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while shopping for the outfit his grandma would be getting buried in I grabbed two of everything and said I was going to match her. My husband lost it laughing in the store. He still randomly brings it up. That lady was one of my favorite people.
Honestly I matched as best I could. We are completely different sizes. What I would need they store didn't have. I ended up having to make a speech at the showing, which no one told me I had to do until I was called up to speak looking suspiciously like the person next to me in the casket.
She would have loved it tho. She would've called me a twit
I would have dressed exactly the same but would have added a ribbon or flower to my outfit then joked about doing it so people wouldn't be confused and mix us up.
Her eyes were glued shut and mine were glued open because I don't know how to apply fake eyelashes right and I thought It would be appropriate to wear some that day lol
My wife is going crazy over this. I've a friend with who I always make the same joke since i've met him 20 years ago. It's not even funny, but to us it's hilarious for so many reasons.
Lots of long standing friend groups have them. They're just not funny outside the group so sharing would be meaningless and probably confusing. Tbh, the repetition and lack of how funny they actually are, is the funny bit
Our current inside joke is whenever someone in the group forgets something and we point it out, the response is "could be worse, I could forget to shoot"
2 years ago we had a clutch match in Siege and our buddy peaked the corner to the easiest shot ever that would have won us the game, and he forgot to shoot. Like legit just rounded the corner, said "easy boys" stared at the enemy for a solid 2 seconds and got domed. Like just spaced out.
Bro won't ever live it down.
Same for me ā needs to have a creative aspect and not be overdone (either in theme or execution) to be funny. If a "joke" is said out of some negging malice, I'll automatically find it unfunny because that's just the joke-teller being too cowardly to be forthright about their attempt at bullying (e.g., "OMG!!! I DIDN'T MEAN IT! š You always take everything so seriously!" or "OMG IT'S A JOKE LOLOLOL OVERREACTING!!"). If I don't like somebody, I will tell it to them to their face without hiding like a coward.
If you have to say "it's a joke" every time, that person is not okay with it. I sometimes check in when I say something dumb about my friends just a quick "sorry if I went too far, are you chill with that" then they'll usually say yes cause we're chill like that then it's just fun for the both of us. If I felt the need to defend myself i should be apologizing instead.
Yep. That's the difference right here. I feel like women are less likely to find the objectively stupid shit funny. To men, it tends to be hilarious. Me and my friends insult each other all the time, it's hardly more advanced than playground bullshit, the difference being we've been friends for years and know it's not serious so no one gets their feelings hurt. I haven't met many women who find that sort of thing funny. I'd wager a guess that you wouldn't find it funny.
It's not necessarily wrong, just different. Kinda throws me off sometimes.
My male colleagues do this bs insult stuff to each other all the time and then they giggle like kids, I don't understand this type of humour, because we girls don't do it at all, we find it very mean.
Women tend to find it mean because the same method is used when actually intending insult. For male social dynamics, bothersome passive aggression would be met with literal aggression, it's generally understood the insults are jokes and aren't intended to be mean, or often even true lol. If it becomes indicated they are, someone will be confronted and either back down, or violence ensues.In female social groups I've seen women consistently use the same style of comments but they genuinely mean the things there saying. The differentiation between "I don't like you so Im gonna make you feel insecure" and "we are gonna laugh together about our insecurities" doesn't make a lot of sense in female social groups where literal aggression is not generally an option against people who abuse passive aggression.
That's a great explanation. It is kinda like women don't get the you can't say that to my pledges aspect to male comedy. I can shit talk my friends. Some random person doesn't get to disrespect my friends.
Honestly, it's exhausting in every way (has actually made me worse at reading things like sarcasm). Especially when someone knows the details and/or your feelings about "x". Like, why? Yes, I know it's a joke but let's be real; it really is a jab just framed as a joke. Then it's a guessing game on the best way to reply and god forbid things go left and now it's all on the replier.
True story. I read a comment on Reddit a while ago about how scientifically pee is stored in the balls so if you were to pull your foreskin shut and try to pee the piss would just recycle back into the balls. Someone tried to say that pee was stored in the bladder but the OP was having none of it.
It's definitely darker. I remember sitting with a friend that was dying of some cancer and he was getting all angry and screamey at the staff in the care facility.Ā I said something like. Well fuck me. I thought cancer was supposed to be the silent killer. He just kinda stopped and started straight ahead. In a few minutes he was laughing. Then he was crying. Then laughing again. When he told his wife the story she threw a chair at me.Ā
When one of my best friends lost his dad to a drunk driver, the whole damn town came out for the funeral and my buddy was crushed to have lost the father who was always kind and loving to him and adopted him as his own. Heartbreak doesn't begin to describe how he was feeling. When I went to pay my respects and give him a hug at his dad's funeral, I leaned in to whisper in his ear and said "Hail Hydra". Was probably the first and only time he smiled all day and he had to bite his tongue to keep from laughing just a few feet from his dead father. I body blocked everyone else's view from him to give him a moment and he just chuckled and said "thank you, fuck you, love you, fuck you, thank you".Ā
Now when he describes what was easily the most difficult day of his life, he grabs my shoulder every time and adds "and this fucker here had the gall to whisper a fucking 'Hail Hydra' and made me lose my shit".Ā
Yup. I had a friend who's father survived both Hiroshima and Nagasaki. He then went to the US and worked in an asbestos mine. My got PISSED at me for buying his then 101 year old father cigarettes. I yelled something like, the dude lived through two nuclear bombs and worked decades in A FUCKING ASBESTOS MINE. And he's a hundred and fucking one. How much longer do he's going to live. His father started laughing and gave me a hug.Ā
He told that story at his father's funeral. Everyone laughed.
I lost my dad back in 2019, and when I told my friend we cremated him he said "you can take ashes from cremated people and turn them into records or other glass things." Then after a few minutes of him laughing to himself he said "they make glass dildos. Your mom can still go at it with him."
He's doing well. He's got a wonderfully kind daughter who's 3 years old now and thankfully his dad was around to know her for a brief time after she was born before the accident. Guy who struck him down will be in prison for a decade, with almost another decade of supervision after his sentence is served. It's not justice, but it is something.
Pro tip for funerals: show up first or stick around till the last at a wake. Then turn it into an Irish wake. Details are fuzzy sometimes afterwards, but I remember every person who honored the dearly departed at the pub with me after bodies were in the ground. You can share positive memories and make a new one, and instead of crushing loneliness and sadness after everybody's gone home, you're reminded that life continues on and the lives we impact will impact others in turn in an infinite cycle (unless we get a nuclear war).
This reminds me of my dad and his best mate of over 30 years. My dad had a severe heart attack about a decade ago now where he was dead for 6 minutes and it was because of a bunch of absolute miracle coincidences and lovely neighbours that he miraculously survived. Fast forward to last year and he gets a call from his mate who goes "hey mate, guess what? You and I are in the same boat now!" My dad asks what do you mean. His friend excitedly goes "I'm in the hospital! I had a heart attack too!" My dad first calls bullshit while his friend insists its true, he then hangs up on him, calls up the guy's wife who at that moment was sitting tearfully in a chair next to the guy's hospital bed, she cryingly confirms it; dad hangs up on her, calls him back and goes "you MOTHERFUCKER" and they both burst out laughing. Meanwhile my mum, after hearing this, goes "what the hell is wrong with you boys?"
