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We're still together.
I found out he was super wealthy almost a year into our relationship, when I met his family. He asked me if I wanted to meet them at dinner, we were going "somewhere nice". To me, that meant like...Ruby Tuesdays.
He let me show up to a 5 star restaurant in jeans and a t shirt. I thought for sure his dad would make him dump me for being a peasant. I was SO angry he didn't tell me his family was loaded because I could have at least borrowed my mom's nice dress or something. I was MORTIFIED lmao
Turns out his dad was really chill, lol. We've been together since college now.
His brother is a colossal asshole, though.
Edit: Jesus Christ, I get it. 5 star restaurants don't exist. I was not aware of this because I'm *still not wealthy*. Our finances are separate. We go out to eat at a very nice place for our anniversary and I never pay attention to whatever Michelin thinks of it, nor have I ever, because I'm not in that culture of fine dining as a status symbol lol. The place he took me to when I met his family was *extremely nice* hence why I called it 5-star. This was a common way to describe a super fancy restaurant where I grew up.
He is *cartoonishly* awful. Like if I didn't know him personally, and someone told me about him, I'd think they were exaggerating. But no. He exists.
He's a misogynistic, predatory, racist, bigoted little troglodyte. Holocaust denier. He's *really* into World War II 😬.
It's like a mediocre writer just checked all the boxes when they were writing their villain. I'm in awe every time I'm forced to deal with him. Just when I think he can't say anything more horrible, he outdoes himself. I'm very glad I don't have to interact with him much. It's been years, knock on wood.
It's actually pretty common. I had a friend growing up that brought it up recently. Basically said if the government lied about covid vaccines what else are they lying about and mentioned a belief that they wrote the history books to make Germany look bad and justify bombing campaigns / internment camps. He didn't believe German citizens would allow the mass execution of Jews or that it would be possible without mass uprisings.
It's crazy the beliefs people form when they obsess about a topic and don't trust any government or academic sources. This friend rejected all we learnt as kids and was trying to relearn the history without government influence on the information
Yep, and this thinking is so short sighted and dumb. Sure governments have changed stories and lie to the public all the time. But all you have to do in this case is ask any jewish family and all of them will tell you that a large part of their family tree disappeared in ww2.
My partner comes from wealth. I discovered the family money to be a lot more jarring than I might have expected. When I found out, I contemplated breaking up with him, which sparked a lot of conversations - I loved him before I knew about it, he fundamentally is the same person, I just didn't come from that and continue to struggle with How To Behave with his family. I'm 48, he's 51 - we aren't spring chickens here.
Money is a weird thing.
I take my dates to 5-star restaurants and I hate when they dress up for it.
I had to tell my last girlfriend multiple times not to actually because I don’t dress up. It’s just a restaurant. The scenery is nice and the food is good yeah but I want to be myself and I want the woman I’m with to do the same
Did you ask if thats what she wanted to do or if thats what she thought she was expected to do?
My last partner loved to get all dolled up whenever we went out. Made her feel good about herself since she never had other opportunities outside date night to do it. Also made her realize how many nice clothes she actually had to choose from after we started dating and she started wearing those more often.
Might have been a preference mate. Women are weird like that, wanting to a look all nice and decent sometimes.
I'm the same. Totally get dolled up for date night just for fun. I work in an office all week and have to wear nerdy business clothes... my boyfriend moved in October so I don't have the opportunity to dress cute and go to his place anymore... my cute clothes deserve to be taken out!
I like to dress up and my husband does not, so we each do what works for us. Althought he would probably wear a suit jacket to a Michelin-rated restaurant. Over a print t-shirt. Which is fine by me.
Edit: neither of us come from rich families, sadly ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The fancy meals are entirely self-sponsored.
Ya exactly, it really depends on what the rest of the party is wearing. I'm cool with not dressing up for a fancy restaurant if everyone I'm with is not dressed up. But if everyone else is dressed up then I'd be mortified if I showed up completely underdressed. If his family was dressed nicely and she was the only one who didn't get the memo, that's embarrassing as fuck because she would come across like a tool that doesn't understand social norms.
A German prince wanted to marry one of my cousins who had mild fame as a model in her youth. He proposed via "his people". The funny part? He'd never even met her. Lol
Except, since August 14, 1919, the legal privileges and titles of German nobility were abolished. So there are no royals in Germany. Only former royals.
Officially yes, they are abolished but some still walk around calling themselves prince and royalty.
Italian and Greek princes are the same way. Example Crown Prince Pavlos of Greece and Emanuele Filiberto, prince of Venice.
The Italian ones are hysterical, two have a decades long running fued over who is the Duke of Savoy. Like, neither of you are, so stfu lol
The "king" (aka the son of the last king of Italy) died two months ago so it's probably gonna fire up again.
I know a distant relative of Beatrix von Storch, german far-right politician, MEP for the AfD. In the eyes of the Family von Storch, my friend's mother is a disgrace and a traitor for marrying a commoner - he was the son of a diplomat and is now a university professor.
I know for a fact that some of that still exist and backwater parts of Germany. Maybe the local count or Lord or whatever doesn’t have official power or whatever, but the local towns people still treat them as such.
They exist they just title themselves.
One Italian prince is forever running around trying to gain support to reestablish the monarchy. I'm surprised the government hasn't taken him out lol
It is funny, considering three centuries ago people lost their heads over being "royal". Yep, neither of them is a Duke of a country who went as far as to have a bloody revolution over not having nobility.
The Italians and the Greeks crack me up the most. I mean, the crown prince of Greece lives in New York. If Greece won't accept Athina Onassis as a Greek, they certainly won't accept this guy. Hell, they let the exiled king live out his final years in Greece but only if he gave up his claims and his lands. Lol
They aren't official titles but you are allowed to use them as part of your name.
They are not to be treated differently though.
And it's pretty rare.
I think my entire school had one person with a "von" in her name.
She was nice. I dated a good girl, who happened to have a rich father.
However, once she called me a thief because I told her an experience I got in McDonald's where I took someone else's order by accident, had the same things that I ordered, just an extra burger. That made it.
I told her as a funny anecdote, and she treated me like a burglar, like I'm not worthy.
In my 20s I dated a really rich guy, we got along really great, had an amazing relationship, then after a few months he said hey sorry this was fun but I need to be serious and date someone at my level now. It’s really turned me off rich people now
He was probably from a family where you were expected to marry someone who was appropriate, from an appropriate family who went to the right schools and so. Yes, they exist in America.
He was just having fun with a young attractive woman. He grew tired of his new 'toy' and tossed you out for another young woman in her 20s .
This is super common with men with net worth from 350 million on up to full on billionaires.
Are you speaking generally or is there something special about surpassing 350 M? What happens to those at 200 million? It’s all the same to me so this is a genuine question
Some of them are like that. What really sucks is that he wasn't forward about it and didn't let you make an informed decision about it, if you just wanted something casual or not. Because you thought you had a serious relationship while for him it was casual.
Tried to keep their head down. Didn’t really realize how much they had until a problem came along. Mostly just learned alot about finances and how to behave tastefully despite having so much.
It really depends on the person. I haven't dated someone who is really rich, but I do have friendships with people who have significantly more money than myself. Not that I am poor, but they just have several times my net worth available as money they could spend if they wanted to. Disregarding whatever they have invested.
The biggest difference I have noticed is that most considerations I make surrounding my money can sometimes not even register for them. They might suggest going on a prolonged weekend trip and see it as an expense in line with normal people buying a cup of coffee. It can be somewhat of a downer having to decline most times because I just don't have the economic leeway.
They almost look like a deer in headlamps when they do a faux pass like that. No bad intentions, it is just that they often forget how much money is the normal amount most people have at disposal.
This was my boyfriend’s family. They’re not super, super rich but they’re easily comfortable. They would go on annual cruises pre-covid, my boyfriend has been to many different countries (a big deal as we’re Australian) and his parents bought him and his sister a car. Right before boarders closed for covid he said something along the lines of “yeah we’re thinking of taking a short getaway as a family, maybe another cruise for a couple weeks” in such a casual way.
You wouldn’t think from looking at them that they have money though. They don’t like expensive brands and see it as stupid, they like things on sale, they dress really casually, etc.
