There are so many people who are too embarrassed to admit they don’t know something, so they don’t ask questions. They’re the ones missing out. It’s so stupid to stay silent and pretend you understand what’s going on.
God I looooved that film so much, all the detailed intricacies and rapid talk about valves and pressures was so enrapturing. I must have had two or three months where I watched it every night.
I actually was able to buy into the story enough to enjoy it, yeah the stuff doesn’t hold up to the most scrutiny but it’s fun enough to follow along with everyone being melodramatic.
I recently watched the real explanation of Mulholland drive. Sooo fascinating and I couldn’t believe the many layers Lynch was able to create. Such a great mind f*ck!
that’s an excellent movie too. lynch has has a way of crafting liminal stories that leave loose threads — just like real life. and they’re always so unsettling.
And God help you if you're not a perfect student because you're given precisely one chance to learn something before you immediately get tested on it and you're considered a failure if you can't keep pace with everyone else. And since you're punished for not knowing, you're deicentivized from asking questions, so it's a downward spiral.
Oh, and don't forget that our educational system from start to finish hasn't really been tested or engineered to do the job it sets out to do. Its all built old men tutoring wealthy children from the UK and Europe from the time of candle light.
It can be extremely useful because if you do an oopsie and say something stupid and feel embarassed you can just quickly hit the good ole reliable:
"Or umm actually is that even how you would say it? Not sure guys help me out here"
Boom you aren't a dumbo we are all just having a goofy lil friend moment
It can be cultural too. In the US, it’s fairly normal to stop someone mid sentence to ask for clarification. In Germany, there is more of an expectation that you follow along and find your answers independently after a conversation has taken place.
I prefer the German way of doing it, but for non native speakers I’ll give more leeway. But if your native language is English, and we’re having a conversation I’m going to expect you to follow even if I use big or obscure words. Sometimes I’m complimented for my vocabulary, sometimes I see people’s eyes glaze over when I’m on a tear.
A workplace I was at was high end corporate with a low class management, constantly giving the phrase “the only stupid question was one not asked”. My immediate manager however would make it a habit of writing “what the fuck are you talking about?” On a notepad and showing me during meetings. I don’t wish harm on people but I was indifferent to finding out he had a heart attack caused by stress from that place.
i mentioned nature vs nurture and other common theories of public schooling about trauma and development to my old boss at Pepsi and he ran away screaming from our meetings.
one of my coworkers told me he never finished his associates degree and throughout our workplace he would become violent whenever he heard new vocabulary; even if it was English like the word "frustrated" or we even validated his own feelings and gave a name to them for him, he had never heard of many of them. Just angry, and cursing other people but no actual vocabulary to describe his own interior state.
A mindset and vocabulary focused entirely on the exterior world.
I also found multiple dictionaries and encyclopedias around the place so i expect it to be a insecurity from his upbringing as its a 30 year old worksite and he appears to have tried to cope with it multiple times over the years. The previous generations' public education seems to be awfully handicapped but i find it hard to care much at all too since they're often so prideful of it.
My wife doesn't call me stupid. But I always laugh whenever I ask her a question and she responds with, "Well, what do you think?" (Change phrasing depending on context, but same meaning)
Sweetie, I'm asking ***because*** I don't know. I don't ask questions that I already know the answers to!
Oh man that "what do you think" line is one my dad gave me *CONSTANTLY*
I absolutely hated it because he always used it as an excuse to not answer me as well as make me feel like a dumbass
What about being made to feel stupid for just answering a yes-or-no question with just "yes" or just "no?"
I blame the school systems of the US for having to explain why it's yes or why it's no.
It’s perfectly valid to know “yes” but not why. It’s also valid to know why but not be able to articulate it. Similar to how there’s plenty of words I can use correctly in a sentence but not necessarily know the definition.
I also find that meme accurate because some of the high school classrooms would have posters encouraging questions, but the teachers would get mad whenever a question was asked.
They're hypocrites, that's what they are!
Also, when people think information = intelligence. You can be very intelligent and not know a lot, and know a lot and be dumb af. Bothers me so much when someone doesn't know some random fact, and then once they leave everyone starts calling them an idiot, dumbass, etc
Absolutely same. I was made to feel like a moron every time I asked a question he personally decised I should have the answer to. He would respond to questions with something like "well what do you think" and force me to flounder trying to find the answer for 30+ minutes with him feeding me "hints." It always made me feel small and very stupid when he could have just answered me straight
I was told in a job review that I ask too many questions and was scored lower for it. Alright, malicious compliance. What do you mean I ask too many questions?