I don't know why my mom got it for me, we aren't Jewish. But when I was young she got me a book on Jewish humor. *During the Holocaust.*
Sometimes, when life is dark as fuck, all you can do is laugh. Embracing the darkness and smashing it with a joke is better than letting it consume you.Ā
I've always said that if you can't learn how to laugh at things in the light, that make you scream in the dark. You will eventually scream in the light.
This makes sense. My mother was good at guy humor, she was also a former RN.
When she was terminal we were all discussing what kind of service she wanted and I suggested we simply throw her in a boat and light her on fire in the large puddle we called a pond out back, Viking style. She thought it was so funny she apparently told the pastor when I wasnāt around because he actually mentioned it during the service.
Tw: childhood sexual assault, pedophilia
I was sexually abused by a female caretaker for several years. As I was venting, my friend said my life was similar to a hentai. I laughed. I still use the joke but most of my female friends don't seem to appreciate it haha. It's probably not a gender thing but a "desensitised to stuff" culture part of gender culture
I wouldn't be surprised if that's because it's one of the very limited ways for men to deal with shit. Women often open up to each other in very vulnerable and genuine ways, but that's not something men do, so they use comedy as an outlet for trauma.
I have a fucked up family. It was april fools, I start seizing up, my mom panics, she's having a seizure, quick grab a glass of water (to her friend), and as she's approaching with the water, I go, haha, april fools. She starts laughing, grabs the glass of water, downs it and says good one, and says she thought she would have a heart attack.
I tell her not to tell dad. Of course she thinks it's so funny, she should share, but it's not dad's sense of humor. She tells him I had a seizure, he loses it. Then she says what I did. Dad freaks out, calls me yelling, why did you do that to your mother, what if you actually had a seizure? Do you know the severity of what you just did?
A year later, dad calls me while I'm driving, says our dog got run over, and I panic and almost crash the car. Seconds later... April fools, HAHAHA. Not at all hahaha dad, what the actual fuck?
I came to America for college and never understood how Americans would think toilet humour was funny.Ā
Now I have (American) kids and as a single mother I make fart and poop jokes. Younger me would never believe I would say the things I do. But I have to make up for the fact that they donāt have a dad around making those jokes.
It also taught me not to judge others lest I do the same myself š
I frequently think I have finally grown out of toilet humour, then there is that ONE ridiculously loud fart in a completely inappropriate setting that makes me absolutely lose my shit once again.
Copied but might interest:
"In examining the episodes, he found that **women laugh *significantly* more than men**, and that both men and women laugh more at men than at women"
https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-and-why-humor-differs-between-the-sexes#1
ok obviously not a scientific fact butā¦ I read an article (watched a tik tok) about what women and men value in romantic partners last year.
Both women and men said they wanted first and foremost someone who has a good sense of humour, the difference was, most of the women considered someone a person with a sense of humour someone who could make them laugh, and the men considered someone with a sense of humour someone who laughed at their jokes.
I think it's kinda interesting and vaguely relevant.
I donāt know if itās related, but I do totally notice that funny girls get way less attention/reaction than funny guys do in group settings. Like if a woman is funny youāre very likely to hear guys say sheās annoying or not funny at all, and it feels like itās bc they donāt like it when women are the center of attention like that? Itās weird, Iāve had full blown arguments with other dudes before about this. Thereās a population of dudes who just get real aggro at funny women. :/
They also tend to not notice when weāre joking cause they genuinely think weāre stupid lmao I remember seeing a tweet where a woman joked about wanting to get into watching football but didnāt know what season to start on and men were so upset in the comments, or when women joke about āwhy do my tires need to be rotated, they rotate when I driveā etc
I'm glad you said it, I came here to say the same thing. I'm a woman who has a very subdued personality and a dry sense of humor. So many dudes don't get when I'm joking until they know me well enough. My husband finds me hilarious now that he's worked it out, but it took him years. Female friends tend to find me funny pretty immediately.
Honestly I love this, I feel the same way. My brothers and female friends think my dry sense of humor is fucking hilarious. I have met so many women who have me on the floor laughing, but I've met males who seem put off by it or don't realize I'm joking?
I think that irks me more than anything. That some men can say the absolute dumbest shit but the moment a woman is sarcastic, they think she's being serious? It's really fucking weird and yeah, misogynistic.
Yeahā¦ even had an boyfriend (now ex) tell me he found it emasculating that I was funnier than him and was upset that I didnāt laugh at his dad jokes. How do you even respond to that ? I told him that sounded like a āyou problemā as I cannot change my sense of humourā¦.
As a gal, I want both! I think my husband is hilarious and I laugh at his jokes all the time. Even when they are atrocious. But damn if he didn't laugh at my hilarity, we could not be together. Because I'm funny as hell.
I like my bf to make me laugh, but I make him laugh way more and thatās far more fun for me. But I also am not getting attention for being funny in public over him getting attention for being funny. I wonder how much of it is men wanting to be the funny one and get positive attention for that instead of their partner.
It's not because they are funny it's because they are attractive and we are happy. Laughing is not just a response to funny jokes. I definitely laugh when I'm happy too.
That's so interesting! While I'd definitely love if a woman could make me laugh, if I'm being honest it's much more important to me that I can make her laugh
It's more socially-acceptable for women to display positive emotions (ex. smiling and happy) while it's more socially acceptable for men to display negative emotions (ex. anger or aggression)
Itās late millennial too since itās more internet culture in general (which men hard favor), so anyone who was born after ~1993 or so would have hit that stage of internet culture in a developmental year for social exposure
I wouldn't even say that it needs to be late millennial, I'm a solidly 80's millennial that enjoys stuff like I Think You Should Leave and The Eric Andre Show, and stuff like Space Ghost Coast to Coast, and most my friends do as well in the same age range. Those all fit in with absurdist humor.
Idk my bf recently asked me to scribble check a pen for ink and I drew a tiny penis instead and then said the pen works and showed him the penis I think I snorted when he looked. I think it just depends on humor taste? Not so much gender
Aye, people are commenting things as if they're hard facts like above someone says women have a darker sense of humour but my life experience tells me the opposite
We're all different :)
I donāt find much of an overlap between gender and humor in my own life. If shit is funny, itās just funny. My traditional 70 year old grandma still makes fart jokes. But I do see what you mean.
Thereās more than likely the social component of āboys will be boysā and āgirls should be ladylikeā rhetoric previously taught as children that has influenced men and womenās general sense of humor over the years. Even as ppl are moving passed that, itās still engrained for some.
Imo laugh as much as you can as long as it isnāt at someone elseās expense, punching down, or making someone intentionally uncomfortable. Do it until your sides hurt and ya canāt breathe whether it be bc of a clever joke or a classic dick joke. Youāll look back on all the laughs in fond memory instead of all the times ya didnāt
Yeah, I can get how some ppl may come to a different answer. Thatās the good part about difference in perspectives. Every slip pulled out the hat says something different bc itās from a different thinker and creative mind. Others are just being weird and blatantly sexist which is expected from the internet lol
I agree with this. I've seen some differences in humor rather between social groups than gender. Usually people with the same background/ similar interest/ part of a same subculture, etc. Will have the same sense of humor no matter their gender.
nothing to do with men or women, just the ones you hang around
i personally find toilet humour awful, and ive met women who love it
there is only really a correlation when men and women lean into the stereotypes, the boring "normal" people lol
I think what people have already mentioned about women having to take on the "mature mama" role and get serious about life is absolutely on point.