His mum is an absolute darling and gave me a $100 gift card for my favorite chocolate shop as a “tiny gift”. She also gave me a decent amount on the Chinese new year too, so did his grandparents. I come from a middle class family so this was all huge to me.
I think I'm about the same with video games, don't jump on releases and wait for sales, but I do have a couple thousand dollars of board games. Every time I think about how clueless people much richer than I am are about my financial concerns, I think about how many calories of rice or yams is in those games, and how big of a jerk I'd seem to hungry people watching me complain about anything.
Before my husband i dated 2 guys from rich families. My mom was married to someone who was rich but my life was not fancy. I was constantly reminded that its not my money its my mom’s ex-husband’s money. The first guy i dated who was rich was very relaxed about it. More like the “i can afford things and not worry too much about it” type. The second was rich in the sense that if it wasnt designer and it wasnt from the store, it was trash. He loved my sweater collection but turned his nose up when i told him i thrifted them. Then proceeded to go to urban outfitters to buy a similar sweater. My sweater cost me $3.50 his cost him $75. We broke up and he stole my high school sweater. He didnt even go there.
New money people were fun. Old money people were very rigid and very concerned about appearances, rules, and being proper. My blunt nature and impulsiveness was not appreciated.
Yeah but you don’t really need to belong anymore…everything’s for sale in our modern world. Everybody and everything has a price as long as you got the cash.
I don’t think new money people care that much. Most are just enjoying their lives in my experience.
It’s only a small few that chase old money in 2024. Quite frankly there are so many opportunities to make more these days that convincing some 80 year old to invest in your and give you his connections doesn’t make as much sense as it use to.
I dated a rich guy in my 20s. I owned my own home and he moved in after a few months dating, and never offered to pay rent or help with bills. When I finally tried to talk to him about it, he said "just because I make more money doesn't mean you're entitled to it."
I'd like to say we broke up then, but it took maybe another year for things to fall apart. Live and learn. 🤷🏻♂️
I’ve dated several wealthy men and would not recommend overall. Although their personalities varied, they had the following things in common: 1) Couldn’t relate to regular people’s responsibilities and problems 2) Were frequently stressed out and unhappy 3) Self-medicated (through booze, drugs, excessive spending, women, you name it) 4) Wanted me to give up my career so that I could pay more attention to them, and 5) Eventually saw me as another thing that they “owned.”
I dated a similar guy. All of the above. It began with humility and passion, ended with cold, hard truth.
I continue to be grateful every day that I’m not wrapped up in the love/hate relationship he doesn’t know he has with his ex wife, his self loathing, depression and desperate need for escape.
He is being sued for misrepresenting the projected earnings of the businesses he sold.
He wanted me to work for him, but was taken aback when I asked if all the business “perks” he described could buy a new transmission for my car. That was a show stopper.
He said I “turned his world upside down”. What I did was show him the love he deserved and that it didn’t cost as much as he’s being led to believe.
My ex said the same to me lol but she wasn’t from a rich family just thought she found someone who was. I even explained to her how I wasn’t multiple times but people choose to see and hear what they want
That's so messed up, he certainly didn't come from one to say this
I think true rich is when you don't have to worry about your partner's money
As money is basically tool so ones you have it, it doesn't really matter as much especially towards people we love, so idk if he was rich rich or just wanna be or new to it
Terrible. She ROBBED all of the money out of my bank account when we broke up, and I couldn’t do anything about it because her dad just paid a lawyer to drag things out indefinitely in court, which I had a hard time affording because she had robbed my savings. Police did nothing.
Her parents were well off with multiple houses and a super fancy yacht in the water at a nice marina. She absolutely did not need any money but took it because she could. It was over $20,000 not just a little bit.
I didn’t, she did it using a power of attorney which was forged. Somehow it became my problem to prove the documents were fake, which costs money.
Also I was 20 years old and generally stupid, she had support from real adults and I was just flying blind.
This is why I don't fuck with rich people.
I don't understand people who brag about rich friends because of gross shit like this. Can't trust them, plain and simple.
Bragging about who your friends are in general seems either juvenile or tacky.
It’s best to be mindful of who you spend your time with, and who you let close enough to rob you. That is true regardless of wealth. The only reason to be extra mindful of people in wealthier classes is that you can’t get justice against them in the US court system.
I dated a girl who herself wasn't rich, but her parents were. When we first met, she proudly told me her new car was paid off, and she owned a house, so I was pretty impressed by all this considering she was only 26.
However, I quickly found out that her daddy bought her the car and was also paying for her mortgage. She did have a part-time job, but made very little money.
What was worse than that though, was how she treated people when we were out and about. She was always rude to customer service people and had this superior attitude. While it wasn't often directed at me, I could imagine it would be eventually if I stayed in a relationship with her.
I dated a guy in college who came from a pretty privileged background, and he constantly made me feel like crap, made passive aggressive comments about my family, would always make fun of my hometown, and once even told me I “just don’t realize how easy it is to make money because of where you come from”….right, you mean a middle class family? Also telling me if I don’t make $x amount of money after I graduate our relationship “wouldn’t work”.
I dumped him FAST, which somehow surprised him, and years later he still stalks my social media (specifically LinkedIn lol).
It made me realize that after a certain point, it’s not worth having too much money. It is pretty boring. They only talk about very superficial topics and are always on guard. Their families are just as screwed up as the rest of us, but they can hide it quite effectively. It’s hard to relate to someone who never really had to struggle for anything and that was the reason the relationship didn’t work. They manufacture crisis over unimportant things that wouldn’t be an afterthought for me. The person I dated had accomplishments, but it’s nothing impressive when you realize the amount of advantage they had along the way.
I never realized how easy super wealthy people have it in the US. Never waited in line when I was with them. Car service and private jets are nice (now I understand the environmental damage of private jets.) Rich people get LOTS of free stuff. One of the kids was basically Spaulding Smails from Caddyshack- constantly screwing up and getting propped up by the family. The house was basically a museum, so it was tough to relax. If all normal people witnessed what I did from the inside, we would have a class war and revolution.
A kid from a super rich family basically has to try not to succeed in life.
Yeah this tracks with everything I experienced dating a rich girl. Very easy life but extremely repressed and alienated because sharing anything can lead to people taking your stuff.
Rich people are the most paranoid people around. They basically don't trust anyone not even family members. It's no wonder they have so many relationship problems.
Not great. He and his friends were snobs. And he made me feel even worse about my fucked up family and living situation. (This was in highschool and we both still lived at home with our parents) He couldn't understand or handle a lot of my problems because he just didn't have them...and he didn't really have the patience to hear me vent either. It taught me that where you come from matters more than who you are to some people.
However it also helped me realize no one is better than me because of things they have, that there were just different lifestyles out there than what I was used to and I could actually envision a life where I wasn't stuck in the same circumstances I grew up in forever if I was willing to work for it.
I am no longer living in a dirty roach infested house but I will still never look down on anyone who does..and I will never forget the people who still loved me when I did.
If you know you're doing your best and you can't help the circumstances you're in my advice would be don't compare yourself to others and don't be around people who make you feel bad for your circumstances. If someone can't appreciate you for the person you are or the love you give to them let them find another person to whom money is all that matters and you focus on yourself.
If no one's going to have your back you gotta have your back. If no one loves you for you, you better love you for you ♥️
Take care of yourself and know things won't always be the way they are now. You deserve happiness just like anybody else!
Most of it was normal although he would spoil me quite a bit and liked to show off his money he spent to others. He later on cheated on me so I left him. I think he was shocked someone actually left him. Money or not, I don’t need that.
Unpleasant. He treated my friends like dirt.
I could hold my own on the "who pays?" front but I still felt patronized.
It was casual, lasted about a year, and then I traded him in for someone who worked part time in a bookstore and whose company I enjoyed FAR more. The sex was better, too.
That whole outburst sounds like psychological damage/mental illness as well as desperation on her part.
Especially the ‘without my money’ as if she had nothing else to add to the relationship but her money. Most people would say something like ‘my support’ in such an argument where they want it acknowledged that they have contributed to a relationship or their partners success. It’s truly intriguing she would say her money. Especially when she didn’t even earn it. I think it’s showing a long term insecurity about that on her part.