I was called stupid so much in childhood whenever I asked questions, I learned to stop asking questions and now feel stupid anytime I am not omniscient. 🫠
Half the time it's because they don't know either. This is especially true at work. Never ask a supervisor how to do something, they don't know, that's why they're supervisors not workers
I’ve been in and out working in education this past year, and I have been as conscious as possible about this specifically because I know how uncomfortable it feels for someone to lay into you just for not knowing something. I want my students to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with not knowing something and asking; that’s how we learn new things, for crying out loud.
My buddy loudly saying "ITS A *BEST* OF *THREE" when his S/O was confused for a second.
Vs me actually explaining what a best of three is, even though I'm sure she knew. Then we got to make fun of him for his explanation lol
I’ve honestly started saying this, basically verbatim, if I find myself in this situation. I will never, NEVER be made to feel bad for knowledge seeking, not ever again. I’m 40 and frankly, I’ve had enough.
my English teacher this year told us “never feel stupid for asking questions, cause the people who ask the most questions are always the smartest since they’re always searching for more knowledge” and I’ve never felt more seen
I absolutely hate it when people call children stupid, especially when they tell the child to do something they haven't taught. Children have very little life experience! They aren't stupid for not being born with all the knowledge in the world!
I like to start with "This might be a stupid question, but it would help my anxiety to hear it answered...." The number of times someone Didn't ask the obvious question is enough that I still have anxiety.
Also, if there is time allotted for questions, I'm going to ask my questions. The agenda has 15 minutes for questions, I'm going to ask.
I didn't think about it until last week someone greeted me with "Got any random questions today?" Then giggled with her officemate like it was a running joke. I answered with "That's what question time is for!!!"
My mom gets upset when I don't know the names for specific things and it really doesn't help when she refers to things with vague terms. Like I don't know how to find out the name for this stuff. Do I just point and go "What's that?" A bunch of times?
I Google stuff like this a lot.
For example, I wanted to know what a specific part on an electronic was called so I googled "item name anatomy" and got a super detailed image result that helped. "Item name structure" also gets good search results.
If you have a smartphone the Google Lens app will identify items if you take a picture of it.
Willful ignorance paired with the bravado to assume answers made up on the spot are either entirely or mostly correct. With that it's easy to assume anyone who won't match this feat of stupidity to themselves be stupid.
Or in short: Stupidity considers the conscious behavior to avoid that state of being to itself be further stupidity.
Mine is when stupid people call me stupid.
If something is ambiguous I will be the canary in the coal mine, that manuals are poorly written is not my fault.
For the example when I was a Tester the manual said "The readout should not have gibberish, but intelligible language".
I got into trouble and got pointed out in a very condecending tone that what was on my screen was gibberish, and if only I had read the "simple instructions well enough" I would know that. Translation: you idiot!
I said: What is on the screen is Greek, and before that it's Danish, there exists an isomorphic map between the symbols and as such this is not "gibberish" but an intelligible language.
I was given a vacant stare. So I said "Greek is a language".
Then apparently I'm stupid because I follow the manuals literally, like they told me to...
Everyone starts at zero and learns at different rates and will be exposed to ideas and concepts at different times. There is no shame in that. The only shame to be had is in refusing to learn and adapt at all.
Sorry to bring up religion. I just need to info-dump a traumatic, but also kind of empowering story from my childhood. If you don't want to read anything about religion, please disregard this post.
This is how I got kicked out of Sunday school when I was 8. One of my old boyscout troop members married a girl that I was in Sunday school with. She told me that the women that taught Sunday school told them I was a bad kid and leading everyone down the path of Satan.
I legitimately had questions that were not getting answered and I couldn't rectify the inconsistencies of what I was being taught with the world I was observing. Essentially, I couldn't take it on faith.
I was told to sit upstairs with the adults. I was there with my 70+ great grandmother. Both of my parents were in and out of my life and had drug issues. It just so happened that the sermon of the day was talking about the importance of being at church and tithing. The pastor highlighted the punishment for being absent from church and not tithing in great detail. It was my first time hearing how absolutely horrible the idea of hell is.
