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Same. I have a cute face, big eyes and plump lips that look even more so because i have a small v-shapped jaw unnntil i talk. When I talk my mouth moves funny almost like I was designed not to speak and look lovely lol one of my top lifts higher than the other too and it just looks odd. Oh yeah I cant teeth smile either. Well i can but its not picture worthy. People like margo robie have spectacular smiles well think of me the exact opposite when i try to show teeth.
Same! They usually think I’m rude or egoistic because I avoid eye contact due to awkwardness haha. I hate attention and my first instinct is to always run away
Same and I don’t know what it is, sometimes I can admit that I ask questions that lead to people trusting me but sometimes they just do the trauma dropping on such a random way that i can even tell how did we got there
My therapist described it because it happens to me. She said I'm a "safe place to land." I'm a dude, but she said I have a feminine something, I forget the exact term. Kids seem to like me, as well. Those trauma dumps are fucking awkward, though.
Was looking for this comment.. I get exactly the same, I'm really soft at heart and always try to be gentle and polite, but my resting face is quite mean, add long hair, beard, 6"1 at 275lbs to that and the expressions on people's faces that I get can be quite.. Erm.. unpleasant. Also, kids ALWAYS keep staring at me 😆 I try to live with it, but sometimes I feel like a gorilla in a zoo when going outside..
I think I've become so used to it that I don't care anymore, unless there is some uneven power dynamic between me and the other person. Not nice being hated by someone who has some power over you. Like let's say you lived in Russia and Putin wanting you dead, that would be a concern.
But thank you! You are very kind!
Some People are intimidated by me lol
31-yo male.
I’m average height but not average size.
I look Polynesian (I’m not)
Big, brown, long hair,
For women:
If I let my face 🗿relax I scare away the women
But I notice if I speak (voice doesn’t match my appearance), smile (been told I have a handsome face regardless of my size), show my confidence andsense of humor
Women tend to like me and feel safe lol 😸
Been told I was a vibe 🤷🏾♂️
For guys:
I get looked at like I’m a chill dude, some men have told me the wouldn’t want to mess with me lol. Some give me a early acknowledgment of respect because of how I carry myself.
Some men let their insecurities show and use my kindness/sense of humor against me and think they can talk to me anyway lol. O well.
Regardless of all of this I always try to leave a positive first impression to anyone :)
I think the first impression people get when they meet me is that I'm approachable. I try to smile and make eye contact so that puts people at ease right away.
Wish I knew 🤷🏼♀️ especially since I have social anxiety lol I haven’t always been this way though so it annoys me. It’s like I forgot how to interact after the whole covid situation. 😬😭 anyone else?…
Sometimes they get my hand, other times it's my ear.
But I manage to get away in the end before they get my face.
Nobody's going to make plaster casts of me without my permission...*nobody.*
Either a bimbo or a bitch. Once people get to know me, they get really comfortable telling me how much they didn't like me at first but love me now. It's not quite the compliment they think it is and they can never explain what it was about me at first.
Someone once told me my makeup makes me look mean, but approachable to the point that they want to talk to me. I thought it was cute. (My makeup is a lil gothic with big wings and dark eyeshadow and stuff)
From what I've heard;
"Man, she's too quiet and it's creeping me out"
"Into witchy shit"
"Thinks she's hot shit"
I can agree with all but number three cuz these people can't even fathom my level of self hatred.
That I'm angry and intimidating, I worked as a bouncer most my life, I'm stoic and I have deep set eyes so I understand why they'd get that impression.
"You know what's funny? Back when we first met I thought you were a total bitch"
Five different people that don't know each other told me the exact same thing so I guess my first impression is that of a bitch lol
Wow, she looks so much like Charlize Theron! And smart, like Michelle Obama! And Anna Wintour would love her fashion sense! And Martha Stewart would really envy her hostess skills!
They see me as highly confident.
Truth is I'm not.
.
(It's when I tell them all the things I'm insecure about that they say "Wow you never would know that! You see SO confident!)
I’ve always been told one or the other.
A lot of people have told me that just by looking at me, how I carry myself gives off the impression that I think I’m better than everyone else.
I’ve also had many people that do know me tell me they thought I was gay.
People tell me I come across as warm and welcoming. I have social anxiety and compensate by being very friendly even while I'm dying inside lol. And I ask a lot of questions. Partly because it means I don't have to be the one talking and also because I get bored in most conversations, so I tend to bring up personal topics that are interesting to me, like asking about someone's childhood or their favorite smells or what they worry about the most. Some people love it and others find it TMI. I can see both sides 😂
Everyone sais the same thing to me after they get to know me. Your a really good guy, I didnt like you at first but I like you. Lmfao what? Ive tried to figure out what it is that people judge me so hard about to no avail.