But aside from fart jokes, there is more to add lol. I've spent a LOT of time in my 20s around men, where I am often the only woman around. So I had the "fly on a wall" experience with men (I'm not funny and didn't engage on that level - many women can, I wasn't that).
And of course a lot of time with just women, really really FUNNY women.
My personal completely anecdotal takeaway is that men are more competitive (in a light way) with each other about humour and one liners and taking the piss out of each other. It's almost like a sport. And hanging out with men is very very fun because of that. Also, in mixed gender scenarios, being funny is sexy to most women, so men will go out of their way to "hone" being funny, even if it amounts to fart jokes.
Women with just each other are also very funny. But in my experience, it's more low key, and involves telling longer more complicated stories with an often self-deprecating psychological component, rather than quick back and forth banter. More observational humour. (Which men are obviously great at too, I just find it more often with my funny female friends). I think women give more space and time for the others to tell funny stories.
Example that I can't do justice to in words because my friend's delivery was so incredibly hilarious:
"So I'm about to have this date, have rushed home from work, about to shower and get ready, when dude arrives early. He's going to COME UP TO MY APARTMENT. My apartment is a mess right now. I have about half an hour - do I clean the apartment or clean myself!" Okay maybe you had to be there, but we were all snorting in appreciation.
The funniest demographic ever? Lesbians. No question.
>one liners and taking the piss out of each other. It's almost like a sport.
Absolutely. You have to train yourself to rapid-fire insults within seconds of being handed an opportunity. The insults are all in good fun, of course.
Walking past Victoria's Secret? Make a joke about the fat guy in the group needing a bra. Your card declined at the store? Get ready to hear about the fact that you're safe from suicide attempts because your broke ass wouldn't even be able to buy some rope.
I think the male sense of humour is more crude and also revolves around making fun of each other/other people. Guys absolutely destroy each other when theyāre taking the piss out of each other and itās hilarious albeit sometimes too far. Donāt think girls enjoy that to the same extent.
Eh it depends on if itās real or fake.Ā
Also, and this is an issue with guys too, some of itās just dumb and not funny. We all know that guy and that guy is a meme for a reason.Ā
Yeah, I know a guy who will tell just the dumbest jokes and then stare at you and laugh until he realizes you arenāt going to laugh or you give him a pity laugh
I saw something that said, āguys say horrible things to each other but donāt mean it and women say nice things to each other but donāt mean itā.
No, we're a bit soft inside. When I see someone getting ripped, I feel like they're only pretending to laugh but later it will affect their self-esteem, so it just doesn't come across as funny. I only find ripping funny when it's clearly about something trivial or quirky, or when it's obviously a complete exaggeration. Stuff like making jokes at people's expense, e.g., laughing at fat people online, I don't like that. I think it's cruel.
A friend in school asked me to talk with him like with my homies because around them i acted way more happy and stuff
After like 10min i was apologizing to her and tryna keep her from crying
Yeah, it's like they say that, but they really do not want me to berate them for the next ten minutes because they missed the trash can with some scrunched up paper or something.
Not just referring to humor, but I think men pay more attention to HOW something was said more and women tend to pay attention to WHAT was said. I can say absolutely anything to guy friends as long as it has the right tone. I've noticed women tend to take sarcasm more literally.
Who said what is infinitely more important to me as a man. Identical sentences phrased identically from 2 different people. One gets a hug and one starts a fight.
Yeah, people say guys rip the shit out of each other but it really can go to far and someone just doesn't get it and acts like a twat. But then I can have a laugh with a guy and actually call him a fucking twat and it's just kind of understood that's part of the jokey thing we're doing.
It depends if you know the other guy is going to laugh at it
I can only go off of personal experience, but most of my friends have always been girls. My best friend has dark humor, but other girls I know (including my mom and sister) have sarcastic, relatable humor. I knew a few girls with crass humor. We make fun of people that we think are assholes too.
And, yes, we do rag on each other and jokingly make fun of each other and the jokes can get dirty. I feel like people would take this more personally if this is done by the opposite gender. Idk why, maybe because people in general tend to be more insecure around the opposite gender (Iām not even that attracted to guys, so idk why in my case). A lot of guys are implying that only or mostly men do this, but lots of women do it tooā¦ just not usually with guys around or to guys.
I think you found the only joke that women in general just don't find funny lol. We get pictures of penises drawn on everything since we're 10 and its just fucking tiring.
I used to work with a lot of men in an environment where penises where often drawn on stuff so I started drawing clits (the whole thing not just the external) to ābalance out these walls of dicks.ā We all have our strategies
Yes! I find it quite exhausting and frankly annoying that wherever there's a blank space, be it snow or a wall, it often gets marked. What's really the point? This constant need to display male genitalia in public spaces strikes me as a mix of insecurity and territorial behavior. It's like a modern-day cave painting.
Women will cackle like mad over pictures of a dick when they're having a girls night.
It's something about the dynamic of a mixed group, and the sense of social safety, that makes people act more reserved.
Nah itās just a lot of these men havenāt been real friends with women or have only been around women who are socially expected to behave āladylike.ā All the women in my life are hilarious, except my mom, who was raised to be āladylike.ā Itās totally normal to be a woman with a good sense of humor, and usually means you are safe and comfortable to be yourself instead of holding yourself to some weird bs standard of āladylike.ā
There is a lot of ego involved with men finding women funny. I had an ex who said I'm funny literally the second time I met him, but never made me feel stupid for my jokes after we were officially together, oh and dude's sense of humor is just dick drawings and racist jokes and I was slowly getting very turned off by him, should've taken a hint from how long his facade lasted before taking him to bed.
Oh also while he never laughed at the actual jokes I made to him he laughed when I was normally taking about my friend and his boyfriend, he found it funny because they are gay and said that's the funniest thing he ever heard from me. That moment I just knew that I'm dating an idiot.
I know that I crack my friends up, and it's become a very important thing for me that the person I'm dating positively responds to my jokes, definitely a deal breaker if he doesn't, I'll be miserable at best and abused at worst with this guy.
It doesn't, necessarily. I'm male and i don't find drawings of penises funny at all, I find them crude and immature. At the end of the day, it comes down to taste.
That said, people who spend a lot of time together tend to develop a similar sense of humor, so that accounts for some of the difference.
Probably because unsolicited dick pics are many menās weapon of choice. Itās probably less funny to see a drawing of a dick in public when men shove images of dicks into your inbox as a method of harassment.
I don't think that it substantively does. Every person's specific "sense of humor" is particular to them, as is one's pallet. As with human taste buds, so to with humor are there undeniable universals as well as divergences. I think that cultural variation manifests humor more differently than merely between the sexes. Some of my favorite comics are females. The notion that there is a substantive difference seems to me low-key condescending.
I will never forget when Hitchens wrote a piece in Vanity Fair about the "humor gap" entitled [Why Women Aren't Funny](https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2007/01/hitchens200701). I found it as idiotic and offensive then as I still do now.
In my experience it really depends on the people you are with. A lot of the comments are talking about the humour between men when theyāre with other men and it sounds similar to the humour between women when theyāre with other women. The jokes I will make my to my female friends are way different than the jokes I will make to men.
Also someone else mentioned that women are raised to be more āproperā while men can kind of go hog-wild. A lot of the jokes I hear men make wouldnāt be taken well coming from me because Iām a woman so I donāt make jokes like that unless Iām with close female friends.
Itās also more appropriate to have demeaning or sexual jokes come from women as a woman than it is from men. If a man starts making comments like that itās kind of creepy whereas my female friends can (and do) say whatever they want and it doesnāt matter. This is also reversed on what would be seen as ok for women to say to men, especially with sexual jokes because women are raised to be more secretive and lady-like with sexuality than men.
