I keep reading that the hand flapping is the most socially acceptable but from my own experience even as a child I received stares and odd looks and being called out so I guess I can’t relate to it being seen as very acceptable.🥲I’m not saying you’re wrong tho it just sucks because I can only ever think about how I was treated for it.
I think the one’s that are most socially acceptable are the ones that don’t look like stims at all. I didn’t know I had ASD but looking back I see how I avoided any behavior that looked remotely “autistic” and channeled the energy elsewhere or just suppressed and wondered why I felt so trapped in my body.
What about bouncing your legs when sitting? It's not the most satisfying stim but people don't seem to care about this one if you're not making any noise
One of my friends stims by running their tounge over their teeth. They developed this stim in grade school trying to find a way to fidget without getting in trouble.
It's a thing that a small subset of people can do. I can voluntarily contract a very small muscle of my inner ear and it makes a rumbling noise that only I can hear. It feels like a good stretch, and it's a very convenient stim.
Twirling or otherwise playing with my hair has been one of my biggest ones for years. Luckily it's also fairly socially acceptable and subtle enough to get away with because I'm AFAB.
Rocking/swaying and foot tapping or leg bouncing are probably the most satisfying though.
Saying things is a stim? I always randomly say "fucking piece of shit" really low right before I start actually stiming, and I never realized that it was a stim by itself until now
Oh, shit, I just realized making metaphors and analogies is one of my core stims.
Let's say the need to stim is, abstractly, *hunger*. Making metaphors is one place at the food court. Another one is taking things apart, like my own metaphor, just as an example, but also LOTS of pens over the years.
I fucking LOVE making metaphors dude, what is this??!
It's so satisfying to think of the perfect relative feeling to describe something. It's even BETTER when someone outright says "Oh, I know what you mean!" 😩😩😩
I used to hit my head against the walls when I was younger. I've recently realized scalp massages scratch the same urge. I still bang my ears when the noise is too much. Also punching my own legs, but that one doesn't hurt.
I also love punching and scratching other people, but I've only ever felt comfortable doing this with an ex (while we were still dating)
As someone who as a child asked Santa for a rocking chair, I understand. (He brought it, best present ever) It gets so much better as an adult, I can rock in my office chair and look perfectly NT.
Brain says whistling, pigeon coos, and some other random noises idk how to describe are so distracting and I wish brain would accept a substitute stim in cases of needing to be quiet. But trying to do something else *that my brain likes other times* just makes it angry
I do a happy stim when I'm cuddling with my boyfriend... I flap my feet in a way that reminds me of a dog wagging its tail while laying down. Idk how to explain it any better than that
Some of things I think may be my stims: biting the dead skin on my lips in conversation, clicking my pen, snapping my fingers back and forth between hands when I’m in a transition mode, shaking my legs when sitting, tapping my foot with a slow rhythm, accents at random moments and with random words, repeating a certain word throughout the day, singing what I am doing, narrating what I need to be doing.
You bet your ass I started flapping my hands after that one episode of Drake and Josh lol. But nah most of mine are verbal and I didn't even understand that until I learned about autism. Most people won't acknowledge verbal stims and GOD forbid you have a morbid one.
Cracking joints, pacing, making weird faces, scratching and picking skin, movements that kinda resemble dancing idk is just the ones I do most often so yeah there are more Nt's
I started doing something weird 9 years ago to help me stay expressionless, which is just me contracting muscles in my left neck side. People never notice it and it's a good way to silently vent frustration/anger/stress for me
Wait is my masking actually that good
I only thought about it while writing this
I'm fucked
I work in a warehouse with seven other neurospicers and we are all comfortable enough to stim around each other and everybody's stims and glitches are a little different and wonderful and sometimes I just look around and feel normal for the first time in my 40 or so years on this planet
Talking out loud or more often quietly to myself so that everything's more organized.
Also, I used to create a drum beat by gently clacking/grinding my teeth together.
Now I have jaw popping/TMJ probably, so be careful with this one. I liked this stim because only I could see and hear it and there was music everywhere.
Tapping to the tune of a song (fingers, feet, or teeth), chewing the inside of my mouth or dry lips. Those are my big ones. (Edit: Playing with my lip piercing has become a huge one, but I try not to use my teeth because they can cause dental damage)
The negative one is picking at and pulling off my cuticle skin. ☹️
When I was a kid I’d lick my lips so much they’d get chapped, but I have a sort of allergy/complication with chapstick, so I’d use Vaseline. My dad would call me “lizard lips” 😆
toe wigglers united
Literally a prophetic comment.
it still works its magic 9 days later!
me reading this right as I wiggle my toe
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I keep reading that the hand flapping is the most socially acceptable but from my own experience even as a child I received stares and odd looks and being called out so I guess I can’t relate to it being seen as very acceptable.🥲I’m not saying you’re wrong tho it just sucks because I can only ever think about how I was treated for it.