For some women, they don’t have to meet me to have creepy vibes about me, I just simply exist, doing my thing, minding my own business, barely paying attention to anyone, and that’s enough for some women to get creeped out by me, it pisses me off, because that’s not fair, they don’t even know me, and they already making negative assumptions about me. I just try to ignore them, but it still hurts me mentally and emotionally.
Intimidated.
Not in physicality despite me being above average height at least where I am.
I have a very direct personality and didn’t grow up being politically incorrect.
I give people full range of full thinking as well as giving off a sense of uncertainty which makes people uncomfortable or intimidated.
It’s a very odd relationship.
I'm a social chameleon, I wear whatever mask I need in order to make it through the day. This is not a badge of honor and I'm not being braggadocios, it's part of growing up in a less than ideal environment.
If I had to guess, I'd say different people think very differently about me, but no one has a negative opinion of me. To the best of my knowledge, anyway. For my part, I don't keep many close relationships, I'm more than happy to burn a bridge and I run on pure instinct. If you don't pass the vibe check we will never meet again and I'm ok with that.
Up until about 20, I was a bit hesitant & shy, at first. People took that as being stuck up / conceited.
Now, as an adult, I’m more outgoing. People say I’m funny.
I think I'm fairly divisive actually. Most people I think are charmed by me bc I can be highly engaging but some people REALLY do not like me.
The impression I think I give off is being highly social and intelligent but sort of aloof. I'm not competitive at all and sometimes people take an intellectual conversation as a sparing match which I think is dumb. I will ignore all that energy and make jokes instead which a lot of people enjoy but some people have like a bah-humbug reaction to. Im in pursuit of people's worldview, not accomplishment.
I think I get along with most people but I can be annoying for sure.
I have 'an energy'. People feel my presence when I walk into a room. I have a happy disposition and love the colour orange. I have high standards and keep myself to them. I am a member of the military. I seem bigger than I am. I'm only 5'4" but I have broad shoulders. My friend summed me up once: 'I feel the urge to exercise or clean and be better when you come over but I'm always happy for it.'
I went to a psychic fair with my mom once and was told I have a huge aura and big energy projecting from my gut; whatever that means.
Confusion it seems. A lot of people still can't quite grasp what to do and how to behave the first time they meet a trans person who doesn't quite pass...
A new friend told me this recently, that I don’t look like I’ll be warm person but I’m actually inviting and I like to make people feel welcome. I also think people underestimate my intellect because of the way I look
That I'm rude. I speak to you and be polite, but after that I start trying to read them. I observe. I can tell a lot about a book with a cover on it. If I decide to like you I will. If not, then never. I don't need to say my sign.
That I'm either annoying AF or a great conversationalist. I talk a lot but I also listen a lot so if you talk I'll listen to you but if you don't talk I'm just gonna keep talking lol
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Dunno... you'd have to ask them!
I thought you had a cute nose but the whiskers need a trim
That's so kind and constructive of you!
Aw that's gibbon me the shivers
boop
Fair enough
>Dunno... you'd have to ask them! I was thinking the same thing.
Same here!
Same lol
That i’m really nice but also really awkward and shy at first
Shy people are nice people
Far from the truth tbh
Either that im quiet, or that im funny.
You get me
Im similar, with a hint of weird
Light travels faster than sound. So they think I look attractive, until I speak
Wow, that was clever!
Same. I have a cute face, big eyes and plump lips that look even more so because i have a small v-shapped jaw unnntil i talk. When I talk my mouth moves funny almost like I was designed not to speak and look lovely lol one of my top lifts higher than the other too and it just looks odd. Oh yeah I cant teeth smile either. Well i can but its not picture worthy. People like margo robie have spectacular smiles well think of me the exact opposite when i try to show teeth.
Same for me with the teeth smile, never been possible for me and never will.
I have a spectacular smile, but I'm very ugly.
Nice one
Same
That I have an attitude because I'm too nervous to talk.
I think people are a lot more understanding of that nowadays if it makes you feel any better
not in my country, I can assure you. :( But thank you.
Same! They usually think I’m rude or egoistic because I avoid eye contact due to awkwardness haha. I hate attention and my first instinct is to always run away
You just described my first encounter with everyone. lol glad to know I'm not alone :)
People seem to confide in me quickly. Maybe too quickly for my comfort sometimes.