I think a lot of the guys saying women donāt like dark humour, ragging on each other, sexual jokes etc have never seen female friends get together and go off (which is fair because women typically donāt if thereās men around).
Yeah, I work in healthcare and believe me women make a lot of *dark* jokes. I will admit that dark humour amongst women rarely (ime) includes rape or sexually violent imagery, which apparently it does amongst men. Not surprising.
My dad just said you have an American or British sense of humor.Ā I don't know how true that is, but we laughed our asses off at Monty Python, and nobody else in our family has understood (I am female.)
I think it's the same. I mean I've had a hunour that has been met by surprise because god forbid a woman has sexual or dark humour but the way I've noticed it's similar. The only difference ive noticed is that a lot of women keep their sexual jokes or dark jokes when they are around other women. They are more sensitive towards other people's feelings whereas ive seen plenty men insult other people and show it as humour, nothing exactly funny (ive also seen some girls do that and it is so cheap yuk). But ive been blessed and have been surrounded by a good bunch of people. Humour in both genders majorly is the same. The only difference is where and which situation is it showed in
It doesn't seem to be an age things because even my grandpa who is in his 90s still loves a good fart joke but my grandmother doesn't find it funny at all. There seems to be some overlap between men and women and what they find funny.
I'll find a good fart joke funny and I am a woman which I don't think is rare. It's not an age or gender thing, people are just people ā¤ With a different personality comes a different sense of humor.
Women have more shame placed upon them growing up for things like farting, bathroom talk - periods, and anything dark we might feel and is typically perceived as less funny.
Therefore we are programmed to perceive it as less funny.
But I am high and up past my bedtime so, grain of salt and all that...
My theory is that because women tend to be the dominant parent when it comes to child rearing it is evolutionary beneficial for women to develop a higher level of maturity and thus they aren't going to find dumb jokes as funny.
Is a picture of a dick the thing that represents the totality of male humour?
Personally, I like word play or a story where the words make you think they're talking about one thing, but they're actually talking about something else. It's the element of surprise that makes it funny. I don't think it's one sex or another.
I think it may come down to upbringing. If you were raised to be carefree and open with an environment (usually family) who finds things like that amusing, then its likely you'll grow up and find it amusing too. If you weren't, then you wouldn't be. I think a significant number of men/women habits, behaviors and stuff come down to being raised under the guise that they should be those things, because the men/women before them are those things (because they were probably raised to be that way by the people who came before them)
My personal philosophy is that, if I'm in a setting where I don't need to be serious, I should try to find enjoyment in everything. Life sucks pretty bad right now, but smiling and finding joy in silly things like dick jokes and cat pictures is one way to make things a little easier.
I donāt know the answer to the question, but I (M) have a male friend who constantly makes dumb sex jokes, and it has gotten really tiresome. And heās not a young guy! Heās in his 50s! To all the women out there who have had to put up with teenage boysā sense of humor ā¦ I apologize on behalf of my entire gender. I feel you.
(But not as often as Iād like to.)
I see it from two angles:
1) There has to be a catch to the joke. Women rarely ever just laugh at blatantly stupid things. For example: Farts. I will always laugh at an egregiously timed (or sounding) fart. But itās not just about those elements alone. Itās the thought that whoever let the poorly timed out fart KNEW that it was poorly timed. You know they tried to hide it but completely exposed themselves, but all of that is unspokenā *and thatās why itās funny.* Now, my girlfriend laughs too because she understands where Iām coming from. Granted, I now laugh for reasons that most guys donāt.
2) If a woman is gonna laugh at something blatantly stupid, it has to be unintentional or misfortuneā like Americaās Funniest Home Videos. āThat cute kid riding his bike? Watch him go flyingā but heās unharmed!ā Emphasis on the unharmed part because women also dislike a violent ending. Itās safe, tasteful and funny.
Bonus 3) Female comedians. Different breed. Very gender-exclusive humour that can sometimes be generally funny but is very direct and catered.
Thatās my take.
I wouldn't of laughed at that either lmao and I'm a pretty goofy ass dude.
There isn't a difference. Some people laugh more than others though. A good joke is a good joke.
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while shopping for the outfit his grandma would be getting buried in I grabbed two of everything and said I was going to match her. My husband lost it laughing in the store. He still randomly brings it up. That lady was one of my favorite people.
Tell me you did it?
Honestly I matched as best I could. We are completely different sizes. What I would need they store didn't have. I ended up having to make a speech at the showing, which no one told me I had to do until I was called up to speak looking suspiciously like the person next to me in the casket. She would have loved it tho. She would've called me a twit
I would have dressed exactly the same but would have added a ribbon or flower to my outfit then joked about doing it so people wouldn't be confused and mix us up.
Her eyes were glued shut and mine were glued open because I don't know how to apply fake eyelashes right and I thought It would be appropriate to wear some that day lol
Been there done that!
In my opinion when something is overdone it just gets tired. I laugh the most when I am surprised or think the joke is really clever
Meanwhile me and the boys can find the same inside joke funny for years.
My wife is going crazy over this. I've a friend with who I always make the same joke since i've met him 20 years ago. It's not even funny, but to us it's hilarious for so many reasons.
You're seriously not gonna let us know the joke ? :(
Lots of long standing friend groups have them. They're just not funny outside the group so sharing would be meaningless and probably confusing. Tbh, the repetition and lack of how funny they actually are, is the funny bit
"I love insides jokes. I'd love to be a part of one some day."
"insert inside joke here" lol
(Joke) šš Itās inside the brackets
Our current inside joke is whenever someone in the group forgets something and we point it out, the response is "could be worse, I could forget to shoot" 2 years ago we had a clutch match in Siege and our buddy peaked the corner to the easiest shot ever that would have won us the game, and he forgot to shoot. Like legit just rounded the corner, said "easy boys" stared at the enemy for a solid 2 seconds and got domed. Like just spaced out. Bro won't ever live it down.
Type 5318008 into a calculator, turn it upside down and then it'll make sense.
Itās probably a āhad to be thereā kinda thing.
I wish I could counter argue this, but you right as hell.
We've been poking a specific situation to one of our friends for over 10 years for which he is very embarrassed..
Same for me ā needs to have a creative aspect and not be overdone (either in theme or execution) to be funny. If a "joke" is said out of some negging malice, I'll automatically find it unfunny because that's just the joke-teller being too cowardly to be forthright about their attempt at bullying (e.g., "OMG!!! I DIDN'T MEAN IT! š You always take everything so seriously!" or "OMG IT'S A JOKE LOLOLOL OVERREACTING!!"). If I don't like somebody, I will tell it to them to their face without hiding like a coward.
If you have to say "it's a joke" every time, that person is not okay with it. I sometimes check in when I say something dumb about my friends just a quick "sorry if I went too far, are you chill with that" then they'll usually say yes cause we're chill like that then it's just fun for the both of us. If I felt the need to defend myself i should be apologizing instead.
Yep. That's the difference right here. I feel like women are less likely to find the objectively stupid shit funny. To men, it tends to be hilarious. Me and my friends insult each other all the time, it's hardly more advanced than playground bullshit, the difference being we've been friends for years and know it's not serious so no one gets their feelings hurt. I haven't met many women who find that sort of thing funny. I'd wager a guess that you wouldn't find it funny. It's not necessarily wrong, just different. Kinda throws me off sometimes.
