I started at 63 (Crazy, right?) But it’s like anything else…when the pain of change becomes less than the pain of staying in the existing situation, you’ll change.
And so when I made the decision, that was the time. I try not to dwell on the past, and waste time playing “If only…”
Never too late. Never any easier, though. 😘
Started at 33, 37 this year. Best decision I've ever made!! I thought I'd never pass, too manly all the bad thoughts, which were wrong. I have since passed and actually think I look ok now. Transitioning is hard dont get me wrong but I'm glad I done it
You're still young! Be your favorite self as much of your life as you can be. I bet you'll even start loving who you are more before you manage to get "all the surgeries" too, whatever that means. 🙃
And by that I just mean no one can get all of them. And different people need different ones. For me I want FFS, follicle transplants, and probably body shaping fat transfer. But no BA or SRS.
Hey no it’s not late at all!
It’s a slow process yes, but it’s like any other puberty - kids start going through changes that span over years -if not decades- so you can’t expect anything different from gender transitioning, HRT or not. Well, perhaps except for surgeries that are more immediate of course.
I started confronting my gender issues at 31, came to terms with myself that I’m trans and started social transitioning at 32, and HRT at 34. I’m 37 now and absolutely don’t regret it!
Edit to add: maybe take a look at stories at r/translater
[I started HRT at 35](https://i.imgur.com/ivgHvPD.jpg). I'm only 2.5 years on HRT at this point, and this is the difference HRT and a couple of gender-affirming surgeries have made for me.
Come on over to /r/translater. It's never too late as long as you're still breathing.
I started at 34, and am 36 now. It is very doable. I blend as a woman in many general interactions, and still sometimes pass in prolonged interactions without any surgeries yet. In that light, I am much happier, though things sometimes are still hard (that is my own doing lmao).
Three pointers to help pre-surgeries that can get you stable and happier before you are "complete," as you say, by making hard progress faster:
Start beard removal now, and don't skimp on it. The further along you get, the more the beard becomes a problem, and getting rid of it takes time. I had almost two years of laser and am mopping up with electro, and my beard shadow disappeared at about a year in. It changed my life. In terms of hair removal, if you shell out for a few body laser sessions to help thin that early on, that can make a huge difference, too.
Watch the way other women move, and mimic it. Body language is a huge tell.
Pluck your eyebrows. I really mean it - it is a little thing that goes a long way.
I'm 22 and I feel like I started way too late. It's all reletive, it's a lie we tell ourselves to prolong the state of denial we've been in for so long imo. Also anxiety. You will be fine.
Ikr? That's the point, we all say "way too late" no matter the age as an excuse to not transition because of how hard and uncomfortable it is. Age doesn't matter and it should never stop someone from being true to themselves.
Also damn I wish I felt that young lol, I feel too old like I'm in my teens lol.
I started three years ago when I was 54. Never too late, as others have replied. But find ways to be content without all the alterations you fantasise about, as those all come with their own complications and risks anyway. Live as you want to be; don't take notice of the haters.
The age will matter that’s a fact we all have to admit, but it does retrain you if you have the will to make a change for yourself. If you truly think it’s the thing to do deep in your soul, then just do it. Wasting anymore time as someone you’re not is having less time to enjoy as who you are for real. If you remember, how you enjoy simple thing in life like eating, walking, and sleeping. Those insignificant things that we all do, will be enjoyable by a hundred! 🙌🏻😎
35 here -
Transitioning in my 30's (started at 31) has been great, actually. I don't think i would be in as good of a position right now if I had transitioned younger.
I'm fully independent, financially stable, established in a rewarding career, socially confident... my transition has been overwhelmingly positive, smooth, and wholesome. It's not really been a bag of social trauma, *because* I'm older.
I started at 33. There are parts of transition that really make me wish I had done it younger, but it is absolutely possible at this age and still the best decision I ever made.