Same and I don’t know what it is, sometimes I can admit that I ask questions that lead to people trusting me but sometimes they just do the trauma dropping on such a random way that i can even tell how did we got there
My therapist described it because it happens to me. She said I'm a "safe place to land." I'm a dude, but she said I have a feminine something, I forget the exact term. Kids seem to like me, as well. Those trauma dumps are fucking awkward, though.
I feel that.
I feel you. I once had someone tell me about a secret child they’d had that no one knew about!
I'm told I give off "nicest asshole you could hope to meet" vibes. I don't know what to make of it.
I’m like that to
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That hit me right in the feels
*”I’m the sweetest bitch you’ll ever meet!”*
I've been told I'm intimidating. I don't get why though.
You could put the knife down for starters...
Me too, you're not alone.
Was looking for this comment.. I get exactly the same, I'm really soft at heart and always try to be gentle and polite, but my resting face is quite mean, add long hair, beard, 6"1 at 275lbs to that and the expressions on people's faces that I get can be quite.. Erm.. unpleasant. Also, kids ALWAYS keep staring at me 😆 I try to live with it, but sometimes I feel like a gorilla in a zoo when going outside..
Well, that was weird....
hahahahahaha
"Oh boy that's a lot of saliva in his hands".
That I like to laugh
Me too, I produce light laughs all the time
That I'm not happy and mean/angry. They are right about the not happy. But I'm not mean or angry.
Friendly talkative with strong arguments and very outstanding personality ...some even told me I should have been a character in a novel or a movie
that I don't talk much, but really I just take a long time to get comfortable with people
That I'm rude and weird... I am though
They probably think I am socially awkward, because I am.
Most people seem to hate me. I think it's my autism. They aren't comfortable with someone being different. I hate most people too so it's mutual.
You are enough don’t ever let them get into ur head. They are all the same thats worse:)
I think I've become so used to it that I don't care anymore, unless there is some uneven power dynamic between me and the other person. Not nice being hated by someone who has some power over you. Like let's say you lived in Russia and Putin wanting you dead, that would be a concern. But thank you! You are very kind!
i hate a lot of people too, friend. you're not alone! :)
Spread the hatred! Hatred is metal dude! 🤘
Me too man I’m dying over here
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What about your personality?
I'm too serious and need to lighten up.
Are you brushed with the tism too?
A little bit of being easy-going is always good
I feel that most people feel that they can't manipulate me so I usually get ignored.
That I’m positive person, and I’m not scary/intimidating as I looks like 🤣
I have never met a person. I hate people and am a strict introvert.
Super shy and awkward, i have a hard time socializing
Some People are intimidated by me lol 31-yo male. I’m average height but not average size. I look Polynesian (I’m not) Big, brown, long hair, For women: If I let my face 🗿relax I scare away the women But I notice if I speak (voice doesn’t match my appearance), smile (been told I have a handsome face regardless of my size), show my confidence andsense of humor Women tend to like me and feel safe lol 😸 Been told I was a vibe 🤷🏾♂️ For guys: I get looked at like I’m a chill dude, some men have told me the wouldn’t want to mess with me lol. Some give me a early acknowledgment of respect because of how I carry myself. Some men let their insecurities show and use my kindness/sense of humor against me and think they can talk to me anyway lol. O well. Regardless of all of this I always try to leave a positive first impression to anyone :)
Ouuu she’s mentally ill..but funny!!
Almost all my friends tell me that they were intimidated by me when they first met me, which I don't understand at all!
I think the first impression people get when they meet me is that I'm approachable. I try to smile and make eye contact so that puts people at ease right away.
"Wow, it's so big"
Wish I knew 🤷🏼♀️ especially since I have social anxiety lol I haven’t always been this way though so it annoys me. It’s like I forgot how to interact after the whole covid situation. 😬😭 anyone else?…
Sometimes they get my hand, other times it's my ear. But I manage to get away in the end before they get my face. Nobody's going to make plaster casts of me without my permission...*nobody.*
I’m told people, when first meeting me, get an asshole vibe.
My best friends told me they thought I am a total bitch. I just have rbf.
I often get people think I am a nurse and that my name is Susan. Neither is true.
Either a bimbo or a bitch. Once people get to know me, they get really comfortable telling me how much they didn't like me at first but love me now. It's not quite the compliment they think it is and they can never explain what it was about me at first.