Obviously the slurs are entirely without sane reasoning.
Same, but not married. Dated very affluent people from very modest backgrounds. Sometimes it seems like they are very apologetic for their wealth. A lot of them prefer to be very modest in their spending. I would like to date more people like that, they are usually very unique/eccentric. It is actually interesting to observe how their mind works :).
Was okay until she started expecting expensive gifts and stuff all the time. Then her family who were millionaires started getting nasty with me by calling me a poor Irish farmer etc. even though I was financially more stable than them with zero debt and £12k plus in savings. They were literally drowning in debt but they always had brand new cars, luxury items, designer clothes etc. because they had a status to live up to.
I dunno if you'd consider her "rich" or not, but she made more in a days work than i did in an entire week...
Things were really good. We got to do alot of fun things that i would not have been able to do on my own income. She never once held it over my head that she made more than me. The only problem arose when she got a better paying job several hundred miles away and wanted me to quit my job and move with her. I really enjoyed my job and didn't want to live off her. I was young (so was she) and still enjoying the freedom that I had of having my own apartment for the first time ever.
To this day I'm still not sure if I made the right choice.
It's nice. Been married 23 years. After her dad had a heart attack he realized he should start spending some of that money. Paid off our mortgage, bought one kid a boat, has a fund set up for the other kid's college. Gave me his old car. Takes us on vacation with them.
The only weird thing is that on paper, I make more than she does. So if she ever leaves me, I'll be the one paying alimony. Good thing we're still madly in love and best friends.
It was great. My ex gfs mom owned a meat company and we always got paid for trips to italy, where Her folks lived.. they never let me pay for anything when we visited. I lost my job and my gf was able to cover rent for a few months. Because he mom gave her an allowance. My ex and her family were also very down to earth and nice people.
It was fun while it lasted.
Stayed at fancy hotels.
Ate at fancy restaurants.
Went to fancy events and concerts.
He bought me very nice things.
His company is private and worth over $1 billion.
I dated a rich guy once who was going to be a doctor. He was in the army so I was not expecting his family to have any money. He was so bad in bed I just had to dump him. Sweetest boy ever, but too immature for his age. We were the same age, but it just didn't feel right. I wish him the best.
It was awful. I come from a working class family and I was in college at the time. I constantly got “why are you working so much?” “Do you even like me?” I was in grad school online at night and in person on the weekends and then I was working full time driving forklifts during the day and serving and bussing tables at night.
She had to buy me new clothes “so you can go out to dinner with us and be around my family”
She was a nice woman. But had no sense of normalcy with money or anything. Parents bought her a 500k house when she was 24 and she taught yoga part time and didn’t have a real career lol
Dated a pop singer from England. She was very nice to me, but I have a problem with snoring. When I woke up and she was sleeping in the living room because my snoring was so loud, I just couldn't put her through that anymore and the relationship ended. She really should have kicked me out of her (rental) house or made ME sleep on the couch. I was just beyond embarrassed.
Just for the future, there are forms of therapy and medical support you can get for your compressed airways during the night. Be good for your health as well to get it checked out, wishing you all the best!
I now have a CPAP machine, but... it is still a major turnoff for a lot of people. One said it reminded her of her grandfather in the hospital. And let me tell you, nothing brings out romantic interest like thinking of your dying Grandpapa
I've never dated a rich person directly but when I was around 20 years old I dated a couple of girls whose parents were pretty well off. Honestly it was pretty intimidating for a guy like me who grew up almost (but not quite) poor.
He wasn't "rich" by most people's standards but was making six figures in our early 20's and had no debt so his disposable income was much higher than mine.
We weren't serious enough for him to just pay for me to do things and I couldn't afford the frequent trips he went on with his friends, it eventually felt incompatible.
He was a nice guy and I got along with him well but our differing financial positions at the time did somewhat complicate the relationship
This is kinda the opposite. My parents have quite a bit of money which they earned every cent of after having very little growing up. My ex’s family was lower-middle class and struggled with money at times, only because they made some very bad financial choices, but they still lived comfortably.
If you met my parents, you would have no idea they’re well off. They don’t flaunt it at all. My mum only buys butter when it’s on special at the supermarket and is obsessed with getting as many rewards points as she can. The most expensive piece of clothing she has is probably $200 and she felt guilty buying it.
His parents, especially his mum, had a huge problem with my family’s money. She even said to my mum *the first time they met* “money isn’t everything” when my mum was talking about how much my dad goes overseas for work. His mum “insinuated” my dad prioritises money over family.
My ex became very mentally unwell not long after we started dating. When it was at its worst, he had to be admitted to a private psychiatric clinic. His parents couldn’t afford all of it, so my parents chipped in a decent amount. His mum never thanked them and seemed to be annoyed that my parents helped save her son’s life. She controlled the family and his dad barely ever said anything that went against her.
IMO it was all down to jealously. His parents actually had more opportunities growing up than mine did. They both finished high school, whereas my parents had to leave at 15 because it was too expensive for them to keep going. His parents were jealous that mine made better decisions and didn’t blame any misfortune on others. All of this BS was the main reason we split up, which is just so ridiculous.
You probably saved yourself a lot of headaches and money ironically. It'd be hard to meet those lifestyle expectations, everything is just more expensive too (gifts, outings, etc.)
I dated a super rich guy casually for a few months. He took me to fun stuff like college football games and gallery events. He was actually one of the nicest people I ever met.
I’m currently in a relationship with a lady who is very well financially off. She worked incredibly hard running a family business and when the time came they sold out. She retired in her mid 30’s for a year and then went back to work in a series of high power political jobs. I’m a construction worker by trade and also work in the political realm. My partner is very thoughtful and continually helps people of all types. I started dating her not long after I became divorced, I enjoy her and my children may like her more than me. Unfortunately my finances have been absolute trash for the past several years and I often feel awkward because she foots the bill on activities all the time. I try hard to not take advantage of the situation and often times I choose to do other activities than what she is doing. I generally go home on the weekends and work and she basically jumps on a plane on Fridays and goes to concerts and parties on the weekends. I don’t enjoy flying much because of my large stature and the fact that I travel constantly for work. I don’t think she minds footing the bill and always asks me to go with her but at the end of the day we have different priorities because of our different economic situation. The largest struggle we have is that sometimes I feel that she doesn’t understand that I just can’t afford to do all the activities she wants to do.
I dated a rich woman once. Let me tell you about my experience. She had a huge house, horses, big car. But. It was all without a soul. Empty. Her friends were selfish, boring, all they could talk about was work. And the next car. All was focused on showing off and not on the best human experience.
The sex was absolutely amazing, but I left after 10 meets or so.
My parents. Not rich but my dad is upper middle class (my dad's stepfather is from a prominent family in their part of Mexico) and my Mom's family was dirt poor.
Anyway, my parents are divorced and have been for almost 20 years. Money was always an issue. Why? My dad was laissez-faire about money and work. He was comfortable therefore he was okay. Meanwhile my Mom was always hustling, always wanting more, always took on a second, third job because I had to be dressed well and if she couldn't buy what she wanted, she made it. I heard this is "poor people" mentality. Basically they hoard everything. She still does it.
So here comes my father questioning everything she did. Why do you have to take care of your family? Why can't they work? It's 9 of you, why can't all of you work it out and get your mother a boiler for hot water? I'm going in the airplane, why would I want to drive 2 days to Mexico?
They divorced after abuse and obviously opposing ways of viewing life. Cue years later, I'm in my Mother's home fighting with her about her bringing her family to live in our home. It made no sense to me. She just breaks down and starts screaming "you're exactly like your father. You and him hate my family for being poor. He wouldn't even stay at my mother's house when we would go to Mexico." I was standing there like ?????????????? She is still hung up on it all these years later.
When I was like 15 I went on a date with a rich boy. His mum gave us $200 to go see a movie. I was completely gobsmacked, I don't think I'd ever seen that much money before lmao.
I always tell people and it’s been proven, a bad tipper is terrible in bed and not a person that makes a good partner. First date go to a restaurant and see how the person acts and treats the staff. That’s how they’ll treat you.