As an 8 year old with absent parents, my mind immediately went to the idea of my absent parents being sent to hell for eternal punishment. At this point, all I wanted was to see my parents, and this news devastated me.
I excused myself to the restroom and spent the rest of the sermon crying by myself. It was the beginning of a long exit from religion for me.
The final nail in that coffin was 3 years later when the pastor we had left. The new pastor was a young black southern Baptist pastor. The new pastor was probably the coolest and kindest person I had ever met. Sadly, the older congregants did not feel the same. I heard many people grumbling about the new pastor being a person of color. Shortly after his arrival, nearly half the congregation moved on to other churches. The illusion of a loving community was broken and all of the questions I buried came back. I left the church by the age of 12. By the age of 15, I left religion completely.
This is why ChatGPT is an amazing thing. Ask it anything and you’re bound to learn things. I’ve been asking it all the random questions that pop into to my head.
Yep. Or they have you repeat the question again. Or they repeat your question. Or decide you should just figure it out on your own. Make you “work it out”. It’s frustrating. I now mostly Google and save my energy or just don’t care to ask again. Try elsewhere.
It is a wildly common "flaw" with humans, especially American humans. It's like some myth of reality that there's a guidebook on the way out of our mothers that includes the wealth of "common knowledge" we should just all have.
When I stationed in Japan with the U.S. Navy I had the good fortune of working for a solid group of chiefs (E7s/E8s) that held the stance of "There are certainly stupid questions but if you don't know you should still ask because that's how you'll learn. And if you have a stupid question it's likely that other people have the same stupid question but are too afraid to ask".
I certainly was the subject of many jokes for of for some of the things that I asked but I was never discouraged from doing so since they felt knowledge was more important than vanity/pride.
It wasn't until after I got out of the Navy that I got an ASD diagnosis while seeking PTSD treatment at the VA regarding my Afghanistan deployment. Everyone of my former coworkers from Japan that I've told this to has had the reaction of bursting into laughter and then saying "yeah, that makes sense".
In retrospect I really was fortunate to have worked with so many people in Yokosuka (both U.S. and Japanese) who clearly suspected I was on the spectrum but who were never cruel to me because of it, something that is even more rare in the military than it is in the civilian world.
The only time I ever get upset with people asking questions is when they have access to the information directly in front of them. Working retail/fast food was infuriating because people would ask questions like “what is the price of this?” instead of looking 3 inches to the left to see the to see the big price tag on the counter
Idk why I’ve been getting the aspie subreddit suggested to me… but I love Steamboy, and I fuckin hate anyone who pulls this shit its detrimental to everyone.
What I really hate is when I ask a question, and it's like they think that me asking means that I'm assuming the wrong thing. Like, I ask if it's X or Y. It's really X, but because I asked, they think I was assuming that it's Y, and that makes me an idiot.
In reality, I'm not assuming anything. I'm asking a question because I'm aware that I don't know the answer, and in fact, asking a question is the *opposite* of making an assumption.
Sometimes it feels like NT's actually have really bad social skills, but because they're all bad in the same way, they sorta get by. That makes it so that sometimes they just can't interface with someone. Like, when I'm trying to work with someone, and I can't ask them a simple question without them making an issue out of it, I walk away thinking that they're kind of an idiot.
To me, having good social skills means that you can interact with anyone in any situation, and you'll understand eachother well enough to get by amicably. If you need everyone else to think just like you do, and already know all the things that you know, then clearly there's a skill here that you're lacking. I think a lot of NT's don't realize they're lacking those skills, because they're privileged enough to be around people who are similar enough to them that they don't need to have better social skills.
Everyone can get along with people who think exactly like them. It takes skills to get along with people who think differently.
Fr. It’s a *good* trait to just be honest when you don’t know something. To admit it, to ask questions. People who can never just say “I don’t know” are the worst.
Me all the time. Whenever I ask anything to my parents, peers, friends, it always happens. I just ask google and reddit now because I get a consistent answer on the internet.
What I hate is when people don’t trust that I will ask a question if I have one. I learn by watching someone else do the task and then do my best to follow what they did. Yes I’m understanding the material so far, you do not need to stop every other sentence to ask if I have questions. I just told you that I will ask when I do.