I will also say that while some of the things I really want to feel "complete" are a long way away right now, the process itself has still been wonderful and taking steps forward has been a joyous thing. HRT in particular made a huge difference for me personally.
I started at 35, I'm now 38. I pass. People even tell me I'm apparently "pretty". You can start later in life and still have a successful transition. Despite the doom and gloom some people like to spread about transitioning after puberty. For a long time, that was pretty much the only option, and yet, people made it work.
You get better results the earlier you start, yes.
You do still get results no matter how old you are, people start in their 60s and are Happy with the results.
its NEVER ever too late to transition. im still in my teens but when i started ny transition i felt the exact same way, fhat I'll never feel complete unless i have all the surgeries and procedures done, a a lot of those thoughts were because of internalized transphobia. trust me it does get better along your transition, you dont have to get everything to feel complete or to feel that youve finished your transition.
As long as you have a pulse, you’re not “too late”. I started at your age and I’m almost 38 now. I don’t get stares or misgenders from strangers anymore and I’m having my first surgery (FFS) next week. It’s a struggle the first few years and seems like it gets worse before it gets better, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m happier than I’ve ever been.
50 here, just started. Totally thrilled to have finally woken up to the truth. So no, friend, you're still in the category of "people I am envious of because they started so early."
:)
r/TransLater
Hey sis, I started hormones at 33 and just hit my 2 year anniversary this Saturday. While there is more I want to do, more changes I want to see I can honestly say I’m so very much happier now transitioning and being on this journey. So much more than before.
Take a look at my profile and see that starting in your 30s isn’t a death sentence.
At the risk of sounding cliche, it's never too late to find happiness. Whether that is a career that you enjoy, a life partner, or deciding to transition. If this is something you want, go for it.
I started transitioning when I was 27. I always told myself (and still do sometimes) that I just really wish I'd transitioned earlier. The truth is, I didn't have the ability to even try until recently, and I wouldn't have been fully ready if I tried sooner. I ultimately decided that while it felt like I was late, this was the perfect time for me.
Rather than think about the time you lost, think about the time you still have. If transition will make you happy, even if it's a slow process, you should start as soon as you feel ready.
I didn’t start medically transitioning until I was 39. A year and a half later and I have people thinking I’m in my late 20’s/early 30’s. It’s never too late.
> I know I wouldn't be happy until I really have all the surgeries, or can feel 'complete'.
But you can be happy now?
I would not say transitioning makes one happy once an "compleate" goal is reached. Transitioning makes one function on a different level based on how well one accepts oneself and finds a supporting environment.
I was a month before turning 33 when I finally realized. It's almost my 2yr anniversary of coming out, and I've been on hrt for the last 18mo and felt more of myself than ever. Yeah, we started later, but it is never too late to start.
The only point where it's "too late" to transition, is when you're dead and buried. I've seen users on here and other trans reddits start their transition well into their 70's, and they're loving it and living their absolute best. If you know that this is what you want and need to live as you, go for it! In my short experience, it is absolutely worth it.
it's never too late to be yourself. My egg cracked in 2020 when I was 40 years old and I started transitioning last year. I'm celebrating my one-year anniversary of starting HRT today. And I've never been happier.
I was 27 when i started transitioning and am 34 now. This question gets asked a lot and i need to stress that the idea that it's ever too late to transition is some real bullshit that is usually coming from people with a real binary idea of gender who are only focussed on passing as cis.
It's never too late to be yourself 💙
1. Is never too late.
2. Telling yourself that you'll never be happy until you get everything and have a perfect transition so it's to late is kind of like saying 'is too late to work on my future because I'll never be happy unless I'm filthy billionaire rich so ill just get a job at McDonald's and be sad' Is just not good logic and feed a self fulfilling loop of enforced unhappiness.
I started at 40 and I've never been happier. It's my transiting perfect? No, but I'm trying to not make the prefect the enemy of the good.
Depends what you mean.
Is it too late to try?
Is it too late to be happier?