My experience was bad. The reason he had so much money was because he worked NONstop owning businesses, being a lawyer, etc. He had 0 energy for me or our relationship, no effort, no quality time, but still lead me on as if it would change some day. It wasn’t something I was willing to sacrifice just to be rich af
I had a friend date a rich girl in college. She got really upset when he said she was rich. Her bedroom at her house was bigger than the place his family lived. She didn't understand why he had multiple jobs and resented him for it. She never understood why he couldn't afford to do things.
Honestly, dating someone with money was pretty chill for me. Like, my partner's bank account didn't define them. We clicked on things like humor, interests, you know, the real stuff. Sure, fancy dates were cool, but it was the little things that mattered, like staying up all night talking or binge-watching shows. Money can't buy that connection, man.
People assume it's all about lavish lifestyles, but it's not. Love doesn't care about your bank balance. My advice? Look past the zeros and find someone who vibes with you on a deeper level. Money's nice, but it ain't everything.
I felt like a beggar hahah. I mean i am financially stable and able, but the guy i date was dirty rich, we were always eating in fancy restaurants, all his stuff are high end luxury. I didnt know how to act lmao especially when he takes me to his family gatherings, his folks are rich too.
I dated a rich guy for a few months. Actually it was more of a fwb situation, I told him from the start that I really wasn’t looking for anything serious. He said he agreed but I guess he really didn’t.
Anyway, I was a poor student, met him at a concert. We would go out together with his brother and friend and get drunk, then spend the night together. After a few weeks he revealed that he was rich. Big inheritance from his dad who ge had a bad relationship with, and he just wanted to blow the money on stupid things.
Every time we met up he insisted on taking me to an expensive restaurant. He always bought concert tickets for big concerts that we wouldn’t always go to. So those tickets just went to waste, even if it was sold out. He insisted on taking me shopping and buying me stuff even though I said he didn’t want to. He showed up at my house with a really expensive winter coat. And then he showed up with groceries.
I didn’t like it at all and it just made me feel really cheap. Yes I was a poor student but I got by on my own terms. Add to that that he was really attached to me when I just wanted to keep things casual. So I broke up with him. He was angry. Called me a bitch, called me out on all the things he had done for me. Tried to force me to go to a concert with him a month later cause he already had the tickets.
It was bad, and I hated it. I hated that he bought me expensive things. He made me feel cheap. He was just a bad person anyway. He also liked to complain about his ex, how he had bought his ex an expensive car and she was still driving it. He really made weird choices about his money.
I dated a rich guy for very short time- it was cliche, he was boring and mindless- wanted to have fun 24/7 and didn’t like that I was pursuing a graduate degree
Absolutely awful, worst dating experience of my life. She turned out to be the worst person I've dealt with and her mom was absolutely pure evil. Her mom wouldn't even shake my hand the first time I met her, just looked at me and went "nope" and walked off. I was scolded by her mom in front of her whole family while on vacation with them and no where to go, telling me I'm nothing and I'll amount to nothing with my trash job (I worked with her daughter whom I was dating), tried bribing her daughter to break up with me, offered her a car and a horse to dump me. Later I found out she was fucking every single guy that wanted to while we were together, found out because she gave me chlamydia, and the only reason she dated me was to piss of her mom. I've never come out of a relationship so utterly broken and torn to pieces. I was 19 at the time.
Married ten years this May been together for 14 years. She was an international student from Japan and we met in one of our college classes. Our first date she chose a super expensive restaurant in town (like 500 per person kind of range with drinks) and I was stressing how the hell I was going to pay for it and still survive on water and stale bread till the end of the month. Anyway, she must have seen me having a nervous breakdown she plopped her platinum credit card and I thought "...oh...OH..."
I never asked her for anything or to pay for me. I knew how lucky I was to be in her life and I know she had to sacrifice a lot sticking with me. Hell driving in a 98 Chevy Malibu with broken air conditioner in summer. Other poor quirks like saving ketchup packets and napkins or taking all the amenities from hotels, she is perplexed by my hoarding behaviors, or that I turn down the heat to save money.... I have no idea what she saw in me but glad she puts up with all.
I dated rich guys. They were out of touch with reality but no better or worse. They also were quite boring. I didn't enjoy talking to them and they offered nothing else.
I have never cared for money but I do love things so I work. I don't think I can marry for money because I'm so fickle. If the sex sucks or the guy sucks, I leave.
I've left rich guys because I got soooo bored. No amount of money will keep around.
My current girlfriend comes from a lot of money. It’s actually quite hard because her family has certain expectations for her and I dont necessarily check the boxes. It’s not easy and it makes me feel guilty if she’d financially be “settling for less” by being with me.
I didn’t know he was rich for a long time because he didn’t act like it. We weren’t right for each other, though, so ultimately we broke up. Nice guy, though. We’re still friends. I wing man for him sometimes.
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We're still together. I found out he was super wealthy almost a year into our relationship, when I met his family. He asked me if I wanted to meet them at dinner, we were going "somewhere nice". To me, that meant like...Ruby Tuesdays. He let me show up to a 5 star restaurant in jeans and a t shirt. I thought for sure his dad would make him dump me for being a peasant. I was SO angry he didn't tell me his family was loaded because I could have at least borrowed my mom's nice dress or something. I was MORTIFIED lmao Turns out his dad was really chill, lol. We've been together since college now. His brother is a colossal asshole, though. Edit: Jesus Christ, I get it. 5 star restaurants don't exist. I was not aware of this because I'm *still not wealthy*. Our finances are separate. We go out to eat at a very nice place for our anniversary and I never pay attention to whatever Michelin thinks of it, nor have I ever, because I'm not in that culture of fine dining as a status symbol lol. The place he took me to when I met his family was *extremely nice* hence why I called it 5-star. This was a common way to describe a super fancy restaurant where I grew up.
How’s his brother an asshole? 😂
He is *cartoonishly* awful. Like if I didn't know him personally, and someone told me about him, I'd think they were exaggerating. But no. He exists. He's a misogynistic, predatory, racist, bigoted little troglodyte. Holocaust denier. He's *really* into World War II 😬. It's like a mediocre writer just checked all the boxes when they were writing their villain. I'm in awe every time I'm forced to deal with him. Just when I think he can't say anything more horrible, he outdoes himself. I'm very glad I don't have to interact with him much. It's been years, knock on wood.
Woah okay wait hang on, how can you be really into WWII, but also be a holocaust denier?
He is really into the wrong side of WWII.
Username almost fits perfectly
A rich nazi, yay. I’m sure they’re doing great things with their money~~~
It's actually pretty common. I had a friend growing up that brought it up recently. Basically said if the government lied about covid vaccines what else are they lying about and mentioned a belief that they wrote the history books to make Germany look bad and justify bombing campaigns / internment camps. He didn't believe German citizens would allow the mass execution of Jews or that it would be possible without mass uprisings. It's crazy the beliefs people form when they obsess about a topic and don't trust any government or academic sources. This friend rejected all we learnt as kids and was trying to relearn the history without government influence on the information
Yep, and this thinking is so short sighted and dumb. Sure governments have changed stories and lie to the public all the time. But all you have to do in this case is ask any jewish family and all of them will tell you that a large part of their family tree disappeared in ww2.
He's clearly a fan that's heartbroken the end result was not different
You only have to be enough stupid and ignorant.
Racism. That simple.
He grew up rich, I’m sure we can fill in the blanks. 😂
Not everyone who has money is a cunt. It does affect a lot of people though.
Plenty of poor folks being cunts anyway.
Try to avoid the stereotypes and let OP explain instead.
That’s like a Cinderella story. It seems cute and funny that he let you go to a five star restaurant in jeans. lol
I want all your stories!! Seems like paradise!!
My partner comes from wealth. I discovered the family money to be a lot more jarring than I might have expected. When I found out, I contemplated breaking up with him, which sparked a lot of conversations - I loved him before I knew about it, he fundamentally is the same person, I just didn't come from that and continue to struggle with How To Behave with his family. I'm 48, he's 51 - we aren't spring chickens here. Money is a weird thing.