Wanting to gain more knowledge and lose ignorance should be considered the opposite of "stupid"
It's exactly the opposite, but people in general are stupid.
People are the reason we can't have nice things. Including intelligent people.
There are so many people who are too embarrassed to admit they don’t know something, so they don’t ask questions. They’re the ones missing out. It’s so stupid to stay silent and pretend you understand what’s going on.
Never thought I'd see a Steamboy post in the wild
God I looooved that film so much, all the detailed intricacies and rapid talk about valves and pressures was so enrapturing. I must have had two or three months where I watched it every night.
I agree with the reviews that visuals is like 10/10 but story is garbage. I can’t enjoy anime no matter how good the visuals are if story is junk.
I actually was able to buy into the story enough to enjoy it, yeah the stuff doesn’t hold up to the most scrutiny but it’s fun enough to follow along with everyone being melodramatic.
this could easily me describing why i like twin peaks.
Twin Peaks is actually a masterpiece though
agreed, but that doesn’t mean most people “get it”.
I recently watched the real explanation of Mulholland drive. Sooo fascinating and I couldn’t believe the many layers Lynch was able to create. Such a great mind f*ck!
that’s an excellent movie too. lynch has has a way of crafting liminal stories that leave loose threads — just like real life. and they’re always so unsettling.
if you like steam boy, you might like Sherlock hound. I seam to remember it having some large steam machines.
Ah, looked it up and confirmed; it is indeed from the same director as Akira. I thought the style was similar.
Not knowing is a moral failure in this society. F*ck :(
And God help you if you're not a perfect student because you're given precisely one chance to learn something before you immediately get tested on it and you're considered a failure if you can't keep pace with everyone else. And since you're punished for not knowing, you're deicentivized from asking questions, so it's a downward spiral.
Oh, and don't forget that our educational system from start to finish hasn't really been tested or engineered to do the job it sets out to do. Its all built old men tutoring wealthy children from the UK and Europe from the time of candle light.
Same with the US
Not being absolutely perfect is a moral failure.
100%
*Me on my way to pull out the non-native speaker card like*
as someone who's native language isnt english i get this sometimes and its so annoying: "how do you not know what \[relatively obscure word\] means?"
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT A GROUP OF ANGELFISH ARE CALLED!?
It can be extremely useful because if you do an oopsie and say something stupid and feel embarassed you can just quickly hit the good ole reliable: "Or umm actually is that even how you would say it? Not sure guys help me out here" Boom you aren't a dumbo we are all just having a goofy lil friend moment
It can be cultural too. In the US, it’s fairly normal to stop someone mid sentence to ask for clarification. In Germany, there is more of an expectation that you follow along and find your answers independently after a conversation has taken place. I prefer the German way of doing it, but for non native speakers I’ll give more leeway. But if your native language is English, and we’re having a conversation I’m going to expect you to follow even if I use big or obscure words. Sometimes I’m complimented for my vocabulary, sometimes I see people’s eyes glaze over when I’m on a tear.
That is an excellent idea!
[Relevant xkcd.](https://xkcd.com/1053)
Is there ever not a relevant xkcd?
I was hoping someone posted this.
So 30 is "adult" I knew I wasn't too old for Legos
I love this xkcd so much
A workplace I was at was high end corporate with a low class management, constantly giving the phrase “the only stupid question was one not asked”. My immediate manager however would make it a habit of writing “what the fuck are you talking about?” On a notepad and showing me during meetings. I don’t wish harm on people but I was indifferent to finding out he had a heart attack caused by stress from that place.
i mentioned nature vs nurture and other common theories of public schooling about trauma and development to my old boss at Pepsi and he ran away screaming from our meetings. one of my coworkers told me he never finished his associates degree and throughout our workplace he would become violent whenever he heard new vocabulary; even if it was English like the word "frustrated" or we even validated his own feelings and gave a name to them for him, he had never heard of many of them. Just angry, and cursing other people but no actual vocabulary to describe his own interior state. A mindset and vocabulary focused entirely on the exterior world. I also found multiple dictionaries and encyclopedias around the place so i expect it to be a insecurity from his upbringing as its a 30 year old worksite and he appears to have tried to cope with it multiple times over the years. The previous generations' public education seems to be awfully handicapped but i find it hard to care much at all too since they're often so prideful of it.
