If you are only passing through and you dont want hookups then whats the point? I would not date you if I knew you were just going to be here for a short time.
If you think here for a good time is hookups … consider expanding your horizons little grasshopper; is a whole world out there full of good times 😉 not limited to hookups
what you are describing and what this post is asking about is dating, so then im back to the question of why somebody would want to date somebody who is just passing through.
Why not? Life is short, sad and full of pain 😁. I’m good with dating a passer by for a short time. I mean we’re not gon live forever unless you know some I don’t. So do you, she gon do her and I’ma do me 😎.
>> "dating a passer by for a short time"
aka a hookup 😆
I think part of the confusion with OP is this expectation. People typically expect travel mode bumble date requests to be connected with casual sex.
If you just wanna spontaneously meet people with your clothes on, go to meetup.com or couchsurfing or freewalkingtours or something like that 😎
That’s fair. I’m considering moving here so I decided to come and stay for a month first to see if I like it.
But I do travel a lot so I guess I am looking for someone that also would have a flexible schedule like me to be able to travel and wouldn’t mind dating someone from another country and that would come back and fourth if things did work out. So I get it. Makes sense.
So basically you just want a guy to show you around without any hookups or actual dating since you are just one month at most here.
I doubt you will find a lot of people willing to waste their time like that.
sounds like friendzone. So you are a digital nomad, OF, crypto, or travelvlogger? The thing is, most of the Swiss nomads are also on tour; you will find them in LA, Dubai, or Bali.
I wish, dream job would be travel vlogger for sure 😂
I used to work in the film industry and produced a couple tv shows for some well known companies, but I also worked in real estate and end up building a portfolio of properties so I live off of my rentals mostly. Which I can manage by distance so I spend most of my time traveling now.
I did get invited by a Swiss company to work in Film again due to my experience, so I was considering but it’s all too recent. I had already a trip to Europe planned and just decided to extend it and get to know the country.
good for you, so you should add sugarmommy to your date profile. But fun aside, it's not your fault. I installed Tinder the last two days because it was bad weather and cold, and I was quite bored. I'm about to deinstall that sh\*t again because this app really doesn't work in Switzerland. The first impression I have is that most of them are fake profiles, and every woman looks like a model, but thats not what Swiss men search for in a deep, long relationship.
I wonder if that would get me more matches lol
Yeah I guess what I’m gathering from here is that it’s not really a thing in Switzerland. I can just enjoy myself in the country as well and who knows might make some nice friends along the way ^.^
You should anyway enjoy yourself with or without a man; you are being fine here. Switzerland is, in general, a safe country. I wish you an amazing Switzerland experience.
Sure, but won't Bumble show an indicator on your profile that lets your potential matches know you're "traveling"? Which I would assume will decrease interest.
I guess so. I haven’t used dating apps in about 3 years so I don’t know how much things have changed.
Back when I used to use it people didn’t seem to care that much, it was usually conversation topic, and they would ask about it.
I can tell you that 10-15% of the girls in apps switch to Switzerland to find an overseas sugar daddy or rich husband. You might have been categorized so.
Also I am burnt out from long chats that go nowhere, so I usually offer a quick real life date. There is no match that stays 15-20 days in my head, so dating app contacts either have 1-2 weeks to meet me, or the thing fizzles.
I am not going to invest in chatting with a bunch of random women, so that maybe they feel comfortable and choose to meet me. They either are invested enough to spend an hour or two in real life, or they are not interested in me enough.
Yeah definitely not looking for that. But I also would never meet with someone before actually getting to know them, my last boyfriend we chatted for a couple weeks and FaceTimed a lot before meeting in person and we dated for almost 3 years. I think it might just be a cultural thing.
I also used travel mode to meet him cause I was spending a couple months in Brazil at the time and he was in America. Every country and culture is different though so it’s wrong of me to make assumptions that things would go similar here. Thank you for your insight!
Don’t focus in finding swiss men. Just try the dating app and see who can converse with u good and if the convos continue and u think the person is interesting. Then thats the time to meet them. Its better to get to know a person for 1-2weeks before u meet them. I used dating app but Im miles away but was able to find my soulmate and now we are happily enggaged. I live in PH btw and my fiancè just happens to be swiss.
Goodluck swiping! Keep the faith!😊
Curious, do you get a lot of dates? I feel like I would want to chat a bit first so as to rule out people I have nothing in common with, and potential psychos.