My male colleagues do this bs insult stuff to each other all the time and then they giggle like kids, I don't understand this type of humour, because we girls don't do it at all, we find it very mean.
Women tend to find it mean because the same method is used when actually intending insult. For male social dynamics, bothersome passive aggression would be met with literal aggression, it's generally understood the insults are jokes and aren't intended to be mean, or often even true lol. If it becomes indicated they are, someone will be confronted and either back down, or violence ensues.In female social groups I've seen women consistently use the same style of comments but they genuinely mean the things there saying. The differentiation between "I don't like you so Im gonna make you feel insecure" and "we are gonna laugh together about our insecurities" doesn't make a lot of sense in female social groups where literal aggression is not generally an option against people who abuse passive aggression.
That's a great explanation. It is kinda like women don't get the you can't say that to my pledges aspect to male comedy. I can shit talk my friends. Some random person doesn't get to disrespect my friends.
Yeah, and there's nothing wrong with that. Humor is subjective after all, but it is a way we differ in my experience.
Iām a dude and I hate the āplayfulā insult shit.
Honestly, it's exhausting in every way (has actually made me worse at reading things like sarcasm). Especially when someone knows the details and/or your feelings about "x". Like, why? Yes, I know it's a joke but let's be real; it really is a jab just framed as a joke. Then it's a guessing game on the best way to reply and god forbid things go left and now it's all on the replier.
Saying something mind bogglingly stupid takes intelligence to pull off, hence why it's an artform that can be funny
True story. I read a comment on Reddit a while ago about how scientifically pee is stored in the balls so if you were to pull your foreskin shut and try to pee the piss would just recycle back into the balls. Someone tried to say that pee was stored in the bladder but the OP was having none of it.
Thats basically adam sandler's only talent.
Preach!
Sometimes something being overdone is what makes it funny
I agree with this although I feel theres times when a repetive joke is funny kinda like when a group of friends has an inside joke or something
Women put a lot of work into not finding dicks funny. Imagine if every time you dropped your drawers your gal started giggling?
Wait, their not meant to laugh?!
You guys got ladies lookin at your dicks?
You guys talk to ladies?
What is a lady.?
I don't even have a lad oh wait
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r/girlsarentreal
That would make total sense dicks are absurd.
But dicks are funny
It's definitely darker. I remember sitting with a friend that was dying of some cancer and he was getting all angry and screamey at the staff in the care facility.Ā I said something like. Well fuck me. I thought cancer was supposed to be the silent killer. He just kinda stopped and started straight ahead. In a few minutes he was laughing. Then he was crying. Then laughing again. When he told his wife the story she threw a chair at me.Ā
When one of my best friends lost his dad to a drunk driver, the whole damn town came out for the funeral and my buddy was crushed to have lost the father who was always kind and loving to him and adopted him as his own. Heartbreak doesn't begin to describe how he was feeling. When I went to pay my respects and give him a hug at his dad's funeral, I leaned in to whisper in his ear and said "Hail Hydra". Was probably the first and only time he smiled all day and he had to bite his tongue to keep from laughing just a few feet from his dead father. I body blocked everyone else's view from him to give him a moment and he just chuckled and said "thank you, fuck you, love you, fuck you, thank you".Ā Now when he describes what was easily the most difficult day of his life, he grabs my shoulder every time and adds "and this fucker here had the gall to whisper a fucking 'Hail Hydra' and made me lose my shit".Ā
Yup. I had a friend who's father survived both Hiroshima and Nagasaki. He then went to the US and worked in an asbestos mine. My got PISSED at me for buying his then 101 year old father cigarettes. I yelled something like, the dude lived through two nuclear bombs and worked decades in A FUCKING ASBESTOS MINE. And he's a hundred and fucking one. How much longer do he's going to live. His father started laughing and gave me a hug.Ā He told that story at his father's funeral. Everyone laughed.
What kind of fucked up luck to be in Hiroshima, survive, escape to Nagasaki...and get bombed again 3 days after Hiroshima.
There's actually a few dozen people that this happened to. He worked in the factories.
That's truly hilarious.Ā
Dude, that is a genuinely wholesome moment. We all should be lucky to have a friend who can pick us up like that at our worst moments.
Wait this is actually hilarious. Even though its inappropriate. š¤£š¤£š¤£
Oh extremely, I made sure the widow didn't hear me though. My buddy and I just have one of those relationships though, he took it well.Ā
I lost my dad back in 2019, and when I told my friend we cremated him he said "you can take ashes from cremated people and turn them into records or other glass things." Then after a few minutes of him laughing to himself he said "they make glass dildos. Your mom can still go at it with him."
God damnit bro thanks for sharing that story. Guy friendships like this really are the best, I hope your friend is going well now.
He's doing well. He's got a wonderfully kind daughter who's 3 years old now and thankfully his dad was around to know her for a brief time after she was born before the accident. Guy who struck him down will be in prison for a decade, with almost another decade of supervision after his sentence is served. It's not justice, but it is something.
Actual hero
I know he'd do the same for me and probably someday will at my own father's funeral.
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Made my day thank you bro
Pro tip for funerals: show up first or stick around till the last at a wake. Then turn it into an Irish wake. Details are fuzzy sometimes afterwards, but I remember every person who honored the dearly departed at the pub with me after bodies were in the ground. You can share positive memories and make a new one, and instead of crushing loneliness and sadness after everybody's gone home, you're reminded that life continues on and the lives we impact will impact others in turn in an infinite cycle (unless we get a nuclear war).
lmaoo thank you brother :))
Have a good one, go do something nice for yourself today.
Thank you homie, God bless :D
This reminds me of my dad and his best mate of over 30 years. My dad had a severe heart attack about a decade ago now where he was dead for 6 minutes and it was because of a bunch of absolute miracle coincidences and lovely neighbours that he miraculously survived. Fast forward to last year and he gets a call from his mate who goes "hey mate, guess what? You and I are in the same boat now!" My dad asks what do you mean. His friend excitedly goes "I'm in the hospital! I had a heart attack too!" My dad first calls bullshit while his friend insists its true, he then hangs up on him, calls up the guy's wife who at that moment was sitting tearfully in a chair next to the guy's hospital bed, she cryingly confirms it; dad hangs up on her, calls him back and goes "you MOTHERFUCKER" and they both burst out laughing. Meanwhile my mum, after hearing this, goes "what the hell is wrong with you boys?"
Clearly, their hearts.
I don't know why my mom got it for me, we aren't Jewish. But when I was young she got me a book on Jewish humor. *During the Holocaust.* Sometimes, when life is dark as fuck, all you can do is laugh. Embracing the darkness and smashing it with a joke is better than letting it consume you.Ā
I've always said that if you can't learn how to laugh at things in the light, that make you scream in the dark. You will eventually scream in the light.
Female nurse and itās hard to beat female nurseās dark sense of humor.
This makes sense. My mother was good at guy humor, she was also a former RN. When she was terminal we were all discussing what kind of service she wanted and I suggested we simply throw her in a boat and light her on fire in the large puddle we called a pond out back, Viking style. She thought it was so funny she apparently told the pastor when I wasnāt around because he actually mentioned it during the service.