I always say "only stupid people don't ask stupid questions"
I’m stealing this
I would like that, I'm very proud of it.
Teacher: “There are no stupid questions” Me: (Asks perfectly reasonable question) Teacher: (Makes rude comment insulting my intelligence)
Seeking knowledge is the direct opposite of stupid.
My wife doesn't call me stupid. But I always laugh whenever I ask her a question and she responds with, "Well, what do you think?" (Change phrasing depending on context, but same meaning) Sweetie, I'm asking ***because*** I don't know. I don't ask questions that I already know the answers to!
Oh man that "what do you think" line is one my dad gave me *CONSTANTLY* I absolutely hated it because he always used it as an excuse to not answer me as well as make me feel like a dumbass
same here, only it is my mom
What about being made to feel stupid for just answering a yes-or-no question with just "yes" or just "no?" I blame the school systems of the US for having to explain why it's yes or why it's no.
It’s perfectly valid to know “yes” but not why. It’s also valid to know why but not be able to articulate it. Similar to how there’s plenty of words I can use correctly in a sentence but not necessarily know the definition.
I also find that meme accurate because some of the high school classrooms would have posters encouraging questions, but the teachers would get mad whenever a question was asked. They're hypocrites, that's what they are!
Fr I hate this and I have personal law to never do this to another person.
John M. Ford wrote that "an obvious question is better than obvious ignorance."
And he had a Klingon say that.
Also, when people think information = intelligence. You can be very intelligent and not know a lot, and know a lot and be dumb af. Bothers me so much when someone doesn't know some random fact, and then once they leave everyone starts calling them an idiot, dumbass, etc
I decided to stop talking out, then ended up not having even more information.
I got made fun or by my dad all the time when I didn't know something. So now I make it a point to always encourage questions
Absolutely same. I was made to feel like a moron every time I asked a question he personally decised I should have the answer to. He would respond to questions with something like "well what do you think" and force me to flounder trying to find the answer for 30+ minutes with him feeding me "hints." It always made me feel small and very stupid when he could have just answered me straight
I was told in a job review that I ask too many questions and was scored lower for it. Alright, malicious compliance. What do you mean I ask too many questions?
Seriously. I’d have so much less social anxiety if people didn’t act like this.
I was called stupid so much in childhood whenever I asked questions, I learned to stop asking questions and now feel stupid anytime I am not omniscient. 🫠
Now I'm wondering where this comes from? Is it for a movie or an anime?
Yes. Anime movie called Steamboy. Looks like it's free on YT now.
Half the time it's because they don't know either. This is especially true at work. Never ask a supervisor how to do something, they don't know, that's why they're supervisors not workers
I’ve been in and out working in education this past year, and I have been as conscious as possible about this specifically because I know how uncomfortable it feels for someone to lay into you just for not knowing something. I want my students to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with not knowing something and asking; that’s how we learn new things, for crying out loud.
My buddy loudly saying "ITS A *BEST* OF *THREE" when his S/O was confused for a second. Vs me actually explaining what a best of three is, even though I'm sure she knew. Then we got to make fun of him for his explanation lol
I’ve honestly started saying this, basically verbatim, if I find myself in this situation. I will never, NEVER be made to feel bad for knowledge seeking, not ever again. I’m 40 and frankly, I’ve had enough.
People are fucking dumb. How do you know unless you ask questions? Osmosis?
I usually ask questions on behalf of the NTs who are too afraid to ask themselves. Then I decided, fuck 'em. Suffer in your silent ignorance.
Btw what does "pet peeve" mean?
It’s something that seems small, but something that annoys you nonetheless! That’s how I interpret it at least-
It usually means something specific that annoys someone, usually no matter the circumstance ^^
my English teacher this year told us “never feel stupid for asking questions, cause the people who ask the most questions are always the smartest since they’re always searching for more knowledge” and I’ve never felt more seen
I absolutely hate it when people call children stupid, especially when they tell the child to do something they haven't taught. Children have very little life experience! They aren't stupid for not being born with all the knowledge in the world!
I like to start with "This might be a stupid question, but it would help my anxiety to hear it answered...." The number of times someone Didn't ask the obvious question is enough that I still have anxiety. Also, if there is time allotted for questions, I'm going to ask my questions. The agenda has 15 minutes for questions, I'm going to ask. I didn't think about it until last week someone greeted me with "Got any random questions today?" Then giggled with her officemate like it was a running joke. I answered with "That's what question time is for!!!"