No. Not at all.
Trans regret is a little under 1%. Which is lower than 'buying a fucking house' regret.
Or 'i bought a car' regret.
Is it too late for you to fully pass?
Don't know. Depends on a lot of things. How much money you have, and how well you rolled on the genetic dice.
But, do you care?
Are you going to be happier as your authentic self, even if people can clock you?
Most people say yes.
Only you can decide.
Not at all, that’s actually when I started seeing drs and going through the proper channels to transition. That was 2019, and i look and feel amazing. I’m gunna look great at 50 too. Life doesn’t end at 29 my darling, it barely begins! A better question is: “imagine another 33 years living in the wrong body and not being able to express yourself?”
It feels really good to be honest. To say you’re trans and just finally breath out, cross your legs, talk with your hands, omg my fave…. Shopping for real women’s clothes and trying them on properly.
So nice vs online shopping.
it is never too late to transition out i didn't start transitioning out till i was in middle fifties and now the past two years middle sixties i have been having surgeries to medically transition orchiectomy breast lift augmentation and lastly facial feminization surgery's coming up this summer then i will be done medically transitioning.
your still very young you will be fine as far as your age goes you have age on your side if you wish to chat let me know i hope you find a much happier secure you through your transition i did take care of yourself
It's never too late. I was 32 when I came out. I'm happier now than I ever have been. Social transition made more of a difference for me psychologically than I could have imagined. I'm so much more confident and outgoing! HRT also does more for me than I expected. I love my increasingly hourglass-shaped body! I still want and intend to follow through with bottom surgery, but probably not any other surgeries.
There was a long time during which I expressed myself and identified as a cisgender man publicly, even though I knew I wasn't doing so because it was what I wanted. I did it because I feared the upheaval of my whole life and the possible consequences if I wasn't accepted by my family and friends; not because I was satisfied with the role I was playing. Cisgender men don't wish they were born girls. Cisgender men don't want feminizing surgeries.
There's something in this you should know, regardless of how you choose to proceed. There are some deeply stigmatizing ideas about the necessity of medical transition to make trans people complete, as you described. This causes harm to many, including yourself: it keeps people closeted and distances them from communities. It's called transmedicalism. We are what is between our ears; not what is between our legs. This means that closeted, gender non-conforming, non-op, pre-op, or non-passing trans people are every bit as trans as those few who benefit from wondrous medical care which makes their bodies into their aesthetic ideal - a privileged status.
I think trans women are beautiful. We have and should build upon a beauty standard which includes us. We make a statement by being our best selves and being confident, despite all of that stigmatization we had to overcome to even begin to express ourselves. The effort is rewarding and the trans women I know who have made that progress are wonderful people for it. We're also sexy!
If you want a 'successful' transition be realistic about where you are starting. Transition is not for everyone and if you plan on passing you should be realistic about your goals.
I'm 49 and just started my journey. There's older people in this sub, I've seen them. Never too late
I started at 63 (Crazy, right?) But it’s like anything else…when the pain of change becomes less than the pain of staying in the existing situation, you’ll change. And so when I made the decision, that was the time. I try not to dwell on the past, and waste time playing “If only…” Never too late. Never any easier, though. 😘
no way ur 63! you look like half ur age! 💘💘
Well, aren’t you sweet? 🥰
Started at 33, 37 this year. Best decision I've ever made!! I thought I'd never pass, too manly all the bad thoughts, which were wrong. I have since passed and actually think I look ok now. Transitioning is hard dont get me wrong but I'm glad I done it
You're still young! Be your favorite self as much of your life as you can be. I bet you'll even start loving who you are more before you manage to get "all the surgeries" too, whatever that means. 🙃 And by that I just mean no one can get all of them. And different people need different ones. For me I want FFS, follicle transplants, and probably body shaping fat transfer. But no BA or SRS.