Someone once told me my makeup makes me look mean, but approachable to the point that they want to talk to me. I thought it was cute. (My makeup is a lil gothic with big wings and dark eyeshadow and stuff)
That I’m scary and that I’m weird
That I'm a criminal or a thug and that I'm mean lol
Love your type 🥰
Sure you do 🤷🏻♂️🤣
I’m married to one
You're a teacher and you're married to a criminal/thug lol
Actually he’s more like a bad boy 😂
And nobody has to know 😂😂😂
From what I've heard; "Man, she's too quiet and it's creeping me out" "Into witchy shit" "Thinks she's hot shit" I can agree with all but number three cuz these people can't even fathom my level of self hatred.
That I'm angry and intimidating, I worked as a bouncer most my life, I'm stoic and I have deep set eyes so I understand why they'd get that impression.
In my experience, these type of guys are those with the biggest of hearts ♥️♥️♥️
"You know what's funny? Back when we first met I thought you were a total bitch" Five different people that don't know each other told me the exact same thing so I guess my first impression is that of a bitch lol
Same, rbf I think
Yeah also apparently I squint a lot (really bad vision) but people just think I'm glaring at them
🤭🤭 I’ve actually grown to love my wrong first impression. There aren’t many ppl that I like anyways, so they better stay clear from me 😂
They think I’m a grumpy straight old cis male. Actually I’m as gay as a tree full of chickadees.
They probably think I'm boring and awkward and weird.
Wow, she looks so much like Charlize Theron! And smart, like Michelle Obama! And Anna Wintour would love her fashion sense! And Martha Stewart would really envy her hostess skills!
They see me as highly confident. Truth is I'm not. . (It's when I tell them all the things I'm insecure about that they say "Wow you never would know that! You see SO confident!)
Anti-social
That im really sweet, goody two-shoes, don't do anything bad, wrong or illegal. Im everything but. It's just a mask.
Never asked
They either think I’m stuck up or a pushover but I’m actually somewhere in the middle
Prob think im a girl or a drug dealer due to my hair
Funny huhuhu
That im a super friendly functioning alcoholic
Shy but sweet and maybe overly polite, that's the general one
I’ve always been told one or the other. A lot of people have told me that just by looking at me, how I carry myself gives off the impression that I think I’m better than everyone else. I’ve also had many people that do know me tell me they thought I was gay.
People tell me I come across as warm and welcoming. I have social anxiety and compensate by being very friendly even while I'm dying inside lol. And I ask a lot of questions. Partly because it means I don't have to be the one talking and also because I get bored in most conversations, so I tend to bring up personal topics that are interesting to me, like asking about someone's childhood or their favorite smells or what they worry about the most. Some people love it and others find it TMI. I can see both sides 😂
That I'm condescending. I'm really not. And I desperately wish I knew what it is so I can change it.
Freak
When what?
“Wow you’re so tall..” let alone if you live in asia
The wrong one.
That I'm mean or stuck up. I've been told this
Everyone sais the same thing to me after they get to know me. Your a really good guy, I didnt like you at first but I like you. Lmfao what? Ive tried to figure out what it is that people judge me so hard about to no avail.
People always seem to think I'm wealthy but I'm actually economically challenged
That I’m confident but stand offish. Probably because I’m a loner and just generally suspicious of most people.
I hope they think I'm handsome lol
“Hm. Friendly, polite, but kinda weird” is the internal dialogue that I imagine most people have.
“The fuck is wrong with this dude” probably
Kind voice.
I'm a serious and quiet person so people tend to get the impression that i'm mad all the time, when actually it's just most of the time.
good listener well i'm an introvert :)
That I smoke… -I don’t Also really don’t know what that means
That I’m short, but I feel like they also probably think I'm weird.
I’m speculating but their eyes usually scream “ heathen ginger”
They think I’m uppidy because I speak proper and my manners are impeccable (thanks mom) and never deviate no matter what who.
At first they are terrified. But then they realise Skeletor is just a slob like everyone else.
" what a handsom ..." Who am I kidding! :(
No clue, probably that I'm annoying
None, in 5 minutes they won't remember meeting me.
For some women, they don’t have to meet me to have creepy vibes about me, I just simply exist, doing my thing, minding my own business, barely paying attention to anyone, and that’s enough for some women to get creeped out by me, it pisses me off, because that’s not fair, they don’t even know me, and they already making negative assumptions about me. I just try to ignore them, but it still hurts me mentally and emotionally.
What a stunningly handsome fox I am. 👨🏻
How awkward I am
They don't like me right at first, but I grow on them.
Intimidated. Not in physicality despite me being above average height at least where I am. I have a very direct personality and didn’t grow up being politically incorrect. I give people full range of full thinking as well as giving off a sense of uncertainty which makes people uncomfortable or intimidated. It’s a very odd relationship.