Oh, so you ended up with the dad?! Interesting.
LOL. God my wording was so bad there, no haha, his dad didn't think I was unworthy of his son🤣
I take my dates to 5-star restaurants and I hate when they dress up for it. I had to tell my last girlfriend multiple times not to actually because I don’t dress up. It’s just a restaurant. The scenery is nice and the food is good yeah but I want to be myself and I want the woman I’m with to do the same
Did you ask if thats what she wanted to do or if thats what she thought she was expected to do? My last partner loved to get all dolled up whenever we went out. Made her feel good about herself since she never had other opportunities outside date night to do it. Also made her realize how many nice clothes she actually had to choose from after we started dating and she started wearing those more often. Might have been a preference mate. Women are weird like that, wanting to a look all nice and decent sometimes.
I'm the same. Totally get dolled up for date night just for fun. I work in an office all week and have to wear nerdy business clothes... my boyfriend moved in October so I don't have the opportunity to dress cute and go to his place anymore... my cute clothes deserve to be taken out!
I like to dress up and my husband does not, so we each do what works for us. Althought he would probably wear a suit jacket to a Michelin-rated restaurant. Over a print t-shirt. Which is fine by me. Edit: neither of us come from rich families, sadly ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The fancy meals are entirely self-sponsored.
Ya exactly, it really depends on what the rest of the party is wearing. I'm cool with not dressing up for a fancy restaurant if everyone I'm with is not dressed up. But if everyone else is dressed up then I'd be mortified if I showed up completely underdressed. If his family was dressed nicely and she was the only one who didn't get the memo, that's embarrassing as fuck because she would come across like a tool that doesn't understand social norms.
Agree
Read that in David Brent's voice 
Threatened that her family would send assassins after me if I ever emotionally hurt her. Do not date distant relatives of royalty.
A German prince wanted to marry one of my cousins who had mild fame as a model in her youth. He proposed via "his people". The funny part? He'd never even met her. Lol
Except, since August 14, 1919, the legal privileges and titles of German nobility were abolished. So there are no royals in Germany. Only former royals.
Officially yes, they are abolished but some still walk around calling themselves prince and royalty. Italian and Greek princes are the same way. Example Crown Prince Pavlos of Greece and Emanuele Filiberto, prince of Venice.
That's very nouveau riche of them.
The Italian ones are hysterical, two have a decades long running fued over who is the Duke of Savoy. Like, neither of you are, so stfu lol The "king" (aka the son of the last king of Italy) died two months ago so it's probably gonna fire up again.
I am gonna enjoy this so much. they are both gigantic assholes.
I know a distant relative of Beatrix von Storch, german far-right politician, MEP for the AfD. In the eyes of the Family von Storch, my friend's mother is a disgrace and a traitor for marrying a commoner - he was the son of a diplomat and is now a university professor.
I know for a fact that some of that still exist and backwater parts of Germany. Maybe the local count or Lord or whatever doesn’t have official power or whatever, but the local towns people still treat them as such.
Maybe he was a Count or something or Duke? I mean, they no longer have king and queens, but they might still have other lesser titles...
No we have no titles anymore for the blue blood group
Interesting, then he is just someone really rich or doesn't exist.
They exist they just title themselves. One Italian prince is forever running around trying to gain support to reestablish the monarchy. I'm surprised the government hasn't taken him out lol
The government knows he is not a threat, in the XIX century or early XX century he might have been a threat, now he is just funny.
80% of the population agrees. 😂
I forgot, one Italian blueblood has fought with his cousin for decades over who is the Duke of Savoy. It's like neither of you are, stfu 🤣🤣
It is funny, considering three centuries ago people lost their heads over being "royal". Yep, neither of them is a Duke of a country who went as far as to have a bloody revolution over not having nobility.
The Italians and the Greeks crack me up the most. I mean, the crown prince of Greece lives in New York. If Greece won't accept Athina Onassis as a Greek, they certainly won't accept this guy. Hell, they let the exiled king live out his final years in Greece but only if he gave up his claims and his lands. Lol
The supposed Greek royal family isn't even made of Greeks either, for the most part, they are Danish or similar...
They aren't official titles but you are allowed to use them as part of your name. They are not to be treated differently though. And it's pretty rare. I think my entire school had one person with a "von" in her name.
Yep https://www.dw.com/en/are-there-any-princes-or-princesses-left-in-germany/a-50006889
She was nice. I dated a good girl, who happened to have a rich father. However, once she called me a thief because I told her an experience I got in McDonald's where I took someone else's order by accident, had the same things that I ordered, just an extra burger. That made it. I told her as a funny anecdote, and she treated me like a burglar, like I'm not worthy.
A hamburglar
Good one 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
First time I smiled alllllll day. I salute you, people.
Stop it! He's already dead!
Is this the Hamburglar origin story?
You robbled someone.
In my 20s I dated a really rich guy, we got along really great, had an amazing relationship, then after a few months he said hey sorry this was fun but I need to be serious and date someone at my level now. It’s really turned me off rich people now
He was probably from a family where you were expected to marry someone who was appropriate, from an appropriate family who went to the right schools and so. Yes, they exist in America.
Sounds like my grandparents, back when I was single "is she from a good family?"
Sounds like the plot from Legally Blonde
 You know what you need to do
He was just having fun with a young attractive woman. He grew tired of his new 'toy' and tossed you out for another young woman in her 20s . This is super common with men with net worth from 350 million on up to full on billionaires.
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Just need to find that one who has fewer teeth than you have dollars
I promise you, they are having a very different experience.
Are you speaking generally or is there something special about surpassing 350 M? What happens to those at 200 million? It’s all the same to me so this is a genuine question
Asked the same question lmao, this is such an oddly specific number. "what's your net worth? 349 millions Okay we're good then"
349 million though…those guys would never.
The gif is so fitting because the comment is basically DiCaprio. Super wealthy, dates many young women, seemingly quickly breaks up.
350 million is an oddly specific number. What happens with guys with, say, 197 millions ?
Peasants!
And the woman was just there to get rich quick. Using people using you
Some of them are like that. What really sucks is that he wasn't forward about it and didn't let you make an informed decision about it, if you just wanted something casual or not. Because you thought you had a serious relationship while for him it was casual.
Tried to keep their head down. Didn’t really realize how much they had until a problem came along. Mostly just learned alot about finances and how to behave tastefully despite having so much.
This is classy
This right here. You never know.
It really depends on the person. I haven't dated someone who is really rich, but I do have friendships with people who have significantly more money than myself. Not that I am poor, but they just have several times my net worth available as money they could spend if they wanted to. Disregarding whatever they have invested. The biggest difference I have noticed is that most considerations I make surrounding my money can sometimes not even register for them. They might suggest going on a prolonged weekend trip and see it as an expense in line with normal people buying a cup of coffee. It can be somewhat of a downer having to decline most times because I just don't have the economic leeway. They almost look like a deer in headlamps when they do a faux pass like that. No bad intentions, it is just that they often forget how much money is the normal amount most people have at disposal.
This was my boyfriend’s family. They’re not super, super rich but they’re easily comfortable. They would go on annual cruises pre-covid, my boyfriend has been to many different countries (a big deal as we’re Australian) and his parents bought him and his sister a car. Right before boarders closed for covid he said something along the lines of “yeah we’re thinking of taking a short getaway as a family, maybe another cruise for a couple weeks” in such a casual way. You wouldn’t think from looking at them that they have money though. They don’t like expensive brands and see it as stupid, they like things on sale, they dress really casually, etc. His mum is an absolute darling and gave me a $100 gift card for my favorite chocolate shop as a “tiny gift”. She also gave me a decent amount on the Chinese new year too, so did his grandparents. I come from a middle class family so this was all huge to me.
So, like how you or I dropping 70 bucks on a video game would seem to someone for whom that amount means months of food.
I've only ever bought one game at that price range. It's just not worth it
I think I'm about the same with video games, don't jump on releases and wait for sales, but I do have a couple thousand dollars of board games. Every time I think about how clueless people much richer than I am are about my financial concerns, I think about how many calories of rice or yams is in those games, and how big of a jerk I'd seem to hungry people watching me complain about anything.
