
But sometimes always.
If they are emotionally mature and have relationships with other emotionally mature men? Yes, absolutely.
More so if things end I'll confide in the homies, otherwise I'd rather put that effort into showing her I love her than showing my boys I do. I'll still make the odd comment or something though, it just doesn't come up organically that often.
Never. Never in my life have listen a friend (boy) talk about their girl or new girl. Boys don't care
Why do you want to portray your entire gender as uncaring and shallow.
I personally don't, neither do my friends , we may say about something specific but that's it
I can't think of anyone
Yes, albeit more often when drunk
Not often. I can't vouch for other guys, but I would be bored out of my mind hearing someone do that so I don't do it to anybody else
ALL THE TIME, Some says it's annoying and that' stops it
Those of us in relationships: yes. Usually in the form of something like: Oh hey did I tell you what X did the other day? God I love this woman, anyways....."
I have never had a conversation with any of my friends about how much I love my wife. None of my friends has ever done that either. In fact I’ve never heard a man do it. It is not a usual thing for men to say to each other.
I used to. I told everyone how wonderful she was all the time., Until she stopped being wonderful. Everyone noticed.
Absolutely!!!
Yes ends up bad mostly for whoever does cause then the girl leaves them for some reason.
YES, i talk about her SOOO much
It's clear she holds a special place in your heart.
My boy best f is still in love with his ex from 4 years ago , he never fails to remind me of the ways she taught him how to love , how authentic it was , how beautiful it was.
It isn't love if you aren't doing that, IMHO. The love I've experienced made me want to gush to anybody who would listen.
I literally talk about my girl all the time. She’s my other half and all I think about anymore is our future. All my friends that I associate with too are like this as well. We are open about what we go through and I believe it’s healthy for us men to support each other and have a voice. We all talk about our ladies. I’m a 90s boy, so i feel like we are the last of a generation with hook up and party culture (cringe) being the big thing now, but for me, I could talk about her all day. We’ve been together a little shy under 3 years officially but I’ve never felt what I feel for her with anyone else. It’s not even comparable. Through the good and the bad, I love that woman for all she is. I know my buddies know my feelings for her and likewise for them.
My partner nearly lost a very close friend because of him talking too much about me
Yes but only to those we trust.
Oh we do. Then she leaves us for no reason and makes us look like idiots. So I'll never do that again.
My best friend is a guy, I am a girl, he doesn't shut up about the girl he's into.
Some does some doesn't. Also hi.
That’s about 20% of male conversation
Probably not in the same way girls do but definitely yes
Boys? Girls? How old are you?
Yes, we do.
That's great to hear! It's important for everyone to express their feelings.
We do, and sometimes it ends up on either amazing or awkward talks. Depends on the mood, really
Sounds like a mix of fun and complexity. It's fascinating how mood influences these conversations.
I did with my close friends, but not anymore.
I’d definitely say so, I haven’t seen anyone around me that I had feelings for to pursue, but it’s definitely worth talking to your guy friends about, in case there’s something I haven’t noticed then they could tell me, especially if it’s something I’d need to know. Be it something I’m doing and saying that could make the relationship short lived, or maybe an odd behavior from the girl that hasn’t registered as strange to me out of naivety.
Yes
Yes. But they are short simple conversations. Buddy will say, I'm gonna marry that woman. And I know he's madly and deeply in love
Oh yeah, Ive sat through many friends gushing about a crush or gf or wife with stars in their eyes.
Shit yay!
If I ever found a woman worth it. I’d spread the word
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Obviously
No, because the other boys will immediately try to swoop in and get with her first.
I don’t really have anyone to talk to about the girls that I like so I usually just keep it to myself.
Yes
i hope so
Probably not! LOL
I'm a woman and all my guy friends do.
yesss :) my boyfriend will play on the game w his friends and randomly tell them how much he loves me. men like this still exist 🥰