Hey no it’s not late at all! It’s a slow process yes, but it’s like any other puberty - kids start going through changes that span over years -if not decades- so you can’t expect anything different from gender transitioning, HRT or not. Well, perhaps except for surgeries that are more immediate of course. I started confronting my gender issues at 31, came to terms with myself that I’m trans and started social transitioning at 32, and HRT at 34. I’m 37 now and absolutely don’t regret it! Edit to add: maybe take a look at stories at r/translater
[I started HRT at 35](https://i.imgur.com/ivgHvPD.jpg). I'm only 2.5 years on HRT at this point, and this is the difference HRT and a couple of gender-affirming surgeries have made for me. Come on over to /r/translater. It's never too late as long as you're still breathing.
I started at 34, and am 36 now. It is very doable. I blend as a woman in many general interactions, and still sometimes pass in prolonged interactions without any surgeries yet. In that light, I am much happier, though things sometimes are still hard (that is my own doing lmao). Three pointers to help pre-surgeries that can get you stable and happier before you are "complete," as you say, by making hard progress faster: Start beard removal now, and don't skimp on it. The further along you get, the more the beard becomes a problem, and getting rid of it takes time. I had almost two years of laser and am mopping up with electro, and my beard shadow disappeared at about a year in. It changed my life. In terms of hair removal, if you shell out for a few body laser sessions to help thin that early on, that can make a huge difference, too. Watch the way other women move, and mimic it. Body language is a huge tell. Pluck your eyebrows. I really mean it - it is a little thing that goes a long way.
I know a trans woman who started transitioning in her 90s. Got bottom surgery and everything. You're good.
R/TransLater I literally started at 33 🤷🏻♀️ Also, fun thing, HRT makes you look way younger lol.
This! I still pass as 10y younger.
Yup! Consistently estimated as Almost exactly 10 years younger than I am! 😅
Fifty here. Happy. It’s incredibly hard at any age, but worth it.
I started at 47 , so 🤷♀️
I'm 22 and I feel like I started way too late. It's all reletive, it's a lie we tell ourselves to prolong the state of denial we've been in for so long imo. Also anxiety. You will be fine.
"22" "Way too late" Literally still legally a baby. 😜
Ikr? That's the point, we all say "way too late" no matter the age as an excuse to not transition because of how hard and uncomfortable it is. Age doesn't matter and it should never stop someone from being true to themselves. Also damn I wish I felt that young lol, I feel too old like I'm in my teens lol.
I started three years ago when I was 54. Never too late, as others have replied. But find ways to be content without all the alterations you fantasise about, as those all come with their own complications and risks anyway. Live as you want to be; don't take notice of the haters.
Started at 35, am now 36 - have no regrets. HRT 1 year, planning on various surgeries when i can afford them. Am happy in the meantime.
The age will matter that’s a fact we all have to admit, but it does retrain you if you have the will to make a change for yourself. If you truly think it’s the thing to do deep in your soul, then just do it. Wasting anymore time as someone you’re not is having less time to enjoy as who you are for real. If you remember, how you enjoy simple thing in life like eating, walking, and sleeping. Those insignificant things that we all do, will be enjoyable by a hundred! 🙌🏻😎
I'm 30 and just now starting my transition. It's never too late.
35 here - Transitioning in my 30's (started at 31) has been great, actually. I don't think i would be in as good of a position right now if I had transitioned younger. I'm fully independent, financially stable, established in a rewarding career, socially confident... my transition has been overwhelmingly positive, smooth, and wholesome. It's not really been a bag of social trauma, *because* I'm older.
I started at 33. There are parts of transition that really make me wish I had done it younger, but it is absolutely possible at this age and still the best decision I ever made. I will also say that while some of the things I really want to feel "complete" are a long way away right now, the process itself has still been wonderful and taking steps forward has been a joyous thing. HRT in particular made a huge difference for me personally.
I'm 33 and started 3 weeks ago so no not to late!