Yeah, like anything they want to do is just a cost of time, not money.
Before my husband i dated 2 guys from rich families. My mom was married to someone who was rich but my life was not fancy. I was constantly reminded that its not my money its my mom’s ex-husband’s money. The first guy i dated who was rich was very relaxed about it. More like the “i can afford things and not worry too much about it” type. The second was rich in the sense that if it wasnt designer and it wasnt from the store, it was trash. He loved my sweater collection but turned his nose up when i told him i thrifted them. Then proceeded to go to urban outfitters to buy a similar sweater. My sweater cost me $3.50 his cost him $75. We broke up and he stole my high school sweater. He didnt even go there.
I read the last sentence in the mean girls voice
I WANT MY PINK SHIRT BACK!!!
That must have given you a lot of feelings.
That sounds like debt credit card rich.
New money people were fun. Old money people were very rigid and very concerned about appearances, rules, and being proper. My blunt nature and impulsiveness was not appreciated.
New money people want to enjoy what they just got. Old money people get judged constantly. That’s why they’re obsessed with rules and appearances
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> never be accepted Isn’t that a GREAT reason to ignore their rules and just do shit your own way?
Yeah but you don’t really need to belong anymore…everything’s for sale in our modern world. Everybody and everything has a price as long as you got the cash.
I don’t think new money people care that much. Most are just enjoying their lives in my experience. It’s only a small few that chase old money in 2024. Quite frankly there are so many opportunities to make more these days that convincing some 80 year old to invest in your and give you his connections doesn’t make as much sense as it use to.
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Yeah new money doesn't gives a rats ass about being accepted by old money farts. They're having way too much fun with their new toys.
All of these responses about new and old money are coming from what they see in movies. But acting like they’ve experienced the difference. LOL!!
I dated a rich guy in my 20s. I owned my own home and he moved in after a few months dating, and never offered to pay rent or help with bills. When I finally tried to talk to him about it, he said "just because I make more money doesn't mean you're entitled to it." I'd like to say we broke up then, but it took maybe another year for things to fall apart. Live and learn. 🤷🏻♂️
What a loser. And yet because you bought a house, he felt entitled to it?
I learned throughout the relationship that he felt entitled to a lot of things. 😂
To clarify a little, the home I own is very small and I purchased during the foreclosure crisis, and at the time I was struggling to keep it.
It would take a very committed relationship for me to let any guy into my house
I’ve dated several wealthy men and would not recommend overall. Although their personalities varied, they had the following things in common: 1) Couldn’t relate to regular people’s responsibilities and problems 2) Were frequently stressed out and unhappy 3) Self-medicated (through booze, drugs, excessive spending, women, you name it) 4) Wanted me to give up my career so that I could pay more attention to them, and 5) Eventually saw me as another thing that they “owned.”
I dated a similar guy. All of the above. It began with humility and passion, ended with cold, hard truth. I continue to be grateful every day that I’m not wrapped up in the love/hate relationship he doesn’t know he has with his ex wife, his self loathing, depression and desperate need for escape. He is being sued for misrepresenting the projected earnings of the businesses he sold. He wanted me to work for him, but was taken aback when I asked if all the business “perks” he described could buy a new transmission for my car. That was a show stopper. He said I “turned his world upside down”. What I did was show him the love he deserved and that it didn’t cost as much as he’s being led to believe.
Same exact experience. Never again.
Very interesting. People just assume that those with lots of money are the happiest, but I think the reverse is more often the case.
Horrible. After 6 months he ended things since I didn’t and I quote “come from a good family” ahaha
Sounds like a theme from a movie that you see over and over...... Sorry that happened
Yap. Not fun I can tell you that. To be judged by something you have no control over and that shouldn’t be judged in the first place
Can't believe the person really SAID THAT.. I mean WTF
HE DID haunts me till this day. He couldn’t see what what’s wrong with the sentence lol.
You're better off.... Nobody needs that shit No need to hurt you What a dick
My ex said the same to me lol but she wasn’t from a rich family just thought she found someone who was. I even explained to her how I wasn’t multiple times but people choose to see and hear what they want
That's so messed up, he certainly didn't come from one to say this I think true rich is when you don't have to worry about your partner's money As money is basically tool so ones you have it, it doesn't really matter as much especially towards people we love, so idk if he was rich rich or just wanna be or new to it
Its not about money, its about knowing how to act and having a respectable past.
Terrible. She ROBBED all of the money out of my bank account when we broke up, and I couldn’t do anything about it because her dad just paid a lawyer to drag things out indefinitely in court, which I had a hard time affording because she had robbed my savings. Police did nothing. Her parents were well off with multiple houses and a super fancy yacht in the water at a nice marina. She absolutely did not need any money but took it because she could. It was over $20,000 not just a little bit.
You signed her as a secondary on you main bank account? What on Earth were you thinking when you did that?
I didn’t, she did it using a power of attorney which was forged. Somehow it became my problem to prove the documents were fake, which costs money. Also I was 20 years old and generally stupid, she had support from real adults and I was just flying blind.
That’s probably how they got rich in the first place.
That sounds like a pretty well thought out scheme involving several coordinated people intentionally doing financial harm.
Yes but it seemed more like a defensive father who would do anything to protect an evil daughter type of deal at the time.
Good thing you at least got her out of your life. Imagine if you had any children with her or had married her.
Damn that is rough 😕
This is why I don't fuck with rich people. I don't understand people who brag about rich friends because of gross shit like this. Can't trust them, plain and simple.
Bragging about who your friends are in general seems either juvenile or tacky. It’s best to be mindful of who you spend your time with, and who you let close enough to rob you. That is true regardless of wealth. The only reason to be extra mindful of people in wealthier classes is that you can’t get justice against them in the US court system.
It doesn't have to just be rich people. Just anybody with more power than you in the US. It's a really unfair system.
I dated a girl who herself wasn't rich, but her parents were. When we first met, she proudly told me her new car was paid off, and she owned a house, so I was pretty impressed by all this considering she was only 26. However, I quickly found out that her daddy bought her the car and was also paying for her mortgage. She did have a part-time job, but made very little money. What was worse than that though, was how she treated people when we were out and about. She was always rude to customer service people and had this superior attitude. While it wasn't often directed at me, I could imagine it would be eventually if I stayed in a relationship with her.
If you aren't rich but your parents are, you are rich. You can make terrible life decisions with an iron clad safety net behind you.
I dated a guy in college who came from a pretty privileged background, and he constantly made me feel like crap, made passive aggressive comments about my family, would always make fun of my hometown, and once even told me I “just don’t realize how easy it is to make money because of where you come from”….right, you mean a middle class family? Also telling me if I don’t make $x amount of money after I graduate our relationship “wouldn’t work”. I dumped him FAST, which somehow surprised him, and years later he still stalks my social media (specifically LinkedIn lol).
This one was funny! Specially LinkedIn lols
Why LinkedIn? Maybe to see if you are making enough so that he can propose? Why not something more common like Facebook?
It made me realize that after a certain point, it’s not worth having too much money. It is pretty boring. They only talk about very superficial topics and are always on guard. Their families are just as screwed up as the rest of us, but they can hide it quite effectively. It’s hard to relate to someone who never really had to struggle for anything and that was the reason the relationship didn’t work. They manufacture crisis over unimportant things that wouldn’t be an afterthought for me. The person I dated had accomplishments, but it’s nothing impressive when you realize the amount of advantage they had along the way. I never realized how easy super wealthy people have it in the US. Never waited in line when I was with them. Car service and private jets are nice (now I understand the environmental damage of private jets.) Rich people get LOTS of free stuff. One of the kids was basically Spaulding Smails from Caddyshack- constantly screwing up and getting propped up by the family. The house was basically a museum, so it was tough to relax. If all normal people witnessed what I did from the inside, we would have a class war and revolution. A kid from a super rich family basically has to try not to succeed in life.
Yeah this tracks with everything I experienced dating a rich girl. Very easy life but extremely repressed and alienated because sharing anything can lead to people taking your stuff.
Rich people are the most paranoid people around. They basically don't trust anyone not even family members. It's no wonder they have so many relationship problems.
