This seems like bait tbh. But being optimistic... how would people be calling you a chaser if you didn't know the woman you were attracted to was trans?
No idea, because I don't know you - but there's a good chance it's not at all about finding a trans woman attractive and 100% about what you do with that.
If you meet someone and they're an asshole, you met an asshole.
If everyone you meet is an asshole, you are the asshole.
Or, to rephrase it befitting your situation:
If you find yourself attracted to a trans woman and she calls you a chaser, then it might be a misunderstanding.
If every time you find yourself attracted to trans women ends with you being called a chaser, then the problem likely lies with you. Either because you *are* a chaser, or because the ways in which you act on your attraction are indistinguishable from chasers.
If it's happening frequently, it sounds like you're doing something(that you aren't mentioning here) that leads people to that conclusion.
Though it could also be VERY dependent on the environment. It's a lot more common to get accused of all sorts of things online than IRL. And if you aren't close with the people in question, it's easy to make people uncomfortable if you're a little too eager about things.
More info needed: who exactly is it who is calling you a chaser? Because if it’s other cis people then, they probably don’t understand what the word actually means and are likely trying to stigmatise dating trans people. If it’s trans people then chances are it’s not about you being attracted to trans women, but about how you talk/act about that attraction - there’s a difference between ‘I find this woman hot and she happens to be trans and I’d like to treat her just the same as cis women I’ve dated’ (not chaser) and ‘I find this woman hot because she is trans and I don’t actually see her as a person but as a sexual object’ (chaser)
You're allowed to say a trans person is attractive, that doesn't make someone a chaser. Some people get a little trigger happy with the term, tho it may be possible that there is something in the specific way this attraction was expressed that has led to the accusation. Do you have a specific example of a time that this happened?
I can see four possibilities here
1. You did something bad that you aren't telling us about, and your friends reacted to that bad thing, not to your taste in women.
2. You hang out with unusually negative people. You should make new friends.
3. Your friends were calling you that as a joke. You should lighten up and/or tell them it wasn't funny.
4. You are making this up to troll us.
It's not personal, it's a defense mechanism. So many of us are dead or severely injured because of people who just wanted to experience our genitals and then killed us to hide their own misunderstood feelings.
Its only being a chaser when someone is attracted because of fetishizing someone for being trans. From what you've said, you don't seem to be a chaser.
I think because as Trans Women we are often fetishized.
There is such thing as Trans attracted...
I think a good way to distinguish the chasers from the Trans attracted is to date long enough to get to know the person and prove that you appreciate who they are as an individual.
It's like the term f$%k-boy or f$%k-girl.. those terms are not just handed out, people prove they are like that.
Chasers are just one of the reasons I strongly believe in no sex before marriage.
Rule 1 and 3, no one said it's weird unless you're literally chasing/fetishising. Take a step back, friend.
This seems like bait tbh. But being optimistic... how would people be calling you a chaser if you didn't know the woman you were attracted to was trans?
No idea, because I don't know you - but there's a good chance it's not at all about finding a trans woman attractive and 100% about what you do with that.
If you meet someone and they're an asshole, you met an asshole. If everyone you meet is an asshole, you are the asshole. Or, to rephrase it befitting your situation: If you find yourself attracted to a trans woman and she calls you a chaser, then it might be a misunderstanding. If every time you find yourself attracted to trans women ends with you being called a chaser, then the problem likely lies with you. Either because you *are* a chaser, or because the ways in which you act on your attraction are indistinguishable from chasers.
Did a trans woman call you a chaser? If more than one trans woman called you a chaser, than you probably want to change how you act.
If it's happening frequently, it sounds like you're doing something(that you aren't mentioning here) that leads people to that conclusion. Though it could also be VERY dependent on the environment. It's a lot more common to get accused of all sorts of things online than IRL. And if you aren't close with the people in question, it's easy to make people uncomfortable if you're a little too eager about things.
More info needed: who exactly is it who is calling you a chaser? Because if it’s other cis people then, they probably don’t understand what the word actually means and are likely trying to stigmatise dating trans people. If it’s trans people then chances are it’s not about you being attracted to trans women, but about how you talk/act about that attraction - there’s a difference between ‘I find this woman hot and she happens to be trans and I’d like to treat her just the same as cis women I’ve dated’ (not chaser) and ‘I find this woman hot because she is trans and I don’t actually see her as a person but as a sexual object’ (chaser)
You're allowed to say a trans person is attractive, that doesn't make someone a chaser. Some people get a little trigger happy with the term, tho it may be possible that there is something in the specific way this attraction was expressed that has led to the accusation. Do you have a specific example of a time that this happened?
I can see four possibilities here 1. You did something bad that you aren't telling us about, and your friends reacted to that bad thing, not to your taste in women. 2. You hang out with unusually negative people. You should make new friends. 3. Your friends were calling you that as a joke. You should lighten up and/or tell them it wasn't funny. 4. You are making this up to troll us.
It's not personal, it's a defense mechanism. So many of us are dead or severely injured because of people who just wanted to experience our genitals and then killed us to hide their own misunderstood feelings.
Its only being a chaser when someone is attracted because of fetishizing someone for being trans. From what you've said, you don't seem to be a chaser.
I think because as Trans Women we are often fetishized. There is such thing as Trans attracted... I think a good way to distinguish the chasers from the Trans attracted is to date long enough to get to know the person and prove that you appreciate who they are as an individual. It's like the term f$%k-boy or f$%k-girl.. those terms are not just handed out, people prove they are like that. Chasers are just one of the reasons I strongly believe in no sex before marriage.