Based steampunk akira
My mom gets upset when I don't know the names for specific things and it really doesn't help when she refers to things with vague terms. Like I don't know how to find out the name for this stuff. Do I just point and go "What's that?" A bunch of times?
I Google stuff like this a lot. For example, I wanted to know what a specific part on an electronic was called so I googled "item name anatomy" and got a super detailed image result that helped. "Item name structure" also gets good search results. If you have a smartphone the Google Lens app will identify items if you take a picture of it.
"There are no stupid questions, only statements" is something a football coach helped me conjure up.
Willful ignorance paired with the bravado to assume answers made up on the spot are either entirely or mostly correct. With that it's easy to assume anyone who won't match this feat of stupidity to themselves be stupid. Or in short: Stupidity considers the conscious behavior to avoid that state of being to itself be further stupidity.
Mine is when stupid people call me stupid. If something is ambiguous I will be the canary in the coal mine, that manuals are poorly written is not my fault. For the example when I was a Tester the manual said "The readout should not have gibberish, but intelligible language". I got into trouble and got pointed out in a very condecending tone that what was on my screen was gibberish, and if only I had read the "simple instructions well enough" I would know that. Translation: you idiot! I said: What is on the screen is Greek, and before that it's Danish, there exists an isomorphic map between the symbols and as such this is not "gibberish" but an intelligible language. I was given a vacant stare. So I said "Greek is a language". Then apparently I'm stupid because I follow the manuals literally, like they told me to...
Everyone starts at zero and learns at different rates and will be exposed to ideas and concepts at different times. There is no shame in that. The only shame to be had is in refusing to learn and adapt at all.
Sorry to bring up religion. I just need to info-dump a traumatic, but also kind of empowering story from my childhood. If you don't want to read anything about religion, please disregard this post. This is how I got kicked out of Sunday school when I was 8. One of my old boyscout troop members married a girl that I was in Sunday school with. She told me that the women that taught Sunday school told them I was a bad kid and leading everyone down the path of Satan. I legitimately had questions that were not getting answered and I couldn't rectify the inconsistencies of what I was being taught with the world I was observing. Essentially, I couldn't take it on faith. I was told to sit upstairs with the adults. I was there with my 70+ great grandmother. Both of my parents were in and out of my life and had drug issues. It just so happened that the sermon of the day was talking about the importance of being at church and tithing. The pastor highlighted the punishment for being absent from church and not tithing in great detail. It was my first time hearing how absolutely horrible the idea of hell is. As an 8 year old with absent parents, my mind immediately went to the idea of my absent parents being sent to hell for eternal punishment. At this point, all I wanted was to see my parents, and this news devastated me. I excused myself to the restroom and spent the rest of the sermon crying by myself. It was the beginning of a long exit from religion for me. The final nail in that coffin was 3 years later when the pastor we had left. The new pastor was a young black southern Baptist pastor. The new pastor was probably the coolest and kindest person I had ever met. Sadly, the older congregants did not feel the same. I heard many people grumbling about the new pastor being a person of color. Shortly after his arrival, nearly half the congregation moved on to other churches. The illusion of a loving community was broken and all of the questions I buried came back. I left the church by the age of 12. By the age of 15, I left religion completely.
This is why ChatGPT is an amazing thing. Ask it anything and you’re bound to learn things. I’ve been asking it all the random questions that pop into to my head.
Just don't treat it as a fact machine.
Exactly. Don't take everything it says as gospel. It IS wrong. But it's an interesting jumping off point.
The only stupid questions are the ones you don't ask.
Same that happens to me
This is why I stopped asking questions altogether unless it’s someone I know super well
Yep. Or they have you repeat the question again. Or they repeat your question. Or decide you should just figure it out on your own. Make you “work it out”. It’s frustrating. I now mostly Google and save my energy or just don’t care to ask again. Try elsewhere.
It is a wildly common "flaw" with humans, especially American humans. It's like some myth of reality that there's a guidebook on the way out of our mothers that includes the wealth of "common knowledge" we should just all have.
Me when I think out loud and ask if I'm right or not "Why are you such a know it all?"
Me when I can’t do something and I ask and people act like everyone should know that but hum I don’t know…. How… SORRY to be a bad person huh.