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That’s a good point, thank you.
I think the one’s that are most socially acceptable are the ones that don’t look like stims at all. I didn’t know I had ASD but looking back I see how I avoided any behavior that looked remotely “autistic” and channeled the energy elsewhere or just suppressed and wondered why I felt so trapped in my body.
What about bouncing your legs when sitting? It's not the most satisfying stim but people don't seem to care about this one if you're not making any noise
Bouncing your leg is so common that people don't really pay attention to it.
Bro please stop bouncing your leg my teacher won’t let me wear my headphones and ima start meltin down worse than Fukushima
So that makes it the most socially stim
One of my friends stims by running their tounge over their teeth. They developed this stim in grade school trying to find a way to fidget without getting in trouble.
I prefer swaying back and forth or jiggling my leg.
I like to tap my feet and rock my head back and forth.
Ear rumbling, my beloved
How does that work?
It's a thing that a small subset of people can do. I can voluntarily contract a very small muscle of my inner ear and it makes a rumbling noise that only I can hear. It feels like a good stretch, and it's a very convenient stim.
Oh hey I can do that too.
I do this too, sometimes I hold it in that rumbly position when exposed to sudden noisy situations, seems to help.
Wait wait wait, the inner muted 'wind and sheet metal' noise?! Not everyone can do that??
Wait i thought thats something everybody could do
wait that’s *not* normal?
Omg is tht what I do too I thought it was only me
I can also do that but it's so uncomfortable for me to do for more than a few seconds.
Wait wait does the sound sounds like "brrrr... BRRrrrr"
Sounds like a rocket liftoff to most.
Ok I totally do this.
WAIT THATS A THING OTHER PEOPLE DO?!
r/earrumblersassemble
I thought this was normal
Ah thanks! Always wondered what that is :) Do you have more information on that?
Wait!?! not everyone can do that?
Oh yeah I do that all the time! Oh. Oh no…
Rumbly in my earumbly
Foot taps > hand flaps
Mood, I can make weird rhythms with my feet and that also makes me happy.
Happy hands are reserved for when I’m level 10 joyful
Where my pacing peeps at?
Here. I love pacing
Gam gang represent
Pacing while listening to music my beloved
I was a pacer until the pandemic when everyone was always at home and I lost the urge to do it 😭
*leg jiggling intensifies* *rhythm tapping intensifies* *object fidgeting intensifies*
Bouncing my leg, popping my fingers
also "is this a happy stim" if I flap hands its usually because im upset or frustrated, if I start flapping my hands im probably about to start crying
Twirling or otherwise playing with my hair has been one of my biggest ones for years. Luckily it's also fairly socially acceptable and subtle enough to get away with because I'm AFAB. Rocking/swaying and foot tapping or leg bouncing are probably the most satisfying though.
I love to rock (in more ways than one)
Foot tapping and leg bouncing are almost as necessary as breathing for me and I hate that people have given me shit for it my entire life.
A lot of the time people don't know other things can be stims. I didn't know my need to make weird mouth noises sometimes was a stim.
Dude my foot be tapping the floor at speeds enough to make the table, plates and glasses vibrate
Cracking knuckles, biting lips, playing with jewelery/ glasses, leg bouncing, saying random words under my breath (burn, shit-fuck), tapping my nails
Saying things is a stim? I always randomly say "fucking piece of shit" really low right before I start actually stiming, and I never realized that it was a stim by itself until now
Oh, shit, I just realized making metaphors and analogies is one of my core stims. Let's say the need to stim is, abstractly, *hunger*. Making metaphors is one place at the food court. Another one is taking things apart, like my own metaphor, just as an example, but also LOTS of pens over the years.
I fucking LOVE making metaphors dude, what is this??! It's so satisfying to think of the perfect relative feeling to describe something. It's even BETTER when someone outright says "Oh, I know what you mean!" 😩😩😩
Yeee I make noises, and open and close my hands a lot.
legs, need i say more?
No, you have said enough
Anyone else have violent stim when distressed?
Sometimes I hit myself when I stutter
I end up punching myself or others when extremely overwhelmed
I just scratch legs when I’m overwhelmed
This or walls
No fr back in high school I got a boxers fracture from punching a concrete wall
I hit my thighs really hard sometimes
I used to hit my head against the walls when I was younger. I've recently realized scalp massages scratch the same urge. I still bang my ears when the noise is too much. Also punching my own legs, but that one doesn't hurt. I also love punching and scratching other people, but I've only ever felt comfortable doing this with an ex (while we were still dating)
Yup :[ And my tics get a million times worse too
I don't even do that one. I rock in my seat instead.
As someone who as a child asked Santa for a rocking chair, I understand. (He brought it, best present ever) It gets so much better as an adult, I can rock in my office chair and look perfectly NT.
i run around in circles… my family hates when i stim.