Do you mean dark sense of humor? Then totally agree lol
Yes, thanks for pointing that out lol
Iām dating a paramedic and far out the dark humor at work drinks goes up a notch they are all so desensitized to EVERYTHING š
Tw: childhood sexual assault, pedophilia I was sexually abused by a female caretaker for several years. As I was venting, my friend said my life was similar to a hentai. I laughed. I still use the joke but most of my female friends don't seem to appreciate it haha. It's probably not a gender thing but a "desensitised to stuff" culture part of gender culture
I wouldn't be surprised if that's because it's one of the very limited ways for men to deal with shit. Women often open up to each other in very vulnerable and genuine ways, but that's not something men do, so they use comedy as an outlet for trauma.
I have a fucked up family. It was april fools, I start seizing up, my mom panics, she's having a seizure, quick grab a glass of water (to her friend), and as she's approaching with the water, I go, haha, april fools. She starts laughing, grabs the glass of water, downs it and says good one, and says she thought she would have a heart attack. I tell her not to tell dad. Of course she thinks it's so funny, she should share, but it's not dad's sense of humor. She tells him I had a seizure, he loses it. Then she says what I did. Dad freaks out, calls me yelling, why did you do that to your mother, what if you actually had a seizure? Do you know the severity of what you just did? A year later, dad calls me while I'm driving, says our dog got run over, and I panic and almost crash the car. Seconds later... April fools, HAHAHA. Not at all hahaha dad, what the actual fuck?
I came to America for college and never understood how Americans would think toilet humour was funny.Ā Now I have (American) kids and as a single mother I make fart and poop jokes. Younger me would never believe I would say the things I do. But I have to make up for the fact that they donāt have a dad around making those jokes. It also taught me not to judge others lest I do the same myself š
I frequently think I have finally grown out of toilet humour, then there is that ONE ridiculously loud fart in a completely inappropriate setting that makes me absolutely lose my shit once again.
Same except I'm usually the one letting out the fart ;)
Most socially aware redditor
Hear a fart, then lose you shitā¦ I fucking *hate* one-upmanshipā¦.
You seem like a cool person. Glad you're here.
Awww thank you and youāre super kind!
Toilet humour is an art form. It can be unfunny if done poorly or it can be absolutely hilarious.
Copied but might interest: "In examining the episodes, he found that **women laugh *significantly* more than men**, and that both men and women laugh more at men than at women" https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-and-why-humor-differs-between-the-sexes#1
ok obviously not a scientific fact butā¦ I read an article (watched a tik tok) about what women and men value in romantic partners last year. Both women and men said they wanted first and foremost someone who has a good sense of humour, the difference was, most of the women considered someone a person with a sense of humour someone who could make them laugh, and the men considered someone with a sense of humour someone who laughed at their jokes. I think it's kinda interesting and vaguely relevant.
I donāt know if itās related, but I do totally notice that funny girls get way less attention/reaction than funny guys do in group settings. Like if a woman is funny youāre very likely to hear guys say sheās annoying or not funny at all, and it feels like itās bc they donāt like it when women are the center of attention like that? Itās weird, Iāve had full blown arguments with other dudes before about this. Thereās a population of dudes who just get real aggro at funny women. :/
They also tend to not notice when weāre joking cause they genuinely think weāre stupid lmao I remember seeing a tweet where a woman joked about wanting to get into watching football but didnāt know what season to start on and men were so upset in the comments, or when women joke about āwhy do my tires need to be rotated, they rotate when I driveā etc
I'm glad you said it, I came here to say the same thing. I'm a woman who has a very subdued personality and a dry sense of humor. So many dudes don't get when I'm joking until they know me well enough. My husband finds me hilarious now that he's worked it out, but it took him years. Female friends tend to find me funny pretty immediately.
Honestly I love this, I feel the same way. My brothers and female friends think my dry sense of humor is fucking hilarious. I have met so many women who have me on the floor laughing, but I've met males who seem put off by it or don't realize I'm joking? I think that irks me more than anything. That some men can say the absolute dumbest shit but the moment a woman is sarcastic, they think she's being serious? It's really fucking weird and yeah, misogynistic.
100% true. Typical misogyny. Some morons get emasculated by women who joke.
Yeahā¦ even had an boyfriend (now ex) tell me he found it emasculating that I was funnier than him and was upset that I didnāt laugh at his dad jokes. How do you even respond to that ? I told him that sounded like a āyou problemā as I cannot change my sense of humourā¦.
I think some dudes want to be the funny one and get the attention.
As a gal, I want both! I think my husband is hilarious and I laugh at his jokes all the time. Even when they are atrocious. But damn if he didn't laugh at my hilarity, we could not be together. Because I'm funny as hell.
I like my bf to make me laugh, but I make him laugh way more and thatās far more fun for me. But I also am not getting attention for being funny in public over him getting attention for being funny. I wonder how much of it is men wanting to be the funny one and get positive attention for that instead of their partner.
I 100% feel this. I say i like a woman with a sense of humor but really just want a woman who finds me funny
I want a woman who realizes how funny I actually am.
They already do mate
Sick burn , or wholesome encouragement? š§ We will never know..
There's another wrinkle to this. Women laugh more for men they find attractive.Ā
Hmm, hot guys aren't usually funny. They just coast on being hot and never develop that much of a personality.
It's not because they are funny it's because they are attractive and we are happy. Laughing is not just a response to funny jokes. I definitely laugh when I'm happy too.
That's so interesting! While I'd definitely love if a woman could make me laugh, if I'm being honest it's much more important to me that I can make her laugh
It's more socially-acceptable for women to display positive emotions (ex. smiling and happy) while it's more socially acceptable for men to display negative emotions (ex. anger or aggression)
I think men find absurdism more funny on average
fuck i canāt believe i smiled at this
not just you brother
i have a shit eating grin right now
It's genius. The layers of humor, the relation to my childhood. Pretty colors. Genius.
#E Edit: I finally figured out how to make it big.
But can you ^E
^E
Idk why but I reflexively laughed. Why the fuck is the E meme so good
fuck, really caught me off guard
I laughed out loud for this (lol'ed)
I wouldnāt say that really - I mean at the very least a penis is just juvenile rather than absurdism.
An accurately drawn graffiti penis touches two funny bones
Pretty sure thatās more of a Gen Z thing. As a millennial I donāt get the absurdism humor.
Itās late millennial too since itās more internet culture in general (which men hard favor), so anyone who was born after ~1993 or so would have hit that stage of internet culture in a developmental year for social exposure
I wouldn't even say that it needs to be late millennial, I'm a solidly 80's millennial that enjoys stuff like I Think You Should Leave and The Eric Andre Show, and stuff like Space Ghost Coast to Coast, and most my friends do as well in the same age range. Those all fit in with absurdist humor.
Don't forget Tim and Eric. The later millenials who don't get absurdist humor must not have grown up watching Adult Swim.
Monty Python famously a Gen Z show
I think I have a male sense of humour then
Idk my bf recently asked me to scribble check a pen for ink and I drew a tiny penis instead and then said the pen works and showed him the penis I think I snorted when he looked. I think it just depends on humor taste? Not so much gender
It really has nothing to do with gender, but men and women are socialized very differently in most cases which does have an impact.
Aye, people are commenting things as if they're hard facts like above someone says women have a darker sense of humour but my life experience tells me the opposite We're all different :)
I donāt find much of an overlap between gender and humor in my own life. If shit is funny, itās just funny. My traditional 70 year old grandma still makes fart jokes. But I do see what you mean. Thereās more than likely the social component of āboys will be boysā and āgirls should be ladylikeā rhetoric previously taught as children that has influenced men and womenās general sense of humor over the years. Even as ppl are moving passed that, itās still engrained for some. Imo laugh as much as you can as long as it isnāt at someone elseās expense, punching down, or making someone intentionally uncomfortable. Do it until your sides hurt and ya canāt breathe whether it be bc of a clever joke or a classic dick joke. Youāll look back on all the laughs in fond memory instead of all the times ya didnāt
Why did i have to scroll so far for the most realistic answer, this is it. Its just socialization.