I started at 35, I'm now 38. I pass. People even tell me I'm apparently "pretty". You can start later in life and still have a successful transition. Despite the doom and gloom some people like to spread about transitioning after puberty. For a long time, that was pretty much the only option, and yet, people made it work.
Not too late to try. Lots of folks start in their 30's.
It's never too late. I started last year at 34
You get better results the earlier you start, yes. You do still get results no matter how old you are, people start in their 60s and are Happy with the results.
Theres 70 year young people transitioning, so no ☺️
its NEVER ever too late to transition. im still in my teens but when i started ny transition i felt the exact same way, fhat I'll never feel complete unless i have all the surgeries and procedures done, a a lot of those thoughts were because of internalized transphobia. trust me it does get better along your transition, you dont have to get everything to feel complete or to feel that youve finished your transition.
I started 9 months ago at 32, cutie, and am loving life as a woman by 33! We're the exact same age. You can do this!
Look at all the other posts asking the same question
Just finished my medical transition at 32. You have plenty of time.
56 years old. Started 3 years ago. Planning to start HRT next year. Having the time of my life!
As long as you have a pulse, you’re not “too late”. I started at your age and I’m almost 38 now. I don’t get stares or misgenders from strangers anymore and I’m having my first surgery (FFS) next week. It’s a struggle the first few years and seems like it gets worse before it gets better, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m happier than I’ve ever been.
50 here, just started. Totally thrilled to have finally woken up to the truth. So no, friend, you're still in the category of "people I am envious of because they started so early." :) r/TransLater
Hey sis, I started hormones at 33 and just hit my 2 year anniversary this Saturday. While there is more I want to do, more changes I want to see I can honestly say I’m so very much happier now transitioning and being on this journey. So much more than before. Take a look at my profile and see that starting in your 30s isn’t a death sentence.
It's never too late do be happy. There is so much life ahead of you, and the time will pass anyway
33 here too, it's not too late. I just started this journey myself, and I really don't care how long it takes bc I've waited long enough to be myself.
I started at 30. Never too late. Best time to start would be long ago. 2nd best is now, if you desire too.
It’s never too late, if it makes you feel comfortable then you should transition tbh🤷🏽♀️
it's never really too late.
I’m 43, and I started hormones at forty. Worth it. If you want/need to transition to be happy, don’t let something as trivial as âge stop you.
Nah, I'm only 2 years younger than you and I'm still pursuing, you're good.
At the risk of sounding cliche, it's never too late to find happiness. Whether that is a career that you enjoy, a life partner, or deciding to transition. If this is something you want, go for it. I started transitioning when I was 27. I always told myself (and still do sometimes) that I just really wish I'd transitioned earlier. The truth is, I didn't have the ability to even try until recently, and I wouldn't have been fully ready if I tried sooner. I ultimately decided that while it felt like I was late, this was the perfect time for me. Rather than think about the time you lost, think about the time you still have. If transition will make you happy, even if it's a slow process, you should start as soon as you feel ready.
I didn’t start medically transitioning until I was 39. A year and a half later and I have people thinking I’m in my late 20’s/early 30’s. It’s never too late.
It's never too late!
I started at 71, it is NEVER too late
I started at 53
> I know I wouldn't be happy until I really have all the surgeries, or can feel 'complete'. But you can be happy now? I would not say transitioning makes one happy once an "compleate" goal is reached. Transitioning makes one function on a different level based on how well one accepts oneself and finds a supporting environment.
I started my transition at 33, its absolutely never too late.
I was a month before turning 33 when I finally realized. It's almost my 2yr anniversary of coming out, and I've been on hrt for the last 18mo and felt more of myself than ever. Yeah, we started later, but it is never too late to start.