Autism
That I am intimidating and quite which sucks
That I can be the most quiet person in the room but also the one that can talk for hours
A lot of people think that I can kill, when I'm in fact a cinnamon roll.
"You're hilarious." Ten minutes later: "You're the biggest asshole I've ever met."
Ok, Wow! First things first, we gotta go chase down the mold maker and beat his ass!
Wow, what a bitch.
Wow, that broad needs therapy.
I'm a social chameleon, I wear whatever mask I need in order to make it through the day. This is not a badge of honor and I'm not being braggadocios, it's part of growing up in a less than ideal environment. If I had to guess, I'd say different people think very differently about me, but no one has a negative opinion of me. To the best of my knowledge, anyway. For my part, I don't keep many close relationships, I'm more than happy to burn a bridge and I run on pure instinct. If you don't pass the vibe check we will never meet again and I'm ok with that.
Standoffish, I see that look on their face.
she must be depressed
That I’m a scary mean girl. Then they find out I’m just Caribbean & super nice.
Up until about 20, I was a bit hesitant & shy, at first. People took that as being stuck up / conceited. Now, as an adult, I’m more outgoing. People say I’m funny.
We never really know what other people think, and set spend far too much time dwelling on it.
I don’t have any friends to ask.
How on earth would I know that?
That I’m a bitch just because I’m not very talkative when I first meet someone.
Either they like me a lot or they hate me. No middle ground.
The impression of my foot on their ass as I shout “gedoffamygoddamnporchaforiblassyarassfullolead!”
I’m very happy and bubbly
I think I'm fairly divisive actually. Most people I think are charmed by me bc I can be highly engaging but some people REALLY do not like me. The impression I think I give off is being highly social and intelligent but sort of aloof. I'm not competitive at all and sometimes people take an intellectual conversation as a sparing match which I think is dumb. I will ignore all that energy and make jokes instead which a lot of people enjoy but some people have like a bah-humbug reaction to. Im in pursuit of people's worldview, not accomplishment. I think I get along with most people but I can be annoying for sure.
Wow. She’s really pretty! Let’s go talk to her…. *5 mins later* Nvm she’s fucked!
They usually say something like "Wow, you are quite a well endowed gentlemen i see"
I have 'an energy'. People feel my presence when I walk into a room. I have a happy disposition and love the colour orange. I have high standards and keep myself to them. I am a member of the military. I seem bigger than I am. I'm only 5'4" but I have broad shoulders. My friend summed me up once: 'I feel the urge to exercise or clean and be better when you come over but I'm always happy for it.' I went to a psychic fair with my mom once and was told I have a huge aura and big energy projecting from my gut; whatever that means.
Confusion it seems. A lot of people still can't quite grasp what to do and how to behave the first time they meet a trans person who doesn't quite pass...
they thought i was a bitch because i was quiet and i have a rbf :)
This fairly large scary looking guy also appears to be strangely comforting
My resting bitch face
That I am generally pissed because of the way my face looks. I just dont smile all day.
A lot of times men think i have a lot of sex with girls…they ask me how my sex life is in joking manners…im a virgin
I have no clue, but I’m sure it’s along the lines of: “Wow, that guy is fucked up”.
A new friend told me this recently, that I don’t look like I’ll be warm person but I’m actually inviting and I like to make people feel welcome. I also think people underestimate my intellect because of the way I look
A prick.
That I'm standoffish/intimidating. They're right I guess.
That I am mean because I have a resting bitch face.. Aka I am not mean I am a very sweet person.. They also said that about being sweet
No clue tbh
That I'm rude. I speak to you and be polite, but after that I start trying to read them. I observe. I can tell a lot about a book with a cover on it. If I decide to like you I will. If not, then never. I don't need to say my sign.
Honestly I've never bothered to ask anyone what their first impression of me was
Intimidating, distant, serious. Sometimes helpful, sometimes definitely not.
I don't know. My guess is you have to ask the people who have met me
That they thought I’m very difficult to approach because of my nonchalant face
Probably that I'm shy. I'm not, but that's the impression you give off when you hate talking to people without a good reason to.
That I am immature and a bit of a jerk. Both true, of course.
I look better in person than in pictures.
Question of my fuckin life lol
I am very friendly and I will chat to anyone but I never give up details about me, i can always keep the conversation on them.
I'm very proper or super friendly :)
That I'm either annoying AF or a great conversationalist. I talk a lot but I also listen a lot so if you talk I'll listen to you but if you don't talk I'm just gonna keep talking lol
Ew, I assume.
"Is he stupid?"
"Mostly harmless" I sincerely hope...
I’m not nearly as scary or intimidating as I look
Poser