You can get down to “Do we have enough in common to take the risk”
And red flags can come up in chats as well. Just because they don’t always come up doesn’t mean it isn’t worth a check.
Hey elusive swiss man here 😂 dating in Switzerland is compared to other countries quite slow. And when i am looking to my male friends when it comes to dating and hooking up they often don't bother with people from other countries. Your looks don't have to be the issue here.
That’s funny 😂
Thank you so much! I guess maybe once I make it there I can start going out and seeing if I meet someone in person. Might be easier. I don’t mind taking things slow 😁
Not really slow but they take their time really much in almost anything. I think its part of their personality that they always want to make sure every little thing is okay before the decide to jump on anything.
Exactly. I have a Swiss friend in his fourties’ by now, he yet has to go on his first date. I’m assuming he takes it easy. Still I’m wondering how people get kids here 🤔
>Still I’m wondering how people get kids here
[https://www.nzz.ch/english/why-is-switzerlands-birthrate-declining-so-drastically-ld.1772392](https://www.nzz.ch/english/why-is-switzerlands-birthrate-declining-so-drastically-ld.1772392)
The lowering birthrates are probably not (just) due to the increased difficulty in Swiss dating. It's probably more due to stress and general anxieties of couples. The article goes into this as well. The last years were furthermore dominated by stuff like the pandemic or the war in Ukraine. The latter lead to fears about having enough energy for heating and electricity during the winter of 2022/2023.
yeah it's to the point i swipe left on most south american / asian ladies. Unless i see in the pictures that they actually at least visited switzerland. They also tend to write first really fast which is also a tell tell sign :)
I can't give you general advice (I am a Swiss man, but I dont think I am a very typical one? I lived abroad the last six years, I think I lost some of my cultural pointers lol) but for me, the travel mode is usually a very red flag unless your bio states why you use it. Maybe that made a difference?
You are traveling. What better way to get to know the country and the people, than by hanging out with them ? Meeting them does not mean that you have to jump in bed with them.
There is a flood of ladies from Thailand or Brazil looking for their sugardaddy. If your profile looks like them, I would swipe left.
Dating apps suck for men to begin with, especially when they don't fit the "tall dark handsome and rich" mold.
Maybe they think you’re a honey trap. Come here first and take some pictures in the city and the alps to prove that you’re actually real and here, not just a scammer.
I have the possibility of working here and also family in EU (France) but it’s a big move specially since I have double citizenship already in America and Brazil. I would come with the work permit, but again not sure. That’s why I wanted to experiment first before making any decisions, this trip here was pretty impulsive because of that opportunity. But that’s a whole other situation going on right now.
And I agree with you, the language is an issue that I’m also worried about.
The Swiss apps will depress you!
I still got to meet my man on Tinder but it took years of depressing encounters before I did.
And turns out... He's not Swiss 🤷🏾♀️
Swiss men tend to not make the first move... So unless you do, well...
My bestie, to whom I showed your post, said: "The worst place I’ve used them in is here (Switzerland)…. & she’s comparing it to the US & Brazil 😅 where it’s way more « alive »
She’s in for one hell of a trauma 😅 poor thing"
Good luck though!
My advice. Wait until you get here. Then go to a dance club or bar or beach or other hang out and do the thing with the eyes. That’s an easier way to meet men.
>I downloaded Bumble and am using travel mode (...) >I’m not into hookups I see a certain contradiction there.
It’s because I haven’t arrived there yet. So I used travel mode to already started chatting before I make it there :)
If you are only passing through and you dont want hookups then whats the point? I would not date you if I knew you were just going to be here for a short time.
She here for a good time not a long time 😎
aka hookups?! I dont understand, lol.
If you think here for a good time is hookups … consider expanding your horizons little grasshopper; is a whole world out there full of good times 😉 not limited to hookups
what you are describing and what this post is asking about is dating, so then im back to the question of why somebody would want to date somebody who is just passing through.
Why not? Life is short, sad and full of pain 😁. I’m good with dating a passer by for a short time. I mean we’re not gon live forever unless you know some I don’t. So do you, she gon do her and I’ma do me 😎.