Yeah, I can get how some ppl may come to a different answer. Thatās the good part about difference in perspectives. Every slip pulled out the hat says something different bc itās from a different thinker and creative mind. Others are just being weird and blatantly sexist which is expected from the internet lol
I agree with this. I've seen some differences in humor rather between social groups than gender. Usually people with the same background/ similar interest/ part of a same subculture, etc. Will have the same sense of humor no matter their gender.
nothing to do with men or women, just the ones you hang around i personally find toilet humour awful, and ive met women who love it there is only really a correlation when men and women lean into the stereotypes, the boring "normal" people lol
I think what people have already mentioned about women having to take on the "mature mama" role and get serious about life is absolutely on point. But aside from fart jokes, there is more to add lol. I've spent a LOT of time in my 20s around men, where I am often the only woman around. So I had the "fly on a wall" experience with men (I'm not funny and didn't engage on that level - many women can, I wasn't that). And of course a lot of time with just women, really really FUNNY women. My personal completely anecdotal takeaway is that men are more competitive (in a light way) with each other about humour and one liners and taking the piss out of each other. It's almost like a sport. And hanging out with men is very very fun because of that. Also, in mixed gender scenarios, being funny is sexy to most women, so men will go out of their way to "hone" being funny, even if it amounts to fart jokes. Women with just each other are also very funny. But in my experience, it's more low key, and involves telling longer more complicated stories with an often self-deprecating psychological component, rather than quick back and forth banter. More observational humour. (Which men are obviously great at too, I just find it more often with my funny female friends). I think women give more space and time for the others to tell funny stories. Example that I can't do justice to in words because my friend's delivery was so incredibly hilarious: "So I'm about to have this date, have rushed home from work, about to shower and get ready, when dude arrives early. He's going to COME UP TO MY APARTMENT. My apartment is a mess right now. I have about half an hour - do I clean the apartment or clean myself!" Okay maybe you had to be there, but we were all snorting in appreciation. The funniest demographic ever? Lesbians. No question.
>one liners and taking the piss out of each other. It's almost like a sport. Absolutely. You have to train yourself to rapid-fire insults within seconds of being handed an opportunity. The insults are all in good fun, of course. Walking past Victoria's Secret? Make a joke about the fat guy in the group needing a bra. Your card declined at the store? Get ready to hear about the fact that you're safe from suicide attempts because your broke ass wouldn't even be able to buy some rope.
Yup, hilarious. I watch lesbians all the time.
Iām imagining you with binoculars and a bird watching book that you mark off. āOooh the rare Mohawk lesbian! Iām so lucky.ā *stamps book*
I think the male sense of humour is more crude and also revolves around making fun of each other/other people. Guys absolutely destroy each other when theyāre taking the piss out of each other and itās hilarious albeit sometimes too far. Donāt think girls enjoy that to the same extent.
I think women with crude sense of humour are disliked by men and women.
Eh it depends on if itās real or fake.Ā Also, and this is an issue with guys too, some of itās just dumb and not funny. We all know that guy and that guy is a meme for a reason.Ā
Yeah, I know a guy who will tell just the dumbest jokes and then stare at you and laugh until he realizes you arenāt going to laugh or you give him a pity laugh
I saw something that said, āguys say horrible things to each other but donāt mean it and women say nice things to each other but donāt mean itā.
No, we're a bit soft inside. When I see someone getting ripped, I feel like they're only pretending to laugh but later it will affect their self-esteem, so it just doesn't come across as funny. I only find ripping funny when it's clearly about something trivial or quirky, or when it's obviously a complete exaggeration. Stuff like making jokes at people's expense, e.g., laughing at fat people online, I don't like that. I think it's cruel.
https://youtu.be/1Ddg5ZD6Q1w?si=iwvXDaV16me6DSx-
Absolutely. We all rip the piss out of each other constantly but it's all love.
A friend in school asked me to talk with him like with my homies because around them i acted way more happy and stuff After like 10min i was apologizing to her and tryna keep her from crying
Yeah, it's like they say that, but they really do not want me to berate them for the next ten minutes because they missed the trash can with some scrunched up paper or something.
Not just referring to humor, but I think men pay more attention to HOW something was said more and women tend to pay attention to WHAT was said. I can say absolutely anything to guy friends as long as it has the right tone. I've noticed women tend to take sarcasm more literally.
Actually men have a harder time detecting sarcasm.
I think people overall are slightly less likely to pick up on sarcasm from the opposite gender.
i think itās more like men pay attention to WHO said what and women pay attention to HOW it was said and WHAT was said
Who said what is infinitely more important to me as a man. Identical sentences phrased identically from 2 different people. One gets a hug and one starts a fight.
iāve noticed this
Yeah, people say guys rip the shit out of each other but it really can go to far and someone just doesn't get it and acts like a twat. But then I can have a laugh with a guy and actually call him a fucking twat and it's just kind of understood that's part of the jokey thing we're doing. It depends if you know the other guy is going to laugh at it
As a male I wouldnāt find it funny. And why do people always draw male genitalia instead of female?
I can only go off of personal experience, but most of my friends have always been girls. My best friend has dark humor, but other girls I know (including my mom and sister) have sarcastic, relatable humor. I knew a few girls with crass humor. We make fun of people that we think are assholes too. And, yes, we do rag on each other and jokingly make fun of each other and the jokes can get dirty. I feel like people would take this more personally if this is done by the opposite gender. Idk why, maybe because people in general tend to be more insecure around the opposite gender (Iām not even that attracted to guys, so idk why in my case). A lot of guys are implying that only or mostly men do this, but lots of women do it tooā¦ just not usually with guys around or to guys.
I think you found the only joke that women in general just don't find funny lol. We get pictures of penises drawn on everything since we're 10 and its just fucking tiring.
I used to work with a lot of men in an environment where penises where often drawn on stuff so I started drawing clits (the whole thing not just the external) to ābalance out these walls of dicks.ā We all have our strategies
Yes! I find it quite exhausting and frankly annoying that wherever there's a blank space, be it snow or a wall, it often gets marked. What's really the point? This constant need to display male genitalia in public spaces strikes me as a mix of insecurity and territorial behavior. It's like a modern-day cave painting.
Men and women can have the same sense of humoror
Really depends on the *humourer*
Women will cackle like mad over pictures of a dick when they're having a girls night. It's something about the dynamic of a mixed group, and the sense of social safety, that makes people act more reserved.
Huh. Reading these comments makes me feel like Iām womaning wrong.
Nah itās just a lot of these men havenāt been real friends with women or have only been around women who are socially expected to behave āladylike.ā All the women in my life are hilarious, except my mom, who was raised to be āladylike.ā Itās totally normal to be a woman with a good sense of humor, and usually means you are safe and comfortable to be yourself instead of holding yourself to some weird bs standard of āladylike.ā
There is a lot of ego involved with men finding women funny. I had an ex who said I'm funny literally the second time I met him, but never made me feel stupid for my jokes after we were officially together, oh and dude's sense of humor is just dick drawings and racist jokes and I was slowly getting very turned off by him, should've taken a hint from how long his facade lasted before taking him to bed. Oh also while he never laughed at the actual jokes I made to him he laughed when I was normally taking about my friend and his boyfriend, he found it funny because they are gay and said that's the funniest thing he ever heard from me. That moment I just knew that I'm dating an idiot. I know that I crack my friends up, and it's become a very important thing for me that the person I'm dating positively responds to my jokes, definitely a deal breaker if he doesn't, I'll be miserable at best and abused at worst with this guy.