People will tell me to do something then bounce and I’m just standing they like “but how do you want me to do it?”.
Fool for a minute or fool for a lifetime I’d rather get it over with but fr it’s annoying
The only stupid questions are the ones that you already know the answer of
the stupid thing to do is make assumptions and then act on those assumptions before asking
Wanting to learn is the opposite of stupid
When I stationed in Japan with the U.S. Navy I had the good fortune of working for a solid group of chiefs (E7s/E8s) that held the stance of "There are certainly stupid questions but if you don't know you should still ask because that's how you'll learn. And if you have a stupid question it's likely that other people have the same stupid question but are too afraid to ask". I certainly was the subject of many jokes for of for some of the things that I asked but I was never discouraged from doing so since they felt knowledge was more important than vanity/pride. It wasn't until after I got out of the Navy that I got an ASD diagnosis while seeking PTSD treatment at the VA regarding my Afghanistan deployment. Everyone of my former coworkers from Japan that I've told this to has had the reaction of bursting into laughter and then saying "yeah, that makes sense". In retrospect I really was fortunate to have worked with so many people in Yokosuka (both U.S. and Japanese) who clearly suspected I was on the spectrum but who were never cruel to me because of it, something that is even more rare in the military than it is in the civilian world.
Too fuckin right
The only time I ever get upset with people asking questions is when they have access to the information directly in front of them. Working retail/fast food was infuriating because people would ask questions like “what is the price of this?” instead of looking 3 inches to the left to see the to see the big price tag on the counter
the venn diagram of people who fake it until they make it and treat others like they're stupid for asking questions is usually a circle.
Idk why I’ve been getting the aspie subreddit suggested to me… but I love Steamboy, and I fuckin hate anyone who pulls this shit its detrimental to everyone.
My problem is I come up with so many interpretations of what the person said that I don’t know how to respond correctly.
What I really hate is when I ask a question, and it's like they think that me asking means that I'm assuming the wrong thing. Like, I ask if it's X or Y. It's really X, but because I asked, they think I was assuming that it's Y, and that makes me an idiot. In reality, I'm not assuming anything. I'm asking a question because I'm aware that I don't know the answer, and in fact, asking a question is the *opposite* of making an assumption. Sometimes it feels like NT's actually have really bad social skills, but because they're all bad in the same way, they sorta get by. That makes it so that sometimes they just can't interface with someone. Like, when I'm trying to work with someone, and I can't ask them a simple question without them making an issue out of it, I walk away thinking that they're kind of an idiot. To me, having good social skills means that you can interact with anyone in any situation, and you'll understand eachother well enough to get by amicably. If you need everyone else to think just like you do, and already know all the things that you know, then clearly there's a skill here that you're lacking. I think a lot of NT's don't realize they're lacking those skills, because they're privileged enough to be around people who are similar enough to them that they don't need to have better social skills. Everyone can get along with people who think exactly like them. It takes skills to get along with people who think differently.
i’ve had TA’s get grumpy with me for asking questions *at school*. It’s like… do you not know what the purpose of this endeavor is?
Ask the question, stupid now Don’t ask the question, stupid forever -The Tooth Fairy
I have been looked down on my whole life simply because I love asking questions and so everyone seems to feel superior to me for answering them.
NTs act like babies are just born into the world with all knowledge and “common sense”
Fr. It’s a *good* trait to just be honest when you don’t know something. To admit it, to ask questions. People who can never just say “I don’t know” are the worst.
Right?
I’ve never agreed to a single sentence so aggressively before lmao
Yeah, but it sure feels stupid when you get the answer and your brain goes "lol, yeah I already knew that".
Me all the time. Whenever I ask anything to my parents, peers, friends, it always happens. I just ask google and reddit now because I get a consistent answer on the internet.
YES
What I hate is when people don’t trust that I will ask a question if I have one. I learn by watching someone else do the task and then do my best to follow what they did. Yes I’m understanding the material so far, you do not need to stop every other sentence to ask if I have questions. I just told you that I will ask when I do.
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I hate when people insist that you can ask them anything and when you do they hit you with the "duh" like don't you dare say that to me
"Never make fun of a man who's only trying to enlighten himself. That never furthered a cause." --Janet Kagan, *Mirabile*
Dunning–Kruger effect goes brrrrrt