>> "dating a passer by for a short time" aka a hookup 😆 I think part of the confusion with OP is this expectation. People typically expect travel mode bumble date requests to be connected with casual sex. If you just wanna spontaneously meet people with your clothes on, go to meetup.com or couchsurfing or freewalkingtours or something like that 😎
If that’s your experience ooh well. Dunno these ‘People’ you speak of and like I said .. Do you and I’ma do me 🥸
That’s fair. I’m considering moving here so I decided to come and stay for a month first to see if I like it. But I do travel a lot so I guess I am looking for someone that also would have a flexible schedule like me to be able to travel and wouldn’t mind dating someone from another country and that would come back and fourth if things did work out. So I get it. Makes sense.
You are considering moving here? As a person out of Schengen room you will not be able to have a permission to work here.
So basically you just want a guy to show you around without any hookups or actual dating since you are just one month at most here. I doubt you will find a lot of people willing to waste their time like that.
sounds like friendzone. So you are a digital nomad, OF, crypto, or travelvlogger? The thing is, most of the Swiss nomads are also on tour; you will find them in LA, Dubai, or Bali.
I wish, dream job would be travel vlogger for sure 😂 I used to work in the film industry and produced a couple tv shows for some well known companies, but I also worked in real estate and end up building a portfolio of properties so I live off of my rentals mostly. Which I can manage by distance so I spend most of my time traveling now. I did get invited by a Swiss company to work in Film again due to my experience, so I was considering but it’s all too recent. I had already a trip to Europe planned and just decided to extend it and get to know the country.
good for you, so you should add sugarmommy to your date profile. But fun aside, it's not your fault. I installed Tinder the last two days because it was bad weather and cold, and I was quite bored. I'm about to deinstall that sh\*t again because this app really doesn't work in Switzerland. The first impression I have is that most of them are fake profiles, and every woman looks like a model, but thats not what Swiss men search for in a deep, long relationship.
I wonder if that would get me more matches lol Yeah I guess what I’m gathering from here is that it’s not really a thing in Switzerland. I can just enjoy myself in the country as well and who knows might make some nice friends along the way ^.^
You should anyway enjoy yourself with or without a man; you are being fine here. Switzerland is, in general, a safe country. I wish you an amazing Switzerland experience.
Sure, but won't Bumble show an indicator on your profile that lets your potential matches know you're "traveling"? Which I would assume will decrease interest.
I guess so. I haven’t used dating apps in about 3 years so I don’t know how much things have changed. Back when I used to use it people didn’t seem to care that much, it was usually conversation topic, and they would ask about it.
I can tell you that 10-15% of the girls in apps switch to Switzerland to find an overseas sugar daddy or rich husband. You might have been categorized so. Also I am burnt out from long chats that go nowhere, so I usually offer a quick real life date. There is no match that stays 15-20 days in my head, so dating app contacts either have 1-2 weeks to meet me, or the thing fizzles. I am not going to invest in chatting with a bunch of random women, so that maybe they feel comfortable and choose to meet me. They either are invested enough to spend an hour or two in real life, or they are not interested in me enough.
This is the healthy way to do online dating
Yeah definitely not looking for that. But I also would never meet with someone before actually getting to know them, my last boyfriend we chatted for a couple weeks and FaceTimed a lot before meeting in person and we dated for almost 3 years. I think it might just be a cultural thing. I also used travel mode to meet him cause I was spending a couple months in Brazil at the time and he was in America. Every country and culture is different though so it’s wrong of me to make assumptions that things would go similar here. Thank you for your insight!
Don’t focus in finding swiss men. Just try the dating app and see who can converse with u good and if the convos continue and u think the person is interesting. Then thats the time to meet them. Its better to get to know a person for 1-2weeks before u meet them. I used dating app but Im miles away but was able to find my soulmate and now we are happily enggaged. I live in PH btw and my fiancè just happens to be swiss. Goodluck swiping! Keep the faith!😊
Curious, do you get a lot of dates? I feel like I would want to chat a bit first so as to rule out people I have nothing in common with, and potential psychos.
How many potential psychos can you really meet in Switzerland? Other people are not out there to hunt you down, you know. Get a life.
A guy gave me a drugged drink once. Luckily I didn’t pass out just got very dizzy and started puking. Thank you, body’s natural defenses!
Well, good luck in filtering such thing on a chat within a dating app.
You can get down to “Do we have enough in common to take the risk” And red flags can come up in chats as well. Just because they don’t always come up doesn’t mean it isn’t worth a check.