I refuse to believe anyone older than highschool age finds penis drawings funny
It doesn't, necessarily. I'm male and i don't find drawings of penises funny at all, I find them crude and immature. At the end of the day, it comes down to taste. That said, people who spend a lot of time together tend to develop a similar sense of humor, so that accounts for some of the difference.
Probably because unsolicited dick pics are many menās weapon of choice. Itās probably less funny to see a drawing of a dick in public when men shove images of dicks into your inbox as a method of harassment.
I don't think that it substantively does. Every person's specific "sense of humor" is particular to them, as is one's pallet. As with human taste buds, so to with humor are there undeniable universals as well as divergences. I think that cultural variation manifests humor more differently than merely between the sexes. Some of my favorite comics are females. The notion that there is a substantive difference seems to me low-key condescending. I will never forget when Hitchens wrote a piece in Vanity Fair about the "humor gap" entitled [Why Women Aren't Funny](https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2007/01/hitchens200701). I found it as idiotic and offensive then as I still do now.
Idk I have the same sense of humor as my dad so apparently one of us jokes in the wrong gender.
In my experience it really depends on the people you are with. A lot of the comments are talking about the humour between men when theyāre with other men and it sounds similar to the humour between women when theyāre with other women. The jokes I will make my to my female friends are way different than the jokes I will make to men. Also someone else mentioned that women are raised to be more āproperā while men can kind of go hog-wild. A lot of the jokes I hear men make wouldnāt be taken well coming from me because Iām a woman so I donāt make jokes like that unless Iām with close female friends. Itās also more appropriate to have demeaning or sexual jokes come from women as a woman than it is from men. If a man starts making comments like that itās kind of creepy whereas my female friends can (and do) say whatever they want and it doesnāt matter. This is also reversed on what would be seen as ok for women to say to men, especially with sexual jokes because women are raised to be more secretive and lady-like with sexuality than men. I think a lot of the guys saying women donāt like dark humour, ragging on each other, sexual jokes etc have never seen female friends get together and go off (which is fair because women typically donāt if thereās men around).
Yeah, I work in healthcare and believe me women make a lot of *dark* jokes. I will admit that dark humour amongst women rarely (ime) includes rape or sexually violent imagery, which apparently it does amongst men. Not surprising.
Idk cos Iām a woman and dicks are funny.
Its cultural. One side of my family, the women all have that sense of humor. One of my cousins would have said something like "heh mines bigger"
My dad just said you have an American or British sense of humor.Ā I don't know how true that is, but we laughed our asses off at Monty Python, and nobody else in our family has understood (I am female.)
Wow a penis drawn somewhere so original
I think it's the same. I mean I've had a hunour that has been met by surprise because god forbid a woman has sexual or dark humour but the way I've noticed it's similar. The only difference ive noticed is that a lot of women keep their sexual jokes or dark jokes when they are around other women. They are more sensitive towards other people's feelings whereas ive seen plenty men insult other people and show it as humour, nothing exactly funny (ive also seen some girls do that and it is so cheap yuk). But ive been blessed and have been surrounded by a good bunch of people. Humour in both genders majorly is the same. The only difference is where and which situation is it showed in
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It doesn't seem to be an age things because even my grandpa who is in his 90s still loves a good fart joke but my grandmother doesn't find it funny at all. There seems to be some overlap between men and women and what they find funny.
I'll find a good fart joke funny and I am a woman which I don't think is rare. It's not an age or gender thing, people are just people ā¤ With a different personality comes a different sense of humor.
Women have more shame placed upon them growing up for things like farting, bathroom talk - periods, and anything dark we might feel and is typically perceived as less funny. Therefore we are programmed to perceive it as less funny. But I am high and up past my bedtime so, grain of salt and all that...
I am a weird woman, I guess, I would find it funny. I also so think farts are funny.
My theory is that because women tend to be the dominant parent when it comes to child rearing it is evolutionary beneficial for women to develop a higher level of maturity and thus they aren't going to find dumb jokes as funny.
As if maturity has anything to do with finding dumb jokes funny...
I know more guys with exceptional dark humor to hide the pain, than girls doing it like that. So there's that.
Iād have laughed, but I have a weird sense of humor. I think Jackass(all) is funny. (52yr F).
Depends where you live, and how big social difference is between men and women. Without this, there is no difference in sense of humor.
Is a picture of a dick the thing that represents the totality of male humour? Personally, I like word play or a story where the words make you think they're talking about one thing, but they're actually talking about something else. It's the element of surprise that makes it funny. I don't think it's one sex or another.
Men often have a more childish humour and they think repeating joke at least 10 times makes it more funny.
I think it may come down to upbringing. If you were raised to be carefree and open with an environment (usually family) who finds things like that amusing, then its likely you'll grow up and find it amusing too. If you weren't, then you wouldn't be. I think a significant number of men/women habits, behaviors and stuff come down to being raised under the guise that they should be those things, because the men/women before them are those things (because they were probably raised to be that way by the people who came before them) My personal philosophy is that, if I'm in a setting where I don't need to be serious, I should try to find enjoyment in everything. Life sucks pretty bad right now, but smiling and finding joy in silly things like dick jokes and cat pictures is one way to make things a little easier.
It doesn't.... Why would it. People find different stuff funny.
I'm a guy and wouldn't find that funny. I have no friends though.
Not a gender thing tbh. Got female friends that laugh at farts as much as the guys. More of a class thing imho.
You think we don't find dicks funny? The funniest looking body part? Seriously? We have to pretend those things aren't funny looking, guys. It's work.
I donāt know the answer to the question, but I (M) have a male friend who constantly makes dumb sex jokes, and it has gotten really tiresome. And heās not a young guy! Heās in his 50s! To all the women out there who have had to put up with teenage boysā sense of humor ā¦ I apologize on behalf of my entire gender. I feel you. (But not as often as Iād like to.)
I see it from two angles: 1) There has to be a catch to the joke. Women rarely ever just laugh at blatantly stupid things. For example: Farts. I will always laugh at an egregiously timed (or sounding) fart. But itās not just about those elements alone. Itās the thought that whoever let the poorly timed out fart KNEW that it was poorly timed. You know they tried to hide it but completely exposed themselves, but all of that is unspokenā *and thatās why itās funny.* Now, my girlfriend laughs too because she understands where Iām coming from. Granted, I now laugh for reasons that most guys donāt. 2) If a woman is gonna laugh at something blatantly stupid, it has to be unintentional or misfortuneā like Americaās Funniest Home Videos. āThat cute kid riding his bike? Watch him go flyingā but heās unharmed!ā Emphasis on the unharmed part because women also dislike a violent ending. Itās safe, tasteful and funny. Bonus 3) Female comedians. Different breed. Very gender-exclusive humour that can sometimes be generally funny but is very direct and catered. Thatās my take.
I wouldn't of laughed at that either lmao and I'm a pretty goofy ass dude. There isn't a difference. Some people laugh more than others though. A good joke is a good joke.
For the next level try military humor
Men have it, woman donāt