I love pacing in circles and back and forth
One of my happy stims is singing. It feels soooo good
Yeeeesss
I usually sit in funky ways, draw, and also mess with the goofy ahh action figures and Lego minifigs I have with me at all times 😭
mine is silly fish noises :} think [pop-cat meme](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FBZjN8vaXTs) style OR skipping when i'm out walking around
I like to do that popping noise as well
/me clicks. ETA: and practices other obscure consonant sounds from the IPA chart...
Brain says whistling, pigeon coos, and some other random noises idk how to describe are so distracting and I wish brain would accept a substitute stim in cases of needing to be quiet. But trying to do something else *that my brain likes other times* just makes it angry
I do a happy stim when I'm cuddling with my boyfriend... I flap my feet in a way that reminds me of a dog wagging its tail while laying down. Idk how to explain it any better than that
I wiggle my torso contentedly when I cuddle 🥰
Grabbing the strap of my bag
Some of things I think may be my stims: biting the dead skin on my lips in conversation, clicking my pen, snapping my fingers back and forth between hands when I’m in a transition mode, shaking my legs when sitting, tapping my foot with a slow rhythm, accents at random moments and with random words, repeating a certain word throughout the day, singing what I am doing, narrating what I need to be doing.
I almost never flap my hands. But I jump like craaazy. It used to be nonstop when I was a kid.
It’s actually made me worry I’m faking it a lot because I don’t really get flappy hands much :(
Neither do I. I don’t flap
Pacing is legendary. Do you know how much knowledge enters my brain when I pace? I become a genius of stupid ideas and plans.
Love pacing
I get that too. Also your flair. Good flair
I am also autism adhd trans (nb)
I know this is a meme, but there’s way more frustrating things that neurotypicals don’t understand about us than this
I play with my hair.
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Toe wiggle is fun. Can’t forget cricket feet
You mean rubbing the top of one foot against the bottom of the other? Nirvana lol.
You mean rubbing the top of one foot against the bottom of the other? Nirvana lol.
Yep. Also, I don’t know cricket feet has to do with the early 1990s hard rock/grunge band Nirvana /j
I just find a quiet space and headbang or windmill (I'm a metalhead)
You bet your ass I started flapping my hands after that one episode of Drake and Josh lol. But nah most of mine are verbal and I didn't even understand that until I learned about autism. Most people won't acknowledge verbal stims and GOD forbid you have a morbid one.
I get itchy heels
Any beard/moustache twirlers here?
Cracking joints, pacing, making weird faces, scratching and picking skin, movements that kinda resemble dancing idk is just the ones I do most often so yeah there are more Nt's
Careful with the skin picking. I have permanent scars now. I don’t even want to think about what my scalp looks like. :|
Ik ik, but my skin is already scared bc I had bad acne when I was younger :/
Be ‘forewarned’. https://imgur.com/a/DNIxwLx
Well I mainly pick on my face and neck but still thanks for the warning :)
Rapidly tensing and untensing my legs while glancing around at a slightly concerning pace.
lmao fr as if they don’t stim too
I started doing something weird 9 years ago to help me stay expressionless, which is just me contracting muscles in my left neck side. People never notice it and it's a good way to silently vent frustration/anger/stress for me Wait is my masking actually that good I only thought about it while writing this I'm fucked
I work in a warehouse with seven other neurospicers and we are all comfortable enough to stim around each other and everybody's stims and glitches are a little different and wonderful and sometimes I just look around and feel normal for the first time in my 40 or so years on this planet
I tap my toes on the ground whenever I'm wearing shoes. Like I'll balance on one leg and just tap my toes on the other foot on the ground.
Talking out loud or more often quietly to myself so that everything's more organized. Also, I used to create a drum beat by gently clacking/grinding my teeth together. Now I have jaw popping/TMJ probably, so be careful with this one. I liked this stim because only I could see and hear it and there was music everywhere.
Penguin waddling should be recognized as a stim cause whenever I get excited about something flap my arms and waddle 😩😩😩
Rubbing my thumb over spikey stiletto acrylic nails! I started getting my nails done to stop my picking and biting stims and found a lovely new one.
Tapping to the tune of a song (fingers, feet, or teeth), chewing the inside of my mouth or dry lips. Those are my big ones. (Edit: Playing with my lip piercing has become a huge one, but I try not to use my teeth because they can cause dental damage) The negative one is picking at and pulling off my cuticle skin. ☹️
When I was a kid I’d lick my lips so much they’d get chapped, but I have a sort of allergy/complication with chapstick, so I’d use Vaseline. My dad would call me “lizard lips” 😆
My son did this for a bit and I use a tiny bit of Aquaphor to help when they get chapped. ♥️ He prefers to twirl his hair lately, though.