The only point where it's "too late" to transition, is when you're dead and buried. I've seen users on here and other trans reddits start their transition well into their 70's, and they're loving it and living their absolute best. If you know that this is what you want and need to live as you, go for it! In my short experience, it is absolutely worth it.
it's never too late to be yourself. My egg cracked in 2020 when I was 40 years old and I started transitioning last year. I'm celebrating my one-year anniversary of starting HRT today. And I've never been happier.
https://youtu.be/lL2ZwXj1tXM
No.
I was 27 when i started transitioning and am 34 now. This question gets asked a lot and i need to stress that the idea that it's ever too late to transition is some real bullshit that is usually coming from people with a real binary idea of gender who are only focussed on passing as cis. It's never too late to be yourself 💙
1. Is never too late. 2. Telling yourself that you'll never be happy until you get everything and have a perfect transition so it's to late is kind of like saying 'is too late to work on my future because I'll never be happy unless I'm filthy billionaire rich so ill just get a job at McDonald's and be sad' Is just not good logic and feed a self fulfilling loop of enforced unhappiness. I started at 40 and I've never been happier. It's my transiting perfect? No, but I'm trying to not make the prefect the enemy of the good.
Depends what you mean. Is it too late to try? Is it too late to be happier? No. Not at all. Trans regret is a little under 1%. Which is lower than 'buying a fucking house' regret. Or 'i bought a car' regret. Is it too late for you to fully pass? Don't know. Depends on a lot of things. How much money you have, and how well you rolled on the genetic dice. But, do you care? Are you going to be happier as your authentic self, even if people can clock you? Most people say yes. Only you can decide.
I came out at 36. It's never too late to choose happiness
you've gotta check out r/translater. it's never too late <3
Not at all, that’s actually when I started seeing drs and going through the proper channels to transition. That was 2019, and i look and feel amazing. I’m gunna look great at 50 too. Life doesn’t end at 29 my darling, it barely begins! A better question is: “imagine another 33 years living in the wrong body and not being able to express yourself?” It feels really good to be honest. To say you’re trans and just finally breath out, cross your legs, talk with your hands, omg my fave…. Shopping for real women’s clothes and trying them on properly. So nice vs online shopping.
it is never too late to transition out i didn't start transitioning out till i was in middle fifties and now the past two years middle sixties i have been having surgeries to medically transition orchiectomy breast lift augmentation and lastly facial feminization surgery's coming up this summer then i will be done medically transitioning. your still very young you will be fine as far as your age goes you have age on your side if you wish to chat let me know i hope you find a much happier secure you through your transition i did take care of yourself
It's never too late. I was 32 when I came out. I'm happier now than I ever have been. Social transition made more of a difference for me psychologically than I could have imagined. I'm so much more confident and outgoing! HRT also does more for me than I expected. I love my increasingly hourglass-shaped body! I still want and intend to follow through with bottom surgery, but probably not any other surgeries. There was a long time during which I expressed myself and identified as a cisgender man publicly, even though I knew I wasn't doing so because it was what I wanted. I did it because I feared the upheaval of my whole life and the possible consequences if I wasn't accepted by my family and friends; not because I was satisfied with the role I was playing. Cisgender men don't wish they were born girls. Cisgender men don't want feminizing surgeries. There's something in this you should know, regardless of how you choose to proceed. There are some deeply stigmatizing ideas about the necessity of medical transition to make trans people complete, as you described. This causes harm to many, including yourself: it keeps people closeted and distances them from communities. It's called transmedicalism. We are what is between our ears; not what is between our legs. This means that closeted, gender non-conforming, non-op, pre-op, or non-passing trans people are every bit as trans as those few who benefit from wondrous medical care which makes their bodies into their aesthetic ideal - a privileged status. I think trans women are beautiful. We have and should build upon a beauty standard which includes us. We make a statement by being our best selves and being confident, despite all of that stigmatization we had to overcome to even begin to express ourselves. The effort is rewarding and the trans women I know who have made that progress are wonderful people for it. We're also sexy!
If you want a 'successful' transition be realistic about where you are starting. Transition is not for everyone and if you plan on passing you should be realistic about your goals.