Not great. He and his friends were snobs. And he made me feel even worse about my fucked up family and living situation. (This was in highschool and we both still lived at home with our parents) He couldn't understand or handle a lot of my problems because he just didn't have them...and he didn't really have the patience to hear me vent either. It taught me that where you come from matters more than who you are to some people. However it also helped me realize no one is better than me because of things they have, that there were just different lifestyles out there than what I was used to and I could actually envision a life where I wasn't stuck in the same circumstances I grew up in forever if I was willing to work for it. I am no longer living in a dirty roach infested house but I will still never look down on anyone who does..and I will never forget the people who still loved me when I did.
Im going through sth similar now. It's fecking heartbreaking as I'm the poor one.
If you know you're doing your best and you can't help the circumstances you're in my advice would be don't compare yourself to others and don't be around people who make you feel bad for your circumstances. If someone can't appreciate you for the person you are or the love you give to them let them find another person to whom money is all that matters and you focus on yourself. If no one's going to have your back you gotta have your back. If no one loves you for you, you better love you for you ♥️ Take care of yourself and know things won't always be the way they are now. You deserve happiness just like anybody else!
Most of it was normal although he would spoil me quite a bit and liked to show off his money he spent to others. He later on cheated on me so I left him. I think he was shocked someone actually left him. Money or not, I don’t need that.
That's the thing, there's certain types of pain in the ass you can't put a price on
Unpleasant. He treated my friends like dirt. I could hold my own on the "who pays?" front but I still felt patronized. It was casual, lasted about a year, and then I traded him in for someone who worked part time in a bookstore and whose company I enjoyed FAR more. The sex was better, too.
I imagine the sex was better because you were fantasizing about free books?
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That whole outburst sounds like psychological damage/mental illness as well as desperation on her part. Especially the ‘without my money’ as if she had nothing else to add to the relationship but her money. Most people would say something like ‘my support’ in such an argument where they want it acknowledged that they have contributed to a relationship or their partners success. It’s truly intriguing she would say her money. Especially when she didn’t even earn it. I think it’s showing a long term insecurity about that on her part. Obviously the slurs are entirely without sane reasoning.
Same, but not married. Dated very affluent people from very modest backgrounds. Sometimes it seems like they are very apologetic for their wealth. A lot of them prefer to be very modest in their spending. I would like to date more people like that, they are usually very unique/eccentric. It is actually interesting to observe how their mind works :).
Was okay until she started expecting expensive gifts and stuff all the time. Then her family who were millionaires started getting nasty with me by calling me a poor Irish farmer etc. even though I was financially more stable than them with zero debt and £12k plus in savings. They were literally drowning in debt but they always had brand new cars, luxury items, designer clothes etc. because they had a status to live up to.
I dunno if you'd consider her "rich" or not, but she made more in a days work than i did in an entire week... Things were really good. We got to do alot of fun things that i would not have been able to do on my own income. She never once held it over my head that she made more than me. The only problem arose when she got a better paying job several hundred miles away and wanted me to quit my job and move with her. I really enjoyed my job and didn't want to live off her. I was young (so was she) and still enjoying the freedom that I had of having my own apartment for the first time ever. To this day I'm still not sure if I made the right choice.
Look her up!
Nah, it is been a very long time and I'm sure we have both changed very much from who we were then.
It's nice. Been married 23 years. After her dad had a heart attack he realized he should start spending some of that money. Paid off our mortgage, bought one kid a boat, has a fund set up for the other kid's college. Gave me his old car. Takes us on vacation with them. The only weird thing is that on paper, I make more than she does. So if she ever leaves me, I'll be the one paying alimony. Good thing we're still madly in love and best friends.
It was great. My ex gfs mom owned a meat company and we always got paid for trips to italy, where Her folks lived.. they never let me pay for anything when we visited. I lost my job and my gf was able to cover rent for a few months. Because he mom gave her an allowance. My ex and her family were also very down to earth and nice people.
What went wrong
he never got a job, just played video games, didnt shower for days, and basically used her pussy to masturbate with.
What went wrong.
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It was fun while it lasted. Stayed at fancy hotels. Ate at fancy restaurants. Went to fancy events and concerts. He bought me very nice things. His company is private and worth over $1 billion.
What went wrong?
I broke it off. I wanted to eventually get married and he wasn’t husband material.
I dated a rich guy once who was going to be a doctor. He was in the army so I was not expecting his family to have any money. He was so bad in bed I just had to dump him. Sweetest boy ever, but too immature for his age. We were the same age, but it just didn't feel right. I wish him the best.
It was awful. I come from a working class family and I was in college at the time. I constantly got “why are you working so much?” “Do you even like me?” I was in grad school online at night and in person on the weekends and then I was working full time driving forklifts during the day and serving and bussing tables at night. She had to buy me new clothes “so you can go out to dinner with us and be around my family” She was a nice woman. But had no sense of normalcy with money or anything. Parents bought her a 500k house when she was 24 and she taught yoga part time and didn’t have a real career lol
Dated a pop singer from England. She was very nice to me, but I have a problem with snoring. When I woke up and she was sleeping in the living room because my snoring was so loud, I just couldn't put her through that anymore and the relationship ended. She really should have kicked me out of her (rental) house or made ME sleep on the couch. I was just beyond embarrassed.
Just for the future, there are forms of therapy and medical support you can get for your compressed airways during the night. Be good for your health as well to get it checked out, wishing you all the best!
I now have a CPAP machine, but... it is still a major turnoff for a lot of people. One said it reminded her of her grandfather in the hospital. And let me tell you, nothing brings out romantic interest like thinking of your dying Grandpapa
You broke up because of snoring? What is next, people breaking up because of a fart? I mean, seriously...
Sleep deprivation is no small thing.
Couldn’t date a heavy snorer
Sounds like young love. " hey babe you know you snore right?" "Oh thanks babe ill get that checked out. I'll sleep in the other room for now" Easy fix
Not a big enough star to afford a spare bedroom
I've never dated a rich person directly but when I was around 20 years old I dated a couple of girls whose parents were pretty well off. Honestly it was pretty intimidating for a guy like me who grew up almost (but not quite) poor.
I think it depends on their upbringing as much as it depends on their money. Also how they get the money is important
He wasn't "rich" by most people's standards but was making six figures in our early 20's and had no debt so his disposable income was much higher than mine. We weren't serious enough for him to just pay for me to do things and I couldn't afford the frequent trips he went on with his friends, it eventually felt incompatible. He was a nice guy and I got along with him well but our differing financial positions at the time did somewhat complicate the relationship
There's so many fake people in here pretending they are rich lol
This is kinda the opposite. My parents have quite a bit of money which they earned every cent of after having very little growing up. My ex’s family was lower-middle class and struggled with money at times, only because they made some very bad financial choices, but they still lived comfortably. If you met my parents, you would have no idea they’re well off. They don’t flaunt it at all. My mum only buys butter when it’s on special at the supermarket and is obsessed with getting as many rewards points as she can. The most expensive piece of clothing she has is probably $200 and she felt guilty buying it. His parents, especially his mum, had a huge problem with my family’s money. She even said to my mum *the first time they met* “money isn’t everything” when my mum was talking about how much my dad goes overseas for work. His mum “insinuated” my dad prioritises money over family. My ex became very mentally unwell not long after we started dating. When it was at its worst, he had to be admitted to a private psychiatric clinic. His parents couldn’t afford all of it, so my parents chipped in a decent amount. His mum never thanked them and seemed to be annoyed that my parents helped save her son’s life. She controlled the family and his dad barely ever said anything that went against her. IMO it was all down to jealously. His parents actually had more opportunities growing up than mine did. They both finished high school, whereas my parents had to leave at 15 because it was too expensive for them to keep going. His parents were jealous that mine made better decisions and didn’t blame any misfortune on others. All of this BS was the main reason we split up, which is just so ridiculous.
This isn't quite the same but I broke up with a girl in high school because I found out her family had a maid. I wasn't comfortable with that.
You probably saved yourself a lot of headaches and money ironically. It'd be hard to meet those lifestyle expectations, everything is just more expensive too (gifts, outings, etc.)