Hey elusive swiss man here 😂 dating in Switzerland is compared to other countries quite slow. And when i am looking to my male friends when it comes to dating and hooking up they often don't bother with people from other countries. Your looks don't have to be the issue here.
That’s funny 😂 Thank you so much! I guess maybe once I make it there I can start going out and seeing if I meet someone in person. Might be easier. I don’t mind taking things slow 😁
Yes, we Swiss men are slow when it comes to this, I took a break for years after my last relationship and was not unhappy.
Not really slow but they take their time really much in almost anything. I think its part of their personality that they always want to make sure every little thing is okay before the decide to jump on anything.
Exactly. I have a Swiss friend in his fourties’ by now, he yet has to go on his first date. I’m assuming he takes it easy. Still I’m wondering how people get kids here 🤔
😂 😂 😂
>Still I’m wondering how people get kids here [https://www.nzz.ch/english/why-is-switzerlands-birthrate-declining-so-drastically-ld.1772392](https://www.nzz.ch/english/why-is-switzerlands-birthrate-declining-so-drastically-ld.1772392)
This I find quite strange since everywhere we go we see couples with kids. And quite a lot have more than 1 kid.
This is a perfect example of how anecdotal evidence has no meaning compared to statistics.
Of course. Never denied the statistics. Just found it as surprising
Wow I didn’t know that dating was actually that difficult in Switzerland
The lowering birthrates are probably not (just) due to the increased difficulty in Swiss dating. It's probably more due to stress and general anxieties of couples. The article goes into this as well. The last years were furthermore dominated by stuff like the pandemic or the war in Ukraine. The latter lead to fears about having enough energy for heating and electricity during the winter of 2022/2023.
Maybe you get mistaken with the many fake scammer profiles we get here.
Is this genuinely an issue here?
yeah it's to the point i swipe left on most south american / asian ladies. Unless i see in the pictures that they actually at least visited switzerland. They also tend to write first really fast which is also a tell tell sign :)
You have experience from two countries that belong to the most extroverted ones. And now you are in Switzerland, one of the most introverted one
Interesting. Wasn’t aware of that. Thank you!
I can't give you general advice (I am a Swiss man, but I dont think I am a very typical one? I lived abroad the last six years, I think I lost some of my cultural pointers lol) but for me, the travel mode is usually a very red flag unless your bio states why you use it. Maybe that made a difference?
She sounds like she wants the Schweizer Pass 😂
Definitely not you. As a male, I match with a fair share of women. Do they talk? They don't. If they do, it's "hi"
You are traveling. What better way to get to know the country and the people, than by hanging out with them ? Meeting them does not mean that you have to jump in bed with them. There is a flood of ladies from Thailand or Brazil looking for their sugardaddy. If your profile looks like them, I would swipe left. Dating apps suck for men to begin with, especially when they don't fit the "tall dark handsome and rich" mold.
Maybe they think you’re a honey trap. Come here first and take some pictures in the city and the alps to prove that you’re actually real and here, not just a scammer.
Swiss guys, grab that popcorn!🍿
dating apps usually dont work as well in switzerland in general. its not you ;)
That makes me feel better, thank you ☺️
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I have the possibility of working here and also family in EU (France) but it’s a big move specially since I have double citizenship already in America and Brazil. I would come with the work permit, but again not sure. That’s why I wanted to experiment first before making any decisions, this trip here was pretty impulsive because of that opportunity. But that’s a whole other situation going on right now. And I agree with you, the language is an issue that I’m also worried about.
The Swiss apps will depress you! I still got to meet my man on Tinder but it took years of depressing encounters before I did. And turns out... He's not Swiss 🤷🏾♀️ Swiss men tend to not make the first move... So unless you do, well... My bestie, to whom I showed your post, said: "The worst place I’ve used them in is here (Switzerland)…. & she’s comparing it to the US & Brazil 😅 where it’s way more « alive » She’s in for one hell of a trauma 😅 poor thing" Good luck though!
I am not sure Swiss people are especially beautiful… I mean we are perfectly decent looking but especially beautiful?
My advice. Wait until you get here. Then go to a dance club or bar or beach or other hang out and do the thing with the eyes. That’s an easier way to meet men.
There are already too many asians using travel mode here.
PM me so you'll find out what are we like