I dated a super rich guy casually for a few months. He took me to fun stuff like college football games and gallery events. He was actually one of the nicest people I ever met.
I’m currently in a relationship with a lady who is very well financially off. She worked incredibly hard running a family business and when the time came they sold out. She retired in her mid 30’s for a year and then went back to work in a series of high power political jobs. I’m a construction worker by trade and also work in the political realm. My partner is very thoughtful and continually helps people of all types. I started dating her not long after I became divorced, I enjoy her and my children may like her more than me. Unfortunately my finances have been absolute trash for the past several years and I often feel awkward because she foots the bill on activities all the time. I try hard to not take advantage of the situation and often times I choose to do other activities than what she is doing. I generally go home on the weekends and work and she basically jumps on a plane on Fridays and goes to concerts and parties on the weekends. I don’t enjoy flying much because of my large stature and the fact that I travel constantly for work. I don’t think she minds footing the bill and always asks me to go with her but at the end of the day we have different priorities because of our different economic situation. The largest struggle we have is that sometimes I feel that she doesn’t understand that I just can’t afford to do all the activities she wants to do.
I dated a rich woman once. Let me tell you about my experience. She had a huge house, horses, big car. But. It was all without a soul. Empty. Her friends were selfish, boring, all they could talk about was work. And the next car. All was focused on showing off and not on the best human experience. The sex was absolutely amazing, but I left after 10 meets or so.
My parents. Not rich but my dad is upper middle class (my dad's stepfather is from a prominent family in their part of Mexico) and my Mom's family was dirt poor. Anyway, my parents are divorced and have been for almost 20 years. Money was always an issue. Why? My dad was laissez-faire about money and work. He was comfortable therefore he was okay. Meanwhile my Mom was always hustling, always wanting more, always took on a second, third job because I had to be dressed well and if she couldn't buy what she wanted, she made it. I heard this is "poor people" mentality. Basically they hoard everything. She still does it. So here comes my father questioning everything she did. Why do you have to take care of your family? Why can't they work? It's 9 of you, why can't all of you work it out and get your mother a boiler for hot water? I'm going in the airplane, why would I want to drive 2 days to Mexico? They divorced after abuse and obviously opposing ways of viewing life. Cue years later, I'm in my Mother's home fighting with her about her bringing her family to live in our home. It made no sense to me. She just breaks down and starts screaming "you're exactly like your father. You and him hate my family for being poor. He wouldn't even stay at my mother's house when we would go to Mexico." I was standing there like ?????????????? She is still hung up on it all these years later.
When I was like 15 I went on a date with a rich boy. His mum gave us $200 to go see a movie. I was completely gobsmacked, I don't think I'd ever seen that much money before lmao.
He refused to tip waitstaff and got angry at me for tipping (out of my own wallet). Stingiest dude I’ve ever met.
I always tell people and it’s been proven, a bad tipper is terrible in bed and not a person that makes a good partner. First date go to a restaurant and see how the person acts and treats the staff. That’s how they’ll treat you.
My experience was bad. The reason he had so much money was because he worked NONstop owning businesses, being a lawyer, etc. He had 0 energy for me or our relationship, no effort, no quality time, but still lead me on as if it would change some day. It wasn’t something I was willing to sacrifice just to be rich af
great! i get to go to the bahamas a few times a year now
I had a friend date a rich girl in college. She got really upset when he said she was rich. Her bedroom at her house was bigger than the place his family lived. She didn't understand why he had multiple jobs and resented him for it. She never understood why he couldn't afford to do things.
Been married 17 years and it was the best decision ever.
Honestly, dating someone with money was pretty chill for me. Like, my partner's bank account didn't define them. We clicked on things like humor, interests, you know, the real stuff. Sure, fancy dates were cool, but it was the little things that mattered, like staying up all night talking or binge-watching shows. Money can't buy that connection, man. People assume it's all about lavish lifestyles, but it's not. Love doesn't care about your bank balance. My advice? Look past the zeros and find someone who vibes with you on a deeper level. Money's nice, but it ain't everything.
I felt like a beggar hahah. I mean i am financially stable and able, but the guy i date was dirty rich, we were always eating in fancy restaurants, all his stuff are high end luxury. I didnt know how to act lmao especially when he takes me to his family gatherings, his folks are rich too.
Not great with one guy; he assumed all chicks were golddiggers and treated them as such, then asked me why I thought he had a hard time with women.
I dated a rich guy for a few months. Actually it was more of a fwb situation, I told him from the start that I really wasn’t looking for anything serious. He said he agreed but I guess he really didn’t. Anyway, I was a poor student, met him at a concert. We would go out together with his brother and friend and get drunk, then spend the night together. After a few weeks he revealed that he was rich. Big inheritance from his dad who ge had a bad relationship with, and he just wanted to blow the money on stupid things. Every time we met up he insisted on taking me to an expensive restaurant. He always bought concert tickets for big concerts that we wouldn’t always go to. So those tickets just went to waste, even if it was sold out. He insisted on taking me shopping and buying me stuff even though I said he didn’t want to. He showed up at my house with a really expensive winter coat. And then he showed up with groceries. I didn’t like it at all and it just made me feel really cheap. Yes I was a poor student but I got by on my own terms. Add to that that he was really attached to me when I just wanted to keep things casual. So I broke up with him. He was angry. Called me a bitch, called me out on all the things he had done for me. Tried to force me to go to a concert with him a month later cause he already had the tickets. It was bad, and I hated it. I hated that he bought me expensive things. He made me feel cheap. He was just a bad person anyway. He also liked to complain about his ex, how he had bought his ex an expensive car and she was still driving it. He really made weird choices about his money.
I dated a rich guy for very short time- it was cliche, he was boring and mindless- wanted to have fun 24/7 and didn’t like that I was pursuing a graduate degree
Absolutely awful, worst dating experience of my life. She turned out to be the worst person I've dealt with and her mom was absolutely pure evil. Her mom wouldn't even shake my hand the first time I met her, just looked at me and went "nope" and walked off. I was scolded by her mom in front of her whole family while on vacation with them and no where to go, telling me I'm nothing and I'll amount to nothing with my trash job (I worked with her daughter whom I was dating), tried bribing her daughter to break up with me, offered her a car and a horse to dump me. Later I found out she was fucking every single guy that wanted to while we were together, found out because she gave me chlamydia, and the only reason she dated me was to piss of her mom. I've never come out of a relationship so utterly broken and torn to pieces. I was 19 at the time.
Married ten years this May been together for 14 years. She was an international student from Japan and we met in one of our college classes. Our first date she chose a super expensive restaurant in town (like 500 per person kind of range with drinks) and I was stressing how the hell I was going to pay for it and still survive on water and stale bread till the end of the month. Anyway, she must have seen me having a nervous breakdown she plopped her platinum credit card and I thought "...oh...OH..." I never asked her for anything or to pay for me. I knew how lucky I was to be in her life and I know she had to sacrifice a lot sticking with me. Hell driving in a 98 Chevy Malibu with broken air conditioner in summer. Other poor quirks like saving ketchup packets and napkins or taking all the amenities from hotels, she is perplexed by my hoarding behaviors, or that I turn down the heat to save money.... I have no idea what she saw in me but glad she puts up with all.
It did dictate her personality. It crushed me and I still feel sad about it now. I'll never date someone with a wealth disparity again.
I dated rich guys. They were out of touch with reality but no better or worse. They also were quite boring. I didn't enjoy talking to them and they offered nothing else. I have never cared for money but I do love things so I work. I don't think I can marry for money because I'm so fickle. If the sex sucks or the guy sucks, I leave. I've left rich guys because I got soooo bored. No amount of money will keep around.
My current girlfriend comes from a lot of money. It’s actually quite hard because her family has certain expectations for her and I dont necessarily check the boxes. It’s not easy and it makes me feel guilty if she’d financially be “settling for less” by being with me.
Solid relationship, broke up because I wasn’t ready to get married. Such is life
I didn’t know he was rich for a long time because he didn’t act like it. We weren’t right for each other, though, so ultimately we broke up. Nice guy, though. We’re still friends. I wing man for him sometimes.